Bitch To Bliss

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

I love women. I can appreciate beauty in another. I admire a beautiful body, jacket or handbag. I tell women that they are beautiful when I meet them. I didn't always feel this way about other women. I have been on the receiving end of criticism, jealousy and rancor from women. We begin to truly appreciate others when we accept ourselves as we are. Until we do, we might feel jealous, or less than other women.  

Women are powerhouses. Women give life, feed, care for and lovingly nurture children, pets, husbands and all manner of critters our progeny bring home. We create homes out of houses. Women keep households running. They take care of the sick, heal, bathe, clean and keep the laundry up to date. 

Don't get me wrong, women can be bitches. We can be viciously jealous of others, complain, nag and strive for perfection. We say no when we mean yes then wonder why we didn't say yes afterward. Women are difficult to understand. In fact, for the opposite sex we can be confounding. When upset or angered most women can castrate their men with a piercing look or a simple word. Yes, we can be bitches. But do we have to be?

Power Through Softness

I maintain that women opt for bitchiness because it is scary. We tend to appear more powerful when we are bitching. Often our bitchiness moves mountains. Most men would rather get the job done, than endure another moment of scathing looks or words. Scaring our offspring and lovers does not endear us. In fact, bitchiness can make our men run for the hills, or softer, more nurturing pastures. 

There is another way to get our point across or the job done. A smiling face and welcoming hug are certainly more appealing than our arms crossed across our bosom as if to say, "No one shall enter here!"

I know what it feels like to be or act like a bitch. I used to be one. My emotions were out of control. The only female role model I had been imprinted by was my mother. I witnessed her wrath on many occasions. Nagging was a way of life. We all tuned her out. Silence was my mother's go-to punishment for my father. I am not sure whether he preferred the silent treatment over her bitching wrath? I do know he found a way to tune her out. He found a hobby that kept him busy for hours. His hobby was one that involved winemaking, tasting and bottling. For years, my father retired to the basement where he stirred, watched, sniffed, filtered and tasted his fine wines. Alcohol was his way of avoiding my mother. It soothed his soul, mind and calmed his nerves. It also pissed our matriarch off.

Bad Behavior

Our negative behavior or unbridled anger only pushes our partners away. Anger is a way of showing disapproval without really conversing about the subject where we object. Anger is avoidance of the truth or emotions. Anger is the only emotion that most of us can experience or express, due to our family of origin. New behaviors must be adopted and learned to move beyond avoidance, bitching and nagging.

Why then do we continue to act in this way, if it doesn't work? What are other ways of getting our brood to hear us and do our bidding? It is what we want, right? What most of us want is to have others do what we want.

Manipulation As A Maneuver

Getting another to perform a task or do what we want is manipulation. Giving sex as a reward for household chores or duties provided makes sex transactional. We become little more than married prostitutes when we use sex to get what we want.

Over the next few weeks, I will explore a variety of communication styles and the results you can hope to receive. No one wants to be called a bitch. So why would we act like one?

To be continued....

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Bitches Don't Have Friends

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Women can be absolutely hateful to other women. Women often look at other women with jealousy, criticism, disdain and just plain bitchiness. "Who does she think SHE is?" is one of the comments I have heard recently. Women often see other women as competition and shun other women because of it. The truth of the matter is that there is a reason for this behavior. 

If you find yourself sitting in judgment of other women, you need to think again. If you are judging others, you also condemn and judge yourself. If you are jealous, concerned about other women taking your man, it is you that needs to give your head a shake. Take a look inside. Those acid comments and thoughts about other females are generated from a poor self image and an attempt to make yourself feel better. As above, so below. In other words, if you judge other women, you are also internally judging and criticising yourself.

When you see a beautiful woman on the street, in the mall or at the beach, do you tell her how terrific she looks, or do you shoot a hateful glance in her direction? How you behave towards other women reflects how you feel about yourself and your feminine aspect.

Women are often openly aggressive towards other women. Especially when the women are scantily clad or extremely attractive or sexy. The survival of the fittest is playing out in our world, in a big way. We want to bash anyone more attractive than us. We put them down and find nitpicky things to focus on. "Her boobs are too big!" or "She looks like a whore!" "I can't believe she left the house looking like that!"

If you are a bitch to other women, you won't have friends. We need compassion, acceptance and kind thoughts directed towards us. If you have acid thoughts in your brain about other women, the ones you are focused on feel it. Women need positive feedback, rather than condemnation and judgment. 

My daughter, Ariel is extremely intuitive and has been since birth. When she opted to dye her hair purple in lieu of getting a tattoo, when her father died, she could hear "whore!" coming from the women who walked by her. The more "Christian" women were, the more judgement and condemnation. Often the most religious of people are the quickest to condemn. If Jesus wouldn't think it or say, we shouldn't be either. 

What If People Could Hear Your Thoughts?

What if every thought you were thinking could be heard by others? Some of us can hear them. Certainly The Universe and The Divine hears your thoughts. Would you still think them? Your thoughts are really not as private as you think. The meaner you are to other women, the meaner you are to yourself. 

If you are bitchy to your own sex, perhaps it is time for you to soften your thoughts towards yourself. When you are kinder to you, you will be kinder to others as well. The more acid your thoughts are to others, the greater chance of cancer, arthritis and other diseases are for you. If thoughts create, what are you creating internally? What is it you are afraid of? 

What Goes Around Comes Around

If you talk about others behind their backs, you can't be trusted to be honest to someone's face. It is quite probable that you have had men cheat on you due to your deceit. 

Whatever we send out comes back to us. We want to make sure our thoughts are beyond reproach. Using the old: What would Jesus to? approach can help. No matter your beliefs or religion, softening our thoughts to that of kindness, compassion, understanding and love brings us more of the same. 

We Have TO BE LOVE, TO HAVE LOVE

If you don't have love in your life, perhaps your thoughts aren't that loving. Love begins with you. Loving yourself. Loving acceptance of you. Giving love and acceptance to you first and then it bubbles up and radiates out into everyone you come into contact with.  I love you for being here. I love you for taking the time to visit my blog. I love that you are open enough to look for answers. I look forward to your comments, questions and feedback. How did this article make you FEEL? Did it burn your butt? Did it irk or irritate? If so, you are triggered. You can't be triggered if you don't have shituff to come up.


Are Your Married?

The other part of this equation is that often women who are bitches are married. They say no to sex more often than they say yes. You have got to ask yourself, why do you say no? What part of you does not want to love? What part of you refuses to give AND receive love? When we don't have sex with our husbands, it sends them out the door to have sex with the women they met at the grocery store, gas station or on the hiking trail. There are plenty of women who WILL say YES!

How can I get beyond this place?

1. Focus on you. Remember you are beautiful.
2. Think loving thoughts about yourself, then thinking loving thoughts about others will be easier.
3. Make the conscious choice.
4. Isn't it time? Your heart is calling you to make this step. 

Jennifer Elizabeth Masters is non-judgmental, compassionate and caring. She is an author, inspirational speaker and empowerment coach. She helps women find true happiness and love. Jennifer empowers, coaching with compassion so that your loneliness, depression and emptiness are replaced with fulfillment, passion and love. Jennifer is available for private sessions of Akashic Record readings, energy clearings, Shamanic clearing as well as empowered catalystic coaching. She is an author, life, love and sex coach. She is a healed healer, overcoming her own depression, emptiness and self condemnation. She was enlightened in 2012. She became self actualized at the same time. This makes her a very different type of coach. She comes from a place of love and acceptance. Her website is: JenniferElizabethMasters.com Jennifer has traveled to India, Bali and studied Metaphysics for over 30 years. She is a medium and channel as well as a hypnotherapist.