Forgiveness Can Save Your Life!

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Forgiveness is one of the simplest things but most profound for healing, letting go of pain, suffering and yes DEPRESSION, ANXIETY, and SERIOUS ILLNESS.

I have had many clients resist the power of forgiveness because they were hanging onto hate for their exes behavior. Whether you are forgiving those who molested, abused or hurt you it doesn't excuse the behavior of the other person. Those things really happened. Forgiveness is for YOU!

Before I forgave everyone and I mean everyone, I lived in angst, hate, judgment, and illness. After forgiving everyone my health and mood improved. Depression mysteriously lifted. True I also began to love myself at the same time. Forgiveness is powerful.

Hanging onto resentment, anger, hate keeps our body in a state that creates acidity where illness and cancer can grow. Case in point, before I forgave everyone I had Fibromyalgia, Epstein Barr (auto-immune disease) tumors, depression, shame, guilt, anxiety, sinus infections, bladder infections a lot of self-hatred and regret.

Depression and Anxiety Help NOW!Health Benefits of Forgiveness:

• Reduced stress

• boosted immune system

• relationships improve

• Less triggered

• Feel Happier and lighter

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Sacred Stories From My Heart

This past week I was a guest on The Enlightened Loveheart & Soul Show in the UK. I shared how I healed my illnesses, how my thoughts created these issues within my body and how I began to change myself one step at a time.

Sacred Stories From My Heart: Jennifer Elizabeth Masters MP3

The secrets to healing are revealed in this audio. Listen here or visit my website to do so at JenniferElizabethMasters.com

The most powerful thing that we can do for ourselves, our family and our world is self-love. If you feel hate or unforgiveness you are not in a state of love and cannot manifest.

What you will hear:

• How our thoughts make us either well or ill.
• I recognized that my thoughts were killing me
• Each of our thoughts are a prayer
• God is within me, that makes me a Creator
• How we need to forgive ourselves and everyone
• How each of us can live a life of happiness and vibrant health
• How anger can make us sick and depressed
• If you feel stuck and blocked you may feel numb
• Sexual trauma can make us feel dead inside (numb)
• Our body will give us signs that we need to listen to our thoughts and change them

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Your Past Doesn't Define You

Happiness Rests Securely In Your Hands

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Your life sucks, you hate your boss, you hate your life and you wish your ex would get hit by a bus. If this is your life, the good news is that you have the power to change it all. If you keep on doing the same thing over and over, your results will be the same. 

I understand. I have been there. I couldn't have been more miserable in the past if my head was stuck in a toilet! I blamed everyone in my life for my unhappiness. It wasn't until I recognized that I was the center of my own universe and the cause for all of it, the good, the bad and the ugly, I shifted big time!

I had a client ask me today what I did to change from being miserable and unhappy to blissfully happy with my life, my work, and my world? The following are the steps I took to change my mindset and my life.

1. I stopped blaming everyone. I began to look at the past events (even the abuse and molestation) as a gift and the catalyst for me to grow and evolve. Trauma happens to us all. How we look at the past is what shifts our mindset. 

If we continue to blame others for the way we feel, we will feel depressed, angry and resentful. When we take responsibility for our health, happiness and our life everything becomes better. It may seem a tough pill to swallow, but we contracted for these events to occur so that we would be pushed, prodded and forced to evolve. Some people continue to complain about their lives and never move past the pain and suffering. As Einstein says, they are insane. Bliss is just on the other side.

2. I took responsibility for my happiness. I finally recognized that no one can make me happy or unhappy. Instead of being angry with the way others behaved, I looked inside to see what I did that may have caused their behavior. I stopped using alcohol or prescription medicines. I healed all my addictions through self-love.

3. I listened to what I told myself and what I said out loud. If I beat myself up unconsciously, I would catch myself and shift my thoughts to something positive. I became my own cheerleader. 

4. I did my best. Instead of doing things half-assed, I did my best. I took my time rather than rushing through projects. I found I made fewer errors and caused fewer problems for myself when I slowed down.

5. I stopped trying to be perfect. There is such a thing as good enough. I strived for my best, rather than perfection. 

6. I began to breathe deeply and consciously. One of the things that I noticed is that when I had low self-esteem I was often barely breathing. Breathing deeply affirmed life. I was giving my permission to be bigger and more powerful by breathing deeply. 

7. I showed up. To be successful we need to commit to ourselves. When we commit to ourselves, we show up for appointments, we don't cancel at the last minute, which causes us to feel bad. 

8. I was true to my word. Being honest all the time wasn't easy at first. I found I told myself and others white lies. Life is so much easier when we stick to the truth when we do there is much less to remember. We know what we told others because we told the truth. When we tell stories and lies we have to keep track of what we told to whom. We cause less worry and anxiety for ourselves when we are completely honest.

9. I stopped being late. When we have been abused or molested we often have unconscious patterns of control. We attempt to control our environment and aren't even aware of it much of the time. Being late is one way that people with PTSD attempt to control the universe. Control comes from fear. 

10. I became fearless. I used to be afraid of the dark. I used to be afraid of public speaking, meeting new people or doing something for the first time. As my confidence rose and I became clear energetically, fears dissolved naturally. 

11. I stopped accepting disrespect and abuse. When we don't respect ourselves, we don't recognize when we are being disrespected. If we have suffered trauma as a child abuse is part of our programming. As we begin to heal the past we realize that abuse doesn't have to be a part of our reality any longer. The better we feel about ourselves, the stronger we become and the less accepting of poor treatment we are. 

12. I began to love being alone with me. When I was codependent, I had to have someone in my life. If I didn't have a man, I was on the hunt for one or felt desperately lonely. I no longer feel alone or lonely no matter where I am or who I am with. I enjoy my company so much that I have a good time no matter what I am doing. 

13. I began to live simply without attachment. I have given up all my belongings three times. In letting go of so many of my material possessions I also let go of the past. Furniture no longer reminds me of an ex-husband who is no longer alive or a friend that has passed on. The things I have I love, but they don't define me and I could let them all go in a heart beat. 

14. I know myself well and surround myself with loving people who are interested in growing and evolving. I continue to learn and grow daily.

15. I have a daily spiritual practice of meditation, mantras, dancing and nature. My spiritual practice keeps me grounded and fed. 

16. I eat slowly and prayerfully. I don't watch scary movies or anything that will upset me while I eat.

17. I practice mindfulness in all I do. Even preparing my taxes, is a mindful event. 

18. I love life and live each day as if it is my last. I don't place too much emphasis on wealth or financial gain, and always have enough to pay my bills and eat well. Money isn't what brings us happiness. 

19. I celebrate life daily. I do my best to be kind to others and offer those in need help whenever I can. 

20. I perform healing work that I love on people to assist them in improving their lives. I know the work I am doing has an impact on the collective consciousness. 

21. I am grateful for everything I have including my life. Each day I am grateful for being alive. I don't wish my life was different or that I had anything other than what I have. I love my life.

Loving ourselves is the greatest gift we can give ourselves, our families and the world. If you need assistance in making your life one of joy, contact me right now, why wait another second? I did it for me and I certainly can help you do it too! Everything is sweeter when we love and accept ourselves.

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How To Use The Ho'oponopono Prayer To Forgive

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

In my practice I encounter many people stuck in unforgiveness. We don't have to like what was done to us to forgive. We certainly don't have to talk to our perpetrators to forgive them either. The best and fastest path I have found in over thirty years of healing is the Kahuna healing prayer from Hawaii, the Ho'oponopono Prayer.

When we sit in unforgiveness it is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.

I'm sorry

Please forgive me

I love you

Thank you

The Kahuna healers of Hawaii use this prayer to heal serious physical harm, rape, sexual molestation, and abuse. The prayer is very simple with profound healing effects.

How Healing Ourselves Heals Our Relationships

The way to use the prayer is simple. 

1. Repeat the words slowly, forgiving yourself for anything you have ever done to hurt you first. 
2. Always begin any healing practice with you first. 
3. Think about any time you ever put yourself in harm's way. 
4. Repeat the prayer. 
5. Think about any time you ever beat yourself up verbally rather than loving and accepting yourself. 
6. Repeat the prayer. 
7. Spend about fifteen minutes repeating the prayer slowly until you feel complete. 

You may cry. That's perfectly natural when you turn loving words toward yourself. Allow yourself to feel whatever comes up. Feel the feelings and repeat the prayer with deeper compassion toward yourself. 

To Forgive Another Person

1. Think of the other person. 
2. Think about what the other person did to you.
3. Breathe. 
4. Thinking about the past may bring up old feelings or hate, anger, indignation, confusion, conflict and even pain. 
5. Be compassionate toward you.
6. Repeat the prayer slowly for about twenty minutes or more.

Why Forgive?

Forgiveness releases us from the burden of suffering. Forgiveness is for us, not the other person. We feel lighter and can let go of the past trauma once we have forgiven.

What Happens If I Don't Forgive?

Holding onto old hurts can cause diseases like cancer. Cancer is caused by deep hurt, longstanding resentment or a deep secret eating away at the self or carrying hatreds. Breast cancer is from holding all of the aforementioned plus a refusal to nourish the self, putting everyone else first, overmothering, overprotection and overbearing attitudes.

Holding onto these old hurts does you no good. Letting go and forgiving is healing for you. To be happy in life we need to forgive those who we feel have hurt us, including ourselves. Otherwise, we end up feeling the need to be rescued. Being a victim is disempowering. 

Healing A Relationship

I gave this prayer to my daughter ten months before her father died, she was fifteen at the time. She was very angry with him for many reasons. I told her she needed to get over her anger and heal her relationship with her father. I printed the prayer on a post-it note. She took it and went inside her bedroom and prayed the prayer for about forty minutes. She told me she had a huge catharsis and breakthrough beyond the anger. 

After doing the prayer, my daughter went on to have a very close relationship with her father until the day he died. 

This prayer is magical and can heal past hate, and trauma. I highly recommend it to everyone.

Jennifer is a healer, sex, love, and happiness coach that clears limiting beliefs, blocks, and self-sabotage from the past so that you can have the life, love, and happiness you desire. A healed healer herself, she helps others overcome anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, guilt, shame, insecurities that block you from having healthy relationships and happiness. 

Connect with Jennifer to schedule your free discovery

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Happy Here, Happy Anywhere:

The Step-By-Step Guide to Overcoming Anxiety, Depression, and Unhappiness Without A Prescription!

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Life Hacks for Family Happiness: 15 Ways To Think Differently

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

After two back-to-back weekends, first with my adult son, Adam and then all three of my adult children for my daughter's college graduation, I have some suggestions that will help you enjoy life and your family more.

Graduations, celebrations and holidays bring us together with our family. Many people dread family time. Let's face it, who knows you better than your children, parents, and siblings? When people know you well they have the innate ability to touch on our most tender trigger points. Family can bring us joy, but they can also dredge up old stories and pain that hasn't been healed. 

1. Stop trying to change them. Acceptance is part of unconditional love. If you don't accept someone as they are, there are also parts of yourself that you reject as well. If you look at others and ask why don't they just _________ you are judging and criticizing. It doesn't help your relationship when you don't accept your family members as they are. When you stop "helping" family members with your suggestions for improving their life, you will have more peace within you as well.
2. Let go of control. The only person we have total control over is ourselves. Letting go of control of others will allow you and them more peace and ease between you.
3. Don't say, "I told you so!" Even if you are great at predicting outcomes, like I am, telling your family members that you were right about what was going to happen creates irritation and will destroy your relationship.
4. Remember each person is having their own experience. You may have been on the planet longer, had more experience and learned so much. Each person has to learn their lessons their way along their road of life. We can't short-circuit someone else's experience. We can't save another person. We can only save ourselves. 
5. Keep negative comments to yourself. Nothing irritates others more than when we critique another's life by condemning their decisions or choices.
6. Put yourself in their shoes. Until we walk in someone else's shoes we have no idea of what they experience. 
7. Be compassionate. When a family member tells you a story of woe be caring, kind and listen. Sometimes that is all they need. 
8. Be sympathetic but don't encourage self-pity. Sometimes family members wallow in self-pity. You can offer questions to guide a shift in attitude by asking how they could possibly think differently about their situation?
9. Ask questions. When we ask questions we are showing concern, that we are listening, and care about what our family member is talking about. 
10. Remind yourself that you were in a similar situation once. When we have the ability to apply what another person is experiencing to our own life we can see similar patterns, areas we can continue to be compassionate for ourselves and grow. Personal growth is what we are here for. Nothing is happening by accident.
11. Everyone is reflecting back to us. Relationships provide a wonderful mirror into our own soul. Rather than thinking you are better than the other person look within and see where you could make some changes for the better.
12. What you see in others, you also have within you. Okay, I may be repeating myself here. It is important to notice what is happening in our relationships as there is always something for us in everything that happens. What similarities do you have with this other person? What parts of you need to soften, and become more loving? What patterns are coming up for you? What in you is being triggered? If emotions are surfacing within you from another's presence, spend a little time asking what is in it for you? The happier you are with you, the more ease you will have in all your relationships - especially family.
13. We all want to be loved and accepted for who we are. When we critique other's lives we push them away. If you are not accepting your family as they are, you may find yourself a very lonely person. Non-acceptance of others may cause your family to avoid you. Ask yourself if you are being loving? Are you being accepting? Or are you trying to change your family members?
14. Forgive. Families have conflict. We have disagreements. Forgiveness is a part of a healthy, balanced relationship. Forgiveness has been scientifically proven to help us live longer. If you are still holding onto the past, ask yourself why? Holding onto resentment, anger and pain from the past isn't healthy. You will end up causing yourself health problems from not letting go. Do the Ho'oponopono Prayer of forgiveness beginning with yourself and then forgive your family member.
15. Keep your comments to a minimum: "That's fabulous!" "That's a bummer!" "Wow! That is wonderful for you!" "Congratulations!" Our personal negative commentary about another's life especially when it is a family member creates conflict. They might not be doing it your way, but that is the point of living our own life, isn't it?

Remember even if you have become awakened and self-actualized you might be rendering judgment on another person. Remind yourself to be compassionate with yourself and others. Our family is important. Healing issues with parents, siblings and offspring will bring you much joy and happiness. Unhealed relationships will bring you down and cause you pain. 

Even when behavior seems to be unforgivable, forgive anyway. Forgiveness is for you. Forgiveness releases you from the burden of resentment and suffering.

If you have issues with a family member it is because you have something inside of you that needs some TLC and awareness. 

When we lovingly accept ourselves as we are with all our faults

and flaws, we have healthy self-esteem. 

Jennifer Elizabeth Masters is the author of the forthcoming book: HAPPY HERE, HAPPY ANYWHERE The Step-by-Step Guide to Overcoming Anxiety, Depression, and Unhappiness Without a Prescription! Contact Jennifer for your Free discovery session right now and find out if you are a good fit for her life-improving program.


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How To Increase Your Self-Love Quotient For Greater Happiness"

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

You've heard it from me, Deepak, Louise Hay, Oprah and countless others. Self-love is the key to a fulfilled and happy life. 

It's not better sex, it's not a faster or prettier car, and it certainly isn't a relationship that will bring you lasting happiness if you aren't happy with you. To this end, I will share with you what I did to go from batshit crazy, negative and depressed to completely blissfully happy no matter what!

1. Get To Know Yourself. Most people don't know themselves well. We spend time getting to know a new boyfriend or girlfriend, but don't focus on what makes us tick, what makes us happy and what we want in our lives. When we begin to focus on what we love about ourselves, what we love to do and what we are passionate about, our path becomes much clearer. 

2. Live Mindfully. Mindful practice brings you into the present moment. Breathing deeply and focusing on what is happening right now will help you to enjoy what is in front of you. I see mothers on their cell phones with babies ignored in grocery carts or strollers crying. If you are with your child, be present with your child. If you are with your family, be present with them. Put cell phones away and turn off the freaking television.  

3. Just Say NO! Don't be afraid to tell someone that you can't pick their kids up, or water their plants for three weeks while they are in Europe visiting The Queen. When we don't have great self-esteem, we tend to say yes far too often accepting shitty projects and jobs that we don't want just so that people will like us. Face it; not everyone is going to love you or what you say. If you don't want to do something say NO! You will have more energy for yourself and the things you love.

4. Do Things You Love Daily. If you love to be outside in nature, take a walk every day. Make it part of your routine, no matter what. Get up an hour earlier to take your walk before your kids wake up. Or combine your walk with your dog duties. We spend entirely too much time doing what we don't love. Instead, make doing what you love a priority. (Of course, after you do your day job and take care of responsibilities). 

5. Practice Self Care. We take care of others first when we want to be loved. When you love yourself, enough you recognize that no one else will take care of your needs. If you have children, what will happen to them if you fall apart, get sick, or worse? Your rest, solitude, and downtime is important. Make sure you get to bed before 11:00 PM, eat properly and get exercise. These are all part of self-care. For those of you out there that forget to pee all day, that is not taking care of your needs. Stop and pee! Take care of yourself, lovingly.

6. Focus On Your Needs Rather Than Wants. I remember taking myself shopping when I felt bad, spending too much money and then being in debt because I felt I DESERVED to buy something new for myself. Refer to number 3. Needs first. What you want probably isn't going to matter in five days. In fact, wait five days and see if you still have the burning desire for that thing. 

You probably won't even think about it after five days. Ice cream is something you might want, but don't need. A new dress is something you might want, but don't need. A thing won't fill a void within you. Rationalizing that you deserve something that is going to have a huge cost to it and probably a negative effect as well. Meditate instead. 
7. Guard Your Personal Space And Time. It is better to have real friends that support you rather than drain you. If you have few good friends, you are far better off than having a crowd of people who take advantage or drain your energy. We have all had people drain us financially and also energetically. Your energy is precious. People who share in your successes and support you when things are going well are true friends. Those who are delighted when you fail are those you want to avoid.

8. Have A Daily Spiritual Practice. Gratitude, Forgiveness, Prayer, and Meditation are all things that I began to practice daily. When I did, I felt supported, loved and unafraid. A Daily Spiritual Practice fills the void inside of you; it connects you with Spirit, The Universe and The Love of The Divine (a higher power). A spiritual connection is imperative for deep inner peace and fulfillment.

9. Live With Purpose and Design. What do you want your legacy to be? How do you want to be remembered? When I began to do service work - even in landscaping, I felt like I was making a difference. You don't have to be a healer to make a difference in

this world. Think about what makes your heart sing, write down a list of those things.

Maybe you only have one or two activities that make you feel fulfilled, how can you make those activities part of your daily life? When you begin to live your life with purpose, you feel you are giving back in some way. Maybe your purpose right now is to raise your children to be healthy, confident and active participating adults. Raising children is a noble purpose. There is no greater gift to the world than to raise purpose-filled, confident adults.

10. Be True To Your Word. Though this item is listed tenth, it should probably be number one on the hit parade. It is one of the most profound things you can do to raise your self-esteem. Saying what you mean and meaning what you say, sounds like such a simple thing. However, when you begin to make commitments and live up to them with consistency, you will find your self-esteem soars.

I had a hard time with commitments. I would make agreements and then go back on them. I couldn't make up my mind. I found myself agreeing to things I didn't feel right for me because I couldn't stand up for myself at the moment. As you become more confident, you will learn how to stand up for your truth and beliefs.

11. Take Responsibility. When you take responsibility for your actions, health and happiness, you will find happiness begins to flow to you. No one can make you happy. No one can be responsible for you or your health but you. Taking responsibility for you is foundational for healthy self-esteem.

12. Stop Telling Your Story and Forgive Everyone. Everyone has a sad story to tell. It could be a nasty ex or abandonment in childhood. Maybe your parents died when you were young. Although your story is a sad tale
 until you stop telling it you won't move beyond the past. You will continue to regurgitate the past dragging it right along with you as you attempt to create something new and different. You can't move into something better when you keep focusing on the past.

When my life really changed was when I began to do all of these things simultaneously. Begin with one or two steps. Do these two things with consistency. Happiness comes from taking responsibility for oneself, being true to your word, having a spiritual daily practice taking care of yourself and having healthy boundaries. 

Attracting Love

When we are loving with ourselves, we attract others to us that are accepting and loving also. Relationships with others who are filled with self-love are infinitely easier than having a relationship before we fully love ourselves. 

To Make Things Easier

Begin with one step. When you have mastered one step, add another. It took me over thirty years to be in a place of happiness and fulfillment daily. I did it one step at a time. You can too.

Jennifer will be in Atlanta, Georgia at The Inner Space on Friday, June 10th and 11th.

Group Energy Clearing and Akashic Records Reading and Private sessions available on June 11th.

When we lovingly accept ourselves as we are with all our faults and flaws, we have healthy self-esteem. 

Jennifer Elizabeth Masters is the author of the forthcoming book: HAPPY HERE, HAPPY ANYWHERE. 


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As promised, beginning Monday, May 23rd, I am offering an energy clearing session for eleven lucky people that move quickly for $75.00 off my regular price. $150.00 for a one-hour energy clearing. This offer will last as long as there is space available. First come, first served! Here is my PayPal link and I will get you scheduled. Either phone or Zoom, which is a video platform.

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We Have To Heal Our Relationship With Our Mothers To Have Love Now

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Men are what their mothers made them. Ralph Waldo Emerson

You might not like where we are going today. In fact, if someone told me I needed to heal the relationship with my mother to have the love I desired, I would not have believed them, till I lived it. 

If we hold disdain, disregard, disrespect, hatred, resentment or and ill will towards our mothers, we will not receive unconditional love from anyone else. P.S. I have proof!

My mother and I have had a rollercoaster of a ride of ups, downs, twists and turns. I have hated her, resented her and been completely triggered by her presence and her voice. When I was about fifteen, I asked her why she was such a bitch. She beat me over my back while I was on my hands and knees washing the kitchen floor. I think I was fifteen at the time. 

There was more abuse I won't mention here (read Odyssey Victim to Victory). Now, I call my mother daily. I asked her this morning as I

asked her yesterday, "How did you get so wise?" She responded yesterday that she had learned so much through me and my experiences.

Today, she said, "If you haven't learned anything by the time you get to be 94 there is something seriously wrong!"

Our mothers may not have given us what we wanted when we were children, but they did give us what we needed according to our soul contract. No one has such an intimate connection with us from birth that can do such damage to our psyche as our mothers. 

For many of us, like me, our mothers might have been emotionally unavailable, cold, cruel, unloving and harsh. They might have been absent, alcoholics or drug addicts. They might have died when we were very young. The point is that all that happened was pre-destined for your soul's highest good. 

These events happened so that you would experience emotional

pain, suffering and eventually heal, grow, evolve and become

enlightened. It is what you are here for. It is what you have asked for.

I have done hundreds of hours of forgiveness work with my mother. I have cleared until I couldn't uncover another issue. 

My mother and I now have a loving close and connected relationship. She no longer triggers me to react. In fact, even when she tries, she can't. I accept her the way she is. I can't make her work on herself anymore than she can push me to do anything I don't want to do. 

It wasn't easy to forgive. It wasn't easy to let go of what happened in the past. I did it for me, not for her. However, she benefitted as well. I am her only daughter. I am the only one that has a close, loving relationship with her. I did it so that I could have what I have always wanted: an unconditional love that nurtures and supports me in a healthy balanced way.

Today, my relationship with my molesters and all perpetrators is one of complete forgiveness and neutrality/love. We need to be in an emotionally loving state with others, without triggers to have true love. 

Ready To Do This On Your Own?

1. Recognize that your mother had to contend with her issues of abandonment and pain.
2. Put yourself in her shoes. Feel what it would feel like to be an orphan at five like my mother was, or to be beaten, unloved, uncared for or neglected.
3. Do the Ho'oponopono Prayer of forgiveness for you for asking for this in your soul contract. Spend at least twenty minutes in prayer repeating the prayer below slowly. You may cry. Allow whatever needs to come up to surface. Don't push emotions back down. Feel them fully.
4. Repeat step three for your mother. 
5. Feel compassion for yourself.
6. Feel compassion for your mother. This one may be difficult. Do it regardless. Anything worth having is worth doing the work it takes. Remember holding resentment causes cancer and other autoimmune diseases. (I healed both of mine through loving me and forgiveness.)
7. Say a prayer of gratitude for your mother giving you life. You have no idea the sacrifices that she made for you.
8. Begin a relationship with your mother in a new way. Send her a note. Call her. Tell her you are sorry for anything you did to cause her harm. 
9. If all of the above are too challenging for you just yet, envision a bowl of fluffy pink icing. In your mind spackle mom head to toe and front to back with this fluffy pink icing. (Yes, this is a way to send love to her when you feel anything but!) Do this every day until you can feel the love flowing between you and your mother. THIS WORKS! You don't have to have a conversation with the person to heal the relationship. We are all energy. Energy flows wherever we send it - even to those who have left the physical plane.

Ho'oponopono Prayer of Forgiveness

This prayer is a Hawaiian Kahuna Healing Prayer. Powerful and profound. Repeat slowly for at least twenty minutes without distractions of phone, music or television. Allow your emotions to surface. Cry if you need to, allow yourself to FEEL FULLY. Doing less does not release the trapped emotions. Get an energy clearing to assist you. 

I am sorry
Please Forgive me
I love you
Thank you

If you are ready to have the love of your dreams, connect with me and let's partner for your healing so you can have the love you desire. I did it! You can do it! I will show you the way, lovingly with my velvet hammer. Says she smiling. It took me over thirty years - longer if you count from the time I decided to become enlightened at the age of sixteen. 

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Jennifer Elizabeth Masters is the author of the forthcoming book: HAPPY HERE, HAPPY ANYWHERE. 


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How Healing Yourself Heals Your Relationships

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

For more than half of my life, I was negative, blaming others, especially my mother, for what happened to me during my childhood. I complained about my life and circumstances. I felt unloved and unworthy. I was angry and resentful into my late 30's. 

Following is a shortened version of how I found lasting happiness. It is my story of healing and metamorphosis. In 2012, I experienced a profound and life-changing awakening. It changed my life completely. Since that time, I have not felt a moment of fear, unhappiness, depression, loneliness, regret, guilt or shame. I am reprinting this article because it is a holiday and we often have issues with our family members and offspring during this time.

If you are looking for happiness, my story will help you. The key is when we find permanent happiness, our life circumstances, where we live, how much money we have and whether or not we are in a relationship has no bearing at all. None of those things bring you permanent happiness.

My parents worked hard and did the best they could. They provided a great home and food on the table. My mother cooked healthy meals every night of the week. However, the psychological aspect of a positive environment was missing. 

My mother and father were products of their home environments. My parents were negative and dysfunctional. The critiqued and judged everyone. They had opinions on everything and were know-it-alls to outsiders. It is no surprise that I was negative and dysfunctional also. My parents were very dependent on one another. My father had an addictive personality. My mother felt unloved and unworthy (she was orphaned at age 5).

When a boyfriend commented on how critical and negative I was, after gathering with a group of his friends, I felt ashamed. It was a big wake-up call for me. It was "normal" for me to be negative. It is what I grew up with. It was "normal" for me to be a victim. It was what I was programmed with. Being a "Know it all" was from our overblown egos an overcompensation for insecurity.

I grew up codependent, negative needy and a victim. I attracted men who disrespected and further victimized me because I did not love myself. I had no idea that the reason I was in all these difficult relationships was because of ME! I had a huge aha moment after my third marriage ended when I downloaded a way to look at all of our relationships and find the commonalities. What a huge wake-up call! I was the common denominator in ALL of my relationships! I stopped blaming the men in my life and everyone else as well.

Our family of origin has a huge impact on our lives. We can continue to use the paradigm we were programmed with, or over-write the programming and create new patterns and grooves in the brain. 

2014 with mom in Canada

Over time, I healed myself and forgave my parents for everything. This was a process that I repeated many times. I learned as I went. My self-study helped me find easier and faster ways to overwrite the negative programming. My healing happened over 30 years. Now I have love and compassion for my parents for all they did and taught me.  During my healing, I developed tools that helped give me the insight which allowed me to shift my perspective more rapidly. What I found that helped me, I knew could speed up the healing process for others. I teach my clients and workshop atendees how to use these tools also.

Material Wealth

I married a man who was handsome and intelligent. He had a very good business mind. He was able to create great wealth for our family. We had two beautiful children and a very affluent lifestyle. I had everything I had ever dreamed of materially, yet I felt so lonely and unhappy in my marriage. Though I blamed him for my unhappiness, I later realized I was a part of the problem, rather than the solution.

The material wealth did not make me happy, as I thought it would. In fact, all the wealth emphasized how unhappy I was with my life. 

I was shown the contrast by witnessing that there was more to life than money. If money didn't make me happy, and relationships certainly didn't make me happy, I began to turn my focus inward to my emotions and inner turmoil. I learned that our relationships serve to mirror back to us what is going on inside.

Each Modality that helped me, I became certified in.

I began to meditate several times a day. I went to a Hypnotherapist and found how profound the healing was for me and how much better I felt. I wanted to share this with others. I spent thousands of dollars on coursework becoming first a Hypnotherapist in 1998, then course after course to become an energy healer, then I wnet to Bali to study the Akashic Records and became proficient at using my intuitive gifts to hear and get to my client's issues quickly. In 2011, after 22 weeks of study a challenging certification exam, I became certified in life coaching.  

When I found a lump in my breast in 2011, I knew I had to do more forgiveness work with my mother. Cancer is all about deep hurt and long-standing resentment. I certainly had been resentful of my mother in the past. Finding breast cancer was a sign that I had more letting go to do on a cellular level. Breast problems are all about

refusing to nurture the self and putting everyone else first. During my codependent years, I certainly did that.  I changed my diet and did deep forgiveness work. I healed the cancer without surgery, chemo, or radiation. I changed my thinking. I loved and nurtured myself even more and forgave everyone.

Travel And Adventure

My healing took me around the world, from Toronto to Maryland, London, England, Atlanta, Georgia, India, Bali, Boulder, Colorado and the desert of California over 30 years.

On the Ganges River at dawn

Early on, I read Louise Hay's book, You Can Heal Your Life. I read Prescription For Nutritional Healing and began to heal my body. I had Fibromyalgia, Epstein Barr, an autoimmune disorder, depression, insomnia, anxiety and mind chatter. I discovered that my negative thoughts were killing me. I began focusing on changing my thought patterns. I focused on the positive. I worked diligently to think and feel positively. I heard for every negative thought, we had to think three positive thoughts to make up for it. I stayed diligent. My depression lifted. I began to sleep better. I felt more positive.

I went to see a hypnotherapist, in Atlanta. When I saw what amazing things Dr. Skillas did for me, I took his $3,500 course, and became certified as a hypnotherapist in 1998. After becoming proficient as a hypnotherapist, and  Neurolinguistic Programming Practitioner I felt that there was something more. I still needed old patterns and beliefs cleared. I had several amazing sessions with an energy healer. I saw the profound effect immediately. I felt lighter, more focused, had more clarity and was infinitely more positive. My fears diminished. I decided to take her course. I went on take the advanced program of study as well. My vibration raised with all my energy clearings. As my vibration became higher, I began to attract more positive situations, people and circumstances into my life.

During my second energy healing course, I heard about Ascension a deep meditation practice that quieted the mind. My mind was filled with chatter. I knew this was for me. This had a great impact

on me. Instead of hearing monkey chatter all the time, my mind was quiet. My quiet mind trickled over into all areas of my life. I was more able to focus, work and sleep. I was thinking more positively. I had stopped blaming everyone for where I was in my life. Now my mind was quiet as well.

My Ascension teachers went to India to become Blessing Givers and trainers at the Oneness University. They taught a course on Oneness. I traveled to Black Mountain, North Carolina to take their course with my friends that took the Spiritual Response Therapy courses with me. I became a Blessing Giver. The Oneness teaching worked on getting us to a place of no-mind. Deepak

Chopra, Tony Robbins and many others have taken the Oneness Deepening course to become awakened. Part of this involved forgiveness and healing of our relationships with our parents. For us to be healed, we have to heal all the way back to source, our childhood. I was no stranger to forgiveness, however, I had a very profound release when I did the work.

I traveled to India in 2006. I heard all kinds of fearful comments about my travel to India. I ignored what others said, as I knew it was for my highest and best good to go there. Four years later I went to Bali. Both of these places helped to propel me forward and open me up to love and acceptance, deepening my spiritual growth. In Bali, I studied with a Shaman to learn how to access The Akashic Records. I 

Bali, Indonesia

visited a Balinese healer there. I loved Bali and India. Both helped unwind me, allowing me to let go of old mental constructs that no longer served me. I began to tap into the flow with my writing. I was able to channel information. Writing became easy for me.

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In 2011, I wrote my first book, Odyssey Victim To Victory. This book was about my healing up until 2011. While doing chakra toning, I felt a pop and I had an awakening in 2011, then another in 2012. My life has never been the same. Loving myself, became the fastest way to heal all of my relationships. My compassion for myself brought compassion to others as well. The work I did on myself, translated into help for others struggling with breast cancer, self-worth and love issues. In 2012, I was guided to write a book about sex. I felt this was a departure from the self-love work, however, I was assured this was the path I must take. It took courage to take the leap into the sexual forum. I had plenty of experience, wisdom and understanding about sex and relationships. Orgasm For Life and my new radio show, All You Need Is Love, is a way to help others find the love they are looking for - within them. 

I am no longer defined by my past. I recognize that everything that happened in my life was to help me evolve. All the pain, suffering and challenges helped to spur me on to dig deep within myself and unburden myself of all the pain. Instead of avoiding it, I walked through it. Now each day is an unfolding of more joy. I live in the present with a quiet mind. I feel completely content and fulfilled. I knew that my being happy was a step forward toward success in my business and in all areas of my life. The material does not hold the

importance for me it once did. I am happy with me. I am no longer looking for happiness, as it is always inside me. I feel whole, complete and manifest in the moment, helping others do the same. I have recognized that the thoughts we think create our reality. Instead of making closed-ended statements I often ask questions instead. Instead of beating myself up with disparaging and negative comments, I am kind and loving to myself. My thoughts are positive, loving and kind.

Most people when asked, feel that they will be happy when they have a certain amount of money, a relationship, lose weight or are successful. However, this is backward. Being happy will make you much more successful in everything you do including your relationships.

Happiness Facts: 

1. Happy people are more successful. It has been scientifically proven that happy people are 31% more productive in their work. Doctors that are happy have a 19% increase in accuracy
   
   of diagnosis than those who are not happy. Our brain performs better when we are happy, then when we are stressed, neutral or negative. 
2. When we raise the level of positivity in the present, our brains perform better, our creativity is increased, our intelligence rises.
3. Dopamine floods the brain when you are happy allowing you to adapt to the world in more positive ways. It turns on all learning centers so that you learn faster. 
4. Happiness absolutely rewires the brain. 

Self conquest is the greatest of all victories. ~Plato

Here are my 5 secrets to creating happiness and harmony within, so that all your relationships are healed as well. 

1. Focus on you. No matter what is happening always turn your focus inward to the self. Ask yourself questions. "How did I create this? What have I been thinking to myself that would create these circumstances? Where else have I experienced this?" Outside circumstances (relationships) mirror what is going on inside us. If you are being triggered (upset) you are the one with the issue, not the other way around. No one can MAKE YOU FEEL anything that you don't allow yourself to feel.
2. Take responsibility for your own happiness. No one can make you happy but you. Happiness is a choice. Choose to be happy every day. 
3. Forgive everyone. Holding onto grudges and emotions only hurt you. Forgive yourself first, then everyone else. If you still feel angry or resentful do more forgiveness work. You are the source of your pain and suffering. Do the Ho'oponopono Prayer below.
4. Loving thoughts, loving words always. The thoughts we think today, create tomorrow's reality. Make your thoughts positive, loving and nurturing. Focus on what you want, rather than what you don't want. Meditate daily. Sit in quiet, chant (repeating a mantra). Mantras help the mind to become quiet and still. The simplest ones can be the most profound. Use a mantra all day in the background of your mind, rather than allowing your mind to run amok. 
5. Be grateful. Gratitude is one of the fastest way to open your heart. Being grateful for what you have, opens you up to receive more. Gratitude for each lesson learned allows you to recognize that you are not a victim, you are a powerful creator. Everything that is transpiring in your life is for your highest and best good. Life is working FOR you, not against you. It has been scientifically proven that when people think of two unique things to be grateful for each day AND write in a gratitude journal about an incident or experience that they are grateful for 21 days, that their brain will be rewired for happiness.

The Ho'oponopono Prayer

Repeat this prayer slowly for about 20 minutes, starting with

yourself. Always forgive yourself first. Then when you feel complete, move onto others, one at a time.

I am sorry

Please forgive me

I love you

Thank you

We learn the most about ourselves when we are in a relationship. Though many people avoid being in relationships because they are afraid of being hurt. Many people continue to live in a state of anger and resentment for what a past partner did to them. This is victim mentality and does not serve your highest and best. Sometimes, we blame others. The blame is misplaced. We are not victims, although at times we feel that way. We actually are creators. We create our life circumstances by the thoughts we think and the things we believe.

Harmony Outside Means Harmony Inside

Relationships mirror back to us what is going on inside ourselves. If you have conflict in your relationships the inner conflict you have inside you is what is causing it. To have harmony in your life and world, you have to have it inside of you first.

What you say to yourself and think creates your outer world and circumstances. If you say to yourself, "I will always be alone, there is no one for me." Your belief that you will be alone, will create you continuing to be alone. You are afraid of love. You are avoiding it with your thoughts. You are pushing love away. It can be scary to allow yourself to be vulnerable, or let someone be close to you. Fear can keep love at bay. Our fears can be cleared. Our patterns can be changed. Jennifer is masterful at guiding with compassion, helping your focus be soft, positive, compassionate and loving.

Jennifer Elizabeth Masters helps others to find enlightenment, happiness and fulfillment through her private sessions and group courses. She has two packages for those who are seriously committed to healing their life and relationships. One is six months, the other is 10 months in length.  Schedule your discovery session now! Find out if Jennifer's work fits for you. You can e-mail Jennifer here: JenniferElizabethMasters@gmail.com