Sunday, December 4, 2016

The Third Eye: Why They Don't Want You To Know

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

The pineal gland is an endocrine gland like the pituitary, thyroid or pancreas that secretes a hormone, in this case, melatonin which is associated with sleep. Much wisdom about God and the third eye has been hidden but can be found even in the Bible. The third eye is considered the seat of the soul and where we connect with God.

Matthew 6:22 The light of the body is the eye: If therefore your eye be single, your whole body shall be full of light.


location of the pineal gland in the human brain

This powerful spark of God is our connecting link between the physical world and the spiritual world The pineal gland is associated with an inner knowing, intuition, wisdom, truth, and is our source of joy and infinite bliss - permanently. It is shaped like a pine cone and located in the midline of the brain attached to the posterior end of the roof of the third ventricle.


Scientists thought that the pineal gland was a vestigial organ like the appendix and served no use until the 1960's.  For those who have experienced a third eye opening, we know this is false.




The pineal gland is located in the center of the brain and is about the size of a grain of rice. Light is what this gland needs to open. Which is one of the many reasons I keep hitting everyone over the head with the fact that we must get outside in the sunlight. The sun has a powerful effect on the pineal gland.

When you think about it, look at how so many people avoid walking outside for fear of skin cancer, yet we need Vitamin D to survive prevent Alzheimer's, cancer, Multiple Sclerosis and depression.


Eye of Ra, or Eye of Horus & the human brain 

Looking at this image to the right, you can see how similar the Egyptian depiction of the Eye of Ra (Ra being the name of God) is so close to the way the pineal gland is set in the human brain. The symbology illuminates their knowledge of the power of the third eye.

Within the Bible are other references of "The face of God is within you." Genesis 32:22-31



We need plenty of sleep, light and a focus on the center of our forehead to open this gland. Meditation with a focus on the third eye will help to open the third eye as well. We need complete darkness at night rather than sleeping with night lights on. Avoid chemicals like sodium fluoride (which is a poison known for calcifying the third eye. Also avoid GMO foods, sugar, fast food, soda, alcohol, and processed foods to assist with the opening of this amazing gland.

The EgyptiansRomans and the Greeks were well aware of the purpose of the third eye and its power. 

Green pine cone symbolic of how the Church wants us to stay

Though the Catholic church has known of its use for a very long time, the Vatican has hidden images and replicas of the pineal gland in plain site. In fact, if you look you will find the pine cone, the symbol of the third eye hidden in plain site around the world. 


Why would churches keep a significant way for each individual to connect with God hidden for thousands of years?

When your third eye begins to open, you begin to see how masses of humanity has been kept in the dark with fluoride use that has been proven not to prevent cavities at all. 

The symbolic pineal gland in the pine cone 
Remember there is much false information out on the Internet that attempts to keep you asleep as we are much easier to control when we believe everything we see in newspapers, the media, and the Internet. People that are in fear are controllable. People that don't have a personal relationship with God aren't as powerful or wise.

Signs Your Third Eye Is Opening:

  1. You have an inner knowing.
  2. A feeling of joyousness for no reason begins to bubble up.
  3. Synchronistic events happen.
  4. You experience meaningful coincidences.
  5. You may hear something on the news and know what you are hearing isn't true. (i.e. Princess Diana's death, 911, election issues). You begin to see behind the curtain of misinformation.
  6. Your dreams become vivid and prophetic.
  7. Synchronistic events happen for you showing you that your life is orchestrated for you.
  8. You begin to meet spiritual teachers in your dreams.
  9. You may meet with those on the other side while you sleep.
  10. You hear things that are not spoken.
  11. You are kind to all animals, wild and tame. You don't want to hurt, harm or kill any living thing.
  12. You begin to rethink being an omnivore.
  13. You receive Guidance that protects and directs you.
  14. You have an inner knowing that you must visit a certain place, or take a certain route somewhere.
  15. Your senses are heightened.
  16. You see things that aren't there. (Clairvoyance)
  17. You begin to think more deeply about life and why you are here.
  18. You begin to recognize that all is not what it seems
  19. You feel what others are feeling (empathy).
  20. You sense what others are thinking.
  21. You have a sense of foreboding before something occurs.
  22. You perceive inaudible frequencies. (Clairaudience)
  23. You smell things that aren't there. (Clairsentience)
  24. You taste things that aren't there. (Clairgustance)
  25. You feel connected to everyone.
  26. You have no sense of race, color or creed. (Oneness)
  27. You have become more health conscious, watching what you eat, drink and breathe.
  28. You no longer see things in black and white. 
  29. You are aware of the Illuminati being real. 
  30. You feel you need to do something about what is happening on the earth.
Each of us can connect personally with God. When we meditate, are out in nature we can connect with God. When our third eye opens, we know the truth. We can hear lies in the media and the world. We are not as easily controlled when we don't believe everything we are told. 

Read The Autobiography of A Yogi and find out what secrets have been suppressed from the world. Wake up! It's time to see the truth. All is not what it seems on this planet. Remember each of us has the truth inside of us. We are all part of God, our personal power and connection are within our third eye. 


How To Create A Childlike Wonder Everyday

How to Decalcify Your Pineal Gland is next.



Jennifer's gift is helping people find love. Whether it is self-love, the love of your life, or love within your current relationship or marriage. Jennifer helps you see your relationship through different eyes, without judgment, control, and resentment. If you want to heal your marriage or relationship, Jennifer will help you do it! 

Join me January 25th for From Tainted To True Love, a six-week live program that will open you to feel more beautiful, sexy, and the possibility of love. You will receive powerful life-changing mantras that quickly attract love to you. We also go through a very powerful, directed manifestation that gets you laser focused on what you want so that The Universe can bring it to you! 



I won't be facilitating this program again in 2017. Sign up early, pay in full and receive a $225 session free and a copy of Orgasm For Life a book that will help you understand yourself and the opposite sex better than you ever have before.

Saturday, December 3, 2016

3 Simple Techniques To Use To Eliminate Negative Emotions

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

lavender fields in France

We pick up negative energy in our workplace, driving in our cars when someone cuts us off, and anytime a conversation takes place where we experience emotional upset. Our emotions are the biggest cause of the negative energy that builds in our energy field. Taking care of ourselves includes clearing negative emotions from our field. Following are three simple and inexpensive ways to clear your energy.


It is always a good time to release negativity from our field. The best times however, are during a Mercury Retrograde or at a full moon.

1. Intentional sacred clearing using Epsom salts soaks. Clean your bathtub first. Rinse out any cleaning agent carefully. Throw 3 - 5 handfuls of Epsom salts into the tub as you fill it with water as hot as you can stand it. This bath will serve several purposes, it will help you with any aches and pains, eliminate restless leg syndrome when done daily and will help to clear your energy field of negativity.


As you fill the tub stand over the tub holding your hands over the water or just gazing at the water and state your intention. I have done my intentions out loud and in my head and both work well. Setting an intention before you begin makes the bath experience one of healing and awareness. "This bath is to release negativity and clear my energy field." The simpler the better. You can light a candle if you wish, I tend not to do so so that I can experience the clearing without worrying about what my candle might or might not do. Flowers aren't necessary either, but you can add a few drops of essential oil, like lavender. 

Test the water temperature. If it is scalding hot, add a little cool water so you can comfortably get in the water. Lie in the full tub with your body and head submerged to cover your third eye in the middle of your forehead. 

While laying back in the water repeat the following and add whatever emotions you know you carry. As you begin, more will come to you, just let the words flow out loud. Be kind to yourself with your words. Have compassion for your inner being. You have experienced so much and deserve to be treated lovingly and tenderly.

  • I release the burden of resentment
  • I release the burden of anger
  • I release the burden of rage
  • I release the burden of hate
  • I release the burden of unworthiness
  • I release the burden of co-dependency
  • I release the burden of shame
  • I release the burden of guilt
  • I release the burden of unforgiveness
  • I release the burden of envy
  • I release the burden of jealousy
  • I release the burden of insecurity
  • I release the burden of being unlovable
  • I release the burden of abandonment
  • I release the burden of rejection
Allow whatever emotions rise to the surface to be released with your statements. When you are releasing these emotions ask, "I ask that the energies being released be raised to the highest light and used to bless my body, mind, and soul, thank you.

Follow up the release work with positive affirmations. Once you are free of all this negativity allow yourself to soak in loving affirmations.

I am beautiful
I am loving
I am peaceful
I am harmonious
I love this body
I love my mind
I am so grateful to have this beautiful healthy body.

Once you have soaked for about forty minutes allow the water to drain out. When the water is almost gone carefully stand up and shower off the salt water and any remaining energy. You will feel free, lighter and beautiful. Your soul will love you for this intentional cleansing.

For more power and clarity, do a series of baths consecutively, like three days in a row, or seven days in a row. You will be surprised at the positive changes you feel emotionally, mentally and physically. 

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2. Cathartic primal screaming outdoors. Primal screaming is great therapy. I take people out into the desert or the forest of Colorado to do this release work. You can do it anywhere you feel comfortable screaming out loud. Scream until you feel you can't scream anymore. You might cry, you might laugh afterward, all are completely normal.

Begin by stomping your feet like a child having a temper tantrum. Move your arms and really get your body into the experience of letting go of frustration, anger, and rage. Screaming outside can leave you feeling spent, and freed up to create. When we experience anger and don't let it out in positive ways it causes harm to our physical body. Holding emotions in create blocks in our field. Speaking of how we are feeling or working it out with dance, exercise or hitting baseballs in a batting cage are other ways to release negative energy.

After your cathartic release outside, follow it up with a sacred cleansing bath and feel amazingly free, positive and lighter.

Follow up your cathartic screaming with positive affirmations:


  • I am loved
  • I am safe
  • I am secure
  • I am strong, powerful, harmonious, loving and happy

3. Walk outside at sunrise. Native Americans have been using the sun to cleanse their field for generations. The sun has been worshiped for its healing powers by many native peoples. Ask for the sun to remove any negativity. Express gratitude to nature and the sun for its power.


Clearing our energy is something we need to do regularly. The daily accumulation of negativity builds over time causing depression, anxiety and health issues. Doing any of these exercises will free your heart to be happier, healthier and feel so much more positive. 



Jennifer's gift is helping people find love. Whether it is self-love, the love of your life, or love within your current relationship or marriage. Jennifer helps you see your relationship through different eyes, without judgment, control and resentment. If you want to heal your marriage or relationship, Jennifer will help you do it! 

Join me January 25th for From Tainted To True Love, a six-week live program that will open you to feel more beautiful, sexy, and the possibility of love. You will receive powerful life-changing mantras that quickly attract love to you. We also go through a very powerful, directed manifestation that gets you laser focused on what you want so that The Universe can bring it to you! 



I won't be facilitating this program again in 2017. Sign up early, pay in full and receive a $225 session free and a copy of Orgasm For Life a book that will help you understand yourself and the opposite sex better than you ever have before.




Friday, December 2, 2016

3 Amazing Ways To Use Mercury Retrograde Energy To Find And Keep Love

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Mercury Retrograde energy can be very beneficial for many things. Once you know what the energy can do, using Mercury Retrograde energy can help you retrieve an old relationship so you can renew, re-work, rebuild, and repair. There are rules that you must know about dating during Mercury Retrogrades though and here they are:


  1. Mercury Retrograde energy is great for bringing people back around to us from the past.
  2. If you have unfinished business or still have strong feelings for someone you broke up with in the past, this energy can help you renew and rebuild from a different place. 
  3. Do your best to NOT meet anyone new during a Mercury Retrograde as it won't last, no matter how wonderful it feels.

Fun Facts:
Mercury entered its shadow point December 1st
Mercury turns retrograde December 19, 2016
Mercury turns direct January 8th, 2017


Case Study:

A fellow healer came to me two years ago during a Mercury Retrograde while I was in Colorado for a reading. She had begun to date a man that seemed like her soul mate. In fact, she was absolutely, positively certain they would get married. He seemed perfect!

I explained to her that no matter how he appeared today, once Mercury turned direct she would notice things about him that she didn't see before. 

As soon as the Mercury Retrograde ended, her wonderful man all of a sudden showed signs of philandering and seeing and being attentive to multiple women. The togetherness they experienced during the Mercury Retrograde abruptly ended leaving her shaking her head.

How could something shift so quickly in just three weeks? That is the energy of a Mercury Retrograde. 

I am so careful about the way I use this energy. In fact, when my daughter was planning her move this month, we consulted an astrologer to plan the best date of her move. She had to move before the Mercury Retrograde began because if she moved after December 19th, she would end up feeling she moved to the wrong apartment, made a mistake about moving in with a room mate, or would find something wrong with the situation. 

There are other things not to do during a Mercury Retrograde, watch for my article on Sunday.

How To Use Mercury Retrograde To Follow Your Heart's Desire



Jennifer's gift is helping people find love. Whether it is self-love, the love of your life, or love within your current relationship or marriage. Jennifer helps you see your relationship through different eyes, without judgment, control and resentment. If you want to heal your marriage or relationship, Jennifer will help you do it! 

Join me January 25th for From Tainted To True Love, a six-week live program that will open you to feel more beautiful, sexy, and the possibility of love. You will receive powerful life-changing mantras that quickly attract love to you. We also go through a very powerful, directed manifestation that gets you laser focused on what you want so that The Universe can bring it to you! 


I won't be facilitating this program again in 2017. Sign up early, pay in full and receive a $225 session free and a copy of Orgasm For Life a book that will help you understand yourself and the opposite sex better than you ever have before.

Wednesday, November 30, 2016

Don't You Forget About Me

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Each of us has a person from our past that we wonder about. What would happen if you were to meet them today? What might happen if you met someone a second time? How might it change your life? What would you do if you had a second chance? Would you blow it? Would you kiss them? Would you tell them how much they meant to you?


With the aid of Internet, many people are rekindling romances from years ago. Those who were once married are not divorced and single. 

I had an opportunity a year ago to rekindle an old romance with a man I had a fling with many years ago when I was a flight attendant. After thirty years he had gone through a divorce and reached out to me. There was a comfort between us that knowing each other long ago created. 
Over the Thanksgiving holiday, my daughter and I were out in a mountain town called Tehachapi. Most of the tables were full, so I asked a couple if we could join them. They both seemed friendly and even moved to sit next to one another so we could have more room. 

While my daughter and I settled into our seats, I couldn't help but notice the tender way the man placed a napkin next to his wife's plate. He looked at her through eyes of love. It was apparent to me that they had a really connected relationship. I had to ask.

Jed was a ski bum without a care in the world till he was in his thirties. They met when he returned to California between ski seasons. Fate placed them together at a wedding, and the rest is history. Their marriage was tender, loving but it wasn't always that way. What most people don't understand is that we all have issues to work through. When we meet early in life, most of us haven't cleared up our abandonment and anger issues. Until we do, there are challenges within our relationships. 

Jed and Christine never forgot each other after their first meeting. When they saw each other a second time, they recognized the spark and connection. They worked through their issues to be where they are today. Jed's tenderness towards Christine used to be tainted with his large ego. He stopped having to be right all the time and having to have the last word. Christine's softness was a quality that Jed loved. She wasn't a shrew demanding what she wanted. They had weathered the storms of life and recognized that neither was forgettable. Jed didn't let Christine get away the second time around.

This couple told me their story. Actually, Jed told me their story. Christine was modest and smiled slightly while listening to her husband talk. There was no resentment or control between them. Christine didn't interject or correct Jed when he spoke. They thought about their past with love, rather than rancor. Couples that view their past through eyes of love have greater success than those who don't. 

Resentment and anger will kill a relationship. Control, fear, hatred and enabling are also major debilitating problems. Having these type of feelings about an ex will stop love in its tracks!

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If you are looking to have the relationship of your dreams, invite me to work with you and let's eliminate your past beliefs and programs so that you are open to receive love. Most people I work with have unforgiveness programs, hate of men and hate of women programs that prevent love from blooming.

Join me January 25th for From Tainted To True Love, a six-week live program that will open you to feel more beautiful, sexy, and the possibility of love. You will receive powerful life-changing mantras that quickly attract love to you. We also go through a very powerful, directed manifestation that gets you laser focused on what you want so that The Universe can bring it to you! 

I won't be facilitating this program again in 2017. Sign up early, pay in full and receive a $225 session free and a copy of Orgasm For Life a book that will help you understand yourself and the opposite sex better than you ever have before.

Monday, November 28, 2016

3 Reasons you Need To See Moana

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

With a Thanksgiving opening next to Frozen, Moana is this year's kid's movie, with a strong message for adults. Not only does



Moana encompass a life journey with a purpose but teaches us powerful lessons as well. 
I won't ruin the movie for you, but I will tell you what you will get out of it.


3 Reasons To See This Movie


  1. It will leave you feeling inspired
  2. You will learn something about yourself
  3. Moana will help you follow your dreams 

Dwayne Johnson plays an ego-maniac, shape-shifting Demi-God very well opposite newcomer, Auli’i Cravalho, born and raised in Oahu, Hawaii. She was fourteen when she landed the role and just turned sixteen November 22nd. She was the last person to audition for the role. 


 Moana isn't your usual Disney damsel in distress movie. The movie is action packed with plenty of humor, adventure, danger, and empowerment. If you are searching for what's missing in your life, I suggest you take yourself to this movie, and soon.


Yes, Moana is a princess, with an over-protective loving father. Moana is fierce, driven and powerful. Remember, this is a Disney movie. The characters have human characteristics with enough humor packed between the lines to keep you interested, laughing, with a strong message.

While Moana's parents attempt to protect her from the dangers of the world beyond their reef, Moana recognizes her calling. Sometimes, our grandparents have a more relaxed view of the world than over-protective parents do and provide the guidance that parents miss when they are fearful.


A quick 2-minute trailer with sound:



The movie's message:


  • girls (women) are strong and powerful
  • women can succeed and be happy on their own - without a man
  • we all have gifts
  • most of us recognize our gifts as children, but parents often suppress them out fear
  • when we don't follow our heart, we are unhappy
  • you already have everything you need inside you
  • you don't need a crutch to succeed
  • trust your heart
  • when we have a calling, we have to listen
  • when we listen to others, we won't step into the void where magic happens
  • when our heart is missing, we are angry, spiteful and fearful of others - to the point of lashing out or blaming
  • when our heart is open and present, we are beautiful, loving and accepting
  • sometimes we have to go it alone, and that's okay


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In January, I will be offering my From Tainted To True Love, and in February Spiritually Bonded Intimacy courses LIVE. Each is a six-week course that will transform you and your relationship. If you are currently not in a relationship, you will recognize patterns that keep you attracting partners that don't work.

Jennifer is currently working on her third book:

Happy Here, Happy Anywhere
The Step-By-Step Guide For Overcoming Depression, Anxiety and Unhappiness Without A Prescription!

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Sunday, November 27, 2016

Creating Sacred Space For Peace and Harmony In Your Home

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Each person can create a feeling of peace, harmony, and sacredness in each room of their home. Our home is our sanctuary and place where we rest, meditate, sleep and make love. Each room in our home can be sacred with your intention and a few daily practices. 

If there is light in the soul,
there will be beauty in the person.
If there is beauty in the person, 
There will be harmony in the house.
If there is harmony in the house,
There will be order in the nation.
If there is order in the nation,
There will be peace in the world.
Chinese Proverb



Before your home can become a sacred place there must be order, cleanliness, and peace. Arguing, complaining and fighting in our homes leaves negative energy. When we begin to refrain from having arguments in our sacred places, there will be peace, tranquility. When we have tranquility and peace in our home, we sleep better; our relationships are smoother, and we feel happier. 


Set An Intention

Begin with an intention to clear anything unwanted, unruly or negative from all areas of your home. You can pray a prayer as you do your space clearing. Use something simple, so you remember as you clear your space.

"I release all that no longer serves my home and me."

"I clear and remove anything less than radiant love "


Space Clearing

Once your space is clean and free of clutter, you can begin to clear the energy. Several different methods can be used to clear energy. A brass bell is a powerful and clean way to clear negativity. 

Brass Bell or Chime
  1. Begin at the front of the house ringing the bell into the corners, closets and reaching high into the corners and ceiling. Most low vibrational energy will be low along baseboards and in corners, under beds and furniture.
  2. Ring the bell in the four corners of each room, high and low, moving toward the back of the house. You can open a door at the back of the house to let energy out that needs to leave.
  3. Move upstairs beginning at the front, moving into the back, letting negative energy out a balcony door or window.

Sage

Burning sage or cedar is a way that Native Americans have cleansed spaces and prepared for ceremonies for hundreds of years. Light the sage using a bowl to catch the ashes as they drop. Fan the flames into the corners, closets and along the baseboards, as you would use the bell. Open your door to usher out the negativity. Be sure to cleanse inside cabinets, microwaves and ovens. 

Sage has a pleasant smell. You can sage each person in the household and pets to clear negativity as well. For humans, lift arms and feet to sage under armpits and along each person's back, neck and above the head.

When clearing an animal with sage begin using the sage above their head and move to their tail. Be careful to catch falling embers so that you don't burn your pet. You may have to move with them, staying calm and peaceful in your mind. Animals often take on our stuff and need to be cleared as well. Cats absorb negativity, while dogs repel it. Dogs do their form of yoga - notice how often you see your dog do a down dog!

Candles, Incense and Meditation

Burning white candles and incense can shift and lighten energy as will prayers and meditation. 

I meditate in my bedroom and living room daily. This practice of mindfulness and stillness lifts the vibration in your home and can be felt by others. When we meditate in the same place each time, our body recognizes the energy and goes into stillness more readily. 

Creating An Altar

An altar can be something as simple as a statue of Buddha, Ganesha, with an incense burner or candle. You can add fresh petals or a small vase of flowers.

Flowers raise the vibration of a room immediately. Use fresh flowers, or silk, rather than plastic. Fresh flowers are preferable to artificial. If you have a garden cut flowers daily and bring them inside to increase the vibration of your home. 

Making Your Home Sacred

When we have a sacred place within our home, even if it is only one room, the harmony will begin to spread throughout. Keep your sacred place clean, tidy and orderly. Spirit and The Universe loves order. Pick up after yourself and put things in their rightful place. The more orderly your home is, the more orderly your mind naturally becomes. When there is order harmony happens naturally.

Each day, light your incense and candles before you meditate. You can use votive candles in small glass holders to keep the candles safe. Keep clutter picked up in the sacred places in your home. Before long you will recognize that this idea of sacred space and order feels so good you will want order everywhere!

Making your bedroom a sacred place will help deepen the sensual experience of your intimate relationship. 

Music To Raise Vibration


The sound OM is a powerful cleansing sound for our body-mind-spirit and our home. I have found several very high vibrational tracks to listen to in YouTube. Here is one I especially like. 

Creating Harmony Outdoors

Roses are the highest vibrating flower on our planet. Bamboo symbolizes fast growth and is very effective in raising vibration when the plant is kept healthy and vibrant. Bamboo also represents wealth and health. Other beautiful plants to use in your garden are herbs, perennials like Lavender, salvia, and Peonies. Peonies are the flower of love. Harnessing the beautiful fragrance of these flowers in essential oils will also raise the vibration of your home in a diffuser. 

A labyrinth is a fabulous way to create sacredness in your garden. Walking a labyrinth mindfully with a question can help you find your answer. There are labyrinths in public places, churches, and healing centers.

Feng Shui 

Feng Shui is the art of placement that the Chinese have used for thousands of years. Using Feng Shui in your home can bring harmony, love, and prosperity. The five elements and compass

directions are part of Feng Shui. Using Feng Shui in your bedroom can bring love in or keep it out, depending on the placement of furniture and pictures.





If this article was helpful, comment below or share with a friend. I don't advertise; word-of-mouth is your gift to me. Sharing is LOVE! Thank you.


Set up your private session with me to find your joy and happiness within. I help men and women find lasting happiness. 

In January, I will be offering my From Tainted To True Love and in February Spiritually Bonded Intimacy. Each is a six-week course that will transform you and your relationship. If you are currently not in a relationship, you will recognize patterns that keep you attracting partners that don't work.

Jennifer is currently working on her third book:

Happy Here, Happy Anywhere
The Step-By-Step Guide For Overcoming Depression, Anxiety and Unhappiness Without A Prescription!

Visit Aphrodite Effect.com Jennifer's website





Saturday, November 26, 2016

3 Reasons You Shouldn't Worry About What Others Think

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Ariel with her PURPLE hair not listening to the opinions of others

The problem with the opinions of others is that everyone has one and they aren't yours. Listening to what others think about you will diminish your power and self-esteem. 



So many people along the way, whatever it is you aspire to do, will tell you it can’t be done. But it all it takes is imagination. You dream. You plan. You reach.”― Michael Phelps

Women worry about what others think about the way they dress, do their makeup, fix their hair and the way their children behave. We believe that everyone connected with us reflects negatively or positively on us. Worrying about what others think will make you feel insecure, unattractive and self-conscious. The following reasons should compel you to give other's opinions a pass and focus on how you feel instead.

1. No one knows how you feel but you. When we listen to what others think about us, we doubt ourselves and therefore change ourselves to please other people. Pleasing others isn't authentic. We are happiest when we are completely authentic, standing in our personal power. It is one thing to be kind and compassionate toward others and an entirely different subject when we give our power over to someone who has strong opinions about the way we think, talk or behave.

2. It's not someone else's job to like us, it's ours. Living in our heart rather than our head, trusting what our heart speaks to us rather than believing what our mind says, will help us be softer, kinder to ourselves. When we listen to our heart, we are powerful, intuitive and grounded. Our heart speaks a wisdom of certainty and truth for us. When we worry about what others think of us, we short-circuit the wisdom of our heart and believe what our mind thinks.

3. It is not your business to worry about what someone else thinks about you. Making the thoughts of others your concern will take you down a long spiral of negativity, or worry, and taking care of others. The only person you can control is you. So let go of the burden of trying to please others and focus on how you feel

Wear what makes you feel good. Dress for yourself, wear makeup to make yourself feel good. Wear your hair the way you like it rather than attempting to please someone else. Stop worrying about what is in fashion, and wear what pleases you.

Once we stop worrying about what others think about us life becomes lighter, happier and less burdensome. Be the best you that you can be rather than attempting to fulfill the needs of some other person by trying to please them. 

If I listened to what others thought I wouldn't have:


  • trusted my Guidance
  • gotten divorced
  • moved to the US over thirty years ago away from my toxic parents
  • become a Georgia Master Gardener
  • had a profitable landscape business working with Hispanic men for 11 years
  • flown to India in 2009
  • had a baby at 41 (daughter Ariel)
  • colored my daughter's hair purple after her father died (then pink, then turquoise)
  • trusted my instinct and moved to Boulder, Co in 2011
  • become a Hypnotherapist and energy healer
  • taken a trip to Bali in 2010
  • written books
  • started a blog
  • quit my day job to become a full-time coach and healer
  • moved to California where I have peace, tranquility and easily afford a house, paid off my car and began to make really great money
  • walked and then danced in the desert every day
  • dated a man 
  • taken in four kittens someone dumped in the desert
  • adopted Karma, my dog 16 years ago
  • drive back and forth from California to Boulder five times a year where I feel tremendous joy and receive great inspiration during the drive and while in Colorado
  • walk to the beat of my drum, being authentically me, happy, fulfilled and peaceful



Live your life with compassion, kindness, mindfulness and awareness. Notice how you feel inside. Breathe deeply to ground and bring yourself fully into your body and the present moment. Living in this moment rather than worrying about the future with others will leave a lot of room for fun, spontaneity and happiness.

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Jennifer Elizabeth Masters learned her lessons through experience. She brings her life's wisdom to her sessions. She became a seeker at the age of sixteen. Through her personal healing of depression, anxiety, Fibromyalgia, abuse, co-dependence has given her great compassion and understanding of your issues, allowing her to get to the root of your problems quickly without judgment.


If you are ready to commit to being happier in relationships, attract the love you long for and heal the broken feeling inside you, Jennifer's the one to empower you, as she has been there and done it and knows how to help you on your road to bliss, joy and fulfillment.

Friday, November 25, 2016

15 Reasons Not To Walk Down The Aisle With Him

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Vera Wang Wedding Dress

Divorce statistics are staggering. According to The Huffington Post, thirty percent of women marry the wrong guy. I was one of them. 


We dream of our perfect wedding day, walking down the aisle, to marry the man we will be happy with until the day we die. Yet for thirty percent of women, they know before they walk down the aisle that they are making a terrible mistake. Why do women tie the knot anyway?

Women continue to make plans and get married for the following reasons:


  • They feel marriage will magically fix any problem.
  • They feel their biological clock is ticking
  • Better this guy than no one.
  • They feel if it doesn't work, "I can always get a divorce."


Women are unsure what they feel is true. They focus on the future, thinking things will be different, when....They explain away the red flags. The wedding plans are already in motion and they don't want to be embarrassed by calling it off. The truth is that divorce has a higher cost than a wedding both financially and emotionally even before children are present. Here are my tried and true 15 reasons not to marry the guy:

1. You have caught him in lies repeatedly. Someone who lies habitually will continue to lie after marriage. Some liars are sociopaths and never change. Lying can be addictive and something that becomes a compulsion. A marriage built without trust is not a marriage of longevity. You can't build a happy marriage without trust. People rarely change. Hoping your relationship will be different after you marry is a fantasy. What you see is what you get. End it!

2. You are marrying his potential. Marrying a guy's potential is a mistake. We can hope a guy will reach the potential we see in him, but banking on it is a mistake. By thirty a predominant part of our personality is formed in stone. In Me Myself And Us The Science of Personality And The Art of Well-Being   by Brian R. Little, by the time we are thirty, we are pretty set in our ways. There is a very strong genetic component as well that contributes to who we are. 

Thinking a guy will be different after marriage is delusional. Think of what you have now as the best of the best. Most people succumb to the humdrum of life and settle in, relax into the mundane of life and feel they are set now that they've got you.

3. He is terrible in bed. Selfishness in bed translates to someone who is not generous and only interested in themselves. A guy who isn't selfless in bed will continue to be so after marriage. A guy who isn't interested in pleasuring you till you orgasm before marriage is unlikely to transform after you walk down the aisle. 

True story: Rachel and Wes had been dating for five years. They were engaged for one. When Rachel expressed that she wasn't getting to orgasm and that she needed more from him, Wes told her, "I'm good!" He wasn't interested in learning how to pleasure Rachel to the point of orgasm. He felt as long as he ejaculated that was enough. A guy who states he doesn't want to learn anything new, or change his skill set isn't marriage worthy. He is exhibiting a high level of selfishness and ego that won't change after marriage. END IT, SAVE THE YEARS OF MISERY.  

She did! Rachel recognized that her pleasure was just as important as Wes's and it is! She ended their five year relationship because she realized Wes wouldn't change. He didn't value her enough to give her the pleasure he was getting.

4. He won't try what you suggest in bed. In spite of what some men think, women aren't just guys with vaginas. A woman's sexual needs are different than a guy's. It takes on average twenty to forty minutes for a woman to warm up to be able to orgasm. If your guy lasts two minutes and says, "I'm done," he isn't doing his job. Both parties need to receive pleasure to the point of orgasm (unless a man is holding his seed).

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5. He makes it only about himself. Narcissists can be alluring and even seductive. However, one of the most difficult relationships we can have is when partnered with a narcissist. Narcissists will not take responsibility for their actions because they believe they are never wrong. They will make you feel crazy because they manipulate to get what they want and will never apologize because they never feel they are wrong. DON'T DO IT, YOU WILL BE ENDLESSLY SORRY YOU DIDN'T END THIS NIGHTMARE BEFORE MARRIAGE.

6. His past is sketchy. If a guy won't speak about his past, consider this a huge red flag not to be ignored. A person's past often dictates their future. Morals are learned at home; if his father was a philanderer and he cheated on his ex he will probably cheat on you.

7. You had an affair with him when he was married previously. An ill-begotten relationship will end the way it began, with him cheating on you with another woman. 

8. He has a different faith than you. If you believe in something and he doesn't you will have challenges throughout your relationship with issues other than faith. 

9. He doesn't have a job and isn't looking. Marrying someone who isn't working or looking is a serious issue. Do you plan on doling out money and alimony after your marriage ends to continue supporting him? A man's character is evident in the way he lives his life. Choose a man who works and is responsible and self-supporting. Someone who is unemployed and irresponsible now will probably also be in the future. 

10. He has anger issues that he can't control. Anger present before marriage will be present afterward. Marriage isn't the magic potion that eradicates a person's personality and issues. Anger present prior to marriage will only get worse. 

I married a man who had anger issues. Each time, he promised he would be different. He punched holes in walls and sometimes in me. His father had anger issues, his brother committed murder. He was a spiritual man who tried everything to release the anger. He died an angry man. 

Anger is a serious issue that doesn't go away. It takes years of committed work to heal and release anger, for others there is never any change.

11. He whines and complains. Whining is a sign of a closet homosexual or someone hiding their homosexuality. Don't get me wrong, I have nothing against people choosing to play for their own team, just don't marry someone who isn't attracted to women, this will never change. 

I married a man who hid his homosexuality because he was raised Baptist. He couldn't admit he was gay even to himself. After six months of marriage, he stopped having sex with me. Read my article Men Who Hide Their Homosexuality And Marry A Straight Woman. 

12. He's unhappy with life. Marriage will not make someone happy that isn't. Your love won't make him any happier after you marry him. Don't do it!

I recently dated a man who was well-paid, drove a really nice car and lived in a beautiful home, but he was miserable. When I told him I was manifesting something wonderful he peed in my Cheerios. He was a naysayer who poo-pooed everything I said and did. Someone who is unhappy will make you unhappy as well. 

Don't marry someone that isn't happy with himself and life. JEM

13. Your core values aren't in alignment. When our core values aren't in alignment we don't speak the same language. Marriage is difficult enough when two people are on the same page, singing the same tune. When we don't have the same core values we disagree about having and raising children, which church to go to and what our beliefs are. If you don't know what your core values are now, find out here.  5 Reasons You Need To Know Your Core Values

14. He has an addiction. Addictions are serious business. It can take a lifetime and longer for some people to decide they want to be clean. Addictions are dark with a deep-seated self-hatred. People who hate themselves are very difficult to have relationships with. The expression, "Once an Addict Always An Addict," came from the truth that addictions can last longer than a lifetime. 

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I have heard countless women tell me, "He's not an alcoholic he only drinks beer!" I have a neighbor who only drinks beer, but drinks sixteen tall boys a night. It doesn't matter if his addiction is pot, acid, porn, masturbation, cocaine, heroin, beer, wine or hard alcohol. 


An addiction is an addiction. It takes many years of dedication, courage, hard work, and stick-to-iveness to overcome any addiction. Once an addict is clean the anger and emotions are the next biggest challenge. A rejection of the self and lack of self-love is the core of any addiction. Your love can't cure him. Set him free and work on your issues of enabling instead. 


15. You are fighting often before marriage. Thinking someone will be different and more to your liking after marriage is a fantasy. Where else are you in denial about the truth? Marriage doesn't make a relationship easier, it is often much more difficult after you tie the knot than before. 

Marriage isn't a magic potion. Marriage is a certificate on paper that makes it legal for you to be together, that is all. In many instances as soon as the wedding is over couples recognize they have made a terrible mistake. When brides focus on the wedding, they forget what the marriage is beyond the one day of bliss. A wedding lasts one day, a marriage can be for years and a lifetime if you are really lucky and work diligently on your issues, growing together. 

A marriage doesn't mean the work is over, in fact the hardest part is yet to come. Once you hit the two-year mark people settle into being more authentic. Often the masks come off an one or both are shocked to find they married someone they didn't know at all. 

Are you searching for happiness? Jennifer is your personal empowerment and REALATIONATIONSHIP coach that empowers, cheers and guides you to be the best you that you can be! When you are authentic, living in your power and mastery, happiness flows!

Jennifer Elizabeth Masters  is a wise and soulful healer, coach and hypnotherapist, who sees the root of people's issues and empowers her clients to grow, expand and be their authentic selves to live happier and more fulfilling lives. She assists clients in relationships, happiness, and dating issues helping her clients business make healthy decisions that make sense and are for their highest and best good. Ask her a question or choose to be empowered by setting up your free discovery session to live a guilt-shame free life of joy.