Wednesday, July 30, 2014

My Twin Flame Love: Part I

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Women dream of a Soul Mate or Twin Flame relationship. They long for the deep soul connection with a partner that crosses all time, dimensions and lifetimes. In 2003, I experienced my own Twin Flame relationship. This is my story. 

On October 31st, 2003, I purchased my first pick-up truck. I had been running my own landscape design and installation company, since July 1st, 2001. I had become a Master Gardener some years before. I enjoyed designing and planting. I had been operating out of the back of my leather interior, Ford Explorer for two years. My landscape professional friends and nurserymen teased me, "When are you going to get a truck like a REAL landscaper?" Purchasing a truck was a big deal. The truck was symbolic for me. It signified that I was committed to running For Heaven Scapes, Ltd for some time to come. I had difficulty sticking with anything for very long. My ADD caused me to lose interest quickly. Landscaping was different, I was passionate about it. Although the truck had 69,000 miles on it, it was like new for me. It had been previously owned by a woman and felt like mine.

My confidence began to increase the longer I was in business. It was just 8 months since I kicked Rich Resuta out of the house. He had been abusive the entire 10 years of our marriage. He was controlling, intimidating and raged much of the time. Finally standing up to him and telling him "ENOUGH!" was huge for me. I spent my time when my 7-year old daughter was not with me, quietly, journaling, meditating and healing from our marriage. 

With my brand new white pick-up truck, I drove to Murphy North Carolina to spend the weekend with my spiritual mentor at that time, Lynette Lindsey. Lynette was a psychic. Although there was a15 year age difference, we became close friends. She helped me and I helped her when she had breast cancer. She taught me about Metaphysics and energy. She was my first spiritual teacher. She had lived with native American Indians in Chaco canyon and several other places across the United States. She was a very gentle being and certainly walked softly on the earth. She studied and was very "into" Native American tradition and lore. 

She handed me a brochure about a buffalo drum making workshop taking place the next month in Hiawassee, Georgia. She pushed me to go. She told me, "There is something here for you." When Lynette had a psychic feeling, I knew she would be right. 

On the morning of the workshop, there was a chill in the air. It was a frosty morning. I received guidance to "dress down. Take off my diamond earrings, wear layers and look feminine." I had never received guidance like this before. I did as I was instructed, and dressed in layers as "they" told me to do. I loaded my aging golden retriever, Gunner and Karma into my white pick-up truck. I was on the road by 7:05 AM. I was pleased with myself as I knew the two-hour drive would land me in Murphy a little late for Lynette's taste. She always liked to be early. So much for what Lynette wanted. She was lucky I was up and on the road by 7:00! I enjoyed the drive, which was made more exciting by the newness of my vehicle. It was going to be a great day!

Lynette was anxious when I arrived. I was late. It made her angry. We had to pick up Anne, her friend before driving to Hiawassee for the workshop. Hiawassee was around a mountain and took another hour to get there. I had already driven two to Lynette's from Alpharetta, Georgia. 

As we drove down Anne's driveway we saw a herd of deer grazing. Lynette said that was a sign. Deer represent gentleness. Whoever sees the animal first, is who the sign is for. I knew it too. I counted three. Lynette said the number was significant. I wasn't sure of what, but I knew it was meant for me.

Lynette was all abuzz about John Armbruster, the drum-maker and presenter of this workshop. She had taken John all around Murphy and had lunch with him earlier in the week. She said that she looked at John's palms (she read palms and taught palmistry). She found his were extraordinary. She said she had never seen such a square hand. She said he was not from here. She said he had a photographic memory and was incredibly intelligent. She was very excited about him, I wondered, silently, if she was falling for him. 

Anne was ready and we were turned around and back on the road before long. As we turned into the Metaphysical store Where Angels Gather, we saw a flock of turkeys. Turkeys represent give-away. In Native American tradition, a give-away often follows a sweat lodge, or pow-wow. People put treasures on a blanket. You leave the treasures you no longer want and make take someone else's give-away treasure. 

We all were very quiet as we felt the day had a magical quality about it. I wasn't sure what was happening, but it certainly felt like we had walked through a door into another world.

As we climbed out of the truck and began to walk toward the store where the workshop was to be held, Lynette said, "Oh there's John!" I looked up to see a man who looked like The Marlboro man from commercials. He was clad entirely in denim. He was wearing a Stetson with Indian beads and a turtle around the brim.
huarache sandals
On his feet, which were bare on this cold, November morning were huarache sandals. I thought at the time, this man is very unusual. He was definitely non-traditional. His ocean blue eyes looked right into mine as I passed by. I said a quick hello, as Lynette called over her shoulder, We'll go and register inside. " He was not my type at all. A little stocky, shorter than I liked and certainly more earthy that I liked. I had to say I was intrigued.
John Armbruster 2003

We each paid our registration fee and spent the remainder of the 30 minutes prior to the class warming up. It was chilly and the workshop was being held in the outdoor gazebo. 

At 11:00 we wandered outside, in the cold, for the workshop. Another older woman showed up a little late, which made a total of 5 in the workshop. John was okay with that, as he was habitually late as well, he told us. He introduced himself. He was a Geologist, an earthkeeper, a geomancer, he did Imperical Feng Shui for the earth and home, sweat lodges and was a pipe carrier. He talked for about 30 minutes while he told us how to sand the drum frames till they were smooth. We warmed up rather quickly doing this physical work. Pretty soon, our jackets were off as the sun warmed up the gazebo.

As we worked on our drums, each woman introduced themselves. I was the youngest of the group. When it came time for me, I said my name and where I was from, John replied in a strange squeaky voice, "You are from TORONTO? AND your name is JENNIFER!!!??" He acted as if this was significant. At this point he sat down beside me ostensibly to help another woman with her drum frame and began asking me questions. 

We worked on our drums for almost two hours and Lynette suddenly stood up and said, "I haven't gotten my hug, John!" He smiled warmly and moved into the center of the gazebo to hug her. The other women quickly stood up as well, each smiling and waiting for her hug. I waited till everyone had their hugs and I moved into the center of the gazebo. Lynette stood there smiling at us. John moved toward me and I leaned my head on his shoulder while he held me. I could smell leather and cold on him. He drew me close to him and we stood for what seemed like no time, an eternity, I was not certain how long. While he held me I felt wave after wave of love coming from him, around him to me around me the energy was so strong, Lynette told me afterward she had to back up it almost knocked her over. The love for this man was deep, far reaching and endless. I could not understand how I could feel such love for someone I had never met before. 

John handed out our buffalo skins. I knew nothing about buffalo and less about drums. Lynette was angry with me as she thought John had given me the better buffalo hide for my drum. I could not see the difference. I thought it was strange how angry she was.

As we reluctantly let go of each other, we were both unsteady on our feet. These feelings were pure love. There was no sexual energy in this feeling. Although I argued with Lynette about that later. I only felt deep connected love. It was endless, amazing and had me reeling. I was not divorced, only separated. Why would I meet someone, when I wasn't looking, and obviously not available - legally?

We finished our drum-making and John did a ceremony to awaken the drums. We stood in the center of the gazebo while John belted out a traditional native american blessing. His voice was incredible, You could feel it in your soul. He touched oil of sage on each of our foreheads and also on the drum. When he touched my face, he looked into my eyes and awakened more than just my drum. There was a strong pull between us. He had a hard time not kissing me. He finally looked away and tried to pull it together enough to close the workshop. 

Everyone scattered quickly. I walked down the sidewalk to wash off my hands in the outside spigot. I wondered how I should give him my business card. I wasn't sure what to say. I knew he was heading to Atlanta and needed a place to stay. Although, in the back of my mind, I knew I had Ariel with me the next week. Rich would not like it if I had a man staying with me, with Ariel present. He would probably never find out, I thought....

As I walked back to the gazebo, John was gathering up the last of his plastic totes with the buffalo skins, rawhide sinew and sandpaper. I knew this was my only chance. I handed John my For Heaven Scapes, business card. He was impressed. I did Feng Shui in the garden, he did it for the earth. I suggested we have lunch together when he was in Atlanta. He said he would call me. He thanked me and I walked off with my feet barely touching the earth. 

After dropping Anne at her home, Lynette and I drove back to her place in Murphy as if we were flying on rocket ships. We were both high as kites. I could not explain the feeling, except to say I knew what happened today was hugely significant. She did too. 

Lynette told me she would take me out to the local barbecue joint in Murphy because I drove everyone. There are not many places to choose from there. From flea market to bird seed store, there were not many shops and fewer restaurants. As we sat down at the table Lynette regarded me with amusement. I looked at her and said with a lilt in my voice, "WHAT??" She said, "You know perfectly well WHAT! John is what! What was that all about?" I told her what I experienced. She doubted that validity of my statement that it was not a sexual experience at all. All I felt was pure love. 

It was then that she told me that the energy of our embrace nearly bowled her over. She said she felt faintly embarrassed, as the other women were looking on as we stood there suspended in time and space, seemingly above everyone else, floating. 

I didn't care what the others thought. That was the least of my concerns. I wondered how I could keep him from Rich. Ariel could not keep a secret. 

I left Gunner with Lynette. The drive was too much for him. He would not come out from under her table to make the drive home. I wondered to Lynette how I would get him back to Alpharetta - more than 2 hours away. She said not to worry. She would think of something. I knew she had something up her sleeve.

By Monday, John had called and left me a message. I knew he was staying with friends in the Sautee Nachoochee Valley in Georgia. I was not sure of their relationship when I  returned his call and heard a curious woman's voice. Her name was Diana. She smiled into the phone and called, "JOOHHHN! There's a  woman on the phone for you!" As John came to the phone, I could hear teasing from Diana about the phone call. 

John expressed a strong desire to see me again. I explained the situation with my daughter. I offered my upstairs room, with the caveat that there was no door to the bedroom. He told me he had spend a night or two in a snow drift in the mountains, he was not the least concerned about no door to the bedroom. John was not sure how he was going to get from Diana's to Atlanta. Since Gunner was still at Lynette's I said, I might have to drive up to get him. I would let him know once I talked with Lynette.

I called Lynette to tell her that John would be staying with me a couple of nights. She smiled into the phone and offered to drive Gunner down to the highway, meeting me half-way. It was a longer and very windy drive for her, I was grateful for her help. She knew she was playing the part she needed to and was happy to do it. She smiled at me as John got out of her Jeep. Ariel said hello to Lynette and sheepishly sat in the backseat playing Opossum all the way home. I knew she was taking it all in, listening while feigning sleep. John commented a few times about her taking him in. She was watching when he wasn't looking.

When we arrived home, it was late. As John lifted Gunner out of the truck, he said to me words I will never forget, looking around at the beauty of the 7 acre property I lived on, 100 year old trees, he said, "You have a rich life." I pondered his words. John was not one to make small talk. When he commented about something you knew it carried weight. I carried Ariel to bed then I showed John his room. 

We sat in the area designated as a family room. It was a little chilly there at night. We talked for hours about our lives, families and what we had learned. I had never seen John without his hat, till now. He liked wearing it. I wondered if he slept in it? It was so John. He wore an amber necklace around his neck, always, he said. He did computer programming to make ends meet. Drum-making and earth-keeping did not pay the bills. Apparently he was quite good at what he did. I had no doubt. I swore I was spending time with the Marlboro man. What on earth was happening?

Eventually, I could not stand it any longer. After hours of talking and nervous sexual tension between us, I slide over closer to him and kissed him fully on the mouth. As I began to move away, he pulled me back, saying, "Don't go, yet! I'm liking this."

While I shared stories, I named him, John-of-few-words, and gave myself the moniker, Jennifer-who-speaks-too-much. He told me about being with a beautiful woman named, Jennifer. He spent several nights in a snow drift with her in the Sierra Nevada mountains. She wanted to BE with him. He could feel another person that he was supposed to be with, also named Jennifer. 

He was told her name and that she was from Toronto. He was told he would die at the hands of Jennifer. When he flew to Atlanta, although he had appointments, he thought he might die in a plane crash. I found it terribly eery. He said he could feel the exact moment that she was no longer available. He thought that this person was either off the planet or had married. He asked me when Rich and I got married. He asked me when Ariel was born. The dates coincided with my marriage to Rich, more importantly, the birth of Ariel. John knew the Jennifer in his vision from Toronto, was me. 

The interesting thing was that I had felt a man coming to me on the etheric or astral plane for over 10 years. I could feel that this person loved me. I didn't know who he was. I didn't know where he was, but I could feel him. He came in very strongly before I met Rich Resuta. Comparing notes, it was the same time frame that he had. My sense was that when I turned the corner to marry Rich, John was pushed further back. 

We did not make love that night. John had an issue with sexual addiction. He wanted to wait as long as we could. He was trying to change his ways. Women fell all over him. Although he was not brawny, or incredibly good-looking, he was charismatic and had a very special energy about him. His friend, Diana would later recount stories of women standing in front of him when he was in the middle of meditating or doing ceremony and do hand-stands and other revealing yoga positions right in front of him when he was in Sedona. He had a magnetism that few have. There was no doubt John was special, as Lynette reminded me every time I spoke to her.

John and I visited a client of his in Atlanta. We did the Feng Shui together. We each taught the other what we knew. I noticed that a piece of furniture had been moved and that there was an argument over it. The couple had split up and divided furniture. They fought over the piano. We cleared the energy of the house together.

Being with John was amazing. We didn't need to speak. I could read his thoughts. At one point, he quipped, "Get out of my head, will you?" I could finish his sentences, when he stopped talking. Although we just met, we knew each other instantly. Our connection was immediate. There was history, of unknown origin. People felt it when they saw us together.
I had just yelled at Ariel - she's not happy here

Our time together drew to an end. Rich refused to allow Ariel to be in the house when my Indian friend was over. Ariel's connection with John was powerful as well. She told John of being in a past life with him, where they were both Native American Indians. Ariel described the wikiup that he lived in. John said she was his sister. She told John he had also been her father. He became quite somber at this point. As if to break the tension, Ariel went and grabbed her recorder and played for John. John played his native American flute for her. There was a softness between Ariel and John that was missing in her relationship with her father. John totally accepted her as an equal. He could see her gifts. He gave Ariel a piece of buffalo fur. He said it was sacred. He also gave her a feather from a Blue Heron. He said he communicated and worked with Blue Heron energy. 

There was so much richness here between the three of us. When John found out that Rich would not allow Ariel to come back and see him, his eyes filled with tears and he cried. He would not speak of what he was feeling. There was much he did not tell me.

When I drove him to the airport, he found out his flight was delayed. I had already driven off and was headed home. He called me asking me to come back. I turned around, even though I was only 20 minutes from home. Our time was precious and we both knew it. We had Chinese food and I drove John back to the airport. I parked in the dropping off lane. He slid over in the front seat to snuggle and kiss my good-bye. As we were in a deep embrace one of Atlanta's finest policewomen rapped on my window. "This is a drop off only!" John kept kissing me. I gasped for air, "John she's giving us a ticket!" He kept kissing me. When she rapped on my window again, she angrily said, "Move this vehicle NOW!" John took the ticket from me and told me this $50.00 kiss was well worth it! It may have been the most expensive kiss he had ever had, but it was one he would always remember!

John returned to Atlanta three weeks later. He and I spent Thanksgiving at Diana's, his friend in Sautee, Georgia. I marvelled at all the carbohydrates on the table. I was not used to eating this way. John said, "They're young." John was doing marriage counseling for Diana and Steve. Steve would drink while they talked. John commented that there were some serious issues there. I instantly liked his friends. Diana told me to bring Ariel up to meet Forrest. They were the same age. I told her I would. 

Around Thanksgiving, John held a children's honoring ceremony at Diana's. Ariel and I were invited. There were water balloon fights and a circle where the children were each honored for their gifts in front of the group by their parents. It was lovely. All the kids had a blast. John had Ariel and I sage each person in the circle. It felt like family. Ariel and I talked about her connection with John. She said he was more of a father to her than her own. He certainly was more loving and accepting. But more than that, it was a deep spiritual connection and love that no one could explain. 

Ariel's connection with John was profound. Of course she could not keep silent when at her father's. She was exploding with stories about him. Rich was hoping for a reconciliation. He was angry, humiliated and feeling desperate. He came at me with both barrels legally. With Christmas coming, my attorney said John needed to stay away. He had become a source of concern for Rich. It put me in a very bad position legally. Georgia was a good ol' boy network. Males seemed to do better than females in court.

John sent a package for New Year's. John did not believe in giving presents for Christmas. He didn't like the gift-giving because it was "Christmas" that whole materialistic thing bothered the heck out of him. He was not materialistic at all. In fact, he was the opposite. Her preferred gifts that were meaningful. That spoke of the relationship between the two people. In the box, was a turtle for Ariel. It had significance. He wrote a loving card to us both, with a note to each of us explaining the gifts that he sent. (The details of the card are written in my book Odyssey Victim To Victory). 

He sent a crystal to Ariel for protection and a Herkimer diamond that he mined himself for me. Each gift had a significance for us personally. There was no doubt of the love that he felt for both of us. Getting through the holidays without seeing each other was very difficult. We talked on the phone often and connected through AOL messenger at other times. Finally, in January, John had enough. He decided to come to see me. Against my legal advice, we both agreed, we couldn't wait any longer. 

The is the end of Part I. Part II will follow in my next post. This story is also written in my first book, Odyssey Victim To Victory. Although it was fifteen years ago, I remember like it was yesterday. I remember what I wore, how he smelled and felt. Recounting this story to you now, brings back all those feelings like I am in the moment. Which is one of the reasons, we need to not live life with regret. Be grateful for each moment and stay in the present. 

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Jennifer Elizabeth Masters an inspirational speaker, teacher and author. She is a certified life coach, hypnotherapist and Master Energy healer. She works with those committed to living life from a higher place, in peace, joy and love, with passion. 

Jennifer is an authentic healer, catalystic coach. Being in person, on the phone or Skype with Jennifer brings up and moves energy that has been stuck for years. Often in your first session you may cry, laugh or feel better than you have in years. Most people report that they sleep better than they have in years after a session with Jennifer. Some have reported that their depression is completely gone in one hour. She works with suicidal issues, depression, sexual function and self esteem issues. She uses energy medicine in her coaching sessions. Her website is:

Ready to move out of the crapper into happy? Ready to live life fully from a place of passion? Ask Jennifer about her private Shamanic sessions in the desert. Release all that is limiting you. Release your anger, pain, suffering and sadness. Let it all go. When you do, joy is underneath. Schedule your 30 minute discovery session NOW!

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Tuesday, July 29, 2014

Are You Truly and Completely Happy With Your Life?

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Life is good. I love what I do. I feel fulfilled and wake up feeling that life is great! I feel healthy, positive and am living my life on purpose. My life was not always this way. For years I suffered from depression, body aches, illness and neediness. I didn't feel good about myself. I felt as if I had a bid hole in my gut the size of Texas, or maybe Canada!

It took me well into my late 40's for my life to begin to improve and then really hit full swing in my 50's. I used to try to change people. I felt that the men in my life could use a little make-over. So I tried to "fix" them. Even with my adult children, I would try to get them to change, like I knew better what was best for them. Rather than allowing them to have their own experience. They had their own lessons to learn.

Today, I am delighted to have a fabulous guest on my podcast at 8:00 PM Eastern, 5:00 PM Pacific who has been working with people struggling with addictions for over 24 years. A medical doctor Winn Henderson is knowledgable and in many ways, on the same page as me. The following is an excerpt from his book:

Freedom From Addiction - Foreward

"Are you truly happy with your life?    If you can truthfully answer, Yes, then return this book for a full refund with our congratulations!  People who get up every morning and  can say, "What a wonderful day!  It's great to be alive!  I can't wait to get going and fulfill another piece of my destiny, are on purpose and probably don't need this book. But what if you're not so satisfied with your life?  Are you nervous or depressed? Are you lonely, fearful, or bored?  Do you feel insecure, resentful,or angry?  Do you think you're unappreciated or unloved?  Is there an empty feeling, a void in your life?  Do you suffer with feelings of guilt or shame?  Do you have a lot of pain of either the physical or emotional type?  Are you a worrier or a procrastinator?  Do you have the idea that you'd be better off dead?"

Dr. Henderson has identified 24 addictive behaviors in his latest book on the subject: Freedom From Addiction, and 20 psychological symptoms of addiction. The most common are anxiety and depression. Other symptoms include pain, loneliness, lack of love, a void, emptiness, unworthiness, a sense of failure, insecurity, guilt and shame, unhappiness, lack of acceptance, lack of energy, sorrow, fear, boredom, resentment, self-pity, the need for immediate gratification and pleasure, and suicidal thoughts.

Winn Henderson goes on to say that all of the above symptoms are from one disease. He has a cure that has worked for thousands of people. 

If you have been following my posts, you know that codependency is one of the subjects that I talk about quite a bit. When we heal the codependency our life turns around. We become happy with ourselves and our lives. 

Join us tonight for our discussion about addictions. Winn's four questions are quite interesting to get you to look at your life differently.

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Looking For The Perfect Opportunity

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Life inspires me. I notice things. I look around me and watch what my animals do, what other people do and I consider what is happening with the and the world. My brother talks about winning the lottery. He talks about it a lot. For him, winning the lottery would be the PERFECT OPPORTUNITY!

Recently, I have noticed how many people are waiting for the perfect opportunity. Even my dog, Karma waits for the perfect bush to take a dump on. She waits so long for the perfect bush, that she often misses out on the opportunity all together! She usually waits until we are about 100 feet from our car and gives in to the moment. The perfect bush keeps eluding her.

Every day I work towards something. I do energy clearings for my clients. I promote my book. I write a blog. Each thing I do, advances me forward. I expect that my book will be hugely successful. But I am not waiting for an opportunity to fall into my lap. I am working to promote my book. I am doing radio and television  interviews. I talk about my book to everyone I meet. I am making my own success. 

The same thing goes for relationships. I hear people, especially women looking for the PERFECT RELATIONSHIP. Women hope for and wish for the perfect man. They pass by some lovely men, waiting for the perfect one to show up. I am not sure what perfection you can find when men and women both have issues. There is no such thing as a PERFECT relationship. If we wait for the perfect thing to come along, we may miss the bush altogether. Take each moment with gusto. Live each second of your life as if it is your last. This way, you won't feel that you missed out. You won't be wishing you had lived more fully, or loved more completely when you had the chance. 

If you have someone who loves you. love them back. If you have someone who wants to make love to you, love them back. Grab them, and show them how much they mean to you. Stop trying to control every moment and make it perfect. When you do, you squeeze all the joy out of the moment. There is no perfection. There is just this moment. You are the one being present who makes it perfect. Enjoying each moment is where the perfection comes in. Loving fully when you have the chance, rather than telling your husband to go to hell, is living without regret. Love like there is no tomorrow! Live with gusto. You will be so glad you did. Live your life passionately.

I live each moment with passion. I love life. I love myself. I certainly love the world that I live in. I love you also. I did not used to feel this way. I used to be negative. I was depressed and in physical pain. What I know you can't find in a book. What I have learned through my own life experience you can't find in a workshop. If you are ready to live life passionately and look 20 years younger than you are, like I do, call me. You will be so glad you did. If you want to live life with Joy - when do you begin, tomorrow, next year, or right NOW!??? This October I will celebrate an earth shattering 60th birthday. I have been told I look 45. I certainly feel better than I did when I was 40! I have no body pain, because I released my emotions. I can help you do the same. Find me on FaceBook or connect with me here via e-mail

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This Wednesday Jennifer is joined on Love Yourself Fearlessly Radio by Dr. Winn Henderson. Winn is an expert on addiction and has written several books on the topic. Join us this Wednesday for a very interesting topic sexual addiction, at 5:00 PM Pacific and 8:00 PM Eastern. You can dial in or download the show afterward. Whether you have an addiction to relationships (codependence) alcohol, drugs, sex, shopping or food, or know someone with an addiction, this show will help you.

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Things I Don't Understand - My Rant

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

What goes around comes around. What goes in must come out. What goes up must come down. Styles come and they go, but there are some styles, I just don't get. What about exposing your drawers is nice, attractive or respectable? Absolutely nothing! I don't understand why men think that shuffling along the street with their genes around their ankles is manly, sexy or even interesting. I just don't get it! Seeing someone's underwear AND butt crack does not turn me on. I may be a thrill seeker, but this is one thing I find anything butt thrilling!

I live in California. I have lived around the world in foreign countries and travelled a great deal. California Walmart is certainly the land of what not to wear. I have seen more boobage in the 20 months I have lived here than I have seen in all my years on earth. I am not sure what women think is alluring about
exposing their breasts while they shop? I just don't get it. When you expose yourself to the world, what are you leaving as sacred with your partner in the bedroom? Absolutely NOTHING! I just don't get it!

When did underwear become outerwear?

The other thing I don't get is why women think it is attractive, appealing or even sexy to show off their undergarments. If your underwear is being shown to the world, how can undressing be a turn on to your partner? Some things need to be sacred. Our bodies are sacred. When we expose our nakedness, our underwear and our cracks to the world, we show our disrespect for ourselves. 

Sexy Is Good

Feeling sexy is good. Feeling sexy is healthy. It shows that you have a good body image.  What is happening today, however shows a complete lack of self esteem, and self respect. When you love and respect yourself, you keep your body sacred. You revere yourself and your body. You treat your body as if it was your temple, because it is. You treat it with respect by eating healthy foods and covering yourself up when in public. Exposing your half naked body to the world while you shop shows the opposite. You don't care. You don't care about yourself and you feel filled with self loathing. When you respect yourself, you know where the limits are. You know what is too much and what is just enough. 

Appropriate Attire

There is a time and a place for beach attire. The beach! There is a time and a place to expose your thong underwear - in the bedroom! Not in a public place. If you are practically naked in public, there is no sanctity in your relationship. There is no reverence for yourself. Nothing is kept private. Sex is a private matter. Exposing your naked body in public, keeps your private life and sex out for the world to see. Sex is sacred. Your body is sacred. You are sacred.

I wrote Orgasm For Life to bring the sacredness back in sex. I wrote Orgasm For Life because we have extremes today in our world. We have people exposing themselves in public places and married couples not having sex. People that have taken vows to love and honor each other are not. What is loving about that? NOTHING! 

What makes me sad is the disrespect that is being shown of ourselves in the world. When we expose ourselves in public we disrespect our bodies, ourselves and all those we meet. Life is sacred. Living life from a higher level means treating yourself and others with respect. Revering your body and your partner's body. Loving yourself, no matter how big or small you are. Acceptance of self - all of you, is what unconditional love is all about. The attention you are seeking walking around half naked only shows the pain you feel inside. It shows how angry you are with your life and how you feel. The acceptance and validation you are seeking needs to come from within. It comes from lovingly accepting who you are. 

Jennifer Elizabeth Masters an inspirational speaker, teacher and author. She is a certified life coach, hypnotherapist and Master Energy healer. She works with those committed to living life from a higher place, in peace, joy and love, with passion. 

Jennifer is an authentic healer, catalystic coach. Being in person, on the phone or Skype with Jennifer brings up and moves energy that has been stuck for years. Often in your first session you may cry, laugh or feel better than you have in years. Most people report that they sleep better than they have in years after a session with Jennifer. Some have reported that their depression is completely gone in one hour. She works with suicidal issues, depression, sexual function and self esteem issues. She uses energy medicine in her coaching sessions. Her website is:

Ready to move out of the crapper into happy? Ready to live life fully from a place of passion? Ask Jennifer about her private Shamanic sessions in the desert. Release all that is limiting you. Release your anger, pain, suffering and sadness. Let it all go. When you do, joy is underneath. Schedule your 30 minute discovery session NOW!


This Wednesday Jennifer is joined on Love Yourself Fearlessly Radio by Winn Henderson. Winn is an expert on addiction and has written several books on the topic. Join us this Wednesday for a very interesting topic, at 5:00 PM Pacific and 8:00 PM Eastern. You can dial in or download the show afterward.
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10 Signs You Might Be A Sex Addict

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

What's Wrong With Too Frequent Sex?

Sex is healthy. Sex is good for you. What is you have a compulsion that just can't be filled? How can you tell if you have a problem with sex addiction. Beautiful David Duchovny, pictured here starred in Californication. Playing a sex addict seemed to take David over, as he also became one.

Tiger Woods, and other movie stars have been depicted as sex addicts. When do you cross the line between a healthy libido and a compulsion? Moreover, why does it happen?

Signs You Are A Sex Addict

  1. You think, breathe and want sex all the time.
  2. You cheat compulsively on your partner or spouse.
  3. Excessive or obsessive masturbation.
  4. Habitually having anonymous sexual encounters.
  5. Engaging in habitual phone sex - often with unknown people.
  6. Engaging in sexual encounters that interfere with work, school or relationships.
  7. Inability to curb fantasies, urges or risk taking.
  8. Having sex especially when depressed.
  9. Turning to prostitution to either have needs met.
  10. Getting angry, anxious or depressed without frequent sex.

Other Factors

Voyeurism is often a part of sex addiction, which may or may not include pornography. People with a sex addiction often feel a large whole that can't seem to be fulfilled, even with frequent sex. Sex only temporarily solves the problem. 


It is my belief that everyone at SOME point in their lives has some type of addiction. Whether it is pornography, shopping, eating, drinking, pot smoking or drinking alcohol, addiction is something everyone struggles with at some point in their life.


Self acceptance and self love is at the core of our inability to feel fulfilled. Until we completely love and accept ourselves, we will look to others to fill that void within us. 

Sex addiction can be cured. When you find something that fills that void, whether it is helping others, loving yourself completely or doing something that gives you a passion for life, there is help for you. 

Personal Experience

When I was in my 20's, I suffered from sex addiction. I was sexually molested as a child, which placed the emphasis on sex for me. I didn't feel loved unless I was having sex. I associated sex with love. What I didn't understand is that sex isn't and doesn't have to be love-related. Sex could just be the physical act of getting off. The instant exhilaration that makes you feel fully alive and takes your pain away - even for a moment. It took me a while to recognize that it was the way I felt about me, that empty feeling was what I was trying to make go away. After the sex addiction disappeared, it was replaced by a shopping addiction, then alcohol and then food. Until I completely loved and accepted myself as I was, did all these addictions completely disappear. 

Even today, I have a tendency to crave sweets, which is a sign of missing out on the sweetness of life (from childhood trauma). The less I act on those urges, the less I crave sweets. Having something else to fill this void, that fulfills you is key. My spiritual practice, meditation, prayer, chanting mantras keeps me feeling full, peaceful and completely in the moment. Feeling that life is enough, that I make a difference in other's lives, and enjoying the little things in my life, means that there is no longer emptiness, loneliness or a void.

Emotional Pain

The fact that we are not able to feel validated, loved and accepted by others, comes from a lack of self acceptance. When we constantly seek a physical act to numb us, we are just trying to avoid feeling pain. Any addiction is an avoidance of pain. 

Letting Go

Allowing ourselves to feel is key. The avoidance of feeling is what causes addiction. We use the addiction to take our pain away. But it only takes it away for a moment, not permanently. We have to allow the stuck feelings to come up, cry, scream in our car, or on the top of a mountain. Or come out to the desert and do a Shamanic process to release your pain with me. The truth of the matter is that this is curable. You can move out of the pain and suffering of addiction. I did, without a 12 step program. I did it by loving acceptance of myself. If I can do it, you can too.

Avoiding Pain Causes Suffering

Anytime you try to avoid something, the opposite happens. You stay stuck in the place of suffering with what you are trying to get away from. This causes you to suffer more. You can't run away from yourself, even through sex. You will always show up. Instead embrace who you are. The more you love and accept you, the less you will need to have sex to feel fully alive.

Passion For Life

Most people are stuck where they are. They are stuck in misery of a break-up, lousy job, relationship or life. We think and regret the past and focus on the future, wishing and hoping we will win the lottery to get out of our pain. No lottery, relationship, job or move will bring you the joy you are not feeling. 

Things and people only temporarily remedy our situation. We have to stop and look inward. Focus on who we really are. We are not our addiction. The addiction is only a symptom of what is going on inside you. The addiction is not who you are. Running away through sex does not make you feel permanently better or happy. 

Jennifer Elizabeth Masters is the author or Orgasm For Life, a passionately written book to bridge the chasm between men and women. She is a life, sex and love coach. She lives in the Mojave desert in California. She offers private and group sessions, by phone or Skype. Her work is life-changing. She has helped thousands of men and women overcome anxiety, depression, low self esteem and financial issues. You can reach her via e-mail HERE. Or visit her website


This Wednesday Jennifer is joined on Love Yourself Fearlessly Radio by Winn Henderson. Winn is an expert on addiction and has written several books on the topic. Join us this Wednesday for a very interesting topic, at 5:00 PM Pacific and 8:00 PM Eastern. You can dial in or download the show afterward.
(605) 475-4000 PIN 939401#

Dr. Winn Henderson had me on his show as well - for your double-whammy tune in to his show here:

This show airs at 4:36 EST on Wednesday. 

Monday, July 28, 2014

Are You An Addict or An Enabler?

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

This post is in process. I am letting you know that I am doing a radio show with an expert on addiction this Wednesday. I have three articles coming about this subject.
If you are in an addictive relationship this will be for you.
If you are a sex addict this will be for you.
If you are not sure if you are addicted to sex, this will be for you.

Watch for the articles this week and my show on Wednesday, at 5:00 PM PST and 8:00 PM Eastern, with Dr. Winn Henderson. 

I will also be on the air on Wednesday at 4:30 Eastern on Illuminate Together with Michelle Spalding on Blogtalk Radio. 

Saturday, July 26, 2014

In Love With A Narcissist?

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Gorgeous, charismatic, sexy, alluring, seductive. All of these describe how we feel about a narcissist. We usually don't even consider that the person we are falling in love with is narcissistic. We don't see the hidden characteristics at the beginning of the relationship. All we see are the crazy sex scenes, excitement and the feel of an adrenaline rush. The excitement is certainly present by the truck load. That is what is so difficult about a relationship with a narcissist.

When they leave, we feel a longing. We desire them. We adore them. We are magnetized by them. A narcissist is like a magnet when you are a codependent. 

Like a moth to a flame, we can't help but be drawn in. The feel of walking on eggshells is so familiar to us. We lived with it all of our childhood, after all. It feels so darned familiar. We don't even see the darkness until we are caught up in their trap. Then it's too late.

Throwing Fits And Things

As quickly as we have fallen in love, the relationship takes a spin and a turn. We wonder what the heck we did to deserve the rage, the broken printer, thrown mirror, glass on the floor, chaos that becomes a hot and cold daily routine. The Dr. Jekyll, Mr. Hyde can be caused by drugs, alcohol or other addictive behaviors. What we can be sure of is that the addictions will be as numerous as the highs. 

Leaving Isn't An Option

The drama keeps us penned in. We are addicted to it. The excitement has an allure. We have no idea which end is up and even less of an idea who we are. We lose ourselves. We give more than we have ever given and feel exhausted, drained and exhilarated all at the same time. 

Our Self Esteem Suffers

The change happens gradually, we don't even see it coming. After a particularly horrible fight, we recognize that we aren't who we used to be. We have become someone else. We are small, helpless and surrounded by guilt. We feel guilty about leaving. We feel guilty about staying. We feel ungrounded and off center. Nothing else seems to matter but the relationship. We are addicted.


It is common for the narcissist to have affairs. These could be flirtatious texts, sexting or full blown affairs. The affairs bolster lagging self esteem, when they feel they are not getting enough or the type or attention they crave.

Repeating Cycles

Immediately following a fight, we are greeted by breakfast or coffee in bed, a smiling gorgeous person and we are hooked all over again. How can we break the cycle and get ourselves out?

Emotional Maturity

Both parties need to mature. Conversations that are unproductive need to be stopped by one party. Escalation of emotions during "discussions" makes serious conversations almost impossible. 

Inflated Ego?

A narcissist appears to be bigger than life. They boast, brag and talk about themselves and all that they have accomplished. However, their self esteem is in the toilet. 

Boundaries are crossed repeatedly. Wrongs are never righted. Being in love with a narcissist leaves you feeling off-balance and lower than low.

With age comes more emotional maturity, hopefully, but not always. Anger surfaces when a serious discussion is brought up. You will find the tables turn so quickly that it will make your head spin. You will wonder what on earth happened?

This type of relationship is addictive and typically abusive. Emotion, physical and passive aggressive behavior can all be a part of the tumultuous relationship with a narcissist. 

Overcoming Addiction

As the narcissist becomes aware of their addictions, healing may occur. It is a slow process that cannot be pushed. Anger management is usually part of the healing. Deep seated anger with the mother from childhood is often the source of the issues. The pain and suffering from incarcerations, restraining orders and break-ups needs to be great enough for the narcissist to want to change. Until that time, you my dear will be in a lot of pain.

My advice to you is to get help for yourself. As you begin to feel stronger you may decide you have had enough and move on. You cannot change someone else. Letting go can be difficult, but release you from the bondage and suffering.

Jennifer is a certified life, love and sex coach, author of Orgasm For Life, hypnotherapist, NLP Practitioner, Master Energy Healer and Inspirational speaker. 

Jennifer is now offering VIP sessions for courageous committed clients. These VIP sessions are powerful Shamanic sessions with movement, breathing and release work. We do this in a sacred and protected area in the Mojave desert. If you would rather bring a friend and do the work together, that works too. For those who want a completely private session I support you totally and completely through the process. 

If you would rather process in group, that can be arranged as well. We release stuck emotions and pain through a Shamanic process. This is sacred work. You will feel lighter, freer and positive at the end of the process. I can't guarantee you won't vomit, or cry. But you will feel better. This is courageous work. I will be there every moment to support you through the process with healing breath work. This is powerful and life changing. If you are ready to be free of your pain and suffering, e-mail me and we will set up a 30 minute phone or Skype session to talk about what you want to accomplish. Either a VIP day (5 hours) in the desert or a coaching program. E-mail Jennifer NOW!

Jennifer is a healed healer. She has healed breast cancer, Fibromyalgia, Epstein Barr syndrome, codependency, addictions, chronic depression, fear, arthritis, and slowed down the aging process as a result. She uses hypnotherapy, NLP, Spiritual Response Therapy and her Spirit guides and The Ascended Masters. She is an Intuitive, catalystic healer and amazingly courageous woman. She is the author of Orgasm For Life the book to bridge the growing chasm between men and women. This book will ignite the fires of passion, give you new skills and ideas to get back the passion lost in long-term marriages. When sex goes out the window, emotions run high. Jennifer works with those committed to heal and live a happier, better life with deeper connected, intimate relationships. Her website is: