Is Intolerance Keeping You From Love and Happiness?

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Opposites attract. There is a reason that we are attracted to those that are different from us; it is due to the survival of our species. Our natural tendency is to be attracted to those who are not exactly like ourselves. Once we find a partner, we then begin to force-fit them into our little view of what they need to be for us to be happy. 

What if your intolerance of another's differences is keeping you from having the love you desire?

You may be searching for:

• Spiritual but not Religious
• Healthy but not a Vegan
• Fit but not a gym rat or bodybuilder
• Attractive to you, but not a model
• Tall not short
• Financially stable, not bankrupt
• Little baggage rather than a steamer trunk full
• Healed rather than addicted or co-dependent
• Active rather than a couch potato
• Curvy and comfy 
• Animal lover, but not a rescue mission
• A hard worker, but not a workaholic
• Single, rather than divorced
• No children, rather than a nursery full
• Someone with high energy like you
• Someone quiet, rather than chatty
• A sense of humor, but not rowdy

The truth is that there is an ocean of opportunity in the dating world for love. Often we turn away from those who could be a great partner. We are so focused on what we think they should be that we can't see their greatness. 

There are other issues you might attempt to match with your vision of what your best mate criteria could be. You might say, "Hell NO!" to someone who is a great match but lives more than fifty miles from you. You might turn down someone who was younger or older than you thought you wanted. What if you turned down someone who might be an excellent match for you, but different than the partner you pictured for yourself?

Dating is an opportunity. Each date leads you one step closer to having the love you desire. You might date someone for a few days, weeks or even months before you recognize that something isn't quite right but you had a great time exploring and allowing yourself to learn more about yourself and the dating process. Every date is another chance to grow and have a little fun along the way. Give each person a chance, rather than judging a book by it's cover. 

Be Open Minded

Trying different things can stretch you and help you grow and evolve. Dating people who are outside of your comfort zone can give you new opportunities to explore possibilities for a healthy relationship. If you keep dating the same type and your relationships don't work out, maybe it is time to expand your limited vision of what is best for you. 

Someone doesn't have to be just like you for you to find happiness. 

Think Outside The Box

Once you know what your core values are, you can look beyond the type of person you have in the past. If your core values match, you can expand beyond what you think is good for you. The very type of person you have been avoiding could be what is best for you. 

Maybe you don't accept yourself and are therefore not accepting other's differences.

Ask Yourself The Following Questions:

1. Am I expecting my date/partner to be perfect?
2. Am I open to new opportunities?
3. Am I the very thing I am looking for already - in a date/partner? 
4. Are my expectations too high?
5. Am I being intolerant of other's differences?
6. Am I pushing love away by saying no to a new experience?
7. Am I a perfectionist and expecting too much from another?

Following are some suggestions of how you can remain true to your values and expand your horizons to allow more opportunity for love.

• besides Spiritual, there is Hindu, Buddhist, Mindful and more 
• beyond white collar, there are tradespeople, techies, and entrepreneurs
• animal lovers,  volunteers, humanitarians
• adventurers, homebody, a little of both
• divorced, widowed, single
• has some issues, but working on them

We All Are Works In Progress

Life is a journey. Not everyone you date will be right for you. Knowing what you want and staying open may take you on some twists and turns. Enjoy the journey. You might have to date ten different people to find the one you feel is a great fit for you. That's okay. 

Have some fun on the twists and turns. Bank with the curves and laugh at yourself while you change and grow during the process. That is what life is all about having fun along the way. Just remember that no one is perfect or without their own flaws and faults. 

Accepting another as they are is what real love is all about. 

Each day we take one more step on that road of life we can stop and sniff one flower here another

there meeting new flowers on that road. Putting yourself out there allowing some risk taking is how you find love. If you are only focused on one type of person or your expectations are too high, you may find love continues to elude you. We all have quirks, chinks in our armour and have had heartbreaks and even divorces. 

Look for someone who is open-minded and working on themselves, as you are and you will be surprised at the doors of opportunity for love that open to you. Say YES! instead of no and you will find love.

Jennifer will be in Atlanta, Georgia at The Inner Space on Friday, June 10th and 11th.

Group Energy Clearing and Akashic Records Reading and Private sessions available on June 11th.

When we lovingly accept ourselves as we are with all our faults and flaws, we have healthy self-esteem. 

Jennifer Elizabeth Masters is the author of the forthcoming book: HAPPY HERE, HAPPY ANYWHERE. 


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As You Do One Thing Is How You Do Everything

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

History repeats itself. The quote,  "As you do one thing is how you do everything," is an ongoing message for our lives. Ask yourself the following questions to see where this pattern appears in your life.

1. Do you give to others more than you give to yourself? 
2. Do you keep yourself so busy that you are in avoidance of life events, resolving conflicts, pleasure, and  conversations?
3. Is your car clean, tidy and fresh smelling?
4. Do you spend time working on your internal self as much as you work out at the gym?
5. Do you take your vitamins daily?
6. Do you spend time on things that don't matter?
7. Do you stay at home because you are avoiding relationships?
8. Do you work all the time?
9. Do you disapprove of yourself?

Giving:

We often give to others more than we give to ourselves. This tendency puts other's needs before ours, making us insignificant. If this is a pattern in your life, you may want to look at other co-dependent tendencies. When we give too much of ourselves to others, we end up feeling exhausted and even resentful because our loved ones have come to expect these things from us.

Taking care of yourself first, means that you will get enough rest, take time out and pat yourself on the back for a job well done. 

Avoidance:

When we are so busy with life, we often miss "living." If you are too busy to have sex with your partner, play with your child, help with homework, have a conversation with a friend, it is time to prioritize. Children grow up, partners leave, and friends have their own lives too. Avoidance can be a sign of being emotionally unavailability. If you don't want to "feel" pain, or emotions you could be avoiding all the areas and people that can bring you the most love and joy. 

Uncluttered home, uncluttered mind, clean car, clear mind

If your home and car are cluttered, so is your mind. You have too many things going on all at the same time. We often create this mess so that we don't have to look at our emotions. If our home and car is cluttered, focus, concentration and forward movement become impossible. Take one thing at a time. Clean out and wash your car. Tidy and pick up clutter in your home. Prioritize what is most important in your business. Take one thing at a time. A cluttered mind creates chaos in your world. You will find that you do not move forward, tend to vacillate with decision making and are unsuccessful in your business.

As within, so without

Do you spend hours at the gym, but no time in introspection? Or do you do the opposite, spend hours in meditation  but no time exercising your physical body? Forgetting to eat or eating things you know are not in your highest and best interest? Feeding the physical body healthy life sustaining foods and taking care of our spiritual and emotional selves is important for our mind, body and spirit to be in balance. 

Vitamins and Health 

Many of us are healers, counselors and coaches. We give great advice to our clients, but often forget to take our vitamins. Taking your own advice is of great benefit to your health. Optimum health, optimum life. When we put our own health on the back burner, we are making ourselves unimportant. Take your own advice and take care of you first. This way, you will have so much more to give your family, business and clients.

Wasting Time 

You check your e-mail four times a day, but don't have time to call your mother or best friend? We have all done it. Obsessing over the things that aren't that important, we often miss the bigger picture, family and friends. Worry is the biggest time and energy waster. How much time do you spend envisioning all the horrible things that might happen? Life is short, wasting the time you have, means that you have less for the good stuff - like LOVE!

Staying Home

You say you want a relationship, but come home every night immediately after work. You avoid clubs, joining a team or a gathering where you could potentially meet your Beloved. You will never meet your guy or girl sitting in front of your television at home! If you have been reading carefully, this is a repeat of the first issue: avoidance. Avoiding living life fully means that you are missing out on joy, fun and possible happiness. Where else do you say, "NO" when you mean "YES!"?

Work, Work Work

If all you do is work and sleep, you are out of balance. Life is like a tightrope. It is a balancing act of recreation, work, pleasure, spirituality and fun. If you are missing out on any of these you are out of balance. You have to give to get, you have to be open to receive to receive love. If you are working all the time, you may be closed off to the possibility of love and joy. Do you say to yourself, "Oh, no one will ever love me." or "No one will ever find me." If you think these things you are right. The Universe will make you right. 

Opportunity Knocks When You Are Open

In order to win the lottery, you have to buy a ticket. If you want love, but are never anywhere you will meet someone, you are telling yourself you are undeserving of, or unworthy of love. You are saying "NO" to the Universe when you are asking for things to change. You have to be open to receive in order to get what you want. You have to be receptive to new ideas, change and doing things differently, or you will get what you have always got. 

Praise For YOU!

You may be kind to others, but self deprecating. You inner dialogue needs to reflect love to the outside world. When we beat ourselves up it is reflected in all that we are. We let the world and the Universe know we are undeserving and unworthy by our negative words and thoughts about ourselves. You are already beautiful, intelligent, talented and gifted. Isn't it time you noticed?When you notice how wonderful you are, others will begin to notice also. 

Much love to you. I would love to hear how these patterns play out in your world.

Jennifer is a life, love, and relationship coach. She is a teacher of life, love and wisdom. Her coaching style is compassionate and direct. If you are still pondering whether you need to work with a coach, e-mail your questions, or set up a discovery session. Jennifer has several different offerings right for any one's budget. Her 6 week video course is $98. This workshop is a self study, with a weekly workbook that guides you into your inner journey to Love Yourself Fearlessly. For the next 30 days Jennifer is offering a free one-hour session when you sign up for this video course - a $225 value~ ! Contact Jennifer NOW!