Searching For Love?

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters ~ Love and Passion Coach

We have all been there. We try to make a guy like us. We can wear our best outfit, our sexiest of heels, but the more we try,
the less they like us. Why? Because we aren’t being authentic. 

The best way to attract a guy is to be you. Most men want a woman who is confident, stands up for herself and knows what she wants. 

We are happier when we love and respect ourselves. The stronger our self-esteem is, the more attractive we are to men. The more needy we are, the more available we make ourselves and the less authentic we are. When we are needy it is like fishing in the ocean without any bait on our hook. The best way to catch a man is by being completely in love with ourselves. I am not talking about conceit, but authentic self-acceptance.

When you are comfortable being who you truly are, men are drawn to you like a magnet. 

Most women look for a relationship to make them happy, when it really is the other way around. No one can make you happy but you. The happier you are with you, the more attractive you become. Your inner beauty begins to radiate outward making you a magnet for men and love. 


Love comes from inside us. If we don’t love and approve of ourselves, we feel empty, lost and search for love outside of ourselves. If we are miserable being alone, we won't be much happier in a relationship. We think we will be happy once we have a relationship because it is what we see on television and in movies. The temporary happiness we might feel in a relationship will go away at the first sign of trouble.
How can you tell if you love and approve of yourself? People that love themselves have the following traits.

You focus on the positive traits in you, rather than the negative.
You love yourself unconditionally. You lovingly embrace your flaws and faults knowing you are a work in progress. You don’t try to be perfect. You also accept others as they are.

1. You feel good about yourself no matter what your weight is or whether you are in a relationship or not. You are happy with you.
2. You take good care of yourself getting plenty of rest and eating healthily.
3. You aren’t concerned what others think about you. 
4. You are authentic, the same with everyone, rather than a chameleon that changes with each person you are with. You won’t fake or lie about liking something when you don’t.
5. You feel complete and happy on your own, rather than looking for someone else to fill your emotional needs.
6. You are happy as you are and don’t try to change or fix others.
7. You honor yourself. You won’t do things you don’t want to do, just to keep a guy.
8. You have self-respect. You won’t stay in a bad relationship because you are afraid you won’t find anyone else.
9. You know your value. 

Love begins and ends with you. If you don’t love you, how can you expect anyone else to? We can’t show up looking for a relationship expecting someone else to fill us up. We have to fill ourselves up with love first.

Think of your mind as a magnifying glass. Whatever you think about expands. Focus your thoughts, and attention on your positive traits. No one is perfect, however when all you think about is what is wrong with you, you are magnifying the negative rather than lovingly embracing all parts of you. You can't cut the parts of yourself out that you don't like, love them anyway.

Think of all the things that you love about you. Even if you can’t come up with five things, look deeper. “I love my skin, hair, nails, legs, eyes.” Rather than standing in front of the mirror in the morning picking apart your face and body, begin to tell yourself, “I love my face. I love my body. I am beautiful.” Everyone is beautiful in their own way. Even if you don’t believe it at first. Your unconscious mind is like a computer. It will reprogram itself with consistent positive input. 

It takes 30 days to change a pattern, so don’t give up after one or two days. Mantras have been used for thousands of years to heal the mind. Use a mantra before you go to bed at night like, “I love me.” Repeat it when your mind is in neutral, in the shower, driving, putting on your make-up. 

What you put in your mind will also come out. You will find yourself feeling happier and more positive when you begin putting positive thoughts into your unconscious mind.

Rather than searching outside of you for someone else to love you, begin spending time getting to know what you want, what you love and what you don’t. Do what you love to do, rather than waiting for someone else to take you or go with you.

Do things that make you happy every day. Happy people please themselves with small things. Take a walk outside in nature, a visit to a park, exercise. Take care of you. The happier you are the more attractive you will be to men. Pretty soon you won’t be worrying if you can find a man, instead you’ll wonder which one should I pick?

Jennifer Elizabeth Masters is an author of Orgasm For Life, and Odyssey Victim to Victory she is a love and passion coach and intuitive healer. She works with women looking for love, building confidence and self-esteem. Jennifer has been on a healing journey for over 30 years, overcoming her own self-hatred, and sexual trauma. Her  website is http://aphroditeeffect.com/ Are you ready to find a different love, one that suits you? Jennifer's an expert at helping people attract a higher love, that floats your boat and fulfills your dreams. 

Ecstatic Living - Beyond Happiness

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Have you ever wondered about the mysteries of life? I muse about my life often. Yesterday while dancing in the desert I recognized that I now live beyond happiness, beyond joy. I live in ecstasy. My dream for an Orgasm For Life has been realized.

Women come to me looking for a relationship to make them happy. Yet I live alone, in the desert in a desolate environment. I have never been more happy, contented or satisfied with my life. It isn't sex that is bringing this ecstatic feeling to me because I am currently without a partner and not even dating. I am completely happy without anyone around me. I have not dated in over a year. I don't go bar hopping looking for men. I am happy by myself. I have found love within me.

I am delighted to spend time with others, but I have no sense of longing for the company of another human. In 2010 in Bali, then in Georgia, again in 2012, in Boulder Colorado, I experienced a series mystical experiences and a letting go of the ego-self or small self. It changed my life permanently. Since that time, I have not had a moment of loneliness, longing, or emptiness. I have a sense of deep connection to God, The Universe, The Sun, The Moon, The Stars and all that is. 

Optimum Health

I began dancing in the desert every morning. During my dance, I give thanks to the plants, the earth, the sun for shining, the moon for her beauty, the blue sky that fills my heart with joy. Without one visit to the gym, I lost seven pounds in three weeks! I was not trying to lose weight. It just fell off me. Because I love myself I eat healthy food. That doesn't mean I deny myself treats. I love my pie and cookies. I still eat those. The rest of the food I consume is fresh, homemade and life affirming. I drink a green drink that I made every morning. When our heart is happy our health is vibrant.

When I was sixteen, sitting in the lunchroom of my high school, in Ontario, Canada, I thought about life. I knew on a deep level that there was some mystery to life that most people didn't get. I had a vision of people looking like ants. Tiny workers that slaved till they died. There had to be more to living on earth than getting an education, getting married, having babies, working your fingers to the bone and dying. I had just read Siddhartha. I knew I wanted to become enlightened. 

When Hate Becomes Love

Mom in Canada and I, December 2014

This morning I talked with my 94-year-old mother, who keeps trying to get me to move back to Canada. We talk almost every day. We have had our share of issues. At one time, I hated her. Now I love her unconditionally with all her issues, opinionated personality, and wisdom. She said to me, "It's a shame you didn't know all this years ago, it would have saved you so much pain!" I replied, that this is the gift of aging. We may not look quite as good as when we were thirty, instead we have the wisdom of the ages.

Pain and Suffering

Our pain and suffering is what drives those of us who search for answers to the mysteries of life to grow and evolve. 

It is the process of evolution that helps us achieve ecstasy in our daily life. When the pain becomes too great, we begin to finally look inside ourselves for the answers to our pain and suffering, rather than blaming other people.

Love

Last night after doing Sex As Medicine with the grand sex educator and Tantra teacher, Devi Ward (she is so amazing on the air, I just want to sit and listen to her) I had a long session with a couple. I worked with this beautiful woman almost four years ago when I was in Boulder (I will call her Candace). We did a series of energy clearings and some coaching sessions. She wished for her husband to look for a deeper meaning of life. Last night he found it. 

I confirmed for him what his loving wife had been saying for years. 

It was the confirmation he needed to understand and make connections for himself about life and The Universe. We worked together for almost two hours. I was blown away by the love between these two very people. 

Expanded Love

Candace shared with me during her sessions. Their relationship was not without challenges, but I never heard her bad-mouth her husband once. She was completely accepting of him and his issues. Their love has continued to grow in a way I have rarely seen. Love isn't about being perfect. Love is about loving the other person anyway. Love isn't critical, demeaning or negative. Love is uplifting, positive and life affirming.

Google Hang-Outs

To the hundreds of men on Google Hangouts, I salute you. Thank you for reaching out to me. I do hope that you read my blogs so that you will understand I don't do chat rooms. I don't meet men on the Internet. I don't do dating sites. I am not searching for love. I have it already, it is within me. 

Searching For Love

I am not rejecting the idea of having a partner at some point, as that would be wonderful. I am happy as I am. Searching for love is the antithesis of it. In other words, the act of seeking keeps it from you. Seeking means that you don't have something. The act of seeking affirms lack consciousness. When you come from lack you never receive what you are looking for.

Ask And You Shall Receive

As with money, love comes to those who wait. Love comes when you ask questions. Money also comes when you ask. Here are a few suggestions:

• How can I effortlessly and easily have a partner who loves me?
• How can I easily and effortlessly have love?
• How can I effortlessly and easily make money?
• How can I effortlessly and easily pay my bills on time with plenty left over?

Love Shows Up When You Are Ready

I work with women who are longing for a relationship. Often what is stopping them from finding love is themselves. They don't realize it when they begin working with me. However, it soon becomes apparent that difficulties with a parent and patterns stemming from those difficulties cause beliefs that keep love away. For example, a woman who has been put down or abused by her father might have a pattern of hate of men. How can you attract a man when you hate them? You might attract a man, but he will have hate of women programs to match yours!

Once the patterns are cleared, love will arrive right in front of you. You don't have to do the work of The Universe and God. Have faith that he (or she) is on his way to you now!

For now, I will leave you with this; love is within you. When you recognize the love that you are, your life will be amazing. I can certainly be your guide along your path. I would love to have you join me. 

How much longer can you wait to live your life fully with joy in every breath? 

E-mail me to set up your personal session with me now to being your journey of awakening into your radiance and beauty now. Send me a private e-mail here. Visit my website to see other offers and additional information here. Aphroditeeffect.com

Join the party on FaceBook, or comment below. I would love to hear from you! I am off to dance in the desert with the sun, moon and the stars!

Much love and gratitude to you,

Jennifer