What Hate Does To Us Inside

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

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Sinus Infections: How To Train Your Inner Dragon

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Irritable, agitated, bitchy? What the heck happened to change me from the happy peaceful woman to feel so darned bitchy and irritable?

Two words, my mother! Those closest to us have the greatest impact on us for the duration of our lives. Our mothers can trigger us very quickly because they know exactly where to poke, prod or press. 

What causes a sinus infection?

Someone close to us that has made us angry, and we avoid speaking the truth to them for whatever reason is the root cause of a sinus infection.

If you have been following me for some time, you have heard about my mother, the narcissist. My mother is a stickler for politeness and thank you notes. She has alienated all her grandchildren who no longer speak to her. She cuts people off from gifts if they don't send her a thank you note.

Mrs. Manners (my mother) was rude to me. I called her after weeks of silence when she last called me, "STUPID," and she was rude. She didn't want to talk to me because she was watching "her show" (soap opera). 

I love deeply. To find my mother so resistant and rude to me when manners are what she preaches to everyone else, made me feel hugely disrespected. Manners don't work just one way. If someone expects you to be polite and mannerly to them, they ought to be polite to others, right?

A loving relationship is much more important to me than any darn television show. However, my mother obviously didn't feel the same. She didn't want to interrupt her show. 

Watch this video and discover the truth about sinus infections.

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Feeling Sorry For Yourself? Beware of How Anger and Self-Pity Made Me Sick at Christmas

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Mel, Adam, Me and Ariel, SouthPark CO

I discovered this past Christmas how we can keep ourselves vibrantly healthy with our thoughts of gratitude and conversely how quickly our health can be taken away when we get upset (angry or hurt) and take our health for granted.

"To enjoy good health, to bring true happiness to one's family, to bring peace to all, one must first discipline and control one's own mind. If a man can control his mind he can find the way to Enlightenment, and all wisdom and virtue will naturally come to him." ~Buddha

I have not been sick in years. In fact, I can't remember the last time I got a cold, the flu or anything. Focusing on how I feel in any given moment rather than on what others are doing is a large part of why I feel so happy with myself and my life. I know that being happy and grateful have been paramount in my healthy constitution. Daily meditation and being content with my life, fulfilled by my work all have contributed to my daily inner peace. 

What I am about to share is giving you inside information of both my life and how we create disease and illness with our thoughts and emotions. Putting these two things together could save you from serious illness and even cancer later on.

Karma is a part of my family she loves to travel with me

When I visit my children in Colorado, I drive. Why do I drive? Besides the fact that driving is enjoyable to me, I drive because I bring my dogs who are part of my family in my car. Karma is going on nineteen years old. Putting an old dog on a plane is both inhumane and inconsiderate. I won't do either to her. 

Grand Canyon, Arizona

I also enjoy the drive across our beautiful country watching the change in topography from the beige sand and mundane landscape of the Mojave desert into Nevada, Los Vegas, Arizona, Utah then Colorado. 

I watch the terrain and weather change become rocky and breathtakingly beautiful. Driving is a moving meditation. I usually drive in the 1,000-mile drive in silence with occasional music when I feel fatigued. I am  always excited to see my family, so the drive is part of that experience.

I left home on December 13th so that I could help my daughter move from her apartment in Longmont where she had lived alone to Thornton where she and a college friend would share in the expenses. The trip from where I live in California with a stop in

Arizona to visit a client who just had a baby was 1,164 miles or 17 hours of drive-time. 

I stopped at the home I was staying at to unload my car and finally arrived at my daughter's apartment in

Longmont, Colorado at 8:00 PM on the third day.

It was cold and snowy in Colorado when I arrived and didn't warm

up for days. Ariel was totally packed when I arrived, but waiting on tape that I brought with me. As soon as I arrived in Longmont, I began taping up boxes so that we would be ready for the move the following day. It was after 11:00 PM before I was driving home to Boulder to sleep. To say I was already exhausted is an understatement. Ariel spent her last night in her apartment. 

On Friday, December 16th, I was up at 6:00 AM. I grabbed something quick to eat, walked Yoda and Karma and loaded them in my cold car my breath making little white puffs of condensation and drove about twelve miles to Ariel's apartment.

We moved boxes around a little and dissembled her Queen-sized wooden bed frame so that it would fit through the narrow outdoor entryway of the girls' new apartment complex. I found it hard to believe that we needed to do this, but Ariel insisted and for good reason. I left Ariel's apartment with Yoda and Karma and picked up the U-haul truck in the cold. 

I waited in line for over an hour while others were processed for their rental trucks by the one young Irish man that owned the dealership. I left my car and attempted to arrange the dogs in the cab of the truck. Karma was miserable on the cold floor with little space to lie down. In another twenty minutes, I was back at Ariel's apartment to load up.

Ariel's boyfriend threw the U-haul truck door quickly surreptitiously causing a spill immediately of Ariel's precariously placed belongings at the back of the truck onto the concrete sidewalk behind the truck. Her Brita water filter smashed and Ariel unleashed angry and ungrateful words onto Josh and then me. Ariel's temper was short from her stress over the move and lack of money and I was exhausted from my trip. The combination of all three of our emotions led to a stressful emptying of the truck.

Yoda still a puppy with Ariel

I suggested that the dogs should be at least allowed to stay in Ariel's bathroom or closet so they would be out of the way during the move-in as they were cold and uncomfortable in the truck. Ariel's response to me felt unappreciative of the travel the dogs and I had just made. Ariel won. The dogs lost. Karma's foot was bleeding from falling between the seats in the U-Haul. She wasn't a happy first dog nor was I.

Between the cold and the stairs my knees took a beating carrying heavy boxes down two flights and then up three flights of stairs at the new apartment. 

Yoda was making his discomfort known in the cab of the cold U-haul truck. He had been barking for over an hour to get out of the truck. Even though I walked the dogs in a park before we began emptying the truck, he wasn't happy sitting alone. 

Ariel didn't want the dogs in the apartment until we had totally unloaded. Both girls moved in simultaneously with her roommate's entire family present. Eleven people helping these two girls created bedlam for approximately three hours. I understood Ariel's reasoning about the dogs, but they had already spent three days in the back of a car on our long journey.

David with Ray

I was exhausted by 2:00 PM when the truck was emptied, David, my middle son showed up just in time to see us closing the U-haul truck door and we flopped on my daughter's bedroom floor sharing the pizza that I bought for everyone. David and another friend of Ariel's put her bed together and got her television and couch set up in the living room. Josh left in a huff before David arrived.

Beautiful Colorado

David followed me as I returned the U-Haul to a local dealership and took me back to Ariel's apartment, then Ariel drove me the thirty odd miles back up to Longmont to my icy cold car. I spent Friday night alone, all day Saturday alone and then went to Ariel's old apartment to clean it from top to bottom early Sunday morning, leaving my dogs in Boulder. 

I cleaned the kitchen, oven, microwave, cabinets, pantry and in between the washer and dryer, the dryer vent while Ariel scrubbed the red, purple, green and various other hair dye colors from the tile and grout in her bathroom. 

I made three trips to Home Depot and The Dollar Store buying cleaning products and stove replacement parts that were forgotten. I attempted to match her carpet color that had burn holes (Colorado is a legal state to smoke marijuana) and to remedy the hair dye stains on her grout.

We cleaned for ten hours missing a party we were invited to as we weren't done. Finally, at 8:00 PM we called it quits for the day. The burn holes in her living room and bedroom carpet from her recreational smoking remained. A $600 deposit hung in the

balance. I attempted to fix one burn hole in the living room without the aid of overhead lighting and gave up frustrated. I spent Sunday night alone.

Monday, Ariel was back at work and as I drove the 40 miles to Denver to meet with two of my long-term favorite clients, my son David called. My oldest son Adam and his girlfriend Mel landed at

Mel, Adam Jennifer and Ariel near SouthPark, CO

the Denver airport at noon. Instead of coming to Boulder to stay with me David asked if I minded if they spent the night with him in Littleton, Co. I said no problem. 

The next day, I was asked to be flexible again, changing my plans to accommodate their desire to stay at David's another night, leaving me in Boulder another night alone.

I hired with Mel's help a carpet installer to fix the burn holes for $125.00. I hired a carpet cleaning company and babysat and paid them. I spent most of the day Thursday back and forth from Home Depot, carpet stores trying to find the right carpet to match. I couldn't. I spent tons of money, time and energy helping Ariel to get her apartment in shape for her walkthrough. I spent five days of my Christmas vacation working like a dog so that Ariel would get her deposit back. 

Mel and Adam spent two nights with me at the house in Boulder. David joined us in Boulder one afternoon and we all, expect Ariel who was working walked through the shops and ate copious amounts of sugary treats. I was astounded at how much sugar we consumed when most of us don't eat it on a daily basis. We were mindlessly eating  sweets I feel because we were all together and sugar deprived!

I drove back and forth to Denver three more times and spent part of the afternoon shopping with my oldest children at an outlet mall. Shopping is one of my least favorite activities, but I did it for the family. That night we also fit in a trip to the Denver Botanical Gardens for their Christmas light show, which we all enjoyed in the snow. 

The exact time-frame doesn't matter. What does matter is that I began to feel a combination of anger and self-pity. I had driven half-way across the country to be with my family and here I was was ~ alone. I love being alone. I enjoy my own company. However, I traveled 1,100 miles for days to spend time with my family. I could have stayed at home!

The 4 R's Of Relationships

I could be alone in my own home in the sunny warmth of California! I didn't need to be freezing my ass off in Colorado winter spending my money on an ungrateful little girl who didn't seem to appreciate all I had done! I had spent very little time with David and Adam and felt unappreciated and angry. I sent texts to both Ariel and David that exemplified my emotional state.

I vented out loud in the kitchen to anyone who would listen. The dogs began to get nervous. My anger was coming from an old pain of being unappreciated. My kids loved me, I knew that, but in this moment I didn't feel it. I felt undervalued and angry. I woke up Christmas eve feeling weird, out of sorts and uncomfortable.

Ariel showed up with a chip on her shoulder (not chocolate) and her Kitchen Aid mixer, to grudgingly bake for a party we were attending that night. We were both exhausted. Both of us felt angry. We both ended up shouting at one another and Ariel was ready to go home to her apartment because she felt terrible she didn't have money for Christmas gifts.

A perfect storm of emotions, pain, suffering, self-pity created a toxic vortex for us both. That very night Ariel and I got sick we had similar manifestations of illness. My nose began to run, I sneezed and sneezed and felt a general malaise. I knew I was getting a sinus infection. 

Sinus problems: Irritation to one person, someone close. I was obviously irritated with Ariel. I felt undervalued, unappreciated and taken for granted. I had spent five days doing things for her, spending my money, time and energy and felt she didn't care. MANTRA: I declare peace and harmony indwell me and surround me at all times. All is well. (Louis Hay You Can Heal Your Body)

Post-Nasal Drip: Inner crying, childish tears. Victim. MANTRA: I acknowledge and accept that I am the creative power in my world. I now choose to enjoy my life.

Colds Upper Respiratory Illness: Too much going on at once. Mental confusion, disorder. Small hurts. MANTRA: I allow my mind to relax and be at peace. Clarity and harmony are within me and surround me. All is well. (Louis Hay You Can Heal Your Body)

How To Choose Differently

I know how to move emotions and energy. I know how to clear myself. However, I was too stuck in my ego to clear myself. I was too stuck in my feelings of self-righteous indignation and self-pity to do all that I knew to do. I could have used my quick mood-changers. I could have breathed deeply and allowed myself to feel the feelings inside, I could have cried or breathed deeply and allow them to move through me. 

I could have taken a fast-paced walk out in the cold and asked Mother Nature and the trees to clear me. I could have taken an Epsom salts bath and meditated. But I didn't. I was stuck in self-pity. No one was doing anything TO ME. I am not a victim. No one is a victim. I chose this. I invited all these events in. I watched as the illness began to engulf me. I wasn't grateful in this moment. I wasn't appreciating anyone else. 

Learning From Experience

We always have a choice. We can choose differently for ourselves rather than be the victim. When we reside in self-righteousness we lose love. From an empowered place we can heal ourselves. We can tap, sing, breathe, meditate and move the energy through us rather than revel in the pain and suffering and stuckness. Our negative thoughts and toxic emotions create disease and even autoimmune issues and diseases, I know I used to have Fibromyalgia and Epstein Barr and auto-immune disease. 

Away From Home

When we are out of our place of sacredness and sanctity of our own space we can feel out of sorts. I wasn't in my home. I wasn't in my sacred space. We have to be able to find a place where we can be safe to meditate and sit in silence. When we are exhausted we aren't present. Pushing our bodies beyond where they are comfortable isn't good either. I pushed myself too hard with the travel, seeing clients and then working physically, up and down stairs acting as a moving man. I was doing things I wasn't used to. All of this created a perfect storm for me to witness how we create illness for ourselves. 

At home, I meditate twice a day most days. I sit in silence and have peace in my home. The last five days of my stay in Colorado I slept on the floor on an air mattress at David's apartment with five other people plus five dogs and two cats. It was lovely to be together with my family. However, it was too much time without alone time for me. There was no place for me to meditate alone. It was far too cold to sit outside on the ground and meditate. Everyone needs silence. Silence allows us to regroup, center and be one with all that is.

I would love to hear from you. Did this article help you in any way? Will it help you recognize how we create disease and illness with our choices? Please share this with your friends and family!

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GRATITUDE

Whoever has gratitude will be given more!

Join me in this 28-day challenge it will only take fifteen minutes a night.

I said PRIZES!

I thought I would sweeten the pot a little to give you something other than more money, better relationships, more success and happiness in your life - as if that isn't enough. The point of this exercise is that nothing is impossible and magic is available to everyone. Couldn't you use a little more magic in your life?

Here's what you need to do if you choose to accept this challenge:

1. Beginning today or as soon as you read this e-mail start noticing the good in your life. 
2. Write down each thing that you are grateful for. If you want better health, be grateful for your vibrant health. If you want more money, be grateful for all the money in your bank account, in your purse or wallet, and on its way to you right now! The more gratitude, the better your life will become. Don't focus on your outer circumstances. 
3. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain.
4. Write down the list of items each night before turning off your light and going to sleep. The thoughts of gratitude right before sleep will be indelibly imprinted on your unconscious mind bringing more good to you.
5. Find a rock that will fit in your hand and place it next to your bed. I am using an amethyst that was given to me for Christmas.
6. Hold the rock in your hand and say out loud after you have written your list the best thing that occurred today that you are grateful for. Each night the energy of this gratitude will expand the energy of this rock.
7. Eventually, all you will have to do is look at the rock and feel gratitude!
8. If you need some help refer to my blog or send me an email: JenniferElizabethMasters@gmail.com

Send me an update once a week, or whenever something seems exciting enough to mention. Write down your successes even when they are small - like your cell phone provider gave you an extra day to pay your phone bill because a check hadn't cleared with the bank holiday. That my friends is a great thing! Whether it seems big or small, write it down.

I wish you the best year yet!

Much Love,
Jennifer

Sinus Infections and Repressed Anger

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Fighting and arguing can allow us to vent, release tension as well as pent-up emotions. Yelling is not be the best way to express ourselves, but in the heat of the moment, it may be healthier in the long run to vent a little rather than stuff it. When we suppress our anger, we are denying it's presence. Anger denied will surely resurface somewhere else, and you might not be very happy about the aftermath.

When we keep quiet about being disrespected, mistreated or invalidated we stuff down the emotions that are attempting to surface. Emotions are meant to move, rather than be immobilized. Repression creates health issues, sometimes immediately. Over time, repressed anger can become cancerous tumors if left unexpressed. Which is why cancer often resurfaces after chemo and radiation. The underlying emotional issue is still present that caused the problem in the first place.

Anger? What Anger?

Have you ever wondered where anger comes from? When our boundaries are crossed, we are disrespected or treated as if we don't matter, our natural response is anger. Anger is a sure sign of crossed boundaries. 

If you have difficulty setting boundaries, anger is the first thing you feel when someone pushes you over the line. It could be a simple question that you have been asked before, but anger surfaces seemingly out of nowhere. When a particular issue arises, again and again, the history of past degradation or disrespect can really push our buttons. For good reason. We are meant to have healthy boundaries. We are not meant to be doormats for others to wipe their feet on, metaphorically speaking.

You can watch this video to hear my story about a sinus infection and what causes them first hand. 

Passive Aggressive

Depending on the way we were raised by our role models, we may have been taught by masters of the art of passive-aggressive strategies. Without realizing, we can use the back door poke and run game that children use. "Oh ya, well then ....  there! See how you like that Mr. Fancy Pants!" Passive aggressive behavior is covert, secretive and manipulating. Eye contact is avoided. Rather than speaking up for oneself, you may ignore your partner when you are angry with them, turn your back on them in bed, huff, puff and generally act like a child. 

Slamming doors and walking away is another way to show that you are angry, without communicating how you feel in a positive way. People who are passive-aggressive tend to avoid conflict and communication. When you ask, "Are you okay?" The answer is usually abrupt, "I'm FINE!" 

SINUS INFECTIONS:

If you are prone to sinus infections, it is likely that you repress anger, rather than discuss and deal with it. Sinus infections are a result of holding in your words, rather than expressing what is coming up for you, usually with someone close to you. Notice the next time you get a sinus infection: did you have an argument with someone where you did not speak up? Did someone cross a boundary? Were you triggered by something that was said that you did not mention to the other person? When we keep our feelings hidden and suppress them, they have to go somewhere.  Thoughts are formulated in the Prefrontal Cortex of the brain, immediately above the sinus cavity. It makes sense that these thoughts slide down, and ferment in the sinus cavity causing a brew that becomes painful. 

Once you recognize you have a sinus infection have a conversation with the person quickly that you are angry with. The sooner that you can act and move the energy the better. If you can't speak with the person involved, do the next best thing: write them an honest letter pouring out your emotions with all the reasons you were upset and angry. There is no need to mail this letter. Burn the letter in a safe place. This releases the energy.

Sounds Far Fetched? 

Louise Hay wrote her book, You Can Heal Your Life, over 20 years ago. Millions have used her book and healing mantras to recover from serious illness and ailments. It is part of my healing process. 

Fear

Often fear is the motivating factor in avoiding conflict. We can be afraid of losing what we have. We can be afraid if we speak up that our partner will not accept us, leave us, or not love us. All of these feelings are motivated by fear. Many women are afraid of men when they yell. This can be because their father raged and yelled to express his anger. When our parents had poor communication and conflict resolution skills the only method for resolution was yelling at one another. Needless to say, little was resolved in this way. Often both parties would retreat to their safe space in anger, fuming for days or even weeks. One person ended up getting the short end of the proverbial stick. Compromise and fair fighting were not often utilized.

There Is No Winning When You Want To Be Right

When we focus on winning an argument, we are losing the relationship war. You may win the argument, but sex, affection, and anything that feels warm and loving may not be experienced by you for quite some time when you win. Competition and winning are not components of a healthy balanced relationship. When you make winning the focus you are making the other person WRONG. 


Negotiating and Reviewing

Relationships are not static. They are ever growing and changing. The easier it is for you to change and allow a shift to occur, the greater chance of success will be. Healthy relationships involve listening and open-hearted communication. Attacking, yelling or condemning the other will not get you what you want. 

Your partner will stop listening when they feel attacked. Instead, listen to their complaint. Acknowledge, "I hear you saying that you feel that ____________." Mirror back to them what they have told you so that they know you heard them. Then tell them that you are sorry. Resist the temptation to use the "You do that to me all the time!" line. It will shut them down and not get you what you want, which is LOVE. 

When you attack another's viewpoint, they will stop listening. When your partner stops listening, you get nowhere. When your partner is upset, (she) won't want to have sex with you.

Rules

1. Listen to the person speaking. 
2. Acknowledge their complaint. Repeat what they said, "What I hear you saying is_________________.
3. I am sorry that you feel this way. I will do my best to not do _____   again. Resist the temptation to say, "Well you do the exact same thing!" Wait 24 hours before you revisit your grievances.
4. Ask questions.
5. Avoid judgment, sarcasm or criticism. 

Other Illnesses Caused By Suppressed Anger or Resentment

1. Cancer (long-standing resentment and hurts)
2. Depression (anger you feel you don't have the right to have.
3. Arthritis (feeling unloved, criticism, resentment)
4. Abscesses (fermenting thoughts about resentment and even revenge)
5. Bad breath, (anger)

Anger, Sex, And Women

Women seem to have a more difficult time than men overcoming an emotional interaction. Perhaps it is because men frequently communicate more openly than women do with anger. Historically, little boys were allowed to be angry, where girls generally were not. Once an argument is over, men can move on and put it behind them (typically) more easily than women. Women process differently and rehash discussions and conflicts in their minds. They may even have arguments with their significant other in their heads! 

Due to our slower processing speed, it is more difficult to get a woman to consider sex after an argument. If we argued with you in the morning, it might be days before we have processed the event enough to feel warm and fuzzy about getting busy with you. In many cases, it is a "HELL NO!"

After An Argument

1. Don't give him the cold shoulder.
2. Don't walk away if he wants to discuss the argument again.
3. Don't keep jabbing him
4. Don't have makeup sex if you don't feel like it. In fact, make-up sex after an argument is counterintuitive. It may feel good at the time, but it can program you to fight so that you can have sex. Instead, just have sex! 

Jennifer, a Master healer, hypnotherapist, and coach. You can visit her website here. 

The energy clearings that she does set her apart from other coaches and healers. She has the ability to clear patterns, limiting beliefs, depression, suicide, anxiety, and long-standing hurt. These energy clearings will help you focus, feel lighter, have more clarity, be positive and give you a sense of freedom that you have not felt before.

Jennifer is the author of Orgasm For Life and Odyssey Victim to Victory and Happy Anywhere coming out in late fall 2017. You can connect with Jennifer through her private e-mail here:

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The Dance of Anger

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Note to my readers: I did a podcast this week on the subject of The Dance of Anger. Here is the link to the download. I had a great response from those who were present. I also cleared triggers for people at the end of the broadcast. I was not quite myself, recovering from holding in angry words which induced a sinus infection.... you have to listen in. https://www.dropbox.com/s/z3xs00p5s9wdoa5/The%20Dance%20of%20Anger.mp3

For those of us who grew up with anger in our household, anger is an emotion, we have spent a lifetime avoiding. Yet, anger is a protective device, that allows us to feel that something is wrong. It can show us when someone has betrayed or disrespected us, crossed our boundaries or not appreciated us. Anger spurs us into action and can help us stand up for ourselves, when nothing else would. Anger motivates us. 

Don't forget to listen in to my FREE podcast tonight. The login information is at the end of the blog. 

Anger turned inward can become passive aggression. When we are able to speak about what has made us angry, we can address the situation and seek change. Without anger, in some cases, nothing changes.

There is a positive side to anger. Social change has come from anger. Women's Suffrage, enacted social change through the outrage of women not being allowed to vote. Martin Luther King used anger to create social change for the Civil Rights movement.

Many of us were not allowed to express anger in our household. That position was reserved for the adults only. Children needed to be "happy!" When we are conditioned to hold anger in, to stuff our feelings we often end up dealing with chronic depression, like I had for over 20 years. 

Depression is caused by the repression of anger. When we do not allow anger to surface, bubble up and feel it completely, we end up stuffing it down. Like a volcano that erupts under pressure, we can explode when we have held too much in for too long. Anger needs to be released in small increments, rather than huge eruptions, where we can burst a blood vessel, or have a heart attack from the rise in blood pressure. Anger was not meant to be stuffed. Rather it is a natural expression of frustration, impatience and things not going the way we feel they should. 

There are healthy ways to express anger in the moment without ripping someone's head off. The more repressed our emotions are, the more we tend to react when we get irritated of frustrated. 

What Sets Us Off?

Usually events have an emotional trigger - or hot button when pushed sends us into a tizzy. Others may experience the same event, with an entirely different outcome, because they don't have the same emotional trigger. If we have a high standard for moral conduct, we might be outraged by someone's attire and take it personally. Each of us has our own trigger mechanism. Learning what your triggers are can help you to defuse a situation before it becomes one that turns you into Mt. Vesuvius. 

The Good Turned Bad

If we are not able to cope with our emotional upsets, we can become enraged. When anger reaches the boiling point in some people they may become aggressive, or physically abusive. Neither of these behaviors is a healthy use of anger. Channeling anger into art, chopping wood, cleaning or dance are ways to use this energy into something useful, rather than destructive.

Angry Sex

Passion can be the expression of anger turned into sexual energy. We hear people talk about make-up sex all the time. The important thing to note is that having sex as a reward for fighting can turn sex into a reward for negative behavior. Make-up sex immediately following a fighting can create more fights so that sex is the result. 

Sinus Infections

When we don't express ourselves clearly and fully when we are angry, we can end up with a sinus infection. This happened to me this past week. I wrote an expression of gratitude to someone in my book in my Acknowledgement section. I also included a phrase that they used at the end of my book, with another mention of their name. After they complained to me that nothing at all had changed in their life, I reminded them that their name was mentioned twice in a book! I know that Orgasm For Life will be a global best seller. I also know I will be on multiple talk shows promoting the book. I told him he needed to express gratitude for what he had, rather than focusing on what he didn't have and what he didn't see changing. 

I was guided to write both pieces as they were working on getting a huge charity event off the ground. I felt that people would ask me who this person was on television and radio. This would in fact assist this person to get his project started. I wrote this as a gift of love to help my friend. 

My conversation ended, with me telling him to get out of the pity party and stop complaining about his life. He texted me about an hour later and asked me to remove his name from my book. 

For my readers here, you have to know that I have had well over 30 conversations with him about the Law of Attraction, Thoughts Become Things.....  and my own version of Florence Schovel Shinn's, Your Word Is your Sword. For me to be so clear and forthright, was because I have listened to his complaining for over 8 years. It is time to move the train out of the station and start creating from a place of gratitude. He did not see it that way. He could not see the gift in what I had done. He did not see that it had come from a loving place.

My guides were screaming at me to tell him he was being an ass! The words burned my lips, but I refrained from saying them. The result of my holding those words back was an acute sinus infection. Not just a sinus infection - I had a whole ocean in my head that ebbed and flowed. My sinuses bled. I sneezed and coughed and was in agony for days. When I began to feel irritable on top of the pain, I finally recognized what it was I had. My doctor congratulated me on my impeccable self diagnosis, with a smile.

As a metaphysical teacher and healer, I am kept to a high standard of truth telling. When someone speaks a lie, I must tell them. When someone is an ass, I must tell them. When I don't, my body gives it back to me in spades. Next time, when my guides press me to be forthright and say the word......   ass will be on my lips, rather than the pain of a sinus infection.

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Jennifer is a sex educator, extraordinary life, sex coach and hypnotherapist. She is the author of Orgasm For Life, the book to bridge the chasm between men and women. To create better understanding, sex and communication between the sexes. Happier people, happier planet. Jennifer uses Neurolinguistic Programming, Energy healing and hypnotherapy in her coaching as well as her Intuitive and Mystical abilities.

You can find Jennifer at JenniferElizabethMasters@gmail.com

Jennifer's passion is self love, healing sexual dysfunction. Her website is: http://www.JenniferElizabethMasters.com