Wednesday, November 30, 2016

Don't You Forget About Me

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Each of us has a person from our past that we wonder about. What would happen if you were to meet them today? What might happen if you met someone a second time? How might it change your life? What would you do if you had a second chance? Would you blow it? Would you kiss them? Would you tell them how much they meant to you?

With the aid of Internet, many people are rekindling romances from years ago. Those who were once married are not divorced and single. 

I had an opportunity a year ago to rekindle an old romance with a man I had a fling with many years ago when I was a flight attendant. After thirty years he had gone through a divorce and reached out to me. There was a comfort between us that knowing each other long ago created. 
Over the Thanksgiving holiday, my daughter and I were out in a mountain town called Tehachapi. Most of the tables were full, so I asked a couple if we could join them. They both seemed friendly and even moved to sit next to one another so we could have more room. 

While my daughter and I settled into our seats, I couldn't help but notice the tender way the man placed a napkin next to his wife's plate. He looked at her through eyes of love. It was apparent to me that they had a really connected relationship. I had to ask.

Jed was a ski bum without a care in the world till he was in his thirties. They met when he returned to California between ski seasons. Fate placed them together at a wedding, and the rest is history. Their marriage was tender, loving but it wasn't always that way. What most people don't understand is that we all have issues to work through. When we meet early in life, most of us haven't cleared up our abandonment and anger issues. Until we do, there are challenges within our relationships. 

Jed and Christine never forgot each other after their first meeting. When they saw each other a second time, they recognized the spark and connection. They worked through their issues to be where they are today. Jed's tenderness towards Christine used to be tainted with his large ego. He stopped having to be right all the time and having to have the last word. Christine's softness was a quality that Jed loved. She wasn't a shrew demanding what she wanted. They had weathered the storms of life and recognized that neither was forgettable. Jed didn't let Christine get away the second time around.

This couple told me their story. Actually, Jed told me their story. Christine was modest and smiled slightly while listening to her husband talk. There was no resentment or control between them. Christine didn't interject or correct Jed when he spoke. They thought about their past with love, rather than rancor. Couples that view their past through eyes of love have greater success than those who don't. 

Resentment and anger will kill a relationship. Control, fear, hatred and enabling are also major debilitating problems. Having these type of feelings about an ex will stop love in its tracks!

How To Communicate In Loving Ways

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Monday, November 28, 2016

3 Reasons you Need To See Moana

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

With a Thanksgiving opening next to Frozen, Moana is this year's kid's movie, with a strong message for adults. Not only does

Moana encompass a life journey with a purpose but teaches us powerful lessons as well. 
I won't ruin the movie for you, but I will tell you what you will get out of it.

3 Reasons To See This Movie

  1. It will leave you feeling inspired
  2. You will learn something about yourself
  3. Moana will help you follow your dreams 

Dwayne Johnson plays an ego-maniac, shape-shifting Demi-God very well opposite newcomer, Auli’i Cravalho, born and raised in Oahu, Hawaii. She was fourteen when she landed the role and just turned sixteen November 22nd. She was the last person to audition for the role. 

 Moana isn't your usual Disney damsel in distress movie. The movie is action packed with plenty of humor, adventure, danger, and empowerment. If you are searching for what's missing in your life, I suggest you take yourself to this movie, and soon.

Yes, Moana is a princess, with an over-protective loving father. Moana is fierce, driven and powerful. Remember, this is a Disney movie. The characters have human characteristics with enough humor packed between the lines to keep you interested, laughing, with a strong message.

While Moana's parents attempt to protect her from the dangers of the world beyond their reef, Moana recognizes her calling. Sometimes, our grandparents have a more relaxed view of the world than over-protective parents do and provide the guidance that parents miss when they are fearful.

A quick 2-minute trailer with sound:

The movie's message:

  • girls (women) are strong and powerful
  • women can succeed and be happy on their own - without a man
  • we all have gifts
  • most of us recognize our gifts as children, but parents often suppress them out fear
  • when we don't follow our heart, we are unhappy
  • you already have everything you need inside you
  • you don't need a crutch to succeed
  • trust your heart
  • when we have a calling, we have to listen
  • when we listen to others, we won't step into the void where magic happens
  • when our heart is missing, we are angry, spiteful and fearful of others - to the point of lashing out or blaming
  • when our heart is open and present, we are beautiful, loving and accepting
  • sometimes we have to go it alone, and that's okay

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Sunday, November 27, 2016

Creating Sacred Space For Peace and Harmony In Your Home

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Each person can create a feeling of peace, harmony, and sacredness in each room of their home. Our home is our sanctuary and place where we rest, meditate, sleep and make love. Each room in our home can be sacred with your intention and a few daily practices. 

If there is light in the soul,
there will be beauty in the person.
If there is beauty in the person, 
There will be harmony in the house.
If there is harmony in the house,
There will be order in the nation.
If there is order in the nation,
There will be peace in the world.
Chinese Proverb

Before your home can become a sacred place there must be order, cleanliness, and peace. Arguing, complaining and fighting in our homes leaves negative energy. When we begin to refrain from having arguments in our sacred places, there will be peace, tranquility. When we have tranquility and peace in our home, we sleep better; our relationships are smoother, and we feel happier. 

Set An Intention

Begin with an intention to clear anything unwanted, unruly or negative from all areas of your home. You can pray a prayer as you do your space clearing. Use something simple, so you remember as you clear your space.

"I release all that no longer serves my home and me."

"I clear and remove anything less than radiant love "

Space Clearing

Once your space is clean and free of clutter, you can begin to clear the energy. Several different methods can be used to clear energy. A brass bell is a powerful and clean way to clear negativity. 

Brass Bell or Chime
  1. Begin at the front of the house ringing the bell into the corners, closets and reaching high into the corners and ceiling. Most low vibrational energy will be low along baseboards and in corners, under beds and furniture.
  2. Ring the bell in the four corners of each room, high and low, moving toward the back of the house. You can open a door at the back of the house to let energy out that needs to leave.
  3. Move upstairs beginning at the front, moving into the back, letting negative energy out a balcony door or window.


Burning sage or cedar is a way that Native Americans have cleansed spaces and prepared for ceremonies for hundreds of years. Light the sage using a bowl to catch the ashes as they drop. Fan the flames into the corners, closets and along the baseboards, as you would use the bell. Open your door to usher out the negativity. Be sure to cleanse inside cabinets, microwaves and ovens. 

Sage has a pleasant smell. You can sage each person in the household and pets to clear negativity as well. For humans, lift arms and feet to sage under armpits and along each person's back, neck and above the head.

When clearing an animal with sage begin using the sage above their head and move to their tail. Be careful to catch falling embers so that you don't burn your pet. You may have to move with them, staying calm and peaceful in your mind. Animals often take on our stuff and need to be cleared as well. Cats absorb negativity, while dogs repel it. Dogs do their form of yoga - notice how often you see your dog do a down dog!

Candles, Incense and Meditation

Burning white candles and incense can shift and lighten energy as will prayers and meditation. 

I meditate in my bedroom and living room daily. This practice of mindfulness and stillness lifts the vibration in your home and can be felt by others. When we meditate in the same place each time, our body recognizes the energy and goes into stillness more readily. 

Creating An Altar

An altar can be something as simple as a statue of Buddha, Ganesha, with an incense burner or candle. You can add fresh petals or a small vase of flowers.

Flowers raise the vibration of a room immediately. Use fresh flowers, or silk, rather than plastic. Fresh flowers are preferable to artificial. If you have a garden cut flowers daily and bring them inside to increase the vibration of your home. 

Making Your Home Sacred

When we have a sacred place within our home, even if it is only one room, the harmony will begin to spread throughout. Keep your sacred place clean, tidy and orderly. Spirit and The Universe loves order. Pick up after yourself and put things in their rightful place. The more orderly your home is, the more orderly your mind naturally becomes. When there is order harmony happens naturally.

Each day, light your incense and candles before you meditate. You can use votive candles in small glass holders to keep the candles safe. Keep clutter picked up in the sacred places in your home. Before long you will recognize that this idea of sacred space and order feels so good you will want order everywhere!

Making your bedroom a sacred place will help deepen the sensual experience of your intimate relationship. 

Music To Raise Vibration

The sound OM is a powerful cleansing sound for our body-mind-spirit and our home. I have found several very high vibrational tracks to listen to in YouTube. Here is one I especially like. 

Creating Harmony Outdoors

Roses are the highest vibrating flower on our planet. Bamboo symbolizes fast growth and is very effective in raising vibration when the plant is kept healthy and vibrant. Bamboo also represents wealth and health. Other beautiful plants to use in your garden are herbs, perennials like Lavender, salvia, and Peonies. Peonies are the flower of love. Harnessing the beautiful fragrance of these flowers in essential oils will also raise the vibration of your home in a diffuser. 

A labyrinth is a fabulous way to create sacredness in your garden. Walking a labyrinth mindfully with a question can help you find your answer. There are labyrinths in public places, churches, and healing centers.

Feng Shui 

Feng Shui is the art of placement that the Chinese have used for thousands of years. Using Feng Shui in your home can bring harmony, love, and prosperity. The five elements and compass

directions are part of Feng Shui. Using Feng Shui in your bedroom can bring love in or keep it out, depending on the placement of furniture and pictures.

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Set up your private session with me to find your joy and happiness within. I help men and women find lasting happiness. 

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Happy Here, Happy Anywhere
The Step-By-Step Guide For Overcoming Depression, Anxiety and Unhappiness Without A Prescription!

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Saturday, November 26, 2016

3 Reasons You Shouldn't Worry About What Others Think

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Ariel with her PURPLE hair not listening to the opinions of others

The problem with the opinions of others is that everyone has one and they aren't yours. Listening to what others think about you will diminish your power and self-esteem. 

So many people along the way, whatever it is you aspire to do, will tell you it can’t be done. But it all it takes is imagination. You dream. You plan. You reach.”― Michael Phelps

Women worry about what others think about the way they dress, do their makeup, fix their hair and the way their children behave. We believe that everyone connected with us reflects negatively or positively on us. Worrying about what others think will make you feel insecure, unattractive and self-conscious. The following reasons should compel you to give other's opinions a pass and focus on how you feel instead.

1. No one knows how you feel but you. When we listen to what others think about us, we doubt ourselves and therefore change ourselves to please other people. Pleasing others isn't authentic. We are happiest when we are completely authentic, standing in our personal power. It is one thing to be kind and compassionate toward others and an entirely different subject when we give our power over to someone who has strong opinions about the way we think, talk or behave.

2. It's not someone else's job to like us, it's ours. Living in our heart rather than our head, trusting what our heart speaks to us rather than believing what our mind says, will help us be softer, kinder to ourselves. When we listen to our heart, we are powerful, intuitive and grounded. Our heart speaks a wisdom of certainty and truth for us. When we worry about what others think of us, we short-circuit the wisdom of our heart and believe what our mind thinks.

3. It is not your business to worry about what someone else thinks about you. Making the thoughts of others your concern will take you down a long spiral of negativity, or worry, and taking care of others. The only person you can control is you. So let go of the burden of trying to please others and focus on how you feel

Wear what makes you feel good. Dress for yourself, wear makeup to make yourself feel good. Wear your hair the way you like it rather than attempting to please someone else. Stop worrying about what is in fashion, and wear what pleases you.

Once we stop worrying about what others think about us life becomes lighter, happier and less burdensome. Be the best you that you can be rather than attempting to fulfill the needs of some other person by trying to please them. 

If I listened to what others thought I wouldn't have:

  • trusted my Guidance
  • gotten divorced
  • moved to the US over thirty years ago away from my toxic parents
  • become a Georgia Master Gardener
  • had a profitable landscape business working with Hispanic men for 11 years
  • flown to India in 2009
  • had a baby at 41 (daughter Ariel)
  • colored my daughter's hair purple after her father died (then pink, then turquoise)
  • trusted my instinct and moved to Boulder, Co in 2011
  • become a Hypnotherapist and energy healer
  • taken a trip to Bali in 2010
  • written books
  • started a blog
  • quit my day job to become a full-time coach and healer
  • moved to California where I have peace, tranquility and easily afford a house, paid off my car and began to make really great money
  • walked and then danced in the desert every day
  • dated a man 
  • taken in four kittens someone dumped in the desert
  • adopted Karma, my dog 16 years ago
  • drive back and forth from California to Boulder five times a year where I feel tremendous joy and receive great inspiration during the drive and while in Colorado
  • walk to the beat of my drum, being authentically me, happy, fulfilled and peaceful

Live your life with compassion, kindness, mindfulness and awareness. Notice how you feel inside. Breathe deeply to ground and bring yourself fully into your body and the present moment. Living in this moment rather than worrying about the future with others will leave a lot of room for fun, spontaneity and happiness.

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Jennifer Elizabeth Masters learned her lessons through experience. She brings her life's wisdom to her sessions. She became a seeker at the age of sixteen. Through her personal healing of depression, anxiety, Fibromyalgia, abuse, co-dependence has given her great compassion and understanding of your issues, allowing her to get to the root of your problems quickly without judgment.

If you are ready to commit to being happier in relationships, attract the love you long for and heal the broken feeling inside you, Jennifer's the one to empower you, as she has been there and done it and knows how to help you on your road to bliss, joy and fulfillment.

Friday, November 25, 2016

15 Reasons Not To Walk Down The Aisle With Him

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Vera Wang Wedding Dress

Divorce statistics are staggering. According to The Huffington Post, thirty percent of women marry the wrong guy. I was one of them. 

We dream of our perfect wedding day, walking down the aisle, to marry the man we will be happy with until the day we die. Yet for thirty percent of women, they know before they walk down the aisle that they are making a terrible mistake. Why do women tie the knot anyway?

Women continue to make plans and get married for the following reasons:

  • They feel marriage will magically fix any problem.
  • They feel their biological clock is ticking
  • Better this guy than no one.
  • They feel if it doesn't work, "I can always get a divorce."

Women are unsure what they feel is true. They focus on the future, thinking things will be different, when....They explain away the red flags. The wedding plans are already in motion and they don't want to be embarrassed by calling it off. The truth is that divorce has a higher cost than a wedding both financially and emotionally even before children are present. Here are my tried and true 15 reasons not to marry the guy:

1. You have caught him in lies repeatedly. Someone who lies habitually will continue to lie after marriage. Some liars are sociopaths and never change. Lying can be addictive and something that becomes a compulsion. A marriage built without trust is not a marriage of longevity. You can't build a happy marriage without trust. People rarely change. Hoping your relationship will be different after you marry is a fantasy. What you see is what you get. End it!

2. You are marrying his potential. Marrying a guy's potential is a mistake. We can hope a guy will reach the potential we see in him, but banking on it is a mistake. By thirty a predominant part of our personality is formed in stone. In Me Myself And Us The Science of Personality And The Art of Well-Being   by Brian R. Little, by the time we are thirty, we are pretty set in our ways. There is a very strong genetic component as well that contributes to who we are. 

Thinking a guy will be different after marriage is delusional. Think of what you have now as the best of the best. Most people succumb to the humdrum of life and settle in, relax into the mundane of life and feel they are set now that they've got you.

3. He is terrible in bed. Selfishness in bed translates to someone who is not generous and only interested in themselves. A guy who isn't selfless in bed will continue to be so after marriage. A guy who isn't interested in pleasuring you till you orgasm before marriage is unlikely to transform after you walk down the aisle. 

True story: Rachel and Wes had been dating for five years. They were engaged for one. When Rachel expressed that she wasn't getting to orgasm and that she needed more from him, Wes told her, "I'm good!" He wasn't interested in learning how to pleasure Rachel to the point of orgasm. He felt as long as he ejaculated that was enough. A guy who states he doesn't want to learn anything new, or change his skill set isn't marriage worthy. He is exhibiting a high level of selfishness and ego that won't change after marriage. END IT, SAVE THE YEARS OF MISERY.  

She did! Rachel recognized that her pleasure was just as important as Wes's and it is! She ended their five year relationship because she realized Wes wouldn't change. He didn't value her enough to give her the pleasure he was getting.

4. He won't try what you suggest in bed. In spite of what some men think, women aren't just guys with vaginas. A woman's sexual needs are different than a guy's. It takes on average twenty to forty minutes for a woman to warm up to be able to orgasm. If your guy lasts two minutes and says, "I'm done," he isn't doing his job. Both parties need to receive pleasure to the point of orgasm (unless a man is holding his seed).

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5. He makes it only about himself. Narcissists can be alluring and even seductive. However, one of the most difficult relationships we can have is when partnered with a narcissist. Narcissists will not take responsibility for their actions because they believe they are never wrong. They will make you feel crazy because they manipulate to get what they want and will never apologize because they never feel they are wrong. DON'T DO IT, YOU WILL BE ENDLESSLY SORRY YOU DIDN'T END THIS NIGHTMARE BEFORE MARRIAGE.

6. His past is sketchy. If a guy won't speak about his past, consider this a huge red flag not to be ignored. A person's past often dictates their future. Morals are learned at home; if his father was a philanderer and he cheated on his ex he will probably cheat on you.

7. You had an affair with him when he was married previously. An ill-begotten relationship will end the way it began, with him cheating on you with another woman. 

8. He has a different faith than you. If you believe in something and he doesn't you will have challenges throughout your relationship with issues other than faith. 

9. He doesn't have a job and isn't looking. Marrying someone who isn't working or looking is a serious issue. Do you plan on doling out money and alimony after your marriage ends to continue supporting him? A man's character is evident in the way he lives his life. Choose a man who works and is responsible and self-supporting. Someone who is unemployed and irresponsible now will probably also be in the future. 

10. He has anger issues that he can't control. Anger present before marriage will be present afterward. Marriage isn't the magic potion that eradicates a person's personality and issues. Anger present prior to marriage will only get worse. 

I married a man who had anger issues. Each time, he promised he would be different. He punched holes in walls and sometimes in me. His father had anger issues, his brother committed murder. He was a spiritual man who tried everything to release the anger. He died an angry man. 

Anger is a serious issue that doesn't go away. It takes years of committed work to heal and release anger, for others there is never any change.

11. He whines and complains. Whining is a sign of a closet homosexual or someone hiding their homosexuality. Don't get me wrong, I have nothing against people choosing to play for their own team, just don't marry someone who isn't attracted to women, this will never change. 

I married a man who hid his homosexuality because he was raised Baptist. He couldn't admit he was gay even to himself. After six months of marriage, he stopped having sex with me. Read my article Men Who Hide Their Homosexuality And Marry A Straight Woman. 

12. He's unhappy with life. Marriage will not make someone happy that isn't. Your love won't make him any happier after you marry him. Don't do it!

I recently dated a man who was well-paid, drove a really nice car and lived in a beautiful home, but he was miserable. When I told him I was manifesting something wonderful he peed in my Cheerios. He was a naysayer who poo-pooed everything I said and did. Someone who is unhappy will make you unhappy as well. 

Don't marry someone that isn't happy with himself and life. JEM

13. Your core values aren't in alignment. When our core values aren't in alignment we don't speak the same language. Marriage is difficult enough when two people are on the same page, singing the same tune. When we don't have the same core values we disagree about having and raising children, which church to go to and what our beliefs are. If you don't know what your core values are now, find out here.  5 Reasons You Need To Know Your Core Values

14. He has an addiction. Addictions are serious business. It can take a lifetime and longer for some people to decide they want to be clean. Addictions are dark with a deep-seated self-hatred. People who hate themselves are very difficult to have relationships with. The expression, "Once an Addict Always An Addict," came from the truth that addictions can last longer than a lifetime. 

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I have heard countless women tell me, "He's not an alcoholic he only drinks beer!" I have a neighbor who only drinks beer, but drinks sixteen tall boys a night. It doesn't matter if his addiction is pot, acid, porn, masturbation, cocaine, heroin, beer, wine or hard alcohol. 

An addiction is an addiction. It takes many years of dedication, courage, hard work, and stick-to-iveness to overcome any addiction. Once an addict is clean the anger and emotions are the next biggest challenge. A rejection of the self and lack of self-love is the core of any addiction. Your love can't cure him. Set him free and work on your issues of enabling instead. 

15. You are fighting often before marriage. Thinking someone will be different and more to your liking after marriage is a fantasy. Where else are you in denial about the truth? Marriage doesn't make a relationship easier, it is often much more difficult after you tie the knot than before. 

Marriage isn't a magic potion. Marriage is a certificate on paper that makes it legal for you to be together, that is all. In many instances as soon as the wedding is over couples recognize they have made a terrible mistake. When brides focus on the wedding, they forget what the marriage is beyond the one day of bliss. A wedding lasts one day, a marriage can be for years and a lifetime if you are really lucky and work diligently on your issues, growing together. 

A marriage doesn't mean the work is over, in fact the hardest part is yet to come. Once you hit the two-year mark people settle into being more authentic. Often the masks come off an one or both are shocked to find they married someone they didn't know at all. 

Are you searching for happiness? Jennifer is your personal empowerment and REALATIONATIONSHIP coach that empowers, cheers and guides you to be the best you that you can be! When you are authentic, living in your power and mastery, happiness flows!

Jennifer Elizabeth Masters  is a wise and soulful healer, coach and hypnotherapist, who sees the root of people's issues and empowers her clients to grow, expand and be their authentic selves to live happier and more fulfilling lives. She assists clients in relationships, happiness, and dating issues helping her clients business make healthy decisions that make sense and are for their highest and best good. Ask her a question or choose to be empowered by setting up your free discovery session to live a guilt-shame free life of joy. 

Thursday, November 24, 2016

What To Remember This Thanksgiving

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Thanksgiving in Georgia with son Adam circa 2009

For so many families of divorce, holidays mean a time of separation by distance, rather than love. Gratitude is part of my daily practice, but Thanksgiving is the day I wake up writing a post about all that I am grateful for before I even open my eyes. Of all the holidays that we celebrate in the United States, Thanksgiving is my favorite holiday for so many reasons. 

I love Thanksgiving as it is a time for our family to come together and share stories, love and be
Adam, David, and Bill Gates with me in Colorado hiking
together without the pressure of gift-giving. This year it is just my daughter, Ariel, who recently graduated from culinary school and I. my sons are with their father in Connecticut. We still share warm phone calls and humor over the phone lines. 

My daughter flew in yesterday from Colorado for the first time in eighteen months. We see each other at least five times a year, but usually in Colorado. Today we will cook together and laugh about the different ways we do things. Rather than me telling her how to cook, the way my mother did, I allow her to express her creativity. When I allow Ariel to be herself, I get the best of her, rather than a suppressed version of herself. She may be my birth daughter, but she couldn't be more different than me if she were adopted. I have to remember her way of communicating love is different than mine. My daughter feels happiest when she is shining her light out in the world, making a difference. 

No matter how ingrained some things are for me about methodology and recipes, I allow Ariel to cook the way she wants to rather than following my lead. The more we allow our family to be themselves, rather than the people we wish them to be, the more joy that we experience being together. 

Thanksgiving is a time to remember the people who have left us and can't be seen at our tables, remembering our past lives together, and their contributions big and small. 

Ariel, David and Jennifer in Colorado 
Thanksgiving reminds us of what we have and what is important, as we look around our tables at those we love and how important they are to us. Whether you dine with friends or eat alone here are some things to mull over today more than any day of the year.

From the time I wake up Thanksgiving day, it is a day of reverence, gratitude for all I have and all I receive. Following is my list of things I am grateful. You can use mine to build your own if you wish. Enjoy your day together today. Remember to take a walk outdoors after eating to enjoy each other away from the football games and noise. Revel in the beauty of nature breathing in love and exhaling gratitude. 

Gratitude fills our heart with love and allows us to recognize all
that we have. The more grateful for what we have now, the more we open to receive. Gratitude is an expression of love. Even if you don't feel loved or loving, gratitude will help you open our hearts and begin the process of being more loving.

Here's my list:

  1. I am so grateful to be alive today.
  2. I am grateful for my vibrant health.
  3. I am grateful for the lessons I have learned and continue to learn in the process of life.
  4. I am grateful for my trust in myself and The Universe.
  5. I am grateful for my children, Adam, David and Ariel and how our relationships have shifted over the years to be more open, expressive and vulnerable.
  6. I am grateful that Ariel overcame so much (including the death of her father) and graduated from one of the best culinary schools in the US.
  7. I am grateful for my friends.
  8. I am grateful for my clients their expansion, growth, acceptance and how their relationships have become more loving and allowing.
  9. I am grateful for the rain we've had in the desert this week.
  10. I am grateful for my home, my pets and my life.
  11. I am so grateful that I have work that I love to do that fulfills me and helps so many others.
  12. I am grateful to be able to give back.
  13. I am grateful for nature, it's beauty and every changing landscape.

  14. I am grateful for the abundance of food, fruit, and vegetables that grow so close to my home.
  15. I am grateful that nothing stays the same.
  16. I am grateful to have moved beyond depression, anxiety, and illness. 
  17. I am grateful for the food on my table and money in the bank.
  18. I am grateful that I can pay my bills on time.
  19. I am grateful for those who show up to help me grow my business. 
  20. I am grateful for my neighbor who takes care of my beloved pets while I travel. 
  21. I am grateful for my brothers and their support throughout my life.
  22. I am grateful for the forgiveness of others towards me and my ability to forgive those that have hurt me in the past.
  23. I am grateful to feel happy, blissful and know that life is sweet when we believe it is.
  24. I am grateful or the wisdom, discernment, and Guidance I receive.
  25. I am grateful for my body that is healthy, vibrant and able to do what I want it to.
  26. I am grateful to sleep peacefully at night.
  27. I am grateful to wake up and feel safe in my home and town. 
  28. I am grateful to have a car that is paid off; that runs well.
  29. I am grateful for all that I have learned and continue to learn that leads to further expansion.
  30. I am grateful for the magic in my life.
  31. I am grateful for me.
  32. I am grateful that you show up and read my blog and get a suggestion, or tidbit that helps you feel better or inspired for your life.
  33. I am grateful for the Universe, my Divine, the sun, moon, stars, planet earth and our entire galaxy. 
  34. I am grateful for laughter as a great source of healing for us all.
  35. I am grateful for love.
Jennifer Elizabeth Masters  is a wise and soulful healer, coach and hypnotherapist, who sees the root of people's issues and empowers her clients to grow, expand and be their authentic selves to live happier and more fulfilling lives. She assists clients in business growth and decisions that make sense and are for their highest and best good. Ask her a question or choose to be empowered by setting up your free discovery session to live a guilt-shame free life of joy. 

Monday, November 21, 2016

10 Common Mistakes Scientifically Proven to Prevent Happiness and Great Health

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

I am fascinated by the progress people make when going through my coaching program. I have witnessed people going from depressed and anxious to happy, thriving and peaceful!

There are choices you make every day that seems to be totally unrelated to happiness and health. Even when the emphasis is on something other than happiness, they end up feeling happier and are healthier for the following reasons.

1. Avoiding Social Connections and Community Ties. Having strong social and family ties with deep meaningful conversations has been scientifically proven to aid in being healthier and happier. When we have strong friendships we live longer. We all need a sense of belonging. Humans were meant to be social. We weren't meant to work in a little cubicle by ourselves and go home alone spending the evening in front of the television. 

There are many ways we can break into social circles. We can join a hiking group, a bowling league or sign up for an exercise class in our community. When someone asks you out for a coffee or bottle of water afterward, say, yes, instead of no. If you have fears of social interactions, a group might be the best way to break out of your old behavior of shunning social activities. Attend your office party. Go out for lunch with co-workers once a week or more. 

In Okinawa, Japan, people have an exceptional life span because of their sense of community. Each person is treated like family and enjoys social interaction, with young people, pre-school children, and happy social interactions with their own age group as well.

Do you think you can't heal yourself? Read Mind Over Medicine by Lisa Rankin and see for yourself. 

2. Thinking Your Chair Is Your Friend. When we sit all day every day, our heart isn't being taxed and exercised. When we do get up to move around, our body is stiff from a lack of movement. 

Sitting all day and going home to watch television can be deadly. Those in a study of 240,000 who watched the most television had the highest risk of mortality rate. 

3. Not Tapping Into Your Creativity. Everyone is creative. Whether you cook, dance, paint, write mold or bake tapping into our creative parts of ourselves expands and delights us. Our greatest source of joy comes from being creative. Art helps us relieve stress so says Harvard University. So get your paint on, or baking on! Just do it! 

4. Not Stopping To Breathe. Those with the lowest sense of self-esteem hold their breath and breathe shallowly. Breathing improves your quality of life. Deep breathing expands our lungs increasing blood flow and oxygenation of the blood. Meditation and mindfulness reduce stress and anxiety. Deep breathing also affirms life. I can't say enough about taking deep breaths and breathing consciously until you do it automatically. 

5. Not Getting Outside Daily. There is well-documented evidence that staying inside is unhealthy. There are so many benefits of nature. Yesterday, I was exhausted. After working seven days in a row on clients I wanted to just lay around all day. I felt funky and lethargic. Getting outside just as the sun was getting down I felt enlivened, invigorated and renewed, even though it was a rainy, dreary cold California day. 
Adventure therapy can promote weight loss and improve mood at the same time! 

Being outside can naturally cleanse your energy field, improve mental illness, self-esteem and help you feel happier. I bet you feel better just looking at these photos, don't you?

6. Not Contributing Or Giving Back. We buy groceries, clothing and furnishings for ourselves as consumers. When we give back it makes us feel good. When we begin to create to help others is when we become soulful, contributing members of society, rather than takers. 

Cook for yourself rather than buy a meal out. Play a game with friends and families instead of watching a game or playing a game by yourself. Pick up trash in a park, on a beach or along the roadside that you didn't leave. 

“You give but little when you give of your possessions.It is when you give of yourself that you truly give.” ― Kahlil GibranThe Prophet

7. Believing you don't deserve or are worthy of love and happiness. Everyone deserves love and happiness. Thinking that you don't deserve it is faulty thinking. Thinking that you are too old, too _______ blocks love from finding you. It might have been programmed into your unconscious mind in early childhood. Our fear of being unworthy keeps us out of being connected and loved. Most of my single clients come to me feeling unworthy, this gets turned around very quickly in my sessions!

We might be afraid to allow others to see ourselves the way we are authentically. I understand this because I used to have deep shame. I couldn't be authentic because I was afraid that people wouldn't love me as I was. When we are able to be ourselves as we truly are, authentically and step forward in vulnerability changes our lives expanding our ability to love and be loved as we are. Connection is what brings us fulfillment and contentment. When we can allow ourselves to be seen as we are will deepen our connection and allows us to be loved completely. 

Whatever the reason, the work I do can help you. Worthiness is one of the things that happens when you begin to love yourself as you are. 

Brene´Brown has an excellent Ted Talk about shame and connection that will help you with her scientific knowledge and wisdom.

8. Thinking that a relationship is going to make you happy. Until we are happy with ourselves, we won't be happy with another person either. We will make the other person wrong, we will blame the other person when our stuff begins to come up. Until we love ourselves, we won't be able to receive the love from another person.

9. Not loving your job. When we work too much we are subject to coronary disease and depression. Working in a career we hate increases stress and unhappiness. When we hate our career we tend to eat to numb ourselves. When we eat sweets or consume drugs or alcohol to numb ourselves we also numb our joy. 

10. Mindless Eating. When we eat mindlessly in front of the television or at our desks we numb ourselves. Not only do we suppress what we might consider negative emotions, but we also suppress our happiness as well. When we eat unconsciously we consume more than we would if we ate with a friend. Mindless eating leads to obesity, depression and heart disease. Why we eat more than we think, is a great place to start. 

If you have the courage to love yourself with your whole heart but need the guidance to do so, I will help you be kind to yourself. I help you become compassionate and loving to you so that you can be completely authentic and open to receive love. I see the beauty in you and help you see it within yourself. Contact me now to see if my work is a good fit for you. 

Sunday, November 20, 2016

What is The Difference Between Being Conscious and Unconscious Spiritually?

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

It has been said that everyone is awake, we are just not aware of it. Can one really be conscious if we can't see it? The difference between being conscious and unconscious is an increased awareness of the aliveness of everything in our world and how we are supported in it. 

So do you choose the red pill or the blue pill? Either way, you come to the end of the road, one way will bring you happiness and bliss, the other endless suffering.

In the movie the Matrix, Neo has a choice between the red pill, reality, or the blue pill, illusion. Before awakening or being conscious, we live in illusion. We think things are a certain way because we can't see the truth. Once we take the red pill, the blinders come off and we recognize the signs in nature, our intuition and the way The Universe really works. 

We might begin to hear things in the news that we don't believe. We recognize that everything we hear isn't necessarily 100% true. We might hear a voice in our head telling us something, but we push it away and ignore it. 

The universe is always supporting us whether we see and believe it or not. Our intuition is there, guiding us whether we listen and act on it, or whether we shove it down and ignore it. 

We might drive down a road because we get a hit or gut feeling that we need to take a turn along a road we have never been on before. When we do, we might be looking for a home to rent that suits us perfectly and we are guided directly to a perfect home on the perfect piece of land we were imagining, only better!

Awakening is a gradual process for most people. We begin to notice a hawk flying overhead just as we get an amazing idea. We are able to see things from a very different perspective like a hawk does. The hawk is a guidepost along the road of life to show us we are headed in the best direction. Nature brings us signs that our prayers are answered or that we are moving in the best direction in many different ways.

Around 2002, I had a profound experience. I had gone against my husband's advice and mowed my friends' one-acre yard. It was right before Thanksgiving and they were expecting a crowd to celebrate. I took the job as it was paying cash and a favor to my friends. I had never been to their home before, as I had interacted with them on a professional basis, mowing and maintaining their business property in Atlanta. I maintained  both residential and commercial properties. 

I was beginning to believe my husband was right because I got three flat tires on my $10,000 Zero-radius mower. I ran over three metal pike flags that I couldn't see in the tall grass. I knew my mower would be out of commission for days and cost me more than half what I made on the mowing job. I was beginning to beat myself up for choosing to take the job when I had other things to do to prepare for Thanksgiving.

We Begin To Recognize We Are Guided

What happened on my way home, though made up for any loss. I got the feeling I should turn down a particular road that I had never been down. When I did, I found a 100-year old farm house for rent on seven acres surrounded by 100-year-old oak trees. There were beautiful rolling hills, pastures, room for horses and shade from the beautiful trees. The place had a barn to store my landscaping equipment and was idyllic.

Trusting my guidance and following it began to prove an easier way to live my life. I followed my gut feeling and found an incredible place that I could live following my divorce. I love old houses with character. This farm was an incredible find! A beautiful property with trees is more important to me than any house. This property had a lake at the back and a place to have horses for my daughter. The Universe had guided me to the perfect place, that I would never have found on my own. 

As we begin to wake from our slumber we recognize that inner voice is always operating for our highest and best good. When we follow the inner voice we are always rewarded. We might be directed to speak with a person, we might be Guided to apply for a particular job. Our internal guidance system is our God-given gift of insight. Following and learning to trust it is part of awakening.

Life Becomes Easier When We Trust The Process 

When we stop trying to control our environment and our world, life takes on a different hue. Instead of pushing with our energy, we begin to use Universal energy instead. When we allow things to unfold rather than attempting to make things happen, the outcome is so much more beneficial for all concerned.

Unconscious vs Conscious

When we are unconscious we don't notice the signs and take turns and twists that could be avoided. We make things hard for ourselves. We don't know that there is an easier way. We are unaware of the way we create our lives with our thoughts and feelings. 

We make ourselves sick, literally
with what we think and believe.

When we are unconscious, we eat to suppress our feelings. We tend to eat whatever we want without being aware of how our diet can damage or heal our bodies. We give our power away to doctors and health care practitioners expecting them to fix us with a pill. 

We use food, sex, alcohol or take drugs to mask our feelings, rather than feeling our feelings fully and allowing them to move through us. 

We act in self-destructive ways because we can't express our feelings constructively. 

We breathe shallowly because we don't feel worthy. When we begin to breathe deeply, we begin to affirm life in every breath and begin to live in the present moment. Everything is happening in the present. Connecting to the present is needed for awakening to occur. 

We blame others for the way we feel rather than taking responsibility for ourselves, our happiness and our world. We look for a job or relationship to make us feel happy, rather than looking inside for the answers to our deepest issues. 

We don't recognize that when we suppress our anger that simple act leads to depression. We look to a pill to fix something that we have done to ourselves. A pill is not a cure, but rather a band-aid that masks the real issue. 

We don't take responsibility for our happiness or our health and give it over to other people to take care of us. 

When we are unconscious we are doing, doing, doing. When we become conscious we stop pushing our energy to force things to happen, and we live in a state of being instead. When we stop forcing our energy we live in a state of allowing. 

A state of allowing is where we stop trying to control everyone in our lives and world, recognizing that there is a higher purpose to life than a rat race of education, work, children, and death.

Joy Is Our Natural State

When we feel sad or depressed, it is difficult to imagine a life of joy. But I promise you, as dark as my past has been being awake and aware brings you infinite joy. In fact, living a life of joy is what we are all meant to do. Joy is our natural state. By clearing the beliefs, patterns, and programs that limit you, the freedom to be joyful opens to you. 

We Are All In This Together

I had a beautiful friend that transitioned in 2012. Joanne Butler was and still is a beautiful soul, full of love, laughter, and joy. Joanne the closest thing to an angel that I have had the honor to know. She made my life so much brighter helping me to see that each of us has our part to play in the game of life. Her favorite phrase was, "We're all in this thing together!" 

We might not see it immediately, but each of us is part of the whole. We each have our job to do on this planet. Each of us is love at our core. When we recognize that life happens for the good of all and that no one is doing anything to us, we recognize the power of The Universe in everything that occurs. Others help us along our path by triggering us so that we can heal. 

Nothing Is An Accident

When we are asleep or unconscious we are unaware of the way that The Universe works. We think we are making things happen. We think we are in control of our lives. We don't realize that everything we have is given to us by The Divine and The Universe. When we wake up, we recognize how we can create more by aligning with Universal Flow and Divine Love. When we are in the complete state of allowing, aligned with the love within and outside of us we create miracles, bliss and magic become a way of life. 

As we begin to awaken and become conscious we recognize how our lives are orchestrated and that each event that occurs is for a reason. We are meant to learn something from our experiences so that we grow. Even having what we consider a bad or negative experiences, like trauma or abuse teaches us something and is for the good of our soul. 

We Create What We Expect

When we are unconscious we beat ourselves up with our thoughts and beliefs. We feel unworthy, have doubts, beliefs, and thoughts that cripple us. 

When we are conscious, we recognize that we create with our thoughts and expectations. When we begin to expect the best, it happens!

The Gift Of Choice

We are presented with choices. We can choose to experience something and move forward with a relationship or job or not. We can make the decision to not date, or marry a particular person and choose someone else instead. Each experience is to stretch us and make us grow. We are meant to learn, grow and expand. The experiences in our life are meant to teach us to be okay with whatever is going on and find ways to not let certain issues bother us. 

We Always Get What We Need

Once we take the red pill, like Neo did, there is no turning back. You won't want to. What do you choose? 

Like the Rolling Stones song, we don't get what we want, but we get what we need. We may want a new car or relationship, but if it hasn't happened yet, there is a reason. Perhaps you have a lesson to learn. Maybe you need to learn to be more conservative with spending. Or perhaps you don't lovingly accept yourself. The more loving we can be with ourselves, the better our life turns out. The bottom line is whether we are awake or asleep, we are supported by The Universe waiting for us to ask for assistance along the way.

Jennifer isn't just a coach. She is a multi-faceted powerful healer, hypnotherapist, NLP Practitioner and vibrational light worker that clears past patterns of negativity,
trauma, and abuse so that you can feel comfortable in your own skin, anxiety-free with a clarity and peaceful inner being so you can be happy with you. When you are happy with you everything in your life becomes one of ease and Grace. Happiness is within you; Jennifer helps you find it permanently.

Get your FREE 30-minute session with Jennifer to find out if her work is a good fit for you. Book your session with Jennifer right now and become happy with yourself and your life so you can attract a healthy high-quality relationship instead of someone who mistreats you.

 Jennifer is the author of three books, the latest is:

Happy Here, Happy Anywhere:

The Step-By-Step Guide To Overcoming Anxiety, Depression, and Unhappiness Without a Perscription!