Ecstatic Living - Beyond Happiness

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Have you ever wondered about the mysteries of life? I muse about my life often. Yesterday while dancing in the desert I recognized that I now live beyond happiness, beyond joy. I live in ecstasy. My dream for an Orgasm For Life has been realized.

Women come to me looking for a relationship to make them happy. Yet I live alone, in the desert in a desolate environment. I have never been more happy, contented or satisfied with my life. It isn't sex that is bringing this ecstatic feeling to me because I am currently without a partner and not even dating. I am completely happy without anyone around me. I have not dated in over a year. I don't go bar hopping looking for men. I am happy by myself. I have found love within me.

I am delighted to spend time with others, but I have no sense of longing for the company of another human. In 2010 in Bali, then in Georgia, again in 2012, in Boulder Colorado, I experienced a series mystical experiences and a letting go of the ego-self or small self. It changed my life permanently. Since that time, I have not had a moment of loneliness, longing, or emptiness. I have a sense of deep connection to God, The Universe, The Sun, The Moon, The Stars and all that is. 

Optimum Health

I began dancing in the desert every morning. During my dance, I give thanks to the plants, the earth, the sun for shining, the moon for her beauty, the blue sky that fills my heart with joy. Without one visit to the gym, I lost seven pounds in three weeks! I was not trying to lose weight. It just fell off me. Because I love myself I eat healthy food. That doesn't mean I deny myself treats. I love my pie and cookies. I still eat those. The rest of the food I consume is fresh, homemade and life affirming. I drink a green drink that I made every morning. When our heart is happy our health is vibrant.

When I was sixteen, sitting in the lunchroom of my high school, in Ontario, Canada, I thought about life. I knew on a deep level that there was some mystery to life that most people didn't get. I had a vision of people looking like ants. Tiny workers that slaved till they died. There had to be more to living on earth than getting an education, getting married, having babies, working your fingers to the bone and dying. I had just read Siddhartha. I knew I wanted to become enlightened. 

When Hate Becomes Love

Mom in Canada and I, December 2014

This morning I talked with my 94-year-old mother, who keeps trying to get me to move back to Canada. We talk almost every day. We have had our share of issues. At one time, I hated her. Now I love her unconditionally with all her issues, opinionated personality, and wisdom. She said to me, "It's a shame you didn't know all this years ago, it would have saved you so much pain!" I replied, that this is the gift of aging. We may not look quite as good as when we were thirty, instead we have the wisdom of the ages.

Pain and Suffering

Our pain and suffering is what drives those of us who search for answers to the mysteries of life to grow and evolve. 

It is the process of evolution that helps us achieve ecstasy in our daily life. When the pain becomes too great, we begin to finally look inside ourselves for the answers to our pain and suffering, rather than blaming other people.

Love

Last night after doing Sex As Medicine with the grand sex educator and Tantra teacher, Devi Ward (she is so amazing on the air, I just want to sit and listen to her) I had a long session with a couple. I worked with this beautiful woman almost four years ago when I was in Boulder (I will call her Candace). We did a series of energy clearings and some coaching sessions. She wished for her husband to look for a deeper meaning of life. Last night he found it. 

I confirmed for him what his loving wife had been saying for years. 

It was the confirmation he needed to understand and make connections for himself about life and The Universe. We worked together for almost two hours. I was blown away by the love between these two very people. 

Expanded Love

Candace shared with me during her sessions. Their relationship was not without challenges, but I never heard her bad-mouth her husband once. She was completely accepting of him and his issues. Their love has continued to grow in a way I have rarely seen. Love isn't about being perfect. Love is about loving the other person anyway. Love isn't critical, demeaning or negative. Love is uplifting, positive and life affirming.

Google Hang-Outs

To the hundreds of men on Google Hangouts, I salute you. Thank you for reaching out to me. I do hope that you read my blogs so that you will understand I don't do chat rooms. I don't meet men on the Internet. I don't do dating sites. I am not searching for love. I have it already, it is within me. 

Searching For Love

I am not rejecting the idea of having a partner at some point, as that would be wonderful. I am happy as I am. Searching for love is the antithesis of it. In other words, the act of seeking keeps it from you. Seeking means that you don't have something. The act of seeking affirms lack consciousness. When you come from lack you never receive what you are looking for.

Ask And You Shall Receive

As with money, love comes to those who wait. Love comes when you ask questions. Money also comes when you ask. Here are a few suggestions:

• How can I effortlessly and easily have a partner who loves me?
• How can I easily and effortlessly have love?
• How can I effortlessly and easily make money?
• How can I effortlessly and easily pay my bills on time with plenty left over?

Love Shows Up When You Are Ready

I work with women who are longing for a relationship. Often what is stopping them from finding love is themselves. They don't realize it when they begin working with me. However, it soon becomes apparent that difficulties with a parent and patterns stemming from those difficulties cause beliefs that keep love away. For example, a woman who has been put down or abused by her father might have a pattern of hate of men. How can you attract a man when you hate them? You might attract a man, but he will have hate of women programs to match yours!

Once the patterns are cleared, love will arrive right in front of you. You don't have to do the work of The Universe and God. Have faith that he (or she) is on his way to you now!

For now, I will leave you with this; love is within you. When you recognize the love that you are, your life will be amazing. I can certainly be your guide along your path. I would love to have you join me. 

How much longer can you wait to live your life fully with joy in every breath? 

E-mail me to set up your personal session with me now to being your journey of awakening into your radiance and beauty now. Send me a private e-mail here. Visit my website to see other offers and additional information here. Aphroditeeffect.com

Join the party on FaceBook, or comment below. I would love to hear from you! I am off to dance in the desert with the sun, moon and the stars!

Much love and gratitude to you,

Jennifer

The Joys Of Self Actualization

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Self Actualization is the highest level of Maslow's hierarchy of needs. Self-actualizing people are self-aware, less concerned with the opinions of others than they are about their personal growth. A self-actualized person is focused on fulfilling their highest potential.

Self-actualization is the same thing as being God-realized. You are one with God.

Characteristics of Self-Actualized People

1. Self-actualized people have realistic perections of themselves, others and the world around them.
2. Self-actualized people are focused on solving the problems of others in the world.
3. Self-actualized people have a strong sense of ethics, motivated by a personal responsibility.
4. Self-actualized people are spontaneous. 
5. Self-actualized people are open and unconventional.
6. Self-actualized people require privacy, independence, and solitude.
7. Self-actualized continue to focus on expanding personal potential.
8. Self-actualized individuals find a sense of awe of nature and the world.
9. Self-actualized people feel contentment, inner peace as well as fulfilled.
10. Self-actualized individuals have no sense of longing or loneliness.
11. Self-actualized people often experience a state of FLOW, or peak performance, often experiencing moments of intense wonderment, joy, and ecstasy. These experiences strengthen, renew and transform.

The Fastest Path To Self-Actualization

Unconditional love of the self is the fastest path to self-actualization. It happened for me in 2011. There were several events that precipitated the final sloughing off of the old me. A trip to India, a marriage to a gay man, a huge emotional release, and a transformational trip to Bali all contributed.

After reading Siddhartha when I was sixteen, interviewing a guru (Lama Surya Das) twice for a magazine in Atlanta, I knew I wanted to become enlightened. I did not want to wait another lifetime to become delighted with me! 

I had been focusing on self-healing, self-love, and forgiveness of myself and others for over twenty years. In my thirties, I began group therapy. I recognized then that others had far greater pain than I did. It helped to put the past in perspective for me. Although, I ultimately felt therapy was not a healing method, I abandoned it choosing self introspection instead.

In 1998, when I became a hypnotherapist while owning and operating a landscaping business, my focus was on spiritual growth and being happy with myself. I let go of victimhood, moved into acceptance and recognized that everything that had occured however difficult it was, helped me learn about myself. I began to see everything as a learning experience. When I got the lesson, and cleared the trapped emotion, it stopped repeating.

Since this shift in consciousness in 2011, I have not experienced one moment of longing, loneliness or missing anyone. There is no void that needs to be filled by another human being. Even though my children live far away, I feel a deep connection without being close physically. Those that have crossed over (transitioned) are still connected to me also. My father who has been gone for almost thirty years still comes by every now and then for a quick hello to see how I am and is gone. Places come into my consciousness as well as if to becon me. I sense things happening on the unseen levels before the ocur in the physical realm, like earthquakes, deaths and events.

Death

I see death differently than many people. I recognize that those who leave the planet physically are only a thought away. Though not in a physical body, we can, still experience their presence and feel the love that never ends.

Trust

I have a deep sense of trust of The Divine, The Universe and my Guides. I have aligned my will with that of God and am obedient. For those that knew me as a rebelious teenager, this is a huge departure from my old personality. When I receive guidance to do something or say something, I do it. When I was told to move my truck and trailer before heading out of town I did so. After moving my vehicle, I asked, "Is this okay?" God responded, "We can work with that." When I returned from a weekend away three hundred-year-old oak trees narrowly missed my truck and trailer by less than six inches. Had I not listened my truck and trailer would have been destroyed. The roof of my house had a huge dent in it.

Guidance

Beautiful Bali

After my trip to Bali, Indonesia in 2010, to learn to read The Akashic Records, my guidance became extremely clear. I have conversations in my head with my Guides and God. Since I trust what I receive, the information flows to me easily. I listen and pay attention to what I am told. I receive clear information about people's lives, death and the future, though not everything is revealed, so that people don't change their behavior to try to make things happen. This guidance flows to me while in session with my coaching clients, which assists them grow faster. My ego is not involved, the information is Divine in nature, cutting out time in my client's evolution, if they heed the information.

How Divine Guidance Assists You

I moved to Boulder, Colorado from Georgia when I was told and shown in my mind in big block letters BOULDER three times. I had lived in Georgia for over twenty years. The first three mornings in our brand new apartment in Boulder, I woke up to hear, "This is not permanent!" I asked what does that mean, but no more information was forthcoming. My daughter and I only lived in Boulder, Colorado for one year. I finally understood what I was told about the impermanence of our lovely apartment in Boulder.

In May 2012, I predicted my ex's death. When my ex-husband died July 4th, 2012, it became increasingly obvious that without his help I couldn't stay in Boulder. The rent and cost of living was extremely high. Strangely I was told to move to California where most people felt was more expensive than Boulder. Not so. I found a small home to rent for $800 a month. I found a Hispanic grocery store where food is far cheaper than most grocery stores. Everything was provided for me easily, because I trusted and did what was shown to me.

The little adobe house was not the home I wanted, but it kept being shown to me over and over again, popping up everytime I searched Trulia.com. After looking for almost a week while dragging my household posessions around in a rented U-haul trailer I realized I had to choose the little house that kept being shown to me. I resisted looking at the house inside because I didn't like the way it looked outside. It wasn't what I was used to or wanted. Once I went inside, the house surpassed my expecations. With granite countertops, a gooseneck nickle faucet in the kitchen, three bedrooms with huge windows I was blown away. The yard was fully fenced and gated yard so that I could let my animals outside safely. I even had a carport to shade my car from the heat. It was perfect in size and rent for my budget!

What God Brings Us Is Much Greater That We Ever Could Create

Although my home is located in the center of town, there is an empty lot to the right, behind me and a warehouse across the street. Even the apartment building located on provides me privacy because there are no windows overlooking my yard. Only their garages face my home. I love my privacy and solitude. This little house worked out better than I ever could have planned myself. I only have to drive one exit north to be out in the wilderness of the Mojave desert. There is a town with grass and trees that my dogs love as well. When I trust what God gives me things would out way better than I could ever create on my own.

Soul Purpose

When we align with the will of God we find our soul purpose. For years I designed and installed landscaping, it was part of The Divine Plan. It helped me connect deeply with plants, trees and rocks. I began to recognize that everything has a consciousness - even the rocks. As crazy as this sounds everything communicated with me. I would be at a client's home and a tree would call out to me for help. I would tell the client what the tree needed, or wanted. 

Staybridge Suites in Atlanta, a commercial client of mine

After eleven years, I knew it was time to leave Georgia and sell my business. I stepped into the spiritual realm full-time. I had a radio show in 2011 called, "Into The Mystic on Voice America." In 2011, I took a second training with the National Guild of Hypnotherapy and became a hypnotherapy and NLP (Neurolinguistic Programming) trainer, a certified life coach, wrote my book Odyssey Victim to Victory and moved to Boulder. 2011 was a huge turning point for me. 

I knew I would help people learn to love themselves as I had done. I also knew that the people I needed to help would be guided to me. I knew I was to help people through coaching.

Wondering about working with me? I am currently offering a very three-part clearing series. Each session is an hour in length. Tonight, Friday, September 25th we clear blocks to love, codpendency, addictions, resistance to love, hate programs and so much more. If you would like to join us, visit this link, below and receive the playback of the recording on Wednesday where fear, anxiety and worry were cleared. This series is unlike anything you have ever experienced. You will have a sense of peace after the first one. Each clearing builds upon the next. Whether you listen to it live, or recorded it is just as powerful. I highly recommend this offering. It is only $33.00! It is a $540 value! I charge $180.00 an hour for my clearings.

Following is some of what an energy clearing can do:

You will feel a sense of calm, peace, overwhelming love, your mind quietens, pain is lessened or eliminated. You feel more positive. You sleep better than you have in ages!

• clear old patterns that don't serve you
• clear blocks to love
• clear shame
• clear guilt
• clear trapped emotions
• clear the blocks in your heart
• raise your vibration
• give you a sense of calmness and peace
• help you find your true self
• clear blocks to abundance and wealth

 

Questions? 
E-mail privately here. JenniferElizabethMasters@gmail.com

Here is what people said about their experience:
(I am keeping names confidential)

Thank you again for the amazing experience last night! During the clearing, I felt a lot of different things, including energy and heat radiating from my palms and my feet, as well as various sensations in my heart and my stomach. I was able to fall into a meditation focusing only on your voice, and at one point I felt tears running down my cheeks.

After the clearing, I felt very light and like a huge weight had been lifted, but did not want to return to work. Instead of ignoring my work, however, I did go back to it and found it much more relaxing than it had previously been. 

This morning, I still feel lighter than I was, and feel a bit more focused on the things I need to accomplish to move my life forward.

Thank you again so very much for such an amazing experience! ML

Wow! That s all I can say. I had such a wonderful day today without as much anxiety and stress {even though I experienced some challenges}. I had a great sense of peace that I have not felt for a long time. You touched my soul. Thank you. (Name withheld)

Readings:

You did a reading for me last spring and it was dead on. Thank you Nicci Black

Enlightenment: The End of Suffering

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Whether you recognize it or not, the purpose for all humans is to attain enlightenment. For many, suffering is what is in the forefront of their mind. How then can we focus on enlightenment and what will it do for me? 

When I was 16, I read the book, Siddhartha. It was the story about Buddha's shift into enlightenment. Upon completing the book, I knew that was what I wanted. I wanted to be the embodiment of love and light. I knew there was more to life than going to school, working and then dying. I witnessed my father, his nose-to-the-grindstone life, his death before his 72nd birthday of leukemia. Although he searched, he did not find it. My father studied about Lemuria, Atlantis and anything he could read about The Sleeping Prophet, Edgar Cayce. My father was a seeker. My mother was not. My mother suffered and still does.

My father invited a Hindu man over for dinner to show us how to read minds. I will never forget this man, his quiet demeanor and how fascinated my father was with him. He was the first Indian man I had ever met personally (I was 10 at the time). He quietly left the table, instructing my mother and father to write down a phrase on a piece of paper, then burn it. When he came back from his meditation in my parent's bedroom, he told us exactly what had been written on the now burned piece of paper. All he did was touch the paper to determine what it was. 

Now and Then

TODAY: I feel free. Positive, loving and at peace. I have no fears at all. 

I meditate every day. I pray, do mantras and chant inside my mind. My focus is on the positive. I no longer feel alone, lonely or afraid. All my fears are gone.

BEFORE ENLIGHTENMENT: I was in total fear. I suffered from insomnia, Fibromyalgia, an auto-immune disease, Epstein Barr. I was sick a lot. My body was wracked with pain. Emotional issues plagued me. I was depressed, needy and lacked confidence. I had the need to have a man in my life to feel complete.

What I Recommend:

Everyone needs a spiritual practise. Something that they do every day at the same time. I recommend prayers of gratitude followed by meditation. I do chanting every day. I sit with my mala beads (prayer beads) that I use to count 108 mantras spoken silently in my mind. This will bring you into your physical body and center you. This quiet repose is needed for vitality and fully functioning health of mind-body-spirit. I teach my clients The Divine Presence Process Meditation (below). It is what I did every day for 11 months and led to my enlightenment. 

In 2007 I met two Ishaya monks, who taught me Ascension. It is a mantra system of five spheres. The mantras are spoken silently in the mind, while tapping into your heart center. This Ascension system quieted my racing mind. Now I teach a mantra to my clients. I give a personal, appropriate mantra for where they are. This mantra plays in the background of the mind all day silently. It gently re-programs the unconscious mind to settle down and become peaceful. Brain waves then become congruent instead of sharp and pointy. This calms the mind and then the body is at peace as well. Our mind is like the central computer for the whole system. When our mind is quiet, our bodies heal deeply. We begin to sleep peacefully. We thrive instead of just exist.

Oneness

I would be remiss if I did not mention The Oneness Movement. Thousands of people trekked to India and studied to be teachers and Deeksha Givers. Although I traveled to India previously, I became a Deeksha Giver in North Carolina. Not that the place matters, it does not. Each of these events contributed to the opening and transformation that I experienced when I became enlightened. 

I became a Deeksha Giver in 2008. Deeksha is a Blessing given to the receiver through the crown chakra (top of the head). Each time I gave a Deeksha to someone, I was also given a blessing as well. At the end of the meditation above, I send you a Deeksha. If you are sensitive you will feel the vibration. I still give Deeksha to those who are interested. Each time you receive Deeksha light is channeled into the crown that opens up the receiver shedding more light on the third eye and the brain.

What Happens When You Become Enlightened?

The biggest thing that happens is that the ego becomes quiet. Instead of running the show, the ego self is diminished. You no longer take things personally. Fears fall away. Emotions instead of creating havoc in your life move swiftly, and are gone. You no longer stay stuck in a paradigm of pain or suffering. You begin to witness the emotions as they come up. You feel them fully, then it is gone. It is not that you don't feel emotions, they come up, you look at them from a place of witness and they move. Rather than avoiding feelings, you FEEL them. Loneliness is totally gone. You don't miss people, or suffer a loss, as you live in a state of non-attachment. It does not mean you can't love, you love without attachment instead.

Guidance comes through easily. You easily tap into The Divine Mind. You are connected to your high self or Divine self. Instead of living in turmoil and chaos, life is peaceful, and the search ends for happiness, because you have already arrived. You are happy anywhere, with whoever you are with. You live in the present moment.

How Enlightenment Helps Others

When you are enlightened it is easier to help others because your ego is not involved. You receive messages that are clear and unfiltered by your own past. Rather than judging a situation, you see clearly without judgement. Guidance is given that is true, helpful and direct. Compassion for others is easy. You feel love for all as you see The Divinity in each person. 

Pain

Body pain is often diminished. Our emotional states are what bring us physical pain. For many, like me, there is no pain at all. Physical pain if I stub my toe, is momentary. I have no joint pain. I don't take medicines for headaches or anything else. I keep my body clean.

Sex

Can be an experience of enlightenment, allowing you to become One with The Divine. Sex can be incredibly spiritual. If sex is entered into through complete appreciation of your partner, there will be no regret experienced. 

If you are looking to have an enjoyable experience, and you feel guilty about sex (perhaps you are having sex outside of a marriage, or committed relationship), your thoughts can create a negative sexual experience. If any guilt or worthless feelings result from the experience, your experience will be far from an experience of enlightenment. 

We need to be in alignment with is right for you, when you do, you will draw to you a partner who is a match to you. If you have a mixed vibration with the subject of sex, like most people (being inhibited for example) you will attract someone with a similar belief system and thought patterns about sex. Being in alignment with Source energy, regarding sex means to be in a state of total love. You can't have a limiting belief about sex and operate outside of that belief. Your beliefs govern your experience.

Sex is an expression. Your enjoyment of it will reflect the thoughts that you hold regarding sex. It is a natural part of life experience. It inspires you towards unity with your partner. Sex can expand consciousness. Orgasm is a state of total allowing. The floodgates are open and Source energy and higher energy rushes through yourself. You exist in perfect resonance with Source energy and your higher self. Experiencing your self fully at the same time.

In it's truest form it's expression is sacred. Sex gives you an opportunity to be in alignment with who you truly are.

Sex needs to be void of control to have an experience of Oneness or enlightenment. It needs to be of a positive focus. Sex is the closest way for us to create complete Oneness with an individual. Men who appreciate women for what and who they are, and are sensitive enough to perceive and sense a woman's energy, learning and listening to a woman at all times, rather than just when they want sex from a woman. Being fully present in the moment with each other is key.


Prior To Enlightenment

You may feel overwhelmed with emotion as you begin the process of enlightenment. Sometimes you feel that you have already processed something and it returns with a vengeance. Things that you have already completed (you thought) may return, or come up to be released. It could be another aspect of the same issue. 

Sometimes you may feel that you are taking one step forward and two steps backward. It is okay. Just allow yourself to be. Sadness may come up. Allow it to flow through you. Feelings may come from out of nowhere that are returning just to be moved through.

Signs Of Enlightenment and Being Self Actualized

1. You move through emotional issues more easily. You feel your feelings fully and they are gone.
2. Your mind begins to quiet. Instead of racing thoughts all the time, there is quiet. Inner peace prevails.
3. You stop missing people and feeling so needy.
4. When discussing issues with others, you don't own it. You can be detached from the issues and the ego of winning.
5. Creativity abounds. Writing, music, creativity is a huge sign of reaching your full potential.
6. Confidence (rather than false self - ego) is evident. You know who you are and have nothing to prove.
7. You stop thinking about and being concerned with what others think of you. 
8. You are not married to being right.
9. Loneliness is a thing of the past.

Jennifer Elizabeth Masters became enlightened and self actualized in 2012. She is an author, life, love and sex coach. Orgasm For Life can be found on Amazon. She also is wonderful at helping you focus, get organized and become empowered. Her early life was challenging. She struggled with low self esteem and codependency. Now Jennifer is a powerful, strong woman who empowers women and men to get to know, love and accept themselves. This is the source of true happiness. When we love ourselves, our capacity to love and experience JOY grows also. Jennifer can be reached through her private e-mail here: JenniferElizabethMasters@gmail.com  or visit her website:

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Buyer Beware: Hiring A Coach

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

There are thousands of coaches in the United States. It is one of the fastest growing professions today. As with any profession there are those who are great at what they do and then there are the others. Many people are in coaching because they are still trying to heal themselves. Recognizing who you are hiring and why is important. Having an intention in mind prior to hiring a coach will help you. Make sure you hire a coach who is certified and do your due diligence.

If you have been reading my blog and wonder what working with me might be like, here is the low down. 

Who Do I Work With?

I work with people committed to heal, grow and evolve. I help people who want their lives to improve. I help people recognize the power that they have, the beauty within and who they truly are. I help people connect with their High Selves, live each day fully, feeling happy with who they are, happy with their lives and happy with what they are doing. If you don't want to heal, evolve, recognize the beauty within, live each day in joy and happiness or don't want your life to improve, don't hire me.

How Do I Help People Heal?

I don't know when it happened, but a while back, I became aware that I triggered people's issues. Some people call me a catalyst for healing. I can't stop being a catalyst pushing up your issues, anymore than I could stop breathing, it is part of me. When clients talk to me, their issues just come up. It is not that I do anything, it just happens. It is one of my healing gifts. 

Sometimes when a client in extremely codependent and sitting in victimhood, they blame me for the way they feel. I am no more responsible for your emotions than anyone else is. Part of healing is that you take responsibility for your life, your actions and your emotions. Healing is a responsible act. 

Everyone has hot buttons or triggers. These triggers are from an event long ago. As long as the trigger exists, you will continue to react with emotion when that button is pushed. One of my gifts is helping you to heal the triggers. I have many different ways that I do this. I can use Hypnotherapy, Neurolinguistic Programming or Spiritual Response Therapy, among other things. It does not matter if one way does not work for you, I have many other tools in my large tool box to help you move through this challenge. Everyone is unique. There is not a cookie cutter fix - that I use for everyone. Even when people are dealing with sexual issues, I find that the source of the pain and suffering is lack of self love. 

Sometimes, something happens in a session that causes your emotions to surface. As a matter of fact, when you work with me, you can count on it. If you don't want to feel, cry, or emote, you may not want to work with me. What happens though, when you allow emotions to move is that you move out of depression, insomnia and anxiety. Body ailments heal naturally and you enjoy life much more.

My Promise

I  promise to accept you as you are, with all your faults and foibles. I am very good at what I do. However, I am not perfect either. If you are looking for a perfect coach, it is not me. Sometimes life happens. Sometimes I am on the road and have to change an appointment because of a book tour, or working with clients in another community. I promise to do the best I can to assist you in every session. I am very good at what I do. I cut to the chase and have the innate ability to get to the source of your issues quickly. I cannot promise that you won't cry. I cannot promise you that you won't feel. What I will promise you is that you will begin to find that your anxiety, depression, mind chatter, negativity, unworthiness will lesson as time goes on. By the third session, most people are amazed at how different they feel about themselves and their lives. What I am not good at is taking the blame for your feelings and your emotions.  

I do not judge you. I expect the same of my clients. I do not blame you. I expect the same of my clients. I am not the cause of your pain or suffering. I am here to help you grow and evolve. Without emotions moving there is no forward movement in your life. Know that crying won't kill you. It will help to release tension, stress and feel good hormones in your body. When you begin to work with me, it is like popping a cork on a champagne bottle. Once the bottle is opened, there is no turning back - only looking at yourself in the most loving way and having the life you have always dreamed about.

You Found Me

I have found that most people that come to me, find me because of the fact that I have healed my lack of self esteem, sexual dysfunction and worthiness issues. Having someone who has been where you are can be of great help to you. Although I am a certified Hypnotherapist, Certified Energy Healer, Certified Neurolinguistic Programming Practitioner....  and other things, I did not learn how to love myself through a book. I tried many different things and what I use I know works. Whether you just want to become more authentic, confident or loving of yourself, or whether you are looking for that dynamite relationship of your life, I can help you with both. 

I read a slew of books about natural healing, herbs, Traditional Chinese Medicine, Buddhism, Hinduism, psychology and emotional issues. I did this work myself. Deep emotional release, soul retrieval and healing of soul fragments that happen when we are traumatized as children. Whether it is sexual abuse, rape, or emotional abuse, I have experienced it all and am compassionate and understanding, while being direct. I won't molly coddle you. I will push you to a higher level of radiating your amazing light out into the world. I will encourage and cheer you on when you discover something new, or heal an issue. I am in your corner.

How Does Being A Channel and Intuitive Help YOU?

Since I became enlightened in 2012, I have been in direct contact with Universal energy, The Divine Mind, my guides, my clients' guides and the angels. I hear clearly. I do not stifle, misconstrue, or misdirect those messages. I give them to you as I receive them, without my filters, without changing what I hear. As quickly as those messages come in - they are gone. Channeling is like that. These are not my thoughts, so I cannot hang onto them. I often forget what I have told you in session, because I was channeling a message for you.

These messages are for you. No one knows better what you need and what your issues are than The Divine. This information is loving, direct and kind. The Divine and The Universe is always and in every way working FOR YOU! 

Already Healed

Yes I have credentials up the wazoo. But credentials aren't worth a flick if you haven't already healed yourself. Many coaches are still struggling with self esteem and trying to be happy with themselves. In 2012, I became self actualized and enlightened. Okay, you don't care about buzz words - good for you. I am not crazy about them either. 

What Does That Mean For You?

Being self actualized means I no longer need outside validation. I already have it within me, I know who I am. I am happy with me. I am connected with The Divine. I am grounded, life affirming and confident with who I am. I am not egotistical, arrogant or rude. My delivery is always compassionate, caring and direct. I don't beat around the bush and I don't waste time. It does not mean I don't have emotions. I do. When my emotions come up - I express them fully. I don't stuff them. I am not longer concerned what others think about me. You needn't worry about what others think of you either. You will enjoy life so much more when you let go of this, it is a huge waste of energy and time. 

It is none of your business what others think about you.

Maslow's Theory of Self Actualization and Qualities

What I expect of YOU

I am present with you during our sessions. I expect you to not take other calls, rush around or walk while you are talking to me. I expect you to do the homework assignments each week. Without follow-up work a coaching session does not implement the work in your daily life. You must to the homework. 

I also expect you to dig deep. I expect when an issue comes up, that you will walk towards it. I will guide you through it. I will be there with you. When you resist doing homework or moving towards your issues, you stay stuck in suffering. When you hire me, you are signifying to the Universe and The Divine that you are here to work. You are signifying that you have committed to heal your life and love and accept yourself unconditionally. You can't do that by telling me you don't want to deal with your issues. I might allow you to shelve an issues for one week. I will revisit the same issue the following week. If you refuse to move through the issue the third week, I will let you go as my client. 

I value my time and yours. However, if you don't want to do the work, I cannot work with you. I am not being a bitch about this, I am telling you what my limits and boundaries are. My commitment is to move you forward out of pain, suffering, dysfunction, addiction, and codependency. You absolve me of my commitment by telling me you don't want to look at your stuff. I will lovingly let you go. Should you choose to return to me as a client, you will sign a document that you are committed to do the work. After signing the document, you will be limited to one "walk" or glide through an issue. The following week you have to suck it up and walk through. I assure you, your standing on the dark side of your issues is much more painful and difficult than walking through to the side of happiness, peace and calm.

Sexual Healing

Don't be surprised if we work on self love issues, if you have some type of sexual dysfunction, like erectile dysfunction or HTP - Hair Trigger Penis or inability to orgasm. Erectile dysfunction is often from low self esteem - worrying about size, or worrying will my equipment work. HTP is caused by underlying rage. Don't argue with me about this.....  I can hear you. Truly it is. When the rage is taken care of - the HTP stops happening. Acupuncture works well for HTP as well.

What Changes Can You Expect?

Some of the issues that will eventually be resolved, depending on how much work you are willing to do, how deep you are willing to go and how long you work with me are:

Resolution of:

Perfectionism

Self Condemnation

Criticism

Control

Fear

Anxiety

Depression

Insomnia

Sadness

Heaviness

Codependence

Being A Victim

Addictive relationships

Relationships that you settled for

Feeling Like A Chameleon

Communication Issues

Fear of Asking for what you want

You will feel:

Happier

Grounded

Centered

Positive

Accepting

Balanced

Open

Have a Greater Sense of Self

More Connected

Fulfilled

Passion For Life

Jennifer is a certified life and sex coach. She is the author or Orgasm For Life http://www.amazon.com/Orgasm-Life-Jennifer-Elizabeth-Masters/dp/0692227172

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Justin Beiber Sings You're Insecure to YOU

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

You turn heads when you enter a room. Your body is stunning and slender, yet you still feel you are too heavy. Or perhaps you are twenty or so pounds over what you would like to be. Your smile is crooked and your teeth aren't perfect. Each time you look at yourself in the mirror you tell yourself, all the things that aren't perfect. You are insecure.

When we are insecure, everyone around us feels it. We may be hyper reactive to criticism. Even when someone complements us we shrug it off by making a negative comment about ourselves. We feel needy. The more distance a lover, husband or wife tries to put between you the more grasping and clingy you become. 

You would not know it today, but all of the above pertained to me. No matter what someone said about how pretty I was, or how good I looked, I did not feel it. In high school I was one of the popular girls. I was an athlete, on the swim team, volleyball team, gymnastics team and a cheerleader. After high school I became a flight attendant when you had to look a certain way to be hired. I was slender, fit and still did not feel beautiful. It did not matter what anyone said to me - I did not feel it. I had to have a man to feel whole and loved. I felt empty and broken inside. I felt stupid, inept, clumsy and awkward. I constantly judged myself and others. Most of my words and thoughts were negative, condemning and destructive. My body was wracked with physical pain. I had migraine headaches, and was often sick. I went to the doctor often with mysterious illnesses that could not be found.

I missed work, showed up late and was generally unhappy and depressed. I jumped from job-to-job, looking for the elusive happiness. I did the same thing in relationships. When one didn't make me happy, I was off to the next. I was a very slow learner! I had no clue what made me happy. I was so busy trying to please my boyfriend, husband, parents, that I ended up feeling resentful, angry and lost. I had no soul purpose. I hated my jobs. Nothing was fulfilling to me. In relationships, I was never authentic. I turned myself into what I thought my boyfriend, partner, husband wanted. I tried to be the perfect wife, mother, friend. I failed miserably at it all. I was far from perfect. I felt like a wreck, broken and irreparable.

Most of my clients come to me because they don't feel it. When we strive to be perfect, instead of accepting ourselves as imperfect human beings, we set ourselves up for failure. When our thoughts are constantly negative and self critical we cannot possibly love and accept ourselves. When we don't love and accept ourselves, we also condemn and judge everyone around us. Our world is filled with negativity, because that is what is inside of us. People mirror back to us what our unconscious mind is repeating, over and over and over.

How Can We Change?

Like a fitness program, working on the self is important. In fact it is the most important work you can ever do in your life time. Changing your thoughts and words takes practice, but is possible. If I can do it, you can. I was the most negative person you would ever want to meet. I could find something negative to say about anything. I was filled with self loathing, guilt and shame. I felt unworthy. I felt empty and unloved. 

Plato said: Victory of the self is the greatest of all victories.

When you meet me in person, you will notice I wear a ring on my right hand. The ring has the word victory on it. I had it made in St. Augustine Florida in 2011, the year my first book was published: Odyssey Victim to Victory. I worked very hard to change my words and thoughts. It did not happen overnight. I went to hypnotherapists, energy healers and saw Traditional Chinese doctors, naturopaths, chiropractors, you name it. When I found something that worked profoundly, I became certified in that modality. I began to look at myself with kinder eyes, rather than that of a mean parent. 

What Can We Do To Change?

This video is raw - but real. See my imperfections?

1. Let go of trying to be perfect. I've got news for you, you are not perfect. So let that idea go! When you stop trying to be something you are not, you begin to relax. 
2. What others think of you is none of your business. Stop being concerned about people liking you. This world is not a popularity contest. Trying to get people to like you, is like wearing honey on your face and walking into a hornets' nest. You will get stung. 
3. Stop trying to please others. Pleasing other people will make you very unhappy and you will end up feeling resentful and unhappy for all you do, trying to please them. 
4. Change your thoughts, change your world.  I did not come up with this phrase, I think it was Wayne, Dyer. Truer words were never spoken. Wherever you focus energy, time and attention whether positive or negative, think of it like a penis ... it will grow! Now you won't be able to get this image out of your mind. GOOD! Change the negative for a positive mantra. I tell my clients to use:  I LOVE ME. It is simple. Play it in the background of your mind all day long for 30 days. Guaranteed you will see a difference in your world. Then come back and talk to me. Use this mantra any time you think a negative thought. It will change the thought patterns in your mind from incongruent, to congruent - this creates harmony in the brain and body. When you have harmony inside there will be harmony outside in your world. (This will change gradually.)
5. Treat yourself the way God would. If God wouldn't say it to you. You don't say it to yourself. Be kind to yourself. Find out what you love about yourself. Write a list.
6. Nurture yourself every day.  When people are insecure, they spend time giving and doing for others endlessly but don't take care of themselves. Instead, do something nice for yourself daily. Take a hot bath with Epsom salts, candlelight and a glass of sparkling water in a pretty wine glass. Paint your toenails, give yourself a facial, or take yourself to the beach or a beautiful park. 
7. Spend time in nature every day. Nature is beautiful. The sun fills your body with needed vitamin D3. Get your body outside! Walk in nature without your freaking cell phone. Turn off the television and get your butt off the couch. Nature will fill you with beauty and love. 
8. Express gratitude for what you have as soon as your eyes are opened. When we are unhappy, we feel we have nothing to be grateful for. We focus on the negative. You need to focus on what you do have, like eyesight, legs that walk and arms that move. Unless you are a paraplegic in which case, you need to be grateful to be alive, to have eyes that see and a beautiful mind that works. There is always SOMETHING to be grateful for. The more you focus on gratitude, the more good will come into your life. I promise you! This works.
9. Develop a relationship with The Divine, God, Allah, The Universe, whoever you believe in. This connection will fill you where no person, animal, or child possibly could. Having a daily spiritual practice of meditation, prayer, gratitude is what sustains us, fills us up and brings us lasting peace, harmony and joy. Without this connection, you feel like a ship without a sail, rudder and hull. I recommend The Divine Presence Process Meditation daily. This meditation was what I did daily for 12 months. I feel it was a large part of my becoming enlightened and self actualized in 2012. The Divine Presence Process Meditation on You Tube.

You Can't Please Everybody

When you stop trying to please everyone, it is interesting that you are giving yourself permission to please yourself. Being a people pleaser is a common complaint I see in my clients. They are so busy trying to do for others to keep everyone happy, that they are miserable. Letting go of the responsibility for other's happiness frees you to be happy yourself. Do what you love. Spend time doing fun activities. Please yourself. It is not selfish, it is self care.

I would love to hear what you think about this subject. What works for you? What doesn't work. I would love your feedback. If you liked this post, share it with a friend, Facebook, or other circle.

Jennifer is the author of Orgasm For Life. She is a teacher, Metaphysician, wise woman, with Shamanic tendencies. She is an adventurer of life, mother of 3 and like you fully human. She does not walk on water, though some think they have seen her do it. Jennifer is passionate about life, love and sex. Her lifelong vision is to help women and men come to a loving place of self acceptance and self love so that all their relationships will be healed. Jennifer lives life fully in every breath, enjoying the beauty of this planet and all of God's creatures. She spends time every day in Gratitude for you, being her, reading her posts and sharing what you learn. 

Jennifer is available as a private coach, teacher, workshop facilitator and is offering retreats this fall in several different locations, yet to be determined. Bali, India and the UK are all possibilities. If you wish to schedule a FREE session with Jennifer to discover how she could help you with your issues, her e-mail address is: JenniferElizabethMasters@gmail.com

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