Vaginal Rejuvenation For Incontinence And Greater Nerve Sensitivity

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Which cosmetic surgery has gone up 109% in the last few years? Labioplasty! Surgical restructuring of the labia, the outer lips of the vagina. There is another way that doesn't mean being cut with a knife, invasive surgery or long recovery time.

ThermiVa is a non-surgical procedure for internal and external use that tightens providing an anti-aging treatment for a more youthful, feminine vaginal area improving texture, tone, and moisture. 

Perimenopausal, and menopausal women may experience vaginal dryness, burning and a lack of sensitivity during intercourse. For many women, the dryness and lack of sensitivity can be so acute that they stop having sex because it is too painful.

Other women report that there is a lack of sensitivity which contributes to weakened orgasms or no orgasm at all. It may appear that these women don't like sex, when that isn't the case at all. Not feeling aroused is a big problem for post-menopausal women. It can seem like it takes forever to get turned on when natural hormone levels are very low.

Incontinence or leakage of urine when we sneeze, cough, laugh, ride horses run or jump on trampolines
is another issue that occurs later in life. Incontinence is a real problem that can have embarrassing results.

Vaginal reconstruction surgery is expensive and painful. Bladder surgery requires a recovery time and sometimes doesn't work. Surgery always has risks and bladder surgery carries many risks.

A newer and less invasive procedure ThermiVa utilizes laser technology. The TermiVa wand is about the thickness of your index finger. It feels warm to the touch but isn't painful. With no pain, this procedure allows the patient to return to work the same day and even have sex that day.

The Advantages

• no pain
• no surgery
• no recovery or downtime

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Over time, the results are greater. Three months after the procedure the tissues become softer and the impact is fully felt. The G-spot is targeted which becomes more sensitive. ThermiVa improves blood flow, collagen, lubrication, and helps to heal the nerves. With the nerve healing there is increased sensitivity from ThermiVa which allows some women to orgasm multiple times.

My friend visited a "Day of Beauty" at a local doctor's office and sent me the video links below. One of the women who had the procedure done reported that she had six orgasms right after! I told my friend, "Sign me up! That's what I want!" Six orgasms? Holy cow! We all need more pleasure in our lives and this is certainly one way to receive it. Instead of feeling numb and lifeless inside our beautiful feminine vagina we can feel young, alive and thriving. 

The procedure costs from $2,800 to $6,500 usually for three treatments. You may want to have a touch up once a year after the initial procedures. Incontinence issues are remedied without any invasive surgery or need for mesh.

Watch the following videos and listen to the testimonials from women who have had the procedure done. 

Jennifer Elizabeth Masters is a love and passion coach, helping women and men improve intimacy and their sex lives which improve their relationship. The happier you are with yourself, the happier you will be with your partner. Self-love is the cornerstone to any happy relationship. Send me a private e-mail to see how easy it is to feel happier, more lively, connected and joyful in all areas of your life. 

15 Reasons Not To Walk Down The Aisle With Him

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

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Divorce statistics are staggering. According to The Huffington Post, thirty percent of women marry the wrong guy. I was one of them. 

We dream of our perfect wedding day, walking down the aisle, to marry the man we will be happy with until the day we die. Yet for thirty percent of women, they know before they walk down the aisle that they are making a terrible mistake. Why do women tie the knot anyway?

Women continue to make plans and get married for the following reasons:

• They feel marriage will magically fix any problem.
• They feel their biological clock is ticking
• Better this guy than no one.
• They feel if it doesn't work, "I can always get a divorce."

Women are unsure what they feel is true. They focus on the future, thinking things will be different, when....They explain away the red flags. The wedding plans are already in motion and they don't want to be embarrassed by calling it off. The truth is that divorce has a higher cost than a wedding both financially and emotionally even before children are present. Here are my tried and true 15 reasons not to marry the guy:

1. You have caught him in lies repeatedly. Someone who lies habitually will continue to lie after marriage. Some liars are sociopaths and never change. Lying can be addictive and something that becomes a compulsion. A marriage built without trust is not a marriage of longevity. You can't build a happy marriage without trust. People rarely change. Hoping your relationship will be different after you marry is a fantasy. What you see is what you get. End it!

2. You are marrying his potential. Marrying a guy's potential is a mistake. We can hope a guy will reach the potential we see in him, but banking on it is a mistake. By thirty a predominant part of our personality is formed in stone. In Me Myself And Us The Science of Personality And The Art of Well-Being   by Brian R. Little, by the time we are thirty, we are pretty set in our ways. There is a very strong genetic component as well that contributes to who we are. 

Thinking a guy will be different after marriage is delusional. Think of what you have now as the best of the best. Most people succumb to the humdrum of life and settle in, relax into the mundane of life and feel they are set now that they've got you.

3. He is terrible in bed. Selfishness in bed translates to someone who is not generous and only interested in themselves. A guy who isn't selfless in bed will continue to be so after marriage. A guy who isn't interested in pleasuring you till you orgasm before marriage is unlikely to transform after you walk down the aisle. 

True story: Rachel and Wes had been dating for five years. They were engaged for one. When Rachel expressed that she wasn't getting to orgasm and that she needed more from him, Wes told her, "I'm good!" He wasn't interested in learning how to pleasure Rachel to the point of orgasm. He felt as long as he ejaculated that was enough. A guy who states he doesn't want to learn anything new, or change his skill set isn't marriage worthy. He is exhibiting a high level of selfishness and ego that won't change after marriage. END IT, SAVE THE YEARS OF MISERY.  

She did! Rachel recognized that her pleasure was just as important as Wes's and it is! She ended their five year relationship because she realized Wes wouldn't change. He didn't value her enough to give her the pleasure he was getting.

4. He won't try what you suggest in bed. In spite of what some men think, women aren't just guys with vaginas. A woman's sexual needs are different than a guy's. It takes on average twenty to forty minutes for a woman to warm up to be able to orgasm. If your guy lasts two minutes and says, "I'm done," he isn't doing his job. Both parties need to receive pleasure to the point of orgasm (unless a man is holding his seed).

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5. He makes it only about himself. Narcissists can be alluring and even seductive. However, one of the most difficult relationships we can have is when partnered with a narcissist. Narcissists will not take responsibility for their actions because they believe they are never wrong. They will make you feel crazy because they manipulate to get what they want and will never apologize because they never feel they are wrong. DON'T DO IT, YOU WILL BE ENDLESSLY SORRY YOU DIDN'T END THIS NIGHTMARE BEFORE MARRIAGE.

6. His past is sketchy. If a guy won't speak about his past, consider this a huge red flag not to be ignored. A person's past often dictates their future. Morals are learned at home; if his father was a philanderer and he cheated on his ex he will probably cheat on you.

7. You had an affair with him when he was married previously. An ill-begotten relationship will end the way it began, with him cheating on you with another woman. 

8. He has a different faith than you. If you believe in something and he doesn't you will have challenges throughout your relationship with issues other than faith. 

9. He doesn't have a job and isn't looking. Marrying someone who isn't working or looking is a serious issue. Do you plan on doling out money and alimony after your marriage ends to continue supporting him? A man's character is evident in the way he lives his life. Choose a man who works and is responsible and self-supporting. Someone who is unemployed and irresponsible now will probably also be in the future. 

10. He has anger issues that he can't control. Anger present before marriage will be present afterward. Marriage isn't the magic potion that eradicates a person's personality and issues. Anger present prior to marriage will only get worse. 

I married a man who had anger issues. Each time, he promised he would be different. He punched holes in walls and sometimes in me. His father had anger issues, his brother committed murder. He was a spiritual man who tried everything to release the anger. He died an angry man. 

Anger is a serious issue that doesn't go away. It takes years of committed work to heal and release anger, for others there is never any change.

11. He whines and complains. Whining is a sign of a closet homosexual or someone hiding their homosexuality. Don't get me wrong, I have nothing against people choosing to play for their own team, just don't marry someone who isn't attracted to women, this will never change. 

I married a man who hid his homosexuality because he was raised Baptist. He couldn't admit he was gay even to himself. After six months of marriage, he stopped having sex with me. Read my article Men Who Hide Their Homosexuality And Marry A Straight Woman. 

12. He's unhappy with life. Marriage will not make someone happy that isn't. Your love won't make him any happier after you marry him. Don't do it!

I recently dated a man who was well-paid, drove a really nice car and lived in a beautiful home, but he was miserable. When I told him I was manifesting something wonderful he peed in my Cheerios. He was a naysayer who poo-pooed everything I said and did. Someone who is unhappy will make you unhappy as well. 

Don't marry someone that isn't happy with himself and life. JEM

13. Your core values aren't in alignment. When our core values aren't in alignment we don't speak the same language. Marriage is difficult enough when two people are on the same page, singing the same tune. When we don't have the same core values we disagree about having and raising children, which church to go to and what our beliefs are. If you don't know what your core values are now, find out here.  5 Reasons You Need To Know Your Core Values

14. He has an addiction. Addictions are serious business. It can take a lifetime and longer for some people to decide they want to be clean. Addictions are dark with a deep-seated self-hatred. People who hate themselves are very difficult to have relationships with. The expression, "Once an Addict Always An Addict," came from the truth that addictions can last longer than a lifetime. 

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I have heard countless women tell me, "He's not an alcoholic he only drinks beer!" I have a neighbor who only drinks beer, but drinks sixteen tall boys a night. It doesn't matter if his addiction is pot, acid, porn, masturbation, cocaine, heroin, beer, wine or hard alcohol. 

An addiction is an addiction. It takes many years of dedication, courage, hard work, and stick-to-iveness to overcome any addiction. Once an addict is clean the anger and emotions are the next biggest challenge. A rejection of the self and lack of self-love is the core of any addiction. Your love can't cure him. Set him free and work on your issues of enabling instead. 

15. You are fighting often before marriage. Thinking someone will be different and more to your liking after marriage is a fantasy. Where else are you in denial about the truth? Marriage doesn't make a relationship easier, it is often much more difficult after you tie the knot than before. 

Marriage isn't a magic potion. Marriage is a certificate on paper that makes it legal for you to be together, that is all. In many instances as soon as the wedding is over couples recognize they have made a terrible mistake. When brides focus on the wedding, they forget what the marriage is beyond the one day of bliss. A wedding lasts one day, a marriage can be for years and a lifetime if you are really lucky and work diligently on your issues, growing together. 

A marriage doesn't mean the work is over, in fact the hardest part is yet to come. Once you hit the two-year mark people settle into being more authentic. Often the masks come off an one or both are shocked to find they married someone they didn't know at all. 

Are you searching for happiness? Jennifer is your personal empowerment and REALATIONATIONSHIP coach that empowers, cheers and guides you to be the best you that you can be! When you are authentic, living in your power and mastery, happiness flows!

Jennifer Elizabeth Masters  is a wise and soulful healer, coach and hypnotherapist, who sees the root of people's issues and empowers her clients to grow, expand and be their authentic selves to live happier and more fulfilling lives. She assists clients in relationships, happiness, and dating issues helping her clients business make healthy decisions that make sense and are for their highest and best good. Ask her a question or choose to be empowered by setting up your free discovery session to live a guilt-shame free life of joy. 

Orgasm For Life: Moving Mountains and Women - One and The Same

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Moving Mountains and Women - One And The Same

It may seem you have to move a mountain to please a woman. Most women need to have certain criteria to be met before having sex. They need to feel secure, safe and have trust in their man. Women need romance, soft candle light, music at the very least. Women need to be appreciated and thrive on romantic dinners, gifts, or flowers and to be told that they are beautiful. 

Women need to be stress-free, or they can’t let go. Their man could be pounding them like there is no tomorrow while she is focused on all the laundry that needs to be folded, the school lunches that need to be made or counting ceiling tile. She might even mentally write

her grocery list while you are yelling “Yes! Yes Yes!” Women stress about what has not been completed and will think about those things during sex. 

Women need to be told that they taste good and smell even better. Most of us are very sensitive regarding vaginal odor and won’t feel comfortable having oral sex if there is any doubt. Women need to have their head in the game, or their sexual experience will not give them the pleasure or stimulation to get them all the way to orgasm.

Women want their partners to be clean, fresh from a shower. Expecting a woman to give you a blow job when your balls smell like musty mushrooms or sweat can be your signature odor, but won’t win you mind-blowing sex. Seriously! Would you go down on yourself if you smelled that bad? Everything you eat goes through your body. Even down to your balls. Garlic, onions, and other strong smelling foods make your balls smell like yesterday’s leftovers. Note to self, “Must shower before sex!” (This is true for both men and women.)

We love men for how easily they can be turned on. We love that we can get you to come with such ease, most of the time. The joke that men only have enough blood supply to run one brain at a time is true. When men get turned on, they easily turn off all thoughts of work, the car needing an oil change or what time they have to be up for work the next day. Most men are very easy to please. We love that about you. We often wish we could be more like you.

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Orgasm For Life: Preface

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

From my second book, Orgasm For Life

Run your fingers through my soulFor once, just once feel exactly what I feel, Believe what I believe,
Perceive what I perceive, Look, experience, examineAnd for once, just onceTruly understand
-Unknown

Women need a reason to have sex. Men just need a place. Billy Crystal

Preface

Forget what you have ever heard. Forget whatever you have ever been taught. Most of what you have learned thus far have your balls gripped in a vise and twisted. For those of you without testicles, you have spent far too long repenting those you have slept with and regretting the ones you let get away. 

Your life is about to change profoundly on a very personal level.
Religion and society have molded, groomed and programmed us to behave a certain way. When we move beyond the middle road of life, our palms begin to sweat, and our conscience pulls us back from living a life outside the “normal limits” of society. We see a stray sheep now and then living a life beyond our programming and conditioning. We wonder what it might feel like to not care what society thinks. Our morals and other societal limitations for the extraordinary keep us in check. Instead, we find ourselves skirting middle age and beyond, without ever having touched the thrill of sex standing up in an antique store or other public places. These are only fantasies, hopes or dreams we sometimes read about. 

Memories of sex under the Eiffel Tower in Paris and the first class section of a DC-8, for most “normal” people, don’t exist. Most of us only dream about outlandish or outrageous behavior that might get us thrown off a public airline. There are those who push the limits, who experience wide-eyed wonder in their lives. We see these players and characters in movies and imagine what life would be like to be them, if only for a moment.

We find ourselves as adults with children and responsibilities that further bog us down, yet create more mundane, but pleasant events. We love our families but long for the thrill of the stomach-dropping roller coaster ride, minus the vomit, which unbridled free sexual expression can give us.

Life is supposed to be pleasure-filled. Do we approach middle-age wondering where it is? For all our back-breaking, nose-to-the-grindstone years we have endured, it seems that the pleasure has been wrung out of our sexual experiences. We read about it in books or watch it on a movie screen. We live in an “On Demand” society. We desire instant gratification. We want mind blowing sex with multiple orgasms that leave us wishing we smoked, so we could experience the post coitus inhalation, then fling ourselves onto our dampened pillows, panting “OH MY GOD!”

Why isn’t it happening in your life right now? We confuse pleasure with entertainment.  We focus on what we don’t have. We think longingly of the guy, or girl back in the 80’s with the great ass, then wonder why we didn’t fuck them right then. 

Screw regret. Life is too short to spend half of it wishing wistfully for something we don’t have, and the other half wishing we had the guts to do what we didn’t do. The more we focus on our regrets, the more regrettable moments we have.

We know that happy people do extraordinary things. Depressed people rarely astound anyone. We live in a rat race of work, errands, then death. Life is over before we know it. Sometimes we see people younger than ourselves dying before their time. I am writing this book to light a firecracker under your ass, to catapult you out of your easy chair, away from your remote. You have the power to consciously create more joy and pleasure in your life rather than watching it pass you by from the sidelines. Life will be over before you know it. Wouldn’t you rather have a memory of making love in the ocean off the coast of Bermuda, remembering your life as one that was lived passionately? 


Durex Sex Survey 2013

Over 50% are dissatisfied with their bedroom escapades.80% of women fake orgasm over 50% of the time.
26% of women fake it every time.
28% of men fake orgasm.
35% orgasm every time they have sex.
40% of women have some sexual dysfunction.
10% of women never have orgasms.
37% have also said they hardly ever, or never, "cross the finish line" at the same time as their partner.
65% of American adults have gotten hot 'n' heavy in a car. 35% have taken more than a dip in a pool and 31% have bared it all on a beach.
65% daydream about making love more often outside of the bedroom.
According to Luann Brizandine - Author of The Female Brain, men think of sex every 52 seconds, while women only think of sex an average of once a day.

You know "that look" women get when they want sex? Me neither. Steve Martin

Chapter One

The Best Orgasm For Your Life

An orgasm is about letting go, complete surrender. Gripping the window ledge of life with your fingertips, hanging on for dear life in fear and shame does not get you to the big “O.” It might, however, get you acid reflux, hypertension and heart attacks.We

have the best sex when we are “all in.” When our mind, body and soul are completely engrossed and engulfed in the sexual and emotional experience. 

Great, expansive orgasms are best appreciated and enjoyed with someone that we connect with and love deeply. The best sex we have happens when we are totally in the moment, experiencing the infinite feelings of taste, touch, and pleasure. Our experience is heightened when we can relax and let go, shut out the world, totally engrossed in the sexual experience, connected on all levels with your partner. Here is where pleasure, ecstasy, union of mind-body-spirt take sex to a much higher level. It is no wonder we often yell, “Oh God! Oh God! Oh God!” when experiencing intense, unbridled pleasure. 

When we experience the dissolving of barriers and walls through orgasm, we reach an experience that can only be expressed as an altered state. This is where we experience something greater than we are. Losing control and letting go can take us to a place that feels like we touched something greater than ourselves. A fragment of enlightenment crosses into our consciousness that is unparalleled in intensity or depth of feeling. It is no wonder that men have killed for it, women have died for it: sex is an intensely gratifying and wondrous experience.The purpose of this book is to help the millions of people worldwide who want to increase intimacy, pleasure and improve their sex lives, but don’t know where to begin. Most people want more information so they can understand themselves better, as well as their partner’s desires and needs. 

Great sex can help a relationship last a lifetime. Statistics show that those relationships which have a strong sexual attraction to deeply connected sex are healthier and last longer. People who have sex regularly touch each other more often, enjoying deeper intimacy. Both reinforce the love between a couple. Humans need touch. When we stop having sex, we seldom touch each other. Instead of snuggling at night, we may sleep apart. We are more apt to notice our partner’s faults, argue and complain about our partner’s behavior. 

Saying YES to sex means saying YES to love, ultimately more happiness, with greater well-being. Saying NO turns women into bitches, it sends our men out the door to have sex with their co-workers and tennis buddies. There is always someone who will say, YES! Why can’t it be YOU?

No matter what your sexual preference is, there is guidance on some level for everyone. Being heterosexual, my focus was directed towards the intricacies of male-female physical challenges and communication. I have respect for all genders and sexual preferences. I have interviewed hundreds of men and women, lesbian, gay and straight to understand the many challenges and differences between us. 

Many women I know stop having sex in their fifties. They have stopped having sex because it was not fulfilling. They didn’t have orgasms and their husbands and lovers didn’t seem to know. Many felt that their partner’s did not care. This is just sad. Many women are disheartened, like I was, about the sex they have had. Just because we have sexual body parts does not mean we know how to make love to another. Or even with ourselves. 

Many of us need help. Sex can improve as you get older, with some guidance and understanding. Men need education, understanding, and patience with us women. Women too need to have better understanding of the male psyche and how it feels to be rejected when we are not in the mood. With new knowledge and understanding, more women will be satisfied and happier. 

Stay riveted for more Orgasm For Life....  this is just the beginning of Chapter One. Buy the book now and keep your sexual encounters hot, passionate and connected. Set up your private coaching session with Jennifer. 

I am committed to help women heal their lives and love themselves fearlessly. Fearless living and loving is our birthright. I help women heal their sexuality as it is a part of who we are. If you don't love yourself enough to have sex with your partner, there are self-esteem issues involved. Loving relationships involve sex, compassion, acceptance, loving touch, appreciation, respect and trust. 

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Focus On This One Thing and Change Everything!

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

When I was disconnected from myself, insecure and feeling small there was one thing that I wasn't doing. When I discovered what it was, everything in my world shifted. Doing this one thing not just daily, but hourly I stopped being flaky, ungrounded and became fully present in the NOW.

What could be so powerful that it changes everything from physiology to being completely grounded in the present? Breath. You might think you are breathing. However, if you are holding your breath much of the time, or barely breathing you are missing the boat on something very profound and life-changing. 

Since I healed my own insecurity and low self-esteem, I breathe with purpose. I breathe with consciousness. I focus on deep breathing. When I sit in meditation daily even though I use a mantra in the background of my mind (silently) I am focused on breathing deeply. 

What Does Deep Breathing Do?

To help you understand what deep breathing does for you, I have to first explain what shallow breathing creates. 

Shallow Breathing

When you are barely breathing, holding your breath when you witness your breath, or lay on a practitioner's table or even at bed before sleep shows how little you value you. Shallow breathing is barely living. Over time this shallow breathing will cause COPD, your lungs to shrink and become ineffective. You may end up on oxygen - which is counter productive. Oxygen is available to you in the air outside as well as inside your home. 

Shallow breathing does not affirm life. Shallow breathing affirms a slow death. It means you don't value you. You feel insignificant and unworthy. This is what I help my clients with since I healed it myself. I understand your issues. I have been there.

Affirm Life

When you begin to breathe deeply you affirm life. You are telling The Divine, Source Energy, The Universe that you are important. You have value and that you love yourself. 

Give Your Lungs A Workout

Expand your lungs when you breathe. Breathe in deeply filling your lungs as much as you can. Once your lungs feel full to capacity take another deep breath, hold your breath for four seconds, then exhale SLOWLY. Expanding your lung capacity with regularity will expand your life. Each deep breath you take affirms life. You are showing The Universe that you value yourself, and so you should. 

Shallow breathing shrinks lung capacity. Like any muscle, a lack of use leads to atrophy and infective lungs. We need to give our lungs a workout and expand the capacity several times a day. You have most likely been breathing shallowly for decades. Changing this habit will take practice, every day. Focus on your breath when you sit and listen to your family members tell you about their day. 

The Magic Of Breath

Breathing deeply does so many powerful and transformative things for you. You will begin to have much more energy. You won't tire so quickly. Your skin will look alive and have better color. The biggest thing that deep breathing does is bring you into the present, but it also increases levels of serotonin. Best of all air is FREE! 

What Does Deep Breathing GiveYOU?

1. More energy
2. Better sleep
3. Better erections
4. Longer orgasms
5. More satisfying sex
6. Brings you into THE PRESENT
7. Affirms life
8. You feel less scattered
9. It grounds you
10. Oxygen for better organ function
11. Better health
12. Longer Life
13. Best Anti-Aging Tool on The Market

Better Sex

Sex is so much better when you breathe deeply. Your body and pelvic region needs oxygen. Better than a little blue pill, breathe deeply for better sex and erections. Having richly oxygenated blood will help with erections, stimulation, and better longer lasting orgasms.

Slow The Aging Process

Breathing deeply gives your blood more oxygen. Oxygen is the fuel for your heart, cells, and healing. Without enough oxygen your skin sags, your eyes look dull and you age rapidly. Oxygen is the life-giving free fuel available to humanity and every living being on this planet. Use it fully. Affirm life. Slow the aging process down with oxygen filling your lungs to capacity with each breath.

Connect with me via e-mail to set up your private discovery session to see if you are a good fit for my work. I recommend daily meditation to help you breathe deeply and affirm life. We all need silence in our day to calm our mind activity and soothe our soul. If you feel you can't meditate, know I have taught Indian clients to quiet their mind and meditate when they absolutely said they could not in three months. Private sessions available to help you stay present, affirm life and begin to shed the self-critiquing and mind chatter that doesn't serve you. Join me in a state of living in bliss every day. 

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7 Minutes In Heaven

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Remember those days in your teens, playing spin the bottle? Seven Minutes In Heaven is an updated game that teens from 13 to 18 play today. Instead of kissing uncomfortably in the circle, after spinning the bottle and finding out who you are paired with, the paired couple go into a closet or bathroom. They are timed and must stay in the closet for 7 minutes. If the person you are paired with is someone you don't want to kiss, 7 minutes could feel like hours. If it is someone you are attracted to, think is cute, or even dreamed about, your dreams come true. A whole seven minutes!

I am not suggesting that adults play this childhood game. Though the average duration of the sex act for many couples is only 7 minutes and 43 seconds for each encounter. For 45% of men, sex is over within 2 minutes or less according to The Nerve. The recent study has confirmed Alfred Kinsey's research from the 1940's and 1950's. A recent study of Canadian and American sex therapists recently concluded a study stating that the average sex act lasts between three to seven minutes, not counting undressing.

Think You're A Stud? 

Most men love sex. They like to think that they are satisfying their partners. However, a recent study shows that men think they are doing a good job when they are actually missing the "O" mark. A 1992 study by Edward Laumann of The University of Chicago found that 43.5 percent of the men thought that their partners always had an orgasm, compared to the 28.6 percent that saw a glimpse of heaven. But that was in 1992, you say. An updated study was done in 2010 which elucidates this issue. 85% of men felt that their females partners had a great time, versus the 64% that looked like the cat that swallowed the canary. Hence, my book, Orgasm For Life.

The Two-Minute Marvel

Having a relationship with a man where sex only lasts two minutes or less can be extremely frustrating for both partners. For marriage partners, it is a source of extreme conflict. Speaking from experience it caused constant friction, of the non-sexual kind. I

know of many women who eventually have affairs and divorced their men due to their nonfulfillment. Many stay but are extremely dissatisfied with the sex. Alfred Kinsey dryly reported that men would be irritated with their wives, "Are you done yet?" (forty minutes). 

Author's Note:

A reader commented on an article I wrote about the length of time most women need to reach orgasm - between twenty and  forty minutes. He responded that I must be using a vibrator or touching myself too much. The truth is I don't own a vibrator, I prefer the real thing to something that buzzes, vibrates, whizzes and bangs without ejaculating. 

Macho Man? Or Are Women Just Misunderstood?

His comments highlight the misunderstanding that many men are under. Just because a man can get it up and off in two minutes doesn't mean that women can. We have yonis (vaginas), not lingams (penises). Women can orgasm through digital stimulation in four minutes or less without a partner. Add another physical presence and women and their vaginas change. 

Erections and Arousal In Men

The subject of men and the way they are wired is fascinating. The differences in men and women sexually are astounding. Men can become aroused and erect as many as 11 times a day (on average). Women may think of sex once a day or less. The challenge is overcoming our personal issues and getting to the place of joint pleasure, rather than pleasure for just one.

Two Minutes Or Less For Many Men

For those men who ejaculate within two minutes,  other ways to satisfy your partner need to be found, because penetrative sex does not last long enough for her. It is not because sex is too infrequent. William Reich, supports my hypothesis and theory. Anger blocked emotions and inner rage is what lies underneath this pre-mature ejaculation or HTP, as I have termed it in my book, Orgasm For Life. 

Yes, I work with men to help heal these emotional issues. I have had really great success healing sexual dysfunction in both men and women.

How Long Does Orgasm Take For Women?

Dr. Harry Fische  has a post which I wholeheartedly disagree with. He writes that most women can achieve an orgasm within 7 minutes. He states that women who take 40 minutes to have an orgasm need to get themselves checked. Other scientists and medical professions disagree. Most women need between 20 and 40 minutes to achieve an orgasm unless they are self-stimulating. 

Men The Deep Fryers - Always Hot and Ready To GO!

Men and like deep fryers, ready to go at a moment's notice and can become erect, ready-to-go just by simply seeing an attractive woman on television. They can turn their attention to the woman they are with very easily with that arousal. Whether it is a magazine photo, article, or a movie, seeing a naked woman can be enough for many men to be aroused enough for sex.

Women The Slow Cookers - Slow To Warm Up

Women are like crock pots or slow cookers. We are slow to arouse. Our minds need to be engaged, free of thoughts and worries about the kids or family members hearing, dishes in the sink, or vacuuming that needs to be done. We perform so many household tasks a day, that there are often things that are undone, plaguing us. When our minds are not present, sex is next to impossible. If our recent encounters with our men have been less than satisfactory, we may be even reticent to have sex with you, thinking "What's the point?" It may be simpler and much more gratifying to just masturbate. At least, this way we know we will achieve an orgasm.

Making orgasm the focus for the man usually ends up with a frustrated woman. Which is why we are currently in the predicament in society today. Pornography indulges the male fantasy that women are always ready to go down on you or mount you at a moment's notice. 

The Truth 

Only 25 percent of women have orgasms through penetrative sex alone. Most men spend a few minutes fingering and then enter, thinking what they did was enough. It wasn't. If you are not spending time satisfying your woman through other means, orally, digitally or with a vibrator, most women will not achieve an orgasm. There is a problem. Ask her. When you care about her pleasure, sex will happen more frequently. 

It has become commonplace for women to not have orgasms through sex. This is called the orgasm gap. If one partner has an orgasm, both should. 

Betty Dodson, New York sex educator says, penetrative sex is okay, "But I prefer a talented tongue on my clitoris."

Interesting Fact About Orgasm

Women take approximately the same time to orgasm when they masturbate by themselves as men, about 4 minutes. Women report that they have fewer orgasms with their males partner than women who have sex with women.

The Clitoris

Yes, it is the female pleasure center. It is located outside the vagina and does not come into contact with the penis while penetrative sex is occurring for most women, which is why so many women have difficulty having an orgasm this way. The clitoris has twice the number of nerve endings than a man's penis. For some women sex riding on top of the man is the only way she can sometimes reach an orgasm through penetrative sex. If the woman straddles the man and leans forward friction can be possible against the shaft of the penis with the clitoris for some women.

The clitoris is what is removed in some cultures so that women don't experience pleasure when they have sex. 

Many women have no idea what or where their clitoris is. In a study of undergrads, many men and women thought that the clitoris is another name for the G-spot (it's not). No wonder some men can't find it either. The clitoris is like a little

button of pleasure measuring from 4 inches in length to seven inches in some women. It is hooded and is not the place where women pee. The urethra, where urine is emitted from is below the clitoris towards the vaginal opening. The clitoris branches out internally. Some scientists believe that the internal G-Spot is the root of the clitoris (found on the upper inside wall of the vagina). Orgasm For Life has a complete description of the G-Spot and how to arouse this area.

The clitoris is comprised of thousands of nerve endings (8,000 to be exact,) twice that of the penis, erectile tissue, like the penis. The clitoris becomes engorged with blood as arousal begins. It becomes erect and swells in size. When a woman is not aroused, it appears shy, hidden and often obscured. If you are interested in seeing photos and description of the female anatomy from a scientific perspective, here is the link.

Over the last hundred years, 61% of all divorces are filed by women. Why? Women are getting fed up with giving and not receiving equally in return. If you are seriously interested in saving your relationship, buy my book. Orgasm For Life explains in great detail how to bring a woman to orgasm with regularity. Orgasm For Life is more than a book about sex, it is a guide for relationship communication and understanding of men and women. It will help you build intimacy, deepen the love between you and save your relationship.

For Men

The following description of how to make love to a woman is a small part of what a woman needs to feel loved, accepted and adored. Taking the time to make love to her at least once a month this way will increase intimacy and deepen your bond.  Rushing through to orgasm is a sign that sex is unconscious and robotic. 

There are two of you. Make sure that you take care of

your woman first. If you get her deeply aroused before you engage in penetrative sex, her orgasm will happen with ease and your sexual encounter will be erotic, expansive with amazing orgasms. Hold off your orgasm. Stop what you are doing to slow down and keep yourself from coming too soon. Change positions, pull out and go down on her - again. This will slow down your building pleasure enough to keep yourself from coming. Giving to your woman first can be amazing for both of you.

What MOST Women Need To Achieve An Orgasm And Want To Have Sex With You AGAIN and AGAIN!

More Than 7 Minutes in Heaven

1. Tell her you love her.
2. Tell her how beautiful she is, often. While making love, if you don't tell her at least 3 times, you are missing the whole point of LOVE-MAKING.
3. Hug her and touch her outside of the bedroom and when you are not expecting sex. Many men only become amorous when

   

   "O- Face" Orgasmic woman

   they expect sex. Again, we are not wired the same as you. We need to know you adore us, love us and like us. The only way we know this is through your actions. If your actions are not loving, we feel used.
4. Kiss. The kiss can be a huge turn on. Not too much saliva. Don't shove your tongue down her throat. It is not a rape scene. A kiss can express your desire, a nibble of the lower lip,  gently touch of your lips together, pull away and look at her. Make eye contact. Then go back again and begin to slowly, slide your tongue in between her lips (mouth, not vagina). There is an art to kissing. I will write an entire post about the kiss soon. Spend time kissing her. Act as if you actually like her. Show her how much you do. Don't rush to the good stuff, you will miss how turned on she can get with just kissing. Some women can achieve an orgasm through kissing alone.
5. Nibble and kiss other places. Ears, neck, shoulders, gradually, slowly make your way to her abdomen. Kiss her all over. Stop thinking about yourself and having an orgasm. Take your mind off yourself and focus on HER. This will pay off in dividends.
6. Touch. Finger light touch along her arms, massage her hands, let her lay back and just enjoy herself without having to give to you. Gently touch her shoulders, across her breasts with gentle fingers or a feather. Brush her inner thighs without touching THE TARGET, (the vagina or vulva), touch her calves, gently brushing along her inner ankles, massage her feet. Hear her groan. Give her pleasure all over. She has an entire body. If you aren't touching her everywhere, you are just fucking, not making love.
7. Roll her over, massage her buttocks. Rub and massage her back. Take your time. If you rush, she will know it.
8. Kiss her buttocks, nibble a little. Massage her thighs getting close but not touching her vulva. Tease her with your fingers. Her back will arch as she becomes more aroused.
9. You can use your whole body to rub hers at this point, let her feel you along her torso, without putting too much weight on top of her. This is to be pleasurable, not controlling.
10. Ask if you can touch her vulva. If she says, yes, or "HELL YES!" place a flat hand on top of her vulva and hold it there. She will begin to vibrate. Gently tap her clitoris with your flat fingers. Then you can begin to massage her clitoris. The most sensitive region for most women is at 1:00 as you look at her face. In other words for those of you who can't tell time, look at her clitoris, just to the right of her navel, towards her right hip. Massage in circular motions, pressing gently. Ask her how the pressure is.
11. You have two hands, use them. Ask her if you can put a finger inside her. Using a lubricant, insert either an index finger or
    
    third finger inside her. Don't poke her. Using a come hither motion curl your finger upwards along the upper portion of her vaginal wall. This is where the G-Spot is located. Massage this area. She might have to pee. Let her do so. When she comes back, resume. After about five minutes here you should be ready to enter her. I am very interested in hearing your perspective. Did this article help you, educate you or offer a different perspective? What would you like to know more about? What subjects have I written about that you liked and want more of? What has been your experience?

Every woman is different. However, I have talked to hundreds of women in person. I have only met two women who had orgasms easily. The other women need a slow gentle build to achieve an orgasm. They need 20 to 40 minutes of pleasure to get there. Most men think they are doing a great job. Their partners do not agree. 

I cannot thank you enough. Nothing is overnight in this life, but I have turned a corner here and sooner than I thought I would. C. Ebert

Jennifer Elizabeth Masters is a sex educator, and empowerment coach for women and men. She is compassionate, direct, honest and the most adventurous and interesting woman you will ever meet.

She has been on hundreds of radio shows across the world. For a private coaching session or a clearing of your anger issues, you can e-mail her here.e-mail Jennifer here.