How I Healed A Deep Issue With Scary Angry Men

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

I've had an issue since I was a child. Just one? Actually, after years of working on myself, this issue remained because it was so scary for me. I have been afraid of angry men. My father didn't look quite like Hugh Jackman, but he was pretty scary when he was angry, and he was angry often. Even though my father died twenty-seven years ago, the issue continued to plague me till now.

When an issue keeps repeating in our lives, the universe is presenting it to us to heal and shift it. There is no malice when we don't get the lesson from The Divine or the universe. Even if the person we had the original issue with has left the planet, we can be assured of repeating the lesson until we finally get it. Following is my story of what showed up for me in an unexpected way. Maybe you will see your patterns in my story.

Though both my parents had anger and rage issues, the issue with my father was more profound. My father was a big, strong, angry man. When he was angry, he was loud. His energy got very large, and I was terrified of his rage and loud voice. When I did something he thought was wrong, he would whip his belt off and beat me with it. 

If a wooden spoon or hairbrush were closer, he would use those too. The fear for me was very deep and visceral. Sounds even today like hearing a man pull his belt out of his pants bring up the fight, fright and freeze mechanism that is innate in all humans.

He had an addictive personality and smoked for seventeen years. I never saw him falling down drunk, but he certainly liked to drink. He made his own wine and beer in our cellar. Later in his life, he quit because he knew it was affecting his health with gout and joint pain. 

Repeating Pattern

Throughout my life, I attracted men who were angry. Let's just say the universe gave me ample opportunities to heal this pattern of being afraid of big, angry, scary, yelling men. They may have had differences along the way, but the common thread was anger, intimidation, and disrespect for women. My father refused to allow me to go to college because I was a girl and would just get married and have babies. He felt it was a waste of his money to educate me. There were layers upon layers stuffed deep within my psyche.

Mojave Desert

I attracted men in different shapes and personalities. My father was a self-made handyman and Jack of All Trades. He built houses, cottages, boats and was often fixing things. All the men I attracted had terrible tempers and were scary (at least to me) when they were angry. Rather than standing up to them, I shut down and backed away.

Connecting The Dots

When I moved to California, I had no idea at the time what our little house in the desert would mean to me as far as a healing opportunity. I knew that the desert is for purging. It is a place to turn your life over to God. There are emptiness and monasticism in the desert. I certainly lived like a monk for many years while here. My life became very simple. 

Rejecting Luxury

Alpharetta, Georgia home Rich built, 2001

I had everything material I ever dreamed of in the past from living on a private estate in England to a 4,000 square foot home in Alpharetta, Georgia. I knew the material didn't make me happy. In fact, I rejected luxury after recovering from a spending addiction in a heartless marriage that turned me off anything posh or luxurious. In fact, I gave away my best clothing and furniture. I rejected luxurious comfort due to the guilt I had for having excess and feeling it didn't make my heart sing.

Every time, I went onto the Internet to look for a house in California for my daughter and me this particular house showed up. On the outside, the house looked like little more than a shack, the interior, however, was totally re-done complete with granite countertops, a nickel gooseneck kitchen faucet, ceramic tiled floor, shower and brand new everything. It was perfect for our dogs, and thirteen miles to the closest bank and my daughter's Charter school. Was it pretty? It depends on what you look at. I found a way to make it work. I found a way to enjoy the desert. The bottom line was I could AFFORD IT!

My landlord considered himself a Jack-of-all-trades. He was a plumber but did all the restoration on this little rental house himself.

Upon our move in on November 1st, 2012, I had challenges with our landlord, I'll call him Jose. We were without heat and hot water for two weeks until the gas company could hook us up. Though he helped me out by not imposing a pet deposit, he made grandiose promises on which he didn't deliver. He promised to show up to do repairs on a specific date and wouldn't call when he couldn't make it. Over 50% of the time that he said he would be at my house he never showed. His behavior was so evident that my neighbors remarked at how surprised when he did show up, that was how often commitments were made and broken.

His promise to change out the single paned windows took him two full years to install. His promise to build an arbor over the driveway and wall around the property never materialized. When we discovered a broken window under the closed blinds, my landlord said we broke it then called me a liar screaming at me on my front porch. His intimidation tactics were very scary, I stood firm and refused to pay for a broken window that was broken upon move in. I told him I didn't appreciate being called a liar. I don't lie.

From the first time, it rained till today when there was more than 1/4 inch of rain the bathroom ceiling leaked at the newly located ceiling fan above the commode. Each time the roof leaked, I would contact Jose and tell him. He never fixed the issue. He also didn't listen to me when I told him what I thought the problem was caused by. Even replacing the roof after my ceiling caved in didn't fix the problem.

After the second Christmas in the house, my landlord, informed me the reason he hadn't been responding to my phone calls was that he had been in jail for a DUI. He loved his cerveza, but tequila was his true love. He told me he typically drank a quart and a half a night. I didn't know how he was able to keep the pace of a full-time job and the maintenance of 9 rental properties. Something had to give.

Pieces of The Puzzle

The pieces were beginning to fall into place. My landlord at the farmhouse in Georgia was also an alcoholic who refused to make repairs. (I ended up losing everything in Georgia to black mold after the oak trees landed on the roof.) I was beginning to have Deja Vu. 

Each time it rained, water dripped water onto our heads when we sat down to pee. It could be said, that we were taking a leak in the literal sense. 

Fortunately, we were in a drought the first two years which meant it rarely rained. However, that changed in 2016 when California experience flooding. In 2016 alone, I reported seven incidents of roof leaks where several inches of water filled an awaiting bucket on the bathroom floor. On one occasion water spilled from the ceiling and poured down my interior wall onto the carpet. Needless to say, I reported this to my landlord in February 2017, and never received a response.

Roots grew into the pipes causing raw sewage to back up into the bathtub on three occasions. At this point, you might wonder why I stayed? My logical mind said, "Where else could I get such a deal on rent?" It felt as if the $800 a month rent was worth the inconvenience until it wasn't any longer. 

About a year ago, I received Guidance that I would leave this house as I did in Georgia - with only my clothes and a few precious items. I thought, "Well that is interesting." I didn't question any further, though I could have asked, "Why?" Those questions are rarely answered as we are on a need to know basis. The Universe doesn't feel we need to know they whys and wherefores.

Every time I turned around there was another problem. If it wasn't the pipes being clogged with tree roots and raw sewage backing up through the shower drain into the bathtub, it was a pipe falling off under the sink, gophers tearing up my front lawn or the bathroom roof leaking. 

There was an issue during the heat of the summer last year when my swamp cooler wasn't cooling. With summer temperatures in the high 100's for weeks on end, the air that did come in through the vents was stagnant and smelling of mold. A swamp cooler uses water to cool the air inside the house. The interior temperature with the swamp cooler running constantly sustained 84 degrees or higher. 

How The Swamp Cooler Works

Swamp coolers when running efficiently cost significantly less to run than an air conditioner. Water fed through a pump sprays the large pads about 16"x 16" square, keeping the pads wet. The fan blows through the dampened pads which feed cooled air through the vents into the house. The pads need to be changed yearly because of the mineral build up from the water and the high desert heat that dry rot even rubber. 

The pads on my swamp cooler hadn't been changed in over four years. Jose refused to change them. He even bought the pads and had them at the house to do so. In the end, he changed his mind and said they didn't need to be changed. Instead, he changed out the water pump, which cost triple what the pads cost and that my neighbor said worked fine. Jose didn't like me making suggestions. I was a woman. He didn't respect the opinion of women. I urged him to put the new pads on even offering to pay the $12.00 to do so. He refused.

I told him that my neighbor had taken a look at the swamp cooler for me, he had been a maintenance man for an apartment complex and knew what he was talking about. The fact that I had someone else up on "his roof" made him angry. My neighbor had assured me that the pads needed to be changed and were the reason my house wasn't cooling. The air couldn't possibly pass through the mineral encrusted pads.

Jose said the pads were good. When I got nowhere with Jose directly, I went to Jose's wife who I had become friendly with and worked as the Manager of the Estee Lauder counter at the mall. My logical mind told me it was a good idea to talk to her. It wasn't.

I attempted to enlist her support to get Jose to change out the pads but received the opposite. My logic was false, clearly, I was attempting to avoid a confrontation due to my fear of him. My effort to gain a compadre caused an explosion. Jose didn't respect women. He called me in a fit of rage to say his name was on the lease, not his wife's I wasn't to talk to her about issues with "his" house. He yelled at me for twenty minutes, threatening me. He told me "If you don't like it leave!" 

He said he didn't need to fix anything he didn't want to. My fear of Jose caused me to create a situation that was safe for me. I'll go to the person I feel safe with, his wife. (Our logical mind tells us stories that don't usually make sense but we believe them anyway.)

His rage took me back to my fear of my father and other men who raged and drank. I was frozen. I wanted to escape, but the Universe would support me and hold my feet to the fire. I needed to move through this issue, rather than avoid it.


I had a neighbor change the pads that were calcified with hard mineral deposits and loaded with black mold and paid him $50.00 to do the work. I could have avoided the situation with Jose and his wife by doing this first. 


I was so intimidated after Jose's tirade that when I had a plumbing issue, I paid my neighbor to fix the problem and the swamp cooler, rather than calling my landlord. With the new pads on the swamp cooler, my house was cool, comfortable and my electric bills were cut in half. The swamp cooler didn't have to labor so hard to do its job. 

Shortly after my neighbor mentioned that he had adjusted the float on the swamp cooler; Jose didn't have it operating the way it should. I noticed water pouring off the back of the roof. I turned off the water to the swamp cooler and reported the problem to Jose. He didn't respond.  Two weeks later the ceiling in my back bedroom came crashing down onto the floor, sopping wet drywall, insulation, and smelling of mold. I had no choice but to call my resistant landlord, Jose. 

Jose showed up the following day to survey the damage. Had he responded when I told him about the leak originally, the roof damage might have been avoided. There was certainly a pattern of avoidance; mine and Jose's. That day he declared he would give me a brand new roof he also promised to paint the entire house and let me choose the color. He promised to be at my house on Friday. He didn't show up and didn't call. Instead, they began a day later as one of the crew was too hungover to work the previous day. 

The crew of five, spent an entire day on my roof in September removing the shingles. Jose offered liquid encouragement for his boys. They drank three cases of beer perched on the roof, tossing the beer cans onto the ground. 


My Repeating Patterns

• I had a penchant for quirky old houses that need  constant repair
• I attracted alcoholics - a father, boyfriend, husband, and now two landlords that were Jack-of-all-trades.
• I was accustomed to walking on eggshells with angry people.
• The water issues, leaks and backed up drains were a symbol of emotions that needed to be resolved about the past.
• I had a terrible fear of men like my father who yelled to intimidate women.
• Houses with constant water issues drain away money. My money was going down the drain.
• I felt I couldn't do any better. I was in fear of not being able to afford what was available on the market. (Sound familiar?)
• My daughter kept reinforcing my belief, telling me I needed to stay. "How will you ever find anyone who will accept you with all your animals, Mom?"

What I Had To Do

It takes 21 days of consistency to change patterns. Not only do we need to clear the energetic pattern, but we have to respond differently as well. I had to change my behavior and had to be consistent with mantras and thoughts to have lasting change. I had to reprogram my mind. My old way of dealing with men who yelled and intimidated me was to be intimidated and avoid conflict. I was afraid of yelling men. Instead, I needed to stand up to my landlord in a way that would get his attention. I had a choice, as we always do.

I Considered My Options

1. I could humble myself and go the legal route sending my landlord a certified letter that he could refuse or become enraged over, then take the certified receipt to the Housing Department and then they would look over my notes and decide what needed to be done.
2. I could hit him in the pocketbook to get his attention.
3. I could do nothing and stay in a place that was unsafe, unhealthy where my money was draining away.

I looked at all my options and chose door number 2. I knew hitting Jose in the pocketbook was the fastest way to get him to complete the unfinished work on the third bedroom. His wife called me and asked me when I would pay my rent three days after the due date in March. I told her I had paid it. She began asking further questions. I felt confident and strong. I asked her to have her husband call me, as he requested that I not talk to her about issues relating to "his" rental property.

Though Jose called me immediately, he was in Mexico tending to his ranch. When I explained I had deducted $500 for the five months I was without my third bedroom, he was dumbfounded. Since the house was 800 square feet and my rent was the same, I paid $300, devaluing my rent $100 for each month that the third bedroom was unusable. The third bedroom was 100 square feet. It made sense to me. 

To Jose however, he couldn't put a full sentence together. I had shifted the dynamic. I was no longer the complacent agreeable meek woman. I was finally growing a pair. He promised to see me the following Monday to do the repairs. He made good on his promise and did an incredible drywall plastering job. We chatted while he did the work. He tried to be angry with me, but I was friendly and affable. He never asked me for the $500. 

Amethyst Geode

The huge amethyst geode he had broken moving sheets of drywall was still in question. I couldn't prove he broke it, as I didn't see it happen. The fact that the bedroom door had been closed for five months and the geode had been in the back corner of my house for four-and-a-half years without ever falling over, didn't matter apparently. He would not pay me the $800 it cost to replace it.

I have no ill feelings toward Jose. He is doing the best he can to make a living to provide for his family and retire. He works very hard and plays equally hard. I also am very aware that Jose is a great gift to me. He is part of my life plan to transform, evolve and grow. He showed up to show me my pattern. I have tremendous compassion and gratitude for him and his family. I finally stood up to an angry yelling man with big energy without running away. YAY! YAY for me! I grew some cojones! I did it without having to yell, swear or get angry.

Manifesting A Beautiful, Safe Home

Placerita Canyon

For over a year, I had been asking the Universe, "How can I find a small home, perfect for me in a place I love, that will accept me with six animals that would be safe and affordable?" 

Alpharetta, Georgia 

On my way to a Oneness meditation with my friend Shannon, I asked the Universe after a particularly challenging day with Jose, "Who do I need to talk to about a place to rent?" I had a vision of Shannon's face. I asked her that night before we began to meditate. "I need to move, do you have any ideas or suggestions?" Shannon responded with a huge smile, "You can move into my guest house!" Shannon had been renting her apartment out on Air B&B and wanted someone in her place that was steady, rather than having to be responsible for the upkeep and cleaning of it herself. It was clearly a win-win for us both. 

I made sure that Shannon was okay with all my pets. She said she was. When I went by to sign the deposit form, I brought my dogs with me. They didn't want to leave. Karma was so happy to be around horses and wide open spaces with a green lawn and not just sand. My dogs confirmed for me that all was well with this situation. I paid a $500 pet deposit to her to hold the place. 

The Universe loves win-win situations!

To be honest, I love the approach to my friend's home. Every time I drove to her Oneness Blessing event I would revel in the natural beauty, trees, and houses. Shannon and her husband have a five-acre ranch with five horses, goats, and a miniature horse. She is a meditator, Oneness Blessing Trainer and on the same page spiritually as me. She is also a healer.

Her home is as beautiful as she is inside and out. Moving to her ranch would mean I would be 53 miles closer to Los Angeles which is of great benefit. The town of Santa Clarita is right around the corner from her; only ten minutes away. 

I wouldn't have to drive two hours to get to LA to do workshops and presentations. The homes surrounding her place were all beautiful and upscale. The only issue? The rent is double what I pay in the desert. I have to come up with $3,000 by May 1st for my first and last month's rent.

• My logical mind says I can't afford it.
• My heart says I'll be more prosperous living around prosperous people
• My dogs say, "WE LOVE THIS PLACE!"
• My guidance over a year ago was that I would leave this little house in the desert with only a few items. 
• Shannon's place is furnished!
• Again, I am being given the opportunity to shed unwanted belongings and begin anew in a much simpler way.

How To Overcome The Sticker Shock?

Maybe, just maybe I need to be closer to the people who can use and afford my services. Living in Santa Clarita puts me in front of a huge number of people who are interested in coaching and spiritual evolution. My dogs are in doggie heaven on her ranch. Karma is as happy there as she is at the beach. In fact, last night when I put both dogs in the car after touring her property, Karma didn't want to leave. She was stonily silent the entire ride home. She was letting me know she has already made the move to our new location!

The Ass-Kicker!

After making the decision to move to my friend's ranch in May (as soon as the Mercury Retrograde ends May 3rd), I walked to the post office and returned a short while later. I had left the house closed up. Without ventilation, I smelled urine. Sure it could be said, I have plenty of reason to smell urine, I have four cats! My intuition told me it was black mold. I immediately got on my computer and googled, "What does black mold smell like?" You guessed it, URINE! Mold that takes hold in the desert is tenacious as it has had to adapt to drier conditions.

All the rain the past six months that had pooled inside my ceiling and even poured down the interior walls of my little home had caused the drywall to become soggy and wet. Given that the attic and interior of the ceiling didn't see the light of day, the combination of the leaking roof has caused black mold to grow in the drywall and attic. I reported a leak to my landlord seven times since September of 2016.

The Universe Is Always And In Every Way Supporting Us

The Universe is making sure that I heed my intuition and move even though the rent is double. Connecting the dots, I had an alcoholic landlord who didn't want to fix things in Georgia. I ended up moving and losing everything I owned due to black mold. Again, in California, I have an alcoholic landlord, where I stood up to and changed my pattern allowing healing to occur. I am not afraid of Jose any longer. The drywall is just double insurance that I won't back down and will boldly move to a place that is double the rent with the faith that I will be supported as I always am. 

Why I didn't Report My Landlord

I checked with the Department of Health and the Code Compliance Department in my local government. I was told that the only thing they would make a landlord do once black mold is detected is to paint over the mold. Anyone who has had black mold knows that paint doesn't cure or kill mold. It was pointless for me to take any action that would be so useless. The Law of Karma will take care of this man. I don't have to make him pay The Universe will. It is the Universal Law.  

Truth

As long as we are in a human body we will be working on our issues. When we don't heal and clear issues we become stagnant and unhealthy. Physical ailments will surface until we eliminate the root cause which is always emotional in nature. When we declare we want total enlightenment and evolution, situations will continue to arise so that we can release the past and heal. When we let go of old hurts and limiting beliefs or patterns our energy is raised and we move to a higher level. Thinking we are "DONE" is quite funny. We will never be done until we become fully enlightened like Buddha or Jesus.

What patterns do you have that you have lived with your entire life? What are you avoiding? What are you still afraid of?

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How The Law Of Attraction Brings You What You Don't Want

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Sometimes events occur that bring us uncomfortable or awkard feelings. We may have issues with money and wonder why?  Or perhaps people respond to us in angry ways causing us to wonder why they acted the way they did? How often do you wonder why the heck did that happen? Once a week? Once a day? 

What most people don't realize is that our unconscious thoughts and emotions reflect back to us what is going on inside of us.

95% of our thoughts are unconscious

Unreleased emotions from past events account for over 65% of our unconscious manifestation. The trapped emotions in our tissues are what we are unaware of. Unreleased emotions cause a boomerang effect bringing events to us that bite us in the butt when we least expect it.

Feelings of helplessness, unworthiness or worthless come from old trauma from our childhood. Our parents programming and beliefs govern us unconsciously without us recognizing why we struggle so with relationships and money. If we don't like sex, react negatively to advances or have difficulty with orgasms there might be some past trauma that we didn't realize. I have encountered many people who had challenges with their sexuality that found out later that they were molested prior to the age of three years of age.

Anger surfaces from being in a state of helplessness. We feel powerless when an adult or someone older than us touches us in ways that make us feel uncomfortable. Boundaries crossed also cause us issues with money and a sense of personal value. 

These Questions Can Give You Some Clues If These Are Issues:

From the book, Overcoming Underearning

1. I blame someone else for my situation.
2. I constantly blame myself even though its not my fault.
3. I do what others want even though I don't want to.
4. I hold myself back or easily give in to avoid upsetting hurting, angering or offending someone. 
5. I let others demean me or put me down.
6. I hold grudges or am easily angered.
7. I'm reluctant to set lofty goals for fear I won't achieve them.
8. I'm filled with big dreams but don't follow through.
9. I give up at the first sign of failure or a hint of rejection.
10. I don't do what I say I'm going to do.
11. I'm unwilling to ask for what I want often because I don't even know.
12. I hear myself saying yes a lot.
13. I have no control over my time.
14. I really don't see I have many choices in my life.
15. I am embarassed to make mistakes.

If you answered yes to any of these questions you probably have issues with feelings of low self-esteem and anger. Trapped anger leads to chronic depression. You also probably have difficulty breaking through the glass ceiling of your earning potential. 

If you are ready to overcome these issues and get clear of them, join me Wednesday night for a free podcast and energy clearing of anger related issues and helplessness.

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How To Turn Anger Into Passion

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Relationships are a joy when things are purring along. When we feel in love with our partner, we kiss, hug and make love with ease. When our partner shows up late, isn't there for us, or looks at our best friend with interest, we might become so infuriated that we don't want contact with them at all.

72% of women hold out sex after an argument. Men are more able to move beyond the emotions and be ready for sex.

Ask yourself is this going to matter in five years? If the answer is "No," have sex instead. It is a whole lot more enjoyable than staying angry with your partner.

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First, let's look at what anger does to your body's physiology. Anger sets off your body's fight or flight response, flooding your body with stress hormones from your adrenal glands. The constant flood of stress hormones can create health problems. You might get headaches, digestion issues, abdominal pain, insomnia, high blood pressure, heart attacks and strokes. 

What Happens When You Get Angry

• Whether you contain your anger, inside  you are holding it within your cells. 
• When you express anger outwardly it can make you feel terrible. Depression and or anxiety can be the result of long-term anger.
• You may say things you regret.
• You may physically express your anger in negative ways.
• Cortisol is released causing your belly to become fatter. Anger is a stressful emotion. It is not productive.

Who Rules Your Emotions?

Do your emotions rule you, or do you rule your emotions? Being able to feel our emotions without negative behavior takes self-control, even mastery. 

Anger is a form of passion. How can you turn that anger into something productive instead of continue to seathe inside? 

Take A Breather

Use breathwork to move through your feelings rather than lashing out at another person, or thing. Breathing in slowly and completely can be all it takes to bring yourself into the present, allowing the feelings to move through you. Most of us have a tendency to hold our breath when we get angry. When we do, emotions get stuck rather than moving through us the way they were meant to.

Take a walk, get on a treadmill to work off some of the feelings of frustration. If you need to leave the room to give each other space. 

Using Anger For Common Good

Anger can be used to clean your home, paint a picture, write a poem, or even a chapter in a book. Most men will tell you, they prefer using anger for passionate makeup sex. 

Using our emotions for good, rather than negatively erupting, calling someone names, or damaging material things shows that your emotions are ruling you, rather than the other way around.

Change your behavior. Instead of shutting down and running away, talk about your feelings. Express yourself constructively. When you learn to communicate through your emotions, you will find that you can turn the anger into passion more easily.

Make-Up Sex

Shifting your anger into a positive feeling takes breathwork. Moving the energy through your breath and out through your heart can allow more love in. It can also allow you to be more vulnerable. Turn that powerful energy into a positive creation. Sex after an argument, providing you are not abusing the other, can be very exciting and exhilarating.

Ways To Shift The Anger

1. Use your sexual energy to give him the performance blow job of his life. Then have him take care of you.
2. Make it a virtuoso experience. Ask for an erotic massage. Or give him one. Ask for whatever you want. After an argument, you are likely to get it. 
3. Have him worship you. Whether it is through role play or having him pleasure you, let the anger go, and sink into the present. You just might enjoy it!
4. Take a hot bath to break the energy of the fight. It can help you get into the mood to be touched an allow you to feel luxuriated.

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5 Reasons To Let Him Go!

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

I love men! I really do. Men are usually strong and masculine and oh so different from us. We love their touch, their bodies and cuddling with them before and hopefully, after sex. We enjoy their way of thinking and the helpful ways that they try to fix any problem we might have. Men are wonderful,  well...mostly. Similar to women, there are those who are keepers and there are those that we would rather forget. This post is to help you avoid the disaster down the road, like marrying someone that will abuse you. You know the ones that leave you crying on the floor with no self esteem, penniless, car less and maybe even house-less. We all want to avoid those!

I feel compelled to write this post for those women who are feeling unsure about whether to stay or go. As a woman myself who has gone, far more than stayed. I have learned some quick techniques for finding out if your guy is worth holding on to. I will give you the low-down on the down and out so you can get out as quickly as you can! If you are dating one of these guys below, for goodness sake, don't marry them! The situation will only get worse. For those feeling stuck in relationships where they don't feel like a priority, or are beginning to wonder? Read on. These insightful tips will help you make the best decision for you and keep your bank account intact.

The Best Is Now

What you see is what you get! Don't think your love will change your man. It won't. If you don't like what you see, hear and smell, leave! Everyone is on their best behavior at the beginning of a relationship. It doesn't get any better than the beginning of a relationship. In fact, it is downhill from here on! If he doesn't respect you, leaves his clothes for you to pick up, doesn't contribute and leaves you hanging.....  What are you waiting for? An exit invitation?

DROP HIM LIKE HE'S HOT!

1. His father just fired him and he doesn't have a job. Or he just quit a job, or is about to quit, or is always thinking of quitting. He is a quitter. Get out while his body is still warm. He will probably also tell you that his boss is an ass hole. All of his bosses are asses. Unless you want to support his ass all your life, run! Quick like a bunny!
2. He puts your down or makes fun of you in any way. Your face, your body, your cooking....  your family.....  Be like the Tasmanian Devil and do the whirling dervish thing! Get out!
   
   Making fun of you in any way is a sure sign of abuse down the road. Men who are abusers show early signs. Making fun, is a sure fired way to tell he will be trying to shove a fist in your face down the road, or be plain passive aggressive and angry most of your married life. An angry man will also try to control you with his anger. Been there done that wore the T-shirt and spent 8 years trying to walk away! He might even be really subversive and say something like, "I was just kidding!" Bull shit! This makes me want to throw up. Don't believe it for a moment. Yes, I get angry, this kidding thing was the ban of my existence for three years with someone I was in love with. He finally called me the "C" word when I was in Hawaii with him. Needless to say - He's outta HERE!~
   
3. He raises his voice to intimidate you. This guy won't talk to you with a civil tone when he is upset or feeling threatened and insists on yelling at you. He uses anger to control you, evade situations or discussions - like the fact that he is never home, or drunk all the time, won't have sex with you, or won't call you or any other serious conversation. 
4. He has an addiction of any kind. This includes drinking alcoholic beverages including 3 beer or more a night, vape pen, smoking, meth, cocaine hookah or pot. Even if your guy doesn't actually GET DRUNK. Seriously, if your guy can't function without a drug in his system, why would you want him? Addictions lead to control issues and abuse. It is rare that an alcoholic (addict) will not be angry or abusive at some point. Usually whenever they drink. Alcoholics have issues with low self esteem. They put you down to make themselves feel better. Grab your keys and purse and run like OJ! "Oh, but he is so charismatic and well liked by everyone that knows him!" That is simply the Dr. Jekyll, Mr Hyde. He will treat everyone he sees in the outside world like gold and you like yesterday's cow dung! Believe me, I have tried three on for size and EVERYONE of them was abusive in some way! Let me count the ways, physically, emotionally, withholding love and sex. Why would you want this kind of life? God help you if you stay.
5. He only uses text to communicate except when he wants sex, then he might make an exception. Seriously, you would be so much better off with a dog or a cat. They at least would love
   
   
   you unconditionally and be there at night to snuggle.

Ladies, and I really mean Goddesses! Stand up. Be heard. If you aren't getting what you want and need: LEAVE! The crumbs of affection are so few here that you would be better off and happier on your own. You will not attract another person in a dud of a relationship. End this one cleanly. Don't say meekly, "Well let's maybe try and have a break!" NO!!!! When you close one door you open another. It is so much easier once you leave. Then you will feel freedom, empowered and better for taking care of yourself for a change. Staying in a relationship where your needs are not being met and you are being put down drains your life force energy. It depletes you, rather than completes you.

You think you won't find anyone better? Have you seen all the men out there lately? There are a million of them. The better you take

care of yourself, the better guy you will attract. If you feel you only deserve crumbs, crumbs are what you will get.

What you think you create. What you believe you receive. Instead here is your new question to the Universe. The Universe is always working to make you RIGHT. So if you say, "I can't find anyone better." Or, "I will always be alone." YOU MY DEAR ARE CORRECT! Instead say the following:

How can I effortlessly and easily find someone better than ______?

I work with women who need help feeling powerful. If this is you, contact me now. I used to feel powerless and weak. I thought I had to accept poor treatment. I took what I could get. I allowed men to walk over me. I was a people pleaser. My family raised me to be this way. I spent a lifetime overcoming what my programming was. Now I am 60 and men are knocking on my door, following me around! I am tripping over them. It is because I know that I am worth it. I love myself and you can too! You have value. You might be resistant to receiving love. We can work with that. I have many magical powers to help you feel better, more confident. Well they may not be magical, but they certainly are God-given! You will be happy and confident and empowered. Armed with good feelings you attract a better quality of man. You will feel happier and won't just accept anything or anyone who gives you attention. You deserve to be loved for who you are. You are beautiful inside and out, you just need help remembering. For a confidential private session contact Jennifer here:

The Dangerous Truth About Jealousy

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Jealousy is a relationship killer. It is a sign of insecurities, lack of trust rather than love. If you are dating someone with serious jealousy RUN, don't walk away. Jealousy can be a neurosis from severe inadequacy. It is NOT a sign of true love. 

From OJ Simpson, to Oscar Pistorius, unbridled jealousy can cause abuse, control and even death. When I was searching for photos to post within this article, I found hundreds of stories of murder, shootings, car accidents and battery due to jealousy. There is no doubt that jealousy is an unhealthy emotion. It is not a sign of how much you love another.

In the cases of unfounded jealous behavior, as with Oscar Pistorius, steroids and unhealthy emotions came into play. 

A little feeling of envy when you see someone get a promotion, or the coveted position you were vying for is one thing. Seeing another person who you view as better looking, more fit or has more than you feel you do, can also bring up feelings of jealousy. The thought, "What a bitch!" often comes up when we don't feel good about ourselves. 

The better our self esteem is, the less we covet what others have. Often what others have is not what we see on the outside. There is always more to the story.

When your partner looks at another with lust or desire, you can feel a twinge of control or jealousy surfacing. He might say things like, "She's not that attractive, or she's not as pretty as you." Comments like this divert their jealous partner's attention from the truth, that they were looking at another woman and think she is hot! 

Attractive women and men will get unsolicited attention from strangers just for being sexy. Expecting a person to turn off who they are is unreasonable. 

I remember being married to a man who was controlling, abusive and extremely jealous. I married this man even though he showed signs of jealous rage that were completely unfounded early in our relationship. I thought that over time, he would come to trust me. He never did. Instead, he became more controlling and jealous to the point of telling me what to wear and who to see. This is not healthy.   thought that his jealousy showed how deeply he cared for me. I was very insecure at the time, myself. The fact that he was showing jealousy buoyed my ego (my false self). It made me feel more attractive. His rage, gave me the sense that he cared and could take anyone out, if he needed to. In a twisted way, it made me feel safe. I have since learned to steer clear of those with control, anger issues or jealousy.

Signs Your Mate's Jealousy Is A Problem

1. They tell you how to dress.
2. They are controlling of who you see and where you go, where you work and even family. They may even call you to check up to see what you are doing when you go out with friends.
3. They may move you to a place where you have no friends or family and refuse to allow family to visit.
4. They may control what you say and how you act.
5. They may tell you to stop sending out a sexual vibe.
6. They may want you to stop being who you truly are.
7. They will bring up the past repeatedly, not letting go.
8. Can be irrationally concerned for your well-being.
9. You may be afraid to leave them for fear they might hurt you and/or themselves.
10. They feel inadequate around others.
11. You may have to bolster their self esteem to help them feel better.
12. You may feel like you are walking on egg shells.

Feeling spite towards someone who appears to have more, or looks better is unhealthy. It is a sign of low self esteem. The way to overcome unhealthy emotions is to work on your self esteem. Accepting who you are, the way you are is the first step. 

Women Jealous Of Other Women

Just this morning I visited a local Boulder, Colorado coffee shop for some Bhakti Chai. My daughter, her boyfriend and I walked in and stood in line behind two lean, attractive, Daisy Dukes (short-shorts) clad, college students. They both turned and scowled at my daughter. She had done absolutely nothing to either of them. I watched as they continued to turn around and sneer in my daughter's direction. When women with low self esteem see other attractive women, that they feel are thinner, more attractive, bustier or sexier, they feel insecure about themselves turning into woman hating bitches; sneering and sending negative energy towards innocent bystanders. All you have to do is be you, and you can get shot dirty looks, scowles, sneers and bitchy comments. Insecure women seem to hate other women. With women who are self assured, confident and love themselves, this rarely occurs.

My dear friend Diana Davis was a beautiful woman. She had a knack for attracting men. Before I became enlightened and was still working on loving myself, I brought a very attractive man with me to Diana's for a visit. Greg seemed instantly attracted to Diana. I was jealous of her easy way with men, that I lacked. I was also jealous of her voluptuous body. They were joking back and forth in a way that we did not. I felt less than her. This jealousy almost ruined our relationship. Diana never intended to take my guy away. She was flirtatious with him, but my imagination and insecurities blew everything out of proportion. I was sure she was sleeping with him. She assured me she was not interested in anything more than friendship with Greg. Diana is no longer on the planet, she passed away in 2012, from experimental chemotherapy for breast cancer. Knowing there would not be repercussions from my discussion, I talked to Greg, who remains a friend to this day. We had a very meaningful conversation about our families and the past. I asked him if he ever was intimate with Diana. He told me he never was. He was surprised at my question. Years after my awakening, I look back and see the way I used to be when I was so codependent. My insecurity got in the way of healthy loving relationships.

Jennifer is the real deal. She is the author of two books, Orgasm For Life, being her most recent release. She awakened in 2012 and is completely self actualized. She is empathic, intuitive and a catalyst. What this means to you is that Jennifer will get you. She will understand you like no one else will. She has the ability to cut to the root of your issues quickly and effectively. Although Jennifer is compassionate and kind, she is honest, direct and doesn't sugar coat the truth. She has been where you are. Her wisdom, guidance and gifts are natural from connecting with Source energy. Just speaking to her via phone or Skype will shift you. Whether it is private coaching, an energy clearing you need, a hypnotherapy session or Neurolinguistic Programming, Jennifer is professional, loving, and authentic. To book your private series of sessions or healing appointment, her e-mail is JenniferElizabethMasters@gmail.com

I Fucking Hate You!

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

If you have been betrayed, abandoned, lied to or cheated on, this is for you. Reading this will help you heal the past and let go of the blocked emotions that you have not allowed yourself to feel fully. At first, it might feel harsh. I assure you, this will help you dig deep, let go and even cry. You will move through the process of letting go of the sadness, repressed anger and stuck emotions if you read this several times. 

You may find the words are harsh in the beginning moving into forgiveness and acceptance. I will bring you back to a grounded place of love in the end. Letting go of rage, anger and sadness allows you room to heal, let go of the past and move forward. Until all these emotions are released you only THINK you are ready to move on. when you have not healed completely. Sometimes seeing  a photo of your ex on FaceBook triggers an emotional response you didn't expect. These emotions that hit you from out of no where are just showing you that you have more work to do. Be compassionate with yourself and your ex. It will help you to heal you.

I fucking hate that you made me fall in love with you.

I fucking hate that I opened my heart completely to you.

I fucking hate that I trusted you.

I fucking hate that I fell so completely in love with you.

I fucking hate that I let myself go and I fell in completely.

I fucking hate that you lied to me.

I fucking hate that you cheated on me.

I fucking hate that my beautiful heart lay broken and stomped on.

I fucking hate that I let myself fall apart.

I fucking hate that my life has not been the same since you left.

I fucking hate that I feel so broken and lost without you.

I fucking hate that I feel like I will never be the same. 

I know I won't.

I fucking hate that I've been in a mess for so long.

I fucking hate that I hated myself for all the things I said to you.

I fucking hate myself for all the things I didn't.

I fucking hate that I loved making love to you and I let myself go.

I fucking hate that I was totally and completely in love with you.

I fucking hate myself because I can't blame you entirely.

I hate myself because I know I played my part.

I hate myself because I didn't hold you the way I wanted to.

I hate myself because I didn't tell you how much I loved you.

I hate myself that I didn't let you know how completely I loved you.

I hate that I couldn't fix that broken part of you.

I hate that I couldn't love you enough for you to be happy.

I hate that I love and hate you at the same time. 

I hate that I never see your smiling face - ever.

I miss the smell of you next to me.

I miss the feel of your skin.

I miss your body.

I miss your soul.

I miss my life with you.

I wish we didn't hurt so bad.

I wish this pain would go away.

I want to live my life again.

I know this pain will go away.

When I can catch my breath, I will breathe you out.

I know I will be able to wake up tomorrow and go about my day.

I know I can drive my car without seeing you.

I know I can work all day without crying.

I know that I can go a whole week now without crying.

I know soon I will be able to go a whole month without crying.

I know that I will continue to miss parts of you.

But I won't miss the pain.

I won't miss the lies

I won't miss the cheating.

I wont' miss the fact that I wasn't enough for you.

I won't miss the fact that you aren't happy with you.

I won't miss the way that you treated me.

I know that a part of you feels broken.

But I am not broken because you don't want to be with just me.

I know that I deserve more.

I know that I will one day have more.

Right now I feel sad. But....

I am happy with me.

I know I will be okay.

I know that there will be another day and another love for me.

I am not ready yet.

I will take my time.

I will heal my heart.

I will spend the time on me. 

I will make sure next time that I watch for the signs.

I know that I don't have to settle.

I deserve to be loved, accepted and adored.

If someone doesn't accept me, I will move on.

There will be someone who will be there when I turn the corner.

When I shine love out of my heart again for me, they will be there.

Now I see the little broken person that was hurting, I didn't see it before.

You were hurting, trying to fill a void - that I couldn't.

I actually feel compassion for you.

I couldn't before.

I let out my anger.

It was a seething ocean of rage.

It was outrage at your cheating.

It was outrage at your disrespect of my heart.

The anger is gone now.

I don't fucking hate you anymore. But I did. 

I really did.

Now I can feel love for you again. 

A part of me will always love you.

I had  so much hate for you before.

I am so glad its gone now.

It hardened my heart to everyone.

I had no compassion for anyone or anything.

I didn't like myself like that.

I was hard.

I was closed.

I was in so much pain.

I shut myself down because of my pain.

I couldn't let anyone in.

I am letting you go.

I don't need you or the pain any more.

Thank you for showing me where I never want to go again.

Thank you for teaching me I deserve more.

Thank you for teaching me what I needed.

Thank you for showing me that I don't need to settle.

Thank you for showing me that I deserve kindness.

Thank you for showing me that I deserve respect.

Thank you for showing me that I deserve honesty.

Thank you for showing me that I deserve authenticity.

Thank you for showing me that I deserve someone with an open heart.

Thank you for showing me that my heart was not completely open.

Now it is.

I am no longer afraid.

I am no longer shut down.

I am open.

If this post moved you to tears, I am grateful. If this post allowed you to let go of some of your stuck emotions, I am grateful. This is a rare post for me. I don't usually use the F-bomb. However, when you are hurt, angry and even in rage - the only way to release it is to get deep down into it. This is for those of you (and myself too) to allow us to move that energy and get it out. Betrayal makes us feel angry. Most of us only feel hurt because anger isn't safe to express. 

Most of us have been taught that it is not okay to express anger. The only emotions that are okay to express are happiness or joy. Sometimes our heart hurts and we are filled with rage.

Anger and sadness need to be expressed. If this writing helped you to let out your anger, then I am grateful. If this post offended you, don't read it again. This writing was guided and I trust my guidance. People in pain need to let it out. Emotions need to move not be stuffed. Emotions stuffed cause pain and suffering. If you have arthritis, pain in your joints, neck or back, you have blocked emotions. You don't have to be in physical pain.

Meditation does not release the energy of emotions. Emoting releases emotions. Without releasing emotions you are barely breathing. Most people breathe shallowly, rather than deeply. When you breathe deeply you are affirming life. I choose to affirm life and move emotions. This way I live pain free. You can too.

Blocked anger can cause depression, heart attacks and strokes. Often people that don't express their anger in small amounts rage and can hurt others when they do. Blocked resentment causes cancer.

Blocked and unexpressed sadness causes depression. No wonder so many people are on anti-depressants. I used to be depressed and had Fibromyalgia. I don't have any pain at all and I am getting on up there in age.

I am now offering VIP sessions for courageous committed clients. These VIP sessions are powerful Shamanic sessions with movement, breathing and release work. We do this in a sacred and protected area in the Mojave desert. If you would rather bring a friend and do the work together, that works too. For those who want a completely private session I support you totally and completely through the process. 

If you would rather process in group, that can be arranged as well. We release stuck emotions and pain through a Shamanic process. This is sacred work. You will feel lighter, freer and positive at the end of the process. I can't guarantee you won't vomit, or cry. But you will feel better. This is courageous work. I will be there every moment to support you through the process with healing breath work. This is powerful and life changing. If you are ready to be free of your pain and suffering, e-mail me and we will set up a 30 minute phone or Skype session to talk about what you want to accomplish. Either a VIP day (5 hours) in the desert or a coaching program. E-mail Jennifer NOW!

Jennifer is a healed healer. She has healed breast cancer, Fibromyalgia, Epstein Barr syndrome, codependency, addictions, chronic depression, fear, arthritis, and slowed down the aging process as a result. She uses hypnotherapy, NLP, Spiritual

Response Therapy and her Spirit guides and The Ascended Masters. She is an Intuitive, catalystic healer and amazingly courageous woman. She is the author of Orgasm For Life the book to bridge the growing chasm between men and women. This book will ignite the fires of passion, give you new skills and ideas to get back the passion lost in long-term marriages. When sex goes out the window, emotions run high. Jennifer works with those committed to heal and live a happier, better life with deeper connected, intimate relationships. Her website is: http://www.JenniferElizabethMasters.com