Use This Potent and Powerful Full Moon In Cancer For Romance and Great Sex

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Photo by Luiggi RCK 

The moon affects births, moods, emotions, tides, menstruation and everything in between. A full moon in the emotional water sign of Cancer is one of the most potent and powerful energies we can experience. Love-making, nurturing, loving and letting go together can be an amazing experience tonight! Let the loving and releasing begin!

A Grand Cardinal Cross is being activated with this full moon that will be in place through the year 2020. 

In January 2020, Saturn will couple with Pluto and conjunct initiating a new economic boom cycle.

Corporations, large organizations, new earth energy will be bringing in people and environment first and profit second in this new earth.

Our Divine Destiny is to take care of the earth.

Politics are playing out these roles right now. January is all about your foundation, taking care of you. Are you kind to you? Do you make sure you have plenty of rest, exercise, take extreme self-care? Pluto opposing this moon brings in our personal needs rather than egoic will. 

Trump is the disruptor. He is ruled by Uranus. Uranus is awakening us to our emotional needs. It may not seem like it, but he is who we asked for. 

What do you need to feel good? The whole reason you are here is to be creative. 

How can you be more creative? Tap into your inner child. The childlike innocence and purity will take you there. Play, have fun, focus on your unique talents and abilities. Nourish your talent. You came here to be you. Follow your own personal star. Channel your cosmic child and talent within you. Stop allowing others to dictate to you how you should be. 

The abuse of power that we see in the world today is moving out. There is a polarization occurring that is playing out in our political arena. We may be projecting out our inner demons onto others and then blame others for what we are doing. We may not be aware of. We might not like what others are doing - but used to be that way ourselves. 

This first full moon of the year is asking us to be very conscious and be aware of the shadow, power struggles, and emotions. We can find ourselves feeling righteous. Righteousness can condone bad behavior in an abusive way. This shadow is being illuminated. Don't get caught up in power struggles and power plays that you see in the workplace or world.

It is an innovative and inspiring combination. It is a time of fulfillment, nurture and belonging, creating this with your loved ones and family is a powerful use of this energy. 

Libra, Aries, Cancer, Capricorn will be affected greatly through this astrologically expansive energy. It's all about collaboration, partnering and asking to be nurtured. This is a perfect time to be moving forward, meeting with a study or literary group. Potlucks that nurture your body and soul with loved ones during the next two weeks is a lovely way to utilize this energy.

The planet Venus is exalted in Pisces (very sensitive energy) combined with Venus the planet that rules love.

A full moon is a time of coming to fruition. This cancer moon is nurturing, more grounding. Cancer is about the home and nurturing. Healing the inner child and looking at those places where we need to access the tender, gentle space. Being more vulnerable and authentic will allow you to step into a sexy, spiritual bonding with our partners.

Cancer shows it's inner emotions and Pisces energy is creating a poetic vibe. We will be able to access wounded places within during the next two weeks. 

How can I expand my relationships in a personal genius type of way (to impact the collective)?

What new things am I bringing out into the world?

What messages are inspiring me?

How do you view your relationships?

Are you awakening together in your relationships?

Are you gathering together with those of a like mind?

Are you opening your mind right now?

Are you loving yourself more than the need to fit in?

Don't give your power away.

Watching a romantic movie, dining over candlelight, massage and accessing something holy between you is a powerful way to use this Cancer full moon. When our spirits and souls experience each other, we expand together. What could be more lovely?

Find your voice. Speak your truth. Take care of and nurture yourself. Be patient. The more you do your homework, the more successful you will be. Careful planning as your strategy will assist you to be successful in this beautiful year! There is no one like you on the planet. Be kind to you. Be your own champion and cheerleader!

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Are You Faking It?

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Faking it in the bedroom is not solving anything.

Faking orgasms is inauthentic. In the most intimate of moments you are lying to your partner. How do you think he will feel when he finds out? CRUSHED!~ 

 

Faking it is a huge lie. If you fake it during sex, you probably lie about other things within your relationship as well. Where else do you lie to your partner? Faking it is avoidance of the issues, at hand. You are not doing yourself or your relationship any favors by hiding this truth. The fact that you are faking it means you are afraid to talk about a very deep and intimate issue.

Transparency is the way to go in open and honest relationships. Complete honesty with nothing to hide builds trust, and creates intimacy. Learning to talk about what you need and desire in the bedroom takes compassion and moving beyond your fears of intimacy. 

Why Do Women FAKE IT?

According to a recent study 80% of women fake orgasm over 50% of the time. 28% of men fake orgasms. This is not a mean-spirited act, but rather to boost their partners self esteem.  We fake it because we don't want to bruise our partner's ego. We fake it because if we don't, you won't get any sleep. We fake it because we don't want to hurt our partner's feelings. I have to be honest. I used to. I was concerned about my husband's ego. I felt bad and often guilty because I didn't feel complete. It left me feeling insecure and uncomfortable. I knew there was a better way. I had tried to talk about it,  but my husband became very hurt and also angry. He felt threatened. It felt awkward and uncomfortable. Understand that you are not alone. That millions of women have the same issues and that there is help. Knowing the best way to approach this very sensitive subject helps.

The typical woman needs 45 minutes of foreplay to achieve an orgasm. The average man on the other hand can last between 2 and twenty minutes up to an hour for some men.  (Gentlemen, please recognize that I am talking averages here.) It can feel uncomfortable and put both parties under pressure when an orgasm doesn't happen. As a result,  many fake it and that's that, it's over. It makes you wonder why we were created with such different needs. The amount of time and attention most women need seems so out of proportion to what men need. When some men get excited to the point of orgasm just by seeing their partner naked. As the comedian Whitney Cummings says, all she has to do is take her boyfriend's socks off! It seems the kind thing to do - fake it.

What Issues Are Created By Faking It?

Frustration from lack of fulfillment leads to anger and resentment. This is not anyone's fault.  When you aren't satisfied and make a habit of faking it, you will eventually feel left out and even angry. When do you stop and turn to face the elephant in the room; after 5 years, 10, or when you get a divorce? Women eventually become disenchanted with sex when the outcome consistently leaves them feeling flat and unsatisfied. When women fake it, the men usually have no idea. They snuggle peacefully thinking they have done their job well and go to sleep. Women, more often than men, are the ones left hanging, frustrated unable to sleep after sex. People this is supposed to be fun, pleasurable and bring you closer, not the other way around!

 

A block to intimacy is created by a lack of honesty. It is better to recognize that there is a disparity rather than to continue to fake orgasms. Talking about the subject without blame is important.  Be compassionate with yourself and your partner. Telling your partner that you have not been having orgasms can be a shocker, if you have been doing so for a very long time. Breaking the ice is important. Don't blame your partner. Admitting that there is an issue and you are willing to work through it is what is best for you both.

 

Frigidity and Sexual Dysfunction

One in three women have been molested at some point in their lives. One in four women will be sexually assaulted or raped at some point in their lifetime. These statistics tell a sad story. Sexual dysfunction comes from sexual trauma. Getting help is important. Healing from trauma must occur for many women to be able to have a healthy sex life.  Decades after sexual trauma there is cellular memory in the sensitive vaginal walls that can make sex painful and orgasms elusive for many women.

 

Rule of Thumb

This article below from the LA Times discusses the physiology of the female anatomy. The premise is that the distance of the clitoris to the vagina is what makes the difference of function or dysfunction that can cause difficulty with orgasms for many women. You are not alone if you have challenges completing the sex act without some help.

http://www.latimes.com/features/health/la-hew-ordistance11feb11,0,2763149.story#axzz2lmmYR7Ek 

 

What Is The Kind Thing To Do?

Be honest. Intimacy does not happen when you lie.  Explain to your partner that there is an issue.  Get help from a sex coach or a sex therapist. There are plenty of Tatrikas that also help with sexual healing and dysfunction. 

 

Nine MAGIC Steps To Getting There? 

 

1. RELAX! You have to relax to achieve an orgasm.

2. Get to know your own body. Find out what feels good for you, so that you can tell your partner what you like. If you don't know, how will he?

3. BREATHE. Your body requires oxygen to achieve an orgasm.

4. BE PRESENT. Stay out of your head. You can't relax and achieve an orgasm when you are thinking about everything that you didn't get done today.

5. Follow the 10 minute rule. 10 minutes of kissing, 10 minutes of light touching, 10 minutes of massage. (You get the picture. Follow my 5 step method in my video below. )

6.  Don't be afraid to make sounds. Sounds can help get you further than when you are silent.

7. LET GO of your fear and need to control everything. Take your time and don't try and rush. The more relaxed you are the better. An orgasm is about letting go, not hanging on for dear life. 

8. OPEN YOUR EYES. Make eye contact throughout love making. When you close your eyes you are in avoidance. Avoidance means you will lose connection with your partner. To achieve an orgasm more easily remain connected rather than disconnected to your partner. 

9. CONNECT your heart to your second chakra (sexual parts). This helps to keep you connected. 

Check out my you tube video on the female orgasm: 

I invite you to leave your comments below.

 

 

Jennifer is a life, love and relationship coach. Her focus is on healing trauma from childhood. Her own healing from childhood trauma has led her to this calling. Healing shame, guilt and depression in her own life has led her to help others to do the same. Her first book, Odyssey Victim to Victory is the story of her transformation from negative, unworthy and feeling broken, to loving herself FEARLESSLY! She empowers women to love themselves so that their relationships become healed and filled with purpose and direction. Jennifer works in groups, and privately with women. Contact her NOW to schedule your FREE discovery session: Divinehealingnow@Yahoo.com