You might call her fickle, twisted, impossible to please or bipolar. A woman with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is highly unstable, with a poor self-image, constant ups, and downs, stormy relationships and may feel insane.
- Frantic efforts in an attempt to avoid abandonment from friends, family and loved ones
- Unstable personal relationships are known as splitting: "I'm so in love with him" followed by "I hate him!"
- Impulsive behaviors that can have disastrous results - overspending, reckless driving, unsafe sex or substance abuse
- Flipping from being calm to irrational anger or rage for the smallest of reasons
- Fixation on clothes and looking their best in public
- Distorted self-image and childish fixation "they liked me!"
- Irrational or inappropriate rage followed by guilt or shame
- Extreme feelings of liking or loving someone followed by a feeling of intense hatred
- Chronic emptiness or boredom
- Nothing is ever enough
- Narcissistic behavior - it's all about them
- Inability to take responsibility for behavior - blames others
- Extremely critical and judgmental of others
- Can't be happy for other's successes
- In competition for others affection
- Stress can lead to periods of psychosis
- Dissociative - disconnection from self and thoughts - out of body experiences
- Suicidal tendencies or self-harming may occur
- Lack healthy boundaries
- Inappropriate fixation on other people's personal issues
- Genetics. Though there is no gene associated with Borderline Personality Disorder, it is hereditary. A study of twins showed that it is five times more likely to occur in families where a first-level family member had the disease.
- Those who experience traumatic life events such as sexual molestation, rape, or separation from one or both parents are more likely to develop the disease
- The way the brain works with those with BPD is different than those without it; this suggests a neurological basis for the disease. Parts of the brain that control judgment and emotions may not communicate well with other areas. Like a missed synapse or broken contact within the brain.
We have to let go of attempting to change our parents; we can't.
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