Tuesday, September 1, 2015

Sex As Medicine

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Sex heals

Pleasure, touch and orgasm can heal the body. For most of us, when we think about sex, we think pleasure. How can pleasure heal? Touch lowers blood pressure. A simple hug can calm another person down. Think about the stroking of an arm, the massage of a thigh, a kiss on a belly. Each event excites and heals the body. Breathe.

Deepak Chopra has said that sex is the closest thing that most people experience of meditation. Meditation heals. It is a scientific fact that meditation reduces stress, heart disease and high blood pressure. Sex goes beyond meditation, involving touch, pleasure, and ecstasy. When we reach the pinnacle of pleasure in an orgasm, we experience something greater than ourselves. Eighty centers of the brain light up, during orgasm, that no other event a human can experience creates. We have a glimpse of our Divinity.

Abstinence even in moderation offers by contrast nothing for the mental, physical or emotional body. 

Think about it this way; you and your partner disagree, an argument erupts both of you stomp off and sleep in separate beds. Imagine your partner coming into the bedroom, apologizing for being such a goofball (fill in the blank), and expressing to you how much he loves you. You open your arms to him, and you make love. How different is the result of your argument after you come together in the bliss of a sexual experience versus sleeping in separate rooms, or on your side of the bed? 

Or for you men, perhaps she is the one that recognizes how unreasonable she has been and offered herself to you on the couch? What do you feel now? Your anger subsides, your blood pressure is lowered, you sleep snuggled together, rather than separately. The difference is immense. 

Sex heals emotions, the mental body as well as the physical body. The letting go and surrendering to pleasure shifts everything in your physiology. The fight or flight response is removed. Don't take my word for it, Forbes Magazine explains what sex does for you in "Sex Does The Body Good," article here. 

The Benefits of Sex

  1. Relieves depression. If that isn't enough for you, wait, there is more! Endorphins are released with mere hand-holding, imagine what an orgasm can do for you. Feel good hormones are released which give you a happy feeling. Oxytocin, the bonding hormone, is released with hand-holding, kissing and orgasm. 
  2. Cardiovascular Health. Regular sex reduces the risk of heart disease, lowers blood pressure and increases oxygenation of the blood. Queens University in Belfast studied 1,000 men over the course of their life and discovered that sex three times a week reduced the risk of stroke and heart disease by half.
  3. Pain Relief. The pain receptors in the brain are shut off during sex, relieving pain in the body.
  4. Migraine Relief. An orgasm will relieve the pain of a migraine. Masturbation is one way to go, making love with orgasm as the result will get you over the hump so to speak of intense pain.
  5. Weight Loss. A vigorous sexual workout will burn 200 calories. You could be walking on a treadmill, but hey, I would much rather a romp in the hay than walking on a machine, wouldn't you? Sex helps you tone muscles in your arms, belly, thorax, buttocks, thighs and even the pelvis. A British study determined that sex three times a week for a year will work off three Big Macs from McDonalds! Not that I recommend you eat fast food, but for grins and giggles maybe you might want to see what happens for you, with a sexual workout that occurs on a regular basis.
  6. Increases Testosterone. Ya Buddy! More sex, higher hormone levels. 
  7. Increases Female Hormones. If you don't much feel like it, having more frequent sexual gymnastics you will have more natural lubrication, higher levels of hormones that help with weight loss.
  8. Decreases Tooth Decay. Even kissing will help reduce tooth decay. Think about what giving your man oral sex will do. He certainly is! Seminal fluid carries a magical punch of zinc, calcium, and minerals to inhibit tooth decay.  
  9. Improved Sense of Smell. Can't stop and smell the roses? Sex will help you in that department too! Prolactin surges after sex which develops neurons in the olfactory bulb, your smell center.
  10. Increases Longevity. A study from Queens University in Belfast studied 1,000 men (mentioned above) over the course of their lifetime. They found that men who had higher rates had deaths at half the rate of those who were couch potatoes.
  11. Better Bladder Control. You may not care now, but as we age, sneezing can become a rush to the bathroom! When we use our pelvic floor muscles, PC muscles and squeeze during sex, the strengthens the pelvic floor and increases muscles control. The bladder can prolapse (come out of the vagina) when women don't hold in their bellies or strengthen the pelvic floor muscles. Kegels will help, if you don't have a partner at the moment.
  12. Sense of Well-Being. I could go on touting all the health benefits of sex, for days! You will feel happier with your life with more frequent sex and orgasm. What you will find is that you feel more connected with your partner, less likely to fight, argue, or criticize someone you are having blissful sex with three times a week.
  13. Good For Prostate Health. Men need orgasms for a healthy prostate. There are ways to massage the prostate, having regular orgasms is one of them. A finger inserted through the anus gently massaging the prostate can work just as well. The natural rhythm of orgasmic contractions gently massages the prostate naturally. 
  14. Reduction in Blood Pressure Spikes. A physical, sexual encounter with a partner has a cascade effect on your blood pressure. The hormones released have a long-lasting effect keeping your blood pressure lower with fewer spikes when you have upsets.
Our sexuality is at the core of our personal being. Our self-esteem comes from living authentically grounded in our sexuality. Suicide and depression are often side-effects of not being able to express sexuality when it conflicts with what society believes is normal. Regular sex means more than once a month. In fact, this little joke below might give you some insight into the predominant understanding of American marriage:

Bob: "Did you know that the average man has sex 2-3 times a week, while Japanese people have sex 2-3 times a year?"

Frank: "I didn't realize I was Japanese!"

Bob: How do you get a woman to stop having sex?
Frank: I don't know, how?
Bob: Marry her!

We need to change this paradigm. I was in a sexless marriage, and I was the one that wanted to have sex. It isn't pleasant to have someone reject you. Over time, being rejected can be detrimental to our self-esteem. We begin to wonder what is wrong with us. A loving relationship involves regular sex. Sex is not the foundation but certainly does assist the communication and deepen the bond between a couple. 

What's New?

Join me the first Thursday of each month at 7:00 PM PST, on Sex As Medicine, radio with Tibetan Tantra teacher Devi Ward. Devi Ward has had me on her show many times, we have great chemistry together
and a lot of fun. Devi is an amazing sex educator and advocates for healthy sexual expression for both women and men. This Thursday we are talking about vaginal orgasms. Is it possible for women to have vaginal orgasms? How can you get your woman to orgasm with your penis? Visit Devi's website here for additional information about Tantra courses in your area and on-line. 

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Monday, August 31, 2015

Farewell To Wayne Dyer: My Personal Experience

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Author, motivational speaker and spiritual teacher, Wayne Dyer passed away Saturday night. Wayne authored more than 40 books, his bestseller, Your Erroneous Zones sold over 35 million copies. I had the pleasure to meet Wayne personally when he called me to his hotel room in Florida, while at a Hay House Event. 

It was an interesting experience, as I sat through his lecture on Friday evening. He announced that he had been diagnosed with leukemia. I was quite surprised and saddened at his announcement. My father died of leukemia. I certainly did not want that for Wayne. Any form of cancer is a horrible way to die.

The emotional cause behind leukemia from Louise Hay's book, You Can Heal Your Life is brutally killing inspiration. Blood issues have to do with being able to flow joy freely through the body. Strange, since he seemed so inspired as evidenced by the sheer number of books he has written.  He knew he had lived a good life and done what he came here to do. Whenever it was his time, he would go willingly. It didn't mean he wanted to die, on the contrary.

I had seen Wayne years earlier, in Atlanta at Unity North Church. He seemed more egoic in Atlanta than when I saw him in Florida. Time had passed. He seemed softer. He had grown considerably and improved over the years. 

The following day his movie, The Shift was screened. I did not watch the movie but attended another author's talk instead. After the screening of The Shift, as I walked by the doorway of the room he was in, I witnessed a throng of people swarm around Wayne. I wondered to myself how he could handle so many people getting so close to him? I got the very strong feeling I needed to get my business card and a message to Wayne, that I could help him. It took some time, to find the correct person that handled Wayne's schedule. I informed her I was a healer and that I was guided to contact Wayne to help him with his health. I found his handler through the event bookstore and gave her my card, I told her the information I was given was strong and that he apparently needed my help.

When I get this kind of information, I do as I am asked and leave it up to The Universe. I really didn't expect Wayne Dyer to call me. So I was completely taken aback when my phone rang no more than 30 minutes later. I heard Wayne's voice at the end of the phone. "This is Wayne Dyer. I received your card, I need your help. Can you come to my hotel room?" He gave me the hotel name and room number. I was blown away. I was meeting Wayne privately.

I brought two friends with me, for several reasons. I did not want to be alone in a hotel room with Wayne Dyer for his protection as well as mine. I didn't want things to be awkward. 

Wayne answered the door wearing a pair of dark blue basketball gym shorts and no shirt. He apologized for his appearance, explaining he was very warm. He was not feeling well and was very clammy. As it turned out, Wayne was having a heart attack and didn't want to go to the hospital. I cleared his energy field for him. He began to feel better almost immediately.  He felt more comfortable. The clamminess was gone.  His heart, breathing, and energy field returned to normal. He had been swimming earlier that day and felt fine. I attributed it to the stress of the crowd pressing up so close to him, without anyone fending for Wayne.

Stress can do strange things to your body and mind. I was glad to have helped Wayne. It was an honor.

I found Wayne to be a lovely man. He was not without his own personal struggles. After our meeting in Florida, he called me from time-to-time to ask me questions and talk about love and relationships. He was challenged by his. It was the subject of most of our conversations. Those conversations will be tucked away forever. Our little secret.

Coming into complete loving acceptance of the self would preclude you from attracting someone who doesn't love you back.

Two Things I Will Always Remember About Wayne Dyer

Wayne told me he wrote his books out in a scribbler long-hand. He did not type his books. He was old fashioned that way. I understand why he would do that. When we channel, writing by hand gives you a better connection to Source energy. It made sense to me. The other thing that I will always remember is his metaphor about oranges. He said when you squeeze an orange, what comes out? Orange juice, right? If something comes out of you, it had to be there first. No one can make you say certain things or feel a certain way. When you are squeezed, whatever is already inside you is what comes out.

Wayne is off on a new adventure. He will rest for a while before he returns in another life. I am glad to have met this talented man. I also met his daughter and did work with her. Even though he and his wife were separated, they remained close. Wayne was married
three times and had eight children. Wayne Dyer was a strong force in his children's lives. He will be missed by millions. 

Much Love to you Wayne! May the rest of your journey be sweet! 

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Saturday, August 29, 2015

Here's Your Sign

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

I hear clients asking me for signs all the time. Where are the signs? How do I see signs? Signs are everywhere. We find them in nature, the flying hawk over head showing us we need to see from a higher perspective. It might be a receipt that falls out of a closet showing you that your partner had a couples' massage without you. Comedian Bill Engvall did a comedy routine using this phrase. Today, I borrow it from him. Here's your sign!

It's Just Sex

If you have been dating someone a short while and the only thing he talks about is sex, you can bet that is all he is interested in. He might text you about what he wants you to wear, what turns him on. He might make suggestive comments about not wearing any underwear. If the subject of sex is the predominant one, you don't have a relationship, it's just exercise! Here's your sign!

Passive Agression

Perhaps you are married or in a long-term relationship. When you attempt to talk to your partner about a subject that is important, and they respond in anger you are being manipulated by passive aggressive behavior. When someone uses passive aggression to avoid, it is because they don't want to hear the truth, and don't want to change. Avoidance of issues means that someone is in denial. Avoidance and denial net discord. There can be no intimacy or truth when either is present. Here's your sign!

An Affair

Maybe your sex life has fizzled out. Many people have this issue. When one or both parties are not interested in sex, it is likely that one of the parties is stepping out on their own. Other signs are: not showing up at family events, is regularly away alone on weekends there just might be a problem. Although, the first thing I think of is
that they are having an affair, it could be another form of avoidance. Vacations alone can also be a sign that there is something wrotten in Denmark. When a couple has intimacy, vacations are taken together. When intimacy is absent, there might be a third party in your relationship. Here's your sign!

You Rationalize Why You Won't Have Sex

We can rationalize all sorts of behavior, but that doesn't make avoiding our partner loving. If we make our partners jump through hoops or do certain things before we consider sex, we are having transactional sex. What is transactional sex? 

Transactional Sex

A man wants sex, he pays to get sex from a sex-worker (prostitute). Another scenario might be; a married man wants sex and his wife refuses to have sex with him unless he has washed the car, taken the kids to karate, taken out the trash, painted the window sills or bought her something shiny. Not all of these examples need to be in place for sex to be transactional. Married and coupled people often set high expectations for sex to occur. When we do, we are having transactional sex. 

Your Date May Be Addicted

You have begun to date someone you like. There is a nagging feeling at the back of your mind that every date revolves around either drugs or alcohol. You rationalize that it is because you are on a date. If someone is drinking three or four beer a night, has large bottles or cloth Crown Royal bags all over their house, you might consider that there is a substance issue. Just maybe! Here's your sign!

They Are More Kinky Than You

With 50 Shades of Gray books and movie there has been an upsurge of kinky sex in the dating scene. Guys might want to smack your ass, thinking it is a turn on. If it happens more than once and you let it go by, when it bothers you, here's your sign! 

When a behavior shows up, we need to speak about it immeditately. Waiting for another moment to pass or the perfect time is allowing the unwanted behavior to continue. If you don't like a particular sex act or behavior when someone mentions wanting to dominate you, or smacks you or asks for anal and you don't want it, tell them immediately. If behavior that makes you uncomfortable continues, it is time to leave the situation - permanently. Here's your sign!

Promises Made Repeatedly And Not Delivered

If someone makes promises and doesn't deliver, more than once, you might want to talk to them about it. If the behavior continues you might want to discuss that you have serious trust issues. In a loving committed relationship, trust or lack of it, effects intimacy. We can't have intimacy when we don't trust our partners. 

When we don't trust someone to deliver, we feel disrespected. If this is a business deal, your reputation might be on the line. Staying in a situation where you are repeatedly disrespected, lied to or the other doesn't do what they promise to do, leaving may be the only available option. 

Thank you to Bill engvall, comedian for his line: Here's your sign!

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9 Amazing Benefits Of Watching A Sunrise

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Sunrise is a magnificent time of day. It is an awakening of the planet, birds, trees and wildlife. It is always a new beginning. If you have romance in your soul, witnessing this beautiful daybreak can bring joy into your mundane life. It doesn't cost anything to watch a sunrise. You could be on your porch drinking coffee, holding hands together. Or if you live alone like I do, you witness it with your dogs out in the desert. 

Even with a friend staying with me, being alone in the desert at sunrise was a spectacular and emotional experience this morning. I tried to go back to bed, but my cats weren't having it. I capitulated and got myself dressed. I am so glad I did because the beauty of this morning was overwhelming. 

Sun-gazing is an old method of healing. Our ancestors worshiped the sun for many reasons. This is what you will receive if you look up instead of down while you walk:

  1. Grandeur. The sun is such a magnificent energy. Look up and witness the beauty. Notice the subtle changes in the sky as the sun rises up over the mountains, trees, houses or buildings where you are. For me, it was the dry dusty mountains to the east. 
  2. Peace. At sunrise, the energy from the sun is one of peace. Open your heart and feel it. Allow it to permeate your being.
  3. Beauty. There is a beauty all around us, yet, many never notice it. When you begin to notice the little things, your life takes on a brighter hue. You will find happiness in the smallest of details. 
  4. Gratitude. You are alive another day. What? "Big deal," you say? Waking up is a gift. I know many people who die in their sleep. Being grateful just to be alive shifts your perspective. You will stop taking your life, partner, children, friends for granted. Each day is a beautiful gift. Be grateful. Say thank you to the sun for rising on this gorgeous day.
  5. Healing.  The sun can recharge you. It is composed of ultraviolet light which the body needs for optimum health.The sun stimulates the production of melanin, stimulates the metabolism, (especially metabolism of minerals) is good for helping glands that take care of internal secretion.
  6. Natural Source of Vitamin D.  In humans Vitamin D changes to calcium in the body which encourages the hormone endorphin production. Endorphins give you that feel good feeling which causes happiness and satisfaction which prevents depression. I wonder if more people got out in the early morning and walked, would we have fewer people taking anti-depressants?
  7. Sunlight is good for the nervous system. Lack of sunlight is now linked to PTSD. Exposure to the sun can reduce anxiety. It is a known fact in Scandanavian countries that reduced sunlight causes nervousness, depression, and other health issues. 
  8. Reduces  the incidence of major diseases. Many people have gone above and beyond to avoid being in the sun, wearing clothing that covers their skin up. Skin cancer is a smaller risk than most of these other diseases prevented from sunlight exposure. The list is long: breast cancer, colon cancer, diabetes, osteoporosis, elevated blood pressure, heart disease, multiple sclerosis, ovarian cancer, Osteomalacia, prostate cancer, psoriasis, rickets, Seasonal Affect Disorder, (which I had living in Canada) tooth decay, tuberculosis. 
  9. Unadulterated JOY! This morning I got down on my hands and knees and thanked the sun for the wonderful joy I felt witnessing the awakening of the world, another day of life and the love I have for all things God-like in this world. Without the sun, we would die. 
Vitamin D deficiency is rampant especially among the elderly. They are often housebound. Taking Vitamin D does not guarantee enough of a dosage, as the original FDA dosage was based on normal exposure to the sun. The elderly do not receive natural sunlight and therefore, are deficient in Vitamin D. 

On top of all the stunning beauty, watching a sunrise is a romantic event. I felt that in love feeling while walking through the desert. The sun gleamed sending a beam of light right to me, through me and all around me. What's not to love?

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Thursday, August 27, 2015

Self-Discipline The Path To Happiness

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Rule your mind or it will rule you. - Horace.

The term self-discipline sounds like a grind. For those who are not disciplined it may seem like a imprisonment. Yet, the funny thing about being disciplined is you gain freedom of the mind. Discipline sounds like work, while the concept of happiness to many might be not having to work or do anything. When you are disciplined not only do you become happy for the long term, you also are happier in the moment. 

Self-discipline isn't just about deprivation. It is about managing conflicting goals. 

A study published in the Journal of Personality, interviewed 414 middle-aged participants queried about life satisfaction pertaining to self-control. The findings were that “feeling good rather than bad may be a core benefit of having good self-control, and being well satisfied with life is an important consequence.”

Self-discipline for you might be forgoing that delicious looking dessert when you are watching your waistline. Or it could mean that you get to the gym three or more times a week, rather than going out drinking with friends, or sitting in front of the television. 

For those with children, the concept of self-discipline might conjure up images of nights when you sat up waiting for your teenager to walk in the door late, so you could check to see if they were drinking and driving or missed their curfew. Being a parent requires us to be disciplined when we might want to take the easy way out and avoid confrontation.  

For those that love to shop, it could mean instead of spending the extra two-hundred dollars left over from your paycheck, that you put the extra in the bank instead.

For those with sex addiction, it might mean not masturbating, or watching porn for a week or more. For those with this challenge, giving up the orgasm addiction could also alleviate intense anxiety.

For women, being self-disciplined might mean resisting the temptation to have sex on the first, second or third date or longer even if we are tempted to.

For men, it might mean wearing a condom and taking responsibility for birth control. Stopping to put a condom on takes self-discipline.

When we look for freedom, we find the opposite. We become prisoners of our emotions - regret, anger, guilt. Happiness is the absence of negative emotions, so we know we can't experience guilt or shame and still feel happy at the same time. 

When we step up and do what we need to do, we relieve ourselves from stress, guilt or having to make excuses why we didn't get our tasks completed. Even when we are the only one that knows we didn't live up to our deadline we let ourselves down. Tasks that are undone cause us stress. Getting the tough things done first takes self-discipline. 

Those with less self-discipline may have a more difficult time choosing "virtues" over "vices." If you are trying to quit smoking a person that has strong self-discipline would find it easier to forgo the cigarette. 

Achieving Our Dreams

With self-discipline, anything is possible. We can complete the courses, do the homework and become the practitioner. Healing our personal issues takes tremendous discipline. Many hire a coach, receive great advice but never do what is asked of them to achieve their dreams.

Responsibility For Ourselves and Actions Nets Happiness

Avoiding what we know is right or best for us, robs us of our happiness. When we don't act responsibly we feel the pain of negative emtions: guilt, shame, regret, depression, anxiety, anger, resentment, greed, jealousy, frustration, sadness, self-doubt, fear, boredom, stress, anxiety, loneliness. Happiness is the absence of negative emotions. Doing what you know you need to do, allows you to feel happiness, satisfaction and contentment.

The Steps To Self-Discipline

  1. Begin. You have the power to do what is in front of you. The real effort is only in beginning. Once you begin you are half-way there. Starting is often the hardest part. Our mind keeps us from our greatness. It is within your power to do the best thing for you. It is your duty, obligation and responsibility.
  2. Immerse yourself. You can't think of two things at once. When you begin the pain of beginning will diminish and go away.
  3. Ignore. After you begin you may hear voices in your head. The self-talk about the pleasure you could have must be ignored. 
  4. Focus. When you focus on your desire, the end of your task will be so much more joyous. You are almost there.
  5. Exhiliarhation. Rejoice in the completion of your task. You did it! Congratulate yourself. You succeeded. It wasn't painful after all! The pain was only in our thoughts and feelings of dread to begin. Remember this feeling. It will return the next time you complete something difficult, or challenging.
  6. Success comes from taking responsibility. Focusing on the pleasure (riding our bike, watching t.v., or eating what we know we shouldn't) rather than the responsibility will cause you pain, guilt and regret in the end. Not doing a task you know you have to do will cause you untold guilt, negative emotions and pain.
  7. Happiness is the pot of gold at the end of your project or task. Avoiding anything will cause you pain, why would you forgo your happiness to expereince instant gratification for an instant?
Without self-discipline, I would never have succeeded at anything. I would have continued to be overweight, depressed and unhappy. 

My meditation makes me feel focused, connected and positive. Yet, there have been days, I missed it. When I did, my day wasn't as beneficial or productive. Having self-discipline has contributed to my contenment, peace of mind and happiness greatly. Clearing the blocks, negative emotions that continued to play unconsciously was a large part of that process for me. This is what I share with you in my coaching and healing sessions. I invite you to discover what amazing life lies on the edge of your pain and suffering. Book a 30- minute discovery session to find out. 

"Talent without discipline is like an octopus on roller skates. There's plenty of movement, but you never know if it's going to be forward, backwards, or sideways."— H. Jackson Brown, Jr. Author

Monday, August 24, 2015

3 Easy Ways To Receive More Pleasure and Happiness

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Have you ever noticed how two people can have the same experience, but their enjoyment of the same thing is completely different? Why is that?

Life is a series of experiences tied together with sensations and feelings. Some people complain, where others enjoy. The way we view our world changes how much pleasure or pain we have. Yesterday, I gave a friend a Magnum ice cream bar. We each ate the same thing together. While I ate
my chocolate covered rich ice cream slowly, savoring the deliciousness of it, enjoying eat and every bite, he devoured his quickly and the moment was gone. I was surprised when he said, "Well that was tasty!" I was only half through mine when he was throwing away his wrapper.

I grew up with three brothers. At dinner, my oldest brothers would load up their plates with great heaps of potatoes, meat with all the fixings, then wolf down their food. Everyone else would eat a normal sized serving. Beginning at the same time, my brother's would be finished before everyone else. It seems as if they barely tasted the food, and they are always hungry. I find this very interesting. Most obese people eat fast and don't feel full. They are always wanting more. The satisfaction that others feel is missing.

It's The Small Things

Finding pleasure in small things rather than looking for the big payout, like winning the lottery leaves people wanting. How many people actually win the lottery? When lottery winners do win, they spend their money quickly then are often more miserable after winning. A study was done comparing lottery winners to those who had terrible accidents, lost limbs or became paraplegics. Within six months of losing the use of their whole body, paraplegics had overcome the sadness and depression and were living lives that were productive. The lottery winners, however, often died, were depressed and had more issues after their winning then they did before.

What is interesting to note, my oldest brother who has a beautiful home, is now retired with a great income is still looking to win the lottery. He thinks he will be happy when he does. He isn't happy living where he lives. He thinks if he moves he will be. If he does move, he will feel the same dissatisfaction because he is the same person. He will show up in his new place feeling just as unhappy as he is now, with his life.

I live a much simpler life, don't experience longing and am very happy with what I have. I live in the moment, grateful for what I have. If I won the lottery or have millions, the first thing I will do is give it to those who need it. I know that things are not where I find joy, happiness or pleasure.

1. Slow down. When we slow down to enjoy what we are experiencing, savoring the tastes, images or events, look around notice, breathing in we are present in the moment. When we are present in each moment, rather than looking over our shoulder at what just happened or worry about what will happen in the future, we experience greater pleasure and happiness. Rushing through life we miss the good, hurry through pleasure then the moment is gone. Slowing down our breathing helps us to be grounded in the present.

2. Feel. Life offers us so many wonderful ways to sense. We hear, see, touch, smell and taste the moment. When we are not grounded in our body we might barely experience these incredible sensations. 

When we are numb, out of our bodies or afraid to feel our emotions we often miss the moment. Sometimes, our past experiences teach us mistrust, fear, and pain. When we dwell on those experiences we can't move beyond them. Rather than trying to run away from our feelings, we need to feel them fully. What is the emotion of sadness going to do to you? If you stop and allow yourself to feel the feelings fully, they will pass through you. You will get to the other side. When you avoid feeling you will miss the good.

Letting go of the old story, healing and forgiving yourself and others allows you to move beyond the hurt, pain, and suffering. When we fight or resist we prevent healing from happening.

3. Enjoy. When we look for the pleasure, pleasure is what we will find. When we complain all we see and feel is the negative. Most people rush through their morning, getting out the door in a rush. They don't stop to sit with their animals, meditate before leaving for work and find their life is over before they know it. Life is what we think. If we think of negative experiences, negative experiences is what we draw to us. When we focus on the good, more good is what we draw in. 

No matter what we have, being grateful for it, those who love you, the job you have, your children, partner, spouse, animals, health, the more joy you will experience in the moment. 

When we rush through a pleasurable experience like sex, it is over in minutes. It leaves us wanting more. We may never feel satisfied with anything when we rush through it. Slow down. Spend time looking into your lovers' eyes. Touch their face, kiss their mouth. Become the sensual provocateur. Tease, ignite, and intensify the pleasure by heightening your experience, take your pleasure up another notch. Instead of moving into penetrative sex, heighten your excitement by kissing your partner all over their body. Make love-making a marathon instead of a sprint.

Instead of rushing through your meals, conversations or experiences, take the time to savor the
moment and get the most pleasure out of your life. You will be so much happier as a result. Enjoy each moment. Breathe. Slow down and take in the small things. Notice the hummingbird, the flowers, smell the roses. When you do, your life will become pleasure filled rather than pain filled. 

I would love to hear about your experience. What did you think about this article? Where do you find pleasure. Please join me on FaceBook. Your thoughts are important to me. If you enjoyed this article, share it with a friend. Sharing is caring. 

Much Love to you,

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Saturday, August 22, 2015

3 Powerful Ways To Feel Loved Even If You Are Alone

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

People don't believe me when I tell them I never get lonely. I also have no sense of longing for anything. Why is this unbelievably important to you? Because you can feel so connected to Universal Source Energy as well that you are never lonely, even if you live alone. When you feel the presence of Source energy you will feel full, loved and accepted as you are. Many people experience loneliness even in a committed relationship. I did in my second marriage. 

I had everything material I had ever dreamed of.  We had two BMWs in the driveway, lived in an exclusive gated community where our neighbor drove a Rolls Royce Silver Cloud, a closet full of clothes, a slew of $300 designer shoes (30 years ago) and never felt so lonely in my life. Why? Contrast. I saw the contrast of material wealth versus interior wealth (love). Now I have the interior wealth (love) and don't care about the physical manifestations of money. Now that I am focused on love, the money flows to me. I am always taken care of by The Universe. I am happy without anything. I live in a little town, by myself, in the middle of the Mojave desert, because this was my assignment.

Can You Say No To God?

You can say no to God, but I don't recommend it. I have a houseguest who is helping me right now with several new projects that I will be unveil in September. I am being guided to create new offerings, a certification program two new books, find a publisher, be on the Dr. Oz show, and who knows what else. I am rambling, but I am in the flow of Universal energy, and it is taking me all over the place. 

My friend said no to God and has regretted it ever since. God never steers you wrong. If you listen and do what you are asked to do, you life is ecstatic. I chose to listen. My friend chose disobedience and is paying the price with his health, and feeling like he is chasing his tail. I love this guy, we are great friends. You can choose not to do as you are asked, but if you do, your life will become hell on earth. 
The hundred-year-old trees called to me

I became a Mystic in 2010. I had conversations with my guides and messages from God before, but in 2010, I began to have conversations with God. How do I know? You have an inner knowing when the big guns come out. The first time I heard God's voice was when I was living in Alpharetta, Georgia in a hundred-year-old farmhouse on seven acres. I felt the presence of God everywhere. The land spoke to me. I found this place because the trees called to me. Sounds crazy, well there's more. 

Alpharetta, Georgia 7 acres of beauty
In my first book, Odyssey Victim To Victory, I wrote about my experiences with God, my awakening, my trip to Bali, Indonesia and my previous trip to India. It was my coming out party. My mother said I whined about my life in that book. Maybe I did. Still, there is much valuable information about how I went from insecure little-broken doll to speaking with God, my guides, your guides and being a catalyst for your healing. 

Trees Can Call To You?

For Heaven Scapes, estimating
In Odyssey Victim To Victory, I also detailed how the trees on the property pictured here called out to me so that I would rent the property. I lived here on this beautiful land for seven years. If the land has magic, this land did. My landscaping company began to thrive as a result. Did I have help? You betcha! I became connected to the earth doing landscaping so profoundly that it aided my awakening. I learned that rocks have consciousness too. I would visit a client's home to do an estimate, and their tree that was struggling would give me messages about what it needed. I would think I was going for the estimate when there was a higher purpose involved.
My son David trimming limbs

How You Heal

What is a catalyst? You can't sit next to me, talk on the phone with me or Skype, or listen to my radio programs without having your stuff come up. I help you heal. Reading my blog helps people heal. I am here to help people awaken. (No I don't think I am the only one, there are many of us on the planet right now that are catalysts for healing.) You can heal through prayer, I can pray for you, or you can hire me as a coach. Through my coaching sessions, I do prayer work, energy healing and help you release the past. I clear trapped emotions that keep you in the repeating cycles.

Do I Make You Angry?

For those who aren't ready, I just piss them off. I can live with that. I have no ego. If what you read makes you angry, or triggers you in some way, that is because I have pushed on something inside you, with my words. You can't have a reaction without you having something stuck inside you (probably a trapped emotion). Other people can't make you react. It is YOU that makes you react. If you blame other people for making you angry, you are taking on the role of victim. I know I had that same experience. I thought everyone was out to get me. That is an entirely different article. 

If I Can Do It, You Can Too

Meditation Connects You 

If you want to change your life for the better, begin meditating daily. This was the single most profound activity that changed my life. Every morning I meditate. Well, okay there are some days that I don't, but those days are usually much more chaotic and fragmented than when I ground in meditation. I know that meditation sets the tone for a better more focused day. I ask what I should write about and get a clear message of the subject matter. Today, I was told to write about your Divine connection. If you want the Cliff notes version, skip this and go to the bottom, but you will miss the understanding needed. 

I have a meditation video on You Tube. I recommend it.

The Divine Presence Process Meditation was given to me by God. Actually, a friend Prem Savrovra gave it to me, saying this is for you to give to others. We did this meditation together daily for ten months remotely. It connects you to your higher power. Whether you believe or not, it will fill you with love. It will ground you and help you feel loved. It is a giving and receiving kind of thing that you give love to your higher power, and it gives it back to you. It was using this very meditation daily - sometimes several times a day that I awakened, permanently. The video is at the top of this blog.

I became connected with the higher power within me, without me and The Universal Mind (Divine Mind). My ego fell away, my fear fell away, my loneliness fell away. Zing! Beam me up Scotty! This is my gift to you. Do it daily. Witness the changes it brings to you and let me know what happens. I want to hear your experience. 

Countries call to me. Places call to me. Trees call to me. Did you know that everything has consciousness? They might be calling to you also. Maybe you were called to visit my blog, or website or

even FaceBook page, because I can help you. India called to me for
over 20 years before I traveled there. England called to me because I had many past lives there. 

My first trip to England was like three days of deja vu. I knew I had been there, I recognized almost everything I saw. I felt at home there, yet, I had not visited before (in this lifetime). You may have experienced this type of recognition for places you have never been before. My work as a flight attendant for Air Canada and living abroad for two years, gave me opporuntities to travel extensively. Now I recognize the energy of the places that call to me. Today for instance, the beach is calling to me. 

When You Get A Feeling

Some of you are getting messages that you may not pay attention to. At first, I didn't either. The messages come into your brain and may feel like your own thought at first. You might think it is your imagination. Or one of the many voices in your head

One of the feelings I have had repeatedly over the past six months
Boyne Valley, Ireland
is I know I am to travel to Ireland, probably in 2016. How is this trip going to manifest? It is already in The Divine Mind. I am being shown I will travel to Ireland. Will it be a retreat? I don't know that yet, it is not information I am privy to. We can only know what we are told or shown. I have heard some information from The Divine about sacred sites but that is all I know for now. I trust. I trust the information because I know it is accurate. It has been tested over the past 10 years or so. 

Standing Stone, Ireland

Some things are kept from us, so that we don't try to make them happen, or change the future. One thing that is for sure, no one and I mean NO ONE knows what we need for our highest and best good, more than that of The Divine. 

What Is God?

What is God, you ask? God is not a physical being. God or The Divine is an energy that is conscious. In other words, God is consciousness. God is in the sun, the moon, stars, plants, trees, animals, our pets, a newborn baby, in each molecule of your body. Everything including houses have consciousness. If you mistreat a car, your car will be hurt. If you love your car, you will find it runs better, longer and gives you better gas mileage. 

I remember arguing in the early days about animals having a soul. A minister (Baptist) tried to assert his opinion on me that animals most certainly have no soul. I informed him that I knew otherwise, because I communicate with them. Most animals are actually more conscious than we humans are. How could they have no soul? Absurd. This same minister also argued with me about praying to angels. "Why would you talk to angels when you could pray to Jesus, or God? At that time, I felt that God was too busy to talk to me. I found out later that that is not true. The Divine is busy. However, when we have important issues come up for us, The Divine makes time. 

How To Feel Loved Even If You Are Alone

  1. Sit upright in a chair or on your bed. Quiet your mind. Use a mantra to do so, or use step number two to quiet the mind chatter.
  2. Sit upright. Turn your eyeballs only upward to look at the ceiling. Do not lift your chin, only your eyes. Sit like this looking at the ceiling for about three or four minutes. 
  3. Close your eyes. 
  4. Relax your shoulders a little more and breathe in deeply. 
  5. Place your hands over the center of your chest (your heart chakra) and bring your attention to your heart. Breathe into your heart. 
  6. Smile a little towards your heart. This will give you a warm feeling. 
  7. Ask The Divine to come into your heart. Whoever you relate to can be used. If it is Jesus, invite him into your heart. If you relate to The Divine Mother, invite her into your heart. Breathe with them.
  8. Feel the love that they have for you. This love is universal. This love is everywhere. As you send love out to a tree, the tree will return it to you. As you send love out to the moon, the moon will return love to you. Send love out to the Central Sun, the Sun will return love back to you. As you send love out to Mother Earth, the Earth will return your love to you. This cycle of love exists everywhere. It is available to you right now.

What If I Don't Believe In God?

If you have not had proof of The Divine (God or Source Energy), you may not feel it. You may doubt the existance of God or a higher power. Sometimes we are so shut down and closed off that the power of love cannot come in. We have to invite it in. 

Feeling Empty?

Many people feel alone and empty. You may feel disconnected, as if you have been deserted. Jim Carely talks about his experience of feeling the energy of everything/love/ The Divine and wanting it to have a reapeated experience. Everyone has the ability to connect to this energy. When we don't feel it we may feel alone, empty, abandoned and forgotten. It is our perception that needs to shift. Everyone has the ability to tap into this higher power, just ask. 

Ask And It Is Given

Everyone have angels, guides and teachers on the etheric plane. They are available for you. However, you have to ask for their assistance to engage them. This is part of The Secret. They cannot engage with you if you don't ask first. If you have never been told this, you might not know how. 

How Do I Connect To Love?
  1. Sit upright. Why? Universal energy will enter through your crown chakra (the top of your head) and flow down through your central channel all the way to the ground through your feet. You must sit upright for this to occur.
  2. Breathe in slowly. Exhale slowly. 
  3. Close your eyes. 
  4. Ask for your guides and teachers to show up for you. Ask for them to begin guiding you. Ask for help. 
  5. Feel. Listen to your body. What do you feel? Listen to your heart. What do you feel. Feel the love that The Universe, your guides and your family members on the other side have for you. Write down what you experience. Date your journal entry. Write down your experiences in your meditation daily. Then look back to see what you have received over time.
  6. Ask for signs. Then begin to look for messages in nature. Crows might talk to you. A hummingbird might fly up next to you. Nature gives us messages of love all the time. Say THANK YOU!
  7. Begin being grateful for the guidance you receive. 
  8. Trust what you hear. Trust yourself. Trust is one of the most important aspects of getting guidance. If you don't trust yourself, you won't trust what you hear, see or feel.

What Are The Three Powerful Ways To Connect To Love?

  1. Through meditation, ask to receive love. Witness what you feel. Invite Your Divine in. Send love back to them. 
  2. Ask for your guides and teachers to show you love. Send love back to them.
  3. Connect with plants, trees, animals, by sending them love out of your heart. Then listen, feel and experience what comes back to you. The more you do this the more you will begin to feel. Remember to express gratitude and open to receive more.
Love is an energy. It moves through us, and all things all the time. Most of us have been asleep for so long we don't feel it. Open to the experience and use your imagination. Don't be afraid. I hope that this crazy winding post was helpful for you. I do want to hear about your experiences. This is where the fun begins. Let's talk on FaceBook! Off to the beach with Karma! She has been barking while I have been writing! "Let's GO! 

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