Show Me You Love Me!

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

You matter to me. You probably have no idea how much. Of the 300 - 400 hits a day I have here on this blog, I have only had three of you respond to my survey, which is less than 1%. To those that have responded. Thank you. I am grateful that you loved me enough to take the time to fill out my survey.

Love is a reciprocal thing. I am just not feeling it in return from you. I promise I don't ask for your social security number, bank account information or how much you weigh! Show me some love and take my survey - thank you. I am grateful for you. Tell me what you want and need. It is good practice. When you learn to express yourself authentically, you will be so much happier in all your relationships. 

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The more you give, the more you get. As you do one thing is how you do everything. If you are not getting the love you want

in your life, you are probably not giving it either.

I would love to give you more of what you want, answer your burning questions and tell you what I know, but I am not sure I am hitting the mark with all of you. This survey is a good way for me to understand your needs. Please take the five or fewer minutes it takes to answer the 10 questions. Show me how much you love me. Give a little in return.

Even if you don't agree with everything I write, that's okay. I don't expect you to. The other side of this equation is, that I am working to add larger share buttons. I want to get my message out in a bigger way. I have retreats planned and workshops in the works.... but I need more people to read my blog. I need more followers, more people to show some love to. More people to help wake up. So please share this. Right now there are very small buttons at the end of this post. If these share buttons don't work properly, let me know. Click LIKE for my Face Book page, show me some love there. That is an easy way to communicate with me - effortlessly. Click LIKE and then you can!

If you have technical expertise and know how to add those darn buttons, that would be great too. It takes a village. I know I am here for a purpose. My purpose is not about staying small, it is about helping more people wake up, fall in love with themselves and live

a happier, connected life. The truth is, I need you. I need you to share this. You know at least three people who are struggling with their lives. How many people have you talked about me and what I do to? 1? 2? None? If not, why not?

Jennifer Elizabeth Masters woke up and smelled the coffee in 2012. What does that mean? She no longer feels longing, lonely or alone. How did she get here? She learned to love herself completely. Does that mean she is perfect? Absolutely not. What it does mean, is that she can help you get there. She knows how to heal anxiety, depression and self-loathing, belief systems, blocks and trapped emotions. Pretty soon Jennifer will be only doing large group coaching and an Elite Master Mind. If you want one-on-one coaching you better take advantage of it while it is still available.

As a hypnotherapist, since 1998 and energy healer, since 2007, plus 30 years of personal healing she has completed, she learned a thing or two that can help you heal your life. Having someone who has been where you are can be a tremendous help to you. As a

catalystic coach, just talking with Jennifer can shift you. Isn't it time you lived the life of joy, happiness and connection you deserve? 

Jennifer can help you get there so much faster. She will pull you up when you are down, tell you when you are full of the brown stuff and make you laugh at yourself when

you need to. As a partner in your journey, Jennifer will empower you to be yourself in a bigger more authentic way. Joy and happiness are just around the corner. If you haven't gotten her by yourself, isn't it time you hired a partner in your journey that can give you the leg up you need? It took Jennifer almost 30 years of study, searching, learning and stretching herself to get her. Jennifer can help you do it in less than a year! Connect with her here.

How To Let Go Of Shame with Sex

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Shame is one of the lowest vibrating emotions there is. David R. Hawkins author of Power vs Force calibrated each of the emotions using a scale. He found shame to be below anger, desire, fear and even grief. If you have ever felt shame, you know how debilitating it can be. If you have been molested, raped, gotten pregnant when you were not married, shame is something you are very familiar with. Shame is something that children feel when parents or teachers humiliate them. What if you felt shame each time you had sex? I recently worked with a client who came to me to help her heal her addiction to relationships - codependency. 

When I asked Cassie (name changed to protect her identity) what her intention was for her healing work she said, that's easy. "I want to heal my shame during sex, so that I feel comfortable in my own skin." Every time she had sex, she felt ashamed. She never could really let go and enjoy the experience, even though she was a mature woman. It was not a matter of her having to answer to anyone about her activity. This shame was felt internally, because of her past. 

By our third session, I knew I needed to clear patterns from the past. I performed a past life energy clearing. I felt intuitively that Cassie had 5 religious lifetimes where she had taken a vow of celibacy. I cleared each of these lifetimes separately. I did further research and found that Cassie had been a priest, a Jesuit priest and a nun three

times. The last lifetime, I found she had also been a Mother Superior. She had been married to the church. These vows were so deeply ingrained within her that she could not have sex now without feeling it was very wrong. I cleared the vow having her repeat a clearing statement. 

After the past life work, I heard intuitively that I needed to clear the trapped emotions. Following are the emotions related to this one emotion that was trapped underneath the feeling of shame:

Pride

Shame

Disgust

Jealousy

Self Hatred of sexual self

Abandonment

Rejection of self pleasure

Shame regarding pleasure

Low self esteem

Unworthy

Worthless

Discouragement

Failure to receive love

Cassie's happy place

After the release work, I set an anchor using Neuro Linguistic Programming. This anchor put Cassie in her happy place where she felt completely calm, secure, happy, confident and safe. Then I slowly reduced the sense of trauma and shame during sex. We had to do this process twice to be sure it was complete.  I asked Cassie what her take-away was at the end of session three this is what she said; "I am amazed that there were so many emotions stuck under these feelings of shame."

This past week we met for her fourth session. I had no idea what to expect. As usual, at the beginning of our session, I asked her how she was doing? She said, "Shifting." I asked her, "What do you mean, can you explain?" She said, "Well I have no more feelings of shame - at all! I feel completely comfortable with my sexuality!" I congratulated her on her deep letting go of the past. This was indeed amazing. I was thrilled for her. 

I am constantly amazed at the power of energy healing work. I have done traditional therapy myself with a psychiatrist, several times with psychologists and marriage counselors. In marriage counseling I found that if we went into counseling our marriage was over. I have never known any couple to really get help from marriage counseling. The therapists seemed to pit one against the other. It seemed to me that someone was often made to be the bad guy/gal. I did not move forward to a place of healing or well-being with any of these traditional therapies. Nothing really changed. I felt stuck in my story. 

Energy work on the other hand moves you out of the story and eliminates the patterns, belief systems and stuck emotions. How great is that! In only three weeks! I am grateful to Cassie for allowing me to share her amazing story. I am also grateful to The Divine, the angels and all the beings of light that assist me when I do this work. I do not do it alone. I always have assistance. 

Shifting into sex and passion was a natural transition for me; someone who loves sex and who has healed addictions and codependency. In my book, Orgasm For Life I share what I

learned on my journey from sexual dysfunction to wholeness. I hope you'll read my books and discover your inner soul's purpose on your road to healing. And connect with me for deeper work, if you feel called.

Jennifer Elizabeth Masters now empowers women and men through her love and passion coaching. Using six modalities, the experience is different for every person. A lack of Self love is the source of all addictions.

Loving the self is the greatest gift you can give yourself and the world. You can e-mail Jennifer here for your personal 30 minute FREE discovery session to find out if her work is a good fit for you. 

The Long And Winding Road

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

When I was 16 I knew that there was something more to life than just an education, career, family and death. I longed to be enlightened like Buddha. It has been my soul's driving force in this life. To say I have arrived, would be false, enlightenment is
only the beginning. We continue to grow and expand beyond being enlightened. Joy and Happiness is what we all strive for. I have found it and I wish it for you as well. It is my purpose to help as many people while I am on this planet find their true purpose and happiness. Knowing how, is the key. In this article I will share you the secrets and keys to navigating our long winding road so that you can learn from my roadblocks. Perhaps my story will inspire you. Life is a joy, once you know how to truly live.

Life is one long winding road. It does lead to a door, which will open to you. After that more and more doors open. Joy, happiness and thriving as a healthy human being is what we are all meant to do. Many people struggle with life, feeling that it is hard. We make it so with our beliefs that it is difficult. 

Yes, I have been married and divorced 4, count 'em! Four times! Yes, and I used to be ashamed. After my fourth divorce, I opened new bank accounts and was asked for two forms of ID. I pulled out all my credit cards, debit cards and driver's license. I had five different names and no two matched. Now I laugh. This was part of my self discovery. Each and every part of my life took me one step further along my road of self discovery and expansion. Each failed relationship was not a failure or a mistake, it held a gift and a lesson, where I learned more about myself. Each relationship reflected back to me my inner fears, voids, confusion, beliefs and patterns from childhood.

After enlightenment we continue to grow and expand. We continue to be upgraded and downloaded with new information. Our bodies heal. We begin to look more youthful, aging slows. We are vibrating at a high rate (LOVE), which helps us to heal all past illnesses. Pain no longer exists. When we hear that love heals all, this is true, although the phrase is far more expansive than the romantic love that we strive for. When you come to a place of loving acceptance of self, relationships are not needed in the same way to fulfill you. You are already fulfilled. 

How Can I Use My Life Experience To Teach Me?

Life Is Your Mirror

Our lives reflect back to us our beliefs, thoughts and feelings. Whatever is happening inside of us reflects back to us in our relationships, situations and life events. Life is a game. Just like a board game we can make turns that take us away from our soul's purpose, slow our growth down, or we fail to learn from the lesson. When we don't get the lesson, it will repeat until we do. (Which is why I married so many times. I kept blaming others for my unhappiness. When the unhappiness was coming from inside myself.)

Whether it is through our careers or relationships, life continues to show you what you are reflecting out into your world. If you are negative, negative experiences will be shown to you. People might be mean, angry or abusive. If you are afraid, situations that cause you to be afraid will be given to you.

The Success Driven Life

Let's say you are a very driven person. You strive for perfection. Everything you do - you try your best to be perfect. You are driven to success, because you believe that when you are successful you will be happy. You work long hours, perhaps on multiple projects. You push yourself beyond what your physical limitations are. You may end up with health issues, heart, depression and severe loneliness, obsessive compulsive behaviors, worry, insomnia, vomiting, diarrhea. You name it, your body begins to break down because you are abusing yourself. 

Most of Us Have It Backwards And Upside Down

Everything that happens in your life is to spur you forward, to help you grow and evolve. Every relationship we have is a mirror into our soul. Our relationships show us what is happening inside us. It is never about the other person. But we incorrectly blame others for upsetting us, making us angry or treating us badly. It is because we don't think we are worthy, deserving or lovable that these things are being shown to us.

Look Inside You

I have met thousands of people who are uncomfortable in their own skin. They are afraid to look within. Most people are afraid to go deep. They run away from themselves and avoid confrontations or deep honesty. Yet it is only with being honest with ourselves that we recognize the truth of who we are. Life is not hard. It is our belief that it is hard that brings challenging situations to our door. When you begin to believe that life is working FOR YOU, that life becomes one of ease, reflection, and contemplation.

We Work Too Hard

Americans and Europeans are the few societies that don't stop and rest in the afternoon. Rest and repose is what allows us to stop the madness long enough to see what is really inside of us. When we are going and doing all the time, all we can see is the chaos that we have created by all the crazy thoughts that we are allowing to run amok inside our heads. Hard work does not bring us happiness. Success does not make us happy if we are not already happy. Marriage does not bring us happiness. Children may bring us some happiness, but they do not fulfill us, they may even further confuse and challenge us. We fulfill ourselves.

Nothing is Forever

Change is inevitable. When we let go of relationships and learn from them, we recognize that they are in our lives to teach us something. People leave, they die and change is always present. When we try to hang on for dear life, we suffer. When we fight change, we suffer. As my dear friend and former teacher Vasestha used to say, 

"Change is inevitable, suffering is optional."

Life Becomes Art

A woman I have been working with for several months has been challenged with work. Her work environment was becoming increasingly more difficult. Her new assistant manager was not treating her fairly. The environment was becoming unhealthy for her. Her partner has been encouraging her to move with him to Florida, because where they have been living has been a challenge for him to find work. He found work that was fulfilling in Florida. She refused to go, preferring life in Colorado. Today she was fired from her job, with a lame excuse. Her drawer was $5.00 over. The same day she was suspended for her overage, another girl was short by $100. 

Life Showing You The Way TO GO!

She could look at this situation as being unfair. OR, she could see that a door was closed for her to let go of Colorado and join her loving boyfriend in Florida where he is happy and has found work. They could rent a three-bedroom home for less than they were paying for a two-bedroom apartment in Colorado. She could very well find work more easily there as well.  When you open your eyes and get out of your own way, life shows you which was to go. Life gives you the direction. Should this woman choose to stay in Colorado, life will become increasingly difficult for her until she gets it. It is time to leave and join her partner in Florida.

SIMPLIFY

Most of us are ruled by our possessions. We have mortgages, cars, life insurance, health insurance, fitness memberships, summer homes, vacation rentals, jewelry, closets full of clothes and house stuffed to the gills with collections, statues, artwork and televisions. It is not until we begin to unburden ourselves that we recognize that all this stuff is just stuff and does not bring us true happiness. The joy a material item brings is so fleeting that we have to keep buying. The latest cell phone, iPod, computer or outfit is our latest fix. Millions are spent on makeup, fitness, and products in an attempt to make us feel happy. All to no avail. Until you spend money on a guide to help you search and excavate deep inside you, the happiness will continue to elude you. Most people spend millions over their lifetime on possessions, but fail to focus where it really matters on their soul's growth.

The Cost of Loneliness

On my personal journey I spent over $100,000 on divorces, custody and legal fees. I spent over $200,000 on travel workshops and further education to India, Bali, around the

world. How much have you spent trying to be or find happiness. How many lost loves, sexual encounters or dating sites have you been on and still feel lonely?

Material Goods and Big Lessons

I received guidance in 2009 to get rid of my stuff or "they would do it for me." I had been warned at least three times by psychics that I had too much stuff and that it was bogging me down. Within three weeks of this warning three 100-year-old oak trees landed on my home. On top of that landmark event in my life, I found mold everywhere. In my closets, drawers and on all my furniture. I had to move out and let it ALL GO! Every last piece of clothing, furniture, and piece of paper. All the records, bills, and files. GONE! 

The Power Of Letting Go

Letting go leads to surrender. I surrendered to The Universe. I totally let go. I grieved at the loss. Then it was amazing. I felt lighter. I felt clean. I felt relief. Shortly after this event I went to Bali. That trip was on the heels of a trip to India and the culmination of many other events (and daily Divine Presence Process Meditation) and led to my awakening. 

(Author's note) In 2015 I will lead a small group of committed people to a two-week retreat to Bali and one to Scotland. 

Since 2009, I have let go of most of my belongings twice more. Once in Georgia before moving to Boulder, Colorado and once again in Boulder to move to California. Now I live very simply with very little in the way of furniture. I have enough to be comfortable. I could be considered a minimalist. When people come into my home, they feel the zen-like quality and then say, it doesn't feel like I live here. Home is wherever I am. Whether I am in Boulder, Colorado, Toronto, or London, England my heart and soul are with me. I can be at home anywhere. My belongings are just things. I am grateful for what I have, but my belongings do not torture me, nor do they own me. 

Coming Into Alignment

Each of us is Divine. We all have Divinity within us. When you feel small, you think small. When you believe you are imperfect, you feel imperfect. The truth is you are already perfect. There is nothing to do, nothing to prove and certainly no one to prove it to. Recognizing your own personal Divinity is the biggest step you can take in your soul's growth. Although for many it happens after months of working with me as your spiritual pathfinder.

Why Do I Teach and Talk About Sex When I am a Spiritual Teacher?

I was guided in 2012 to teach and write about human sexuality. Millions of people are motivated by sexuality, rather than personal growth. This motivation will lead them to the core of who they are - Divine. 

Each of us is mind, body, spirit. Our sexuality is the core of who we are. You cannot separate your sexuality from you, although many try to do so. I have met thousands of women who swear off sex thinking that they are closer to God that way. To be honest, that is a pile of bullshit so thick and so deep! Denying who we are is not living fully. When we shut down sexually, our first and second chakras (energy centers) shut down. Creativity can be shut down. Our ability to get our message and work out into the world can be prevented. 

Keep thinking that way and it will take you to the grave as shrill, negative and unloving humans. Our purpose here on earth is to love. We are to give and receive love. Being celibate is not loving to you or to God. Who created your beautiful body after all? 

Life - The Universe Is Always Working FOR You

Most of us spend our lives making statements about ourselves and our lives. For example, "Life is hard!" "I'll never find someone who will love me for who I am!" "I'll never be rich!" What we fail to realize is that these statements are sent out into the Universe and boomerang as situations in our life and relationships to show us that whatever we say, we are correct. Whatever you believe to be true is true FOR YOU!

If the Universe is always and in every way working for ME, how then can I have a better, happier life?

1. First and foremost show and give love and acceptance to you (all of you). To have someone love you completely, unconditionally the way you are, you must love and accept YOURSELF the way you are - completely.
2. Be true to yourself. Be authentic and honest with you. Stop lying to yourself about how you really feel or are.
3. Take responsibility for yourself and your happiness. No one is responsible for making you happy.
4. Be kind to yourself and kindness will be shown to you.
5. Be kind to others and they will be kind to you.
6. Be positive. Think positive.
7. Ask questions, rather than make closed-ended statements. For example, " How can I effortlessly and easily find someone who will love and cherish me."
8. Spend time in gratitude for what you have.
9. Spend time in meditation and reflective silence each and every day. Relax, be comfortable and quiet. Silence is where wisdom will come to you. When your mind is filled with chaotic thoughts there is no room for wisdom to flow in. Make room by being quiet. If you don't know how to meditate use my video below. Quieting the mind is as simple as turning your eyes upward toward the ceiling, without moving your head upward. Hold your eyes in this position as long as 5 minutes before you begin. Meditate from your heart, rather than your mind.

Jennifer Elizabeth Masters became enlightened and self-actualized in 2012. She is able to assist you, come to a loving acceptance of yourself. When you are committed to yourself growth and selfdiscovery, she helps you overcome the following:

• low self-esteem
• depression
• apathy
• loneliness
• suicidal tendencies
• chaos
• lack of focus
• living in the past or future
• unhappiness
• sadness
• nervousness
• fears
• health issues
• Fibromyalgia
• Epstein Barr Syndrome
• arthritis
• sexual dysfunction

Working with Jennifer you will see your self esteem rise to great heights. Apathy dissolves along with depression and sadness. You become totally present in the moment. Jennifer has healed all of these issues above as well as breast cancer in herself. She has the tools to help you do it too. She is certified as a Hypnotherapy Trainer, Neurolinguistic Programming Practitioner, A Master Energy Healer. All of these are used in her catalystic coaching.

How does she do it?

Great question. Jennifer is a catalyst and a spiritual pathfinder. She helps you align with your true high self. She helps you come into loving acceptance of you. When you love and accept yourself, your world changes drastically. Instead of attracting relationships that don't work, you fine people and situations that support you. Life becomes a joy to experience. Loneliness dissolves. Your mind quiets and you feel serene, peaceful and your creativity soars. 

If you have struggled with life, love and relationships all your life, isn't it time you took the first step? Contact Jennifer now through her private e-mail. She has room for two committed clients now. Her book is filling up, so don't wait. Once her new radio show Straight Up Sex Talk begins, there will be less time on her calendar. She gives each of her clients her undivided attention and is fully present with you.

JenniferElizabethMasters@gmail.com

Buy Jennifer's Books Here:  Orgasm For Life

Yourself Fearlessly!

The Beauty Inside You

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Do you feel beautiful? Do you feel tremendous love for yourself and everyone in the world? If not.....  join me on a little journey inside your soul. 

Each and every one of us has a well inside us that is nothing but unconditional LOVE. Once you tap into this well, you will never feel alone, or lonely again. Love radiates out of you and people are magnetized by it. They adore you, wonder why you look so youthful, beautiful and radiant?

Most of us beat ourselves up with a baseball bat and focus on your lack, limitations and not being good enough. I used to do this also. Our past does not equal our future. What was true yesterday is not true today. It is time to step into this well of deep love, understanding and amazing wisdom.

After doing Spiritual Response Therapy training to clear people's energy back in 2007, I met a couple through my teacher who taught me a meditation called Ascension. These teachers are Ishaya monks, who have dedicated their lives to sharing Ascension. Ascension has its roots in ancient Christianity, although it crosses all boundaries of belief and is not associated with a religion. It was apparently taught by Jesus to all his disciples. It was a secret teaching, one that they took a vow of silence on, and could not teach anyone else. I have vowed not to teach this process to any of my clients as well. After Jesus' death, these Ishaya monks were kept cloistered on a Greek island to protect this teaching and sacred wisdom. It was recently re-released out into the world when the timing was right. Gomati and Vasestha Ishaya are two delightful and loving people who I am honored to say have been my teachers. Vasestha always wears white. Gomati always wore red, head to toe for years. She has recently opted for the newer updated vows to wear red in some way.

There are five spheres, each with a set of mantras that are repeated or recited silently, with eyes opened or closed. The mantras that are recited each take you deep inside to this place of peace. After doing Ascension for only 5 weeks, my mind chatter ceased. I have passed the energy of these mantras to you in my YouTube video of The Divine Presence Process Meditation. Several of my clients have witnessed life changing through this meditation. One, has found complete silence in her mind, just by doing this meditation daily.

Gomati and Vasestha drove up from Florida and stayed at my home. We waited till my daughter got home from school. She joined the workshop and did The Ascension class with me. On my first session, my daughter and I tapped into this deep well of incredible peace, on the first try. Ariel fell into a deep and peaceful sleep. We tried many times to wake her and eventually gave up. She needed this deep rest, obviously. I too went very deep into a dark place without boundaries. I had never experienced a place so vast, without limits and so incredibly peaceful. To think that place was inside me, rather than in heaven, was amazing to me. I have not been the same since. Jim Carey talks about having this amazing experience and wanting to get back there. Ascension is the way to this place.

The Ascension attitudes all have a purpose. Each one does something different to the brain. Our normal brain waves are sharp, pointy and incongruent. When we do the Ascension Attitudes, the brain waves become long, slower and congruent (or smooth). Doing the meditation above will offer you very similar results. It changes the brain patterns and makes them congruent and calms your senses. You feel a deep sense of inner peace. Over time, this meditation will cause profound changes in your thoughts patterns and nervous system.

This place inside you is infinite. It has no limits, no walls and no boundaries. It is deep, peaceful and filled with nothing but love and acceptance. Being in this space, allows deep healing to occur, sleep like you have never had before and a life-changing mind-blowing feeling of LOVE. When you feel this love, you never want to leave again. 

We all have this place. No one is omitted. Each and every one of you can go there. Often when I am doing energy clearings on my podcasts on Wednesday evening, the listeners go deep and only wake up at the very end when I am saying "Goodnight." I feel that the exchange of energy that takes place is one of healing from the depths of my soul to yours from all the meditation and Ascension attitudes I have done over the years.

If you are ready for profound change in your life, to Love Yourself Fearlessly, Jennifer is the one to guide you there. Her gentle loving spirit and sense of humor helps to challenge you, push you onward and ever upward, to a place of inner peace and self love you only dreamed of having. She will encourage you, and help you shift quickly. When you love and accept yourself, fearlessly you will find your life becomes more peaceful, rather than one of battle and war with others. Events occur with ease and grace, like magic. 

Jennifer became enlightened in 2012. She is a beacon of light, love and wisdom. Her work is for anyone of any background or belief. Jennifer has suffered with pain, depression and illness in the past. Her body is now pain free. The love that you have inside of you is capable of healing everything. You just have to tap into it. Jennifer will help you get there. Whether it is sexual dysfunction, relationship challenges, or feelings of unworthiness, Jennifer is the real deal. Her wisdom comes from personal experience, doing the work on herself, to heal her past. She uses the tools she created for her own healing to help you move through the pain, trauma and negativity of past events, into recognizing the gifts and lessons in your life and loving acceptance for you. Connect with Jennifer Here

As a catalystic life coach, Jennifer innately brings up your inner most issues. It is a gift of healing which helps you move through your healing process more easily. 

Check out her website: http://www.JenniferElizabethMasters.com
Jennifer has a weekly radio show on Wednesday nights at 5:00 PM PST and 8:00 PM EST. (605) 475-4000 PIN 939401# This week's show is about how crazy women are. Yup, we're freaking nuts! I am a woman and I speak for myself. Want to hear my take on just how crazy we are and why men can't understand us? Join me this Wednesday. "WOMEN ARE CRAZY" is the title of this week's show. This week promised to be fun, laugh filled and enlightening. The week following is entitled, "Men are Stupid!" Yup....  each sex has their day in court. Join me for fun. Life is short - live it up and laugh at yourself at the same time. 

I invite your comments and questions. E-mail me, suggestions for blogs or questions here.

If you would like more information about Gomati and Vasestha Ishaya, here are their websites:
http://ascendingtooneness.com/

Connect with the Ishaya monks here

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Have you ever attempted to give someone assistance or love and find your kindness spurned, or rejected? When we are wounded from a traumatic event, we often reject love, affection and any form of gift-receiving? Why? 

Often those who reject love are stuck in a paradigm of damage and scarcity. They don't feel love, although in their mind - everything is FINE! What is happening is that the grooves in the brain from past experience are so deep that the rejection of love and affection is reactive. No thought takes place. The brain is reacting from a past experience that is no longer present. 

The more profound the trauma, the deeper the patterning is ground into the brain. When a parent has done the traumatizing - the effects are more profound than when the perpetrator or victimizer was an uncle, priest or neighbor. Parental abuse is the worst for children to experience. Parents are the ones we trust with our lives, as children. Yet, not all parents are equipped with the emotional availability or the inner strength to stand up to be a role model, in the face of their own emotional chaos and suffering.

Often our parents were alcoholics, or addicts. They may have been incarcerated, or traumatized in combat. All of these stresses can cause the soul to fragment, shatter and splinter. When this occurs, the inner child is frozen in time. Whenever a trigger is activated in present time - the adult returns to the moment of initial traumatizing and reacts as if a child. If the trauma occurred when the child was age 5, for example, the adult acts like a 5 year-old. The deeper the trauma, the harder it is to let go of this reactionary programming. When two people are in relationship together and are both wounded, then conflict or arguments arise, it can feel as if they are impossible to resolve, without therapy. When both have their inner child show up, one or both may decide to take their proverbial ball and go home - or choose to leave the relationship. Each time a conflict arises, when one or both of the parties have been seriously traumatized, the only way that can feel right to a little child is to leave. When adults react this way, resolution is a challenge. Remember that the person you are in conflict with is not showing up, their inner child is. It is impossible to reason with a 5 year old, even if they are in a 40-year-old body.

How Can You Reset These Programs?

There are several different ways to heal from past trauma. Hypnotherapy, energy healing or Neurolinguistic Programming are all ways that a program that has been with a person for a lifetime can be cleared and removed. All of these modalities are used in my private coaching programs. Sometimes, a client needs to be desensitized gradually, if the program is very deep. It could take all three modalities, and a neurolinguistic programming anchor to achieve the feeling of having the issue resolved. The longer that the person continues to react in the same way, the deeper the groove becomes in the unconscious mind.

There is help available. When the pain and suffering becomes too great, healing can begin.

Jennifer Elizabeth Masters is an author, life and sex coach, hypnotherapist, master energy healer and neurolinguistic programming practitioner. She utilizes all of these modalities in her work with her clients. As an intuitive coach, Jennifer has the innate ability to cut to the root of her client's issues quickly. The key to Jennifer's work is self love. A foundation of self love is what allows us to accept ourselves and others unconditionally. 

Jennifer's website is: http://www.JenniferElizabethMasters.com

Emotional Availability

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

It is easier to notice emotional unavailability in others than to notice it within ourselves. When we are able to point it out in others, it is time to look within. We rarely see issues in other people unless, we too have them within us. If you don't believe me it is time to book your cruise up Denial. (Not to be confused with the River Nile.)

Recognizing that we are emotionally unavailable can be difficult. We feel broken in some way, perhaps even shut down. Which is true. Being emotionally unavailable means that we are not able to connect deeply with another. In our relationships we have superficial affection and love, rather than deep connected and authentic love. We often blame others for our circumstances and have difficulty taking responsibility for our own part in situations.

I am a master at emotional unavailability because I was one of those who pointed it out in my husband and lovers. I know how difficult it was for me to recognize that I was emotionally unavailable. I had been on my healing journey for over 20 years when it hit me. I had it too!

Alcoholics, addicts and co-dependent people are emotionally unavailable. Take your pick I used to fit in all of the categories. 

I was married to a workaholic. I dated an alcoholic. I was a shopaholic. I battled a sugar addiction. I used to be extremely codependent. Actually, my sense is that most people deal with codependency at some point in their lives. We attract others that are emotionally unavailable. Our partners provide a mirror to our own soul, issues and trigger mechanisms. As infants we are extremely codependent. If we are not given the love, affection and acceptance in our childhood, we remain codependent as adults. When trauma occurs in childhood, we are often frozen emotionally in this place and time. Our inner child never matures. We continually go back to the point of trauma when we are triggered in our relationships. 

Being codependent means that you need another to feel fulfilled. Without a person or substance to fill the void that you feel inside emotionally, you can feel empty, broken, afraid or all of the above. You could fill that hole inside with work, shopping or food. Alcohol, pot, sugar, pain-killers, relationships, or even methamphetamine could be your drug of choice. Most humans have some form of addiction at some point in their lives. Being aware of it, rather than in denial is part of the healing. Taking responsibility for our part and recognizing we have the issue is a huge part of the process.

Before I began to heal from my own addictions and codependence, I was reactive in relationships and often depressed. I looked for a man to fill the void that I felt inside me. It never lasted long, because I continued to feel unhappy with life, myself and the world. 

Often we blame our bosses, co-workers or parents for where we are. If you are blaming anyone for anything right now, you are likely emotionally unavailable and probably codependent as well. You are in good company. Most movie stars, rock stars and famous people are the most needy. Just because people look beautiful on the outside does not mean that they are confident, self assured and strong on the inside.

When we love and accept ourselves, the codependence diminishes. Eventually we recognize that it is no longer present at all. We no longer feel lonely, afraid or in need of another to fill the void, because there is no void any more. We feel whole, complete, happy alone, no matter where we are. There is no longing for something to fill us, or complete us. We are already complete. 

For me, the process of healing began with the ending of my third marriage. In the ten years between marriages I worked diligently on myself. I studied, read, learned and evolved. I saw healers, chiropractors, acupuncturists, psychics, hypnotherapists and Reiki masters. I became a hypnotherapist, energy healer and deeply connected in the process of my healing. I experienced an awakening in 2012 that changed my life forever. This awakening changed my heart and filled me to overflowing. Loneliness, longing does not exist for me any longer. Instead, I live in peace, love and joy. 

The key to healing emotional unavailability is complete self acceptance and unconditional love of the self. This is what I help my clients with. I have done it myself. There was never anyone more emotionally broken, shattered, negative or codependent than me. If I can do it, so can you!

You cannot love yourself when you hold a baseball bat in one hand to beat yourself up with and a magnifying glass in the other to magnify all your faults. We all have faults and we all have a shadow side. Loving all those parts is what unconditional love is all about. Doing this on your own could take you a lifetime like it took me. Or you could ask for my help. The choice is yours.

One of the things that helped me was The Divine Presence Process Meditation. I did it daily, sometimes two or three times a day. I had mystical experiences during this time. On one such day, I climbed into bed in Boulder, Colorado for a nap and showed up on a pool deck my son, David was cleaning in Atlanta, Georgia. We are so much more than you realize. You have the power to fill this void. I would be delighted to assist and empower you to do so. http://youtu.be/8RNHrXoWWsc

Below are some ways to begin to open up, let go of fear and allow someone in:

1. Awareness of an issue shines light where darkness has been. Once you are aware, your issues can begin to change.
2. Tell your partner you are working on some deep issues. Ask for support in your growth process.
3. Know that you are not broken. Your heart closed up to protect you. When you feel safe enough you will begin to open and let down the walls.
4. Spend time in quiet, repose. Go within and forgive yourself. Self forgiveness is the first step in letting go of walls that divide you from deep authenticity. 
5. Use the Kahuna healing prayer and talk to your inner child envision your inner child and look them in their eyes while saying: I am sorry, please forgive me, I love you thank you.
6. Envision yourself hugging your inner child. You may cry. You may feel relief. 
7. Notice ways that you run away from conflict, deep conversations, and sexual intimacy. Pay attention to times that you begin to separate from conversations that feel too deep. Remind yourself to stay connected during love-making. Make eye contact with your partner instead of closing your eyes. Disassociation is common with sexual intimacy. Stay with your partner instead of separating from your body. 
8. Relax and breathe. Being in the present moment instead of focusing on the past and future will help you stay connected to what is going on in the now.
9. Develop deep trust with your partner with soulful communication. Being conscious, aware and connected, rather than busy with your cell phone, Internet, and television. All of these devices can increase separation from self and deepen emotional unavailability. Alcohol, drugs, and work are areas which we can avoid deep intimacy. Notice where you shut down using these things. 
10. Hire a coach that has healed these issues. A coach can provide insight into your patterns that create separation and avoidance. 

Jennifer is a life, love and sex coach, author of the forthcoming book: Orgasm For Life. She has healed codependency, emotional unavailability issues, Epstein Barr syndrome, Fibromyalgia and breast cancer. You can schedule a discovery session with Jennifer to see if you are a good fit for her work. E-mail her NOW!   Her website is: http://www.JenniferElizabethMasters.com

Joy in Sex

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Want More Joy?

How about laughter with sex? Women and men want to be happy, joy-filled and have more pleasure in their lives.

How do we do this? Communication, trust and authenticity are the foundation for a happier relationship. When communication is good outside of the bedroom, it is carried over into the bedroom.

Men need sex to have intimacy. Women need to have intimacy to have sex. I asked God while filling up my gas tank recently, "Why did you create us so differently?" The response surprised me. "If both men and women did not have different libido and sexual motivation, what do you think you would be doing ALL THE TIME!" I had a vision of a couple making love with wild abandon in the bedroom with three children crying and screaming and pulling at their mother's arm hanging over the side of the bed.......  "Mommy, when are you and Daddy going to be done, because we are hungry!"

If men and women were matched in desire and sexual motivation, we would spend our days wildly, dreamily and passionately devouring our lover's. We would find anything less than love-making boring, and hum-drum. Work? What work? Dishes left in the sink, scattered on counter-tops and half eaten meals would sit on our tables,  while we focused on our desire. Our children would go hungry, dirty and unsupervised. Our world would be in total chaos. I understand where God was coming from when he created us so differently. Someone had to be the one to say, "No, I have to take the kids to karate." Or stop and feed the family instead of spending the day with our heels up in the air pleasuring one another.

We are wired differently. Not only do men think differently, but they come from a very different place when they think about sex. Women, on the other hand have many requirements to feel in the mood for sex.

Men can have sex when stressed. Men can have sex when there are dishes piled up in the sink and the laundry isn't done. Men can even have sex when the sheets are dirty. Women on the other hand, need to be relaxed, present, stress-free, feel clean, loved, adored, romanced and have clean sheets to have sex.

Sex is so much more fun when you are in the flow. Rather than being focused on the technical aspect of sex, to be in the flow. Talking about what you like, and don't like outside of the bedroom helps tremendously. Getting to know one another, first before we jump into bed together is important also. Knowing someone well can build trust and creates a connection so that sex is more enjoyable and fulfilling. A deep love and connection creates better sex, better love and deeper intimacy.

When two complete strangers have sex, it can be awkward and mechanical. Lies are often told to get the other into bed. Wouldn't you rather have sincerity between you?

If you are a man and don't understand women, or if you are a woman and don't understand why your sex life isn't better, listen to this fun-filled and informative interview with Coach Deb Bailey.

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/coachdeb/2014/04/03/jennifer-elizabeth-masters-the-self-love-guru

Jennifer Elizabeth Masters is a self love and sex coach. She helps women heal from dysfunction and sexual trauma. If you have codependent issues, look outside of yourself for love or have addiction issues, Jennifer can assist you with all of these issues. Jennifer feels that: When you love yourself and enjoy being alone with you, you will attract a partner who also loves and accepts you. Coming to a relationship already complete raises the vibration of the relationship to a higher level.

You can reach Jennifer through her website: http://www.JenniferElizabethMasters.com