Love Takes A Leap of Faith And Bravery

By  Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Humans were meant to be partnered. We live longer when we have someone who cares about us and generally we are much happier than those who live alone. It is certainly more fun to have sex with a partner than by ourselves and shopping, eating and doing the mundane are much more enjoyable when we have someone to share our lives with.

Find out about my six-week course to shift core beliefs and patterns about love.

Yet, so many people live alone. Why?

We don't want to leap.

We block ourselves with our thinking. Do any of these statements sound like you?

• There's no one out there who would love me
• I'm too old
• I'm not attractive enough
• I'm not intelligent enough
• I don't want to be hurt again
• I want someone, but it's too painful to even think about
• It's too much trouble to date
• I don't even know what to do or where to start
• What if I get hurt again
• I don't want to go through another heartache or breakup
• I'm too set in my ways

We focus on what we don't want rather than what we do want. We keep attracting exactly what we don't want. I will help you get past those blocks and get out of your own way to feel sacred, loved, appreciated and adored. Yes, it is possible. 

Our beliefs stand in our way of having love. If we don't believe love is possible, we won't find it. If we feel we are unworthy of love, or unloveable, we won't have the bravery we need to go for it. We get in our own way. 

It isn't that all the good guys have been taken, or that there are no women left worth having. 

• Clear those debilitating beliefs that prevent you from having love

• Understand how your thoughts have created the life you have

• Recognize the red flags and stop explaining them away

• Notice when actions don't match words

• Don't settle - you don't have to

• Find out why we stay with people we shouldn't and get the tools to prevent repeating this damaging behavior

• You deserve love

• You are loveable

Tainted To True Love begins in May. Go beyond where you have before and take the LEAP to have the love you have been waiting for. 

This course is highly beneficial to couples and singles. It will shift your negative thinking about love, your partner or potential partner.

Much Love to you!

Jennifer

Why Women Are Leaving Long-Term Marriages

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters



Women more than men are asking for a divorce after 20, 25 and 30 years of marriage. Why would someone who has obviously stuck through thick and thin for all those years suddenly decide she has had enough? 

FACT: Women file for divorce 2/3 of the time.

FACT: Throughout the 19th Century 60% of divorce filings were initiated by women.

These statistics are telling. It is why I wrote Orgasm For Life. Women are unhappy and their men have no idea. 

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In the process of writing Orgasm For Life, I researched, for months. I did my own statistical analysis and interviewed hundreds of people. Of the people I interviewed, many were in long-term marriages. Those who were having fun together in AND out of their bedrooms were the ones, committed and connected. Their relationships were tight. They usually have a deep connection with each other AND a shared Spiritual connection. They were not interested in affairs. The women were happy with their sexual partners and satisfied, because they felt loved and appreciated. They also had orgasms as often as their mate did. They both were able to discuss sex openly within their relationship and ask for what they wanted.

Reasons Women Leave Their Husbands

1. She has given all her life to others and has lost herself. 
2. She is dissatisfied with sex.
3. She feels unappreciated.
4. She doesn't feel loved.
5. She doesn't love herself. 
6. You have left the toilet seat up one too many times and they have had enough of being ignored, invalidated or put down.
7. She doesn't accept herself as she is and is constantly trying to change you. She may be tired of you not being what she thinks she wants you to be.
8. She recognizes that she can't control you, so will go and find someone else they THINK they can change or control.
9. She feels she has no purpose and feels lost. (Children are grown, they have no mission or soul purpose.)
10. There may be abuse or boundaries that are crossed. Controlling and jealous men can lead women to seek someone who will not control them or be fearful of them looking elsewhere.

Reasons Women Get Married

1. They think they are in love. (Some truly are in love, but not all.) Sex releases hormones which make you FEEL you are in love.
2. They feel that is the right thing to do.
3. It feels like the next step - and what society expects of them.
4. They hear their clock ticking and feel it is TIME!
5. They want to have babies (this is not true of many child-bearing women today.)
6. They are not happy with life and feel that marriage will fill that void.
7. They are looking for happiness outside of themselves.
8. They have always dreamed of a big wedding and feel that having this BIG WEDDING will make them happy.
9. At a certain point in their relationship they decide it is time to take it to the next step: often pressuring their man into marriage when he is not ready.
10. They feel lonely, empty, unfulfilled and look for these things outside of themselves, in a relationship/marriage.(Often women get married because they have an emptiness inside and feel are lonely, or because they think they should get married. They don't love themselves and continue to look for validation and often get re-married immediately). Statistically, second, third and fourth marriages don't last.

When women look to marriage to solve their loneliness, unhappiness or unfulfillment, eventually they will come to recognize that the marriage didn't do it for them. When this happens they often make their husband the enemy. They make their man wrong. Blame figures prominently in this situation. Women (and men) are not victims. They are left with a hole that is gaping and still empty. Having someone love you when you don't love yourself, eventually comes up short. Often you don't even feel the love because you are so closed off and shut down emotionally. You refuse to allow love in after a while. You shut down your heart and resist the good. 

Issues Of Sex

One of the complaints I hear most often is that the men have HTP, (come too quickly). When the man comes too quickly, the woman does not have enough time to become aroused, never mind come to orgasm. Many women are not being satisfied by their husbands. After years of marriage, sex has become truncated and cursory. There is often no kissing or eye contact in their relationships. In these marriages, after 25 and 30 years, women have had enough and are looking for passion, fiery encounters, and orgasms. 


We Need Good Positive Communication

Communication verbal and non-verbal often becomes adversarial. In other words, communication constantly contains conflict, eye rolling and arguments.

Are You Listening?

Men have a tendency to think that women talk too much, often about things that don't matter. After years of hearing us talk, talk talk, men often shut their women out, ignoring them and pretending to listen. Women feel this and it bugs us. If we don't get attention from you, we will get it somewhere else. When you ignore your woman as a matter of course, you run the risk of losing her to someone who pays attention. 

Daily Drudgery

Long-term marriage involves work. Not just work on the relationship, but work outside the home. Routines can become boring. Life becomes dull. We have to work at keeping love alive and passion in the bedroom. There are ways to do this and I detail many of them in my book. Reading erotica together, playing a board game that involves risk taking and clothes coming off, rather than routine hum-drum sex can make a huge difference. Touch each other outside the bedroom. Look at one another when you talk and listen intently, rather than focus on your cell phone or multi-tasking.

Don't Screw Around On Each Other!

Women are instinctual creatures. We have a sixth sense. Nature provided us with this naturally so that we could tell when our babies were in trouble. We sense things that many people don't. Women are intuitive. This intuition also lets us know when you have been fooling around with your secretary, or tennis buddy. We know when you had sex with your best friend's wife on your recent visit. Yup, we know! So don't try to fool us. We are feeling creatures that sense the unspoken. We know when you have had affairs. Don't think you can get away with having an affair. It will come out sooner or later. An affair is not the answer. Love is the answer. If you are considering having an affair ask the following questions:

1. What do I hope to gain that I am not getting from marriage?
2. Will this help my marriage or hurt it?
3. Am I prepared for my marriage to be over?

It is impossible to keep an affair a secret. It will come out. A receipt will fall out of a closet, a scent will be left on clothes, or there will be a tell on your face or voice. Do not think you can hide an affair. If you cheat on your spouse, you are also lying to yourself. If you must have sex with someone else, get divorced first. Be in integrity, it is the only thing that you have at the end of this life.


Adventures in Life
To make your marriage more exciting there are many things you can do. Take a day trip out to a place you have thought about for years. Pack a picnic lunch, maybe even stay overnight. Do something spur of the moment, rather than plan ahead. When we do things spontaneously the whole

event takes on a different hue. Get off your couch and live a little. Change up your routine and make love in the shower, or on the stairs, or in your car. Or maybe just drive into the city and book a hotel on a whim! Use your imagination. You might save your marriage and in the process save your life. Married people live longer, are healthier and have sex more often.

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Jennifer Elizabeth Masters is an author, life, love and sex coach. She is insightful, gifted and direct. She works with those committed to grow and find themselves. She helps men and women find the happiness within. Life becomes a joy rather than drudgery. If you feel life is a drag rather than a joy, perhaps a free session with Jennifer will reveal the ways that you can find the joy and love in life, rather than feeling lonely and empty forever. Jennifer has overcome her own negativity, judgment and criticism. She lived in physical pain as well as emotional pain and illness for over 30 years. Now she has no pain, and is about to celebrate her 60th birthday in JOY! In honor of her birthday she is offering 5 people a free one hour session for those committed to heal. Contact her HERE! There are only 5 spots for a free one-hour session. These will not last long. E-mail her now!

Buyer Beware: Hiring A Coach

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

There are thousands of coaches in the United States. It is one of the fastest growing professions today. As with any profession there are those who are great at what they do and then there are the others. Many people are in coaching because they are still trying to heal themselves. Recognizing who you are hiring and why is important. Having an intention in mind prior to hiring a coach will help you. Make sure you hire a coach who is certified and do your due diligence.

If you have been reading my blog and wonder what working with me might be like, here is the low down. 

Who Do I Work With?

I work with people committed to heal, grow and evolve. I help people who want their lives to improve. I help people recognize the power that they have, the beauty within and who they truly are. I help people connect with their High Selves, live each day fully, feeling happy with who they are, happy with their lives and happy with what they are doing. If you don't want to heal, evolve, recognize the beauty within, live each day in joy and happiness or don't want your life to improve, don't hire me.

How Do I Help People Heal?

I don't know when it happened, but a while back, I became aware that I triggered people's issues. Some people call me a catalyst for healing. I can't stop being a catalyst pushing up your issues, anymore than I could stop breathing, it is part of me. When clients talk to me, their issues just come up. It is not that I do anything, it just happens. It is one of my healing gifts. 

Sometimes when a client in extremely codependent and sitting in victimhood, they blame me for the way they feel. I am no more responsible for your emotions than anyone else is. Part of healing is that you take responsibility for your life, your actions and your emotions. Healing is a responsible act. 

Everyone has hot buttons or triggers. These triggers are from an event long ago. As long as the trigger exists, you will continue to react with emotion when that button is pushed. One of my gifts is helping you to heal the triggers. I have many different ways that I do this. I can use Hypnotherapy, Neurolinguistic Programming or Spiritual Response Therapy, among other things. It does not matter if one way does not work for you, I have many other tools in my large tool box to help you move through this challenge. Everyone is unique. There is not a cookie cutter fix - that I use for everyone. Even when people are dealing with sexual issues, I find that the source of the pain and suffering is lack of self love. 

Sometimes, something happens in a session that causes your emotions to surface. As a matter of fact, when you work with me, you can count on it. If you don't want to feel, cry, or emote, you may not want to work with me. What happens though, when you allow emotions to move is that you move out of depression, insomnia and anxiety. Body ailments heal naturally and you enjoy life much more.

My Promise

I  promise to accept you as you are, with all your faults and foibles. I am very good at what I do. However, I am not perfect either. If you are looking for a perfect coach, it is not me. Sometimes life happens. Sometimes I am on the road and have to change an appointment because of a book tour, or working with clients in another community. I promise to do the best I can to assist you in every session. I am very good at what I do. I cut to the chase and have the innate ability to get to the source of your issues quickly. I cannot promise that you won't cry. I cannot promise you that you won't feel. What I will promise you is that you will begin to find that your anxiety, depression, mind chatter, negativity, unworthiness will lesson as time goes on. By the third session, most people are amazed at how different they feel about themselves and their lives. What I am not good at is taking the blame for your feelings and your emotions.  

I do not judge you. I expect the same of my clients. I do not blame you. I expect the same of my clients. I am not the cause of your pain or suffering. I am here to help you grow and evolve. Without emotions moving there is no forward movement in your life. Know that crying won't kill you. It will help to release tension, stress and feel good hormones in your body. When you begin to work with me, it is like popping a cork on a champagne bottle. Once the bottle is opened, there is no turning back - only looking at yourself in the most loving way and having the life you have always dreamed about.

You Found Me

I have found that most people that come to me, find me because of the fact that I have healed my lack of self esteem, sexual dysfunction and worthiness issues. Having someone who has been where you are can be of great help to you. Although I am a certified Hypnotherapist, Certified Energy Healer, Certified Neurolinguistic Programming Practitioner....  and other things, I did not learn how to love myself through a book. I tried many different things and what I use I know works. Whether you just want to become more authentic, confident or loving of yourself, or whether you are looking for that dynamite relationship of your life, I can help you with both. 

I read a slew of books about natural healing, herbs, Traditional Chinese Medicine, Buddhism, Hinduism, psychology and emotional issues. I did this work myself. Deep emotional release, soul retrieval and healing of soul fragments that happen when we are traumatized as children. Whether it is sexual abuse, rape, or emotional abuse, I have experienced it all and am compassionate and understanding, while being direct. I won't molly coddle you. I will push you to a higher level of radiating your amazing light out into the world. I will encourage and cheer you on when you discover something new, or heal an issue. I am in your corner.

How Does Being A Channel and Intuitive Help YOU?

Since I became enlightened in 2012, I have been in direct contact with Universal energy, The Divine Mind, my guides, my clients' guides and the angels. I hear clearly. I do not stifle, misconstrue, or misdirect those messages. I give them to you as I receive them, without my filters, without changing what I hear. As quickly as those messages come in - they are gone. Channeling is like that. These are not my thoughts, so I cannot hang onto them. I often forget what I have told you in session, because I was channeling a message for you.

These messages are for you. No one knows better what you need and what your issues are than The Divine. This information is loving, direct and kind. The Divine and The Universe is always and in every way working FOR YOU! 

Already Healed

Yes I have credentials up the wazoo. But credentials aren't worth a flick if you haven't already healed yourself. Many coaches are still struggling with self esteem and trying to be happy with themselves. In 2012, I became self actualized and enlightened. Okay, you don't care about buzz words - good for you. I am not crazy about them either. 

What Does That Mean For You?

Being self actualized means I no longer need outside validation. I already have it within me, I know who I am. I am happy with me. I am connected with The Divine. I am grounded, life affirming and confident with who I am. I am not egotistical, arrogant or rude. My delivery is always compassionate, caring and direct. I don't beat around the bush and I don't waste time. It does not mean I don't have emotions. I do. When my emotions come up - I express them fully. I don't stuff them. I am not longer concerned what others think about me. You needn't worry about what others think of you either. You will enjoy life so much more when you let go of this, it is a huge waste of energy and time. 

It is none of your business what others think about you.

Maslow's Theory of Self Actualization and Qualities

What I expect of YOU

I am present with you during our sessions. I expect you to not take other calls, rush around or walk while you are talking to me. I expect you to do the homework assignments each week. Without follow-up work a coaching session does not implement the work in your daily life. You must to the homework. 

I also expect you to dig deep. I expect when an issue comes up, that you will walk towards it. I will guide you through it. I will be there with you. When you resist doing homework or moving towards your issues, you stay stuck in suffering. When you hire me, you are signifying to the Universe and The Divine that you are here to work. You are signifying that you have committed to heal your life and love and accept yourself unconditionally. You can't do that by telling me you don't want to deal with your issues. I might allow you to shelve an issues for one week. I will revisit the same issue the following week. If you refuse to move through the issue the third week, I will let you go as my client. 

I value my time and yours. However, if you don't want to do the work, I cannot work with you. I am not being a bitch about this, I am telling you what my limits and boundaries are. My commitment is to move you forward out of pain, suffering, dysfunction, addiction, and codependency. You absolve me of my commitment by telling me you don't want to look at your stuff. I will lovingly let you go. Should you choose to return to me as a client, you will sign a document that you are committed to do the work. After signing the document, you will be limited to one "walk" or glide through an issue. The following week you have to suck it up and walk through. I assure you, your standing on the dark side of your issues is much more painful and difficult than walking through to the side of happiness, peace and calm.

Sexual Healing

Don't be surprised if we work on self love issues, if you have some type of sexual dysfunction, like erectile dysfunction or HTP - Hair Trigger Penis or inability to orgasm. Erectile dysfunction is often from low self esteem - worrying about size, or worrying will my equipment work. HTP is caused by underlying rage. Don't argue with me about this.....  I can hear you. Truly it is. When the rage is taken care of - the HTP stops happening. Acupuncture works well for HTP as well.

What Changes Can You Expect?

Some of the issues that will eventually be resolved, depending on how much work you are willing to do, how deep you are willing to go and how long you work with me are:

Resolution of:

Perfectionism

Self Condemnation

Criticism

Control

Fear

Anxiety

Depression

Insomnia

Sadness

Heaviness

Codependence

Being A Victim

Addictive relationships

Relationships that you settled for

Feeling Like A Chameleon

Communication Issues

Fear of Asking for what you want

You will feel:

Happier

Grounded

Centered

Positive

Accepting

Balanced

Open

Have a Greater Sense of Self

More Connected

Fulfilled

Passion For Life

Jennifer is a certified life and sex coach. She is the author or Orgasm For Life http://www.amazon.com/Orgasm-Life-Jennifer-Elizabeth-Masters/dp/0692227172

Her website is:   htp://www.JenniferElizabethMasters.com

You can schedule a private free discovery session with Jennifer HERE