Thursday, September 29, 2016

I Want To Know What Love Is

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters


For so many people today, heartache and pain are what they think of when they think of love. Why is that? Why do relationships cause us such issues? We want to be loved, or do we? Sometimes I wonder because I see people pushing love away. Our fear of being hurt causes us to push the very thing we desire away. I have done it too.



When we have traumatic experiences in our past, and everybody does, we hold the energy of the past in our cellular body. The emotions from the breakups, nasty divorces, and horrible dates in our tissues. Until we can let go completely and forgive those who we perceive have hurt us we really can't experience love because we have a wall built which keep us from allowing a new person close to us.


We can't be vulnerable and risk everything when we experience fear. Fear blocks us from letting go, and able to receive love.

I know from my past experience that I wasn't authentic for most of my life. I acted like I thought others wanted me to be. I faked it. I faked orgasms; I faked happiness, I faked being. When I finally let go of caring what others thought of me is when I recognized I liked myself and it didn't matter what anyone else thought. My self-esteem came from me, not from the validation I had previously desired from my mother or others. 

Healing our past allows us to become completely naked in front of another. The naked I am talking about is the ability to be completely vulnerable and seen by our partner, naked with our clothes. Most people wear a mask and don't allow someone new to see the real person under the subterfuge. Our fear of not being accepted for who we are keeps us acting the way we think our date wants us to be.

When we aren't authentic at the beginning of a relationship, our relationship is doomed to failure because eventually, we have to let our guard down and be real. When we finally show up, our partner will wonder who the heck they fell in love with? Authenticity is the key to feeling and receiving love. Until we can be real with another, we are faking life and not going to receive real love.
Softening And Becoming Real

The softer and more authentic we can be, the better. Our relationships build trust when we are authentic. The fear of not being liked or loved is from the past. When we love ourselves, the experience of receiving love from another isn't so scary. 

Letting go of the false pretenses and faked orgasms allow us to sink in to be grounded in our true self. If someone doesn't like who we are - NEXT! There will be someone who does. Don't waste your precious energy trying to be someone you aren't to be loved. If you have to turn yourself into a pretzel to find love, it isn't real. The more you that you can be, the more real your relationship will be also. All relationships have some conflict. 

We aren't going to always agree with one another. Thinking that love means a relationship without conflict is a fairy tale. Knowing how to communicate lovingly when those challenges arise is one of the facets of my work. I help couples navigate the sticky situations and complexities of relationships. Being fearless certainly helps, and that is certainly something I help my clients be.


Dumbing It Down

When we act less intelligent, or less sexual than we are, we are attempting to dumb down the truth of ourselves. We are faking it. I faked it with one of my husbands. He was insecure about himself and his sexuality. He wasn't ready for a woman who was passionate, and powerful. I had to hold back and act like a Puritan. He was a macho man who had to be in charge. We didn't click at all. Our marriage was volatile because of the constant power struggle. 

Afraid To Be Alone?

Many fish in the sea!

There are other options than to attempt to be someone you are not just to try and make this relationship work. When we let go of one relationship and allow ourselves to be seen, it won't be long before a new love comes along that takes you to a higher place where you can connect to the depth of your soul. There are lots of fish in the sea. Find the right fish for you. Don't settle for less. You deserve love. You deserve to be loved for who you are, as you are. Of course, the flip side of the coin is that we have to accept our partner as they are as well. 

Foreigner: I Want To Know What Love Is


Looking For LOVE?

Beginning October 12th - November 16th, Join me for From Tainted To True love to manifest the love you desire. 

This course is for you if:

  • You have a habit of repeating the same relationship over and over that doesn't support you
  • You can't seem to attract love to you in any form
  • Want to become more vulnerable, authentic and connected in your relationship
  • Looking for greater intimacy and better sex
  • You are interested in bringing more passion into your current relationship



This course was originally a four-week course. I have extended it to include valuable tips on sexual intimacy and passion. It is now six weeks. It will transform the way you think about the opposite sex, love, and relationships! $247 for six weeks of transformational coaching and energy sessions with Jennifer in a group format. Plus you also receive the Aphrodite Effect 3-hour audio course for early sign-up! A $99.00 VALUE!

Set up your private session with me to find your joy and happiness within. I help men and women find lasting happiness. 

Jennifer's forthcoming book:

Happy Here, Happy Anywhere
The Step-By-Step Guide For Overcoming Depression, Anxiety and Unhappiness Without A Prescription!

Visit Aphrodite Effect.com Jennifer's website






Tuesday, September 27, 2016

Manifesting Made Easy: A 5-Step Process To Get What You Want

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters



"The key to success is to focus our conscious mind
on things we desire, not the things we fear." ~Brian Tracy

Nothing that happens does so by chance. There are no accidents or coincidences. Everything that happens is a direct manifestation of where you are directing your energy, attention, and consciousness. Whether you recognize it or not you are manifesting everything in your life from the money in your bank account to every relationship that you have. We are always manifesting.


We are actually powerful magnets. We send out whatever we are thinking coupled with our powerful emotions and like a boomerang the universe brings us what we are focusing on.

If we are focused on not having enough money for our car payment, the universe proves us right by giving us no money.

If we think and believe that we will never find love, we will be given exactly that, no love.


Our physical possesions reflect the quality of our energy. When you feel good about yourself you are able to charge what you are worth. When your self-esteem is low, you may drive an older model car because you feel you don't deserve better. Our negative ideas and beliefs cause us to manifest less than what we deserve. As our self-esteem builds and we feel better about ourselves, we begin to manifest greater and more expensive things.


When we begin to take notice of how we feel about ourselves; that we don't deserve to have the life, relationship, body, health, money, job, clothes, car, that you desire, you recognize that it is your beliefs that are keeping you from having and manifesting those things.


A beautiful new car makes you feel better about yourself. The very thing that your unconscious is telling you that you don't deserve is what will help you to feel more deserving. 


The more aware we can be of who we are, the easier it is to remedy the way we feel inside. We can process old emotions and clear the old patterns away, which will help us feel better about ourselves. We can give love to ourselves to raise our self-esteem, hire a coach who will help us see the truth in ourselves. We can re-create ourselves to be who we want to be by giving love to ourselves. Affirmations work very well. Know that you deserve the very best. 


Repeat These Mantras For Empowerment
  • God and The Universe love me.
  • The Universe is always and in every way supporting me for my highest and best good.
  • The Universe is expanded.
  • Therefore I am expanded
  • There is no lack in the Universe
  • Therefore there is no lack within me.
  • The Universe is abundant
  • Therefore I am abundant
  • I am a child of God (and The Universe).
  • I am loved completely for who I am.
  • I am deserving of abundance, prosperity, and love.
  • I am worthy.
  • I am prosperous.
  • I am loved.

Once we feel empowered and loved, I have found the fastest way to get what we want is to ask questions. Just a week ago, I manifested a new roof for my house just by asking, "How can I effortlessly and easily have a new roof?"


That very day, my ceiling in the back bedroom fell due to a leak from my Swamp cooler on the roof and my landlord announced he would be putting on a new roof. He also is painting the entire house with a Feng Shui makeover, the correct color for the direction it is facing! How great is that?


Our neural pathways can be changed from negative to positive by focusing on feeling good, happy with ourselves and grateful for what we have. Recognizing our negative self-talk and habitual patterns is paramount to having what we want. Turning our thoughts to the positive ignoring the negative and focusing on what we want rather than what we don't' want will help you get there.


When we feel good about ourselves, we also become more self-aware. We notice our thoughts, emotions and how we feel. We can shift our consciousness and neural pathways through meditation, doing affirmations to empower ourselves so that we shift how we feel and raise our vibration. Feeling good is an essential part of manifesting our desires both
material and relationships. Following are the steps to manifesting once you have done the affirmations above. 


You deserve happiness, to be comfortable, secure and have your needs met. You can manifest some amazing things once you feel good about yourself.

"We are born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us, it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others." ~Marianne Williamson

Conscious Manifesting Versus Unconscious
When you are aware of what you want, you become crystal clear and focused. The more clarity you have about what you want, the faster and easier you can manifest it. We can manifest our day by waking with gratitude for being alive and stating, "Today will be a powerfully happy and positive day for me!"

  1. Get crystal clear on what you want.

  1. Manifest one thing at a time. 
  2. Focus on that one thing.Write it down. 
  3. Breathe deeply to be present. Take three deep inhalations, exhaling deeply and slowly.
  4. Feel good, positive and excited. Emotion brings your manifestations to you faster.
  5. Focus on what you want.Ask, "How can I effortlessly and easily get ________________"Say thank you!
  6. Know it is already on it's way to you.
  7. Know without a doubt it is done! 
  8. Be in complete faith that everything is in Divine Order and it is on its way!
5 Steps To Get What You Want

  1. Get present by breathing slowly and deeply.
  2. Focus on what you want.
  3. Ask for it with feeling (emotions bring it faster!)
  4. Say Thank you!
  5. Know that it's done!

The better we feel about us, the faster we are able to manifest. The happier, more joyful you are, the faster you can manifest. When we are in fear, we manifest what we fear. Faith and fear don't go together. You are either in fear or faith. I clear fear for many people which helps them manifest their desires faster.

Beginning October 12th - November 16th, Join me for From Tainted To True love to manifest the love you desire. I am re-booting this course. I facilitated it last fall with great success. If you have a habit of repeating the same relationship over and over that doesn't support you, or can't seem to attract love to you in any form, this course is for you. Whether you are single or coupled, this course will help you be more vulnerable, authentic, with greater intimacy and better sex. 


This course was originally a four-week course. I have extended it to include valuable tips on sexual intimacy and passion. It is now six weeks. It will transform the way you think about the opposite sex, love, and relationships! $247 for six weeks of transformational coaching and energy sessions with Jennifer in a group format. Plus you also receive the Aphrodite Effect 3-hour audio course for early sign-up! A $99.00 VALUE!

If this article was helpful, comment below or share with a friend. I

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Jennifer is currently working on her third book:

Happy Here, Happy Anywhere
The Step-By-Step Guide For Overcoming Depression, Anxiety and Unhappiness Without A Prescription!

Visit Aphrodite Effect.com Jennifer's website






Monday, September 26, 2016

How to Play The Game of Life to Find Happiness

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

You might think that Spirituality is something new. Florence Scovel Shin wrote the book, The Game of Life and How To Play It, in 1925. Florence was an illustrator who became a NewThought and Metaphysical Teacher in mid-life. Her book is one I highly recommend to understand how we can wave a magic wand over our life with our words and have what we want.


Do Not Pass Go!

Our minds tell us stories of woe, if we believe them we can't move forward.

Do Not Collect $200!

Most people think money, wealth, a big home and new car or relationship will bring them happiness. Happiness is a choice, and it begins with each of us. Once we decide to be happy, no matter what, we give less energy to life's bumps, detours, and problems. 

Get Out Of Jail Free!

Most people re-play their painful story of divorce, loss, and trauma repeatedly dwelling on what went wrong and all their problems. The issue with re-telling our story is that we keep bringing the past into our future with our words coupled with our emotions about our story. We can't step into a bright shiny and happy tomorrow if our words today dwell on darkness, sadness, problems and regret. 

The Rules For A Happy Life

  1. Know that everyone has some trauma, abuse, suffering, and pain. 
  2. Pain is the catalyst for change if you can see it differently.
  3. Your reaction to life's events is what creates blocks, limiting beliefs and trapped emotions that continue to bring you what you don't want.
  4. Everyone you meet is a mirror into your soul. They reflect back to you what is going on inside of you.
  5. Don't shoot the messenger that delivers the message of #3 above. 
  6. What you are blaming someone else for is your issue.
  7. Look at the solution rather than the problem.
  8. Speak of what you want, rather than what you don't want.
  9. Let go of the old story that mommy was mean, cruel and didn't validate you. Everyone has some element of a mommy issue. 
  10. If you lost a parent, forgive them for leaving you and forgive yourself for asking for such a challenge to spur your growth forward.
  11. Know that you are the one that requested to learn about love, communication, and happiness before you incarnated.
  12. You program your unconscious mind with the words you speak, so make your words count.
  13. Keep your thoughts positive.
  14. Direct your thoughts and words to speak of what you want rather than what you don't want.
  15. Get your energy cleared so that you can let go of the guilt, shame, regret and emotions that continue to attract what you don't want.
  16. Your purpose here on this planet is to grow, evolve, heal and be happy so that you can be generous and give back to others in
    various ways.
  17. Selfless giving is one of the fastest ways to experience great joy.
  18. Everyone is going through the same thing.
  19. Be compassionate towards yourself and others.
  20. Anger is the easiest emotion to feel, usually masking fear and pain.
  21. Each time you don't get the lesson, you will repeat it until you do. 
  22. Life is University for each of us. Life will teach us more about ourselves than any school could ever do.
  23. Congratulate yourself when you learn your lesson. 

  24. Know that you are already on your path. As long as your feet touch the ground you are in the right place at the right time.
  25. There is no right or wrong. If you choose a partner know that they are as imperfectly perfect as you. 
  26. Accept yourself with all your quirks, weirdness, and beauty that is you.
  27. Have FUN!

Don't forget to enter the drawing to win a one-hour session with Jennifer. The questions you must answer are a breeze and located below. Drawing entries must be received by 2:00 PM Wednesday. Send your responses to JenniferElizabethMasters@gmail.com

  1. What are the names of Jennifer's first two books?
  2. What blog articles do you prefer to read on Jennifer's blog?
  3. What are you most interested in learning in Jennifer's third book?
If this article was helpful, comment below or share with a friend. I don't advertise; my business is built by word-of-mouth. Sharing
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Set up your private session with me to find your joy and happiness within. I help men and women find lasting happiness. 

Jennifer is currently working on her third book:

Happy Here, Happy Anywhere
The Step-By-Step Guide For Overcoming Depression, Anxiety and Unhappiness Without A Prescription!

Visit Aphrodite Effect.com Jennifer's website




Saturday, September 24, 2016

What Do You Expect?

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Expectations have a way of ruling our lives. When our expectations are high, we may never achieve the level of success we expect, thus setting ourselves up for failure and disappointment. I recommend that my clients let go of expectations so that they have room to explore the infinite possibilities, which usually turn out to be way better than what we could ever expect on our own.


Expectations in relationships set our partners up for failure. High expectations of our children cause them stress and us to feel disappointed when they don't meet our lofty desires. Expectations for our life cause us unhappiness, as we tend to set the bar way too high. When we expect so much, we can find it difficult to be happy with what we have. When we learn that settling for less, we find happiness in the smallest of things and life becomes infinitely simpler.
More Fun, Trust, and Discovery

When we stop expecting, we step into the flow of life, rather than trying to figure out exactly how things should be.

Lofty expectations, not my house!
When I moved to California, I had high expectations of a house with a clay tile roof, snuggled into the backdrop of palm trees or mountains with gardens and trees. As I searched the Internet for homes to rent, one little adobe home with a chain link fence kept surfacing. In fact, this little house was the first one I saw when I began searching for homes while still in Colorado. 

Letting Go

I have given up all of my belongings three times. I have far less now than I had even ten years ago. With much less I am far happier with myself and my life. Possessions don't bring happiness; they just bring attachment and more confinement. I can focus on what is really valuable, rather than what is ego-based. I love myself enough to know I don't want to share my house because I need help paying my rent. I like my solitude and privacy.

Leaving Boulder, Colorado moving day
My ex-husband had just died. My work in Colorado didn't pan out as I had hoped and my finances were restricted, just like the Universe likes it. We had only just moved a year before from Georgia, after selling everything. Cross-country moves are costly. I had blown a lot of cash moving and having to relocate again.

We become creative when our finances are tight; we learn to make do with less and don't waste anything. I had expectations of life in California, and it didn't include a small adobe home in the middle of a town. 

If I hadn't had such high expectations of a home, I could have moved right in as soon as my daughter, and I arrived in Rosamond. Instead, we stayed with a friend our three cats in a cage and our dog Karma had to stay in our pick up truck. I caused the hardship because of my high expectations.

3-car garage, 5,000 square foot home - miserable
I had lived in beautiful homes where our garage was bigger than this entire house with a monthly mortgage that was half a yearly salary for some people. I had to drop my expectations to accept that this home being shown to me over and over was the best place for my entire family.

What We Believe To Be True is Often Fiction

I looked at the homes on the mountain side thinking how lovely it looked up there, high over the town with a view of the valley below. It seemed idyllic and beautiful to me. I had romanticized the larger homes thinking life would be better there.

The yards there were postage-sized without grass, which meant my dogs would need to be walked, there was no safe place for them just to play outside as dogs do. The houses were packed tightly together and cooled with air conditioning units, rather than the less expensive swamp coolers. The rent was double that of the little house in town. The landlord of the rental house wasn't open to being creative with financing in any way. There was no wiggle room on anything.

Truth

The interior of the house was completely renovated. The walls were a foot thick which meant it would stay cooler in the summer and warmer in the winter. The house was solidly built being over sixty years old.

Instead of an air conditioning unit, it had a swamp cooler which cools your home for less than a third of an air conditioning unit. The rent was very reasonable. Since the entire house was only 800 square feet in size, my utilities were affordable. The little adobe house was a perfect size for my daughter and me with three bedrooms and a beautiful kitchen complete with goose-neck faucet, gas cook top and granite countertops. The bigger picture was that the smaller home was perfect in every way except aesthetically.

Mojave Desert, California
It had a half-acre of fenced in yard which provided ease for me to let my dogs out to play safely. Across the street was a warehouse that was empty. To the left of me was a vacant lot. Across the street to the left was another vacant lot. To the right of me were apartments where the garages were the only things that faced my home and yard. I had complete privacy on all sides.

My landlord is Hispanic, a family man who knows what struggle is all about and was willing to work with me. He even let me slide for three months the first winter I lived in California while I was struggling to feed myself and my daughter. There were so many gifts living in the house that was smaller, and seemingly a lower standard.

The Miracles

My biggest beef about the little house I have now lived in for almost four years was the roof. In the desert, the wind howls, especially in the winter. Shingles were constantly falling off the roof, and there was a multitude of patches of different colored shingles making the house from the outside look like a little shabby without the chic. 

On Monday, September 12th, during the Mercury Retrograde, a time when things need to get re-done, reordered, repaired, I drove up to the front of my house and said, "How can I easily get a new roof?" That afternoon, I heard a crash. My swamp cooler on the top of my roof had leaked water into my back bedroom and caused a quarter of my ceiling to cave in. 

Before the make-over
When my landlord showed up to take a look at the damage the next day, he announced, "Next Friday, I am going to give you a new roof!" After four years of me looking at the roof and wishing it to be different - it happened! Last week he asked me to pick colors for the house and suggested blue. 

My home is north-facing, which means the best color from a Feng Shui perspective for wealth is blue. He intuitively knew it. On top of a new roof, my house will be Feng Shui perfect from the outside in the right color! 

Gratitude For What We Have

I am so grateful to have the privacy, safety, and comfort that I experience in my little home. My animals love being out in the yard and are safe from traffic and coyotes. Expressing our gratitude for what we do have allows us to attract something more. The space I have is more than enough for me. I use all of my rooms. My office is lovely, tidy and orderly. I can create here because I am at peace.

The Benefits

As my business has grown in California, I have relaxed and enjoyed my home. I have never been so happy in my life as when I moved to the desert of California. I love the solitude, quiet and remoteness of where I live. 

In the time it takes to drive one exit up the highway, one exit I can be in the wilderness to dance and walk my dogs in peace. I can be at any beach in two-to-three hours. In the winter, I am thirty miles away from snow in the mountain town of Tehachapi.

My animals love the yard and digging for gophers in my little patch of green grass. I have made it a sanctuary. It feels peaceful and zen like inside. If I had chosen the other house on the mountain, I would now be living in a small apartment. I wouldn't have been able to afford it during those lean early months and would have had to move - again. 

Since I spend less on my living expenses, I am free to travel to Boulder, Colorado four or five times a year and visit my clients in Atlanta, Georgia as well. In 2017, I plan to visit The UK, Ireland, France and India again.

I can clean my home in a little over two hours from top to bottom. I am not a slave to my possessions. I can close the door and hop on a plane to do a workshop and not be concerned about whether someone will break in and steal my stuff. 

How You Can Benefit From Reducing Expectations


  1. We relax when we reduce our expectations.
  2. We can step into the flow rather than forcing events to happen.
  3. When we simplify our lives we become less stressed. 
  4. We stop worrying about what others think of us and become more authentic.
  5. Life is more blissful when we do what we love.
  6. We enjoy what is really important.
  7. When we are less stressed we become infinitely more creative.
  8. Our relationships become more peaceful when we reduce or drop expectations.
  9. We become free. Freedom brings us peace, serenity, and happiness.

Getting Out Of The Ego 

Let's face it a huge house is beautiful. Living in something smaller gets us out of our ego. Tom Shadyac is a producer, director, comedian, screenplay writer, and philanthropist. He created such movies as Liar, Liar, Ace Ventura Pet Detective, The Nutty Professor and Bruce Almighty. His net worth is approximately 12 million. He was instrumental in creating a documentary called I AM. I highly recommend this film, available on Netflix. 

At the end of I AM, Tom features his 17,000 square foot, 7 million dollar property in Pasadena, California talking about how excited he was to move in. Once he did, he looked around and
Tom Shadyac's mobile home in Malibu
recognized that the house didn't thrill him like he thought it would. The house was huge, beautiful and certainly a showplace. He sold his home in Pasadena. Tom now lives in a little 40-foot trailer in Malibu. 

I have friends that struggle to pay their enormous mortgage and accompanying living expenses each month. Many of them never travel because their living expenses keep them so strapped, all their income goes into just existing. Life is more than struggle. Reducing our expectations allows us to enjoy the little things that matter. Adventure, travel, and exploration can occur when we free ourselves to enjoy something other than trying to look a certain way.

We can set expectations up for wealth, success, relationships. We can set the bar so high for achievement, that we never find the happiness we think is going to be there. Expectations break the bank on happiness. High expectations will cause you to feel you never succeeded.

Love yourself to be in the flow of life. Have the courage to do with less, spend less on things that don't matter. Focus on what does, your health, happiness, and love. 

I love you,
Thank you for joining me today.
Client Testimonials: 
After working with Jennifer recently, I must say that I am grateful to the Divine for placing her in my path via a Google search. A few weeks ago, I was in an interesting place emotionally. I was in-between coming to terms with some past emotional trauma but not fully understanding what it meant to "let go of my past." Following our initial 30 minute "discovery session" and subsequent first session a week later, I finally understood what it meant to embrace the present while letting the past be whatever it was.

As she opened my Akashic record and began to peel back the layers of my current and past lives, I shook, trembled, and buzzed as Jennifer cut the cords to the negative emotional patterns that had affected me on a personal, physical, emotional, and spiritual basis. The guilt, shame, and depression I experienced for years immediately left, and I felt lighter! It was as if life had finally smiled at me and the Universe had finally said, "it's time for your healing. Embrace it and finally, learn to live life and enjoy it!"

I'm truly grateful for Jennifer's work, and I know that this is the beginning of something beautiful in my life. Thanks again, Jennifer, and I send you much love and many blessings!

Sincerely,
Mary




If this article was helpful, comment below or share with a friend. I don't advertise; my business is built by word-of-mouth. Sharing is LOVE! Thank you.


Set up your private session with me to find your joy and happiness within. I help men and women find lasting happiness. 

Jennifer is currently working on her third book:

Happy Here, Happy Anywhere
The Step-By-Step Guide For Overcoming Depression, Anxiety and Unhappiness Without A Prescription!

Visit Aphrodite Effect.com Jennifer's website



Friday, September 23, 2016

How To Spot Emotional Unavailability Right Away!

One of the magazine's that I write for is Digital Romance. This link is for my most recent post on Digital Romance about
emotional unavailability. If you have had this type of experience you will receive a great deal of help from this article with a little bit of humor added!


How To Spot Emotional Unavailability Right Away



If this article was helpful, comment below or share with a friend. I don't advertise; my business is built by word-of-mouth. Sharing is LOVE! Thank you.


Set up your private session with me to find your joy and happiness within. I help men and women find lasting happiness. 

Jennifer is currently working on her third book:

Happy Here, Happy Anywhere
The Step-By-Step Guide For Overcoming Depression, Anxiety and Unhappiness Without A Prescription!



Visit Aphrodite Effect.com Jennifer's website

How To Get Them To Commit

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

If you have a history of attracting people who will only go so far with you, it is time, to be honest with yourself. It isn't them; it's you. Our relationships are the best mirror into our soul. We attract what we are. 


Our relationships are the fastest way to discover if we have committed to ourselves. Before you cut me off and go to another blog, hear me out. I have had personal experience with this subject. I have been married and divorced four times for good reason. I had a lot to learn about myself. Once I totally committed to myself, I began to attract men who would also commit to me. Healing our past is part of our commitment to ourselves.

There are many ways to commit to ourselves. We can commit to our health, eating healthy foods, steering clear of those things that aren't good for us. It is easy to see where we aren't committed to our health, all we have to do is look at our physical body, our hair, nails, and how we feel. Taking responsibility for health is certainly a very positive way to commit. 

Ask yourself the following questions:

  1. Am I as happy alone as I am partnered?
  2. Do I seek a relationship to fill me up and complete me?
  3. Am I looking for someone to fill a gap that I feel within?
  4. Do I give too much to others, ignoring my needs?
  5. Do I put others before my needs and self-care?
  6. Do I forgo meditation and spiritual practice when partnered?
  7. Do I continue to exercise when I am in a relationship?
  8. Am I honest always? Or do you spend time in denial of issues?
  9. Am I consistently on time?
  10. Am I true to my word?
  11. Am I authentic?
  12. Do I spend time with people who support me emotionally, mentally and spiritually?
  13. Do I spend time nurturing my soul daily?
  14. Do I exercise daily?
  15. Do I respect myself?
  16. Do I have judgment toward myself and others?
  17. Do I love myself - even all my flaws and faults?
  18. Do I worry about what others think of me?
  19. Is my home neat, tidy, orderly?
  20. Do I get to bed early?
  21. Have I healed my addictions - even my addictions to my recovery method?
  22. Am I fiscally responsible? Do I pay my bills on time?
  23. Am I looking for someone to rescue me from my life?
  24. Do I accept disrespect and abusive treatment from my partner and others?
  25. Am I abusive to myself in any way?
  26. Do I allow others to behave badly and still want to be with them?
  27. Am I controlling?
  28. Am I fearful?
  29. Do you know yourself well enough to know what you want and won't tolerate?

When we accept poor treatment from another person, we don't respect ourselves. Self respect is a hard thing to recognize as missing. I didn't see it until it was pointed out to me years ago. I was told by my then husband, "I don't respect you because you don't respect yourself!" It was a hard thing to hear. Since that time, I have worked diligently to avoid those who mistreat or don't respect me. I stand up for myself and expect to be treated with respect and will accept nothing less. I am not a bitch about it, I just walk away from those who blame, abuse or treat me badly. 

If your date says they will call on a certain day and don't their actions don't match their words and they can't be trusted. When you stop accepting bad behavior, you will find people will either stand up and improve their character, or someone else will cross your path that is far better than the person you thought you couldn't live without. 

Our outer relationships are the key to what we need to work on personally. You can blame others till the cows come home, but that won't get you where you want to go. Look inside you and hire
someone that has healthy self-esteem and is perfectly happy alone or partnered that can help you find the love you desire. You have to give to yourself before anyone returns it to you.

Commitment to you has to happen before someone will commit and be faithful to you. How long will you wait to commit to your healing

Client Testimonials: 
After working with Jennifer recently, I must say that I am grateful to the Divine for placing her in my path via a Google search. A few weeks ago, I was in an interesting place emotionally. I was in-between coming to terms with some past emotional trauma but not fully understanding what it meant to "let go of my past." Following our initial 30 minute "discovery session" and subsequent first session a week later, I finally understood what it meant to embrace the present while letting the past be whatever it was.

As she opened my Akashic record and began to peel back the layers of my current and past lives, I shook, trembled, and buzzed as Jennifer cut the cords to the negative emotional patterns that had affected me on a personal, physical, emotional, and spiritual basis. The guilt, shame, and depression I experienced for years immediately left and I felt lighter! It was as if life had finally smiled at me and the Universe had finally said, "it's time for your healing. Embrace it and finally, learn to live life and enjoy it!"

I'm truly grateful for Jennifer's work, and I know that this is the beginning of something beautiful in my life. Thanks again, Jennifer, and I send you much love and many blessings!

Sincerely,
Mary



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