Soulfully Orgasmic Sex: The Female Orgasm

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Orgasm For Life: Moving Mountains and Women - One and The Same

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Moving Mountains and Women - One And The Same

It may seem you have to move a mountain to please a woman. Most women need to have certain criteria to be met before having sex. They need to feel secure, safe and have trust in their man. Women need romance, soft candle light, music at the very least. Women need to be appreciated and thrive on romantic dinners, gifts, or flowers and to be told that they are beautiful. 

Women need to be stress-free, or they can’t let go. Their man could be pounding them like there is no tomorrow while she is focused on all the laundry that needs to be folded, the school lunches that need to be made or counting ceiling tile. She might even mentally write

her grocery list while you are yelling “Yes! Yes Yes!” Women stress about what has not been completed and will think about those things during sex. 

Women need to be told that they taste good and smell even better. Most of us are very sensitive regarding vaginal odor and won’t feel comfortable having oral sex if there is any doubt. Women need to have their head in the game, or their sexual experience will not give them the pleasure or stimulation to get them all the way to orgasm.

Women want their partners to be clean, fresh from a shower. Expecting a woman to give you a blow job when your balls smell like musty mushrooms or sweat can be your signature odor, but won’t win you mind-blowing sex. Seriously! Would you go down on yourself if you smelled that bad? Everything you eat goes through your body. Even down to your balls. Garlic, onions, and other strong smelling foods make your balls smell like yesterday’s leftovers. Note to self, “Must shower before sex!” (This is true for both men and women.)

We love men for how easily they can be turned on. We love that we can get you to come with such ease, most of the time. The joke that men only have enough blood supply to run one brain at a time is true. When men get turned on, they easily turn off all thoughts of work, the car needing an oil change or what time they have to be up for work the next day. Most men are very easy to please. We love that about you. We often wish we could be more like you.

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G-Spot Fact or Fiction?

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Thank you to Trojan for this photo

Videos of a women experiencing ejaculatory orgasms are extolled on porn sites, and even You Tube. Many self-respecting women hear about these gushing orgasms and question what the fuss is all about. "Why on earth would I want one?", they wonder. Porn stars have them, but should a wife and mother want to have them too?

Those who have had them say the experience brings them to a state of utter satisfaction and profoundly deepens the connection they share with their partners. So how does one have them?

Typically, these kinds of orgasms are linked to stimulation of the G-spot, an area of the female anatomy that has garnered a near mythical status over the last six decades. While science has been slow to prove what every woman who has been stimulated there knows (that it's very real!), we finally have at least a case study demonstrating its existence.

The G-Spot is a pleasure center approximately the size of a quarter, located 1 to 2.5 inches inside the vaginal opening, on the upper interior wall, towards the belly button. It is in close proximity, albeit internally located centimeters from the sensitive clitoris. With one curled upward facing finger, the G-Spot is within every woman's reach. So why do so many women have difficulty finding it?

The main reason is this: the G-Spot is extremely sensitive to pressure, so most women react to the initial discomfort and stop the stimulation. Because it's comprised of erectile tissue, the G-spot has a ribbed texture like a washboard, and the first touch of this sensitive area creates a strong urge to urinate. Most women experience this feeling and don't push through the initial discomfort.

As a women, there are two things you can do to move through this initial stage more easily: empty your bladder before sex play, and bear down towards the pressure when you feel it. Beyond this urge to pee awaits immense, deeply profound waves of pleasure that can last minutes and create an ejaculatory orgasm. This is why the G-spot is often referred to as the "woman's prostate."

The G-Spot, named after Dr. Ernst Gräfenberg who discovered this extremely sensitive area in 1950, has been the source of much myth and debate since then. Although a very sensitive area was also discussed in The Kama Sutra as early as 1100 that led to intense, multiple orgasms, some medical doctors still deny it's existence to this day.

A recent study by Dr. Amichai Kilchevsky, a urology resident at Yale-New Haven Hospital in Connecticut determined  “Without a doubt, a discreet anatomic entity called the G-spot does not exist.”  Dr. Kilchevsky did his testing in a sterile laboratory with bright lights and cameras. No wonder the women tested could not become aroused enough for the erectile tissue of the G-spot to be engorged, or felt!

It's important to remember that just because something hasn't been found, does not mean it doesn't exist. It simply means it hasn't yet been found. Early maps of our world left off whole islands and even continents, simply because they hadn't yet been discovered.

Biologist, Zoe Cormier, believes the G-spot is real and shares this in her Huffington Post interview:

"I don't think it's a myth, and I read an entire book about it. Beverly Whipple at Rutgers has devoted pretty much 30 years to studying this thing. I don't think there is any way that that kind of body of research could be created if it wasn't real. I don't think that all women necessarily have one, but it does seem that it's a sort of cluster of tissue that can grow in size as you age, and the more you use it, the more it grows, just like any muscle."

Women, when you stimulate your G-spot, it becomes awakened and enlarged. Usually 20 minutes of arousal is enough for you to feel the swollen ribbed area on the upper wall. Prior to stimulation, the G-spot is flat because it is not engorged or erect. Like a man prior to being aroused, the G-spot needs some TLC to perform.

Anxiety, failure to focus, or an inability to relax, can all cause arousal issues. And this may explain why the G-spot has been so elusive over the years -- especially in scientific settings. Without the ability to be present and focused on the sex act, many women just don't get turned on enough for the G-Spot to appear. Often, they may just be beginning to reach this point of arousal when the coitus experience ends, due to their partner's orgasm.

What is needed in these cases is to extend the act of foreplay longer, and to massage the G-spot a while longer prior to penetration. Using a curled finger, massaging with pressure in a come hither motion intensifies the sensitivity of this area. The G-spot can also be reached in coitus, but that obviously takes more expertise. Russell Brand quips in his Netflix Special, Messiah Complex, that you need a special upward stroke of the penis to be able to "get the G-spot off!"

Here's my explanation of that. As the man's penis begins to swell right before ejaculation, women often begin to feel the benefits of this increase in girth, which naturally begins to put pressure on the G-spot. If the man can hold off his own orgasm, he may be able to stimulate his partner's G-spot with an upward stroke. Pulling back to the point of almost exiting the vagina and taking short strokes through penetrating thrusts instead of deep thrusting, will stimulate the G-spot.

Personally I believe that every woman with a vagina has a G-spot. It may be dormant, but that does not mean it doesn't exist. As women age, this area becomes larger and more sensitive the more it is stimulated. So ladies, this means you can actually develop your G-spot like any other muscle simple by stimulating it yourself and also by getting your partner to engage in more pre-coital stimulation. Yes, if it's desired, female ejaculation can become a regularly occurring phenomenon for any woman.

I find that women who have been through sexual trauma may first need to undergo some gentle release work to eliminate the cellular trauma that is stored in the G-spot.  The movie Bliss, with Terrance Stamp as the Tantrika healer, details the issues related to sexual trauma and G-spot dysfunction. It isn't that women don't have a G-spot, but the fact that trauma is often stored in the erectile tissue which causes a lack of orgasmic release. Tantric healing massage is explained in detail in my book, Orgasm For Life ~ Sexual Healing.

Here are instructions for how to locate and stimulate the G-Spot:

1) Place a towel or two beneath her buttocks, comfortably. When the G-Spot releases there may be a considerable amount of Amrita released. This is not urine. The liquid comes from the Skene's Glands, not the bladder.

2) While performing oral sex add an additional motion of an upward turned finger stroking, putting pressure on the ribbed area on the upper wall of the vagina.

3) Stroking toward yourself in a "come hither" motion, add some gentle pressure, massaging the quarter sized ribbed area.

4) When you are massaging the G-Spot, you will notice the area swelling and becoming engorged as it is stimulated. The G-Spot is composed of erectile tissue, like the penis.

5) There will most likely be a feeling or urge to urinate.

6) Empty your bladder.

7) Returning to the stimulation, bear down or move towards the pressure.

8) Continue stroking, massaging the G-Spot.

9) Breathe, open your mouth as it relaxes the vagina.

10) Allow yourself to enjoy the stimulation and let go of the need to think about anything but the pleasure you are experiencing. Focus on the pleasure. If it becomes too intense breathe through your mouth, do your best to relax and let go. Move towards the pleasure.

11) Allow yourself to flow into the feelings of ecstasy. Relax. Follow the pleasure.

Shifting into sex and passion was a natural transition for me; someone who loves sex and who has healed addictions and codependency. In my book, Orgasm For Life I share what I

learned on my journey from sexual dysfunction to wholeness. I hope you'll read my books and discover your inner soul's purpose on your road to healing. And connect with me for deeper work, if you feel called.

Jennifer Elizabeth Masters now empowers women and men through her love and passion coaching. Using six modalities, the experience is different for every person. Self love is the source of all addictions. Loving the self is the greatest gift you can give yourself and the world. You can find additional resources on her blog, Love Yourself Fearlessly.

5 Ways Chocolate Makes Love Sexier

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

With one taste,  your body relaxes, your eyes roll back and you feel an all over swoon of pleasure and delight.  It is no wonder most women have a love affair with chocolate. It is our go-to essence, grounding and calming influence when we are upset. It is the drug of choice for many. It is certainly my personal drug of choice. It is the one thing that I consistently reach for to help me focus while writing or when I have been meditating or doing high level spiritual work. It grounds me. I feel loved when I eat it. Eating chocolate for me is both a sensual and visceral experience.

I know I am not alone. Chocolate is so much more than a food, it is a medicine, that boosts mood, feeds our emotions and our soul. It is also more than just a tasty treat. It reduces stress, reduces the risk of stroke and makes you feel loved. More information follows about this amazing food for the Gods! 

"After water, cocoa is the single healthiest substance you can put in your mouth. It can easily replace a number of psychiatric drugs for mood, plus it produces the same chemistry in the brain that occurs when we fall in love." Chris Kilham, Medicine Hunter 

Mankind Has Used Chocolate For Thousands of Years

The Aztecs, Mayans and Olmec Indians all used cocoa in their rituals. The Olmec Indians were the first to cultivate cocoa as a crop between 1500 BC and 400 BC. More recently, scientists have finally settled on the Orinoco Valley in Venezuela as the place that chocolate was first known to have grown. The 

inside the cocoa pod

Theobroma cacao, tree was more recently discovered by the 18th century Swedish Scientist, Carl Von Linne. Although the tree bears fruit and flowers all year round, it offers two harvests per year, producing large football shaped pods. On the heels of the Superbowl, I find this a fitting article. Each football shaped pod is about nine inches in length and contains about 30 or 40 almond sized seeds (cocoa beans). There are three different varieties that are used to make chocolate. They are: criollo, forastero, and trinitario.

The Theobroma cacao trees are presumed to have spread into Mexico, where it was cultivated. Chocolate has been used by the ancients in religious and fertility rituals. The Mayans used chocolate as a gift to their Gods. In 1570, chocolate was used as a medicine and aphrodisiac. In 1657, the first chocolate house was opened in London, England, by a Frenchman. Trust the romantic French! Back then, chocolate was considered a beverage only for the elite class.

All history aside, what exactly does chocolate do for you?

Chocolate Enhances Brain Function

Chocolate enhances the mind, mood, and increases feelings of love. There are two substances in chocolate that we are interested in: Theobromine and caffeine. Though many say that caffeine is a substance we should not consume, it has been scientifically proven to be beneficial for the brain in moderate amounts. Caffeine is the most widely used stimulant on the planet. Caffeine stimulates the central nervous system, the flow of blood to the brain and increases the neurotransmitter, serotonin. An alkaloid, like morphine, caffeine can reduce pain and is found in certain pain relievers. Though chocolate contains modest amounts of caffeine, it helps you focus, increases alertness and assists with thought formation. It enhances overall health, mood function and cardiovascular health.

Caffeine taken in a dose of 300 milligrams a day or less is good for you. Compared with a cup of coffee, dark chocolate contains between 10 and 60 milligrams of caffeine, versus an 8 ounce cup of  strong coffee which can contain up to 260 milligrams of Trimethylxanthine (caffeine). Coffee is actually good for you. 

Theobromine, caffeine's chemical cousin occurs in greater quantities; about 250 milligrams per 50 gram bar of dark chocolate. Theobromine possesses a different chemical structure than caffeine, is a stronger cardiac stimulant, and much less studied. Theobromine has intense mood enhancing effects.

The Big Aah!

Chocolate's greatest benefit is they way it enhances sexual pleasure. It increases the levels of serotonin in the brain, the feel-good chemical. Chocolate increases sexual excitation, desire and responsiveness. Maybe this is why I was inspired to write Orgasm For Life, due to my chocolate consumption!

Serotonin

Serotonin plays a role in positive mental health, mood and psychological function. It is a well known fact that people with depression are deficient in serotonin. With too little serotonin you may also have difficulty sleeping, eating disorders, or imbalances in mood, not to mention depression. Serotonin is responsible for for balancing appetite, mood, a multitude of behavioral and psychological issues. Women have more serotonin in their bodies, which may be one of the reasons they seem to be more attracted to chocolate than men.

Serotonin Soothes The Savage Beast

It has been scientifically proven that men and women with low levels of Serotonin are more prone to aggressive behaviors, sexual

aggression, as well as a higher rate of masturbation and promiscuity.

Bliss and Love

Chocolate is a rich, complex compound comprised of plant-based antioxidant polyphenols that act upon the brain, that gives us pleasurable feelings that no other food or medicine can replicate. These feelings involve a lifted mood, intense pleasure and bliss. 

Phenathylamine (PEA) is the chemical most responsible for the feelings of love and bliss in chocolate. This chemical is found in small amounts in chocolate, stimulating the nervous system triggering the release of opium-like substances in the brain, known as endorphins. Phenathylamine also potentiates the neurochemical

dopamine which is directly associated with sexual response, arousal and pleasure. PEA rises when we we are in love and significantly during orgasm. It is a potent anti-depressant. Phenathylamine is the chemical responsible for that giddy, crazy, euphoric feeling that we get when we are in love.

Some experience a drop in PEA immediately following an orgasm where they might feel intense sadness (PCT post coital tristess). For men and women who experience this Tantra will help, it allows you to keep your sexual energy up for longer periods of time without the sadness afterwards. (More on this in another post)

Cannabinoids in Chocolate?

Cannabis

Marijuana, the brain and chocolate are the only places cannabinoids are found. THC is the chemical that produces the high when the marijuana plant is consumed. The brain produces mind-altering cannabinoids called Anandamide. Anandamide comes from the sanskrit word Ananda, meaning, yes, you got it - BLISS! Anandamide binds to the same receptors sites that THC from cannabis. Anandamide produces a feeling of euphoria. This could very well be the reason so many people say that they are orgasmic while eating chocolate. It is a real phenomenon for many. Chocolate can make some feel blissed out, while others have very little response. 

5 Ways Chocolate Makes Love Sexier (There are way more than 5!)

1. Increases serotonin in the brain, allowing the body to respond with greater desire, excitation and responsiveness.
2. Acts as a bonding agent that enhances a sense of closeness between lovers.
3. Increases blood flow to the brain, so that sexual experiences are felt more strongly.
4. Increase in Phenathylamine which allows dopamine to be produced and released, causing the pleasure response.
5. Chocolate actually promotes the brain chemistry of being in love!

While researching this article I found 50 movies about - CHOCOLATE. Here is the link for your viewing pleasure. My personal favorite is "Like Water For Chocolate." It is funny, erotic and so chocolately. 

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