How Can You Tell If You Love Yourself?

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Self love is the fastest way to happiness and enlightenment. If you are finding life is a struggle, difficult or there is no way out,

shifting your focus can help. I created this video at Apollo Park in Lancaster, California at sunset on December 11, 2014. There were lots of birds, geese and egrets in the background, but the message is clear. 

Self love will change all your relationships. It will change your life.

What Jennifer's clients are saying about her:

I met Jennifer at one of her workshops that a friend recommended to me.  At that time I was searching, and wanting some help out of my deep depression and anxiety.
Keeping in touch, I joined her on line workshops, and eventually her coaching once a week.

One of my earliest coaching sessions with Jennifer, I felt complete trust, like I have never felt with anyone in my ENTIRE LIFE.  I told her my deepest darkest secrets, and she welcomed me into her loving space.  For this, I will never ever forget, and will be eternally grateful.    

She allowed me to be where I was, no rescue, no high expectation - no pat advice that I have heard over and over - not landing anywhere in me that could really grow.

Her advice was simple and doable, small steps to move forward - with kindness, and no judgment allowed me to open up.
The meditations helped me see my guides and myself in a new light.  

As I grew in compassion and respect for myself as a result from the coaching sessions, vast changes in me occurred.I feel happier, more peaceful, more truly loving now.
In both my professional life and personal life, the changes though subtle, were highly significant:  I easily am present with people and they sense this.  If nothing else occurs, I feel that this is a huge gift, to be able to connect with people so that they feel heard and significant. N.A., Atlanta, GA

Contact Jennifer now for questions, or to set up an appointment

All You Need Is Love

There's nothing you can know that isn't known

Nothing you can see that isn't shown

Nowhere you can go that isn't where you're meant to be. John Lennon

When you boil life, living and relationships down to one thing, John Lennon's lyrics written in 1967 are still true today. Without love we are lifeless shells. Love is what heals, gives us purpose and makes life worth living. Love makes everything we experience better. The stars shine brighter, the birds sing, trees come alive, nature and all our experiences are better. Love is what we come to earth for. Without it, we are not living fully.

When we finally come to a place of infinite love, self love and acceptance, we feel love whether we are alone or with a partner. Being with a partner enhances all aspects of life but also brings us deep personal growth. Relationships reflect back to us who we are.

Scientists studied couples at the University of Delaware and the University of Virginia. Of those studied in two separate groups, those newlywed couples who showed affection, flirting, empathy and caring statements were much more likely to weather the storms of life as they inevitably surfaced.

Couples that expressed positive emotion and greater affection were much more likely to exhibit marital satisfaction than those who did not. Affection leads to greater happiness, stability and longevity in the relationship. In fact, affection is critical where couples come

together to build greater intimacy. Feeling love toward your partner is not enough, it needs to be expressed physically and shown to your partner through touch.

Touching Make You Healthier

Humans need touch. Without touch our cortisol levels can rise. Touch releases oxytocin, the feel good hormones in the body. Whether it is a kiss, a hand squeeze or a hug, everyone needs to be touched. Even getting a massage will relax the body, relieve pain and amp up your immune system. 

All Alone?

Taking care of your tactile needs when you live alone can be done through a massage kiosk at the mall. A massage will lower blood pressure, muscles to unclench, a racing heart to slow and stress hormones, like cortisol to drop. The mall massage is safe, comfortable and a great value. If you are not being touched, a massage on a regular basis can keep stress to a minimum and fulfill your need for touch.

A rescue hug

Inside the womb we are cuddled, tight and warm. We hear our mother's heartbeat and parent's voices. Once we are removed from this safe warm environment, our need for touch and cuddling does not diminish - even with age. Those who are elderly often become rigid and closed because their need for touch is not met. When we do reach out to

hug, we feel the stiffness rather than the melding of two bodies together. A gentle hand squeeze when we see our elderly parents and active listening can express the love that you feel for them. 

Even elderly animals have a tendency to jump when we touch them because we are not giving them the attention we once did. Remembering that even as we get

older and are not as cute as we once were, we still need to be loved, appreciated and cuddled.

Love is not an emotion as one might think. Real love is not affected by change, movement or growth. Real love does not depend on what you can get out of a relationship or games played with other's souls. Shared interests, hobbies or experiences are wonderful, but they are not what love is. Love is eternal, crossing the barriers of time and even death. Love is not attachment, addiction or dependency. Love is unmovable even with anger, hatred, grief, shame or sadness. 

Love is an energy that can be experienced alone. Love is constant and is not restricted to romantic relationships. It can be felt in the hug of a child, your beloved pet leaning on your arm while you type on your computer. Love can be experienced when out in nature. Love is constant and all around you. 

Self love does not happen overnight. It is a process of letting go of

fear, control, manipulation and judgment. When we judge others, we judge ourselves. In my process of healing my life, and coming into complete self acceptance I became enlightened. It is the fastest way to end suffering. Whether you are wanting to be more successful in business, relationship or just live a happy life, self love is the key to living in joy for the rest of your days. 

If you are interested in finding out more about my work or your soul's purpose, having your emotional baggage released, e-mail me and we can set up a discovery session or a clearing. Living with depression, anxiety, fears, emptiness or loneliness? All of those are temporary and can be released in the work I do. E-mail me your questions or concerns or take a courageous step forward towards love. 

Testimonial From A Coaching Client 12/14

I met Jennifer at one of her workshops that a friend recommended to me.  At that time I was searching, and wanting some help out of my deep depression and anxiety.
Keeping in touch, I joined her on line workshops, and eventually her coaching once a week.

One of my earliest coaching sessions with Jennifer, I felt complete trust, like I have never felt with anyone in my ENTIRE LIFE.  I told her my deepest darkest secrets, and she welcomed me into her loving space.  For this, I will never ever forget, and will be eternally grateful.    

She allowed me to be where I was, no rescue, no high expectation - no pat advice that I have heard over and over - not landing anywhere in me that could really grow.

Her advice was simple and doable, small steps to move forward - with kindness, and no judgment allowed me to open up.
The meditations helped me see my guides and myself in a new light.  

As I grew in compassion and respect for myself as a result from the coaching sessions, vast changes in me occurred.I feel happier, more peaceful, more truly loving now.
In both my professional life and personal life, the changes though subtle, were highly significant:  I easily am present with people and they sense this.  If nothing else occurs, I feel that this is a huge gift, to be able to connect with people so that they feel heard and significant. N.A., Atlanta, GA

The Art of Semen Retention For Vitality And Power

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Louis Smith - Olympian

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Any athlete who has ever competed knows that sex before a competition will deplete you. As a matter of fact, many prize fighters and other athletes will forgo sex while in competition. The eastern world has known that ejaculation causes the body to be depleted of strength, vitality and even mental concentration.

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However, orgasms will deplete your life force and over time can even cause challenges with kidneys and other physical issues. Taking a little pill to get it up, only increases physical ailments to the point of risking death, if you have heart or blood pressure issues.

Why then is the western world so focused on orgasms? Simply put, PLEASURE. An orgasm feels good. It relieves stress and can help you sleep better. Women receiving the gift of semen

internally become energized, giggly and happy. Your loss is our gift

There are ways to change the loss into a gain. Tantric Sex is definitely one of them. Holding onto your precious life giving semen up to an hour or more is enough to change the tables from a deficit to a amazing energetic increase.

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I have consulted a long-time friend and Tantra teacher for this article. Being a man, he is much more able to translate what happens in the man's body than I am. Prem Sarovara agreed to assist with the details of this article. He is a teacher for Ipsalu Tantra in Atlanta. 

The Origin of Sex and Ejaculation

Primal man wants to survive. In his innate nature, he has a built in desire to procreate. He does this by wanting to inseminate as many young fertile women as possible in his lifetime. We cannot fault men for something that is a natural state within them.

Primal women have an internal desire to find the strongest male with the most resources to impregnate her. You cannot fault a woman for having the need to find a man who will be strong and able to take care of her and her children. It is programmed into her DNA and therefore innate.

Rising Above

Retention of semen rises above the primal urges and imprint. There are distortions of the primal urges, where men continue to sow their seeds long after they have procreated a-plenty. There are also women who continue to look for the most handsome and well financed man to support her long after her children are out of nursery school.

When Ejaculation Begins

Semen retention is not about stopping the process once it begins. That is not healthy and can cause pain in the testes and abdomen. There are several methods that people use for this like pinching the top of the penis, OW! Or pressing on pressure points in the perineum. What's a perineum, you ask? I will get to that. Neither of these are what we are discussing here. You can breathe a sigh of relief!

A Man Post Orgasm

Man post ejaculation

After 2 - 7 minutes and an ejaculatory orgasm it is over. After an ejaculatory orgasm that occurs too soon, men feel depleted, sadness and even a little depressed. Their energy wanes. They usually fall asleep immediately after sex. Men may even feel exhausted for several days afterward till their life force is regained. For this reason alone, athletes refrain from sex before try-outs, competitions and races.

Question

Why would you want to retain your sexual energy by non ejaculatory sex?

Answer: To transmute it.

Think about rising above the primal man's urges. This will match with the female rising above her primal nature. Primal man doesn't want to prolong lovemaking - he wants to ejaculate.

What Tantra Will Do For Your Relationship

• allow more time for stimulation of the woman
• give you both higher heights of ecstasy and pleasure
• longer lasting sex allows both partners to reach multiple orgasms
• allow the man to keep his vitality and energy
• no depression or sadness after orgasm
• better concentration
• more power
• deeper intimacy and closeness

The 3rd Chakra - Power

Tantra moves and transmutes sexual energy upward into the higher chakras. Rather than allowing the energy to remain in the genitals it is transferred upwards first into your 3rd chakra, the solar plexus or power center. 

Once you have moved the sexual energy up into the third chakra your sexual energy amps up your power center. You are retraining the energy. Rather than allowing your sexual energy to stay in the genitals through the use of breath (instructions below) you move and transmute the energy upwards. After sex with non-ejaculatory orgasms OR orgasms after 1 hour or more: you will feel empowered instead of depleted. One day later you feel empowered and vital. Two days after sex you will still feel strong and empowered. There is no recovery time.

When you retain semen you feel empowered. Giving your woman an orgasm will also make you feel empowered. 

Heart

Retain your sexual energy (semen) a little longer and you bring the energy up into the heart chakra (the center of your chest). The energy can be circulated through all the chakras to achieve balance. 

The man receives through the heart as she pours that energy back

into him, through her heart and breasts. As she pours her energy into him, the relationship is deepened. A stronger connection is achieved.

The longer you retain your semen, the higher you can circulate your sexual energy. Moving the energy up into your throat chakra you lose all concepts of self. This is where the two of you blend into one. A blissful union of ONE. The feeling of bliss at this point is incredible and may last minutes, rather than the seconds of a "normal ejaculatory orgasm."

The ultimate is achieved when the energy is moved above the heart chakra. This is where you disappear into blissful oblivion.

IMPORTANT RULE

Maintain an erection and sexual energy for at least an hour; your sexual energy is maintained, even if you do ejaculate.

The penis (lingam) may become softer and then become hard again, from moving your sexual energy upward, but the woman can contract her internal muscles to build and transmute the sexual energy and heat within the vagina (yoni). 

Soft Penis - 

The penis (lingam) may become soft, and then regain it's vigor again. This it temporary and still pleasant and enjoyable for both. The energy becomes a full body experience, rather than just a genital one. The woman can contract her PC muscles and her vaginal muscles which can heighten pleasure for both parties. The advantages of extending pleasure beyond 2 - 7 minutes are exponential. Both may experience multiple orgasms through extended pleasure and transmutation of the sexual energy.

Transmutation Breath

Contracting and relaxing the anal muscles generates heat. Breathe in and touch your tongue to the roof of your mouth to complete the

circuit. Contract and then relax the perineum for men. Men sometimes tease their mates by making their penis move by contracting muscles. These are the very muscles that you want to contract and relax, as well during this transmutation breath.

In women, it is the back wall of the vagina (yoni) contracting and relaxing the vaginal wall muscles. Contract and relax the clitoris. This one really requires some introspection to accomplish.

OBO - Orgasm With Bliss and Oblivion

Once you have mastered the breath and transmuted the energy, doing your contractions simultaneously, you will be able to move your sexual energy upwards into your throat chakra. the energy will just take over. What this means is that your orgasmic state can last as long as it wants to, rising and peaking then reaching a plateau, subsiding into a high plateau, rising again. The prostate will contract automatically, giving you multiple orgasms, similar in intensity to a woman's multiple orgasms. This state can be maintained for hours. What a trip! 

Benefits of Tantric Bliss

• a deeper connection
• higher plateau
• you are no longer moving the energy
• beautiful state of ecstatic bliss
• a man will experience what a woman does when she has multiple orgasms
• great for prostate health
• increased energy and vitality
• increased mental focus
• tremendous feeling of empowerment

This energetic state will take you to places you have never been before. This is a great time to have the kids visiting their grandparents and your cell phones off. You will not want to be interrupted for anything!


Cobra Breath

This breath work has been secret for a very long time, in fact my friend could not share it with me. The Ipasalu Tantra Institute teaches the Cobra breath when the student is ready. The purpose of Tantra is enlightenment. Great sex of course is a result of Tantra. The breath that is taught awakens the kundalini when the student is ready.

Jennifer Elizabeth Masters is an enlightened and self actualized being. What does this mean for you? She doesn't take anything personally. She lives in her heart, rather than her ego. She is in constant contact with her High Self and The Divine. 

Jennifer is a natural catalyst for your growth and healing. Being in her energy whether it is in person, on or phone, you will shift without doing anything. She intuitively gets mantras for you to heal

the issue you are encountering in the moment. Keep repeating the same relationship with different people? Jennifer is amazing at helping people find real love, rather than the addictive self destructive kind. 

If you are depressed, lonely, angry, anxious, feeling stuck, disempowered, feeling small and want to meet and step into your Divine self, Jennifer is the one to guide you there. As a Spiritual Pathfinder, she will help you find your way. 

If you want to truly work with a master of energy, Jennifer is the one to work with! Not only is she a master of her craft, she is professional, genuine and caring. She makes sure your experience was everything you were expecting and more...plus she gives you tools to keep help you on your journey! L. Roosevelt

The average woman needs more than the two minutes of sex she is currently receiving to have an orgasm. Even if you manage to go the distance of SEVEN minutes, you are on average 33 minutes shy of arousing most women enough to even get close to having an orgasm. 

Most women need 20 - 40 minutes of stimulation to get close to an orgasm. The sad thing is that 70% of women rarely or NEVER have orgasms with intercourse. Why? Because it is over before they have gotten enough stimulation to get there.

For those men out there that feel they are doing their job right and this paragraph does not apply to you, think again. A recent study found that 85% of men think that they did a good deed and got her there, when less than 64% did. 75% of men climax every time. Maybe Tantra is the answer to get more women to the pleasure zone that men are enjoying all by themselves?

You have to read my book. As it details the issues facing men and women today. Women want more intimacy. Men want more sex. Men become more intimate after sex and need sex for intimacy to occur. We have a stand-off. No one wants to budge. This is causing a huge rift. Love involves giving and receiving. Men feel loved when their women love and accept them through sex. Women need to feel loved to have sex. We are wired differently. 

In over 16% of long-term marriages today sex is a serious issue. To the point that men are not getting sex at all. This is sad. Read my book to help overcome obstacles standing in your way of healing your relationship and call Jennifer for a session. 

Hanna Katz-Jelfs has a wonderful video which talks about Tantra and pure bliss which goes far beyond what the regular sex act can achieve. Her description is beautiful.

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Making Sex Sacred With Tantra

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

For most of us, the focus of sex is the culmination of expansive and exquisite energy surging upwards and thrusting us into states of ecstasy. An orgasm is all that and more. However, it

does not have to include ejaculation for orgasm to occur. Men can have orgasms without ejaculation with practice. This is the beginning of a series on the subject of Tantra. What it means and why you would want to practice Tantra.

Timing Is Everything

Both men and women can be disappointed in the length of the sex act. Men often feel self condemnation about the length of time they can prolong sex before reaching a climax. It is a natural occurring phenomenon for men to be driven to orgasm. It is programmed into their DNA. We were created to sustain life on this planet. One of those programs imprinted in men's DNA was a drive to procreate. They can't help it.

We Were Programmed This Way

Men generally, but don't always have higher libidos than most women and are much more driven to ejaculate than women are driven to orgasm. In fact, when women reach an orgasm before the male, the inside of the vagina becomes more acidic killing precious swimmers. We have been programmed NOT to orgasm before the male. A woman that does not have an orgasm has a higher chance of becoming pregnant than one who does. Orgasm increases the acidity of the uterus which makes conception more difficult.  

On average most women need longer to achieve an orgasm than a man during intercourse. Most women need twenty to forty minutes of stimulation to have an orgasm. We can't get angry about something that was programmed into us. Many men are often anxiously chomping at the bit, wondering when they can let go themselves, while waiting for their lady to climax. For mutual pleasure to occur, we need to find a work-around to have both partners collapsing on their pillows sweating and satiated.

Semen Retention?

Learning the art of semen retention, through Tantra can help men last longer, making love for an hour or more. Tantric sex was brought out of the dark with stories about 24 hour long sex, by Sting, the musician. 

What is Tantra?

Tantra is a Hindu or Buddhist mystical or ritual text which originated in India. It originated around the 5th century. It is the adherence to the doctrines of the principals of the tantras involving mantra, meditations, yoga and ritual. Tantric Sex combines meditations, yoga, breath, and shifting the focus of sex from end-result oriented to being in the present moment completely with your partner. Instead of a fast heated rush, it involves a deep and powerful soulful, body-mind-soul connection with your partner and a sacred, slow pace. Today Tantric sex is considered conscious love-making. Tantra brings the sacredness of our bodies and love-making together. Tantra includes revering each other and our joint blissful union. Tantra and yoga were one and the same in their original form. 

Tantra originated from a time when sex was denied. Spirituality and sexuality are joined together embracing the body as a divine temple. Tantra reveres the body and the sacred act of sex rather than seeing sex and the body as something sinful as so many religions do. The essence of Tantra is combining the heart, mind and spirit in the act of making love without attachment. Open heart, open mind. Everything is Divine.


Why Would You Want To Try Tantra?

45% of men reach orgasm within 2 minutes after penetration occurs. This fact alone could make women shout and fist bump with their girlfriends, that they've got it going on! However, hot we are sexually, the key is to both receive pleasure, and mutually enjoy an orgasm. Extending love-making so that both are able to give AND receive pleasure is what Tantra is all about. 

Self-pleasuring for both men and women  takes approximately 4 minutes to reach the pinnacle of the sex act, orgasm. Using semen retention can allow the man to last longer, without achieving an orgasm so quickly.

How Do We Do It?

Tantra is shifting the focus from purely sexual experience to blend mind, body and spirit. From eye gazing and meditating together before sex, you begin with the intent in mind to connect deeply with your partner, heart-to-heart and soul-to-soul. It is a balance of yin and yang, male and female. 

Shift The Focus


Connecting with each other prior to beginning to make love with your hearts open, looking deeply into your partner's eyes with an awakened heart. The more open and authentic you can be the better. You are allowing your souls to connect rather than just your sexual parts. Awakening of the kundalini or Shakti (life force) moves energy upward as in the union between Shiva and Shakti.

Moving Energy

Take turns as the receiver and the giver, by touching your partner's genitals and then placing your hand on their heart chakra at the same time. Focus on moving energy from their genitals into their heart center. As you move sexual energy up into your heart you can circulate it throughout the body, which will enliven and give you more energy to last longer and also live a longer, healthier life.

Stay tuned for more articles on Tantra, what it can do for you and why you want to learn about it.

You can visit Jennifer's website here: JenniferElizabethMasters.com

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8 Powerful Feng Shui Cures For Love and Romance

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

It's time! Enough lonely nights, trips alone and dinners with your best friends. It is time to herald a new relationship, rather than spend another year alone. 

2016 is the year for you to find love! 

Get ready for love with these tips and cures. If you already have a relationship, this article will help you enhance the love that is already present and ease conflict where it is present.

Yes, love is more than a possibility. You have received ample information about doing your own inner work. You know you have to love yourself to have someone love you back. We also have to be open to receive love. Check in and see if you need a clearing on this, contact me if you do. I am offering some summer specials.

Is Your Past Heartbreak Keeping You From Love?

When I had my landscaping business in Atlanta, Georgia, I wasn't your typical landscape professional. I had to be different, a unique

version that represented who I was. My landscape business encompassed Feng Shui. You may have heard of it before. You might even be an expert. What I do know is that when I used Feng Shui cures, I could call in a relationship almost instantly. Feng Shui can enhance all areas of your life.

What Is Feng Shui?

Ba Gua

Pronounced Fung Schway, it is the 3,000-year-old art of placement. It literally translates to wind and water. The Chinese have been using Feng Shui in their homes and businesses for thousands of years.

Good Feng Shui can bring you wealth, harmony, health, love and amplify all the good things in your life. Feng Shui can help strengthen relationships. 

Focused attention on the relationship area can bring you love that you have never experienced, or rekindle an old love. It can be used to quiet disputes within the family or relationships. 

Simply put, Feng Shui is the soothing of our environment using the five elements, are air, fire, water, earth and ether. Cures can be used to enhance a relationship, or increase the flow of wealth in your life. 

There are two distinct forms of Feng Shui. Classical or what I call REAL Feng Shui uses a compass or Luo pan. 

The updated form is called Modern Feng Shui. Created for us westerners, this modern version

simplifies the Classical form for those who find the compass method challenging. This method uses your front door as the north or career area (no matter which way your front door faces). I prefer the compass version. You can choose whichever suits you, either form of Feng Shui will work.

Ba gua

The Ba gua above is used to show where each area is in each room of your home. Place the bagua over your floor plan facing the appropriate direction to find where each area is in every room in your home. Each room is comprised of the following areas: health (heart), career, helpful people, knowledge, family and children, wealth, fame and relationships. To begin with,  focus on one room, your bedroom.

Count the number of rooms in your home or apartment. That number is how many relationship areas you have inside your home. You also have relationship areas outside your home as well. You can plant flowers to enhance the area, use up-lighting outside and use the cures below.

The Relationship Area

Giving special attention to our relationship areas can foster loving, harmonious and lasting relationships built on trust and unconditional love. 

Right before I met the love of my life, John Armbruster, I did all the things listed below. It was a matter of weeks before I met John. I also walked around my whole house both inside and outside and got rid of anything that depicted a single element, one tree, one flower or a person alone. I had plenty of artwork that depicted one element. I didn't realize how I was subconsciously self-sabotaging myself as well as avoiding love. 

It can be very telling to examine all your furnishings, artwork and photos. Be a super sleuth and write down all the things you have in your home that depict a single person, rather than a couple. You will be amazed! Gradually changing these single pieces for pairs or groups will help your relationship greatly. 

Below are both suggestions and areas to be watchful for if you have conflict in your current relationship, or you want to draw in a new love.

Want To Heat Up Your Love Life?

At the same time each day turn on your bedside table lamps. Leave them on for 3 hours every day for 27 days. Your love life will really heat up. This really works! I have had women come back to me after making just one or two changes and found love quickly.

Here are 8 ways to amp up your love life and draw love in:

1. Clear your clutter. Clutter represents the past. You want to create love in the present. Clear your clutter first before doing any of these cures. Clutter in the mind will clutter your relationships with issues. Clutter is a big no-no when drawing love or wealth. It is a sign of too much on your mind. Too many things

   

   Sage stick - to clear negativity 

   left undone unfinished business, projects etc. Clean your bedroom thoroughly. Make sure there is no mess or clutter under your bed, as energy circulates underneath the bed. Get into corners and burn sage if you  have it. Sage will clear sadness, negativity and any left over conflict from past arguments or relationships. 
2. It Takes Two! Make sure you have two bedside tables in your bedroom, one on either side of your bed. Two end tables on either side of your couch are necessary as well. This shows that you are open to having someone else share your space.
3. Symbolic Artwork. Make sure that each of your relationship corners (SW) have artwork depicting happy couples touching and more than one element. Place pairs of statues that symbolize love to you in your relationship corner in each room. Look around your home and move artwork or any photos that have only one element in them. (You can use those in other areas - just keep solitary trees, or people out of the relationship areas). For example

   

   Peony

   a photo of a lone tree in the landscape. You want artwork that depicts couples, loving and touching. Paintings of a bunch of flowers in a vase, rather than a single flower. Peonies are especially auspicious for love and romance, both in photos, artwork and fragrance. 
4. Crank up the heat in your bed! Sheets that are white, bright green or even red will heat up your love life. Use red sparingly, as it could burn your relationship out. Red denotes fire. Use decorator pillows sparingly. Beds that have too many pillows are a turn-off for men (too much work to make the bed). 
5. Two pink candles in your relationship area will add some spark and heat up your relationship if you are currently in one. Light them together. Pairs of animals, cranes, ducks, in the SW corner of your room placed close together, or touching will draw love to you. Two cozy chairs (no table between them) also works. You are creating a comfy place for two.
6. Make Room! If your closets are over-stuffed and can't fit another article of clothing, clear out the old stuff you never wear. To draw love in, you want to create space for it to come
   
   in. It is called creating a void. When we create a void by emptying closets, drawers and getting rid of what isn't loved or used we make room for something new. When our homes are busting at the seams with furniture, decorations and belongings, there is no room for anything new to come in. 
7. Best Master Bedroom Colors are: rose, purple, pink, green. Avoid peach as it can lead to philandering (affairs). 
   
8. A Vase of Fresh Cut Pink Flowers in the relationship area will raise the vibration of the room faster than anything I mentioned previously. Fresh flowers in the home can transform the energy instantly. Do not used dried flowers, they denote death. If you can't do fresh, silk are the next best thing.

Bedroom Do's And Don'ts

• Make sure your bed is in the commanding position within your room
• Doors knobs that open into one another or clash, can cause conflict in the household
• Mirrors at the foot of the bed or on the side that reflects the couple can lead to negative vibes, serious issues within the relationship
• No Television in the bedroom - creates issues within the relationship and also reflects the couple in the glass
• No mirrors opposite windows
• If bathroom is attached to your bedroom, always keep bathroom door closed
• Bed accessible on all three sides to keep your partner. Bed scrunched into corner of room does not allow chi (energy) to circulate properly - creating stagnant chi
• Find your Kua number to discover which direction to sleep in for optimum personal/relationship health and deep sleep
• Use wooden beds. Metal beds provide cutting energy and are not good for a bedroom
• Closed headboard - open headboards with cabinetry creates a heaviness around the head and negative chi. Never use a stand alone headboard that does not attach to the bed
• Queen sized bed - allows enough room, but not so much that you have space between you
• Relocate exercise and computer equipment to other areas - bedrooms are for two things, sleep and sex
• No chandelier over the bed
• No fan over the bed - gives you an uneasy feeling and can affect sleep 
• Clutter especially on the floor lowers the vibration and attracts negativity and can cause depression if left for long periods
• Do not give the commanding position (rear of house) bedroom to a child. Can cause power struggles between parents and child (whoever sleeps in the back bedroom commands the household)

I would love to hear from you. How did this post help you? What experiences have you had with Feng Shui? 

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I met Jennifer at one of her workshops that a friend recommended to me.  At that time I was searching, and wanting some help out of my deep depression and anxiety.
Keeping in touch, I joined her on line workshops, and eventually her coaching once a week.

One of my earliest coaching sessions with Jennifer, I felt complete trust, like I have never felt with anyone in my ENTIRE LIFE.  I told her my deepest darkest secrets, and she welcomed me into her loving space.  For this, I will never ever forget, and will be eternally grateful.    

She allowed me to be where I was, no rescue, no high expectation - no pat advice that I have heard over and over - not landing anywhere in me that could really grow.
Her advice was simple and doable, small steps to move forward - with kindness, and no judgment allowed me to open up.
The meditations helped me see my guides and myself in a new light.  As I grew in compassion and respect for myself as a result from the coaching sessions, vast changes in me occurred.I feel happier, more peaceful, more truly loving now.
In both my professional life and personal life, the changes though subtle, were highly significant:  I easily am present with people and they sense this.  If nothing else occurs, I feel that this is a huge gift, to be able to connect with people so that they feel heard and significant. N.A., Atlanta, Georgia

If you want to truly work with a master of energy, Jennifer is the one to work with! Not only is she a master of her craft, she is professional, genuine and caring. She makes sure your experience was everything you were expecting and more...plus she gives you tools to keep help you on your journey! L. Roosevelt

Jennifer Elizabeth Masters is the real deal. If you are looking for someone who is more than a coach, who gets you, is direct, authentic and healed herself, Jennifer is the one. She has traveled this road and created tools that you get to keep and use daily, even after you graduate and are working on your own. 

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7 Minutes In Heaven

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Remember those days in your teens, playing spin the bottle? Seven Minutes In Heaven is an updated game that teens from 13 to 18 play today. Instead of kissing uncomfortably in the circle, after spinning the bottle and finding out who you are paired with, the paired couple go into a closet or bathroom. They are timed and must stay in the closet for 7 minutes. If the person you are paired with is someone you don't want to kiss, 7 minutes could feel like hours. If it is someone you are attracted to, think is cute, or even dreamed about, your dreams come true. A whole seven minutes!

I am not suggesting that adults play this childhood game. Though the average duration of the sex act for many couples is only 7 minutes and 43 seconds for each encounter. For 45% of men, sex is over within 2 minutes or less according to The Nerve. The recent study has confirmed Alfred Kinsey's research from the 1940's and 1950's. A recent study of Canadian and American sex therapists recently concluded a study stating that the average sex act lasts between three to seven minutes, not counting undressing.

Think You're A Stud? 

Most men love sex. They like to think that they are satisfying their partners. However, a recent study shows that men think they are doing a good job when they are actually missing the "O" mark. A 1992 study by Edward Laumann of The University of Chicago found that 43.5 percent of the men thought that their partners always had an orgasm, compared to the 28.6 percent that saw a glimpse of heaven. But that was in 1992, you say. An updated study was done in 2010 which elucidates this issue. 85% of men felt that their females partners had a great time, versus the 64% that looked like the cat that swallowed the canary. Hence, my book, Orgasm For Life.

The Two-Minute Marvel

Having a relationship with a man where sex only lasts two minutes or less can be extremely frustrating for both partners. For marriage partners, it is a source of extreme conflict. Speaking from experience it caused constant friction, of the non-sexual kind. I

know of many women who eventually have affairs and divorced their men due to their nonfulfillment. Many stay but are extremely dissatisfied with the sex. Alfred Kinsey dryly reported that men would be irritated with their wives, "Are you done yet?" (forty minutes). 

Author's Note:

A reader commented on an article I wrote about the length of time most women need to reach orgasm - between twenty and  forty minutes. He responded that I must be using a vibrator or touching myself too much. The truth is I don't own a vibrator, I prefer the real thing to something that buzzes, vibrates, whizzes and bangs without ejaculating. 

Macho Man? Or Are Women Just Misunderstood?

His comments highlight the misunderstanding that many men are under. Just because a man can get it up and off in two minutes doesn't mean that women can. We have yonis (vaginas), not lingams (penises). Women can orgasm through digital stimulation in four minutes or less without a partner. Add another physical presence and women and their vaginas change. 

Erections and Arousal In Men

The subject of men and the way they are wired is fascinating. The differences in men and women sexually are astounding. Men can become aroused and erect as many as 11 times a day (on average). Women may think of sex once a day or less. The challenge is overcoming our personal issues and getting to the place of joint pleasure, rather than pleasure for just one.

Two Minutes Or Less For Many Men

For those men who ejaculate within two minutes,  other ways to satisfy your partner need to be found, because penetrative sex does not last long enough for her. It is not because sex is too infrequent. William Reich, supports my hypothesis and theory. Anger blocked emotions and inner rage is what lies underneath this pre-mature ejaculation or HTP, as I have termed it in my book, Orgasm For Life. 

Yes, I work with men to help heal these emotional issues. I have had really great success healing sexual dysfunction in both men and women.

How Long Does Orgasm Take For Women?

Dr. Harry Fische  has a post which I wholeheartedly disagree with. He writes that most women can achieve an orgasm within 7 minutes. He states that women who take 40 minutes to have an orgasm need to get themselves checked. Other scientists and medical professions disagree. Most women need between 20 and 40 minutes to achieve an orgasm unless they are self-stimulating. 

Men The Deep Fryers - Always Hot and Ready To GO!

Men and like deep fryers, ready to go at a moment's notice and can become erect, ready-to-go just by simply seeing an attractive woman on television. They can turn their attention to the woman they are with very easily with that arousal. Whether it is a magazine photo, article, or a movie, seeing a naked woman can be enough for many men to be aroused enough for sex.

Women The Slow Cookers - Slow To Warm Up

Women are like crock pots or slow cookers. We are slow to arouse. Our minds need to be engaged, free of thoughts and worries about the kids or family members hearing, dishes in the sink, or vacuuming that needs to be done. We perform so many household tasks a day, that there are often things that are undone, plaguing us. When our minds are not present, sex is next to impossible. If our recent encounters with our men have been less than satisfactory, we may be even reticent to have sex with you, thinking "What's the point?" It may be simpler and much more gratifying to just masturbate. At least, this way we know we will achieve an orgasm.

Making orgasm the focus for the man usually ends up with a frustrated woman. Which is why we are currently in the predicament in society today. Pornography indulges the male fantasy that women are always ready to go down on you or mount you at a moment's notice. 

The Truth 

Only 25 percent of women have orgasms through penetrative sex alone. Most men spend a few minutes fingering and then enter, thinking what they did was enough. It wasn't. If you are not spending time satisfying your woman through other means, orally, digitally or with a vibrator, most women will not achieve an orgasm. There is a problem. Ask her. When you care about her pleasure, sex will happen more frequently. 

It has become commonplace for women to not have orgasms through sex. This is called the orgasm gap. If one partner has an orgasm, both should. 

Betty Dodson, New York sex educator says, penetrative sex is okay, "But I prefer a talented tongue on my clitoris."

Interesting Fact About Orgasm

Women take approximately the same time to orgasm when they masturbate by themselves as men, about 4 minutes. Women report that they have fewer orgasms with their males partner than women who have sex with women.

The Clitoris

Yes, it is the female pleasure center. It is located outside the vagina and does not come into contact with the penis while penetrative sex is occurring for most women, which is why so many women have difficulty having an orgasm this way. The clitoris has twice the number of nerve endings than a man's penis. For some women sex riding on top of the man is the only way she can sometimes reach an orgasm through penetrative sex. If the woman straddles the man and leans forward friction can be possible against the shaft of the penis with the clitoris for some women.

The clitoris is what is removed in some cultures so that women don't experience pleasure when they have sex. 

Many women have no idea what or where their clitoris is. In a study of undergrads, many men and women thought that the clitoris is another name for the G-spot (it's not). No wonder some men can't find it either. The clitoris is like a little

button of pleasure measuring from 4 inches in length to seven inches in some women. It is hooded and is not the place where women pee. The urethra, where urine is emitted from is below the clitoris towards the vaginal opening. The clitoris branches out internally. Some scientists believe that the internal G-Spot is the root of the clitoris (found on the upper inside wall of the vagina). Orgasm For Life has a complete description of the G-Spot and how to arouse this area.

The clitoris is comprised of thousands of nerve endings (8,000 to be exact,) twice that of the penis, erectile tissue, like the penis. The clitoris becomes engorged with blood as arousal begins. It becomes erect and swells in size. When a woman is not aroused, it appears shy, hidden and often obscured. If you are interested in seeing photos and description of the female anatomy from a scientific perspective, here is the link.

Over the last hundred years, 61% of all divorces are filed by women. Why? Women are getting fed up with giving and not receiving equally in return. If you are seriously interested in saving your relationship, buy my book. Orgasm For Life explains in great detail how to bring a woman to orgasm with regularity. Orgasm For Life is more than a book about sex, it is a guide for relationship communication and understanding of men and women. It will help you build intimacy, deepen the love between you and save your relationship.

For Men

The following description of how to make love to a woman is a small part of what a woman needs to feel loved, accepted and adored. Taking the time to make love to her at least once a month this way will increase intimacy and deepen your bond.  Rushing through to orgasm is a sign that sex is unconscious and robotic. 

There are two of you. Make sure that you take care of

your woman first. If you get her deeply aroused before you engage in penetrative sex, her orgasm will happen with ease and your sexual encounter will be erotic, expansive with amazing orgasms. Hold off your orgasm. Stop what you are doing to slow down and keep yourself from coming too soon. Change positions, pull out and go down on her - again. This will slow down your building pleasure enough to keep yourself from coming. Giving to your woman first can be amazing for both of you.

What MOST Women Need To Achieve An Orgasm And Want To Have Sex With You AGAIN and AGAIN!

More Than 7 Minutes in Heaven

1. Tell her you love her.
2. Tell her how beautiful she is, often. While making love, if you don't tell her at least 3 times, you are missing the whole point of LOVE-MAKING.
3. Hug her and touch her outside of the bedroom and when you are not expecting sex. Many men only become amorous when

   

   "O- Face" Orgasmic woman

   they expect sex. Again, we are not wired the same as you. We need to know you adore us, love us and like us. The only way we know this is through your actions. If your actions are not loving, we feel used.
4. Kiss. The kiss can be a huge turn on. Not too much saliva. Don't shove your tongue down her throat. It is not a rape scene. A kiss can express your desire, a nibble of the lower lip,  gently touch of your lips together, pull away and look at her. Make eye contact. Then go back again and begin to slowly, slide your tongue in between her lips (mouth, not vagina). There is an art to kissing. I will write an entire post about the kiss soon. Spend time kissing her. Act as if you actually like her. Show her how much you do. Don't rush to the good stuff, you will miss how turned on she can get with just kissing. Some women can achieve an orgasm through kissing alone.
5. Nibble and kiss other places. Ears, neck, shoulders, gradually, slowly make your way to her abdomen. Kiss her all over. Stop thinking about yourself and having an orgasm. Take your mind off yourself and focus on HER. This will pay off in dividends.
6. Touch. Finger light touch along her arms, massage her hands, let her lay back and just enjoy herself without having to give to you. Gently touch her shoulders, across her breasts with gentle fingers or a feather. Brush her inner thighs without touching THE TARGET, (the vagina or vulva), touch her calves, gently brushing along her inner ankles, massage her feet. Hear her groan. Give her pleasure all over. She has an entire body. If you aren't touching her everywhere, you are just fucking, not making love.
7. Roll her over, massage her buttocks. Rub and massage her back. Take your time. If you rush, she will know it.
8. Kiss her buttocks, nibble a little. Massage her thighs getting close but not touching her vulva. Tease her with your fingers. Her back will arch as she becomes more aroused.
9. You can use your whole body to rub hers at this point, let her feel you along her torso, without putting too much weight on top of her. This is to be pleasurable, not controlling.
10. Ask if you can touch her vulva. If she says, yes, or "HELL YES!" place a flat hand on top of her vulva and hold it there. She will begin to vibrate. Gently tap her clitoris with your flat fingers. Then you can begin to massage her clitoris. The most sensitive region for most women is at 1:00 as you look at her face. In other words for those of you who can't tell time, look at her clitoris, just to the right of her navel, towards her right hip. Massage in circular motions, pressing gently. Ask her how the pressure is.
11. You have two hands, use them. Ask her if you can put a finger inside her. Using a lubricant, insert either an index finger or
    
    third finger inside her. Don't poke her. Using a come hither motion curl your finger upwards along the upper portion of her vaginal wall. This is where the G-Spot is located. Massage this area. She might have to pee. Let her do so. When she comes back, resume. After about five minutes here you should be ready to enter her. I am very interested in hearing your perspective. Did this article help you, educate you or offer a different perspective? What would you like to know more about? What subjects have I written about that you liked and want more of? What has been your experience?

Every woman is different. However, I have talked to hundreds of women in person. I have only met two women who had orgasms easily. The other women need a slow gentle build to achieve an orgasm. They need 20 to 40 minutes of pleasure to get there. Most men think they are doing a great job. Their partners do not agree. 

I cannot thank you enough. Nothing is overnight in this life, but I have turned a corner here and sooner than I thought I would. C. Ebert

Jennifer Elizabeth Masters is a sex educator, and empowerment coach for women and men. She is compassionate, direct, honest and the most adventurous and interesting woman you will ever meet.

She has been on hundreds of radio shows across the world. For a private coaching session or a clearing of your anger issues, you can e-mail her here.e-mail Jennifer here.