What Hate Does To Us Inside

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

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10 Things Happy People Do Daily That Attract Love

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Envision yourself laying in bed, smiling at your lover wondering what new event the day holds for you. Tap into that expanded feeling of being happy, blissfully in love, and confident that your partner loves you back. 

Many women come to me looking for a relationship. The following are issues that come up consistently with women who have difficulty attracting someone to them.

• they focus on the fear of being hurt abandoned or rejected
• they think they won't be attractive to men
• they focus on what is wrong with them or what they want to be different

What I direct women to do is the following:

1. Know you are unique and special in your way. There is someone for everybody. There is someone who is looking for you right now. You are perfect the way you are. You are worthy of love. You are worthy of having someone to love you. You deserve love.Your perfect match is already out there. Be grateful for him.
2. Focus on what is wonderful about you. Notice your beautiful eyes, skin, nails, feet, legs, loving heart. Continue to focus on what is good about you every day.
3. Know your value. When you know your value, you won't allow doors to slam in your face, or people to walk over you. You won't try to be what you think someone else wants. You are confident of who you are and you are the best YOU that you can be. 
4. Don't compare yourself to others. Yes, there will always be someone with better hair, a better body, a smarter brain, more talent. Comparing yourself to someone else makes you feel small and inadequate. Is that what you want? I don't think so. So stop it!
5. Walk tall. Stand up straight be confident in who you are. 
6. Create happiness. Do things every day that bring you happiness. If it is walking out in nature - get out there as often as you can. Do what brings you joy daily!
7. Stop. Stop doing things you don't want to do with other people. Stop agreeing to be with people who bring you down or are anchors instead of sails. Stop complaining about not having someone who loves you. Stop complaining about always being alone. Thoughts create and this only confirms you will continue to be alone. 
8. Be present with you. Spend time daily in silence. Sit quietly focusing on love. Love yourself. Know that you are already loved. I love you. The Universe loves you. Nature loves you. The Divine loves you. Instead of worrying about what others think of you, sink inside of you. Spend time with yourself. Enjoy your own company. If you don't like spending time with you, how can you expect anyone else to want to?
9. Be spontaneous. Do something on the spur of the moment that brings you joy. I started dancing in the desert. Crazy as it sounds it brings me great happiness and bliss. I get exercise and joy dancing with The Divine, the plants, the sun, the moon and the stars. 
10. Love your past. Know that everything that happened thus far was to spur you onto bigger and greater things. Be grateful for what you have experienced as it has prepared you to even more amazing love and experiences. Forgiveness is a part of letting go of the pain, hurt, and suffering of past experiences.

If you are struggling with love, you might want to purchase my Aphrodite Effect program for $98.00. It includes healing your past love story, implementing a new blueprint for expanded love, becoming amazingly irresistible to the opposite sex. You will learn why your relationships have ended, how to be ALL IN, then finally how to Co-create your new love in the last hour of the program. 

There are mantras to shift your unconscious programming, a clearing in each hour audio to remove anything that you might have stuck in your energy field, like:

• hate of men programs
• love to hate to love to hate programs
• resistance to love
• fear of love
• vows to never love again
• any self-sabotage

If you have further questions, you can e-mail me here: JenniferElizabethMasters@gmail.com

How To Fall In Love With Anyone

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

It is my belief that you, or I for that matter, could fall in love with anyone. This thought-form came to me about a year ago. We choose to love. Love is a choice. It is not as many would believe, an emotion. Hate is an aspect of, rather than the opposite of love. 

Love is an action, rather than an emotion. It is possible to generate feelings of intimacy, trust and love consciously. It is easiest to fall in love with someone that we resonate with. Resonating with someone means you are on the same wave-length, or vibrating at the same speed. We are all energy, like attracts like. 

It is possible to love and hate someone at the same time. Think back to an argument with a partner, where they infuriated you, making you feel like the lid would come off the top of your brain and your blood would boil.

We choose who we want to let in and when we close our heart. Some married people choose NOT to love their partner. Why? Fear, judgment, non-acceptance, lack of trust, anger, resentment and unforgiveness stops love. Fear blocks us from receiving. Anyone who has been in an abusive relationship can attest to the fact that fear chips away at the love that was once there. Love is on a continuum from hate. It is not the opposite, but another aspect of it. It is possible to both love and hate someone at the same time. 

I had a boyfriend some years ago caustically criticize me, "Well you love everyone!" I took it as a compliment. I choose to love, in choosing to love I am also accepting and staying open to receive love. When we do our best to be non-judgmental and accept others as a version of ourselves, rather than separate, this love is easy.

We Do The Following When We Choose To Love Someone:

1. you act in a way that is in the other persons' best interest
2. take the other person's needs into consideration
3. work towards understanding the other's viewpoint
4. you treat the other person with respect
5. you are committed

How Can You Fall In Love Consciously?

Creating the environment for a deep connection can be done consciously. Falling in love means we consciously open up and allow someone to see the truth of who we are and get uncomfortably close. When we are completely vulnerable, we drop our walls or protective devices. 

Dr. Arthur Aaron conducted a study twenty years ago, which concluded that connection and closeness are conscious. The couples entered through different doors and spent 45-minutes asking each other 36 questions that gradually increase in intensity. The findings were that these issues helped build a relationship, through consciously choosing to be vulnerable. Two of the respondents got married six months later. The entire lab attended their wedding.

Mandy Len Catron read about Dr. Aaron's study and decided to try it out with an acquaintance from University. She wrote about her experience in a New York Times, modern love essay. She ended up falling in love with her acquaintance.

Professor of Psychology, Art Markman University of Texas, at Austin says, there are probably several things going on at once. If there is physical attraction, he said it is possible to generate a connection with just about anyone. The essential elements for respondents is to have three things in common and a close relationship with their mothers.

Spend 45-minutes together and ask each other the following 36 questions, which gradually become more personal and increase in intensity. Immediately after the questioning period spend 4 minutes gazing into each other's eyes - allowing the other to "see you," which is what Arthur Aaron believes is what it takes to fall in love.

1. Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?

2. Would you like to be famous? In what way?

3. Before making a phone call, do you ever rehearse what you’re going to say? Why?

4. What would constitute a perfect day for you?

5. When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?

6. If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you choose?

7. Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?

8. Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.

9. For what in your life do you feel most grateful?

10. If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?

11. Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.

12. If you could wake up tomorrow having gained one quality or ability, what would it be?

13. If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else, what would you want to know?

14. Is there something that you’ve dreamt of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?

15. What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?

16. What do you value most in a friendship?

17. What is your most treasured memory?

18. What is your most terrible memory?

19. If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?

20. What does friendship mean to you?

21. What roles do love and affection play in your life?

22. Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items.

23. How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people’s?

24. How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?

25. Make three true “we” statements each. For instance, “we are both in this room feeling…”

26. Complete this sentence “I wish I had someone with whom I could share…”

27. If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for him or her to know.

28. Tell your partner what you like about them: Be honest this time, saying things that you might not say to someone you’ve just met.

29. Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.

30. When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?

31. Tell your partner something that you like about them already.

32. What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?

33. If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven’t you told them yet?

34. Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?

35. Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Why?

36. Share a personal problem and ask your partner’s advice on how he or she might handle it. Also, ask your partner to reflect back to you how you seem to be feeling about the problem you have chosen.

I Fucking Hate You!

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

If you have been betrayed, abandoned, lied to or cheated on, this is for you. Reading this will help you heal the past and let go of the blocked emotions that you have not allowed yourself to feel fully. At first, it might feel harsh. I assure you, this will help you dig deep, let go and even cry. You will move through the process of letting go of the sadness, repressed anger and stuck emotions if you read this several times. 

You may find the words are harsh in the beginning moving into forgiveness and acceptance. I will bring you back to a grounded place of love in the end. Letting go of rage, anger and sadness allows you room to heal, let go of the past and move forward. Until all these emotions are released you only THINK you are ready to move on. when you have not healed completely. Sometimes seeing  a photo of your ex on FaceBook triggers an emotional response you didn't expect. These emotions that hit you from out of no where are just showing you that you have more work to do. Be compassionate with yourself and your ex. It will help you to heal you.

I fucking hate that you made me fall in love with you.

I fucking hate that I opened my heart completely to you.

I fucking hate that I trusted you.

I fucking hate that I fell so completely in love with you.

I fucking hate that I let myself go and I fell in completely.

I fucking hate that you lied to me.

I fucking hate that you cheated on me.

I fucking hate that my beautiful heart lay broken and stomped on.

I fucking hate that I let myself fall apart.

I fucking hate that my life has not been the same since you left.

I fucking hate that I feel so broken and lost without you.

I fucking hate that I feel like I will never be the same. 

I know I won't.

I fucking hate that I've been in a mess for so long.

I fucking hate that I hated myself for all the things I said to you.

I fucking hate myself for all the things I didn't.

I fucking hate that I loved making love to you and I let myself go.

I fucking hate that I was totally and completely in love with you.

I fucking hate myself because I can't blame you entirely.

I hate myself because I know I played my part.

I hate myself because I didn't hold you the way I wanted to.

I hate myself because I didn't tell you how much I loved you.

I hate myself that I didn't let you know how completely I loved you.

I hate that I couldn't fix that broken part of you.

I hate that I couldn't love you enough for you to be happy.

I hate that I love and hate you at the same time. 

I hate that I never see your smiling face - ever.

I miss the smell of you next to me.

I miss the feel of your skin.

I miss your body.

I miss your soul.

I miss my life with you.

I wish we didn't hurt so bad.

I wish this pain would go away.

I want to live my life again.

I know this pain will go away.

When I can catch my breath, I will breathe you out.

I know I will be able to wake up tomorrow and go about my day.

I know I can drive my car without seeing you.

I know I can work all day without crying.

I know that I can go a whole week now without crying.

I know soon I will be able to go a whole month without crying.

I know that I will continue to miss parts of you.

But I won't miss the pain.

I won't miss the lies

I won't miss the cheating.

I wont' miss the fact that I wasn't enough for you.

I won't miss the fact that you aren't happy with you.

I won't miss the way that you treated me.

I know that a part of you feels broken.

But I am not broken because you don't want to be with just me.

I know that I deserve more.

I know that I will one day have more.

Right now I feel sad. But....

I am happy with me.

I know I will be okay.

I know that there will be another day and another love for me.

I am not ready yet.

I will take my time.

I will heal my heart.

I will spend the time on me. 

I will make sure next time that I watch for the signs.

I know that I don't have to settle.

I deserve to be loved, accepted and adored.

If someone doesn't accept me, I will move on.

There will be someone who will be there when I turn the corner.

When I shine love out of my heart again for me, they will be there.

Now I see the little broken person that was hurting, I didn't see it before.

You were hurting, trying to fill a void - that I couldn't.

I actually feel compassion for you.

I couldn't before.

I let out my anger.

It was a seething ocean of rage.

It was outrage at your cheating.

It was outrage at your disrespect of my heart.

The anger is gone now.

I don't fucking hate you anymore. But I did. 

I really did.

Now I can feel love for you again. 

A part of me will always love you.

I had  so much hate for you before.

I am so glad its gone now.

It hardened my heart to everyone.

I had no compassion for anyone or anything.

I didn't like myself like that.

I was hard.

I was closed.

I was in so much pain.

I shut myself down because of my pain.

I couldn't let anyone in.

I am letting you go.

I don't need you or the pain any more.

Thank you for showing me where I never want to go again.

Thank you for teaching me I deserve more.

Thank you for teaching me what I needed.

Thank you for showing me that I don't need to settle.

Thank you for showing me that I deserve kindness.

Thank you for showing me that I deserve respect.

Thank you for showing me that I deserve honesty.

Thank you for showing me that I deserve authenticity.

Thank you for showing me that I deserve someone with an open heart.

Thank you for showing me that my heart was not completely open.

Now it is.

I am no longer afraid.

I am no longer shut down.

I am open.

If this post moved you to tears, I am grateful. If this post allowed you to let go of some of your stuck emotions, I am grateful. This is a rare post for me. I don't usually use the F-bomb. However, when you are hurt, angry and even in rage - the only way to release it is to get deep down into it. This is for those of you (and myself too) to allow us to move that energy and get it out. Betrayal makes us feel angry. Most of us only feel hurt because anger isn't safe to express. 

Most of us have been taught that it is not okay to express anger. The only emotions that are okay to express are happiness or joy. Sometimes our heart hurts and we are filled with rage.

Anger and sadness need to be expressed. If this writing helped you to let out your anger, then I am grateful. If this post offended you, don't read it again. This writing was guided and I trust my guidance. People in pain need to let it out. Emotions need to move not be stuffed. Emotions stuffed cause pain and suffering. If you have arthritis, pain in your joints, neck or back, you have blocked emotions. You don't have to be in physical pain.

Meditation does not release the energy of emotions. Emoting releases emotions. Without releasing emotions you are barely breathing. Most people breathe shallowly, rather than deeply. When you breathe deeply you are affirming life. I choose to affirm life and move emotions. This way I live pain free. You can too.

Blocked anger can cause depression, heart attacks and strokes. Often people that don't express their anger in small amounts rage and can hurt others when they do. Blocked resentment causes cancer.

Blocked and unexpressed sadness causes depression. No wonder so many people are on anti-depressants. I used to be depressed and had Fibromyalgia. I don't have any pain at all and I am getting on up there in age.

I am now offering VIP sessions for courageous committed clients. These VIP sessions are powerful Shamanic sessions with movement, breathing and release work. We do this in a sacred and protected area in the Mojave desert. If you would rather bring a friend and do the work together, that works too. For those who want a completely private session I support you totally and completely through the process. 

If you would rather process in group, that can be arranged as well. We release stuck emotions and pain through a Shamanic process. This is sacred work. You will feel lighter, freer and positive at the end of the process. I can't guarantee you won't vomit, or cry. But you will feel better. This is courageous work. I will be there every moment to support you through the process with healing breath work. This is powerful and life changing. If you are ready to be free of your pain and suffering, e-mail me and we will set up a 30 minute phone or Skype session to talk about what you want to accomplish. Either a VIP day (5 hours) in the desert or a coaching program. E-mail Jennifer NOW!

Jennifer is a healed healer. She has healed breast cancer, Fibromyalgia, Epstein Barr syndrome, codependency, addictions, chronic depression, fear, arthritis, and slowed down the aging process as a result. She uses hypnotherapy, NLP, Spiritual

Response Therapy and her Spirit guides and The Ascended Masters. She is an Intuitive, catalystic healer and amazingly courageous woman. She is the author of Orgasm For Life the book to bridge the growing chasm between men and women. This book will ignite the fires of passion, give you new skills and ideas to get back the passion lost in long-term marriages. When sex goes out the window, emotions run high. Jennifer works with those committed to heal and live a happier, better life with deeper connected, intimate relationships. Her website is: http://www.JenniferElizabethMasters.com

The Flip Side of Betrayal

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

We love to be in our misery, complaining about what our ex did to us. Some of us never get over our broken hearts. But how much of what we think happened really did? What if there was another side to this story of woe, pain and sorrow? What if something WE DID precipitated our partner's cheating? In this article I will answer your questions about what happens energetically and why healing a broken heart is so important.

How long does it take to get over betrayal, or do we ever?

How can we grieve, let go and heal from the heartache of being cheated on?

Today, we can marry, divorce and think we will never see our ex again, then WHAMO! FaceBook cynically delivers a photo of our ex, clad in a suit with his new bride right to our home, front and center on our screen. We can't ignore something that is put in our face, or can we?

Ignoring The Past

We can't ignore the past, but we can heal it, forgive and release the pain that it cause. The issue is that most of us, would rather stuff than release. Stuffing causes our hearts to shut down and stops us from loving fully and completely in the present.

Grieving 

Everyone is different. Some people grieve till the day they die. Some people grieve until they meet another warm body in a bar and have sex in their car. Some people grieve, think they are done and then wonder why they feel so cold and disconnected towards others. Some people think they don't need to grieve and instead have a grudge F***K. Yes, we know who you are. This is not grieving, this is trying to get even.

Bitching And Complaining About Your EX On A Date?

I have heard of women (and some men) already dating and complaining to their dates about how horrible their ex was. They might even recount all the legal battles and support payments they are required to pay. They may complain about what they are NOT getting. All these are signs that you are not ready for a new relationship. Your date is not interested in hearing about your tales of woe and suffering that your ex caused you. Hire a coach. Move through your pain and sadness in a healthy way. Then and only then, begin to date. 

Getting in a relationship too soon can lead to more heartache down the road. Eventually, the grief will surface when you least expect it and you could be crying during sex, or emoting while purchasing your next wedding dress or tuxedo. If grief and resentment is not released, it may cause you gallstones, kidney stones, a heart attack or cancer.

Grieving involves tears, releasing anger, (in positive ways) it involves forgiveness of ourselves and the other person. If you can't forgive your past partner, you should not be dating. All your frustration, hatred, anger and resentment will come out, when you least expect it; and be leveled at your new love. Is that what you want?

Lacking Compassion?

When our hearts are completely open, we feel compassion towards others. When they are closed, we feel cold, like a steel door is protecting our hearts. We might not see it ourselves, till a loved one asks us a question. "What is that about? Why aren't you kinder to (your girlfriend, spouse, puppy, kitten, neighbor, friend, lover, child - fill in the blank)?"

We can't feel boundless love when our heart is in knots

You may think you are ready for another relationship. You may want to bury your sadness in the breasts of a beautiful woman, or the strong chest of a gorgeous hunk of a man. However, if you have not forgiven your past partner and yourself, you are not nearly ready.

Keeping Love At Bay

You will not be able to feel the depths of real love. You may be IN LIKE, but you will never be in LOVE. 

Married But Not In Love

Often we get married because we think it's time. We may have been dating for five or more years, it seems the logical next step. Length of time in a relationship is not a determining factor of when you need to be married or committed. Sometimes we get married because of some social construct. I know of many people who thought they should marry, but were not in love with the person they married. Eventually, one or both of you will wake up feeling disillusioned and or cheated.

Emotionally Unavailable People

People who are emotionally unavailable are this way for a reason. They have been cheated on, traumatized in some way, or abused. Their hearts are protected, not open. It is as if a steel garage door is blocking their heart, with a second layer of bricks, mortar and concrete covering it. These people may never open their hearts. It is possible, but it takes courage to tap into the pain that shut their hearts in the first place. Once a core piece has been bored out through release work, this begins to grow into a larger and larger area that is open. With courage this block can be completely eradicated. You have to have the courage to step into the pain, rather than run away from it.

Seeing The Energetic Block

It is much easier to see this block in another person, than to witness it in ourselves. If you are attracting people who are emotionally unavailable, it is because your heart is blocked and shut down. When our hearts are shut, we will not be able to feel the pain and suffering of others. We will feel disconnected from it. We might get a hint of it, but brush it off and move away from other's pain.

Compounding Blocks of Grief

Some of us have had more than one relationship. If we have a history of stuffing our emotions, we have stuffed the emotions of each relationship into the cells of our body and hearts. These blocks of grief create a stuck mess of emotions that can't move. Many people can't cry. There is a reason for this. They are so blocked with past hurts that have not been dealt with, that their hearts are nailed, concreted and locked up tighter than a safe in Chase bank! To think that you can be in a healthy relationship with a heart that is locked tight is like thinking that you could be a virgin again! You are basically faking it.

How I Help Clients Heal Their Blocks

There are several ways I help people heal from the pain of betrayal. The first is to acknowledge that there are two sides to every story. We had a part in the betrayal as well. None of us are victims. We have to take responsibility for our part in the cheating. This can be difficult if you feel you were completely blameless, and had nothing to do with the other person's choosing to cheat. 

If you talk to both parties, you will find that there was an underlying cause. A woman emasculating the man with control, manipulation or chiding words. It could be a man ridiculing, using sarcasm, put downs or being downright cold and abusive. There are many reasons people cheat. Remember you were not alone in this relationship. Just as you had your story or woe, so did the other person. Compassion for the other person helps you see the other side.

Ask Questions

Have a conversation with yourself. Put yourself back in the place of the relationship. What was going on? Were you manipulating? Were you controlling. Did you make your partner feel small? Did you hurt them with your words? Did you avoid sex with them? Did you avoid intimacy? Did you make excuses for not getting close to them? Were you afraid? What were you afraid of? Taking responsibility for your part helps to begin to break down the barriers you have created in your heart. 

Forgive 

I usually recommend that you forgive yourself first. However, when we tap into the pain we caused another, this may help us to cry, feel empathy for the other person and recognize that we weren't blameless. We may not have cheated, but we did SOMETHING that made them feel less than whole. 

Forgive with the Ho'oponopono Prayer

Spend 20 minutes or so repeating the prayer and telling yourself and your inner child what you forgive yourself for. Forgive yourself for putting your inner child in harm's way. Forgive yourself for your choices. Once you begin things will begin to flow. Words will spill out of your mouth as the tears come. I like to walk and move while I do the prayer. This allows me to move the emotions more easily. 

I'm Sorry

Please forgive me

I love you

Thank you

Forgive them for turning away from you.

Forgive them for shutting down their heart to you.

Forgive them for not being THE ONE.

Forgive them for not being faithful.

Forgive them for hurting you.

Forgive them for not cherishing you.

Forgive yourself for not being what they wanted you to be.

Forgive yourself for pushing them into some situation they didn't want.

Forgive yourself for causing them financial pain.

Forgive yourself for thinking you made a mistake.

Forgive yourself for causing yourself heartbreak.

Forgive yourself for hurting the other in some way.

Allow Yourself to FEEL

Blocked emotions can cause pneumonia, heart attack, cancer and other illnesses. Allow yourself to cry. If you can't cry, scream.

Mountain Top

In Colorado, I take clients up to the top of a mountain at daybreak or sunset and do cathartic screaming. This uncorks the emotion that is hidden under the anger. 

Desert Stillness

In California, I take clients out into the stillness and privacy of the desert. 

Cathartic screaming uncorks the emotions stuffed under the pain. It is far easier to feel anger than pain. Anger masks what is under- neath. We can feel resentment easily. We can be pissed off - easily. We can feel disrespected and then anger readily because we are afraid of the pain. The pain is what keeps us stuck. We sit on the threshold of clarity, and an open heart because we just don't want to feel the anguish again. We have to transmute these feelings into compassion and forgiveness then release. 

Each of us is treading water in life. Every event that takes place helps us to understand ourselves better. These events are not meant to destroy us. They are happening to show us who we are. When we can get beyond the pain and suffering we move into radiating the deep LOVE that is at the core of our being.

Love is Always The Answer

Forgiveness is key. Holding resentment and anger towards the other is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. Forgiveness happens without an apology. It happens without condoning the other person's actions. It happens with compassion for ourselves. 

Loving yourself enough to let go of your pain will expand you. Loving yourself enough to move through your suffering to the other side of emotional freedom will change your life. Without letting go, you cannot expect to ever love fully or trust another again. 

Jennifer works privately in person or on the phone or Skype. Her work is powerful and cathartic. Ready to move beyond suffering and pain? E-mail her at JenniferEliabethMasters@gmail.com

Her latest book, Orgasm for Life is a brilliant foray into the minds and bodies of men and women. With wisdom and passion, Jennifer shares her own personal experience from her bedroom with her readers. She interviewed hundreds of men and women gay, straight, single and married. This is a book that is a life-changer! http://www.amazon.com/Orgasm-Life-Jennifer-Elizabeth-Masters/dp/0692227172