Sunday, June 25, 2017

Yesterday Was My Lucky Day!

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Luck is what you make. If you believe you are lucky you are. If you believe bad things will happen, they do. I believe in myself and the power of thought. Yesterday I attended a Oneness Blessing event in Venice, California. I was the only one that walked away with a $450 prize!

Yesterday morning while tending to horses, I had a conversation with my Divine. I find any repetitive task puts my mind in neutral where I can talk with my Divine (God). "Why haven't you written about Oneness Blessing and Deeksha?" My response was, "I wasn't sure people would find it interesting." I mad a promise to my Divine to write today about how Deeksha, a Divine transference of powerful Grace contributed to my awakening in 2010 through 2012. 

My friend Shannon and I attended a free event yesterday to promote the Phenomenon and The Gift Oneness course. As we entered the Electric Lodge we were asked to sign in. There was a drawing. As I attempted to write my name on my tiny ticket, I knew I needed to make my name legible as I would win whatever it was. I even changed pens to make sure my name was clear. 
CJ Bigelow Flowing Grace Om Meditation

Seven Oneness Meditators sat at the front of the room and gave us eye Deeksha (Blessing through opened eyes). After the event attendees were invited to share their experience. While the course was explained, I thought to myself, "Maybe I should go. It's expensive though. Maybe I should go. I haven't attended a course in Oneness since 2010. If it's free I'll go!" When my name was called, I wasn't surprised. I knew then I had to write this article about Oneness and what it has done for me.

I have been a seeker since I was sixteen. I made the commitment to myself to become enlightened in this lifetime. Everything that I have done in my life has led me to this place. Oneness was instrumental in my awakening. No matter what you have heard about Oneness, the truth is that it will help you awaken and you don't have to travel to India to the Oneness University to get there. Attending the Phenomena and The Gift this coming weekend July 1st and 2nd will help you get there and you can meet me in person. If you send me an e-mail I can get you $50.00 off the $450 admission that I won yesterday. No, I don't get a kickback or commission from this what I do get is good karma in my karma bank account. 

Sri Bhagavan giving Deeksha
In 2010, I attended a course that two of my teachers gave in Black Mountain, North Carolina at a healing center called The Light Center. The course initiated us to become Oneness Blessing Givers (Deeksha givers). The father of one of my teachers founded the

Founder of Oneness Sri Bhagavan
Light Center. I had been doing a meditation practice, called Ascension since 2007 taught by these two teachers and trusted them. Ascension quieted my mind completely and allowed me to go deep into meditation. 

The Oneness University was created by Sri Bhagavan and his wife Sri Amma to awaken masses of people and awaken they have. Try to withhold judgment and keep an open mind as I share my experience of Oneness. 

Each time we receive a Blessing given through the top of our head we receive Divine Grace. This Grace is transferred from the Divine through the Blessing Giver once they are initiated. I have received Deeksha at events where during the evening or afternoon we received 64 Blessings (64 Deeksha) and was so high I was in a blissful state for nearly a week afterward. There is no doubt that this Deeksha does what Oneness University says it does. I have experienced it and millions of others have also. Deeksha doesn't cost anything. Going to the Oneness University does. 

Judgment and Scams?

I have had my personal judgment about the money charged for trainers to take courses from the Oneness University which is why I haven't attended any of those just yet. However, the bliss and transformation cannot be denied. The bliss is real. I don't take drugs, or drink to get high, I don't need to I am high now naturally. Smoking pot and drinking alcohol actually lowers my vibration which is why I don't do it.

Oneness helps us process through the pain, sadness, and trauma of the past and moves you to a higher state of consciousness. $450 isn't too much to pay to raise your consciousness. I have seen many courses out there that don't deliver and charge even more.


No matter where I have been, Georgia, Colorado or California, I have immediately contacted the Oneness community and been welcomed into the fold for Blessings. Oneness has given me a ready-made group of like-minded people when I moved from another state. In fact, Shannon who I wrote about is a Oneness Blessing Teacher who hosts Deeksha nights at her home every other week in Santa Clarita.

No Mind

In 2012, I attended three Om Meditations in Boulder Colorado at the Integral Center.  Three people were given Divine Grace to transfer through their eyes to the receivers. The idea of this event was to get to the place of "No Mind." When we have no mind we are literally out of our heads and into our hearts. Since I lived close to the center, I signed up for all three events and attended one after the other. I sat at the back of the room for the first event, in the middle the second and at the very front of the room for the last meditation. I wanted to see if sitting in different places made me feel any different, it did.

By the time the event ended, I walked outside and couldn't remember where I parked my car, where I lived or what city I was in. I literally had no mind. I was so blissed out that I was not in my mind at all. Divine Grace was pouring through me and certainly was part of the reason I awakened so quickly.

64 Deeksha

I attended three 64-Deeksha events. One in Georgia, one in Loveland, Colorado and the last one in Encinitas California. At the 64- Deeksha event Deeksha Givers give and receive 64 Blessings in an event that lasts about three or more hours. This process raises the giver and receiver to higher states of consciousness. 

The Oneness University offers courses that people all around the world have taken to awaken and raise their consciousness to move beyond suffering. The teachings of Oneness are excellent for newbies and long-time seekers alike. Some of the teachings are as follows:

  1. We are not our thoughts
  2. We are not our minds
  3. Everything is happening automatically
  4. We are not in control
  5. The Divine is within each of us and everywhere
  6. Each person has their own personal Divine.
  7. Creation and Creator are one and the same

You don't have to travel to India to experience the deep and powerful transformation that I have. 

There is plenty of bad press out on the web about a Oneness University scam, just as there are with most yogis and gurus. What I can tell you from my personal experience is that the Divine Grace that I have experienced from Deeksha surpasses all the gurus out there that I have met and received Deeksha from. We have to make up our own minds about what works and what doesn't. I have not been to the Oneness University, as I don't feel it serves me. I have attended bi-weekly Deeksha evenings since 2010, 64 Deeksha events and Om meditations galore. 

I invite you to this event in Los Angeles at the Lowes Santa Monica at the beach and raise your vibration exponentially each time you give or receive Deeksha. Some people have taken their entire families to The Oneness University. You don't have to go to India to receive the Grace. 

Much love and Grace to you! In my Divine Presence Process Meditation, I blast you with a Deeksha at the end. Some people have commented how powerful it is and this video was created years ago.

Saturday, June 24, 2017

The Remarkable Similarities Between Horses and Humans

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Recently, I have been helping my friend on her horse ranch. I have always loved horses, having cared for retired rescued polo ponies in Alpharetta, Georgia in the past. My friend, Shannon has been teaching me how to earn a horse's respect, something that shocked me. I found that horses and humans are very similar in many regards.

In my coaching practice, I encourage my clients to speak up and self-advocate. Many people with low self-worth have difficulties speaking up for themselves, especially when no didn't mean no when they were a child. Other humans sense a weakness and take advantage (more on this later). When we aren't able to say what we want, we rarely get it. Is it any wonder? Humans will push until the other person says stop. If the weak-willed individual doesn't speak up, there is no boundary in place and hence no respect.

Horses are very perceptive. If you feel afraid, they know it. If you don't immediately make a strong stand with a horse and let them know who's boss, they will not listen. They will act as if you aren't even there. When a horse weighs 1,200 pounds getting a horse that is unwilling to move is impossible. 

English rider with a crop
Shannon instructed me to show up in the horses stall with a crop under my arm. I hesitated at first because it seemed inhumane. However, having my foot stepped on and injured certainly didn't seem humane either. As soon as I entered the stall with a crop in hand and said, "Over," the horse willingly moved. In fact, the horse was so willing, I felt ten feet tall. It was as if he said, "Oh I didn't hear you before you held that crop in your hand." It was easy to get the horse to do what I wanted with the aid of the crop as I had the horses attention and respect.

When we don't speak up for ourselves, we aren't respected. When we aren't respected, we are in the lowly position of less than in the eyes of the other person. It is human nature to take advantage when the other person has no boundaries or limits. When we say no in ways that don't sound like no, the other hears, "YES!"

If we have been sexually molested, raped or abused setting boundaries and limits can be a huge challenge for us. Working with me, I help you recognize how important it is to have firm boundaries and know what you are willing to do and not do. 

Ways We Say Yes When We Mean No

  1. "I don't think this is a good idea." (the other hears YES)
  2. "I am not ready."
  3. "I'll think about it."
  4. "I'm not sure about this."
  5. "I don't know."
  6. "I don't think so."
  7.  "Not right now."
  8. "I don't feel comfortable with that."
Any of the above statements leaves a door open for further pushback.

Ways To Say No
  1. "No."
  2. "No thank you."
  3. "I am not able to."
  4. "Not now, not ever!"

When we don't have healthy boundaries, we are the one that ends up angry and resentful not the other. JEM

Dating and Boundaries

If you are on a date and don't know what you are comfortable with, you will go beyond your comfort zone and do things you regret and may feel ashamed about later. Shame and guilt are the lowest vibrational emotions a human can have. Setting boundaries and limits though challenging isn't permanent. We can make positive changes by working with someone who has strong boundaries and recognizes that no didn't mean no for you in the past and will help you overcome the old patterning in your unconscious mind.

Boundaries in Relationships

If you don't have healthy boundaries and are in a relationship - even a friendship you may find you give too much, give too much and try to please the other person. At first, it could feel good to give. After you find yourself giving away the farm you will feel ripped off which leads to resentment and anger. Anger is a sign your boundaries have been crossed. 

Boundaries With Children

Children need to know the difference between right and wrong. If we don't tell them to stop, they keep going. If a child jumps on you and hurts you-you have not said "NO," strongly enough. If a child keeps pushing for something trying to break down your resolve there is no respect. 

Business Partnerships and Dealings

If you don't have healthy boundaries and have a partnership, your partner will most certainly take advantage of your soft spot. You might be ripped off, or feel resentful because you end up getting the raw end of your business dealings. You may have customers that push your limits expecting you to say stop. Without firm boundaries of what feels good and what doesn't, there are many ways your business could fail, and you could loose. 

What Can You Do For Yourself?

Watch others who demonstrate healthy boundaries. Learn from the way they catch you immediately and give you instructions for what they want. They don't wait a week or two till they are angry because of what was done, they mention it at the moment. 

Read a book about boundaries. There are many of them on Amazon. 

Hire a coach to overcome this serious issue. You will be much happier when you are able to advocate for yourself and set healthy limits and boundaries with everyone. Your family will be happier as a result. 

Jennifer is a private coach, hypnotherapist, and healer that helps people work through their issues to live happier, healthier lives.

Saturday, June 3, 2017

Self-Acceptance and Non-Judgement Are Key to Happiness

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

James Franco-loving himself

Self-acceptance is about loving ourselves as we are with all our warts, faults and foibles. Everyone has weaknesses and strengths. 

Non-judgment is resting in our heart without making a determination of how we think things are. Judgment is often cruel, heartless and often prejudiced. 

We can look at others and make judgments based on how they look. For example, last night I attended a gathering where there were individuals in their early twenties and some in their mid to late sixties. When one young man took his shift off to enter the pool an older gentleman judged him on the tattoo art he displayed on his back. The young man was viewed as dark and dastardly because in a moment he chose a particular shape to be tattooed. Making a judgment about someone's character without knowing what is in their heart is unjust and prejudiced. 

Insecure people strive to be perfect, while those who accept themselves do so as they are, without attempting to be perfect. Perfectionism leads to anxiety, stress and even depression because it is impossible to reach the goal of perfection. Perfectionism can cause us to remain stuck and stagnant rather than improve in the areas where we lack expertise. 

Men and women come to me for a variety of reasons. Most people want to be happier or have the relationship that continues to elude them. The key to being happier with ourselves and those around us is to accept ourselves, others and life as it is. 

I remember when I was unhappy with myself my relationships and my life. I was like a salmon trying to swim upstream. My life was a struggle. Relationships were wrought with challenges. Even my relationships with my children were difficult because I wanted to change everyone. We might think we are helping others by telling them what or how to do things. The truth is we don't accept ourselves when we have the need to direct, change or fix others.

When we complain, bitch or moan about our kids, friends, partners and life, we don't accept things as they are. We can't possibly be happy when we complain because we are focusing on the negative or what we don't have. 

If we find ourselves single make the most of being single. Do the things that you have always wanted to do but were unable to do before your last relationship. Often we change ourselves and our likes and dislikes to meet the needs of our partner. When we change or give up things we love to do, we can become resentful or on the extreme end feel dead inside. 

What We Give Up For Others

When we don't stand in our power, we tend to give away too much. We might give custody of our children to our ex, a pet away because our new boyfriend is allergic, or stop doing yoga, meditation or running because it interferes with what our partner wants. Giving away the farm as I like to call it is never a good thing. We wake up one day and wonder where we went because we feel we have lost ourselves and our way. 

When we constantly worry about what others think of us, we disempower ourselves and focus on others rather than feeling good inside. When we change our personality and behavior to fit the needs of others, we weaken our power and become the chameleon. Chameleons change their color depending on their environment, out of fear. 

What Insecure People Are Afraid Of

  • being alone, 
  • not having a partner, 
  • no one will ever love me
  • no one will find me attractive
  • time is running out I better keep the person I have

When we accept ourselves the way we are we become comfortable being authentic. We no longer have to pretend to be something or someone to feel good when we are authentic. We don't have to change with the wind or the situation because we know who we are and love ourselves as we are. There is nothing more powerful than being able to walk into a room full of people and be you. When we love ourselves, we aren't afraid that others won't like us. We aren't concerned what others think of us either when we accept ourselves as we are. 

When we love ourselves, we are content being alone because we like who we are. Self-love includes loving acceptance of all that we include the shadowy parts of ourselves. When we are filled with self-loathing and insecurities, we fear to be alone because we don't have a clue who we are. We fear what we don't know. I recommend falling in love with you, it could be your greatest love affair of all time!

Find out how your life can become happier with self-acceptance and non-judgment by working with Jennifer. Jennifer is masterful at getting to the root of your issues and uncovering your strength and beauty within. When you begin to recognize the truth of your being your talents, gifts, and strengths are revealed, you feel more confident and accepting of yourself. 

Sunday, May 28, 2017

How To Calm The Craziness and Find Peace Within Minutes

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

I used to think that I was more spiritual when I was out of my body. I tried to meet God outside of myself. I found myself feeling very scattered and ungrounded. No wonder, inner peace is found within our bodies and our connection to our God-nature and all that is is actually inside us, not outside. 

For those who think they can't meditate, I hear you, and I certainly feel the challenges. I wasn't able to meditate either until I began using mantras. Mantras give the active mind something to do, a focus, in fact, that calms and gives us peace. 

After driving 1000 miles in the past two days, I found myself with four active dogs who wanted my attention. Nothing calms the savage beasts faster than sitting in a chair chanting a mantra using the name of God silently in our head. I sat down in a chair this morning and chanted one of the many names of God. Within seconds all four dogs were quietly laying in the room with me feeling what I felt, inner peace and quietude. 

There are many names of God. Wayne Dyer told me he used the name Ra. Wayne Dyer chanted this name Ra when he meditated. I have used this name for God, but it didn't have the same impact that the one I'll share with you today. 

Depending on where you look, there are 900 names for God in the Bible. YHWH, Jehovah, Om, Alpha and Omega, Elohim, Prince of Peace.... there are many ways to say the name of God. The one I recommend for your daily practice to increase light, peace and a sense of calm is Om Namo Narayan aya


For those seeking enlightenment, the mantra Om Namo Narayana is the most powerful Vedic Sanskrit mantra revealed to the Vedic seekers during their penances. 

The Meaning

OM - is a sacred word or syllable that encompasses all or everything in the universe. 

Namo means to bow or to "bow to." 

Narayana is a little more complex to decipher as it has several root meanings. The one I like to use is naara the Sanskrit word for water. Vishnu's resting place is in water. Water is the root of all abundance. We become more abundant using this mantra and replenishing ourselves with water in the bath, oceans and drinking water. 

Anaya means resting place or shelter. Narayana means resting place for all entities. A sweet thought for us all. 

Another interpretation for "naara" is human. Anaya means direction or goal. Using this interpretation means "that which takes all humans to their resting place" (self-realization). 

Some have found self-realization by repeating this mantra daily and even through the night in four months. When I do the mantra as I fall asleep, I am also repeating the mantra in my sleep, which is a powerful thing to do. The mantra begins to be automatic. When you are driving in your car, cooking showering, putting on your make-up, shaving or doing mundane tasks you can use this mantra. I call this state of mind neutral, where you can access the subconscious mind easily and effortlessly.

How To Use The Mantra

I like to float the mantra through my brain softly. The mantra slows down the errant thoughts and calms the nervous system. If we use the mantra in a manic state, or rapidly repeating it, you will find yourself staying in your present state of mania. Slow down the mind by slowly saying the mantra. I have recorded it for you so you can repeat it with me. The link is beneath the instructions. I hope you enjoy it.

  1. Sit upright to meditate. Sitting upright allows Source energy to flow through your central column (spinal chord) easily filling you with light.
  2. Breathe in through your nose slowly filling your lungs completely.
  3. Once your lungs are filled to capacity exhale very slowly emptying your lungs completely. Breathing slowly and consciously brings you into the present and calms the mind preparing you for your mantra meditation.
  4. Use a mudra (hand and finger position) that works for you. The easiest mudra is joining your thumb and index fingers together at the tips which create an OM or circle. There are many mudras you can use, keep it simple to begin this practice, so you are not worried or focused on what your hands are doing. 
  5. Relax your body. Drop your shoulders and exhale to further relax your body. Make sure your shoulders are not up around your ears. 
  6. Repeat the mantra slowly in the background of your mind. A mantra repeated silently is much more powerful for transformation than a mantra repeated out loud. 

Guided Meditation With Om Namo Narayana Mantra Audio

What You Will Feel

Everyone is different. What one person might feel, you may not. Whatever you feel is okay for you. The most important thing is that you are consistent with your daily practice. When I meditated three times a day and did mantras as often as I could, I had my awakening. You might like to do The Divine Presence Process Meditation that I used, the video is below. 

If you have addictions or take prescription medication, you might find it takes longer to get into the space of calm, relaxation. Have no expectation and be open to the new experience and just watch what happens for you. I would love to hear how this mantra and meditation works for you. You can e-mail me to work privately on your personal expansion and self-realization. Visit Jennifer's website

Friday, May 26, 2017

Join Me For A Free Podcast To Manifest your Desires Wednesday, May 31st

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Whether it is a new car, a partner who loves and supports you, great wealth or just to have your bills paid, everyone has desires and dreams. Manifesting our desires can be tricky when our fears, doubts or worries get in the way. On Wednesday, May 31st join me for my free podcast to make your dreams a reality.

I have manifested houses, vacation rentals for free, created miracles, partners, and money when I needed it. I have also helped clients manifest cars, the perfect house, dream man, and best outcome of their court case. I'll share all my secrets to manifesting what you desire, rather than what you don't want. The truth is when you know how and what to do you can create for your life on a regular basis. Most people focus on the wrong things when attempting to manifest, or begin to doubt and worry that it won't happen.

Is there a catch? You read my blog posts, but have you committed to yourself? Show your commitment to expanding into the unlimited possibilities that the universe holds for you and sign up for my podcast here.

The podcast is Wednesday at 6:30 MTN/5:30 PST or 8:30 EST

Time for Q&A at the end

I'll Walk You Through A Powerful Creation Exercise

Invite your friends, partners, and family. Don't miss this. Most people worry, live in fear or focus on what they don't want. Find out how to manifest consistently with all the steps. 

How To Co-Create Miracles For Your Life

Wednesday, May 24, 2017

The Simplest Part of Being Happy Is Absolutely Free

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

For more than half of my life, I used to be miserable, depressed and anxious, but not anymore. I found the key to happiness and it has absolutely nothing to do with money, wealth or even having a relationship. 

The evidence of happiness was highlighted this past weekend when I left my two dogs behind under the watchful and loving eye of my neighbor and friend. I flew to Colorado to celebrate my youngest progeny's 21st birthday.

Nederland, CO roundtrip to Estes Park
Usually, when I go to Colorado, I drive. Since I had two trips to Colorado back-to-back, I decided to fly in for the first trip and drive for the second since I was staying almost ten days. Flying means leaving my dogs behind. Karma is nineteen years old and she got this far, happy to be alive because she is with me most of the time. I have never kenneled her. She loves being together driving in the car, seeing new places and being out in nature. Karma is a very happy dog until I leave her behind. 

While I was gone, I texted Shannon to see how my animals were doing. She commented that the dogs were very sad that I was gone, especially when she put them back in the house. She noted that when they were outside, Karma was frisky, prancing around and definitely more upbeat. Aha! I said further evidence that being outside makes us happy. When animals are happier being outside so are we.

Boulder Reservoir, Colorado
How Is It That My Dog Is 19 And Still Healthy?

Twice a day I walk with Karma and Yoda. I don't just let my dogs out into the yard and let them go. I make the effort to take them to pretty places, trails, desert or mountain walks and we spend twenty minutes or more each time walking. The combination of exercise and being in nature with me makes her happy. Exercise increases happiness and longevity. Happier dogs and people are also healthier. If daily exercise in nature has kept my old dog happy, youthful and healthy at 130 people years, it can work for you too. My dog even does yoga! Down dog is one thing she does every morning. 

Karma loves water. I do my best to find a swimming place for her.
I know I love the feeling of fresh air, sunshine and even rain on my face. I love being out in the woods, mountain hiking or just walking on a trail. Nature brings me joy. Being outside in nature breathing, doing walking meditation and staying off my phone are the keys to happiness. 

On top of Flagstaff Mtn. Boulder, CO
There is scientific proof as well that being outside in nature nurtures us and exercising extends our life and makes us feel better as our telomere's life is extended. Telomeres are the ends of the chromosomes. Telomeres provide a protective cap over the end of the chromosome to protect the DNA. Without telomeres at the end of the chromosome, each time the cell divides the chromosomes are shortened and DNA is lost. If there are no telomeres each time a cell divides DNA is lost. 

Exercise is good. Exercising outside is even better. Being in nature raises our vibration and helps us feel happier. Walking outside every day is an important part of being and staying happy. 

Going to new places to walk makes our walking much more interesting. Even my dogs love to take walks in new places and smell new things. You might not want to smell everything your dog smells along their walk, but stopping to breathe in the smell of freshly mowed grass, hay, wildflowers blooming will give you something else to be happy about as well.

Jennifer, Adam, David and 21-year old Ariel
So while I was away last weekend, Shannon let the dogs out more frequently and they were much happier even without me around. I had a great time with my family celebrating Ariel's birthday

Danielle, Jennifer, David, Adam, Ariel
without the guilt of leaving my dogs feeling neglected and unhappy. Don't miss my FREE PODCAST NEXT WEEK!

Next Wednesday evening at 6:30 PM MTN, I am hosting a free podcast. Many people report miraculous results from attending my podcasts. I pray for miracles for all attendees and provide time for questions and answers. Sign up for this podcast by sending me an e-mail to The podcast is completely FREE! I'll be broadcasting from another happy place - Boulder, Colorado! 


Telomere Length: Nature and Nurture

Telomeres and Cancer

Why Some Marriages Are Sexless

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

For those living in a sexless marriage, touch, snuggling, kissing and even hugging are things of the past. Rejection, frustration, abandonment and a feeling of being unloved permeate these marriages.  How do so many marriages end up with sex taken off the table, never mind out of the bedroom?

Both men and women can be rejected in sexless marriages. Having been in one myself for a short while, I feel tremendous compassion for you. A marriage that is considered sexless if you have sex no more than 10 times in a year. Approximately 15 to 20% of couples define themselves as being in a sexless marriage.

Newsweek stated that married couples have sex just over 68 times a year or 6.9 times more per year than single people or those who have never been married. 

Your relationship may seem normal and happy from the outside, you've raised your children, you may even vacation together, but when sex isn't happening once a week, couples begin to snipe at one another, or feel resentful and angry. 

What Is The Problem?

Each couple may have a different source for the disconnect. These are some of the reasons one party doesn't want to be sexually intimate with the other.

  1. They don't like sex. 
  2. They don't like sex with the opposite sex but can't tell you, as they are too ashamed. The lie they are living is too hard to tell you. Many people marry the opposite sex because it is what is expected either from religion, culture or society. The coverup continues because of guilt, fear or shame. Have you noticed how older women and men are coming out after being married for years? Some have the courage to do so, while others are too afraid of losing family connection, so they keep their homosexuality under wraps.
  3. They fear intimacy. Most people have no idea that they fear intimacy. A fear of intimacy required counseling, coaching, and encouragement to break through. A fear of intimacy won't go away without some effort, negotiation and professional help. Spiritually Bonded Intimacy will help you.
  4. They don't like the person you have become or that they have gotten to know. We have to like each other to want to have sex regularly with them. Perhaps you have done something they don't like, you don't smell good, aren't clean enough, or just aren't what or the type of person they are attracted to today.
  5. After childbirth, many women feel they have done their duty and don't feel sexual, sexy or attractive. Sex can become a chore. Some women find sex something to be feared because they don't want to become pregnant again. 
  6. Menopause can cause challenges and symptoms that make sex too uncomfortable and they aren't motivated enough to do something about it. There are bioidentical hormones, ThermiVa a non-surgical laser treatment that increases collagen, elasticity, youthfulness as well as moisture in the vagina. 
  7. They are shut down emotionally. Sexual abuse from childhood can cause both men and women to have issues with sex later in life. The issue of molestation doesn't go away when you ignore it. Get some coaching with someone like me that has healed the trauma of sexual abuse. Or visit a Tantra class. 
  8. They have low self-esteem. Self-esteem when healthy includes a healthy self-image and positive feelings about sex. When we don't feel good about ourselves, we may feel uncomfortable and unsexy when naked. Low self-esteem can be remedied and is the foundational work that I do for my clients.
  9. They are depressed. Depression and antidepressants remove the desire for sex. Get help for your depression. I do clearings for people that alleviate this issue. 

Don't Ignore This Issue It Won't Go Away

I married a man after dating for six months, he was all in a rush to get married. He hid the fact that he preferred men from me. He wasn't out of the closet, in fact after we divorced, he married another woman because his religion didn't allow homosexuality. I wrote an article about how homosexual men still marry women to keep their secret safe from their church, family, friends and their professional career. The truth is that God doesn't make mistakes. If you are born homosexual, there was no mistake. We are meant to learn from this lifetime. Perhaps your gift in this life is to learn how to be more loving of yourself no matter what. 

We need to know someone well before we commit to marriage. Often we are so focused on the getting married part that we ignore the red flags we see along the way to the wedding. A marriage is much more than friendship. Marriage is friendhsip with benefits. If you don't plan on having sex after the marriage, don't get married. 

The bottom line is that living in a sexless marriage is like being on board a ship full of dead bodies. There was beauty there once, but not anymore. It feels dead, disconnected and cold in a sexless marriage. Sex helps to keep a couple connected, intimate so that they can talk about anything. When we aren't having sex regularly communication breaks down, and a wall is created that keeps us apart, segregated and feeling isolated. 

Negativity comes in filling the void which eventually feels like you are not in a marriage at all but just roommates. Marriage is a loving connection between two people which involves a commitment to be sexual, close and connected. A sexless marriage isn't loving. Get some help now! Your problems won't go away by ignoring them. 

Read my book Orgasm For Life a clearly written guide to deep intimacy, connection, compassion, and understanding what your partner needs. Orgasm For Life is an in-depth look at oral, touch, G-spot, orgasm and communicating about sex without embarrassment or angst. This book will turn you on, power you up and bring light into areas of darkness. It is humorous and written with compassion for both sexes.


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Friday, May 19, 2017

Why Isn't Mother's Day More Often?

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Don't you want to just dive in?

Mothers are the most important person in our lives when we are children. They have the greatest impact on us than any other person. Why then, isn't Mother's Day celebrated more than once a year? 

Yesterday, when I was enjoying my Mother's Day spa day gift from my adult children I thought we need to celebrate Mother's Day more often. I had such a fabulous experience that I wanted to share it with you. It is the small things that can make such a difference to us. We have to be fully present and grounded in each moment to appreciate what is before us.

Mother's Day was just days ago. We might have a tendency to wait to use a Groupon gift our kids give us; I chose to schedule my day right away as I knew not only did I deserve it, I needed it. After the stress of a move and a booked client schedule, I needed a day of relaxation and pampering. I was not disappointed. If you haven't

looked at Groupon for facials, massages or other delights do so. You can save a ton of money and enjoy more pleasure. Even the guys might enjoy a spa day, massage, facial, pedicure and use of a pool, steam, fitness and other facilities.

In the end, I share a bare-faced photo - no makeup after my facial. Aging doesn't have to be something we fear, but rather an embracing and loving ourselves no matter how we look and no matter how old we are. When we love ourselves completely gaining weight is just a passage, as we notice more wrinkles appearing, it is not something that makes us look ugly, old or horrible, but evidence of wisdom we have gained through our experience along the road of life. 

Self-nurturing is the most loving thing we can do for ourselves.
Most women put themselves last.
A lack of self-nurturing is the underlying cause of breast cancer.

My kids are all very different. David is the middle child, the one most often looked over, yet he is the most sensitive, grounded and successful in so many ways. He asked me for my address and Adam told me later that he then researched the best spas within a forty-five-minute drive from my new home. He selected a Groupon for an 80-minute facial or massage at the Hotel Intercontinental on The Avenue of The Stars in Los Angeles and surprised me with it on Mother's Day (from all of them).

As a flight attendant, I have stayed at Intercontinental Hotels in Europe and enjoyed them immensely. They are well-appointed and planned not missing a detail. Their spa embodied this luxury and careful planning. From the $10,000 Japanese Toto washlet in the ladies restroom, that greeted me as I locked the door, by automatically raising its lid, to the warm seat and water in the bowl. This is what I call sitting on the throne! The Intercontinental Hotel spared no expense preparing this spa.

Sitting down on a warm seat made me chuckle to myself, as I pushed buttons on the wall next to me I tested out the front spray, the back spray then the warm blow dry. Imagine never having to sit on a cold seat or use toilet paper again! 

I changed into the comfortable robe left for me and followed the esthetician into the treatment room where I could have a body scrub, wash off in a beautiful jetted tub, I chose the 80-minute facial. 

Elizabeth, cleansed my face three times using three softly fragranced plant-based products, steamed, exfoliated and massaged my face, neck, and arms. I felt relaxed and de-stressed when I left to surrender to the steam.

I cranked up the timer without being able to read the hash marks on the timer. I had no idea that I whirled the dial around to shake and bake! If I had it to do-over, I would carefully set the steam room for ten minutes. As I sat down on the stone bench, the steam billowed out of the pipe across the room from me. I closed my eyes and meditated. When I opened my eyes, I couldn't see any of the walls around me. I felt like I was in a dense cloud. The idea of being in a steam room so filled with moisture I couldn't see the walls was hilarious to me. I burst out laughing and couldn't stop. 

There was no one to hear me laughing. After I felt I couldn't take the heat any longer, I slid along the bench to the wall and along the wall to the door. I turned off the steam on the outside thankful that I was in the cool air. I donned the robe from the spa again and made my way outside to the pool. 

I had the entire pool and deck to myself. The water as I tested it was warm enough for me to walk right in. I created ripples in the water as I swam, the water filled up to the top of the overflow. I was my own ripple effect. I began swimming laps slowly at first. Our body has memory. It wasn't long before I was back in the old groove of swimming competitively. In less than fifteen minutes I had done thirty laps. I was thrilled to see I still had it! 

I love my solitude. For some, a people filled deck area might be more comfortable. I could hear a samba playing on the speakers near the water, other than the music, the quiet was absolutely what I

needed.   I was thinking Mother's Day needs to be celebrated more than just once a year. This day was too good to not do more often. I vowed to treat myself to a spa day once a month and swim first before my facial next time. 

I took some photos of me in the pool and sent a text of thanks to my kids. It was a really good day. I was grateful that my adult children cared enough to gift me with something that I would enjoy every moment.

The moral of the story?

No makeup afterglow
Treat yourself to the things you love and don't worry about how you look when you do it. If you love to swim, then do it as often as you can. If yoga is your thing, do it every day. Whatever your pleasure enjoy the heck out of your experience and do it as much as you can.

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Tuesday, May 16, 2017

Vaginal Rejuvenation For Incontinence And Greater Nerve Sensitivity

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Which cosmetic surgery has gone up 109% in the last few years? Labioplasty! Surgical restructuring of the labia, the outer lips of the vagina. There is another way that doesn't mean being cut with a knife, invasive surgery or long recovery time.

ThermiVa is a non-surgical procedure for internal and external use that tightens providing an anti-aging treatment for a more youthful, feminine vaginal area improving texture, tone, and moisture. 

Perimenopausal, and menopausal women may experience vaginal dryness, burning and a lack of sensitivity during intercourse. For many women, the dryness and lack of sensitivity can be so acute that they stop having sex because it is too painful.

Other women report that there is a lack of sensitivity which contributes to weakened orgasms or no orgasm at all. It may appear that these women don't like sex, when that isn't the case at all. Not feeling aroused is a big problem for post-menopausal women. It can seem like it takes forever to get turned on when natural hormone levels are very low.

Incontinence or leakage of urine when we sneeze, cough, laugh, ride horses run or jump on trampolines
is another issue that occurs later in life. Incontinence is a real problem that can have embarrassing results.

Vaginal reconstruction surgery is expensive and painful. Bladder surgery requires a recovery time and sometimes doesn't work. Surgery always has risks and bladder surgery carries many risks.
A newer and less invasive procedure ThermiVa utilizes laser technology. The TermiVa wand is about the thickness of your index finger. It feels warm to the touch but isn't painful. With no pain, this procedure allows the patient to return to work the same day and even have sex that day.

The Advantages

  • no pain
  • no surgery
  • no recovery or downtime
Over time, the results are greater. Three months after the procedure the tissues become softer and the impact is fully felt. The G-spot is targeted which becomes more sensitive. ThermiVa improves blood flow, collagen, lubrication, and helps to heal the nerves. With the nerve healing there is increased sensitivity from ThermiVa which allows some women to orgasm multiple times.

My friend visited a "Day of Beauty" at a local doctor's office and sent me the video links below. One of the women who had the procedure done reported that she had six orgasms right after! I told my friend, "Sign me up! That's what I want!" Six orgasms? Holy cow! We all need more pleasure in our lives and this is certainly one way to receive it. Instead of feeling numb and lifeless inside our beautiful feminine vagina we can feel young, alive and thriving. 

The procedure costs from $2,800 to $6,500 usually for three treatments. You may want to have a touch up once a year after the initial procedures. Incontinence issues are remedied without any invasive surgery or need for mesh.

Watch the following videos and listen to the testimonials from women who have had the procedure done. 
Jennifer Elizabeth Masters is a love and passion coach, helping women and men improve intimacy and their sex lives which improve their relationship. The happier you are with yourself, the happier you will be with your partner. Self-love is the cornerstone to any happy relationship. Send me a private e-mail to see how easy it is to feel happier, more lively, connected and joyful in all areas of your life.