How To Turn Anger Into Passion

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Relationships are a joy when things are purring along. When we feel in love with our partner, we kiss, hug and make love with ease. When our partner shows up late, isn't there for us, or looks at our best friend with interest, we might become so infuriated that we don't want contact with them at all.

72% of women hold out sex after an argument. Men are more able to move beyond the emotions and be ready for sex.

Ask yourself is this going to matter in five years? If the answer is "No," have sex instead. It is a whole lot more enjoyable than staying angry with your partner.

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First, let's look at what anger does to your body's physiology. Anger sets off your body's fight or flight response, flooding your body with stress hormones from your adrenal glands. The constant flood of stress hormones can create health problems. You might get headaches, digestion issues, abdominal pain, insomnia, high blood pressure, heart attacks and strokes. 

What Happens When You Get Angry

• Whether you contain your anger, inside  you are holding it within your cells. 
• When you express anger outwardly it can make you feel terrible. Depression and or anxiety can be the result of long-term anger.
• You may say things you regret.
• You may physically express your anger in negative ways.
• Cortisol is released causing your belly to become fatter. Anger is a stressful emotion. It is not productive.

Who Rules Your Emotions?

Do your emotions rule you, or do you rule your emotions? Being able to feel our emotions without negative behavior takes self-control, even mastery. 

Anger is a form of passion. How can you turn that anger into something productive instead of continue to seathe inside? 

Take A Breather

Use breathwork to move through your feelings rather than lashing out at another person, or thing. Breathing in slowly and completely can be all it takes to bring yourself into the present, allowing the feelings to move through you. Most of us have a tendency to hold our breath when we get angry. When we do, emotions get stuck rather than moving through us the way they were meant to.

Take a walk, get on a treadmill to work off some of the feelings of frustration. If you need to leave the room to give each other space. 

Using Anger For Common Good

Anger can be used to clean your home, paint a picture, write a poem, or even a chapter in a book. Most men will tell you, they prefer using anger for passionate makeup sex. 

Using our emotions for good, rather than negatively erupting, calling someone names, or damaging material things shows that your emotions are ruling you, rather than the other way around.

Change your behavior. Instead of shutting down and running away, talk about your feelings. Express yourself constructively. When you learn to communicate through your emotions, you will find that you can turn the anger into passion more easily.

Make-Up Sex

Shifting your anger into a positive feeling takes breathwork. Moving the energy through your breath and out through your heart can allow more love in. It can also allow you to be more vulnerable. Turn that powerful energy into a positive creation. Sex after an argument, providing you are not abusing the other, can be very exciting and exhilarating.

Ways To Shift The Anger

1. Use your sexual energy to give him the performance blow job of his life. Then have him take care of you.
2. Make it a virtuoso experience. Ask for an erotic massage. Or give him one. Ask for whatever you want. After an argument, you are likely to get it. 
3. Have him worship you. Whether it is through role play or having him pleasure you, let the anger go, and sink into the present. You just might enjoy it!
4. Take a hot bath to break the energy of the fight. It can help you get into the mood to be touched an allow you to feel luxuriated.

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Final Supermoon and Happy Birthday To ME!

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

We all like to have our day in the sun. In my case, I get to have

my day in the Super MOON! I am so excited to share this incredible information with you!

On October 27th, on my birthday, we have a beautiful opportunity to have it all. It is the final Super Moon of the year, the sixth, the be exact. This full moon is the third consecutive Super Moon. Those of you who share my birthday have a very special treat. There is immense energy on the day of our birth, coupled with that of the full Super Moon, that gives us great manifesting abilities. In my family, we are so tuned into the moon cycles that two of us have had Super Moons on our birthday. We must be some kind of special!

What Is A Super Moon?

A Super Moon appears closer to the earth and brighter than usual. This Super Moon is 14% closer to the earth and 30% brighter than normal. This full moon will be a little less spectacular than last month's Blood Moon and Eclipse, which was the closest to Earth, only 221,753 miles away. Tomorrow's full moon will be at its pinnacle of fullness at 7:05 AM CDT.

Supermoons are less than 224,834 miles to Earth, measured from the center of the moon and Earth. October's supermoon will be the fifth closest moon of 2015 only 222,744 miles from Earth.

November 14, 2015, the moon will be almost as close as October 27th.

The closer the moon to us, the stronger the impact and pull on tides, and emotions. The full moon often causes emotional upheaval and even sleepless nights.

We have experienced many once in a lifetime events this year, astrologically speaking. This moon is different than other moons because it is in the sign of Taurus. Taurus is ruled by the planet Venus. Do you see the connection here, between myself and Aphrodite? You and Aphrodite? The Aphrodite Effect? It is all aligning for you.

Venus is the planet of love and beauty. This full moon in Taurus, governed by the planet of love will cause a stirring in your soul due to the effect of this powerful full moon. The proximity to the earth makes it more magnetic, stirring and clearing away what you have not seen before. The masks are coming off, and you have the chance to have it all!

Between a Venus Retrograde, followed by an extremely disruptive Mercury Retrograde that never seemed to end, we have had many opportunities to review our lives and relationships. You may have been looking at your past and reviewing who you want in your future. When the dust has cleared, you may find the playing field is almost empty.

This Super Moon is shedding light on those areas that we hold most dear and close to our hearts. This full moon provides a magnifying glass to view what is most important to us. When the moon begins to wane, what is most important is what will remain.

This moon is a super full Hunter's Moon. It is also called the Travel Moon and the Sanguine Moon. It is the only moon of the year to rise at sunset and stay in the sky until sunrise. 

The magic of this moon offers incredible manifesting tools for money, material items, sexual encounters, sexuality, romance, grounding, and affirmations. Don't miss an opportunity to manifest what you truly desire!

Much Love,
Jennifer

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Are All The Good Men Taken?

It’s written on women’s faces. We read it on the Internet. "Where are all the good men? How come

she found someone, and I can’t?”

What you believe is what you receive. 

The truth is that as frequently as we say, there are no good men, we receive what we expect: no good men. Instead of thinking there are no good men, start repeating and believing: "My best match is on his way to me right now."

Are you sitting at home in front of the television set every night instead of getting your beautiful self out to meet people? Expand your horizons and try new things. Join a cooking class, take a Salsa class or change your circle of relationships to experience new people. Instead of ditching your friend's holiday parties~ go. You will have more options available and could be pleasantly surprised at who you will meet.

Maybe you need to look at what your definition of what a “good man” is. Are you expecting perfection?

Like the site, Plenty of Fish suggests, there are plenty of single, dateable, and marriageable men. I want to let you in on a secret though I am not sure you are ready for the truth. These men have flaws and faults. None of them are perfect. They may even be damaged, heartbroken or a little gun-shy. If we set the bar too high, what we will find is that no one can meet our stiff requirements for the perfect partner. Even those looking for a soul mate will find that they too aren’t perfect but works in progress. Men might get angry, upset or feel they need a shoulder to cry on now and then.

Many men have fragile hearts. It has been scientifically proven that men have more challenges healing from their past relationship, getting back in the saddle to become committed. We have to give men time to get to know who we are. We need to give them time to heal. Marriages are at an all time low. Which is great news for single women. With so many people taking their time to date before committing or tying the knot again, the dating pool is filled with eligible men who are looking for someone to connect with, and eventually commit.

Many men are happiest when in a committed, loving relationship. Science provides us proof that married men live longer than their single counterparts.

So What’s the Problem?

It’s us. Women need to be more understanding of their dating partners. Men aren’t perfect any more than women are, even if we think we're perfect! They have traits we don’t like, just as women have traits our men don’t appreciate.

What Can We Do to Turn This Paradigm and Belief Around to Find the Best Man for the Job?

1. Be Compassionate

Look at your dating prospects with compassion. Men aren’t robots and have feelings too. Put yourself in his shoes. How would you feel if you had his experiences?

2. Be Accepting, Rather Than Sitting in Judgment.

Remember no one is perfect. If he has all the critical traits that you desire and just a few issues, that are less important to you, give him a chance, rather than throwing in the towel too soon. Often we throw away opportunities based on our reaction to something from our insecurities.

3. Sex Is Part of a Healthy Loving Relationship

Sex is what men look for in a relationship. Otherwise, they could just spend time with the guys. Just because he wants to rub his body up against yours doesn’t make him a pervert. Remember men have different wiring and needs than most women. Try not to judge him if he wants to have sex with you.

The flip side is why wouldn’t he desire you?

You can always set the ground rules to be comfortable with the speed and timing of sexual intimacy.

4. You Have to Break a Few Eggs to Make an Omelette

The first guy you meet may not be the right one for you. Maybe you have to date five, six or more men to find someone who has similar interests, makes you laugh or that you feel a deep connection. Don’t give up.

It’s written on women’s faces. We read it on the Internet. "Where are all the good men? How come she found someone, and I can’t?”

What you believe is what you receive. 

The truth is that as frequently as we say, there are no good men, we receive what we expect: no good men. Instead of thinking there are no good men, start repeating and believing: "My best match is on his way to me right now."

Are you sitting at home in front of the television set every night instead of getting your beautiful self out to meet people? Expand your horizons and try new things. Join a cooking class, take a Salsa class or change your circle of relationships to experience new people. Instead of ditching your friend's holiday parties~ go. You will have more options available and could be pleasantly surprised at who you will meet.

Maybe you need to look at what your definition of what a “good man” is. Are you expecting perfection?

Like the site, Plenty of Fish suggests, there are plenty of single, dateable, and marriageable men. I want to let you in on a secret though I am not sure you are ready for the truth. These men have flaws and faults. None of them are perfect. They may even be damaged, heartbroken or a little gun-shy. If we set the bar too high, what we will find is that no one can meet our stiff requirements for the perfect partner. Even those looking for a soul mate will find that they too aren’t perfect but works in progress. Men might get angry, upset or feel they need a shoulder to cry on now and then.

Many men have fragile hearts. It has been scientifically proven that men have more challenges healing from their past relationship, getting back in the saddle to become committed. We have to give men time to get to know who we are. We need to give them time to heal. Marriages are at an all time low. Which is great news for single women. With so many people taking their time to date before committing or tying the knot again, the dating pool is filled with eligible men who are looking for someone to connect with, and eventually commit.

Many men are happiest when in a committed, loving relationship. Science provides us proof that married men live longer than their single counterparts.

So What’s the Problem?

It’s us. Women need to be more understanding of their dating partners. Men aren’t perfect any more than women are, even if we think we're perfect! They have traits we don’t like, just as women have traits our men don’t appreciate.

What Can We Do to Turn This Paradigm and Belief Around to Find the Best Man for the Job?

1. Be Compassionate

Look at your dating prospects with compassion. Men aren’t robots and have feelings too. Put yourself in his shoes. How would you feel if you had his experiences?

2. Be Accepting, Rather Than Sitting in Judgment.

Remember no one is perfect. If he has all the critical traits that you desire and just a few issues, that are less important to you, give him a chance, rather than throwing in the towel too soon. Often we throw away opportunities based on our reaction to something from our insecurities.

3. Sex Is Part of a Healthy Loving Relationship

Sex is what men look for in a relationship. Otherwise, they could just spend time with the guys. Just because he wants to rub his body up against yours doesn’t make him a pervert. Remember men have different wiring and needs than most women. Try not to judge him if he wants to have sex with you.

The flip side is why wouldn’t he desire you?

You can always set the ground rules to be comfortable with the speed and timing of sexual intimacy.

4. You Have to Break a Few Eggs to Make an Omelette

The first guy you meet may not be the right one for you. Maybe you have to date five, six or more men to find someone who has similar interests, makes you laugh or that you feel a deep connection. Don’t give up.

5. Are Your Expectations Realistic?

If you are looking for a particular trait in a man, do you have that trait?

Like attracts like. If you are in debt up to your eyebrows and are looking for a multi-millionaire, it is unlikely you will find him. Are you looking for someone who is totally free of issues, when you are still sleeping with your teddy bear or ex’s photo?

6. Step Outside of Your Comfort Zone

How open are you to trying new things, going out of your comfort zone or meeting new people?

Often we keep looking for the same type of person, which we know isn’t supportive of us when the nice guy is what we need.

It is my experience that many women myself included, judge men too quickly. Sometimes we examine their exterior saying they are not the Adonis or brainiac we desired. We need to give them the opportunity to shine. Many people are a little nervous on a first or even second date. It can take some time to become comfortable enough to let down our guard and become open.

Give him a chance if he is polite, genuine and interested in you. Take a look inside you and examine what resistance you have before you take a pass on your next date.

Ask yourself the following questions:

Is your resistance and fear of being hurt surfacing?

Does he have traits and values that match yours?  

Does he treat you with respect, reverence and interest?

If we are looking for instant attraction and ditch the guy because it isn't present at first, we might be missing out on something wonderful. Attraction can grow as we begin to love the person that they are inside. Give him a chance to show you how amazing he is, you just might find that Mr. Wonderful is standing right in front of you!

This post was written for Digital Romance. Here is the link to my article.

Are All The Good Men Taken?

3 Ways Trauma Continues To Play Out In Relationships

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

There is a reason for everything that happens. You may wonder why on earth some of the events occurred when they continue to plague you long after the event? Our trauma in childhood may very well become our greatest challenges in adulthood. Ignoring the emotional reverberations can cause major issues in all your relationships. These issues can plague you beyond your last break-up or divorce if you don't pay attention to clear the past events.

What Is Trauma?

Trauma is an event that shatters your sense of security, causing emotional pain, suffering or even fear long after the event has ended. Rape, sexual and emotional abuse are the biggest issues that cause trauma. Emotional trauma is a form of PTSD. 

The trauma could be a parent or teacher humiliating us in front of our class. It could be a doctor, parent, sibling or babysitting sexually molesting us. It could be a critical parent who only knew criticism themselves and replicated their parents tough taskmaster roles in our lives. For others, trauma could be having a parent or parents who were addicted to alcohol or drugs and were emotionally unavailable to us. A parent who makes a child responsible for their happiness also causes trauma.

How Does Trauma Affect Us?

Trauma can cause constant fears, anxiety, depression, inability to trust others, numbness (both physically and emotionally). What I have noticed with myself and my clients is that when we are triggered we go back to that moment in time when we felt powerless, unsafe and unprotected. It as if time stands still and we revert to our childhood state when the trauma occurred. 

When Will Trauma Occur?

1. When you were unprepared for it
2. When we feel unable to prevent it or protect ourselves
3. It happens repeatedly
4. You felt powerless to prevent it
5. It happened in childhood
6. Someone was intentionally cruel

How Trauma Continues To Replay

1. You are triggered by a smell, touch or thing (this could be the smell of soap, a dog that was part of the event). For me, although I love dogs, I can't see a pug without remembering my neighbor who molested me when I was five. Pugs give me the creeps. The smell of comet cleanser is another trigger for me due to the same event. It is a visceral memory.
2. Someone touches you in a way that triggers a past memory of the traumatic event. It could be a loving partner who touches you in a way, that is reminiscent of the sexual abuse or trauma.
3. Your current partner might say a phrase that triggers a memory that brings you back to the event, years afterwards.

How Can You Overcome The Past?

Trying to forget it doesn't work. You can overcome the trauma with energy work, hypnotherapy, and Repatterning. This is work I do with my clients in sessions. Spiritual re-parenting, removal of the past beliefs, and patterns will help you to move forward out of the pattern which is like PTSD. Just like a soldier who continues to re-live the trauma of what he or she has been through, childhood trauma is a form of PTSD.

Suggestions To Work Through Trauma

Emotional trauma does not go away on its own. Our unconscious mind is where the event is stored, causing reactions to be triggered for innocuous events seemingly out of nowhere. Keeping secrets about sexual abuse, rape, incest and the like cause deep suffering that never goes away. Working on the unconscious patterning is what I do in my coaching. As a survivor of most types of trauma, I have worked through my own issues over 32 years of deep introspection and inner work. I use these techniques to help you shift your inner and outer world. There are some things you can do to help yourself recover.

1. Speak up! Most survivors of trauma shut down and shut up. This does not help you recover. It perpetuates the behavior instead of allowing it to be released. Talk to your partner, spouse, or hire someone like me that knows what they are doing to help you recover.
2. Know Your Triggers. No one knows you like you. You know what triggers you. Let your partner and loved ones know so that they understand your reactions. 
3. Ask Permission To Touch. The most powerful thing I received in Tantra was having my partner ask, "May I touch you here?" It empowers you, allows you to feel safe, and instills trust. Without trust, you can't have an orgasm. Have your partner ask your permission to touch, hug, or kiss you before they swoop in and grab you. Those who have never experienced sexual trauma are ill equipped to understand your pushing them away. It causes unnecessary hurt feelings. 
4. Practice. You have been living with this trauma for most of your life. It takes some time to overcome old behaviors. Practice asking for what you need. Your safety and trust of others is paramount for your happiness. If you feel you always have to look over your shoulder for the next blow, you will always have anxiety.
5. Get Professional Help. I did group therapy, private sessions with a Psychotherapist and none of it helped me. Often repeating your story does nothing but keep you in the old patterns. My sense is that the best form of therapy is healing that allows you to shift perspective, removes emotions and blocks that keep you stuck in the same patterns. You have to work with someone who understands your type of trauma and has healed their own. Working with someone that still has their own issues, won't help you.

Reasonably Priced Programs To Help You

I have several programs on my website that offer clearings, and energy work that will help you shift in powerful and positive ways. Happiness Jump Happiness - At The Beginning is a three part three-hour audio series that clears what is blocking you from being happy and walks you through what you need to do and not do to be happy right now. $98.00 - $675 Value!

Aphrodite Effect (Journey Into Radiance clears your love story helps you recognize where you might be off track with your past relationships, allowing you to be ALL IN! In part three I walk you through manifesting your BELOVED PARTNER! $98.00 for three hours of deep inner work and energy clearing. Over $675 value!

The Shift Clearings are all three-part audio series that offer deep energy clearing of anxiety, worry, fears, blocks to love and finally financial blocks to abundance as well as teachings to help you right now. At $98.00 for three hours of intense work this is a very special value. Over $675 value!

In my first book, Odyssey Victim to Victory, I tell my story of healing. I went from man to man looking for love because I confused sex with love. It was the pattern imprinted in childhood. People I trusted hurt me and overstepped my personal boundaries repeatedly. I was clinically depressed for over 20 years. I got married and divorced because I didn't love myself and attracted men who victimized me because of the pattern of victimhood. Until I removed the trapped emotions, patterns and self-sabotage, I continued to attract the same type of men.

The sexual trauma caused me to have numbness in my body. I was unable to orgasm with a partner. Which is why I wrote Orgasm For Life in 2014. It is no longer a problem for me. I write about sexual healing in Orgasm For Life for those who want to heal this on their own.

My past no longer defines me. I am happy. I love myself fearlessly. On my healing journey, I became a hypnotherapist, a hypnotherapy trainer, a certified Master Energy healer, A certified Akashic Record Practitioner, and worked on myself and my unconscious programs. It took me 30 years doing it on my own. How much time do you have to devote to your recovery? You deserve to be happy. You deserve to recognize your value. I did it on my own, now I help others to heal their trauma so that they can have the love they deserve. Visit my website for further information on my work. Aphroditeeffect.com Sign up for my private newsletters that offer insights and special offers. Or e-mail me to set up a private session with me. 

Happiness Jump Start: 22 Ways To Increase Happiness Now

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Happy people live differently than those who are not happy. Being a happy person myself, I can share the things that bring happiness to me on a daily basis. I wasn't always happy. I have found like others who are now happy, that it is a choice, and it comes from inside.

It is easy to blame a job, relationship, another person, parent, place you live or the weather for your unhappiness. If you continue to do so, you will find you miss out on the good things that come your way and the many ways you could be living in happiness right now. When you are happy, you will find that everything in your life becomes easier, relationships improve.

I have created a three-part audio program, Happiness Jump Start, which is available through my website. There are three hours of energy moving, pick-you-up happiness exercises and things to do right now all the way to Quantum Happiness and Living in The Flow. This program is a great value for three hours that you can listen to over and over again. This program will shift you, raise your vibration and help you get started feeling happy. Trapped emotions in your unconscious mind will be released as well. It will teach you the things to do and not to do that rob your happiness.

If you follow even half of these suggestions, you will find yourself happier tomorrow than you are today!

Here are 22 ways to begin being happy now:

1. Choose happiness. Each day INTEND to be happy at the beginning of your day. We have to change our inner state to be happy. Think, "I choose to be happy!"
2. Be Grateful. Every day is a gift. Be happy to be alive today. Say a prayer of gratitude for being alive today. Gratitude is a high vibrational expression of love. It raises your vibration. Gratitude will help you begin your day on a high note. Gratitude is the fuel to help you manifest your desires. 
3. Implement positive thoughts. It is possible. I have done it. You can do it too! You have the goods. Your energy field will expand and people will see you as more powerful when you are positive. Griping, complaining about all the negative things you have going on in your life will increase and get bigger. Wherever you focus your thoughts will become a bigger issue. Misery is the gift that keeps on giving. Catch yourself when you are thinking a negative thought. Course-correct in the moment. It will make you conscious of your negative thinking in the moment. Within two weeks, you will begin to course correct as you think your thoughts. In 30 days, you will create the positive habit to think positively. 
4. Smile. You will be amazed at how different you feel when you put a smile on your face. Your physiology will change when you smile. Notice your face as you walk by a window or mirror. Do you look happy? Or does your face reflect misery? Put a smile on your lips, it will help you shift your thoughts as well.
5. Be Present. When you live in the present, you will find the small things right in front of you. Focusing on what you did or didn't do in the past, keeps you stuck in the past. Living in the past and repeating your old story to friends and yourself drags those events into your future. Let it go. It is time to focus on what is in front of you. You might even find love standing right in front of you when you lift up your eyes to see. 
6. Discipline is the path to happiness. Go to bed before 11:00. Get up at the same time every day. Meditate before you leave the house in the morning. Exercise on a schedule. You will find that when you show up on time, or early you feel better. The Universe loves order. A daily regime makes you feel more productive when you have discipline and a regime. Implemented in your life. Staying up late leads to weight gain. Going to bed before 11:00 will prevent this.
7. Forgiveness. Forgive everyone. Let go of the past. Resentment and unforgiveness create a burden for you. No matter how hurt you have been, when you don't forgive others, it creates dark energy for you. Unforgiveness is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. Do the Ho'oponopono Prayer to forgive, it is for you.
8. Eat a healthy diet. When you respect yourself, you will eat a healthy diet. A healthy diet will make you feel more positive. You will suffer less from depression and illness. Avoid fast foods, processed sugar, high fructose, chemicals and processed foods.
9. Go to bed early. Sleep deprivation leads to depression. You will find you have a more positive attitude when you get enough sleep.
10. Get outside in the sunshine! Everyone needs the sunshine. Those who live in northern climates have more depression due to lack of sunshine. Walking outside at sunrise is healing. 
11. Exercise daily. You don't have to have a gym membership to exercise. Walking is good exercise. Being out in nature makes you feel good and doesn't cost anything. Walk outside daily! Being healthy is a way of life. Daily exercise is a way of life. You will feel more positive when you do.
12. Give to others. Giving to others makes us feel amazing. Tipping your wait staff, or giving to the homeless will bring you positive feelings and joy. Give someone the clothes you aren't wearing anymore. Give a compliment to someone you exchange with. You will be amazed at how positive you both will feel when your complement is heartfelt. Giving to others gives back to you.
13. Faith. You don't have to go to church to have faith. Believing in something will help you be happier and doesn't mean you need religion. A deep spiritual connection brings you joy. A connection with the earth and nature will also bring you joy, as it connects you to a higher power. 
14. Have a personal creed. What do you stand for? Do you stand for animal rights? Do you stand for women's rights? Do you protect the rights of children? What do you believe in? Write down what you stand for. Knowing what you stand for can expand the love in your heart.
15. Get organized. Do you know where your keys are? Can you find what you need when you are getting ready for your day? Organize your closets, drawers and shoes. Order toiletries so you can save time. Getting organized can give you inner peace and harmony. Having order in your home will increase your happiness. Get rid of clothes you don't wear, or broken items.
16. Personal Freedom. Choose to live your life your way, without having to ask others for approval. You may have to work hard for your freedom. If friends ask you to do things you don't want to do, and you do them anyway, you are not exercising your personal freedom. Let your heart decide. Do friends make your heart soar, or make your energy drop? Are your friends anchors or sails? You have the right to choose who you have around you. Being an entrepreneur leads to personal mastery and freedom. 
17. Meaningful work. Doing what you love can bring you happiness. Personal satisfaction means much more than money. Meaningful work can bring you immense satisfaction.
18. Experience comedians, funny movies. Watching movies or television shows can relax you and make you feel happier. Moderation is the key.
19. Family. Our family is important. Healing issues with your family members will allow you to feel peace. There is nothing more disruptive to your energy field than having emotional distance and unhealed relationships with family members. 
20. Community. Being involved in your community can bring you pleasure and happiness. A connection with those you live near can involve volunteering at a shelter, or serving Thanksgiving for homeless. Community events can bring you great joy.
21. Get a pet. Happy people often have pets. When you live alone, a cat can keep you company, give you someone to love and that will love you back. We all need someone to love while you are waiting for your loved one to show up, get a pet. There are
    
    many adult animals available at local shelters that would love to have you are their loving caretaker. A dog needs more care than a cat, but certainly will love to walk with you out in nature!
22. Remember to play and have fun. No matter how old we are, we need to play. What brings you joy? What is fun to you? Do something that is fun every day. Play doesn't have to have a cost. You can play cards, take a drive to a beautiful place, or spend time with those who you enjoy. Play will bring you happiness.

Jennifer is a coach, healed healer and a survivor of sexual trauma from her childhood. She has healed the past and lives in the present moment in joy. She can help you do the same. No matter what your past has been, you can be happy today. Make the choice to be happy today, make a private appointment with Jennifer today. Her Happiness Jump Start program is powerful and available at a reasonable cost $98.00 for three hours with Jennifer on audio. 

Sex Keeps You Young!

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

This past weekend, while attending an art exhibit in Santa Monica, I spoke with several couples about my book. There was one couple in particular that had my attention. They were married for 37 years. 

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David was interested in my book and shared his insight about staying connected through sex with his wife. We talked for over an hour about how they continued to have regular sex. While most of Anita's friends thought them crazy! All of her female friends were in sexless marriages and had given sex up long ago.

To look at David and Anita, you would never think it possible they could be married to each other for 37 years! They didn't look old enough.

Neither Anita nor David had wrinkles. They were happy, relaxed and alive. David shared with me that there were amazing things about relating to someone you knew well. You could share your interest in trying new sexual positions that you hadn't tried before. You are comfortable with someone you have been with for thirty-seven years. You move beyond the fear of asking for something kinky or different.

Look at couples who have stayed connected and sexually active, like Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russel. There are others of course. Goldie told The Daily Mai that "marriage has nothing to do with relationship success."

Science has proven that we stay young, vibrant and alive by continuing to have a healthy sex life. Couples who have sex three times a week, look ten years younger than those who have sex once a week or less, says Dr. David Weeks, who has studied the benefits of sex and anti-aging for over ten years.

We Try Harder To Stay Fit and Healthy

Dr. Weeks says that couples who are loving are more inclined to keep themselves looking good for their partner. They are more fit, healthy and vibrant. There are psychological benefits as well. Chemicals are released in women that provide anti-aging benefits: The Human Growth Hormone - naturally. What's not to like?

Regular, loving sex came second to physical and mental activity as the factors most important to retaining youth.

The study concluded that people who continue to have regular loving sex as more confident, altruistic and intelligent.

Much Love to you!

Jennifer

I invite you to visit my new website: AphroditeEffect.com it is all about radiance, love, sexuality, being youthful and beautiful at any age. E-mail me if you have questions or would like to work with me. 

9 Things Happy Couples Talk About

The Happiest Couples In The World Talk About These 9 Things

Introducing our guest blogger from Vixen Daily!

By Nick Bastion / Vixen Daily


You know what good relationships are all about?

It’s not necessarily about chemistry, or compatibility, or even attraction most of the time.

Most of the time, when you look at what makes relationships REALLY good – it comes down to
communication.

It comes down to how well you can talk to each other, and more importantly…

…WHAT you talk about.

Science backs me up here – there was a study published in the journal Psychological Science that found that couples who mostly stick to the small stuff when they talk wind up much less happy than couples who get into the deep stuff.

The happiest couples on earth spend only 10% of their time with each other talking about unimportant small stuff like the weather. Meanwhile – the unhappiest couples talk about the small stuff more than 30% of the time.

It’s important to find out the things happy couples talk about.

Let me break it down for you. Here are the 9 things that the happiest, most satisfied couples on earth

talk about:

1. The State Of The World

I said BIG topics, didn’t I?

The happiest couples talk about what’s going on around them – whether it’s on the local level or the

worldwide level.

They share an interest in the world outside their home and talk through major issues and events with

each other to share their views and let each other be heard.

And their relationships wind up stronger for it.

2. How You See The Future

Talking about the future can be a scary topic in a relationship – especially when you’re not 100% sure how he feels about you.

But if you don’t talk about the future, how can you ever possibly know where you stand?

The strongest couples don’t shy away from talking about the future with each other – and making firm plans that involve each other. If you can’t talk about the future with him, your relationship might not have one.

3. Embarrassing Moments From Life

One of the best parts of a relationship is having someone you can share ANYTHING with – even if it was

a super embarrassing moment you’d rather forget.

So if you’ve got a childhood memory that still makes your ears burn, share it with him. Chances are, he’s

got a memory that trumps yours – and you’ll both feel better for having shared them with each other.

4. TV, Movies, And Other Entertainment

I’m not counting this as small talk – even though some people might.

To me, taste in movies, TV and entertainment matter. It helps when you both like the same things – but barring that, it helps when you can at least see each other’s perspectives and opinions.

Plus, discovering that you both LOVE tense political dramas is a great moment – and foretells lots of

happy nights curled up on the couch with each other.

5. Your Biggest Fears

One of the most important things to do in any relationship is to share yourself completely with your

partner – to better allow him to share himself completely with you.

And yes, that includes your fears. If you can’t allow yourself to be vulnerable around the person you’re supposed to trust with everything, where can you be vulnerable?

Summon up your courage and share what you’re truly afraid of with him. He’ll do the same – and it will bring you closer together.

6. What’s Going On In Politics

This is a scary subject for a lot of people – there’s a reason its one of the biggest ones avoided at

parties.

But being in a relationship is about being respectful and listening to each other – even when you don’t agree. Even if you’ve got opposing views, it’s good to talk about them with each other in a respectful way, so that you get the opposing viewpoint from someone you respect.

Plus, it’s a great way to practice patience and positivity with each other – if you disagree that is.

7. Your Childhoods

Things that happen in your childhoods shape the people you are today. How are you supposed to know who your partner really is without knowing what went into making him the person he is now?

Talk to each other about your childhoods… the things you remember and the things you wish you could forget. Sharing such an intimate part of your lives is a great way to bring yourselves closer together.

8. Your Romantic Pasts

This probably isn’t something to bring up on a first date – but if you’re in a serious relationship with

someone, it helps to know what happened to them romantically over his life – just like it helps him to

know where you’re coming from.

Talking about exes – what happened, where you went wrong, where they made mistakes, and why

things ended up the way they did, gives you and your partner valuable information about how to get

things right THIS time, in THIS relationship.

That way, you don’t wind up repeating mistakes of the past, and instead make happy memories and

plans for the future.

9. What Your Families Are Like

When you put together a list of the most important, influential people in someone’s life – family is

almost always at the very top of the list.

These people make you who you are – no matter how infuriating, frustrating, and aggravating they can be sometimes.

Share with each other about your relationships with your family – it will give you both huge insight into how you view relationships and what to do to keep each other happy.

Vixendaily.com is the only site out there that specializes in mind-reading quizzes, content

and advice tailored to your particular needs.  It’s like having your own personal mentor

guiding you through life’s challenges every step of the way! It was founded by dating and relationship expert, Nick Bastion, who is the main contributor to the Love & Relationship Advice section of the site.

I Believe In Fairy Tales

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

I believe in love. I also believe that our dreams do come true. I recently watched the movie Grace of Monaco. I have watched this movie now three times. Why? General Charles De Gaulle called Princess Grace the American Aphrodite. We can all learn lessons about love, commitment and doing the difficult things to make a relationship work.

Princess Grace was beautiful, soft, loving, compassionate. She adored her husband, and he adored her. Her family came first. She always had her husband's back, even coming to his aid changing the events in history by holding a ball in honor of The Red Cross. She invited Charles De Gaulle, who was trying to overthrow Monaco. She did not fight; she did not yell. She did not argue. She spoke softly, with loving compassion and changed the course of history.

What Does This Story Have To Do With YOU?

We have the power to change the course of our lives. It takes intention, focus and love. If you don't love you, you will critique your loved one. If you don't trust you, you will not trust your loved one. Love has to come from you first. You are the one that needs to love you. When you love and accept yourself completely, you will be more loving, accepting, positive and compassionate with your partner. You will also be able to receive love. Many of us have been hurt. Wounded people have difficulty receiving love and push it away in many different ways.

Pushing Love Away

When we judge our partners, we push love away. If we critique our partners, we push love away. If we complain about our life or partners, we avoid love and happiness.

When your partner comes home, do you embrace him, give him a big hug and kiss? Or her? Or do you avoid physical contact at any cost? Touch is a loving part of a relationship. If you push physical contact away, you don't love you. It is not your partner's fault. Don't blame them for what they haven't done for you. Express your feelings compassionately. Speak about what is upsetting you without blame. You can't expect someone to read your mind if you don't tell them what is going on inside of you.

Your Thoughts Change The Course Of History

Fighting, arguing, blaming will not get you to happiness. Being miserable with your life, will not allow you to find love. Changing the way you think, shifting beliefs, and patterns are all work I do with my clients. 

Adoring Husband

I know several women who are adored by their husbands, but their wives treat them as if they were yesterday's bread. In June, I attended a wedding and witnessed a beautiful wedding. I remarked to my date that I gave them two years before she would divorce him. Why? He adored her. She was not giving adoration back to him. He loved her, but she didn't love herself. She doubted, was jealous and insecure. Within less than six months, she is bored with her marriage and focuses on others when they are together. He was sitting with her focusing on her while she texted her friends. 

The Truth

If you aren't happy with your life or yourself, no one can make you happy. If you love yourself, are authentic, compassionate and soft, you will find the love you seek. I can help you remove whatever is blocking you.

If you bash, berate, nag or complain about your partner, you will find love will disappear. 

Fairy Tales

Love is possible, but it has to begin with you. A beautiful marriage or partnership is possible, but you have to give. You have to be compassionate, understanding, loyal, supportive and honest. If you dream about a beautiful wedding, but don't love yourself, you will be unhappy soon after the confetti is picked up and the flowers are wilted. 

Love begins and ends with you. Loving yourself is the first step in attracting love to you. You become a magnet for love. Sex is a part of love. If you don't want to have sex with your partner, expect that he will want sex with someone else. Sex is a loving part of a partnership or marriage. 

1. Stop critiquing and judging yourself and others.
2. Accept all parts of you, lovingly.
3. You are already enough.
4. Your thoughts create. Notice what you are thinking. Focus on the positive. 
5. Stop complaining. It doesn't bring you, love. 
6. Notice where your focus is. Do you love you? Are you compassionate with you and others?
7. Are you grateful for what you have? Gratitude is the fastest way to open your heart. It raises your vibration. If you aren't happy with what you have, and grateful for it, you won't get anything better than what is in your life right now. Gratitude is the fuel for love. Be grateful starting right now for the small things: your health, your life, a paycheck, a job, food on the table, friends, the rain, the sunshine.
8. The more loving and accepting you are with you, the better your life will be. You can't love another if you can't stand being alone with you.

E-mail me if you have questions or would like to book a discovery session. If you aren't prepared to do deep work or do homework or self-discovery, I am not the right person for you. The work I do is powerful, life-changing. I will be direct, compassionate with you, but you have to do the work to be happy, love yourself and your life. Visit my website to read more about my offerings, JumpStart Happiness programs, or Aphrodite Effect programs. 

AphroditeEffect.com

Much Love,

Jennifer

Getting Intimate With Allana Pratt

Hello you beautiful soul!

I am so delighted that you are here. You are the reason I write this blog. I have a special event coming up later today. I do hope you will join me with my host Allana Pratt on Intimate Conversations Live. The link is provided for you here. You have helped me increase my viewing audience by being here. I would love to hear from you, either under this post or on my FaceBook page. What are your burning questions? What areas have I not covered that you are curious about?

There is a special offering that you have to be present on the call to receive. This will be an exciting and juicy conversation about me, my work and how I got into writing about Orgasms For Life, sex and relationship issues.

I know you already know a lot about me, but Allana Pratt has a way of getting me to say things about me that I have never told anyone else, about intimacy, relationships and what really matters.

Allana is the Intimacy and Relationship Expert who coached Leeza Gibbons through Dancing With The Stars. She has interview Whoopi Goldberg. Allana is known as the "SEXY MOM. She will be interviewing me today, Thursday, October 15th at 4:00 PM Pacific. 

You can register here for free: 

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I’ll be joined by amazing folks from all walks of life who will be getting Intimate with Allana too. I accepted the interview because she’s one of the most open, honest, heartfelt, sexy and hysterical women I know. I always feel a foot taller after talking with her. She has this special energy that truly inspires people.

On my call, she’s going to get me to reveal my most delicious, intimate secrets, like:

* What made me go study Tantra

* How Tantra changed my life for the better

* Why Orgasm For Life may be the best addition to your library!

Sign up for "Intimate Conversations" call series for FREE:

and ask your burning question you’ve ALWAYS wanted

to ask me, or ask Allana!

“Intimate Conversations” is a FREE, LIVE event to

empower your relationships to thrive, your families to flourish and will have you oozing confidence from the boardroom to the bedroom.

You won’t want to miss it.

Oh… and I almost forgot… you MUST be on

the call to hear the special offer I have for all of our listeners!

So register NOW and don’t miss my interview on 

Thursday – October 15th at 4pm PST.

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See you there,

With Love,

Jennifer

P.S. We’ll be talking about this for months!

Register here and join me!

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