You Have The Power

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Many people feel or think that life is unfair, difficult and a big pain in the behind. We often struggle. It seems like a fight to keep our heads above water, our bills paid and hopefully have something in the bank to retire on. When our hard work doesn't pay off, or we are unhappy and alone, we may wonder what we are missing. 

I recently worked with several different women struggling with similar issues. Although the subject appears to be a departure from my usual fare, I will offer what I have learned along my path. I will debunk the common limiting beliefs that get people stuck. When we clear these beliefs life becomes easier and we recognize that we are not powerless, but powerful beyond measure.

Lie # 1: LIFE IS HARD

Life is not supposed to be hard. Society, religions, churches and governments have tried to seduce us into thinking that life needs to be difficult. We have been led to believe only certain people can be rich, wealthy and successful. There is some mystery, surrounding the wealthy. We think that there is only so much money to go around. Leaving only a limited number with all the power and money while so many have little. I am here to tell you that is utter Bull pies! Life is not supposed to be hard. We THINK it is - so it is. The more often you repeat this refrain, the more difficult life will be for you.

Instead, think:

Life is effortless and easy.  

Make this your mantra for one week. Watch and see what happens. Instead of thinking life is hard. Think that life is easy. At first, your ego might tell you that you are full of the brown stuff. Ignore that voice. Listening to your ego is what has gotten you into this mess in the first place. Your ego will eventually give up the fight, after you recognize that voice is hurting you rather than helping.

Lie # 2: EVERYONE IS OUT TO GET ME!

This one, I believed for the longest time. When we believe we are victims, we will attract situations where we will be abused, cheated on and lied to. Everyone seems to jump on the bandwagon when we believe we are powerless victims. When we start recognizing that we are responsible for what happens to us, we shift our paradigm. No one is a victim. You are not a victim. 

Instead take responsibility for your health. Take responsibility for your life. Recognize that you are creating this hell on earth simply by thinking negative thoughts. Telling your story of woe over and over again is like shouting into a megaphone. Then the Universe sends us more of what we are complaining about. We re-create our past by talking about it. Which brings more negative events to your door. Even thinking that you are powerless and a victim brings a conveyor belt of crap to your door. 

When you begin to change your thoughts and think positive thoughts, your life will change. Use the mantras below daily. Repeat them often, especially when you are driving, standing in front of the mirror, or in the shower. When you are doing mindless activities, your mind is in what I call neutral. This is how you get past the gatekeeper of the unconscious mind.  Use these mantras daily. Watch and see what happens.

Mantras: 
I AM POWERFUL. 
I AM RESPONSIBLE. 
I AM STRONG. 
I AM VIBRANTLY HEALTHY.
I AM AFFLUENT AND SUCCESSFUL.

Lie # 3: I AM NOT GOOD ENOUGH or  or I AM UNWORTHY.

I love this one. I certainly struggled with feeling not good enough for more than half of my life. We are told by teachers parents, clergy, "Try harder!" "You can do better!" When is enough enough? When are we ever good enough if we are constantly striving for perfection? 

First of all, in spite of what some think, we will never be perfect. When you let go of that, you recognize that you are already enough. God didn't create JUNK. You are not JUNK. So therefore you are already ENOUGH. You are Perfect AS YOU ARE. No matter what weight you feel you need to be and are NOT, no matter how much you feel you need to have in the bank, and don't, no matter who you need you feel you need to be married to or have in your life - all that does not matter. Having stuff or things is not what life and success is all about. As I have witnessed with several close friends who have died, they left all their stuff behind. None of your material belongings matter when you die.

I have seen people drag furniture, statues, closets full of clothes across the country. People fight over their belongings when they divorce. Yet none of this matters one bit when you die. One woman recently moved, had 15 boxes of towels. How can you possibly use all those towels?

What does matter is the contribution you made to humanity, or to the earth. What did you contribute to the children you raised? Did you raise healthy confident children who are sharing their light in the world? Then you have succeeded. Are you sharing your wisdom and gifts with others? Then you are a success in my book.

What Is Success?

My definition of success is being okay as you are where you are. Success to me is being happy with who we are, loving our lives and feeling passionate about what we are contributing to humanity. The Universe loves win-win situations, helping others in some way, helps you to manifest your desires.

Money is just energy. I have had tons of money, a beautiful home, with oodles of shoes, clothes, gorgeous furniture, silver table settings, three sets of bone china, 2 BMWs in the driveway and I never felt so lost, unhappy and lonely. Money does not make you happy. You make you happy. What you do makes you happy.

Lie #4: ONLY CERTAIN PEOPLE CAN BE RICH

Thinking that only certain people can be rich and you aren't one of them is one of the biggest limiting beliefs that people have. Wealthy people are focused. Most people focus on the wrong things, like activities that waste time and don't make you any money. A clear focus is so important. Most of us are so fragmented, focusing on children, friends, neighbors husbands, bills, payments, work, laundry....  we are not focused on our DESIRES! The way people get rich is by clear laser focus and not spending their money on frivolous things. Wealthy people are good stewards of their money. They don't waste. They don't fritter money away on things that don't matter. They are careful with their money. Anyone can be wealthy. Even you.

Lie #5: IT'S ENOUGH TO BE A GOOD PERSON

Being a good person is important. However, it will not put bread on the table and money in your bank account. If you don't ask, you don't receive. If you don't INTEND, you don't get. If you expect nothing - you get NOTHING.

Many people miss the power of Intention. When we expect good things to happen - they do. When we expect bad things to happen they do. We have to Intend how we wish to feel. We have to intend what we wish to receive. We have to Intend what we want from The Universe. How do we do that? We have to ASK and EXPECT. Not beg. Begging gets you nothing. Begging is not appreciated by The Universe. It is like groveling. 

Lie # 6 DREAMERS ARE WASTING THEIR TIME

Albert Einstein said that intellect is nothing without imagination. Envisioning your desires and what you want to create is the key to having your desires fulfilled. 

Your imagination is the key to your success. Whatever your mind can conceive and believe, you can achieve.

Listening to people who put you down for your dreams will get you off track. I remember hearing all sorts of criticism about my book, Orgasm For Life. I was told it takes 4 years to write a book and that mine couldn't possibly be any good because it only took me 3 months to write it. Horse hockey! I was also criticized by Spiritual people for writing a book about sex. Who created sex after all? God did. You can't get more spiritual than that!

Don't listen to others. Stay focused on your dreams! People often will discourage or mislead you. 

When your desires are strong enough, you will appear to have superhuman powers. The Master Key System, by Charles Haanel


Lie #7 Happiness is Found in THINGS.

Happiness is found in DOING, not having. Things do not bring happiness. A relationship will not bring happiness if you are not already happy. Money does not bring you happiness either. Being happy comes from inside of you. 

Happiness is found within. No one can make you happy. You make yourself happy. You are the one that makes you laugh. Sometimes laughing at ourselves is the greatest gift of all.

Lasting happiness is not found in the material. Lasting happiness comes from within YOU.

Lie #8 There is Only So Much Money To Go Around

This is the biggest lie of all. There is unlimited abundance. Money is energy and energy is unlimited. You must never think that the supply is limited. The supply will never run out. Nature is formed for the advancement of life. The Universe and nature are both abundant. There is plenty for everyone. It is our belief in lack that creates lack.


Lie #9 You Are Powerless

Most people are afraid of their own power. Most of us were raised to believe that power was only reserved for certain Holy men who walked on water and turned water into wine. 

Even the Bible talks about it. That the Spirit of God resides in each of us. That we have the power to do what Jesus did AND MORE! 

How you tap into this power is by stepping inside. Most people have no idea the depths of wisdom and knowledge that resides within each of us. We are powerful beyond measure, capable of manifesting with a thought. We just need to be present, connected, focused and there you go! The fastest way to manifest is by asking questions.

How can I effortlessly and easily receive ________?
How can I effortlessly and easily have _________?
How can my life get any better than this?
How can my webinars be filled effortlessly?

Ask and you will receive. There was a reason this was said. All you have to do is ask. The problem is, that most people state rather than ask. When you make a statement - The Universe will make it true. Because The Universe is always and in EVERY WAY working FOR YOU!

If you state: I AM POOR. The Universe will make it so.
If you state: I HAVE NO MONEY. The Universe will make it so. 

Get it? Don't make closed-ended statements, because The Universe wants to make you RIGHT! 

Remember to ASK questions. The Universe always makes you right.

LIE # 10 God (and The Universe) Doesn't Answer Prayers

Read number 9 again. Then look back at all the times you have made statements about what you did not have. Remember all the times you stated: "I don't have the money for _______" 

Each time you open your mouth you are making a prayer and sending it out like shouting into a megaphone.....   "HEAR MY PRAYER: I DON'T HAVE MONEY!"   The Universe will make that statement so. You won't have money. The Universe will always make you right. It will rush in and give you what you asked for whether it is positive or negative. Instead, focus on your desires and begin to say THANK YOU in advance. Thank God and The Universe for what is on its way. 

Giving thanks is showing the Universe your faith. Faith is an absolute must in order to receive your desires. I remember watching a YouTube broadcast of Jack Canfield talking about The Law of Attraction. He said, "You don't order a pizza and then keep calling them back to see if they are making it. You don't keep calling to check in to see if they got your order right. You have faith that they will make it and deliver it, as asked." The Universe and God are the same way. You have to believe it is already taken care of! You have to believe it is on its way. The act of faith is giving gratitude for what is already on its way to you now!

The law of gratitude is absolutely necessary. If you don't control what you think, you can't control what you do. You must form a clear and definite picture of what you want. All you need to know is what you want, and to want it badly enough.

Great achievement is formed by great sacrifice. Most people have achieved their greatest success just one step beyond their greatest failure.

Answer the following questions:

A. How much time do you spend every day focusing on what you        wish to create? 

B. How much time do you spend on FaceBook, Linked IN, 

     Pinterest or talking on your phone? Most people spend an average of 4 hours a day on FaceBook, LinkedIn and Twitter combined.

C. How much time do you spend answering or reading e-mails that

    are not moving you forward in life?

If the total of B+C = more than A, there is your problem. You are spending time on activities that do not get you further down the road. You are fragmented and unfocused. To manifest your desires, you have to focus on them - every day, at least once a day. The stronger you are with your focus the faster you will manifest your desires. Your focus must be crystal clear, uncluttered and laser sharp.

Do you have a clear image of what you DESIRE?

IMPORTANT

You have to know what you desire

1. You must know what you DESIRE.
2. You must have clarity about your DESIRE.
   
3. Write down what you DESIRE. Make it BIG.
4. Your desire must be strong enough.
5. Feel how it will be to have this desire manifest in your life. How will this change your life? How will you FEEL to have your desire manifested? Feel it. Envision what it is you desire upon awakening, before going to sleep and anytime you can during the day. Do not deviate. Do not change it. Do not bring it back and think that The Universe doesn't know how to bring it to you. 
6. Be grateful for your desire. Give thanks for it every day.
7. Know that you have the power to manifest your desires. You do it every day with the negative thoughts you have focused on. 

Other Keys To Success and Affluence

ACT AS IF you already have money. Dress well. You have nice clothes. Wear them instead of your sweats. Shower, do your makeup and your hair, you will feel better. When you feel better, you vibrate higher and you magnetize good things to you. The higher your vibration is the better. 

Raise Your Vibration to Love or Above

You want to get your vibration above 500 - which means feeling Joy, Peace, Love and Gratitude. Gratitude is one of the easiest ways to raise your vibration. The energy of Gratitude will help you manifest your desires. If you are in fear, worrying about lack of money, focusing on your desires won't get you what you want. Your vibration is too low. Jump up and down! Exercise. Sing. Dance. Do whatever will help you raise your vibration to LOVE. 

You have to take RIGHT ACTION. Don't sit around with your fingers in the OM position and expect money to fall out of the sky into your lap. I was married to someone like that. Believe me, it never happened! You must take action. You must persevere. You must never give up!

YOU HAVE THE POWER

Remember you are POWERFUL beyond measure. Everything you need is right inside of you. You don't need to go outside of yourself to find happiness. Inside of you is a deep well of LOVE. You just have forgotten.

Action, is the real measure of intelligence.

Good thoughts and good actions bring results.You are made and unmade by yourself, by your choices. You hold the key to every situation.

You have to aspire to achieve.

Begin with your imagination. Imagine yourself in the new car, home or relationship. Feel how your life will be different. Experience every little detail in your mind. Get excited about your desire. First thought, then organization of plans, then  the transformation of your plans turns into reality.

Patience, persistence and self-control are key to success. 

A genius is simply one who has taken full possession of their own mind and directed it towards objectives of their own choosing without being discouraged by outside influences.

If you don't see great riches in your mind, you will never see them in your bank account. 

A quitter never wins and a winner never quits. 

Right thought is mastery.

The ladder of success is never crowded at the top.

There is no such word as impossible.

As a catalystic life coach, Jennifer innately brings up your inner most issues. It is a gift of healing which helps you move through your healing process more easily. 

Check out her website: http://www.JenniferElizabethMasters.com

Jennifer has a weekly radio show on Wednesday nights at 5:00 PM PST and 8:00 PM EST. This week's show is about how crazy women are. Yup, we're freaking nuts! I am a woman and I speak for myself. Want to hear my take on just how crazy we are and why

men can't understand us? Join me this Wednesday for MANIFESTING YOUR DESIRES. 

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Jennifer Elizabeth Masters is a life, love and sex coach. She is a teacher of Metaphysics and an author of two books, Odyssey Victim to Victory and Orgasm For Life. You can sign up for special offers and classes through Jennifer's website: www.JenniferElizabethMasters.com

Sex As Medicine

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Grammy award winner Marvin Gaye sang about sexual healing back in 1982. What most people are unaware of is that sex heals. We know of sex as a release from the build-up of tension for men. Women also, reap wonderful health benefits. What most people are unaware of is that sex leads to mental, physical and spiritual health. When our bodies relax post coitus, we sleep better. Resentment, anger and agitation are released. It is hard to stay angry when your bodies are entwined in surrender.

Surrender, is the art of letting go. In order to have an orgasm you have to let go of thoughts, stress, anger and your long list of to-do items. You can't orgasm hanging on for dear life to control, manipulation or fears.
Friend and sexual educator, Devi Ward has written and talked about sex as medicine for some time. She shared her thoughts with me. I have included a whole chapter on the medicinal qualities of sex (Chapter Six) in Orgasm For Life, my new soon to be Global Best seller! Following the previous link will take you to Amazon.com to purchase it.

Sex is Fun

Because of the way I was raised, it took me a long time to realize that sex was not always serious, but could be fun, a time of laughter and connection between two people that deepens intimacy, creates a stronger bond between two people and makes you feel amazing, in ways nothing else could!

A Touch Of Enlightenment

Wanting to increase energy in your pineal gland? Have an orgasm. When you follow the energy that rises up through the central channel through the spine and culminates in the frontal lobe of the brain, you experience a touch of God. Which is why so many people say, "Oh God! Oh God! Oh God!," when they are in the throws of ecstasy. 

The Health Benefits of Sex

My 92 year-old mother suffers from migraines. I tell her all the time, that all she needs is an orgasm and it would take care of the pain. She laughs, but doesn't take my advice. Here are some great health benefits you probably didn't consider when you said "No!" the last time it was offered.

Sex helps you live longer. Men who have sex twice a week have been reported to live 50% longer than men not having sex at all.

1. Sex increases cardiovascular health. 
2. Sex lowers blood pressure.
3. Natural pain reliever. Sex reduces pain up to 50% and will not cause liver damage like other pain meds do.
4. Tightens the abdominal muscles better than a gym work out.
5. Relieves stress. 75% - 90% of all health issues are stress related. Sex is 10 times more effective than Valium for relieving stress in the body.
6. Better than drugs! An orgasm activates the same part of the brain as pain, releasing the natural FEEL GOOD hormones of the brain. 
7. Neurons get excited too! Endorphins flood the space between the nerve cells and inhibit neurons from firing. This acts as an analgesic for the body.
8. Regular sex keeps the male and female genitalia from atrophy. If too much time passes between sexual encounters, sex hormones drop in production. Regular sex keeps the hormones actively producing.
9. Sex keeps your penis and testicles from shrinking with age.
10. Sex provides much needed touch to keep us humans thriving. Sex calms the nerves, lowers anxiety and generally makes us feel good.
11. Immune Boost. Kissing provides the body with an immune boost. Kissing keeps a couple connected but also boosts your immunity to certain diseases. Kissing is also a stress reliever.
12. Reduces risk of heart attack.
13. Reduces risk of stroke.
14. Relieves depression - better than an anti-depressant.
15. Burns calories.
16. Increases intimacy.
17. Keeps menstrual cycles regular. Yes it does ladies!
18. Couples who have regular sex have better relationships and happier lives. They just have more FUN!

For those who are not in the mood, it is time to get that stick out of your ass and increase your life span. Enjoy life more - and improve your bitchy mood!

Jennifer Elizabeth Masters is a catalystic life, love and sex coach. She is offering a 6 week group coaching program with 90 minutes of live coaching. This is a Love Yourself Fearlessly program designed to step into your power, connect with your high self and unblock limiting beliefs, boosting self esteem. Most people report by the third week a pronounced change, that lasts. Where else can you get these types of quick and permanent results?

The tentative date of this 6-week bust through your negativity program will begin in late August. There are limited spaces available. The cost of this program is $497. Considering Jennifer's private coaching sessions go for $250 an hour, 6 x 90 minutes of group coaching for $497 is a deal! You will receive the benefits of hypnotherapy, Neurolinguistic Programming, Avatar Training and Energy clearings. You will have the opportunity to ask questions that pertain to your own issues. Jennifer will coach you on the air and walk you through the resolution process.

You can e-mail her for questions about how this can help you get your happy on! Her sessions are like no other coaches, as she includes the following: hypnotherapy, Avatar training, Neurolinguistic Programming, energy healing and clearing of limiting blocks and patterns (from past and current lives) the Akashic Records, Divine Guidance.

As a catalystic life coach, Jennifer innately brings up your inner most issues. It is a gift of healing which helps you move through your healing process more easily. 

Check out her website: http://www.JenniferElizabethMasters.com
Jennifer has a weekly radio show on Wednesday nights at 5:00 PM PST and 8:00 PM EST. This week's show is about how crazy women are. Yup, we're freaking nuts! I am a woman and I speak for myself. Want to hear my take on just how crazy we are and why men can't understand us? Join me this Wednesday. "WOMEN ARE CRAZY" is the title of this week's show. The week following is entitle, "Men are Stupid!" Yup....  each sex has their day in court. Join me for fun. Life is short - live it up and laugh at yourself at the same time. 

I invite your comments and questions. E-mail me, suggestions for blogs or questions here.

Jennifer can be found every Wednesday morning on WRN Radio with host Eric Jones.  It is an unlikely match, that works well, with Sonya, Quincey, Eric and I. I am the white girl. Every Wednesday we talk about sex, how to make it better and deepen your relationship at the same time. You can find Eric and his crew on FaceBook HERE.

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Crippling Codependency

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

My mom and dad

When we are born, our mother's take care of us. They feed us, change us and hopefully love, and snuggle with us, taking care of our emotional needs. They tell us how wonderful we are and make us feel that we are the best thing since sliced bread! However, often our parents did not have good self esteem themselves. They pass on their insecurities to us.

When we are raised by a mother who is insecure, codependent or addicted in some way, our needs are not usually met. We grow up needing outside validation from others, or perhaps to be in a relationship to feel whole. Often parents make us responsible for their happiness, which leaves us feeling loved only when we are perfect. Unconditional love on the other hand breeds  a strong sense of self worth.

My mother became orphaned at the age of 5. Her mother died immediately after childbirth, due to no medical care. Although she had 5 previous home-births without difficulty, her last one did her in. Sadly, her father could not face life without his wife and poisoned himself while most of his children slept. My mother had awakened when he was pulling down the 50 pound bag of sugar from the attic. She was a sensitive child and knew something was a-miss. He told her to go back to sleep. 

After 92 years, my mother still talks about not having a mother. She struggles with insecurities, negativity, criticism, reactivity and needing to be validated by others for a sense of self worth. 

If we do not heal our childhood trauma, we carry it to our grave. We will never really feel lasting happiness either until we let go of our past. Forgiveness, gratitude and recognizing that each event in our life has a silver lining helps us move through guilt, resentment and anger. When we say thank you for the lessons learned and the gift, received, we begin to look at our past relationships as just experiences rather than mistakes. Each event teaches us more about ourselves.

After doing energy healing for over seven years, I have done over 2,000 energy clearings for people with issues of low self esteem, sexual dysfunction, blocks, suicide and depression (just to name a few of the things that can be cleared). These clearings help to eliminate limiting beliefs of unworthiness and not feeling lovable. 

Codependency comes from not feeling unlovable or unworthy. We feel incomplete in some way. This incomplete feeling leads to looking to others to feel full and fulfilled. Codependent people usually have addictions of some kind. The substance or activity is used in an effort to fulfill the person's emptiness and internal loneliness.

I suffered from codependency for years. As a result, I had to be in a relationship. I was a serial monogamist, going from one relationship into another. When in a relationship I gave up friends, visits with family, even jobs for the other person in an effort to PLEASE THEM. I even sent my oldest son to go live with his father because my current husband could not stand him. 

We tend to be people pleasers when we are codependent. We are obsessed with what others think and feel about us. We often feel lonely even when in a relationship. There is an emptiness that plagues us.

You May Be Codependent If:

1. You are barely breathing. Shallow breathing shows that you do not feel worthy to even breathe in and affirm life.
2. You have addictions - even to relationships or people.
3. You need to be in a relationship to feel whole and complete.
4. You are a people pleaser.
5. You will turn yourself inside out to please your partner or others.
6. You are overly concerned about what others think about you.
7. You doubt yourself.
8. You have difficulty making decisions.
9. You don't trust yourself.
10. You feel depressed and unhappy much of the time. 
11. You could also be overly emotional or dramatic when life's events happen.
12. Difficulty coping with life.
13. You find yourself going from one bad relationship to another.
14. Your lover, boyfriend, girlfriend or spouse cheats on you.
15. You are often disrespected by others.
16. You have a lot of fears.
17. You have anxiety or panic attacks.
18. You are controlling.
19. You are perfectionist.
20. Feel insecure.
21. Low self esteem.
22. Use manipulation to get what you want, could be making partner jealous to get attention.
23. Don't feel deserving of love.
24. Worry that you are not smart enough, pretty enough, or just not enough.
25. Give up jobs, friends, pets, children, loved ones to please your partner.
26. You blame others (parents, siblings life's events) for where you are.
27. You don't take responsibility for your own happiness. You expect someone else to MAKE YOU HAPPY.
28. May have poor personal boundaries - or even none.
29. Feel uncomfortable in your own skin.
30. May be concerned that people are looking at you.
31. You settle for relationships, because you are afraid of being alone.
32. You may have a difficult time speaking your truth (what is on your mind and heart).
33. You enable your partner, children and loved ones. 
34. You have difficulty making unpopular decisions for fear that they won't love you. Tough love is very difficult for you.

Being Codependent Isn't Fun

When we are codependent we often even change who we are for the other person, in an effort to make them happy. The end result is that you loose yourself and may find a need to end the relationship to find YOU. The problem is, that you may think a different relationship will do it for you. A new relationship only brings more of the same issues. You are the common denominator in all these relationships. Until you begin to look within, nothing will change.

Pain

Pain is what leads us to want things to change. When the pain becomes too great, it causes us to look for solutions.

How To Begin To Live Independently and Balanced

1. Be compassionate towards yourself.
2. Be your authentic self. People will love the REAL YOU!
3. Stop making excuses for yourself and others.
4. Take responsibility for yourself and your happiness. Choose to be happy!
5. Let go of trying to be perfect.
6. Breathe deeply. Affirm life and your worthiness.
7. Speak your truth as it comes up, instead of worrying about what others will think of you.
8. Stop focusing on what others think of you. What others think is none of your business.
9. Be soft and kind to you.
10. Nurture yourself each day.
11. Don't give up your workout, friends or job for another person.
12. Put yourself first instead of the relationship.
13. Use the mantra: I LOVE ME.
14. Meditate daily. Use The Divine Presence Process Meditation. It will fill you with love and help connect you to your Divine (or High Self).
15. Work on setting healthy limits and boundaries. 

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All of our relationships mirror what is going on inside of us. They show us our own insecurities, feelings of lack and disrespect of self. 

Jennifer's Story The Short Version:

I used to do all of the above. I blamed my parents, the fact that I was molested as a child for everything. True those things impacted my life. But, they were put in my life to help me recognize who I truly was. 

After my third marriage ended, I recognized that I was the common denominator in all of my failed relationships. I could not continue blaming others. I had to take responsibility for myself and my own happiness. I had to OWN my emotions, rather than blame others for how I felt. I began to CHOOSE to be HAPPY.

I used to go to concerts and sit there with my hands neatly folded in my lap and watch others dance in the aisles. I wished I could clap to the music. I was so painfully concerned what others thought about me, I could not even do that. Today, I have no concern about what others think of me. I know that I can't please everyone. When I used to try, I was the one that was left feeling unhappy.

Today I live in joy, peace, harmony and happiness every day. I never feel lonely. Through loving and accepting all parts of myself completely (even the ones I did not like) I healed a lifetime of depression, insomnia, anxiety, Epstein Barr, (autoimmune disease) Fibromyalgia, sexual dysfunction and unfounded fear. I realized my negative thoughts were killing me. They were causing me pain in my body. Even after years of healing and self love, I found I had a little more resentment of my mother to heal.

I have healed breast cancer without chemo and surgery, by loving myself and forgiving myself and my mother a little bit more. I am totally fearless. Instead of being insecure, I feel strong, powerful and incredibly happy with my life. It does not matter where I live or who I a with. It does not matter how much money I have, or what car I drive. I feel joy by just being alive. Life is thrilling to me. I live each day with passion. I love life and love what I do. The key here is that you can too. 

My own emotional unrest and unhappiness drove me to become a hypnotherapist, Neurolinguistic Programming Practitioner and an energy healer. I used all of these things on myself to feel better about my life. I began to meditate every day. I released the stuck emotions, tears, anger and resentment.  I cried and released deep anger, when my last marriage ended. This made me recognize that all the energy healing in the world does not release stuck emotions from the cells. These things need to be allowed to move out.  Now, when I feel emotion, it moves quickly through me and it gone. I don't dwell on things for days. I get over them quickly.

I healed the soul fragmentation that occurred from the fear of being molested. This caused me to feel broken and incomplete within myself. I feel completely whole, grounded and strong.

Because I have done these things and created a healing modality to get these deep issues, I know it works. There was never a more negative person than me on this planet. If I can do this, anyone can! I have been where you are. I have lived with a feeling of not wanting to be in my own skin. I used to wish I could be anyone else but me. Now, I couldn't imagine being anyone but who I am. 

How It Works

When we love ourselves completely, we become a magnet for positive events and people. We attract the people and events we need to get things done. Synchronistic events occur, like magic. Life works for us, when we are positive instead of negative. 

When we love ourselves, we attract people who love themselves also. When you respect yourself, others will respect you as well. When you take responsibility for your own happiness, you stop looking for others to do it for you. You know it has to come fro within. When you are happy with you, you will be happy no matter where you are or who you are with. Your self worth will be present no matter what. Happiness is not fleeting when you love yourself, it resides within you. You are not looking for anyone else to fulfill you or make you happy. When you love yourself, you are happy and come to the relationship table already full, fulfilled and confident.

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5 Ways To Improve Your Life Right Now

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

When we think life is hard, it will be. When we resist life and life's events, we suffer. When we intend for our life to be positive blissful and  happy we are choosing something better for ourselves. 

When we encounter angry people in our world, it is because we are angry. Most of us are unaware of the emotions lurking in our unconscious mind. When we encounter people who complain, bitch or moan about their problems, it is because we complain about our own. Whatever we focus on expands, whether it is positive or negative. Our thoughts are magnified by repeating them.

Whatever is going on inside of us is reflected in our outside world. If we attract men who control us, it is because we are afraid of being alone. If people show up in our life that are angry, it is because we either have an intense fear of anger, or we have inner rage ourselves. 

Whatever we fear we attract. Whatever we think we attract. If we meet resentful negative people in our outside world, it is because we are resentful and negative. Energy moves in a circle. Whatever we send out comes right back to us. Often we are unaware of the energies we are putting out with our thoughts. Most of us are thinking unconscious thoughts without knowing or being aware of what they are. If we fear it, we will attract it. If we worry about not having enough money, The Universe will brings us more lack to worry about. 

LOOK FOR THE SILVER LINING

There is always a gift and a lesson in everything that happens. Look for the silver lining in each event. When a marriage or relationship ends, there is always 

Life Is Happening FOR You Always

Thinking thoughts that life is not fair, do not serve you. Stop this madness! Life is always and in EVERY way, working FOR you, not against you. Life is being orchestrated FOR you, beautifully. It is your thoughts that are creating the havoc in your life.

Reprogramming Our Thoughts

It is easier to change our conscious thoughts than our unconscious ones. So let's begin with what we are thinking. We have heard it all before, thoughts are things. If we think it, we create it. We need to think about our mind as a pristine proving ground. If we swear, we will lower our vibration and bring more negativity to us. If we think resentful thoughts about our ex, co-workers or children, people who are resentful will show up in our lives. These people are merely a reflection of what is going on in our mind.

Fitness For The Mind

Obsessing about a break-up, the ass hole that cut us off on the road, or the bank teller who seemed rude, all bring more of these things to us. Instead learn to NOT GIVE IT ENERGY. Let it go. When we think one particular thought over again we are obsessing. Sometimes a thought loops and plays like a broken record. This is particularly difficult to stop, but can be done. Coming to me for an energy clearing helps to clear the limiting belief or programming that is playing in your head. The more you think a negative thought about another, the more negativity you are bringing into tomorrow.

Like Attracts Like

Thinking positive thoughts will attract positive people, events and things into your life. Thinking negative thoughts, worrying or doubting yourself will bring you negative situations, lack and more to worry about.

Doing a drive-by to see what your girlfriends' new boyfriend's house is like, does not serve you and is like pouring acid on your heart. What is the point? You are only causing yourself more pain and perpetuating a thought. "She hurt me! Why is she doing this TO ME?...." or whatever you might be thinking.

Here are some suggestions to change your thought process into positive uplifting thoughts that will help you rather than hurt you. 

5 Ways To Improve Your Life Right Now

1. Forgive yourself for attracting this situation into your life using the Ho'oponopono Prayer below.
2. Let go of the negative past. Thinking about it is only giving it power. Each time you think a negative thought you are creating a ball and chain of negative energy which you are dragging around. This ball and chain gets heavier with each thought. It is not serving you. Let it go. Use a mantra to change your thought processes. I have some suggestions below.
3. Replace the negative thought with a mantra pick one that works for you, use one for a week and then change it up: I LOVE ME! I AM SAFE. GOOD THINGS ARE COMING TO ME EVERY DAY. ALL IS WELL IN MY WORLD. I AM BLISS. I AM LOVE. I AM BLESSED. I AM JOY. I KNOW THAT MIRACLES HAPPEN EVERY DAY AND I EXPECT MY MIRACLE TODAY!
4. Meditate each day. 
5. Raise your vibration every day. Guilt, shame, fear are all very low vibrating energies. Joy, peace, love and gratitude will raise your vibration. Gratitude is one of the easiest ways when you feel low to bring up your vibration. You have eyes that see, legs that move, a mind that thinks, food to eat, a roof over your head. The more you focus on the things you already have, the better your life will become. Gratitude gives everything fuel to manifest more good into your life.

The Ho'oponopono Prayer

This prayer although simplistic, is very powerful for healing the past hurt you have had. Always forgive yourself first for attracting the situation into your life. Then spend some time thinking about the other person. This does not mean you condone the other person's behavior. But NOT forgiving is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.

I am sorry

Please forgive me

I love you

Thank you

Spend at least 20 minutes doing this prayer for you first. Then spend about the same time forgiving the other person. You will feel better as a result. It releases you from the resentment of the other. Resentment can cause cancer. It does not serve you in the least. Talking about how much the other person did to you with everyone you come in contact with does not serve you and perpetuates negative energy, creating the negative events of tomorrow.

Set An Intention For Each Day

If you don't ask, you don't get. If you don't intend, you can't bring it forth. So each day, decide how you want to feel for the whole day. Make it BIG! Intend to feel one of the following:

Powerful

Fully Alive

Positive

Expansive

Joyful

Grateful

Loving

Strong

Join Jennifer tonight for Love Yourself Fearlessly Radio. Tonight's show is about THE MOLECULES OF EMOTION. How our emotions create havoc within our bodies when we hold on. How to release emotions safely. How to create more joy, peace and love in your life. 

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Jennifer is an author, life, love and sex coach. She empowers men and women to love themselves fearlessly, creating positive loving, healthy and balanced relationships. Trust, intimacy, and respect are the cornerstones for a great relationship. But first you must give love to yourself. Without self love, you will attract lack: lack of respect, lack of love, lack of trust, lack of commitment. Self love is the cornerstone to all healthy realtionships. Loving yourself is the first and foremost focus for healing your life, your world and bringing you permanent lasting happiness.

Jennifer is a healed healer. Working with Jennifer will cause your issues to come up. She is a catalystic healer. It is natural for her. It is not anything that she does. It is who she is. 

You can e-mail Jennifer here: Or visit her website:  http://www.JenniferElizabethMasters.com

Why I Don't Do Internet Dating

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Online dating is everywhere. There are thousands of sites to choose from. From Match.com, Zoosk, or E-Harmony as paid sites, Plenty of Fish, Adult Friend Finder, are any of them safe? There are pitfalls meeting on-line. 

Strange Masked People

My recent experience with Match.com earlier this year was eye opening. I signed up for a three month membership. After three weeks on line, I closed down my profile and ended my membership. Find out why.

I spent hours creating a profile of myself. It was clear, honest and forthright. I was not looking for marriage, but wanted someone I could trust and enjoy spending time with. I was not interested in a hook-up, or "hang-out." I wanted to take my time and get to know someone, slowly.

Though I set my profile for people within 250 miles, I had men messaging me from across the country. I had people tell me they would move to wherever I was. I knew that was not a good idea. Pressure to choose or make a decision can cause you to make a snap decision and choose the wrong person. When someone will move across the country without even knowing you, you have to wonder about their life there.

Being Intuitive Has Advantages

I sense energy. I can tell the difference in an e-mail from the "voice" of one person and the "voice" or energy of a different person. 

Immediate Chatting?

The people that wanted to "chat" immediately were masked and fake. They immediately wanted to move to private e-mailing rather than staying on the site.  Often the excuse was that they didn't want to discuss what they did for a living on the dating site. If someone can't tell you what they do for a living, you have to question why they would want to shift you to private e-mailing.

I found out that this was because they had fake profiles which would be shut down within days. The responses came from several different people, from several different e-mail addresses. I already sensed that there were different energies and more than one person responding. The photos were of models from catalogues and Internet sites. One such photo was a picture of a gentleman clad in a business suit, carrying a brief case. 

Your Time Is Precious

Taking matters into your own hands can mean you have instant dates. Are the dates you have going to be meaningful, or a waste of your precious time?

We have a tendency to accept dates from people on the Internet because we have spent money on the dating site. We want to get our money's worth. Unless the person has similar interests to you, don't bother. If you aren't a Harley riding Bess, don't date a man with a Harley! You will not be happy when he asks you out on a road trip.

Dating takes time and energy. Meeting in person allows eye contact, a chance to feel the other person's energy and get a sense of whether they are authentic or not. You can make eye contact and watch facial expressions. You can see if they are intent on what you are saying or checking their cell phone or texting while you talk.

On the Internet, you see a photo, but cannot be certain this photo is of the actual person, or a better looking cousin. It is easy to hide the truth on the Internet. 

Even profiles lie. If someone says they are an occasional smoker, they could be a chain-smoking chimney. You have to read between the lines. To one person, two drinks a night could be "a  social drinker." To a health and fitness nut, this could spell alcoholic. The truth can be stretched easily on the Internet for each person's purposes.

Lies, I Tell You! Lies!

There are many ways to lie and hide on the Internet. The photo you see could be 15 years old, and 50 pounds lighter that their current state. I met a man in person who had pictured himself in a tuxedo 20 years earlier when he still had hair! He was completely bald in person. 

Both sexes post photos of themselves when they were younger and lighter. When you meet someone in person, there is no mistake. You see them as they are. They cannot hide how they look. 

What You Are Telling The Universe

Signing up for on-line dating if you believe in the law of attraction does not support you. What you are telling God and The Universe is "I don't believe that you can do your job! I am going to step in and show you how it's done! I know better than YOU!"

Instead, I trust that The Divine will bring me who I am supposed to date, by putting that the person on my path. They will show up like there is a light bulb, or halow around them. Just like when I was doing landscaping, a glow was placed around the object I would need to complete the job. The Universe will send you exactly what you need, rather than what YOU think you want.

Where Can I Meet Someone?

Everyone buys gasoline for their car and groceries to eat. We shop at Costco, Publix, Albertson's King Supers or Walmart. Noticing the people around you in line or in the produce department can open a door for you. Be open. Look up. Notice who is walking beside you, or in line ahead of you in line. Talk to people in the store. When someone walks past you two or three times, maybe you need to ask them a question. Open up the lines of communication. 

If you don't leave your house or apartment, of course there will be no opportunity to meet someone. Why not frequent the places you have interest in, like art galleries, zoos, coffee houses, or even a library? Look around you when you are getting gas for your car. 

Trust

When you trust yourself you will also trust The Universe and The Divine. The Universe will never lie to you. Your body will never lie to you. Notice the signs and sounds your body gives to you when you meet someone. Does your heart go pitter patter, or does your stomach drop as in: Oh Oh? Faith requires that you let go of fear. 

You Attract What You Are

An important Universal Law, you attract what you are. If you are indecisive, you will attract someone who will force you to make decisions. If you are in fear, you will attract someone who will victimize you or cheat on you. If you are in denial of who you are, you will attract someone who will lie to you. 

Be The Love

To have love, you have to give it. The person you must give it to first is you. Start loving yourself today. When we are filled with self love, we attract someone who will accept us, rather than attempt to change us, because we accept ourselves. Coming to the table already filled means your relationship will be healthy, balanced, rather than based on neediness and emptiness. When we are looking for someone to fill us up, our relationship will eventually fail. No one can make us happy, but us. A relationship will bring you joy, and peace, when you already have peace within.

Jennifer Elizabeth Masters is a life, love and sex coach. She has been codependent, and needy. Jennifer understands what it feels like and can help you recover. She is a gifted healer and coach, getting to the root of your personal issues quickly. She is the author or Orgasm For Life a book to increase intimacy, understanding and communication so that your relationship becomes more connected. With trust, respect and authenticity sex is better and love expands. 

Visit Jennifer's website here. Or E-mail her to set up your 30 minute Discovery session to find out if her catalyst coaching will work for you. She will be on Nazim Rashid's Reconnected show, this Saturday, July 19th at 11:00 AM PST time. 

 

Can You Live WIthout Affection?

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Humans need touch to thrive. Unless you have a close connection with your partner, you are probably not getting enough affection. After years of marriage, many people stop having sex, and rarely touch each other. This is just sad. When we don't get love and attention from our partner, we can feel very alone and lonely within our relationship. 

Do you hug people when you first meet? I do. I am a hugger. When an outstretched hand is offered, I rarely shake it, instead I walk forward and hug the unsuspecting soul. I like to hug and connect heart-to-heart with left arm up over the other person's shoulder. This way when we hug, our heart's connect.

I recently went on a shopping expedition, at a store in Denver. I was sent there by a dear client. I rarely shop, but when I do, I buy several things at a time. I spent several hours trying on different clothes and outfits to find just the right thing. After I paid for my purchases, the owner of the shop came around the counter and said to me, "What fun I had helping you. You were so OPEN." She hugged me good-bye as she had enjoyed helping me as much as I had enjoyed shopping. A hug signals acceptance. A hug shows you that you are loved. 

We just don't hug enough. We don't touch each other enough either. Whether you are an adult, a teenager or a senior citizen, you are not getting the touch you need to thrive. Our animals need touch to thrive as well. When we live alone, having a cat to hug or dog to embrace, can also fill the need for touch. When we are touched and hugged our immune system is bolstered. We feel better. Our neurological system is calmed down through touch.

Babies die even when their needs are met, but there is no cuddling, stroking or skin-to-skin contact. Dr. Rene Spitz was concerned in the 1940's when the babies left in her care and in a sterile environment were dying. They were fed, changed, bathed. Yet, they were dying. She discovered that they were not being touched, stroked and were devoid of skin-to-skin contact.

Love and affection go together. We need the touch of a caring hand, a kind look from someone who loves us and hugs to actually thrive.  

When we are not in a relationship, hugs or having a hand to hold or someone to share life with seems like a far away dream. Even when we begin to date, affection may not be a part of the dating process. Sex can be present, but affection absent. Kindness, a loving touch, someone to listen to you and look at you when you are speaking all shows caring. Taking time to get to know someone will allow affection a place. Sex does not replace affection. Affection comes first, when you allow a relationship to grow naturally, rather than pushing to have your sexual needs met by a complete stranger.

Lonely in Marriage

Often when we have been with someone a long time, affection goes out the window. What replaces affection can be silence, avoidance and we can feel lonely within our relationship. But it doesn't have to. 

The next time you pass your partner sitting at the table, touch them. Stroke the back of their hand, or put your hands on their

shoulders. Or how about offering a shoulder rub, or a foot massage. There are all kinds of ways to touch each other to show love that are non-sexual. 

As we age, affection replaces sex. We may still be sexually active, but the frequency may be reduced. Instead of every day, or three times a week, we may begin to have sex every other week, or every three weeks. With the reduction in sexual activity, we need additional touch. We can sit on the opposite ends of the couch together and rub each other's feet while we talk about our work day.  We can hold hands when walking through the mall, or town. Our society is void of touch. This lack of touch makes us feel disconnected. 

We are high tech and low touch. But the human need remains. 

We spend hours on the Internet talking to "friends" on FaceBook, that we don't even know. How about shutting off the computer and your phone and sitting and holding each other on the couch and talking for a change? Connect heart-to-heart and massage each other's hands. Or how about something

completely different: lie spooning on the couch and watch a movie together? Spooning with your partner will give you the benefit of more than 12 hugs before the movie is over. You might be surprised what pops up between you!

10 Reasons You Need Touch

1. Being hugged and touched reduces anxiety.
2. You feel more confident when you are being touched.
3. You feel accepted.
4. You feel connected to others.
5. You are being validated unconsciously by being hugged and touched.
6. You bond with others through touch. It is the way we become more connected in our relationships with our children, and partners. Over time, some people touch less. Touch is something we need to work on and remember. It keeps us close. It keeps us bonded. Teens need touch and hugs too.
7. Your immune system functions better when you are touched.
8. Lowers blood pressure.
9. Improves your outlook. Makes you feel more positive.
10. Many of us are sensory deprived. All senses need to be expressed for healthy brain output. Feeling a soft blanket, walking through sand, soaking in a hot tub, or slipping into freshly washed sheets.

For those of you who are lonely and alone. You would be surprised who will hug you when you need it. Be open to receive. Take my Love Yourself Fearlessly course and find yourself being open to a new experience. By the 4th week, I have had many people find the love they have been looking for, right in front of them. Know that you are never alone. 

This article was inspired by Matt Chase a Linked In friend of mine. Here is his article that inspired me:

https://mattchaseinternational.wordpress.com/2013/01/24/human-affection-can-we-live-without-it/

Jennifer is a life, sex and love coach. She helps women and men love themselves fearlessly. She also assists with sexual dysfunction. She is an ordained minister, hypnotherapist,

Neurolinguistic Programming Practitioner, Energy Healer and catalystic healer. Just talking to Jennifer can bring up your issues. 

She works with people committed to heal their lives, and live a life of passion and happiness, grounded in the moment. She assist people with clutter of the mind and home. When there is harmony inside there will be harmony in the home. When there is clutter in the mind, there will be clutter in the home. Whatever is going on inside you is reflected in your outside world. Jennifer empowers, encourages and gives you a swift kick in the ass when you most need it - with compassion and directness. She will be your biggest cheerleader. She will be your biggest fan. She will get to know you and treat you with the respect you deserve. Visit her website here.

Looking for THE ONE? Jennifer has helped many women find the love they have been desiring for 10, 20 or more years. Of course, it begins within. YOU are the one you must give love to first, to find the love you are desiring. Jennifer is the one to take you there.

Humans need touch to thrive! Watch my video below.