Are Men Getting The Majority Of Pleasure in Sex?

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

When someone asks you when was the last time that you had great sex with an amazing orgasm, was it this past week, a month ago or has it been years? Most men will answer, "this past week," while an amazing array of strong passionate

women will have difficulty remembering. Why is that?

 
Is it because men, more than women are motivated by sex? We know that men are wired differently than women, but it isn’t the fact that men are more motivated by sex. Most men experience orgasm almost every time they have sex. Yet over 48% of women don’t. In a recent study by a urology clinic in New Jersey, the number one complaint of 54% of women 18 - 30, was inability to orgasm, where 48% of women 31 - 45, had the same complaint.

Since our sexuality is the core of our very being, being non-orgasmic can take a serious toll on self esteem and sense of wholeness. Many women wonder if there is something wrong with them when they don’t orgasm with regularity. Most women need 20 to 40 minutes of stimulation to orgasm, where most men need 2- 3, or less. You see the disparity. Just because a woman is wet, does not mean she is ready for sex. Women are like diesel engines, needing to be warmed up before their engine is cranked. Most men on the

other hand are like a Ferrari on nitrous oxide, revving and ready to blast off. Women who have had sexual abuse, rape or other sexual trauma can have a lifetime of difficulty with sexual dysfunction (being non-orgasmic). There is hope for those who are non-orgasmic. 

Sexual trauma causes the body to go into fight, flight or freeze mode. Unfortunately many women are not aware of the armoring that the body creates to counteract and deal with the sexual trauma. Body armoring causes the energy of fear and shame to be stored in the cells of the vaginal wall, upper thighs and G-Spot. This armoring causes the inside of the vagina to be numbed. This numbing diminishes the

Shamed woman

amount of pleasure a woman can experience through digital stimulation and penile penetration, even to the point of vaginal sensitivity and intense pain. There is hope for those who are non-orgasmic. There are sensitive healers, like myself, that can teach you the steps to take, or you could visit a Tantrika to have the healing done in a session, hands on. Even when years of work, energy clearing and other modalities have occurred, a physical healing is still needed for women who remain non-orgasmic from sexual trauma. I was one of those women. 

For those wondering about the G-spot, whether it is real, or only something porn stars have, I assure you it is real and every woman with a vagina, has the ability to have an ejaculatory orgasm. Unfortunately, most women do not get the stimulation required to arouse this amazing and sensual center. It can take 20 minutes of direct stimulation before it becomes engorged enough to be in evidence. The G-spot is located inside the vagina on the upper wall approximately an

inch and a half to two inches inside the vaginal opening, north towards the navel. To be able to stimulate this spot, a

come hither finger motion needs to be used inside, curling the hand upward. The G-spot is thought to be the root of the clitoris, which is located just above the opening of the vagina. It is a highly sensitive area, that needs stimulation directly to be found.  (You would be surprised at how many men and women can't find the woman’s G-spot.) Is it any wonder that over half of the women on this planet can’t orgasm?

Knowing your body, what feels good is key to being able to demonstrate to your partner what they need to do for you. Talking about what works for you, when you are outside of the bedroom, will help your experience inside the bedroom be more pleasurable. The problem is many women are afraid

to speak up about what they want. It often takes women till they are in their 50’s before they feel confident enough to talk about what turns them on. Hopefully, this article will motivate everyone to open up a discussion about who does what to whom and for how long? 

The interesting fact about men and women though, is that both can bring themselves to orgasm in about the same amount of time, four minutes. The great thing about masturbation is that it is safe sex. In fact, it is the safest sex you can have, unless of course you attempt to use an object not meant for sex, like a vacuum cleaner.

While we are discussing the reasons women are not having as much fun as their male counterparts, it is important to note that 75% of women do not have an orgasm through penetrative sex alone. Yet most men still make love to their partners this way. The reason is that most men prefer to have penetrative sex to orgasm. It is what makes a man feel like a man. Clearly there is a disconnect. Talking about sex is an important part of receiving pleasure. We can’t expect our partners to just know. Even if we are intuitive, it is best to discuss what feels good to you, so that there is no misunderstanding. We need to walk them through our playground, joyfully, maybe with a roadmap, arrows and the most important parts highlighted.

I have interviewed hundreds of men about the subject of women’s pleasure. Most men say that their woman always has an orgasm. I beg to differ. 80% of women fake orgasm because their men are not stimulating them long enough to

get them there. The problem is that most women aren’t talking. With this 80% statistic in hand, most men still say, they know for a certainty that their woman comes every time. How can you be so sure? 

Most heterosexual men like the feeling of being inside a woman. However a woman’s most sensitive spot, her clitoris is not stimulated through penetrative sex, especially when the man is on top. What is so important about that? A woman’s clitoris (C-spot) has twice the number of sensitive nerve endings than a man’s penis has. If your C-spot is not getting focused attention, for long enough, you may not be able to orgasm at all. 

Open communication is clearly lacking in most relationships when it comes to sex. Do some sexploration to find out what feels good to you. Praise your partner for what they do well, then ask gently for what you want. Appreciate their effort, gently guide them with a smile. Remember guys, ladies come first, last and always!

Jennifer Elizabeth Masters is the author of Orgasm For Life a guide to bliss. Orgasm For Life was written to assist women with this issue. Through understanding the opposite sex's psyche and physical needs a greater awareness is created which helps deepen the bond of intimacy and happiness as well. 

Jennifer is a love and passion coach helping couples stay together when nothing seems to be working. She also helps women find the love of their dreams by shifting your focus. When patterns or emotions are stuck, we keep replaying the trauma from the past, attracting partners that don't serve our highest and best. If you are ready for life to work for you, relationships to be happy, fulfilling and uplifting, drop Jennifer an e-mail and set up your strategy session now. 

5 Ways To Manifest Your Love in 4 Days!

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

(Side note, tomorrow is a powerful day to manifest your desires - Vernal Equinox, Supermoon and a solar eclipse.)

Did you know that what happened way back in your childhood could be still plaguing you today? 

Yes, those traumatic events in childhood lay the fertile ground for emotions to become trapped and stay stuck forever, unless you have them removed. Even after clearing thousands of times, unless you specifically ask for the emotion to be cleared, you will continue to attract all those things that plagued you in childhood. REALLY? Yes, really.

Take The Test Now

Write a list of descriptors for what you experienced in your FAMILY OF ORIGIN. Write HOME at the top of the page.

Now write a list of descriptors of your most significant relationships. See the similarities? I rest my case. I did it too!

How does this work?

Take my latest client who lives in Colorado, I will call her Jade. Jade came to me with a relationship that was broken. Her boyfriend couldn't step up to the plate. There was conflict. They could not get on the same page no matter how hard they tried and what they both did. They broke up, because there was no hope.

After I did ONE session with Jade and cleared the debris, patterns and EMOTIONS from childhood, she and her boyfriend are back together, re-committed and on the same page. She has never been happier. Jade is working on my 6 week self study program that has energetic pattern clearing embedded in it. (More about that program below)

You Are A Magnet

Whether you know it or not, your unconscious mind sends out signals into the ethers and brings you back whatever trapped emotions are stuck inside your body-mind and spirit. 

If you had an alcoholic mother, abuse of any sort, were abandoned in any way or lied to, you will attract people who will not be there for you, will lie and cheat on you abandon or betray you. Our emotions are the biggest source of manifestation for us humans. Emotions are what bring us our desires. Often though, we don't even realize we are sending out unconscious messages of what we DON'T WANT, rather than what we do want.

If you have trapped anger in your body from being molested as a child, that emotion continues to send out a signal into the universe and brings you more events that will cause you to be angry. You may attract angry men or women. You may attract an angry boss. You may experience road rage while driving when someone cuts you off. All these events are signs and signals along your road of life that you have an issue. It is inside of you, rather than the other person. 

EMOTE, RINSE REPEAT

If events keep repeating for you, it is because you have an issue, rather than the other way around. It is so easy to blame the other person for their behavior, when we are the one magnetizing these situations to us. 

This Friday is the Vernal Equinox. It is also a day with two other powerful celestial events, a solar eclipse and a SUPERMOON. A new moon is the best day to manifest your desires. It is a perfect day to schedule your one-hour session and get going on what you really want in your life. 

DO IT YOURSELF?

1. Pray. Ask that your blocks be elliminated. You will get guidance about what you need to do to clear your blocks. 
2. Get Clear and Focused. You can't manifest when your thoughts are all over the place. Focus on one thing at a time. Write down a list of all the criteria of that one thing. Burn it today or tomorrow.
3. Feel It. Believe It. I have already mentioned how your emotions attract. Positive emotions attract positive things. So feel love. Feel rich, prosperous, be grateful. Gratitude will open your heart faster than anything - next to love.
4. Know it is done! Thank the universe, God, The Divine for bringing you what you desire. Remember doubt blocks. Be in faith.
5. Write down each day how grateful you are for having your desire right now, as if you have it. Writing down your gratitude is a powerful way of ensuring your quick delivery!

Within this self study program there is a one hour session with me the first week. This is a great way to experience my work to see if it is for you, while getting what you need at the same time. For $98.00 you get 7 pdf workbooks that guide you through the process, 7 videos to teach you AND a one-hour session with Jennifer! During the one-hour session you get an avatar treatment to release patterns with both parents, an energy clearing, coaching and an assessment of what emotions are trapped. The key ones plaguing you are cleared.

Women that have gone through this program have found by week 5 that they have manifested their dream guy. Amazing but true. The system I have in place steps your energy up week by week. I walk

you through how to manifest your dream relationship by focusing with clarity on what you want. I teach you how to do this on your own. 

For those who find the great benefits of my personalized coaching, but don't are budget conscious, my group coaching may be a great plan for you. I am starting a group program for $297.00 for the entire 6 week program. You receive 7 videos and 7 pdf workbooks to keep and reuse whenever you need a refresher.

Each week you will have the benefits of my live coaching on a call. Speaking to me by phone, or Skype shifts your energy. I am a catalyst. Ask any of my clients. You can't help but shift! Interested in this program. Send me an e-mail here.  The events will be recorded and you will be given a code to be able to listen again and again. 

Private Coaching

Prefer to have private coaching? My Magnetize Your Man course is $1,300 for 6 weeks of private coaching. In this 6-week course you receive 6 energy clearings, with private one-on-one coaching and emotional clearings. You receive 7 pdf workbooks to keep and use when you need a refresher and 7 videos to watch to assist you when you need a boost. Each week you will gain clarity, focus and deeper connection with you and your Divine Self. For the men in the group wanting a woman, the same thing holds true for you. You can attract what you desire, with this course. It works whether you are a man or a woman.

Jennifer Elizabeth Masters is a love and passion coach, empowering you to your highest and best. She gives you a leg up and over the challenges that continue no matter what you do or try. She shifts you to a higher, clearer more focused version of you. With love and compassion your anxiety lessens, depression and chaos lifts and a deeper more connected sense of self emerges.

3 Ways We Sabotage Our Love Lives

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

A quick 5 minute video with some guidance on how to avoid sabotaging what you have. 

We think we are being humble by saying, something about our size, weight or bodies. Unfortunately, what happens is that we draw attention to something that our partner was not even thinking about till we mentioned it. 

Jennifer Elizabeth Masters is a love and passion coach. She works with those committed to finding love or repairing what they have. She is a master coach and energy healer, hypnotherapist.  She gently, lovingly and thoroughly gets to the root of your issues so that you can have the  love you have been waiting for NOW!

Energy healing, hypnotherapy by appointment. Phone or Skype. Sorry guys, no on screen masturbating. That is not how I work. But thank you for the thought! 

What Do Kobe Bryant, Tiger Woods and Marilyn Monroe Have In Common?

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Kobe Bryant, Tiger Woods, Marilyn Monroe, Elle MacPherson and so many other greats all have coaches. They did not get to where they are in life going it alone. You know why? Because it is impossible to see what we are doing for ourselves. Only when another points out what could improve our score, swing, acting, or life can we improve. Everyone needs a coach to improve, including me. I did not get here all by myself. I had masters, teachers and gurus who taught me everything they knew.

I have recently been captivated by Marilyn Monroe's story. Born Norma Jean, her mother was taken from her and put into a mental institution. Like my mother, without the love of a mother or father, we develop deep insecurities and even mental instability. In my case, I had a mother, but she was horribly damaged from being an orphan at 5. She could not love unconditionally, praise or support her children in a healthy way. Many of us have had traumatic childhoods. These patterns can be shifted, removed and new patterns created which shift the DNA, permanently. 

Crazed and Chaotic?

How do I know, because I did it. I felt absolutely crazy into my late 30's. Early abuse left me damaged, shame filled, guilt ridden and broken. I felt shattered and ugly. I had an addictive personality, craving and looking for love through sex, that left me further broken and empty. 

What I have come to know is that parts of our soul shatter like glass when intense situations impact us, that we can't handle. These soul fragments splinter and fly off into the ethers. Sounds incredible, but it is true. As a result our chakra system becomes blocked, we develop health issues which plague us until patterns are cleared and removed. I have worked with thousands of traumatized people with PTSD, abuse and other traumas that this is like a miracle for their soul.

Norma Jean had to have help. If it wasn't anti-depressants, sleeping pills, wake-up pills, she had a team of people who cajoled, encouraged and kept her on track. Without these people, Marilyn would not ever have been the star that she was. They did not help her heal, but they kept her together so that she could do her movies. They told her how to look, talk, stand, walk. Marilyn was far more intelligent than most people remember. She felt broken.

Pain, unhappiness, depression and suffering don't have to be a part of your life experience. How do I know? I used to be depressed. For over 20 years I suffered from severe depression, insomnia, irrational fears, body pain, Fibromyalgia an auto- immune disease and chaos in my inner world. I overreacted when people made simple comments and took everything personally. I was a prickly pear, hard to love. I was so blocked and resistant to love, because I hated myself. I thought I loved myself, but that was my over-compensating EGO, that helped me (so my ego thought) to feel better. I couldn't accept love if it was delivered on a silver platter, which many times it was.

I changed my life a little at a time. I took anti-depressants and almost killed myself falling asleep at the wheel while on prozac. I drove 3 exits past my work before I woke up enough to realize I had gone too far! I stopped taking prozac, because I knew it was killing me. I got off Benadryl, when I was able to stop the worry and endless mind chatter. I began to do work I absolutely loved to do, that fulfilled me. In my school days, I was thought to be a slow learner. I always had comments on my report cards, "Can do better." What changed?

I began to tap into a higher power. I began to hear God's voice and that of my guides. My higher self also became evident and permanently connected and grounded within me. I meditated regularly. For over 8 years I have meditated twice a day. My mind chatter left when I had consistent meditation practice. But I had spiritual teachers, gurus and spiritual masters who guided me. I paid big bucks for classes and certifications so that I could heal myself. I have experienced deep states of bliss, called satori which changed me permanently. 

How have I gotten more wise, calm and peaceful? Through consistent hard work and spiritual practice. If an issue came up and I reacted to it, I asked myself tough questions. I looked within for answers. I followed guidance. As each relationship ended, I did personal analytics. I was not afraid to look at my own issues. When men lied to me and cheated on me, I asked myself, "Where do I lie to me? How do I cheat myself?' It took time, effort and consistency. I sometimes took one step forward and three steps back.

Doing Away With Fear

My fears subsided. All my life I had been incredibly fearful. Suddenly I realized I had no more fear. My deep spiritual connection and love for myself shifted EVERYTHING. I stopped trying to control my children, or anyone else. 

Control

We try to control our environment and others when we are afraid. These fears are usually grounded in the past from a traumatic event which imprinted you with this fear. All fears can be healed. Manipulation is a part of control. Manipulation is dishonest. It comes from not being authentic, lying about who you are. You are afraid to ask outright for what you want, so you manipulate to get it instead. Believe me I know, I was the Queen of Manipulators. We can't possibly be happy when we are inauthentic, controlling or manipulating. All these behaviors lead to a disruption in your energetic field.

Healing All Relationships

My relationship with my mother and everyone else was healed like magic, when I stepped into my authentic self and personal power. Instead of being the person others wanted me to be, I became authentically me. I could get my point across with a soft voice, no yelling to be heard or listened to. Without healing your past, you can't have a happy future. This is what I help others with. Even those who say they have done inner child work, or healed relationships with family, if you are not living the life of love, joy and happiness, your relationships have not been healed. It is not possible to live a life of joy and bliss everyday when you are holding resentment or anger towards anyone for the past.

Anger

If you experience road rage, eruptive or explosive anger, are quick to anger or get upset, you have healing to do. Until you have let go and healed the past, these issues will continue to plague you. For men, you probably had HTP, or premature ejaculation. 

Anger has a purpose. There is a difference between being angry because someone wants to send you videos of themselves masturbating..... or crosses your boundaries in other ways. But that anger subsides quickly. The type of anger I am talking about is seething, or volcanic anger. This type will blow a gasket in your heart or cause cancer in your body. Resentment will do the same thing. Even after cancer surgery, radiation and chemo, if your brain waves and way of thinking have not changed, the cancer will return. There has to be a change of behavior for healing to have occurred. If you are still doing the same thing the same way, there has been no healing.

It's Time

How long have you known your life could be better, but have not been able to do anything about it? I am committed to working with you, I promise to help you improve your life, but you have to do your part. You have daily and weekly work to do. With that commitment, I know I can help you improve your life, shift your thought patterns and focus so that you stop critiquing yourself and others. When you do, you begin to accept yourself as well. 

Have You Done It On Your Own?

I did it on my own. But it took me over 30 years to get there. Each of us has trauma and difficulties in our life. These are put in our lives to spur us on to greatness. Healing your life on your own could take several lifetimes. Tiger Woods, Elle MacPherson and Marilyn Monroe all had coaches for a reason. We need help getting there. 

Traditional therapy keeps you stuck in a paradigm of suffering and repeating your story. It does not move you  forward. I know I have done years of it. It did not help me. Repeating your story over again only perpetuates the energy that created it. 

From Albert Einstein:

"We can't solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them."

No matter the type of trauma, abuse, addicted, abusive or absent parents, those issues can be overcome. I will lovingly hold your feet to the fire, lift your spirits, raise your vibrations through the different modalities that I have mastered that remove patterns, stuck and trapped emotions that keep you repeating the same things over and over. Until the trapped emotions are removed, you continue broadcasting on the same frequency, attracting more situations you don't want.

If it isn't cancer, diabetes, or sciatica that is plaguing you, it could be unhappiness in your relationships. This does not mean you need to dump the person you are with, necessarily, but look at things from a different perspective. Once you begin to shift, your partner will too! It only takes one person to heal a relationship. 

I am committed to help you grow, shift and refocus so that your life is one that is loving, fulfilling, happy and peaceful. If you saw me 40 years ago, you would never know that this ME, is the same person. Your soul is ready to be polished, sandblasted so that the hurts, and emotional baggage is eliminated and no longer running your world. I am so convinced that I can help you that I am offering a no risk guarantee. If you do your homework consistently and the exercises I give you consistently, I promise that your life will improve. 

Why You Want To Work With Someone Who Has Been There

There are all sorts of coaches out there who are certified. I have met them in mastermind groups and they are out there selling their products. When I sat down to talk to many of them, I found many have more issues than I did 20 years ago. You want to work with someone that has been there, healed their own lives with a proven track record and is happy in their life. Someone that models the behavior that they teach. Not someone who pays you lip service and does not walk the walk. If you don't believe me, I'll give you my mother's phone number and she will confirm all that I say is true. But you better hurry up, she is 92! 

I am ready to be in your corner to help you co-create a beautiful nurturing, loving joy and peace-filled life you absolutely adore! If you don't have the relationship you want now, or the life you want now, e-mail me. Set up a strategy session with me and we will get your life party started! Life is a game, you just have to know the rules. I will teach you all I have learned, which has changed my life and so many others! 

I committed my life to serving the upliftment of humanity's consciousness. This is my calling. Allow me to help you find yours. 

With all my love,

Jennifer

Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Finding Love and Passion After Menopause

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Normal? 

What is normal for one person, isn't normal for another. What I have found is that when there is a will there is a way. Attitude however, can block us from living a life outside the "normal" limits that society teaches us it "should" be. 

What I have learned is that most women have an attitude later in life that is closed, rather than open. Shut down instead of willing. Bitchy rather than loving. I feel it is time to change the crone days into Goddess days. I never liked the name crone anyway. 

As we age, we become wiser. We may become happier with who we are. We have learned a lot during the process of life. Sometimes we have to be hit over the head to recognize the lesson, but eventually we learn. What we have to do however, is not become jaded from what we have learned. We often become men haters, because of the past. We forget that our men have loving hearts too (when they are loved also). We give and we get. It is the flow of life. When we don't give. Not only do we age and become hardened, we also miss out on the beauty of living in the moment and saying "HELL YES!" to the Universe. Hand holding can be a bridge to opening the door to something more a little later on. Start small. Take baby steps if you have not been having regular sex. 

Age is just a number. I don't abide by any rules that have been previously set down by any society about what age means. I don't feel old, hard or set in my ways. I am always open to learning new things.... well most of the time, if you use your sense of humor and kindness. I prefer to be asked nicely, rather than dominated or

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nagged into doing something. Cajole me, love me, praise me, humor me and I am putty in your hands. But tell me what to do, and I will resist and fight like a wild banshee! I feel most people would agree that they would rather be treated with respect and an adult, than nagged like a child.

Sex After Menopause

I have spoken to hundreds of men whose wives have been going through menopause. These men for the most part say they are living in sexless marriages. I am sorry for those men. They feel unloved. They want sex. They want body contact. I was talking to a man last night at Costco, in fact who said he had another 8 years

before he thought his wife MIGHT allow him to have sex with her again. Of course he commented that I would work for him, in the meantime. I am not interested in meddling in someone else's marriage. Been there done that and my t-shirt was given away to Goodwill over 30 years ago. Never again. Remember cuddling can provide an avenue for so much more. Just don't expect anything. Be patient. Be loving and caring.

Loss Of Libido

The loss of libido is a natural part of menopause. It can begin in peri-menopause and shift when the process of menopause is complete. Some women have a slight drop and others a total lack of interest. Women are not motivated like men are in sex anyway. To have a loss of libido for some women is not a problem. They don't miss it. Others do. To have no sex drive at all after experiencing a healthy sex drive can be a real challenge. There are all sorts of ways to combat this issue naturally. 

The hormones estrogen and androgen (female testosterone) drop dramatically. This shift in hormone levels changes everything from the brain to the vagina. Even breast tissue changes. Many women are so disinterested in sex, that seeking assistance to shift their libido does not enter into their consciousness. Talking about this issue together is necessary. Menopause affects the relationship, not just the woman.

Thanda Passion Booster is a native product which contains herbs, plant based products and can change your relationship for the better. Here is a link: Thanda Passion Booster

Exercise Is A Must!

Regular exercise can help prevent the aging process, cancer and reduce stress. There are so many reasons to continue to move and stay active. Your health and happiness depend on it. Get out and walk 40 minutes three times a week, at the very least. You will feel

You'd rather look at him, wouldn't you?

better, sleep better and look younger. My mother is 92 and still active. She never stopped walking, moving and communing with others. Reading keeps the brain active. Don't forget to exercise your brain too. We are never too old to learn and grow, it will keep you alive and thriving.

Atrophy is A Real Thing

If we don't continue to exercise our vagina, internally, it will shrivel up and die. It will shrink, the tissue will become so overly tender that the only thing that will shift it is estrogen. There are many ways to get estrogen. The safer way is to continue having consistent sex. Keeping the hormones level. If you stop having sex in the hopes that one day, things will get better, your husband will be looking for a massage therapist who gives happy endings. You think I am kidding? I am not!

Don't Have Love Just Yet?

Contact me. I am a power manifestor of love! I have a stellar track record for helping women looking for love, find exactly what they were looking for. This is what I do so well. If you have had bad experiences with men, I help you shift the self defeating patterns by clearing them, helping you focus differently than you ever have before, encouraging you in a different direction, that may feel a little uncomfortable and foreign at first. I have a system that works hands down better than anything else you have ever tried. How? I can't divulge my secrets just yet? You have to be a client. Sign up between now and March 17th and get an autographed copy of my book signed and daily text support, not available through any other offer.

Getting Turned On

Speaking from experience, we need to be turned on with a gentle experienced tongue. Brought to orgasm this way gently. Sometimes, penile penetration is just too painful. For the men in the crowd, let me explain what I am talking about:

Envision your penis feeling like it is being seared with a blowtorch. Then envision someone cutting through the skin on your now scorching hot, painful penis with a serrated knife. That is what penile penetration feels like when there is no estrogen present and the vagina has atrophied. It is beyond the pain of having a baby painful. Painful sex is not like what you have seen in 50 Shades of Porn. Believe me when I tell you, there is NOTHING, and I mean NOTHING that is appealing about having your vagina torched with a red hot blow torch and then cut with a knife. So tell me, what compassion can you give your wife? How can you see getting beyond this very sticky and painful place of no-no- hell-no sex?

Read My Book That's How

Orgasm For Life has the power to turn on a 92 year old widow! Oh yes, it did! It will turn on Hugh Hefner without Cialis, or Viagra! It will turn on a postmenopausal woman with no sex drive at all. I have women tell me all the time, "I stopped reading it because I was so turned on and I don't have a partner!" My response is masturbate! Enjoy the ride! 

Getting turned on is one of the missing components in being post menopausal. It doesn't mean you are dead! Many people continue having regular sex well into their 70's and beyond. Where there is a will, there is a way! You can still have and enjoy sex. It just may take a few tries some coconut oil, taking maca powder or other sexual plant-based stimulants, that are completely safe. Visit your health store and check out the natural products that can increase lubrication and hormone levels naturally. 

Remember

If you don't use it, you lose it. Regular sex, each week, is better for your body and hormones than attempting to wait two or three months between sex sessions. Your hormone levels will drop too much, because your brain will say, "Well that chapter has closed! We don't need those hormones anymore!" 

 For Men Only

Perimenopausal and Postmenopausal women may suffer from (but not necessarily) depression, sadness because they can't have babies anymore, then they realize "YAY I can't have a baby anymore! I don't have periods anymore! I have freedom from the threat of getting pregnant!" Crazy? No not really. We get a little jazzed after we realize that we really didn't want another baby anyway. The knowing that it is no longer possible can create some sadness at first. 

Think about it this way; if you had been having a regular friend come by each month, that made you realize you are a woman, different from men in this wonderful way, that you could create and carry a life in your lovely body, then after 45 or 50 years of having that monthly visitor, you no longer had it, how would you feel? A little crazed, dazed and confused. Yes, that about describes menopause. It is a huge life change. It makes us older women. It makes us - crones..... ew! We may be wise, just don't call us OLD!

We still need to be told we are lovely, attractive and sexy. Maybe even more so now, because we don't get the wolf calls and whistles like we used to, unless the parking lot at Costco is incredibly dark, like it was just last night! What was he thinking? He was old enough to be my middle son!

When It Comes To Sex

Be like Monty Python: Now for something completely different!

Sex after menopause can be oral, or just a massage and a hand job. Get creative. Maybe sex can be mutual massage and manual masturbation for you both. Think outside the BOX! It does not have to include penetration. Remember, your woman has a tender vagina. It is not as young and stretchy as it once was. The skin might tear much more easily. Once it does, sex is excruciating. Pushing through a tear is like having sex with one testicle in a vice grip. Would you want to? No you wouldn't. So be nice. Be kind and most of all be sensitive to her needs. Passion can still arise, it just might look a little different.

Jennifer Elizabeth Masters is a love and passion coach. She helps women find the love they know they deserve, but can't find on their own. She teaches what she has learned and worked for herself. Self love is the cornerstone for a happy and passionate life and love life. She is very good at what she does. Here are what her clients say:



"I owe it all to Jennifer. I am in a happy, committed relationship that is exactly what I ordered. It would never have been possible without Jennifer's help." M, LA

"Jennifer got me like no one else ever has. She listened, supported and guided me. I could not have gotten to this happy place without her loving support." C.A. 

Check out her website and praise page for more testimonials here.

5 Powerful Ways To Shift Loneliness

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

I live alone, in the middle of the Mojave desert, yet I never feel alone or lonely. My children live in different states over 1,200 miles away from me. My extended family is scattered across Canada. I have not been lonely since January, 2012. The longing that I once felt is totally gone. I feel whole, complete and at peace. I share my experience and the way I did it with you. 

I have been married and had relationships in the past and at times felt so totally alone and lonely within those relationships, it was unbelievable. I have heard similar things from some of my clients. Being married or in a relationship, does not mean you won't feel alone, or lonely. Whether you are in a relationship or not, being fulfilled, at peace and happy with yourself is a tremendous gift, one that I am grateful for every day. On top of being at peace with my life, I am passionate about my work, writing and helping people through my coaching programs. My work fulfills me.

I want to state here for the record that a new word needs to be added to Webster's Dictionary. REALATIONSHIP. A real -lationship is one that encompasses two people who are completely loving and accepting of themselves. That is a REAL - lationship

Here are five powerful ways for you to feel at peace with yourself whether you are in a relationship or not. If you follow this protocol, you will eradicate loneliness permanently. If you desire some help, this is what I help others do.

I would love to hear from you about your issues, or challenges, so comment below.

1. Be Grateful

Sounds simple enough. But how can gratitude fill you up to overflowing so that you feel happy? Gratitude opens up your heart, plain and simple. Gratitude allows you to recognize all the good things that you have already. It also opens you up to receive more. Until you are grateful for your health, physical body, eyes that see, heart that feels, legs that work and incredible brain that thinks you will not receive anything further. Add one other, remember to be grateful for the love in your life. This will have an amazing shift on your consciousness. You may not believe it at first, but it will filter through - eventually. "Thank you for the love in my life!" - every day!

Walk outside in nature. This is the fastest way to connect with all that is, God, your higher self. Leave your cell phone in your car, and just be. Walk without an agenda. Notice what you see. Notice what you feel. 

Emotions and Sadness

If you feel an emotion come up, allow it to. Feel into it completely, then it will move through you. Alcohol, food, sweets, pot, masturbating and sex can push feelings away temporarily, but they will only get stuffed further down and plague you from their hidden place forever. I have been clearing my energy and that of my clients since, 2007. This is the single biggest and fastest way to raise your vibration and get rid of old patterns, beliefs that don't serve you and old negative energy, resentment and suffering. 

2.   Energy Clearings

Having an energy clearing can leave you feeling incredibly lighter, more focused, unburdened, infinitely more positive and happier. An energy clearing can eliminate mind chatter, fears, worry, depression and even suicidal patterns. Patterns of feeling undeserving of love, unworthy of love or being unable to receive love when cleared, can shift you tremendously.

I cleared a woman named, Nicole Harrington, once and within 30 days she was free of an intense drug addiction. She had not been able to shake it no matter what she had done, previously. A woman who had attempted suicide 12 times, was cleared of her proclivity for suicidal thoughts and stopped attempting after one clearing. She had 23 past lives where she had committed suicide. No wonder she kept wanting to escape that way.

Other Things To Be Grateful For

When we take simple things for granted, like a home, a relationship, children that are healthy, food on the table, we miss the point. There are always people with much less than you. Yesterday, I was walking through the desert with my dogs. I came upon a recessed area with bits of carpet, shrubs around the perimeter and a piece of plywood on the bottom. I realized that two people were living out there without even as much as a roof over their heads. We all have much to be grateful for.

There will always be someone with less than you have. Be grateful for what you do have. It is the only way you will receive more. Not to mention the wonderful way it opens your heart. Let go of the negativity, complaining and resentment. Resentment towards someone only serves to create cancer in your body. Let it go. Forgive instead!

3. Forgive Everybody

We can choose to perpetuate unforgiveness and end up in an early grave, or we can let it go. My oldest brother holds resentment towards our parents for the way we were raised to this day. He missed out on the sweetness of life by holding onto this resentment. It is no surprise that 3 years ago he was diagnosed with diabetes. My next brother, same thing. Resentment and anger towards our parents. Diabetes also. Yet, no one else in our entire family has had diabetes going back three generations.

You can't find unconditional love when you feel resentment for an ex. You can't find unconditional love when you are still angry with your last lover. 

Forgiveness is for YOU, not the other person. I unburdens you of the attachment of resentment, vengeance etc.

Easiest Way To Forgive:

Do this Ho'oponopono prayer for yourself first. Spend 20 minutes on you first, repeating the prayer. Why forgive yourself? Trust me on this, we beat ourselves up in so many ways, we need to forgive ourselves for all the bad relationships, terrible work environments and criticism we have put ourselves through. When you feel complete with yourself, move on to the others.Think of all of those people you have hurt. Forgive yourself for hurting others.

Then think of each person that you feel has hurt you and forgive them also. 

I am sorry

Please forgive me

I love you

Thank you.

4. Meditate Daily

Meditation can shift your mood faster than taking an upper. Faster than smoking pot. Meditation lowers blood pressure, changes thoughts from negative to positive, and relieves stress. Meditation changes your brain waves from incongruent to congruent, which also makes your body more alkaline. An alkaline environment is what your body needs to heal from cancer, prevent cancer and other disease (arthritis being one of them). 

Meditation calms you down, slows your brain waves, lifts your spirit and helps you live longer. Meditation is the way to set your intention for a fabulous day. You don't have sit in the lotus position. I sit in my bed, pillows behind me. I light a candle and

burn some incense which is a little ceremony to set the tone for what is about to occur. Your body will begin to relax in anticipation and you will find it easier and more effortless to get into deeper states. 

Each time you meditate it builds upon the previous day. Eventually, your body and mind will wait for it. As soon as you assume the position, and begin your deep breathing, you will find it becomes second nature. 

How can sitting alone shift loneliness you ask?

Answer: Well Grasshopper, I am glad you asked this excellent question. The reason you feel lonely and alone is because you feel disconnected from Source. 

You feel disconnected from your Divine Self. Yes, we are talking about your God self. Remember Jesus said, "This you can do and more!" Needless to say, people like Buddha, Socrates (said to be another form of Jesus) Confucius, Lao-tse, Zoroaster, Muhammad all achieved this Divine connection while in a physical body. It is important to note, that we all can do the same. Meditation is the best way to connect with our higher Divine Self.

When you connect to your Divine Self, your perspective changes. You feel one with all that is. You recognize that life is just a game, here to further our evolution. That God, The Universe are all working to assist us to evolve and connect with our Divine Selves. Enlightenment connects us to our higher states of consciousness all the time. We no longer feel disconnected from source - it is permanent. 

Jealousy

Loneliness

Codependency

Addictions

Illness

Ego

Are all products of the disconnection from Source energy. Our ego diminishes when we are enlightened. It no longer runs the show. 

5. Loving Positive Thoughts Toward You and Everyone Else

Self Love is the key to happiness. Self love is also the fastest path to enlightenment. It was how I did it. When you love and accept yourself, you no longer need to have someone in your life to make you happy. You recognize that nothing other than your love of you can do it for you. No relationship, car, home, money or any amount of success will bring happiness to you that lasts. The only thing that can is complete self acceptance. When you love you, you will also stop judging and critiquing others. Self acceptance is key to having a loving accepting partnership with another person. Without it, you will keep attracting people who will hurt, disrespect and cheat on you.

Whatever is going on inside of you is projected in your outer world. 

If you keep saying, "I AM ALWAYS ALONE." You are right, you will be. The Universe will make you right. The fastest way to find love is to give love to you first!

Life Is A Gift

Every day we have on this planet is a gift. Devout Christians can't wait to die so that they can be in heaven. The problem is, they are missing the point entirely. Heaven is here on earth. Life is what you make it. Why not make it great! You are the one creating this reality. Allow me to help you co-create the life you love are passionate about and have always dreamed of.

Keep Attracting The Wrong Types?

I just finished working with a client for the past 10 months. "M" came to me after a series of crappy cheating relationships. Each one was worse than the one before. The last relationship left her devastated. She wanted a relationship but kept attracting men who were the opposite of what she wanted. 

She was a successful business woman, in fact an LA producer. During the time we worked together "M" went from being insecure, confused, needy with incessant mind chatter, insomnia, to having the beautiful man she always dreamed of having. In fact, the man she in now in relationship with was someone she would never have dreamed of being with before!

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She kept re-creating with the patterns created in childhood! Patterns of betrayal, abandonment, disillusionment. When we cleared her energetic patterns and shifted her belief systems she was able to attract the guy who was everything she ever wanted.

Their relationship is uplifting, supportive, committed and loyal. Do you realize how amazing this is? She could not have done without the work we did together. If you 

are tired of being unhappy, lonely and confused by Internet dating, shoot me an e-mail.  The love that you always dreamed of. Let's get started so you can have what you know you deserve.

M's comment to me, "I owe it all to you!"

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