13 Powerful Cures For Worry

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

"I am an old man and I have known a great many troubles, but most of them never happened." ~ Mark Twain

Worry can cause stomach upset, weight loss, cortisol rise and untold stress on the body and mind. Worry consumes our time, energy and life force. When we worry, we miss out on much of life. We may have insomnia and anxiety from our worries. We miss out on much of life. We may even miss out on love. 

What Fears Do You Have?

Fears and worry often accompany one another. If you worry you often also have intense fears. People fear snakes, spiders, flying, being hurt, having their children die, getting pregnant, getting an STD, having your partner cheat, being abandoned, dying, getting sick, getting cancer, the list goes on. Fears trap us in the belief that what we are afraid of is real. A phobia is another word for fear. Phobias stop us from experiencing life and love fully. I used to be one of those people. Until I read the survey results, I had forgotten how fearful I used to be. I was led to create "Love Yourself Fearlessly," from what I learned. This program is my foundational work which leads you to love.

Is There A Positive Side To Worry?

Many people believe falsely that worry protects them. Worry can keep you up at night, make you nervous and jumpy during the day. Worry affects job performance, relationships, and your children. If we are worriers, we train and imprint our children with our beliefs and fears. There is no positive side to worry. Worry does not help you nor does it protect you. Worry is a waste of energy. Worry is a wasted emotion. Worry is destroying your life.

The Truth About Worry

Statistics prove that 40% of what we worry about will never happen. 30% of what you are worrying about has already happened. 12% are needless worries are about what others think of us. 10% of our worries are about being late, what to wear, what to cook for dinner, or what time people will be home. 8% of what we worry about actually happens. Of this 8%, 4% are about natural disasters or death of a loved one. The worry is often more damaging than the actual event itself. Worry is a wasted energy and emotion. Worrying about the past is like closing the barn door after the horses have already run away - pointless! 

Worry is a fear about something that we imagine could happen. Worry is not based on reality. It is based on something that we imagine, therefore it is based on a false premise. Worry is a fear that repeats in a loop. The more we worry about something happening, the more trapped we feel. What we worry about or fear rarely happens. 

Worry is An Unending Spiral

We get into an unending loop of thoughts when we worry. It could be thoughts about how we are going to have enough to pay our mortgage, rent, bills or debt. Regret about our decisions or actions can cause worry as well. Some of the thoughts could be:

"IF ONLY.......

"I stayed home......"

"didn't sleep with him"

"didn't buy that dress....(car, book, phone)"

"I didn't say that....."

OR

"WHAT IF.....

"I get fired....

"can't pay my bills..."

"my daughter gets pregnant"

"my boss hates me"

"I lose the sale...."

"no one likes me"

"I never find someone to love me..."

When I used to worry, I would wake up at 2:30 or 3:30 every night. My thoughts would begin. I worked myself up into a frenzy so that I was awake for hours. My stomach would become acidic and upset. I created canker sores in my mouth and I finally ended up taking Benadryl to sleep. This does not serve you or help you in any way. 

Here are some things that I did to stop this spiral:

1. Pray. I changed my worry into a prayer. Instead of worrying about the thought, I asked God, my Guides and the angels to take care of what my worry was. "Creator of my being, Guides, and angels that protect me, please take this worry from me. Take care of this issue for me. Allow me to sleep in peace. Thank you for your service to me. Amen."
2. Use a mantra. A mantra can be very healing. I used them in meditation and throughout my day. This is what I teach my coaching clients to replace negative thoughts about themselves and their lives. A mantra is always positive. The best time to use a mantra is when your mind is in neutral - then it accesses your unconscious mind where permanent change occurs. However, I recommend using them in place of a worrisome thought. It could be as simple as, "I LOVE ME!" or "THE UNIVERSE ALWAYS HAS MY BACK." "THE UNIVERSE LOVES ME." 
3. Faith. When we are in fear, we can't be in faith. When I KNEW without a doubt that God/The Divine/The Universe always had my back and was working FOR my good, everything changed. I know this to be true. Until you recognize this truth, you need to strengthen your faith. Faith is knowing without a doubt that God is on your side. Your angels protect you. (I see this when I am saved from death driving in my car repeatedly and my bills are paid miraculously.)
4. Write a To Do List. Writing things down that need to be done can help you create order. The Universe loves order. The more order in your mind, the more order in your home and vise Versa. When you have order, you will also have peace Work daily on your to-do list.
5. Prioritize. Not everything is urgent. Do what absolutely needs to get done to chip away at your list. As you complete a task, cross it off your list. Congratulate yourself for accomplishing one more thing. 
6. Stop The Self-Flagellation. Monks used to beat themselves (literally) with a whip. They would stand in their little chamber strip off their robe and hit themselves with a leather whip. When you beat yourself up with your words and thoughts you are making yourself smaller and less significant. Know you are worthy. Know you have a purpose. Know you are love deep inside. Love is the answer. Love you. Allow you to feel the love that The Universe and God has for you. If you don't believe in God - (I didn't till I was in my 30s) you will continue to flail about and feel useless. My faith has become stronger as I have heard and seen miracles in my life. I can help you with this.
7. Get Busy. When you sit around doing nothing, your mind has too much time. When you don't give your mind something to do or focus on it will run amok. Get on your hands and knees and wash your kitchen floor. Then do your bathroom floor. Clean the litter box. Wash your car. While you are doing these tasks use your mantra or find something to be grateful for.
8. Gratitude. When we begin to recognize what we have, we are focusing on the good, rather than the negative. Shifting your focus from negative to positive makes your mind quiet down. Your body prefers positive thought to negative also. Gratitude will shift you faster than any other thing. If you can't think of anything to be grateful for use this: "Thank you for another day of life. Thank you for my vibrant health. Thank you for my friends. Thank you for the love in my life (even if you don't see it - beginning to give thanks for something opens you up to the possibility of it and allows love to come to you) thank you for my hands that work, my legs that move and my eyes that see. Thank you for the birds that sing, thank you for the trees that give me shade.
9. Give. Give to someone less fortunate than you. Clean out your closets and take your old belongings to people who need them. Giving opens you up to receive more. There is always someone who has less than you. Give a dollar to the homeless person on the street corner.
10. Call a loved one. Talking to someone who isn't a worrier can help calm you down. 
11. Watch a funny movie or comedian. Laughter heals. Laughter will shift you. I stopped watching television with commercials, the news or reading papers over 15 years ago. My life is much more calm, happy and positive as a result of letting go of that negativity. 
12. Meditate. Meditation will shift you from worry, fear or even anger quickly. I have a You Tube video that will help you if you BELIEVE that you can't meditate. Stay open to new ideas. Do it once and see how it changes your life. Do it daily and it will change your life. I have also written a blog about The Divine Presence Process Meditation which includes the video.
13. Breathe. Breathe slowly, filling your lungs while focusing on your breath. As you inhale, relax your shoulders. At the top of your inhalation when your lungs are completely filled, slowly begin to exhale. Exhale all the air in your lungs completely and begin to inhale again. Each time you inhale do so slowly, filling your lungs as full as you can. Most of you are barely breathing. Breathing deeply will bring you into the present where you will find your worries disappear. 

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The Spiral Of Addiction? - Or As The World Turns

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Sometimes, our addictive behaviors and patterns are so ingrained that we would rather stay where we are then take the step up, to get out of it. There are many ways that addictions express themselves. From food addiction, to shopping, drugs or sex, the source of all addictions is the same. We long for love. We crave love and don't love ourselves enough. 

If our addiction is food, we can take care of this over-eating problem by lap-band surgery. Seemingly a quick fix recovery for many. The problem on the other side is the root of the issue remains. Another addiction turns up which can't be controlled with surgery. If we don't get to the root of the issue, the addiction is not healed.

We might have our ex who used to beat us up, sleeping on our couch because he is the father of our daughter, so we have to help him, right? We may focus on fixer upper relationships, certainly with our help we can shape our partners into better humans. This focus on others takes us away from healing our own issues. We look at others issues because it is too painful to see our own.

As a former addict myself, my addiction to love, relationships, shopping and sex was the driving force in my life. I had to have a relationship to feel whole and complete. In marriage, I found myself reactive, emotional and self sabotaging. My own inner demons attracted partners who had them also. 

Addicts experience highs that are amazing and lows that are so dark that getting out of bed can take hours. No matter who you are, on some level addictions are at the core of our human experience. 

We look at the man we are living with, perhaps with disdain, because he is an alcoholic. Looking at him, we can't see our own addiction to pot, food, chocolate or sex. Addictions are addictions. No one is better than another because of their drug of choice. Codependence is one of the biggest humans experience.

From Day One

From the day we are born, we are codependent. We need our mothers for food, care, diaper changes and love. We need to be held, cuddled, praised and cared for with loving kindness. We need to be told we are wonderful, hugged, held and guided lovingly.

When those things don't happen, we look for others things to fulfil our needs as adults. When our mothers aren't whole, confident and healthy human beings, we don't form healthy bonds with other humans. We look to others for validation, praise, self esteem and love. Often we are so blocked and resistant to love, we don't feel it when it is truly present. 

Smoke 'Em If You've Got 'Em

If humans weren't such addicted souls, alcohol, pot, chocolate and cigarettes wouldn't be multi-billion dollar industries. 

Ultimate Compassion

As a healed healer, I have dealt with my own demons over the years. I no longer need to have a man in my life to feel complete. I love being alone with me. I love myself - even the parts that used to drive me crazy, like ADD. I have learned to lovingly embrace all the parts of myself and use those shadowy parts to write and express myself creatively. At one time, I used to spend thousands of dollars in one shopping expedition. Now I rarely shop and focus on bargains, instead of extravagance. I am happy no matter where I am and who I am with. My adult children, mother and I all share happy healthy boundaries and healed relationships. 

I have great compassion for people with addictions. Healing our addictions cannot be done alone. We need help. We need someone to reach down and pull us up, one step up the ladder at a time. We need someone to lovingly encourage us. Our mind chatter keeps us stuck, ravaged by guilt, low self esteem and self sabotage that we can't break out of on our own. I know it took me 30 years of deep, intensive excavation to do it. 

Neediness And Love

Marilyn was the epitome of neediness, the loss of her mother
created a void she attempted to fill with alcohol and drugs.

It was not always easy for me. I used to think I loved myself. Yet, when it came time for being alone, I felt restless, uncomfortable in my own skin. I didn't like being alone with me. I longed for companionship and someone to love me. I had it backwards. Until I completely loved and accepted myself, I wasn't ready to have a healed and healthy relationship. I was too needy. Now I help women (and some men) find the love that they are, FIRST, before they go out trying to attract someone in. 

Drugs, Alcohol, Sex, Shopping, Work

Balancing our lives without addiction may mean we don't drink, smoke or shop like warriors any more. We may find a simple life is much more fulfilling. We need the spiritual part to complete the process. Through meditation, mantras, and spiritual practice, the void we once felt is filled. 

Using Our Addiction To Avoid Feeling

When shopping was my drug of choice, the thrill of the hunt made me feel high. I loved finding new outfits; purses, shoes, belts and skirts that all looked fantastic on me. When it came time to pay at

the cash register, I often broke into a sweat. I would justify my purchases, I deserved them I would think at the same time ask myself, "What am I doing?" Then guilt would set in. I would feel regret, shame and horrible afterward. The thrill was in the hunt. After a while, when my credit cards were tapped out, I found staying away from malls, festivals and stores was a better way to go, when I was feeling emotions I didn't want to experience.

I didn't think I had a problem. I know other women shop and never wear half of what they buy. Taking armfuls of brand new clothes to Goodwill years later with tags still on. This is a problem. 

Suppressing Emotions

Anytime we reach for chocolate, alcohol, pot, Zanax, excessive masturbation, sex or shop to shift the way we feel, we are numbing ourselves. The source is a lack of self acceptance and unconditional love. 

What Can You Do NOW?

1. Recognize you have an issue. DENIAL is the biggest part of addiction. 
2. Accept that you have an issue and you need help. Get counseling, a coach or someone to help you through it.
3. Spiritual Practice. Ask for God's help. The fastest way to heal an addiction is by admitting you are helpless over it. Most addicts think they can do it themselves. That is the inner demons talking. Most people will not kick a habit without help of some kind - 12 step, church, prayer, healer or coach, therapy. 
4. Be compassionate. The more loving you are of yourself through it, the better off you will be. You will have greater success when you don't beat yourself up for it. Humans have addictions. You are human. 
5. Stopping the habit (addiction) is not enough. Behavior has to change. Without a change in behavior there is no change. Don't keep credit cards, wine, cigarettes, sugary foods, drugs in your home. 
6. Perception is everything. Have a positive attitude. You can do this! 
7. Eat a healthy diet. Good food will help sustain you through the stress of giving up your addiction. 
8. Get enough sleep. A good night's sleep will help you feel more positive and aid depression. 
9. Love yourself. You deserve it! You are deserving of love. You are already worthy. You are already enough!

As a healed addict myself, I understand the power of addictions. Most of us can go through the list beginning with codependence, alcohol, pot, food, sex....  giving up one addiction for another. Until the behavior and thoughts change - no change is permanent. Even drinking coffee every day is an addiction. In my work with co-dependence I give you the tools to assist you change behaviors. Through loving support, I encourage you, uplift you and help you with tools you can use every day. 

Most people don't think of codependency as an addiction, but it is. When you have a longing inside of you that nothing can fill, I can help. When you put your relationship above your personal health and happiness, it is codependency. We stay in relationships that are unhealthy because we are addicted. I hope that you will contact me for your free discovery session to find out whether my work is a good fit for you. 

With much love,

Jennifer