What It Means To Not Like Sex

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Humans are sexual beings. Our sexual nature is the cornerstone of who we are. Some like sex more than others. Some people have stronger sex drives than their partners. Often the issue with a couple is that women need to have intimacy to have sex and men need sex to be intimate with their partner. 

There are some people that just aren't interested in sex at all. Perhaps they had trauma when they were children. Others experience pain or vaginal dryness after a hysterectomy or menopause. Some have a very low sex drive or libido which can be remedied through a diet change, exercise like The 5 Tibetan Rites, or taking a supplement. When a couple isn't in synch sexually, problems can arise. 

When one person pushes for sex and becomes angry or resentful with their partner because they aren't getting it often enough a power play often ensues. For some women, there isn't enough touch without sex. If the only time women are touched is when their partners want sex, it could be a huge turn-off for them. An effort has to be made to display affection at other times than when men want sex.

Not wanting sex might have nothing to do with sex but more to do with what is happening in your relationship. If you have been critical, abusive, unloving or emotionally unavailable, perhaps these reasons are keeping sex at bay. Communication is an important part of a healthy, loving relationship. If you aren't communicating verbally, you won't be communicating sexually either. 

When The Idea Of Sex Doesn't Turn You On

I have had many men complain in sessions about how long it takes for a woman to become turned on. Typically, women aren't the quick-starters than men are. Though some women are hot as soon as their man looks at them a certain way, this isn't true for most women. Women need slow kissing, gentle touch, cuddling, massage, and patience before they are aroused enough for sex. 

The rule of thumb (forgive the pun) is twenty to forty minutes of foreplay before most women are warmed enough for penis in the vagina sex. 

I've been in a marriage where the only time my husband ever touched me was for sex. He would get a certain look in his eyes and go for it. I wasn't hugged, caressed or held at any other time than when he wanted sex. Though I like sex a lot, I became an object of his desire, rather than his loving partner and wife. It isn't a pleasant feeling to know that you could be a hole in a wall, just a thing that satisfied an urge or itch. Women don't feel loved and desired for who they are when they recognize they are an object. 

Not all men treat their women in this way. Though I have heard about women being awakened from a sound sleep with a penis being shoved into their dry vagina. Respect isn't in place when sex happens without agreement. A request for sex doesn't have to be verbal. A kiss can easily be enough for both people to become passionately enthralled and turned on. Mutual pleasure is what is needed. 

Sex Needs To Be A Two-Way Street

Pleasure is a part of a mutually fulfilling relationship. Both parties need to be turned on, enjoy the experience and have pleasure. Not every sexual encounter will end in orgasm for both parties and that is okay some of the time. If one person rarely or never has orgasms, it is a problem and will lead to resentment. I used to be the one without orgasms. Sex became drudgery for me, which is why I wrote Orgasm For Life. I knew if I had an issue the 40% out there that was also not having orgasms would benefit from my personal experience and how I overcame the issue later in life. I loved sex, but couldn't orgasm because of past sexual trauma. 

If a woman isn't having an orgasm through manual stimulation either before or after her partner, she may become fed up and begin denying her partner sex. If your partner isn't having regular orgasms envision what you would feel like to rarely or never orgasm when you have sex, would you want it? Read Orgasm For Life for gentle, loving and humor to overcome sexual issues. 

It is a complete turn-off for a woman to not be touched, hugged and held just for being who she is, rather than an object that men satisfy their urges with. 

Those That Hate Sex At Anytime

Humans are sexual beings. For those who truly hate sex and never ever want it, the foundation of this issue could be a past life where we were a celibate priest, nun or clergy. Vows of celibacy from past lives certainly can impede the ability to let go and be free of guilt from religious programming about sex being vile, wrong or improper. Past lives and vows can be cleared to alleviate these programs, which I have done for many men and women.

Self-hatred from past sexual trauma, molestation, abuse certainly impacts our ability to feel free about receiving sexual pleasure. When we are filled with self-loathing sex can be off-limits. Self-love means loving all parts of ourselves including our penis, vagina, breasts and anus. 

When Should We Talk About Sex?

Some people can talk about sex while having it. I prefer to have a conversation outside of the bedroom. Usually, a conversation outside the bedroom leaves a couple so turned on that mutual pleasure ensues! YAY! Pleasure for both parties is what good sex is all about. 

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Is It Possible To Ejaculate Without Pleasure?

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Question: Jennifer, when I ejaculate, I do not experience the pleasure of orgasm. What is the cause and how do I overcome this problem?

First of all, I have to say thank you for bringing this very sensitive subject up. Having a sexual release without the pleasure of an orgasm can cause concern about health issues and certainly some sadness about the lack of pleasure, which everyone deserves. In this article we'll examine the cause and what you can do naturally to solve this problem without medication. In extreme cases, medication might be needed.

What Is Anhedonia?

An is the Greek term for without. Hedonia means pleasure. The term anhedonia means without pleasure. 

What Causes Anhedonia?

1. A lack of dopamine in the brain is the cause of anhedonia. Dopamine is the hormone responsible for feelings of pleasure. Those with a low dopamine level may feel like they want to die. 
2. Anhedonia is a sign of a major depressive disorder. Energy clearings will help to relieve the blocked emotions which cause this. 
3. Prolactin a hormone released when men ejaculate can be too high. Prolactin gives some men a feeling of sadness after ejaculating.
4. Menopause for women can cause a lack of pleasure. Our hormones get out of whack during menopause, watching for this drop in dopamine and eating foods that boost dopamine will give you relief.
5. A loss of pleasure from things that normally give one pleasure is one of the main clinical features of Schizophrenia. Sadly not much emphasis is placed on a loss of pleasure from sex.  
6. Alcohol can cause a loss of pleasure from sex. Initially, there may be an increase of pleasure, as dopamine increases. However, a high amount of alcohol consumption reduces dopamine levels significantly which decreases the level of pleasure experienced. 
7. Low testosterone levels can significantly decrease pleasure during sex.
8. Spinal chord injury can cut off the rise of the kundalini which is responsible for the feelings of orgasm.
9. Multiple Sclerosis causes a gradual loss of dopamine in the brain.
10. A deficiency of amino acids. Amino acids are required to stimulate dopamine products. 

Three Ways To Boost Dopamine Naturally

• Change your diet to include foods that increase dopamine and amino acids. Eat a variety of foods rather than the same thing over and over. Variety is the spice of life and helps to keep your body in balance and properly nourished. 
• Get to bed early. Sleep is one of the best things for your body and mood. When we don't get enough sleep our body can't function at its optimum level. Serotonin and dopamine are increased when we get sufficient deep sleep to allow our body to regenerate and heal.
• Exercise daily. Daily exercise increases blood calcium which is needed for dopamine production. Do the 5 Tibetan Rites as they only take 10 minutes to perform. Stop making excuses as to why you can't. Exercising once a week isn't enough. 

What Foods Boost Dopamine Levels?

Protein-rich foods like eggs, turkey, chicken, and even legumes eaten with whole grains to form a complete protein will boost dopamine levels.

Vegetables can help boost amino acids that aid in the production of dopamine. Beets, for example, have betaine which is aids in the regulation of neurotransmitters like dopamine. Avocado, artichokes increase levels of dopamine. I eat avocado every day.

Anti-oxidant rich vegetables help to reduce free radicals which cause the oxidation (or burning up of dopamine). Deep green vegetables like spinach, kale, Swiss chard, asparagus, broccoli. and beets. Peppers, oranges, strawberries cauliflower, Brussels sprouts, contain vitamin C which helps to fight free radicals. Nuts like walnuts, sunflower seeds, greens, and carrots provide vitamin E which is needed for dopamine and brain function.

Eat Food Rich In Tyrosine

Ripe bananas are loaded with tyrosine to synthesize dopamine. Almonds, meat, poultry, lima beans, sesame and pumpkin seeds, yogurt and dairy products all contain tyrosine which aids in the production of dopamine.

Fruit

Blueberries, strawberries, and prunes trigger dopamine release. Berries are high in anti-oxidants which fight free radicals. Apples

contain quercetin a powerful anti-oxidant which prevents degenerative diseases by triggering the release of dopamine.

Chocolate

Chocolate is a delicious way to uplift our spirits and provide blissful emotions. Dark chocolate is rich in antioxidants and less sugar. It is a go-to food for increasing serotonin in the brain, but it also increases dopamine. Overconsumption of chocolate can have the reverse effect. Remember to eat everything in moderation. 

If you deprive yourself of something this good for you, set up a session with me, you are sabotaging your life and health. 

Herbs

A group of herbs is powerful for aiding dopamine recovery and production they are called the Blessed Maine Herbs. They include fenugreek, ginseng, milk thistle, nettles, red clover, and peppermint. The best way to consume these is in herbal tea.

Wheat Germ

If you aren't allergic to wheat, wheat germ provides you a rich supply of the amino acid phenylalanine which gets converted to tyrosine then stimulates the dopamine release.

Vitamin Supplements

Vitamin B6 helps with dopamine production. Taking a daily supplement of vitamin B complex is helpful for stress, nervousness, and anxiety as well. The amazing thing about Vitamin B6 is that it also acts as a Prolactin inhibitor. Prolactin is released when a man ejaculates. Many men feel deep feelings of sadness with prolactin production is too high. Men often blame the person they are with for the sadness when it is a chemical issue within them.

If you have a problem with a lack of pleasure, there are plenty of ways to shift this serious issue. Do not ignore a health issue as it could become life-threatening later on. Eating a variety of foods and changing what you eat rather than consuming just one type of food will help you significantly. An energy clearing will help to lift depression as well. A lack of pleasure could be a sign of a serious depression. Please get the help you need.

Jennifer is a Certified sex, love and passion coach, healed healer, Certified Hypnotherapist, NLP Practitioner, Master Energy Healer and reads the Akashic Records. She has been on a healing journey for over thirty years. Along the road of life, she has experienced much and uses her wisdom in her sessions to help her clients. If you have experienced it, she probably has also. She meditates several times a day, clears her own energy daily and does the 5 Tibetan Rites twice a day. In this way, she stays clear, youthful and is totally present with you on the phone.  Let's live to be 110! Visit Jennifer's website. Or Send her a private e-mail. 

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5 Powerful Ways To Increase Longevity And Have Better Orgasms

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Sex is a powerful way to ignite the fire inside each of us, expand our energy and bring us closer to enlightenment. Sex draws us closer to our partners creating better focus, mental clarity, relieving depression improves our health, longevity and relieves stress. If you aren't having sex you need to be. Sex is a natural component of being human.

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When sex is dull or void of pleasure we lose interest. When women don't reach an orgasm, they stop wanting to engage. When couples aren't having sex, they stop touching each other and become more negative, critical and irritated with one another. 

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Men's and women's needs differ tremendously. Often we make love to our partners the way we want to be made love to, rather than telling our partner what it is we want. Men and women are naturally wired differently. We communicate differently and we certainly have different needs when it comes to sex.

Sometimes we take our partners for granted, which is never good, gratitude can bring us back to appreciation and feeling loving again. 


1. Talk about sex more often. Express what you prefer and compliment your partner on what they do well before asking for something different or a change in technique.

2. Open your mouth and keep breathing during sex. Deep breathing will expand your orgasm allowing you to last longer. 

3. Move your hips. Sexual energy needs to move. If we keep our hips locked the energy stays in our genitals rather than moving upwards. Kundalini is a rising energy that begins in the root chakra or perineum between the anus and vaginal opening.

4. Meditate prior to sex. Meditation will help you get into synch with your partner. When we are in synch we move as one, becoming one. Sex is much better when we become ONE. 

5. Synchronize your breathing with your partner. Another way to expand the sexual experience and increase pleasure is to breathe in synch with your partner. Spend a few minutes holding each other close. Breathe together. Inhale together. Exhale together. Watch how synchronized breathing expands your pleasure and connects you more deeply.

Sex is the most intimate we can be with one another, yet so little is discussed on this very delicate subject, even in long-term married couples. Sex helps to open our pineal gland or third eye. 

Talking about sex and pleasure is enough to turn us on. If you aren't talking about sex or having the pleasure you desire join me tonight on this very interesting and informative radio show. 

Join me on the Sex RX Show With Michaela Michaella-Lyanne Teresa Candelaria Guerrero Misko that's a mouthful! The show is on Blogtalk Radio. A replay will be available. 

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Bringing God Into The Bedroom Through Tantra

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

If you have ever had an experience with a partner where you felt the presence of God, you have tapped into the threshold of where Tantra takes you every time. Sex without God is like a day without sunshine. Tantra creates a sacred and spiritual act by slowing down the process and making sex mindful keeping you focused on each sacred moment.

Too often sex is a rush of heated sexual tension and over within minutes. Tantra slows down everything from your breathing to touch. Tantra takes you out of your mind (in so many ways) and into your body so that you feel each touch like a blaze of heat and ecstasy. (As I had a partner describe to me.)

Tantra focuses on breathing together, entraining your consciousness as one, slowing movement and the act of love-making to feel each touch, looking into your partner's eyes and being one with God. 

Tantra is liberating, rather than bonding two people together. In Tantra, it is not the other you are relating to, but the highest aspect of yourself. Connecting to the highest aspect of yourself causes a very fast and enjoyable expansion of consciousness that is stronger and faster than alone. You attain a state that is not dependent on the other.

You become fully present with your divinity filled with gratitude for those you experience this expanded experience. 

Beginning with massage, slow touch allows you to connect deeply with your body and get out of your mind. When you are present fully, connected rather than in your head Tantric sex becomes a sacred spiritual act. 

Sex without Tantra feels like a ride at an amusement park. It is over before you begin to enjoy it and you feel the price was far too high.

Tantra focuses on each moment, rather than being in a hurry to rush to the finish line. Orgasm happens but usually many times, rather just than once. Orgasm with Tantra rolls like wave after wave through your entire body, rather than an experience only felt in your genitals. 

Edging

Today Millenials have come up with a name for what Tantra has used for centuries. Edging brings you to the brink of orgasm and then allows the energy to subside over and over again so that pleasure is experienced for hours rather than moments. 

Sex With Heart

Tantric sex is beautiful as it brings your sexual energy into your heart and expands it outward all over your body. Imagine feeling an orgasm throughout your entire body undulating for minutes rather than seconds. 

If you don't respect your partner, you will not be able to engage in the depth of the Tantric experience. Respect is needed to create a sacred act with the presence of God.

G-Spot Massage

Women and men both have a G-spot. For women, it is located on the upper wall of the vagina approximately an inch and a half inside the opening. Men also have a G-spot, just inside the rectum. G-spot massage for both sexes enhances the sexual experience and deepens orgasms to be more profound and powerful. For those who still wonder if the G-spot in a woman is fact or fiction, click here. 

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Study Tantra and See For Yourself

Some of the comments I have received on my blog are that what I say is too good to be true. If you haven't tried it, don't knock it.

Take a Tantric weekend course and see for yourself. There are many excellent Tantra teachers in the world, I studied with Charles Muir, but there are many excellent Tantra teachers out in the world: Devi Ward, Prem Sarovara are two of them.

There are many types of Tantra. Red, white, black are different from one another. If you are interested in the different types I have written a much-read article here. Tantra: White, Red, Black What The Heck?

Semen Retention Benefits

Semen retention is the withholding of ejaculation. You can still experience orgasms, yes and many times in one encounter. Sex can continue for hours while you maintain your energy and stamina. Your erection may wane for a short while after an orgasm but very quickly you will be able to be back in the swing with a strong, hard erection. There are many benefits to semen retention.  

You will find when you begin to retain your semen and ejaculate only when you choose to that you have increased energy, look and feel younger and don't take so long to be ready for the next wondrous round of sex!

Passionate sex requires a change of attitude. Passion doesn't mean that you come within two minutes of beginning a love-making session. Passion requires patience and a giving heart. Slow down, get out of your head and feel each feeling fully. Connect eye-to-eye and take the time to kiss your partner slowly without being in a rush. Experiencing pleasure slowly, changing position, speed, pressure from light and gentle to deep and firm can add a higher consciousness to your sex life and relationship. 

Everyone can shift their sex life up a notch to enjoy passionate, hot sexual experiences that you talk about for years to come!

Let me know how this works for you. Comment below, or join me on FaceBook for a conversation! 

Set up your private session with me to find your joy and happiness within. I help men and women find lasting happiness. 

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4 Powerful Reasons to Have Responsible Sex

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

I received the following post from a friend. I found it to be important and speaks of the work I do to clear heart and sexual ties and negative programming that blocks us from having love and happiness. Theresa Crabtree is an author of  Mayan Messages.

Guest Post By Theresa Crabtree

RESPONSIBLE SEX 

Most sexual acts are performed for the simple pleasure of the feelings they arouse. Although there is nothing wrong with this, it may drain you of energy that could be put to better use. Often, sexual acts are performed as a means to control another person, whether the manipulation is recognized as such or not. 

Many times sex is performed between two partners who barely know each other. Although there may be pleasure obtained in the moment, the results of the action can last an entire lifetime and beyond. When two come together, an energy transfer occurs. A bonding occurs in which cords are attached that keep them energetically linked to each other. Seek assistance from your Guides or those familiar with bonding cords to sever these ties. 

When semen enters a woman’s body, the program is activated, “Make a baby! Make a baby!” Often there are children born in this type of union. Unwanted children have a very difficult lot in life. Although the words may never be spoken, the thoughtform of being unwanted is impregnated into their energy field. Many are suffering unknowingly from this programming. You would do well to determine if you are one of these children and through the assistance of your Guides or a professional, seek help releasing this thoughtform from your energy field. Can you see why so many people have feelings of unworthiness and abandonment? 

Many humans feel tremendous amounts of guilt and shame associated with their sexual experiences. Release any negative thoughts and belief codes associated with sexual activities. Take into account possible outcomes and choose responsibly, for you may be adding a heavy burden onto yourself, your partner and any children that may be born from this momentary act of pleasure. 

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What Are The 4 Reasons To Have Responsible Sex?

1. Sex can be used to manipulate. Manipulation carries a dark energy. 
2. Ties are created that leak energy for a lifetime and beyond.
3. Unwanted children are created that have very challenging lives, of feeling unwanted and unloved. See my article on Suicide. 
4. Guilt and shame associated with sexual experiences reduce our vibration and may also cause depression.

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Jennifer is a catalyst healer for healing, love and happiness a coach that clears limiting beliefs, blocks and self-sabotage from the past so that you can have the life, love and happiness you desire. A healed healer herself, she helps others overcome anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, guilt, shame, insecurities that block you from having healthy relationships and happiness. 

Connect with Jennifer to schedule your free discovery

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10 Reasons You Aren't Enjoying Sex

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

When most people think of sex, they think of pleasure. Some women, however, dread the thought of having sex. There are a number of reasons that women don't enjoy sex. 

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1. Your fuse isn't lit. Arousal begins in the mind. Once the mind is engaged and interested the body needs to become aroused. Women need time to become aroused. Once they decide they are okay with the idea of sex, their body needs time to become engorged, and lubricated ready for sex. Even if a woman is wet, doesn't mean she is ready to go!

Foreplay is a necessity for a woman. 

In my book, Orgasm For Life, I recommend thirty to forty minutes of foreplay before penetration occurs. Use an organic lubrication to avoid painful intercourse. Dryness can occur when there is fear, too much stress or foreplay isn't long enough or absent entirely. Do yourself a favor and be kind to yourself and buy a good lubrication and use it. Coconut oil or olive oil can work as well. Avoid lubricants with heating or stimulating qualities.

The sexual response cycle, coined by Masters and Johnson explains how arousal works for women. Women need to be stimulated through kissing, massage, touch, digital stimulation and oral sex to be aroused enough to have an orgasm. Oh, that's a thing? Yes, it is a thing. Women should be having an orgasm or three each time her partner does!) 

If a woman isn't having an orgasm before or after her partner, this in itself can be enough to stop wanting to have sex. Faking orgasms isn't good for anyone.

2. Your mother didn't do you any favors. Most mothers tell their daughters that they shouldn't be having sex and shouldn't even want it. Girls might even hear the refrain, "Boys only want one thing! or "Nice girls don't and sluts do!" The stereotypical whores enjoy sex and good girls don't is still common today. Shaming makes it impossible to let go and enjoy the sex act. 

It is unusual for women to openly admit they love sex. Schools teach abstinence, rather than birth control fortifying the programming that sex is bad, and if you get pregnant it is your fault. 

Our old programming plays in the background of our minds causing us to feel guilty and ashamed about having sex or even enjoying it. A marriage certificate doesn't automatically turn the green lights on either. Sex begins in the brain. If your internal programming is filled with unhealthy messages about sex being bad, wrong or dirty you will have a very difficult time shaking those programs loose enough to become turned on or enjoy sex. (An energy clearing can remove old programs you are unaware of).

3. You aren't attracted to your partner. Your partner doesn't have to look like George Clooney, but if you aren't into him, he isn't going to turn you on. Attraction isn't just about physical appearance it is about the way your partner smells (pheromones), how clean they are, the way they treat you and how much you like them as a person. If you are angry with your partner, or they mistreat you sex will not be on your mind.

4. You pick your body apart. When we look at our breasts and say we hate them, or grab our extra inch or two around our waists, and tell ourselves how fat we are we are imprinting a negative body image into our unconscious. 

When we don't love our body, we don't want anyone to see us naked. It makes sense. If you don't feel good about the way you look, you won't want anyone to look at you, never mind touch you. 

5. You are filled with shame or numbness from childhood molestation. Even though you might have been molested decades ago, negative feelings or shame about sex may keep you from being able to enjoy sex. 

6. You are too stressed. Stress for women precludes sex. In other words, men can have sex when they are stressed but it is the opposite for women. If they are packing for a trip, haven't finished the laundry, have an issue with a co-worker they will have too much on their mind for sex.

7. You find sex distasteful. If you feel sex is wrong, dirty or disgusting you have issues with self-esteem. Sex is natural. A desire for sex is as natural as thirst for water. Our sexuality is the cornerstone of who we are. Women who absolutely hate sex have very low self-esteem. 

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8. Your have a health issue. Pregnancy, Childbirth, Menopause and breastfeeding change the way a woman feels and have an impact on sexual desire and pleasure. Constipation, hormone imbalance, heart issues or depression can also impact a woman's desire for sex. If you are depressed and taking medication, your libido will likely be impacted negatively. Many medications impact sex drive and can cause a woman to lose her desire for sex. Some medications cause a woman's vagina to be dry and sensitive. Sex that causes tearing of the perineum can make sex so painful that it isn't possible to be touched till it heals completely. 

Vulvodynia (pain around the vulva and opening of the vagina)  and Dyspareunia (painful sex) can impede sexual desire. Let's face it, if you are in pain, you aren't going to want physical contact or penetration. 

9. Fear of Pregnancy. Fear of pregnancy is a real fear. If you have been pregnant and don't want to get pregnant again, you may unconsciously stop enjoying sex.

10. Fear of Your Partner. Abuse whether it is a threat, emotional, physical or all of the above create a mistrust of your partner. We need to feel safe, comfortable and able to let go to be able to enjoy the pleasure of sex. 

An energy clearing will eliminate limiting beliefs, self-sabotage and patterns that no longer serve you. Within my coaching sessions I use energy clearings and hypnotherapy to heal the past so you can create the life you desire.

Jennifer works with those who are suffering from suicidal tendencies, depression, self-hatred, unhappiness, anxiety and trauma. If you aren't happy with yourself or your life, Jennifer is your girl to get on track for happiness, love and living your soul purpose.

Contact Jennifer for your discovery session to find out if her work is a good fit for you. 

When we lovingly accept ourselves as we are with all our faults

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Hot and Exciting Ways To Please Your Man Orally

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Excerpt From Orgasm For Life

Oral sex is an alternative or additional mode of pleasuring your partner. The incredible thing about the mouth is that we can increase or reduce pressure, speed and sensations quickly. We can get wildly creative at the same time. Oral sex is one of the experiences that I have to be in the mood for, both to give and receive. 

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I don’t appreciate having my head shoved into a man’s crotch to force me to give him head. Forcing someone to do anything is not respectful. It is not cool! If a man tries to push your head down, you have many choices, and they all refer to ending the session immediately.

Men love to receive oral sex. For most men, it is the most intense sexual experience he can have because of the slippery wetness of our mouths. We have our lips, tongue and saliva to create a pleasure-filled experience. Get creative! My style may not be yours. You can use what you like and discard the rest.

What I will tell you is that your partner will enjoy having your mouth around his penis. I have never had a complaint but rarely have to use my hand to assist. The great thing about blow jobs is that you can suck at it. It will still be great because sucking is what it is all about. So have no fear and just relax. 

The caveat for men is that reciprocating is what “love-making” is all about. In case you don’t know what reciprocating means, it means to give back what you receive.

Have you ever noticed your man watching your mouth when you talk? He is probably envisioning all the delicious things you can do with your beautiful lips and tongue.  

Our mouths are soft, moist, and sensitive. The skin on our lips is similar to that in the vagina and anus. Following are my best secrets for giving the best Fellatio in the world to your man.

1. Get comfortable. You can lie down on your side and have him turn toward you, or kneel over him on your bed. Standing is also an option, but not great for him if he crumbles when he comes. He might fall on top of you!
2. Make sure you are hydrated. Hydration is always an important part of any sexual activity. If you are dehydrated, your vagina will be dry. If you are dehydrated, your mouth can be sticky and dry, also. So always drink plenty of water. You never know when you are going to have the opportunity for great sex!
3. Have a glass of ice water with lots of ice, mints, and a towel nearby. Coconut oil is good if your mouth is dry; it’s slippery but doesn’t taste bad. I don’t personally use anything but saliva, but you might want other options.
4. You want to make sure that you have constant moisture on his penis, or the skin could chafe or become tender. We don’t want a sore pecker. No no no!
5. Melted chocolate is an exceptional addition as well for those who have an aversion to swallowing semen. You could even make a banana split then add some whipped cream in a spray can. You might want a towel under his buttocks if you make a dessert out of him.
6. Begin with a clean body -- yours and his. We never know where this will go once we get going. Be prepared for anything. 
7. Wear something lacy that barely covers the tops of your thighs. Giving him a visual turn-on will make him happy on so many levels. 
8. Men love to watch so give him a show. Men get turned on from visuals. 
9. Make eye contact with him from time to time; he will love that. Remember we have more than five senses so stimulate them all!

I love the scene in “Father of The Bride” where Steve Martin gets a blowjob from his wife while driving home from a party. They, of course, careen into another car as his wife attempts to “relieve her husband’s stress”. 

They sheepishly explain to the cops what happened. You can perform fellatio in a car; you can perform it on a star. Although I don’t recommend it; it is very exciting, though. The very fact that you are driving a car brings in the element of danger as well. At the point of orgasm, most guys close their eyes until their brain boinks out of orbit. If you have your head in his lap, you can’t see what’s going on down the road either. Better to be safer in a chair or on a bed.

As with anything in the bedroom, I prefer to dance around a little, tease, kiss, nibble his ear, bite his neck, and gently draw my fingers or even nails across his abdomen. Most men will jerk upright a little as it tickles. No matter, it is part of the game. This activity is supposed to be pleasurable for both of you. Anticipation is the key to building excitement. So, make him wonder what you are going to do next, rather than doing target practice going straight for his penis and balls.

Onward and upward

1. Nibble his stomach to gradually make your way down to his pelvic area.
2. With your dominant hand, grab the shaft of his penis to hold it firmly, but don’t choke his junk. With the other hand, cup his balls and stroke them from the perineum upwards. This can be very exciting. Watch for his reaction, then focus on licking. 
3. Begin at the base of his shaft (although there isn't much sensitivity there,) lick upwards to the tip or glans. 
4. Swirl your tongue around the underside ever so slightly. Then open your mouth wide to take him completely in your mouth. It’s like a dive down onto his whole shaft. 
5. Grab a little sip of ice water in your mouth and then go down on his penis taking him all the way in your mouth. 
6. For a change of pace grab a mint and suck on him with a mint in your mouth. The mint may be too much for some sensitive guys, but it does give a different experience.
7. You can pop his penis out of your mouth and blow on him after minting him. It will feel phenomenal. Wet, then icy cold. Then deep throat him.  Open your throat by relaxing and slurping all at the same time, taking his entire penis into your mouth all the way into the back of your throat. Some guys love to hear you slurp. It may not be polite at the dinner table, but in bed, slurping is not only acceptable -- it is welcomed. Guys like to know that their penis is big enough to gag you, so don’t be embarrassed if it does. 
8. Make eye contact, while you take his whole penis in your mouth. At first, I felt embarrassed to make eye contact, because I had seen porn stars do it. That is exactly the reason you make eye contact because he wants his woman to give him head like a porn star. It will raise his level of excitement to see you look at him with his swollen member stuffed inside your mouth. He’ll be thinking about you having him in your mouth all day tomorrow and possibly the next and the next!
9. Think of how you would draw a Popsicle inside your mouth all the way, then pull it back out again. Do the same with his penis. As you draw back, a little do a little up down motion
   
   over the head of his dick. You might find this move will nearly make him come on the spot. 
10. Stop and go down on his balls. Take one ball into your mouth at a time and slurp them into your mouth. Give the same attention to his left nut now. Don’t ignore his balls; they are left out so often and need some tender love and attention. 
11. Stroke them, then pinch the skin a little and pay them some close attention. 
12. While you are down here, you might be wondering who his hairdresser is. YOU! You can trim his pubic hair another time. That is a great place to start a love-making session. “Hey, c’mon over here, I’m going to give you a haircut, now drop ‘em!” Trimming his pubic hair can be very exciting, as long as you don’t stab him in the process.
13. The underside of the penis and the head are the most sensitive areas.
14. You can do a shallow head bob up and down just on the tip of his penis to make him come quickly. Or, take your time licking, up and down the shaft of his penis holding the base of the shaft in the other hand. You can guide how much of his penis you take into your mouth with your hand.
15. Using your lips, you can purse them together so that they increase the pressure as you take his penis into your mouth to slide down on the shaft. You are making love to his penis. If you act like you don't like it, he will know. Giving your man head is the most private, intimate moment you can have with your man. Love him. Show him you love him.

As his pleasure builds, watch to see how close to coming he is. If he looks like he is ready to blow, back off, and stroke his thighs gently, or move up to his face. Have him eat you for a change of pace. Changing positions will allow his excitement to die down a little. You want to draw your love-making session out as long as you can driving him wild. Great sex involves our sexual energy building, then receding, building again and falling. 

If you hold back too much, however, you might find an inverted orgasm happens where it’s as if he internalizes his orgasm but does not ejaculate. An internalized orgasm is like swallowing within the penis. It is still an orgasm, even without the ejaculation.

The goal is to get him to be as close to reaching an orgasm without having him come just yet, then back off. Allow his excitement to die down a little, then get back at it. Slurp his whole penis into your mouth, then draw back and lick up to the tip. Swirl your tongue to the underside, where the penis is highly sensitive.

Think of your partner’s penis like a Popsicle or lollipop. Think of how wonderful it feels to lick an ice cream cone with Jamoca Almond Fudge or maybe something without nuts, like French Vanilla. Think of all the pleasurable things that you like to lick when you are going down on your man. Envisioning something that you love to slurp and suck will help you with any mental or emotional issues you might have that could potentially cause you to gag. 

The trick to a blow job is to relax and enjoy. If you don’t enjoy it but are holding back barf in your throat, don’t you think he’ll notice? It will make him feel bad. So get over your
aversion. Use thoughts that will calm your mind down rather than focusing on your very full mouth. I do hypnotherapy sessions with women to overcome any aversion to sex.

Know that you are giving the greatest gift your mouth can give someone. It is mind over matter. Get thoughts out of your mind that you are doing something disgusting. It isn’t -- it is loving and sensual. Once you think happy thoughts what does it matter if someone in your past said it was bad? It doesn’t matter. 

If you are married, it is one of the extra things that will keep your marriage together. Getting head is one of the main reasons men step outside of their marriage. Most women stop giving head after they get married, and men know it. Change this statistic
while continuing to love your man in this way, and he will be so happy you did.

Breathe through your nose. Relax. Remember to relax your throat. To be able to take in his entire penis your throat has to relax, opening your throat wide. Think of sword swallowing. The idea is to relax your throat. You might need to work up to deep throating after you have had a little practice. 

When it comes time for him to take him all the way in so that his penis is at the back of your throat, then swallow. I hear women say on websites or in books that it doesn’t matter whether
you swallow your guy’s semen or not. Ask a guy. Seriously. 

It shows disgust if you do not swallow. Let go of any feelings of disgust. Think of it this way; you are showing him how much you care. Swallowing is a sign of acceptance. Men love it when you do. They feel slightly sad when you spit. Spitting sends a message of non-acceptance. 

There are ways to get beyond the gag reflex. The mind is the best place to start. Relax your throat and just swallow quickly. Holding it in your mouth, then wondering what to do with it makes
matters worse. Your saliva will build up then you have more to swallow. 

Do it fast. Lick the end of his penis, then look at him.
I have a theory that the more oral sex you give your guy, the more oral sex you should also have. It is a scintillating reward for treating your man like a King and lovingly accepting all of him.

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