The Remarkable Similarities Between Horses and Humans

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Recently, I have been helping my friend on her horse ranch. I have always loved horses, having cared for retired rescued polo ponies in Alpharetta, Georgia in the past. My friend, Shannon has been teaching me how to earn a horse's respect, something that shocked me. I found that horses and humans are very similar in many regards.

In my coaching practice, I encourage my clients to speak up and self-advocate. Many people with low self-worth have difficulties speaking up for themselves, especially when no didn't mean no when they were a child. Other humans sense a weakness and take advantage (more on this later). When we aren't able to say what we want, we rarely get it. Is it any wonder? Humans will push until the other person says stop. If the weak-willed individual doesn't speak up, there is no boundary in place and hence no respect.

Horses are very perceptive. If you feel afraid, they know it. If you don't immediately make a strong stand with a horse and let them know who's boss, they will not listen. They will act as if you aren't even there. When a horse weighs 1,200 pounds getting a horse that is unwilling to move is impossible. 

English rider with a crop

Shannon instructed me to show up in the horses stall with a crop under my arm. I hesitated at first because it seemed inhumane. However, having my foot stepped on and injured certainly didn't seem humane either. As soon as I entered the stall with a crop in hand and said, "Over," the horse willingly moved. In fact, the horse was so willing, I felt ten feet tall. It was as if he said, "Oh I didn't hear you before you held that crop in your hand." It was easy to get the horse to do what I wanted with the aid of the crop as I had the horses attention and respect.

When we don't speak up for ourselves, we aren't respected. When we aren't respected, we are in the lowly position of less than in the eyes of the other person. It is human nature to take advantage when the other person has no boundaries or limits. When we say no in ways that don't sound like no, the other hears, "YES!"

If we have been sexually molested, raped or abused setting boundaries and limits can be a huge challenge for us. Working with me, I help you recognize how important it is to have firm boundaries and know what you are willing to do and not do. 

Ways We Say Yes When We Mean No

1. "I don't think this is a good idea." (the other hears YES)
2. "I am not ready."
3. "I'll think about it."
4. "I'm not sure about this."
5. "I don't know."
6. "I don't think so."
7.  "Not right now."
8. "I don't feel comfortable with that."

Any of the above statements leaves a door open for further pushback.

Ways To Say No

1. "No."
2. "No thank you."
3. "I am not able to."
4. "Not now, not ever!"

When we don't have healthy boundaries, we are the one that ends up angry and resentful not the other. JEM

Dating and Boundaries

If you are on a date and don't know what you are comfortable with, you will go beyond your comfort zone and do things you regret and may feel ashamed about later. Shame and guilt are the lowest vibrational emotions a human can have. Setting boundaries and limits though challenging isn't permanent. We can make positive changes by working with someone who has strong boundaries and recognizes that no didn't mean no for you in the past and will help you overcome the old patterning in your unconscious mind.

Boundaries in Relationships

If you don't have healthy boundaries and are in a relationship - even a friendship you may find you give too much, give too much and try to please the other person. At first, it could feel good to give. After you find yourself giving away the farm you will feel ripped off which leads to resentment and anger. Anger is a sign your boundaries have been crossed. 

Boundaries With Children

Children need to know the difference between right and wrong. If we don't tell them to stop, they keep going. If a child jumps on you and hurts you-you have not said "NO," strongly enough. If a child keeps pushing for something trying to break down your resolve there is no respect. 

Business Partnerships and Dealings

If you don't have healthy boundaries and have a partnership, your partner will most certainly take advantage of your soft spot. You might be ripped off, or feel resentful because you end up getting the raw end of your business dealings. You may have customers that push your limits expecting you to say stop. Without firm boundaries of what feels good and what doesn't, there are many ways your business could fail, and you could loose. 

What Can You Do For Yourself?

Watch others who demonstrate healthy boundaries. Learn from the way they catch you immediately and give you instructions for what they want. They don't wait a week or two till they are angry because of what was done, they mention it at the moment. 

Read a book about boundaries. There are many of them on Amazon. 

Hire a coach to overcome this serious issue. You will be much happier when you are able to advocate for yourself and set healthy limits and boundaries with everyone. Your family will be happier as a result. 

Jennifer is a private coach, hypnotherapist, and healer that helps people work through their issues to live happier, healthier lives. 

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Self-Acceptance and Non-Judgement Are Key to Happiness

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

James Franco-loving himself

Self-acceptance is about loving ourselves as we are with all our warts, faults and foibles. Everyone has weaknesses and strengths. 

Non-judgment is resting in our heart without making a determination of how we think things are. Judgment is often cruel, heartless and often prejudiced. 

We can look at others and make judgments based on how they look. For example, last night I attended a gathering where there were individuals in their early twenties and some in their mid to late sixties. When one young man took his shift off to enter the pool an older gentleman judged him on the tattoo art he displayed on his back. The young man was viewed as dark and dastardly because in a moment he chose a particular shape to be tattooed. Making a judgment about someone's character without knowing what is in their heart is unjust and prejudiced. 

Insecure people strive to be perfect, while those who accept themselves do so as they are, without attempting to be perfect. Perfectionism leads to anxiety, stress and even depression because it is impossible to reach the goal of perfection. Perfectionism can cause us to remain stuck and stagnant rather than improve in the areas where we lack expertise. 

Men and women come to me for a variety of reasons. Most people want to be happier or have the relationship that continues to elude them. The key to being happier with ourselves and those around us is to accept ourselves, others and life as it is. 

I remember when I was unhappy with myself my relationships and my life. I was like a salmon trying to swim upstream. My life was a struggle. Relationships were wrought with challenges. Even my relationships with my children were difficult because I wanted to change everyone. We might think we are helping others by telling them what or how to do things. The truth is we don't accept ourselves when we have the need to direct, change or fix others.

When we complain, bitch or moan about our kids, friends, partners and life, we don't accept things as they are. We can't possibly be happy when we complain because we are focusing on the negative or what we don't have. 

If we find ourselves single make the most of being single. Do the things that you have always wanted to do but were unable to do before your last relationship. Often we change ourselves and our likes and dislikes to meet the needs of our partner. When we change or give up things we love to do, we can become resentful or on the extreme end feel dead inside. 

What We Give Up For Others

When we don't stand in our power, we tend to give away too much. We might give custody of our children to our ex, a pet away because our new boyfriend is allergic, or stop doing yoga, meditation or running because it interferes with what our partner wants. Giving away the farm as I like to call it is never a good thing. We wake up one day and wonder where we went because we feel we have lost ourselves and our way. 

Why You Don't Want To Do Cartwheels To Keep Someone

When we constantly worry about what others think of us, we disempower ourselves and focus on others rather than feeling good inside. When we change our personality and behavior to fit the needs of others, we weaken our power and become the chameleon. Chameleons change their color depending on their environment, out of fear. 

What Insecure People Are Afraid Of

• being alone, 

• not having a partner, 

• no one will ever love me

• no one will find me attractive

• time is running out I better keep the person I have

When we accept ourselves the way we are we become comfortable being authentic. We no longer have to pretend to be something or someone to feel good when we are authentic. We don't have to change with the wind or the situation because we know who we are and love ourselves as we are. There is nothing more powerful than being able to walk into a room full of people and be you. When we love ourselves, we aren't afraid that others won't like us. We aren't concerned what others think of us either when we accept ourselves as we are. 

When we love ourselves, we are content being alone because we like who we are. Self-love includes loving acceptance of all that we include the shadowy parts of ourselves. When we are filled with self-loathing and insecurities, we fear to be alone because we don't have a clue who we are. We fear what we don't know. I recommend falling in love with you, it could be your greatest love affair of all time!

Find out how your life can become happier with self-acceptance and non-judgment by working with Jennifer. Jennifer is masterful at getting to the root of your issues and uncovering your strength and beauty within. When you begin to recognize the truth of your being your talents, gifts, and strengths are revealed, you feel more confident and accepting of yourself. 

Are You Jealous of Everyone?

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

I remember the days when I attempted to fit in, longed for others to "like" me and felt uncomfortable in my skin. I worried about what people thought of me and often felt I was right when others had to be wrong. I "helped" others by fixing them or giving them suggestions on how they could be better. 

Can you imagine? 

Performing for a family member in my backyard

I was pretty, but thought I was ugly. I hated my nose. I hated my teeth. I thought my thighs were too fat. I was jealous, insecure and oh so unhappy. I was jealous of the smart girls. I was jealous of the ones with the best boyfriends. I was jealous of the attention others got instead of me.

 Though I was one of the popular girls in high school, a cheerleader and on the Athletic Council, an elected post, inside of my brain was a sea of negative mind chatter that gave me no peace and kept me awake at night. 

It doesn't matter what the immediate cause is; when we are filled with jealousy it is because of self-loathing and insecurities. What does matter is that we do something about it. I did. I set about to find out why I was sick all the time and to stop blaming others for the way I felt about myself. I was numb, uncomfortable, insecure, jealous, anxious, depressed and unhappy.

I didn't consider myself a jealous person, but others did. JEM

I read every self-help book I could find beginning with Louise Hay You Can Heal Your Life. I tried traditional therapies and even took Prozac after a particularly messy and ugly divorce. The Prozac just made me not feel my feelings even more than I already did. 

In spite of what I have heard some clients tell me, there is no side of jealousy that is healthy. 

What Does Jealousy Mean?

• Jealousy is a sign of insecurity. 
• Jealousy is from self-loathing a form of deep seated hatred.
• Jealousy is anger.
• Jealous is a sign of abuse.
• Jealousy left unhealed will kill your relationships and leave you feeling wounded, broken and wronged. Yet, we are the ones with the unbridled envy. 

Why We Feel Jealous

We have core beliefs that leave us feeling unworthy or not enough. We believe that others are better than us and we are lacking. Jealousy is a form of self-sabotage. The truth is we lack our love and acceptance. 

How To Overcome Jealousy

1. Recognize that we are giving our personal power away.

2. Step back. Notice what story is playing in our mind. Shift your perspective. 

3. Ask: Is this true? Am I imagining this? 

4. Notice your emotions. Awareness changes everything.

5. Do something physical, like taking a power walk and allow the energy of the emotions to be released. 

6. Notice core beliefs. What is under the feeling of jealousy?Is it that we don't feel enough? Is it that we don't feel loved? 

7. Get quiet and turn inward to connect with our higher power. Meditation will help us faster than anything get the real truth. 

8. Use a mantra to calm your mind and fill up with positive feelings. 

I am enough.

I love me.

I am loved.

Jealousy is hatred and inner loathing with a core belief of not being good enough. 

Watch for my new book! Happy Anywhere!

Download my free meditation to overcome not feeling enough. 

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5 Powerful Reasons Not To Have Sex With Everyone Who Wants You

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

A large portion of the world has low self-esteem. When we don't feel good about ourselves, we can give ourselves away to others carelessly because we don't love ourselves. I know all too well how easy it is to be promiscuous when we have been molested in childhood or mistreated by a partner. I have good news for everyone out there. Anything is subject to change. 

For over thirty years I have worked diligently on myself, healing my emotional, physical and spiritual self. In the process, I have come to know myself very well, something that I didn't do before I became happy with me. I used to feel broken, now I feel completely whole, with healthy boundaries, respect and strong faith in me. 

I haven't stopped growing, clearing myself or learning, in fact, I am in the process of reading six books simultaneously and assimilating this information for you. As I grow in consciousness, wisdom, and knowledge, I can be better able to help you heal yourself and life faster. 

For those of you interested in what I am doing for you, me and the world, sign up for my newsletter as I only share with my inner circle the deepest and most intimate secrets of my life. Believe me what is happening right now, is something you want to be a part of. I have discovered exactly how all the moving parts work together to create the life we love and the love that shifts us to be better than we ever thought possible. 

Sex is a part of our human experience. Whether we have sex for one, or as a couple it is completely natural and nothing to feel guilt, shame or regret over if you follow these guidelines. When we feel these low vibrational emotions we can't manifest sh*t!

5 Reasons Not To Have Sex 

Let's just say you are kissing someone you have just met while on a date. Wonderful! Experience it fully. Check in with yourself. Is this someone you would regret having sex with? If the answer is yes, just say no. Our inner guidance system is nothing to be trifled with. Trust what you feel. The more you trust yourself, the better you will feel about your decisions. 

Here are the 5 reasons why not to engage in the horizontal mambo:

1. It feels yucky. If you feel bad, the sex will be bad. You will have regret later. Whatever it is, their smell, the way they kiss, the timing, trust your instinct.

2. They are pushing for something you don't feel works for you. Maybe things are going along well, then all of a sudden there is a change in activity. If he shoves your head into your crotch and you don't like it say so. You'll be surprised how much respect you will get when you say "I don't like it when you do that!"

3. You aren't ready. There are many reasons to not feel ready for sex. It could be the wrong time of the month, it could be it is just too soon, it could be you don't feel your best. Whatever the reason don't do it. Pushing a bad move will leave you feeling regret. Regret is a terrible thing! Standing up for what you feel is right for you is empowering. Having sex when you really aren't up for it is disempowering. Choose wisely.

4. You value yourself. Maybe your date thinks you are really hot, but you don't have the same feelings about them. Maybe the situation is uncomfortable due to a lack of privacy. The first time you have sex with someone you want it to feel good, not bad. If your gut is trembling with fear, trepidation or distaste, stop. Tell them you aren't ready. Maybe tell them you will never be ready for them, but be kind. 

5. You respect yourself and it doesn't feel right. Self-respect is a tenuous thing. When we don't trust ourselves and do something anyway, we are not respecting us. Respect is one of the cornerstones of a healthy, loving relationship, starting on the wrong foot will make the whole thing just wrong. My book Orgasm For Life will help you discover yourself, and your partner in a new and loving way.

You have value. You deserve to be loved. You are worthy. You are loveable. Now turn this around and say these things to yourself over and over until you believe them. 

I deserve it!

I have value

I am worthy

I am enough

How To Create Positive Change With Affirmation And Prayer

Using mantras in the background of your mind when your mind is in neutral works best: while you are showering, shaving, putting on makeup, driving, walking, right before sleep and upon waking will slip past the gatekeeper of your unconscious mind.

Now go forth and date! Go to meetups, but get yourself out there. You won't find a partner sitting at home on the couch stuffing yourself with ice cream and Cheetos. 

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3 Reasons You Shouldn't Worry About What Others Think

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Ariel with her PURPLE hair not listening to the opinions of others

The problem with the opinions of others is that everyone has one and they aren't yours. Listening to what others think about you will diminish your power and self-esteem. 

So many people along the way, whatever it is you aspire to do, will tell you it can’t be done. But it all it takes is imagination. You dream. You plan. You reach.”― Michael Phelps

Women worry about what others think about the way they dress, do their makeup, fix their hair and the way their children behave. We believe that everyone connected with us reflects negatively or positively on us. Worrying about what others think will make you feel insecure, unattractive and self-conscious. The following reasons should compel you to give other's opinions a pass and focus on how you feel instead.

1. No one knows how you feel but you. When we listen to what others think about us, we doubt ourselves and therefore change ourselves to please other people. Pleasing others isn't authentic. We are happiest when we are completely authentic, standing in our personal power. It is one thing to be kind and compassionate toward others and an entirely different subject when we give our power over to someone who has strong opinions about the way we think, talk or behave.

2. It's not someone else's job to like us, it's ours. Living in our heart rather than our head, trusting what our heart speaks to us rather than believing what our mind says, will help us be softer, kinder to ourselves. When we listen to our heart, we are powerful, intuitive and grounded. Our heart speaks a wisdom of certainty and truth for us. When we worry about what others think of us, we short-circuit the wisdom of our heart and believe what our mind thinks.

3. It is not your business to worry about what someone else thinks about you. Making the thoughts of others your concern will take you down a long spiral of negativity, or worry, and taking care of others. The only person you can control is you. So let go of the burden of trying to please others and focus on how you feel. 

Wear what makes you feel good. Dress for yourself, wear makeup to make yourself feel good. Wear your hair the way you like it rather than attempting to please someone else. Stop worrying about what is in fashion, and wear what pleases you.

Once we stop worrying about what others think about us life becomes lighter, happier and less burdensome. Be the best you that you can be rather than attempting to fulfill the needs of some other person by trying to please them. 

If I listened to what others thought I wouldn't have:

• trusted my Guidance
• gotten divorced
• moved to the US over thirty years ago away from my toxic parents
• become a Georgia Master Gardener
• had a profitable landscape business working with Hispanic men for 11 years
• flown to India in 2009
• had a baby at 41 (daughter Ariel)
• colored my daughter's hair purple after her father died (then pink, then turquoise)
• trusted my instinct and moved to Boulder, Co in 2011
• become a Hypnotherapist and energy healer
• taken a trip to Bali in 2010
• written books
• started a blog
• quit my day job to become a full-time coach and healer
• moved to California where I have peace, tranquility and easily afford a house, paid off my car and began to make really great money
• walked and then danced in the desert every day
• dated a man 
• taken in four kittens someone dumped in the desert
• adopted Karma, my dog 16 years ago
• drive back and forth from California to Boulder five times a year where I feel tremendous joy and receive great inspiration during the drive and while in Colorado
• walk to the beat of my drum, being authentically me, happy, fulfilled and peaceful

Live your life with compassion, kindness, mindfulness and awareness. Notice how you feel inside. Breathe deeply to ground and bring yourself fully into your body and the present moment. Living in this moment rather than worrying about the future with others will leave a lot of room for fun, spontaneity and happiness.

3 Ways We Unconsciously Turn Love Away

Jennifer Elizabeth Masters learned her lessons through experience. She brings her life's wisdom to her sessions. She became a seeker at the age of sixteen. Through her personal healing of depression, anxiety, Fibromyalgia, abuse, co-dependence has given her great compassion and understanding of your issues, allowing her to get to the root of your problems quickly without judgment.

If you are ready to commit to being happier in relationships, attract the love you long for and heal the broken feeling inside you, Jennifer's the one to empower you, as she has been there and done it and knows how to help you on your road to bliss, joy and fulfillment.

When Everything Falls Apart, There is Good News Coming

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Life today is simple, easy, doing work I love. I am ecstatically happy every day. You would never know looking at me that seventeen years ago my life was crumbling in every direction. I was like the moth to the flame. 

When things fall apart, there is a reason. You have chosen situations that weren't in your highest good and the universe, and you have set about changing your life for the better. It just doesn't look like there is anything good happening right now. When change is coming, there is nothing you can do to stop it. You might feel that chaos is your only friend.

Following is the shortened version: part of my first book Odyssey Victim To Victory. What began to happen in my life was the momentous change in every way. 

My father died twenty-seven years ago, on September 22, 1989. My father was a larger than life character, a skeptic, freethinker, man's man who introduced me to Metaphysics. He taught me to believe only what I knew to be true, rather than what people wrote or said. My father had been abused by his father, ran away from home at seven on a freight train from Toronto to Vancouver, British Columbia. He repeated his adventure again at age twelve. A beating awaited him upon both returns. Why would someone do something so great at such an early age? His home life had to be so horrible that anything was better than staying there.

I met Rich weeks after my father's death. What I didn't recognize at the time was that the familiarity I felt being with him was his deep rage, like my father's. Even though I saw his dark, abusive side, I married him anyway. I married the bad boy. I ignored the red flags. He felt like home to me. His anger was so familiar; I felt like I was walking on egg shells the entire time we were married and long afterward.

I owned my home which was half paid off. Rich didn't like the fact that it was my home. He wanted to build "his house." It wasn't "our home," but HIS. His ego got in the way of recognizing I had a home we could easily afford. He pushed, prodded and

coerced me to use the equity in my home to live on and finance his building company. My fear of him was my motivator. My confidence and freedom were eradicated in this marriage. I felt imprisoned with no way of escaping. I had just given birth to Ariel I was forty-one. 

For those of you who have never experienced abuse, some of this will seem preposterous, impossible to believe. Emotional and physical abuse eradicates confidence. When there is a threat of violence, there is emotional abuse. It makes us feel dependent on our abuser for everything with no hope, no will, hopeless. Fear is an all pervasive energy that surrounds you even while you sleep. The fear that they might murder you and your children while you sleep is real. 

Like Attracts Like

(The caveat here is that Rich's brother an ex-marine had committed a pre-meditated murder of his brother-in-law while Rich and I were together. He stabbed him thirty-five times. Rich's father beat his mother, punching her in the face breaking her dentures in three. His family history was one of violence, greater than mine, but similar in energy.) My fear of anger and violence was the perfect match for Rich's DNA of rage. 

Huge beautiful home didn't bring happiness

Without giving all the details, Rich built a huge home - "his house" that we couldn't afford. He had four houses go back to the bank when the market crashed, and the economy tanked. We lost our home. Both my sons ended up living with their father; it nearly killed me. My family is the most important part of my life, losing both my sons even temporarily was devastating to my health and happiness.

The light was dawning in my mind, I wondered how I could escape with my life and safety of my daughter. 

I sold all my beautiful things so that we would have money to live on, Rich sold none of his tools. While we were losing our home two of my beloved dogs were hit by one car. My oldest Siamese kitty's health failed and her son and another dog had to be put to sleep within six months of our foreclosure. I knew all my animal's deaths were trying to tell me something. Messages were everywhere. I needed to get out too, but how?

I had started a landscaping company before we lost our beautiful home. I had begun to make enough to support myself without Rich's help. When his control of my phone calls, friends and family became too great, I finally got the courage to tell him he needed to leave. 

The Universe sends help when we make a positive move for change. I gave him two weeks to move out. It just so happened that my sister-in-law's brother, Alan had met a woman on the Internet and had flown to Georgia from England to be with her. When he

Right before our split

arrived from England, he found that she had misrepresented herself and was still married! He was heart-broken. He spent all his hard-earned money to fly over from The UK, only to find out she had lied! I recognized immediately that Alan was in Georgia for the first time for my protection and to ensure Rich left without hurting or harming anyone.

When we talked, I explained what was happening with me and he quickly agreed to stay with me until Rich moved out. Alan was part of my family and had known me since I was fourteen.

My world was falling apart on all levels. I was in fear for my life while I slept. I hid Rich's guns until I could get him out of my house. We moved to a farmhouse, in the Georgia countryside with a barn to store my tools. I found this beautiful place in a very strange way. I loved the house and the land and wanted to stay. This property was perfect for my daughter and I. It felt wrong for Rich to be there. I knew Rich had to go.

Why Things Happen The Way They Do

Our DNA has a great power over us, as does our karma. We attract what our parents model for us. Mine had modeled abuse, anger, and negativity. I was afraid of men. I was a magnet for a man who raged, yelled and became big and scary when he was angry. Rich was jealous, controlling and a macho man, like my father in many ways, except that he didn't drink. The biggest similarity was his rage. I was attracted to that part of him that was so similar in energy to my father, unconsciously. 

What Feels Like Home Might Not Be The Best For You!

I was attracted to what felt familiar. When I wrote down a list of what experiences I had in my home they were the following:

HOME

• criticized, ignored, not heard

• put down, teased, made fun of

• invalidated

• yelled at

• jealousy (from the mother)

• abused and controlled

• put in harm's way

• unprotected

LOVE?

• criticized, ignored, not heard

• put down, teased, made fun of

• invalidated

• yelled at

• jealousy 

• abused and controlled

• put in harm's way

• unprotected

I was like a moth to a flame!

I kept repeating the same old patterns until my outside circumstances became so in-my-face, that I could no longer ignore them. Each relationship I had was worse than the one before. I was so afraid of this man I didn't want to have sex with him. After Rich had moved out, I was able to get quiet, meditate and go within. Finally, I began to wake up. I knew I didn't want to be abused any longer. I knew that my victim energy from my childhood sexual abuse was still present even though I had forgiven all my perpetrators. I had to clear the emotions. 

I sat down and meditated. In this meditation, I was directed to create a relationship matrix. This matrix is what I use to guide my clients today. 

Using this matrix, I realized that in all my relationships there were similarities. The Guidance I received asked me what the similarities are? What is the common denominator? 

Wake Up And Smell The Coffee!

My big aha moment came after I saw that I was the only common denominator in all my relationships. I had to stop blaming others and look at how I attracted these men to me. I had to look at my reactivity from my childhood and clear the triggers. I had to change my behavior.

What's The Use?

What is the point of all of this? Today, I help women love themselves above all else, fearlessly so that they attract positive, balanced, healthy relationships. I work with couples and single women to change their patterns and behavior so that they don't continue to react, deny and push away love. All that happened in the past has removed judgment of others giving me great compassion for where people are. Having been there myself, I can't judge another.

Until we heal our DNA and our unconscious programming we attract unconsciously. We are like the moth to the flame. We attract what is not the best for us. We attract the dysfunction from our family of origin or past molestation. We move toward what feels familiar - even when it isn't safe. 

If you think ignoring the past will make it less powerful, think again. We have to heal the past. We have to clear the old programs and patterns so that we aren't a magnet for dysfunction. We have to change our behavior, recognize the red flags and pay attention to them, rather than ignore them. We have to love and accept ourselves as we are. Until we love ourselves completely, and stop denying our old patterns and behavior we continue to accept circumstances that aren't good for us. 

It took me over thirty years of healing, study, searching to get to where I am today. My happiness and bliss are my reward for all that I endured in the past. I worked very hard to clear the old patterns and unconscious beliefs that men are all angry, jealous and abusive, or that love hurt and abused. All of my experiences make me wise, compassionate and loving. I understand what my clients have been through because I have been there too. 

If everything is falling apart in your world, it is because your life isn't working for you the way it was. It is time for you to wake up, put yourself first, rather than your relationships, give to you, get to know yourself and clear the past. Isn't it time for you to be happy

with you? When we become happy with ourselves, the rest falls into place effortlessly. Know that light is at the end of this tunnel of darkness, change, and chaos. There are better days ahead. 

What You Can Do Now To Feel Better

1. breathe deeply
2. sit quietly
3. meditate
4. find something to be grateful for
5. quiet mind chatter - do mantras several times a day
6. get clarity get clear - download my free APP Google Play or set up a private session with Jennifer

Eldorado Cyn, Colorado 2012

An energy clearing will give you clarity, calm the mind chatter, allow you to sleep better, clear anxiety, help you feel positive, lighter. Suicidal programs can be cleared; there is hope. If you feel hopeless, contact me right NOW! JenniferElizabethMasters@gmail.com

Losing Yourself In Addictive Relationships?

What about Rich? Rich died in his sleep July 4th, 2012 in Williston, North Dakota, while working in the oil fields; at the same age his father died, fifty-two, which was his biggest fear. We had overcome much and become friends. Read more here.

Manifesting Made Easy: A 5-Step Process To Get What You Want

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

"The key to success is to focus our conscious mind
on things we desire, not the things we fear." ~Brian Tracy

Nothing that happens does so by chance. There are no accidents or coincidences. Everything that happens is a direct manifestation of where you are directing your energy, attention, and consciousness. Whether you recognize it or not you are manifesting everything in your life from the money in your bank account to every relationship that you have. We are always manifesting.

We are actually powerful magnets. We send out whatever we are thinking coupled with our powerful emotions and like a boomerang the universe brings us what we are focusing on.

If we are focused on not having enough money for our car payment, the universe proves us right by giving us no money.

If we think and believe that we will never find love, we will be given exactly that, no love.

Our physical possesions reflect the quality of our energy. When you feel good about yourself you are able to charge what you are worth. When your self-esteem is low, you may drive an older model car because you feel you don't deserve better. Our negative ideas and beliefs cause us to manifest less than what we deserve. As our self-esteem builds and we feel better about ourselves, we begin to manifest greater and more expensive things.

When we begin to take notice of how we feel about ourselves; that we don't deserve to have the life, relationship, body, health, money, job, clothes, car, that you desire, you recognize that it is your beliefs that are keeping you from having and manifesting those things.

A beautiful new car makes you feel better about yourself. The very thing that your unconscious is telling you that you don't deserve is what will help you to feel more deserving. 

The more aware we can be of who we are, the easier it is to remedy the way we feel inside. We can process old emotions and clear the old patterns away, which will help us feel better about ourselves. We can give love to ourselves to raise our self-esteem, hire a coach who will help us see the truth in ourselves. We can re-create ourselves to be who we want to be by giving love to ourselves. Affirmations work very well. Know that you deserve the very best. 

Repeat These Mantras For Empowerment

• God and The Universe love me.
• The Universe is always and in every way supporting me for my highest and best good.
• The Universe is expanded.
• Therefore I am expanded
• There is no lack in the Universe
• Therefore there is no lack within me.
• The Universe is abundant
• Therefore I am abundant
• I am a child of God (and The Universe).
• I am loved completely for who I am.
• I am deserving of abundance, prosperity, and love.
• I am worthy.
• I am prosperous.
• I am loved.

Once we feel empowered and loved, I have found the fastest way to get what we want is to ask questions. Just a week ago, I manifested a new roof for my house just by asking, "How can I effortlessly and easily have a new roof?"

That very day, my ceiling in the back bedroom fell due to a leak from my Swamp cooler on the roof and my landlord announced he would be putting on a new roof. He also is painting the entire house with a Feng Shui makeover, the correct color for the direction it is facing! How great is that?

Our neural pathways can be changed from negative to positive by focusing on feeling good, happy with ourselves and grateful for what we have. Recognizing our negative self-talk and habitual patterns is paramount to having what we want. Turning our thoughts to the positive ignoring the negative and focusing on what we want rather than what we don't' want will help you get there.

When we feel good about ourselves, we also become more self-aware. We notice our thoughts, emotions and how we feel. We can shift our consciousness and neural pathways through meditation, doing affirmations to empower ourselves so that we shift how we feel and raise our vibration. Feeling good is an essential part of manifesting our desires both

material and relationships. Following are the steps to manifesting once you have done the affirmations above. 

You deserve happiness, to be comfortable, secure and have your needs met. You can manifest some amazing things once you feel good about yourself.

"We are born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us, it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others." ~Marianne Williamson

Conscious Manifesting Versus Unconscious
When you are aware of what you want, you become crystal clear and focused. The more clarity you have about what you want, the faster and easier you can manifest it. We can manifest our day by waking with gratitude for being alive and stating, "Today will be a powerfully happy and positive day for me!"

1. Get crystal clear on what you want.

1. Manifest one thing at a time. 
2. Focus on that one thing.Write it down. 
3. Breathe deeply to be present. Take three deep inhalations, exhaling deeply and slowly.
4. Feel good, positive and excited. Emotion brings your manifestations to you faster.
5. Focus on what you want.Ask, "How can I effortlessly and easily get ________________"Say thank you!
6. Know it is already on it's way to you.
7. Know without a doubt it is done! 
8. Be in complete faith that everything is in Divine Order and it is on its way!

5 Steps To Get What You Want

1. Get present by breathing slowly and deeply.
2. Focus on what you want.
3. Ask for it with feeling (emotions bring it faster!)
4. Say Thank you!
5. Know that it's done!

The better we feel about us, the faster we are able to manifest. The happier, more joyful you are, the faster you can manifest. When we are in fear, we manifest what we fear. Faith and fear don't go together. You are either in fear or faith. I clear fear for many people which helps them manifest their desires faster.
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