Searching For Love?

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters ~ Love and Passion Coach

We have all been there. We try to make a guy like us. We can wear our best outfit, our sexiest of heels, but the more we try,
the less they like us. Why? Because we aren’t being authentic. 

The best way to attract a guy is to be you. Most men want a woman who is confident, stands up for herself and knows what she wants. 

We are happier when we love and respect ourselves. The stronger our self-esteem is, the more attractive we are to men. The more needy we are, the more available we make ourselves and the less authentic we are. When we are needy it is like fishing in the ocean without any bait on our hook. The best way to catch a man is by being completely in love with ourselves. I am not talking about conceit, but authentic self-acceptance.

When you are comfortable being who you truly are, men are drawn to you like a magnet. 

Most women look for a relationship to make them happy, when it really is the other way around. No one can make you happy but you. The happier you are with you, the more attractive you become. Your inner beauty begins to radiate outward making you a magnet for men and love. 


Love comes from inside us. If we don’t love and approve of ourselves, we feel empty, lost and search for love outside of ourselves. If we are miserable being alone, we won't be much happier in a relationship. We think we will be happy once we have a relationship because it is what we see on television and in movies. The temporary happiness we might feel in a relationship will go away at the first sign of trouble.
How can you tell if you love and approve of yourself? People that love themselves have the following traits.

You focus on the positive traits in you, rather than the negative.
You love yourself unconditionally. You lovingly embrace your flaws and faults knowing you are a work in progress. You don’t try to be perfect. You also accept others as they are.

1. You feel good about yourself no matter what your weight is or whether you are in a relationship or not. You are happy with you.
2. You take good care of yourself getting plenty of rest and eating healthily.
3. You aren’t concerned what others think about you. 
4. You are authentic, the same with everyone, rather than a chameleon that changes with each person you are with. You won’t fake or lie about liking something when you don’t.
5. You feel complete and happy on your own, rather than looking for someone else to fill your emotional needs.
6. You are happy as you are and don’t try to change or fix others.
7. You honor yourself. You won’t do things you don’t want to do, just to keep a guy.
8. You have self-respect. You won’t stay in a bad relationship because you are afraid you won’t find anyone else.
9. You know your value. 

Love begins and ends with you. If you don’t love you, how can you expect anyone else to? We can’t show up looking for a relationship expecting someone else to fill us up. We have to fill ourselves up with love first.

Think of your mind as a magnifying glass. Whatever you think about expands. Focus your thoughts, and attention on your positive traits. No one is perfect, however when all you think about is what is wrong with you, you are magnifying the negative rather than lovingly embracing all parts of you. You can't cut the parts of yourself out that you don't like, love them anyway.

Think of all the things that you love about you. Even if you can’t come up with five things, look deeper. “I love my skin, hair, nails, legs, eyes.” Rather than standing in front of the mirror in the morning picking apart your face and body, begin to tell yourself, “I love my face. I love my body. I am beautiful.” Everyone is beautiful in their own way. Even if you don’t believe it at first. Your unconscious mind is like a computer. It will reprogram itself with consistent positive input. 

It takes 30 days to change a pattern, so don’t give up after one or two days. Mantras have been used for thousands of years to heal the mind. Use a mantra before you go to bed at night like, “I love me.” Repeat it when your mind is in neutral, in the shower, driving, putting on your make-up. 

What you put in your mind will also come out. You will find yourself feeling happier and more positive when you begin putting positive thoughts into your unconscious mind.

Rather than searching outside of you for someone else to love you, begin spending time getting to know what you want, what you love and what you don’t. Do what you love to do, rather than waiting for someone else to take you or go with you.

Do things that make you happy every day. Happy people please themselves with small things. Take a walk outside in nature, a visit to a park, exercise. Take care of you. The happier you are the more attractive you will be to men. Pretty soon you won’t be worrying if you can find a man, instead you’ll wonder which one should I pick?

Jennifer Elizabeth Masters is an author of Orgasm For Life, and Odyssey Victim to Victory she is a love and passion coach and intuitive healer. She works with women looking for love, building confidence and self-esteem. Jennifer has been on a healing journey for over 30 years, overcoming her own self-hatred, and sexual trauma. Her  website is http://aphroditeeffect.com/ Are you ready to find a different love, one that suits you? Jennifer's an expert at helping people attract a higher love, that floats your boat and fulfills your dreams. 

Attracting THE ONE!

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Love. Is is what we all want, search for and many crave. Women miss it when they don't have it. Women wonder each time they have a date with a new man, "Is he THE ONE?" 

Women are notorious for spinning tales in their heads about weddings and engagements as early as the first date. Why is it we spend so much time thinking about it, but can't seem to find it?

What I tell my clients is that when you begin to act as if you already have love, rather than searching and feeling empty you will find it. The way the Universe works is that we must begin to already be grateful for having love in our lives. We must feel full of love within ourselves first. We must give love to ourselves first.

When we begin to love ourselves, as we are, completely and unconditionally rather than waiting till we are absolutely perfect, love will come barreling in and knock us off our feet, when we stop looking.

STOP LOOKING????

Yes. We have to stop looking. When we are looking we are telling the Universe that we have nothing. We have no one. The more we focus on wanting a man or woman, the more we come up empty. We are focusing on the "NOT HAVING." Instead focus on the love you have - with YOU!

We have to spend time nurturing ourselves. We have to love the parts of ourselves that we have been so critical of in the past. 

LET GO OF THE PAST

We have to get rid of old photos of ex-husbands from the mantel, and remove albums and treasures from old lovers. We have to let go of the past. We need to stop talking about who hurt us and how badly. When we keep talking about pain, we will attract another who will hurt us again.

Each event in our lives leads us along the road of life. Recognizing that the events that we have experienced teach us more about ourselves. They are not wrong or bad, just experiences. We need to be grateful for the lesson learned and the gift. Every experience and relationship has taught us more about ourselves. We need to turn our focus inward, rather than focusing on blame of our ex-husband or mate.

FORGIVE

Part of letting go of the past is to forgive ourselves for attracting our previous partners into our lives. We have to forgive ourselves and we have to forgive the other person. The easiest and quickest way to forgive is to use the Ho'oponopono Prayer. 

I am sorry

Please forgive me

I love you

Thank you

MAKE ROOM

After you have forgiven yourself and everyone you have attracted into your life, it is time to begin to make room in closets. Begin to act as if he/she is already present in your life. 

LOVING YOU FIRST

People that go through my Love Yourself Fearlessly course are finding their Divine Partner before they finish the course in many cases. The simple act of beginning to love yourself makes you a magnet for love. It is a rare individual that can do this on their own. It took me over 30 years. Loving yourself is not as simple as saying, "Oh I love myself!" Answer the following questions to see if you love you.

Self Love I Q

1. When in a relationship you continue your exercise routine as usual.
2. When in a relationship you continue spending just as much time with family and friends.
3. When in a relationship you put yourself first taking time to nurture yourself, rest, get your nails done and do your errands before spending time with your new love.
4. You feel confident, strong and independent even when he doesn't call.
5. You remain balanced, taking a new relationship slowly, getting to know your new person, rather than jumping into bed on the first or second date.
6. You are able to tell your new love what you want, don't want and make unpopular decisions without fear of losing them.
7. When you are away from your new love, you are able to fill your time and focus on other things. 
8. When asked by your new love, you are able to recommend your favorite restaurants, music you like.
9. You are able to show up always as your authentic true self. 
10. You do not try to act the way you think they want you to be.
11. You have healthy boundaries. You do not give more than you are physically able, keeping work, exercise, family and friends in balance.
12. You feel confident even when your new love talks to those of the opposite sex.
13. You are able to wait until he calls you, after having a fabulous time on the first date. 

If you answered more than 8 questions with a "NO" you need to focus on loving and accepting yourself as you are. I have some very good programs private and work at your own pace to help you do this. I also have some really great tools to bring in THE ONE, by the forth week. I have had great success. In fact one radio show host did the fourth week and manifested her ONE the very next day!

Check out my website: http://www.JenniferElizabethMasters.com

Or book your private FREE discovery session to find out if my programs are a good fit for you. I work with women and men committed to heal, grow and evolve. E-mail Jennifer NOW!