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Orgasm For Life

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

My second book, 

Orgasm For Life is completed!

This book will help you improve love-making, oral sex, guide you to have orgasms with regularity if you are a non-orgasmic woman and help you achieve deep intimacy and better communication with your partner. Trust is the key to better sex and more frequent orgasms. Without trust, you can't let go and you might even be consumed with fear, which blocks you from having an orgasm and the ultimate pleasure that a human can achieve.

The object to love-making and great sex is LETTING GO! I help you uncover the reasons why you aren't orgasmic every time and help you achieve that ultimate bliss and become a better lover. 

In a long-term relationship or marriage? Spicing up your relationship is probably high on your priority list. So it should be. I help you uncover all the ways to make your sex life more passionate, exciting and memorable. 

The book is now with my editor. If you have a question you wanted answered about sex, pleasure or what women mean when they say certain things...... now is the time. I have one revision and then it is headed for formatting and publishing. I appreciate your support through the process. This book is a much needed guide to BLISS

Sexual Misery Programs

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Humans have been challenged for millenia to adjust their needs and desires within relationships.

Sexual Misery Programs

Have you ever wondered why men and women are so different. Men think of sex every 52 seconds, where the average woman thinks of sex once a day. I often wonder how men can accomplish anything during the day with that kind of looping thought process going on. Although the thoughts that flash into one's brains can be involuntary, since 90% of our thought processes are. I believe it has to do with how we are programmed rather than a need to think about sex.

Our desires are in opposition

Men like sex in the morning. While women prefer sex at night. Our hormones are elevated at opposing times of the day. Men can reach a climax in 10 minutes or less, where women need 20 to 45 minutes of direct stimulation.

Even vaginal sex doesn't do it for most women. Only 30% of women reach orgasm through vaginal intercourse alone, and that doesn't happen every time. Men are stimulated through vaginal sex but women need to have clitoral stimulation to regularly join their mate at the finish line. The way our bodies are formed makes friction  and stimulation for the clitoris impossible for the majority of women during mission position sex.


Unconscious Terror

Through molestation, rape and other assaults women and some men are fearful of letting go. For some women, the only way they can have sex with wild abandon is by smoking a little pot, or drinking half a bottle of wine. 

Letting go of fear and control needs to happen for women to allow their bodies to respond fully. 

One of the types of coaching that I do, is to help women heal from sexual trauma and the past. Energy healing and hypnotherapy help release programs of fear and trauma. 

YES! The G-Spot Does Exist!

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Nothing leaves you feeling more broken, dysfunctional and left out than having sex for hours without an orgasm. Yet for millions of women all over the world, orgasm continues to allude them. We have been damaged, raped, assaulted and molested. All of these transgressions have left their toll. From frigidity to not wanting to have sex at all, sexual dysfunction can leave you feeling something is really wrong with you.

I have been there myself. For years I had sex without orgasms with partners who got frustrated and left, saying, “Its just not fun for me.” 

A New Study?

I find it quite humorous that after 60 years of study, a male urologist has researched the G-spot himself,  and determined that it does not exist. "Without a doubt, a discreet anatomic entity called the G-spot does not exist," said Dr. Amichai Kilchevsky, a urology resident at Yale-New Haven Hospital in Connecticut, and lead author of the review, published Jan. 12 in the Journal of Sexual Medicine. I would like to show him mine! How would he like it if a female urology resident told him that the prostate gland did not exist? 

The G-spot (originally named for Dr. Ernst Gräfenberg), who described a 1-2 centimeter area on the vaginal wall in1950 set the wheels in motion for Western medicine to prove its validity. The Kamasastra and Jayamangala scripts dating back to 11th century India describe a similar sensitive area, according to the new study. Yet Dr. Kilchevsky could not locate it. 

Could it be that the lab was not a place where a woman could get turned on enough for the G-spot to be in evidence? Or was it simply a matter of cutting out parts of the woman’s vagina that made the G-spot shrink like a shrinking Violet? To think he had to dissect a vagina to disprove its existence is barbaric and pathetic. I am appalled that this man continues to practice medicine.

If he had asked women who knew where their’s was and had experienced an ejaculation, like me, perhaps his study would have come to a very different conclusion. Some day I will meet this man who arrogantly turned back the hands of time to the dark ages for women with the stroke of his ignorant pen. Perhaps I will have the presence of mind, not to knee him in the groin, but I am not certain. Yes, this makes me angry!This is a case of a man not taking his head out of his ass long enough to or do the necessary background research to find out how long it takes for a woman to get turned on enough and under what conditions a woman will experience a G-spot orgasm. The answers my dear Watson are crystal clear.

Very and at least 20. A simple masturbation will barely begin to enlarge the area of the G-spot. This area will swell usually by the time the man is coming or already come. As the head of the penis swells at the point of orgasm within the vagina, the G-spot is beginning to respond. Usually a woman has to feel completely comfortable with their partner, have a deep and profound connection to experience a G-spot orgasm. 

Once you have stimulated yourself to orgasm, that is the time to look for the G-spot. I would hazard to guess that the women in Dr. K’s study were shy, cold because they were under bright lights in a lab and barely turned on. 

Understandably Dr. K would not have found the Shrinking Violet G-Spot. It needs lots of stimulation directly. If they could not even locate it, how could they directly stimulate it? Did he only pick women who had no clue where their’s was? Did he pick women who were non-orgasmic? If I had been his professor I would not have allowed this man to graduate.  To think that he is practicing medicine! Does this give you faith in the medical profession? Or in the ability to train doctors about our lady parts?

Yes, every woman has a G-Spot. Feel along the upper wall of the vagina, approximately an inch and a half to two inches north (towards the navel). It takes a contortionist to reach this area. Most women are unfamiliar with it, partly because of the location is difficult to reach. Men rarely stimulate this area digitally. The G-Spot must be the focus rather than just thrusting a finger anywhere inside the vagina. Just as men have incredibly sensitive nerve endings at the tip of the penis, women have the G-Spot. It is thought to be the root of the clitoris, which explains its sensitivity.

When a woman begins to get really aroused this area will swell and feel ridged and spongy to the touch. The G-Spot is the size of a quarter, larger when aroused. Usually, the G-Spot swells when you are just getting ready to have an orgasm inside her. As the swelling penis begins to stimulate this area the G-Spot will swell naturally. That is usually when their partner is reaching an orgasm.

G-Spot Sensitivity

The first time the G-Spot is stimulated could be painful. It might make you feel you have to pee. Get up use the restroom and begin again. The urge to pee will eventually go away. If your partner has ever been molested, shamed for touching herself as a child, or traumatized sexually at all, this area will need some gentle and loving healing.

Why Most Women Never Have A G-Spot Orgasm

It takes patience and direct stimulation for it to swell. Women that don’t experience vaginal orgasms have very thin tissue in the G-spot, because theirs’ has not been directly stimulated - or they have a block from trauma in this area.

Pain from trauma stays frozen in the G-Spot and has shut down this area. One in three women have been sexually molested. Often they don't even remember, as they were so young when it happened. Even shame from sexual touching in childhood can be enough to freeze pain in the G-Spot. If it hurts, most women don't want to continue with touch in this area. They will shun stimulation avoiding the pain. Moving THROUGH the pain is what is needed. Until you heal the pain and trauma, there will be no G-Spot orgasm. The other side of pain is where the ultimate pleasure is.

Jennifer Elizabeth Masters is an author or Orgasm For Life, a woman's empowerment coach energy healer and sex educator. For private coaching sessions: she can be reached at JenniferElizabethMasters@gmail.com

Sex and Happiness

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

How to Get to Orgasm

1. Don't be concerned about how you look.
2. Stop faking it. It is inauthentic. 
3. BREATHE!
4. Make sounds.
5. Move your hips
6. Contract your pelvic muscles
7. Relax and let go
8. Women need to be relaxed.
9. Be present
10. Make sure you are warm - keep your socks on.

You can contact Jennifer at: JenniferElizabethMasters@gmail.com

This interview link below with Laurie Handlers will answer many questions about why you can't reach an orgasm, or why your partner can't get there.

http://webtalkradio.net/internet-talk-radio/sex-and-happiness/

Jennifer is an empowerment and sex coach. Her book Orgasm For Life is due out at the end of February. This book is a no-holds barred guide to BLISS.

What Does Sex Have To Do With Love?

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

What Does Sex Have to Do With Love?

Is it possible to have sex with someone that is gratifying and ecstatic that are NOT in love with?

The answer is YES!

Sex and love are two entirely different entities. You can have sex without love. You can have love without sex. However, to bring the two together is what makes love better, deeper, more meaningful and much more intimate. 

Intimacy does not necessarily have to do with sex, but sex creates deeper intimacy for two people in a committed relationship. It is difficult to have deep intimacy without a commitment. Trust helps to deepen intimacy. Without trust, uncertainty is present which blocks deep intimacy.

Sharing your naked body with a complete stranger is a totally different experience than making love to someone you know on a deep level. Once you let someone in completely you share your hopes, dreams and desires. Sharing you inner being with your partner can feel risky and scary. However, moving beyond the fears of intimacy creates a deeper connection that is unsurpassed. Trust builds, fears diminish and you begin to have a comfort and closeness that you cannot have with a complete stranger.

Trust, builds intimacy. You can't trust a stranger, you don't even know who they are. You haven't shared your dreams, fears and hopes with them, you have no history. Yes, there is a difference between sex and love. 

Does this mean that sex with a stranger can't be amazing? NO! Sex with a stranger can be exciting, titillating and exhilarating. You have no past history. There have been no fights. You have not had births and deaths together. The act of sex is completely free of any past event. Rarely however, does sex with a stranger give you the mind-body-spirit experience that sex with someone you love does. It is a moment by moment experience. 

The downside of sex without a connection can be that you are performing sexual gymnastics, rather than making love. It most probably means that you are not connecting on a deep and intimate level, because you have not let the person in. Your sexual needs may be met, your body may feel exhilarated and satisfied, but it can leave you feeling empty and lonely. You may even feel shame afterward. Society has taught us that this type of sex is bad. Freeing yourself of society's more´s is needed to be free enough to not feel this shame. 

Sex is the most intimate experience that two people can partake of. It deepens a love connection and brings two people closer together. Hormones are released that make you feel "in love." Being aware of this rush of hormones will alleviate chasing after someone who may never call or think of you after a one-night stand.

I would love to hear your comments. What do you think?

Jennifer is an empowerment and sex coach for women. She empowers women to love themselves as they are, even the shadow parts. She herself has healed her life from self-hatred, low self esteem, co-dependency, addiction and shame. You can reach Jennifer at JenniferElizabethMasters@gmail.com