The Clitoris DeMystified

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Nature's replica of the female form

Ah the female form. It is lovely, beautiful, fragrant and absolutely Divine. Our body parts are delicate, tender and as different from one lovely woman to the next. Each woman is different. No two are alike. No two women like exactly the same type of stimulation. The clitoris is the female penis, only better! No! Really? How could it possibly be better, you ask? You are in for a pleasant surprise, but please don't get jealous. It has twice the number of nerve endings that the male penis has.

Exquisite Pleasure

The clitoris has 8,000 nerve endings. The penis has 4,000. These amazing nerve endings in the clitoris affect 15,000 other nerves exciting and spreading through the pelvis, connecting the kundalini to the brain. 

Most people are unaware that the clitoris is far more sensitive than a man's penis. It is protected by a hood of skin that almost conceals it from view. It does not giggle when we walk, nor does it's form deny our arousal when clothed. The female form is as secretive, inward and almost covert as women can be. 

Where Is The Clitoris?

The clitoris is located above the opening to the vagina, on the outside of the body. Moving from the navel towards the vagina it is the first moving part that can be caressed, played with and excited to bring a woman to orgasm with a well-practised tongue, finger or

vibrator. If you look at the orchid above, it depicts the positioning of this delicate and lovely body part. It is located between the two large petals of the flower, but slightly above and outside the most delicate inner flower. For more pictures and descriptions of the clitoris

Sitting slightly above and outside the vagina, the clitoris can be seen as tiny. Yet, only one quarter of the clitoris is visible. The root of the clitoris is found in the incredibly sensitive G-spot located beneath the clitoris on the upper vaginal wall. 

It Keeps Getting Bigger!

The clitoris grows over time. When a girl reaches puberty, the clitoris begins to grow. By the time a woman is 32, the clitoris has grown almost four times the size it was in puberty. After menopause a woman's clitoris may be seven times as large as it was in puberty. Which could account for the reason why so many middle ages women report such hot sex.  Don't worry, you won't have to tuck it in to hide it as you age. Older women also should know their way around their own body. If you are wondering why your penis has shrunken while your woman's clitoris has grown, read this. 

What Is The Clitoris For?

Can you say, PLEASURE? Yup, the clit is the only part of a woman's sexual parts that is solely for her pleasure. It is the fastest way to get a woman off and most women know it. Most women do not orgasm through penile penetration alone. They need the friction

of the clitoris to get there. They need the stimulation of the G-spot to ejaculate. If your woman doesn't ejaculate, you have not sufficiently stimulated her. It is not that she doesn't have a G-spot. Do you see men walking around without a penis? I rest my case!

Locating The G-Spot

If you insert your finger gently inside a woman's lubricated vagina, curl your hand upward and use your finger in a come hither motion, you will touch the G-spot. The G-spot article will follow the clitoris, as it should (next). 

The clitoral orgasm is intense and final. In other words, after a woman experiences a clitoral orgasm she may be complete, done finito! She may twitch when you attempt to touch her elsewhere. Give her time, she could be ready to go in another minute or two. Remember, that every woman is different. A clitoris has several pleasure centers. The one most often talked about is at approximately 1:00 if you are looking at a woman from below, or between her legs. 

How To Stimulate A Clitoris

Placing the tip of your finger on the clitoris, gently add pressure inward, making concentric circles slowly at first, adding pressure and speed as you go. If you use too much lube you will totally piss her off! The clitoris can be stimulated gently without lube for heightened pleasure. The key is that women need to feel the rubbing, circles of pleasure and lubrication often gives you too much skidding - without the needed pressure. (Read my book about this.)

Oral Sex

Most women will tell you that they love a good tongue lashing, myself included! However, too much saliva causes too little friction. Whatever you do, don't stop in the middle of oral sex, you might get kicked, yelled at or who knows what else. Once she begins to moan, keep up whatever you are doing. Don't stop to ask for directions! You know you don't when you are driving, so don't now!

The Best Way To Find What She Likes

Ask a woman to show you how she stimulates herself. Watch what she does. Don't think you know better. Listen to what she says. A woman that has self stimulated will be able to tell you exactly what feels good. Listen to what she tells you. It is not a penis. 

It Never Gets Old

Unlike the male penis which can shrink and sag with age, the clit never does. No matter how old a woman is, she can still orgasm through stimulation of her little love bud! Isn't it time you got to know yours, intimately! If you have never brought your woman to orgasm through the clitoris, you are missing a very big boat. You may be up a creek without a paddle ..... read my book, Orgasm For Life. Find out more about how to pleasure a woman, completely. 

For more information about the clitoris and some enlightening pictorals check out Wikipedia here.

The clitoris in some cultures is removed to prevent their women from experiencing pleasure. The underlying reason is to keep her from experiencing pleasure with others. Why would you want sex if there was no pleasure for you in it? This surgical removal is cruel, misogynistic.

This video was created by Paul Joannides Psy D. author of The Guide To Getting It On. I've watched it, and consider it great! Enjoy!

Jennifer Elizabeth Masters is a love and passion coach, author, hypnotherapist Master energy healer and reads the Akashic Records. She was non-orgasmic due to sexual trauma in childhood. She details her experiences in her books, found on Amazon.com. Jennifer's foundational work is healing codependency and addictions. Work that she did on her own, which led her to become a hypnotherapist, love and passion coach energy healer and author. For a free discovery session to work on an issue, or see if her work is a good fit for your recovery and happiness, e-mail her here. 

Are Men Getting The Majority Of Pleasure in Sex?

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

When someone asks you when was the last time that you had great sex with an amazing orgasm, was it this past week, a month ago or has it been years? Most men will answer, "this past week," while an amazing array of strong passionate

women will have difficulty remembering. Why is that?

 
Is it because men, more than women are motivated by sex? We know that men are wired differently than women, but it isn’t the fact that men are more motivated by sex. Most men experience orgasm almost every time they have sex. Yet over 48% of women don’t. In a recent study by a urology clinic in New Jersey, the number one complaint of 54% of women 18 - 30, was inability to orgasm, where 48% of women 31 - 45, had the same complaint.

Since our sexuality is the core of our very being, being non-orgasmic can take a serious toll on self esteem and sense of wholeness. Many women wonder if there is something wrong with them when they don’t orgasm with regularity. Most women need 20 to 40 minutes of stimulation to orgasm, where most men need 2- 3, or less. You see the disparity. Just because a woman is wet, does not mean she is ready for sex. Women are like diesel engines, needing to be warmed up before their engine is cranked. Most men on the

other hand are like a Ferrari on nitrous oxide, revving and ready to blast off. Women who have had sexual abuse, rape or other sexual trauma can have a lifetime of difficulty with sexual dysfunction (being non-orgasmic). There is hope for those who are non-orgasmic. 

Sexual trauma causes the body to go into fight, flight or freeze mode. Unfortunately many women are not aware of the armoring that the body creates to counteract and deal with the sexual trauma. Body armoring causes the energy of fear and shame to be stored in the cells of the vaginal wall, upper thighs and G-Spot. This armoring causes the inside of the vagina to be numbed. This numbing diminishes the

Shamed woman

amount of pleasure a woman can experience through digital stimulation and penile penetration, even to the point of vaginal sensitivity and intense pain. There is hope for those who are non-orgasmic. There are sensitive healers, like myself, that can teach you the steps to take, or you could visit a Tantrika to have the healing done in a session, hands on. Even when years of work, energy clearing and other modalities have occurred, a physical healing is still needed for women who remain non-orgasmic from sexual trauma. I was one of those women. 

For those wondering about the G-spot, whether it is real, or only something porn stars have, I assure you it is real and every woman with a vagina, has the ability to have an ejaculatory orgasm. Unfortunately, most women do not get the stimulation required to arouse this amazing and sensual center. It can take 20 minutes of direct stimulation before it becomes engorged enough to be in evidence. The G-spot is located inside the vagina on the upper wall approximately an

inch and a half to two inches inside the vaginal opening, north towards the navel. To be able to stimulate this spot, a

come hither finger motion needs to be used inside, curling the hand upward. The G-spot is thought to be the root of the clitoris, which is located just above the opening of the vagina. It is a highly sensitive area, that needs stimulation directly to be found.  (You would be surprised at how many men and women can't find the woman’s G-spot.) Is it any wonder that over half of the women on this planet can’t orgasm?

Knowing your body, what feels good is key to being able to demonstrate to your partner what they need to do for you. Talking about what works for you, when you are outside of the bedroom, will help your experience inside the bedroom be more pleasurable. The problem is many women are afraid

to speak up about what they want. It often takes women till they are in their 50’s before they feel confident enough to talk about what turns them on. Hopefully, this article will motivate everyone to open up a discussion about who does what to whom and for how long? 

The interesting fact about men and women though, is that both can bring themselves to orgasm in about the same amount of time, four minutes. The great thing about masturbation is that it is safe sex. In fact, it is the safest sex you can have, unless of course you attempt to use an object not meant for sex, like a vacuum cleaner.

While we are discussing the reasons women are not having as much fun as their male counterparts, it is important to note that 75% of women do not have an orgasm through penetrative sex alone. Yet most men still make love to their partners this way. The reason is that most men prefer to have penetrative sex to orgasm. It is what makes a man feel like a man. Clearly there is a disconnect. Talking about sex is an important part of receiving pleasure. We can’t expect our partners to just know. Even if we are intuitive, it is best to discuss what feels good to you, so that there is no misunderstanding. We need to walk them through our playground, joyfully, maybe with a roadmap, arrows and the most important parts highlighted.

I have interviewed hundreds of men about the subject of women’s pleasure. Most men say that their woman always has an orgasm. I beg to differ. 80% of women fake orgasm because their men are not stimulating them long enough to

get them there. The problem is that most women aren’t talking. With this 80% statistic in hand, most men still say, they know for a certainty that their woman comes every time. How can you be so sure? 

Most heterosexual men like the feeling of being inside a woman. However a woman’s most sensitive spot, her clitoris is not stimulated through penetrative sex, especially when the man is on top. What is so important about that? A woman’s clitoris (C-spot) has twice the number of sensitive nerve endings than a man’s penis has. If your C-spot is not getting focused attention, for long enough, you may not be able to orgasm at all. 

Open communication is clearly lacking in most relationships when it comes to sex. Do some sexploration to find out what feels good to you. Praise your partner for what they do well, then ask gently for what you want. Appreciate their effort, gently guide them with a smile. Remember guys, ladies come first, last and always!

Jennifer Elizabeth Masters is the author of Orgasm For Life a guide to bliss. Orgasm For Life was written to assist women with this issue. Through understanding the opposite sex's psyche and physical needs a greater awareness is created which helps deepen the bond of intimacy and happiness as well. 

Jennifer is a love and passion coach helping couples stay together when nothing seems to be working. She also helps women find the love of their dreams by shifting your focus. When patterns or emotions are stuck, we keep replaying the trauma from the past, attracting partners that don't serve our highest and best. If you are ready for life to work for you, relationships to be happy, fulfilling and uplifting, drop Jennifer an e-mail and set up your strategy session now. 

Thinking Outside of The Box

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

What is the one thing that keeps people from living up to their highest potential? 

Fear. Fear is the same thing that keeps women saying "NO!" instead of YES, from couples from coupling, divorced people from re-marrying, and broken hearted people from opening their hearts enough to try it again. Fear is also the thing that stops us from experiencing really great sex. Fear blocks. It detracts rather than adds. Fear keeps us stuck!

Fear blocks us from trying new experiences. It keeps us in worry and judgment. What will you think of me, if I tell you what I really want from you? What will you think of me, if I ask for what I want from you (in the bedroom and out). What will you think of me if I tell you I want you to talk to me, while we have sex, that it ignites a fire inside me and brings me closer to you? What if........_______ fill in your personal blank.

We make judgments. We critique. We think ______ is bad, wrong or dirty. We can't do that because if we did, what would people think? We fear others critiquing or judgment, which keeps us stuck in a paradigm that does not allow us to expand and grow. We think because we have only done things a certain way, that is the way they need to continue to be done.

WHAT IF?

Change is the only thing we can really count on.

Stepping outside of the box we have created for us, is the best thing for us and our relationship? 

We create a pact to try something new, see how it goes and have a safe word if we feel pain, or really really afraid?

I have counseled people who have been trying to make things work by doing the same thing over and over again. What were they afraid of? Losing their partner. What happened? They lost their partner.

Let's Look at Stephen

Stephen was married 26 years. His wife was 11 years younger than he. She was unhappy with their sex life. She said she wanted to swing. He didn't. She did anyway. He lost her. What if Stephen's wife was afraid to tell her husband about the fact that he came too quickly and it never gave her a chance to have an orgasm? What if his anger issue was causing his problem? What if it all could have been fixed? Women are afraid to tell their husbands that they are not coming. I know I was. When I did my husband was not kind. He got very angry. In fact, he was enraged.

Now I am not saying swinging is for everyone. It certainly is not for me. It wasn't for Stephen either. But what if Stephen had said, "Why do you want to swing?" His wife might have answered, "Well you don't stimulate me enough sexually. Then you enter me before I am really turned on. Then you orgasm leaving me hanging, every time. I am really tired of you getting off and me not! After 26 years, you would think I would have had a few orgasms, but I haven't!" What then? 

Maybe he would have gotten help and fixed his little HTP issue. Maybe if he learned how to stimulate his wife she wouldn't have wanted to swing. After 26 years, she never told him he didn't do it for her. Which is the case for many marriages. Women need more stimulation than their male counterparts do. Women are afraid to tell their husbands. 

HTP - Premature Ejaculation Is A Problem

Hair Trigger Penis is caused by blocked emotions and rage. Which he had oodles of. If he had an energy clearing and a little hypnotherapy with me, he could have pleased his wife very well.

They could have saved their marriage and made improvements in their sex life that would have brought them closer together. Instead they are both miserable.

If love is present, and both parties want to work on the issue, it can be remedied. But if the women aren't talking how are the men to know? 

I wrote about Maria, in Orgasm For Life a woman I met in the gym. Within minutes of beginning a conversation about my book, she told me she had been married for 35 years and she thinks, she may have had ONE orgasm. One orgasm in 35 years. When she brought it up to her husband, do you think he was warm, loving and understanding? Blame is really not the point, is it? No one is a victim here. 

Unfortunately, because he was like so many men, a macho man who thought he was a great lover, he beat her up. He put a pillow over her head and called her names. Is it really a woman's fault if she is not coming, or yours? Communication is key. Loving, understanding and compassion is needed for both parties. Working together to have mutual pleasure is the way.  

If you are stuck doing the same thing, the same way, you may end up stuck in a box that doesn't work for one of you any more. Change it up. 

Penetrative Sex

Did you know that 75% of women don't have an orgasm through penetrative sex? What does that mean? Penis in the vagina sex for women doesn't get them to Mt. Fuji. It might take them to the foothills, where the trees are a little more sparse, but it doesn't get them to the snow capped mountain tops of amazing orgasmic

O is for Orgasm which both parties experience

experience. NO WAY? Yes, way! So men, if you are doing a little fingering and jumping on top of your woman, you are missing the orgasmic boat. Well maybe you aren't but she certainly is! 

Most men have no idea that this is a fact. This is the way most men make love to their woman. Russell Brand, Messiah Complex has it down. Yes it is a little raunchy. But isn't what you do in the bedroom, also? If you haven't watched his program on Net Flix, you need to. I have provided a link below for your viewing pleasure. Just don't complain that I didn't warn you. His final words..... "Women come first......  and I am the second coming!" Very funny stuff. 

Remember, women come first. If she has not had an orgasm before you do, you are missing out on really pleasing your woman. Women are ALL capable of multiple orgasms. Men are too. However, doing things the same way, at the same time, keeps you stuck. 

Jennifer Elizabeth Masters is a sex and love coach as well as the author of the amazing provocative book, Orgasm For Life. She

works with men and women to empower, heal relationships and create deeper connection and more meaningful, loving relationships. She also helps women who keep attracting guys who are not in their highest and best good, attract men who are The One. 

Need some new ideas? Need something that will stimulate you both? Orgasm For Life, will make you laugh, turn you on and

help you create a deeper, more meaningful sex life together. Looking for a more sacred relationship, Orgasm For Life is a guide to amazing bliss. 

3 Ways To Bring Her To Orgasm Every Time

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

It is funny what men think excites women. I found a blog and e-book written by a man who is teaching men that all you have to do is keep grinding away (before she is wet) and she eventually will be.... then in a sultry voice, tell her to come, just like pushing a button, there you go, she orgasms!

Unfortunately in the real world that is not what gets a woman over the orgasm hump. In fact, putting pressure on a woman to come on command, may perpetuate the problem further. Telling a woman to come, puts incredible pressure on her to perform. Can you imagine guys if your woman looked at your package and demanded, "Get hard, right now!" or "COME RIGHT NOW!" Could you, on command? Most men however, in the heat of the moment when asked to come, can. 

What works for men, however, does not work the same way for women. We are wired very differently. In fact, men have been wired to orgasm easily and quickly. This way they are able to procreate, spreading their seeds faster and further. Women have been wired, NOT to orgasm, because orgasm creates acidity in the vagina which kills sperm. 
Maybe women need to be more vocal. The reason women aren't talking is because we don't want to hurt you. So much of a man's self esteem is based on his virility and ability to pleasure his woman. If you aren't doing it the way she needs it, your woman is more than likely faking it. 
Going on websites where men are attempting to teach other men, is like the blind leading the blind. Seriously, who would you rather take advice from a woman who has been non-orgasmic and knows the physiology of a woman's body, and what is needed, or a man who THINKS he does?

Women love having men that multi-task. They can kiss and lick and bite a nipple at the same time as they are using their nimble fingers on their sensitive clitoris or gently inside their vagina. 

TAKE HER OFF THE CLOCK

If you can get her to relax and not worry about the time, she can focus on her own pleasure. Focusing on how long it takes, is why many women don't unwind enough to orgasm. They are so worried they are taking too long, worried about you, are you getting tired, impatient or concerned about the time, rather than focusing on the situation at hand, so to speak. 

Men make love to women the way THEY want to be made love to.

When I interviewed women for my book, their main complaint was that men THINK they know what we need, do it their way and leave their women frustrated and non-orgasmic. 75% of women do not, I repeat, DO NOT orgasm through penetrative sex (penis in the vagina). Yet men continue to have sex with women in this way. Yes, only 25% of women can orgasm through a penis in the vagina alone. I would like to hear how many men knew about this statistic. 

So women continue to fake it 80% of the time. Eventually,  women get really tired of faking it and either divorce you, or quit having sex with you. Either way, there are better alternatives. 

THE ORGASM GAP PROBLEM

Most men are ready to go and can come within 2 - 7 minutes. (Some men have what I call HTP - Hair-Trigger Penis and come way too fast - under 2 minutes.) Most women need 20 to 40 minutes of oral, clitoral stimulation, or digital stimulation. to be turned on enough to have an orgasm. If you don't give her the foreplay, (digital - a finger, not a camera, silly!) or tongue stimulation on the clitoris and a manually inserted finger just inside the vagina at the same time for long enough to get her really turned on, she won't have an orgasm.The real problem is that most men say, "Oh not my woman, she comes in less than 5 minutes." My assertion, is that you are not recognizing that she is faking her orgasms. The women I have interviewed say their men have no idea! 80% of women fake it, for a reason. Most men do  not get their woman turned on enough to have an orgasm. 

WHAT WOMEN NEED

1. Turn on her mind. Women need to be completely present, in the moment, rather than worried about the kids, guest in the next room, or whether the dishes have been done or not. Women need to have their mind turned on first. Sex begins in the mind. Women need to be told they look and feel beautiful. That they smell amazing. They need to feel good about themselves. Sexy, beautiful and appreciated by you. If you tell them they are a lousy lay, they might not want to have sex with you again. If you had a fight earlier in the day, you need to apologize, because her mind is still on the argument. She won't be able to have sex with you, if she is upset or angry. unlike men, sex de-stresses them. Women need to be stress-free to want sex.
2. Give her time to get really turned on. Women need 20 - 40 minutes of stimulation to have an orgasm. Where most men can be ready to go as soon as they see a naked woman. Men usually come within 3 minutes of entering a vagina, 7 minutes at the outside. If women need 20 - 40 minutes, entering her too quickly is a BIG PROBLEM! Women are not like men. They are slow to warm up. Every woman is capable of having a G-spot orgasm. Yet, many women do not they even have a G-spot because their partners have never gotten them heated up to the point that the G-spot becomes evident. The G-spot needs 20 minutes or more of gentle massage, oral and vaginal stimulation to begin to swell. Then you can feel it on the upper wall of the vagina. It is about the size of a quarter, slightly ribbed, comprised of erectile tissue. Often through vaginal intercourse, a women begins to get to the point of being aroused enough for the G-spot to awaken and be turned on when her partner comes. A wonderful combination of oral stimulation alternating with thrusting, pulling out and then more oral stimulation, thrusting and then more oral, can get a woman to that unbelievable high place to have an orgasm that she will never forget. With regular stimulation the G-pspot will take less and less time to become engorged. However, a woman who has had sexual trauma, most likely needs some sexual healing. If it is tender to the touch, that is the case.
3. A good tongue lashing! Penile penetration alone will not get 75% of the female population to orgasm. So give her what she needs. Most men love oral. The fastest way to get a woman to orgasm is orally. If you can't perform oral long enough, buy a vibrator and stimulate her that way. A finger and a tongue can go a long way to pleasuring your woman. Get creative. See what works best for your partner.

Surprising Secrets Most Men Don't Get

Women are not microwavable? WHAT? Women are not fast to heat up like a microwave. They need time to warm up. 

Just because she is wet, does not mean she is ready for penetration. A wet vagina does not indicate the state of arousal. Even after a women gets wet, she needs time for her vagina to become engorged. The vagina lengthens, and swells, but it takes more than a few finger thrusts to do so. Giver her the time she needs. Kiss, lick, suck, other body parts. Massage her. 

Spend time elsewhere turning her whole body on before you start banging away. If you enter her too soon, you could tear the tender tissue. Once you have torn her, sex is painful. It is very difficult to come when you are experiencing the pain of a tear near the perineum. Older women need lubrication, even when they are wet. The quality of their natural lubrication is less viscous. Their vaginal tissues becomes fragile and often atrophy. 

Make love to her the way she needs, rather than the way you want sex. Women need a slow build. Kissing, massage, all over touch, not target practice straight to the vagina. Remember women have breasts, lips above and below the waist, fingers, hands, a neck, inner thighs and even toes that can be excited. When you excite her whole body, the experience for both of you will be much more explosive and passionate. Read my book, Orgasm For Life, for step by step instructions on G-spot orgasm, oral stimulation and so much more.

Jennifer Elizabeth Masters is a love and sex coach, who specialises in helping aspiring entrepreneurs and women professionals who are struggling with love and abundance issues. Her coaching program is designed to help others clear their limiting beliefs, shift mindsets, and align their energy system in a way that is deep and profound, so that they can transform their relationship with love and wealth. Ultimately, her aim is to assist her clients "transmute into gold" by shining their authentic brilliance, struggle less whilst creating more freedom and fulfilment in their lives.  

As a Master Gardener and landscaper, who previously created beautiful landscapes Jennifer has since moved on to helping others with self love, weeding from the inside-out. Her experience has shown the benefits of changing inner paradigms for greater love and outer abundance. She draws on the insights that she has gained in her journey and personal healing, coach and as an intuitive consultant.  Jennifer Elizabeth Masters is the author of the books, Odyssey Victim to Victory: An autobiographical account of Jennifer's healing journey and

awakening. Odyssey details her journey from trauma and abuse into unconditional love, and: Orgasm For Life a unabashed guide to experiencing unbridled BLISS and joy.  She is also a hypnotherapist, inspirational speaker, radio host, Trainer, Neurolinguistic Programming Practitioner and Master Energy Healer. She has worked with thousands of men and women since 1998.

Her new radio show airs in March on BBM GLOBAL Network, TuneIn and Roku Box. Visit her website here: JenniferElizabethMasters.com

Or e-mail her privately here: JenniferElizabethMasters@gmail.com