Saturday, March 11, 2017

Are You Jealous of Everyone?

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

I remember the days when I attempted to fit in, longed for others to "like" me and felt uncomfortable in my skin. I worried about what people thought of me and often felt I was right when others had to be wrong. I "helped" others by fixing them or giving them suggestions on how they could be better. 

Can you imagine? 

Performing for a family member in my backyard
I was pretty, but thought I was ugly. I hated my nose. I hated my teeth. I thought my thighs were too fat. I was jealous, insecure and oh so unhappy. I was jealous of the smart girls. I was jealous of the ones with the best boyfriends. I was jealous of the attention others got instead of me.

 Though I was one of the popular girls in high school, a cheerleader and on the Athletic Council, an elected post, inside of my brain was a sea of negative mind chatter that gave me no peace and kept me awake at night. 

It doesn't matter what the immediate cause is; when we are filled with jealousy it is because of self-loathing and insecurities. What does matter is that we do something about it. I did. I set about to find out why I was sick all the time and to stop blaming others for the way I felt about myself. I was numb, uncomfortable, insecure, jealous, anxious, depressed and unhappy.

I didn't consider myself a jealous person, but others did. JEM

I read every self-help book I could find beginning with Louise Hay You Can Heal Your Life. I tried traditional therapies and even took Prozac after a particularly messy and ugly divorce. The Prozac just made me not feel my feelings even more than I already did. 

In spite of what I have heard some clients tell me, there is no side of jealousy that is healthy. 

What Does Jealousy Mean?

  • Jealousy is a sign of insecurity. 
  • Jealousy is from self-loathing a form of deep seated hatred.
  • Jealousy is anger.
  • Jealous is a sign of abuse.
  • Jealousy left unhealed will kill your relationships and leave you feeling wounded, broken and wronged. Yet, we are the ones with the unbridled envy. 

Why We Feel Jealous

We have core beliefs that leave us feeling unworthy or not enough. We believe that others are better than us and we are lacking. Jealousy is a form of self-sabotage. The truth is we lack our love and acceptance. 

How To Overcome Jealousy

1. Recognize that we are giving our personal power away.

2. Step back. Notice what story is playing in our mind. Shift your perspective. 

3. Ask: Is this true? Am I imagining this? 

4. Notice your emotions. Awareness changes everything.

5. Do something physical, like taking a power walk and allow the energy of the emotions to be released. 

6. Notice core beliefs. What is under the feeling of jealousy?Is it that we don't feel enough? Is it that we don't feel loved? 

7. Get quiet and turn inward to connect with our higher power. Meditation will help us faster than anything get the real truth. 

8. Use a mantra to calm your mind and fill up with positive feelings. 

I am enough.

I love me.

I am loved.

Jealousy is hatred and inner loathing with a core belief of not being good enough. 

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Thursday, March 9, 2017

How To Shift Anxiety Depression and Insomnia With Essential Oils

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Millions of people suffer from depression, insomnia, and anxiety.  Getting enough deep sleep each night is imperative to produce serotonin. Serotonin is a neurotransmitter that helps relay signals from one area of the brain to another. 

The serotonin used by the brain must be produced in the brain. Without sufficient sleep, a study in the Journal of Medicine explains that anxiety and depression often result.   

Serotonin is manufactured in the brain, however,  most people are unaware that 90% of the serotonin in the body is in the digestive tract and blood platelets. 

Tryptophan is an essential amino acid that is required to synthesize serotonin in the brain. Twenty amino acids are required for protein synthesis. Eleven amino acids can be synthesized by the body, nine must be obtained by the diet. Turkey is one source of tryptophan which can lead to drowsiness after a big Thanksgiving dinner.

What Does Serotonin Do?

Adequate amounts of serotonin stabilize moods and are responsible for feelings of well-being. Serotonin creates:

  • Stable moods
  • Appetite control - reducing appetite
  • Feelings of happiness, contentment, relaxation
  • Focus or concentration
  • Healthy libido
  • Controls anxiety and depression
  • Prevention of premenstrual syndrome
  • Prevention of headaches
  • Positive feelings, thoughts, and self-esteem
  • Promoting positive thinking and self-esteem

Eating sweets or sugary foods like soda, ice cream or consuming high fructose, sugary foods, and cereals deplete the healthy biome and cause depression and lower the immune system. Only 3.5 ounces can suppress your immune system by 50%. Sugary foods also contribute to inflammation, candida, joint pain, and arthritis. Watch my YouTube video about toxic sugar. 

What is a biome, you ask? A naturally occurring community of flora and fauna that comprise a major habitat.  A deficiency of serotonin is one of the biggest reasons people suffer from depression. How do I know? I had high levels of stress post-divorce returning to work after nine years of being a stay-at-home mom. 

I experienced profound guilt from taking my children out of their $600,000 beautiful childhood home, into a two bedroom apartment. Returning to work and having to put my two young boys (now 35 and 33 respectively) in YMCA summer camp created untold stress, worry, and anxiety. 

I suffered from insomnia, worry, anxiety and depression as a result. I used 5htp and vitamin B6 in small amounts together to boost serotonin levels, took herbal supplements and used essential oils. My research and experience taught me better ways to combat stress depression, anxiety to be healthy and happy. Meditation, a healthy diet and exercise is an important part of my daily routine, along with essential oils. I recommend you do your research before taking anything. 

A healthy diet with daily exercise, meditation and relaxation will help to promote positive feelings along with getting sufficient sleep. For those who have insomnia, a catch-22 situation occurs. You can't sleep, which causes anxiety and depression because you aren't producing enough serotonin and you find yourself having difficulty going to bed at the same time, for fear that you won't sleep. 

Bedrooms are for two things only; sex and sleep. I recommend no television, cells phones or computers in the bedroom. Shut off the computer two hours or more before bedtime so that your mind has time to shut down and get out of work mode. Do not text during the night. Keep your phone in another room on silent while you sleep. Use the following essential oils to promote restful sleep, calmness, and harmony in the mind-body. 

Therapeutic Grade Essential oils that are of the highest quality have the biggest effect on mood and the body. I have done my research and love DoTerra essential oils. Why? They are the purest of pure, unadulterated oils and Therapeutic Grade. DoTerra gives back to the community in life-sustaining ways supporting and rebuilding impoverished Nepal; and were voted the 2016 International Company of The Year

Whether we realize it or not our entire lives are affected by smell. Scents can be comforting and relaxing. Essential oils can raise your vibration, ease stress and lift your spirits. Smells bring back memories. Lilacs for me remind me of elementary school
and coming home for lunch. 

My mother would have huge bouquets of freshly cut lilacs in soft lavender and white in a huge vase. No matter where I smell the scent of lilacs I become that little girl of 7 or 8 sitting at our dining room table eating my sandwich or bowl of freshly made soup in Ontario. Huffington Post has a great article about our olfactory response and scents. 

1. Roman Chamomile

Chamomile is a popular ingredient in candles, tea and many aromatherapy products. It’s one of the best herbs for alleviating stress and promoting relaxation. Research has shown that inhaling chamomile vapors using chamomile oil is a natural remedy for both anxiety and depression. Chamomile soothes the mind and relaxes the body to promote a better night’s rest. If you’re struggling with insomnia, try applying a few drops of roman chamomile oil to the bottom of your feet before bed. You can also add a few drops to your shampoo, conditioner or skin moisturizer.

2. Lavender

Lavender has been used for centuries for a variety of uses including an antiseptic, massage oil, excellent for the blemishes as well as calming and relaxing oil on the soles of the feet, or pillows. Lavender can be used to cook with, or taken internally to calm anxious feelings. 

I use lavender on the back of my neck around my ears and drop several drops into an Epsom salts bath to relax and unwind. The gorgeous scent of lavender is soothing and aids with sleep. Add a few drops to your linen closet or clothes closet as well. Lavender is my favorite oil to diffuse into my entire home, calming my animals as well as myself.

4. Bergamot

Bergamot oil is a lovely citrusy scent that inspires the brain, gives you clarity and is known for being an antidepressant, stimulating the circulation and feelings of joy and increased energy.

When I am writing I use Bergamot to excite my brain to elicit creativity. A study in 2011 paired Bergamot essential oil with lavender essential oil. Both help to treat depression. The participants experienced relaxation, calmness, greater focus, and alertness. Rub Bergamot on the soles of your feet, inhale the beautiful aroma as well.  Bergamot is found in Earl Grey tea. It improves blood circulation and stimulates feelings of joy and energy. 

5. Wild Orange

Traveling through the orange groves of Valencia California, the light fragrance of orange blossoms is calming and soothing. The essential oil of Orange essential oil naturally helps to reduce anxiety to promote a better night’s sleep. This fresh citrus fragrance of the essential oil Wild Orange uplifts feelings of sorrow and depression. Use orange oil at night, place a few drops on your stomach before drifting off to sleep. Using a carrier oil of coconut creates a soothing effect, so moisturize your skin before bed to relieve insomnia and anxiety. 

6. Ylang Ylang

Ylang Ylang has been used for weddings and religious ceremonies for centuries. Its floral scent has many uses including warding off feelings of jealousy, anger, and low self-esteem. Ylang Ylang is a natural remedy for depression, warding off negative emotions that often surface when we are depressed. 

Ylang Ylang is a wonderful essential oil for women to use to increase libido, enhancing confidence and improving mood. It is mildly sedative, lowers stress levels and helps aid relaxation. Massage into skin or diffuse into the room. 

7. Vetiver

Vetiver is of the grass family. It provides an exotic fragrance and grounding abilities to soothe and calm. Vetiver is an excellent essential oil to use for massaging. It is excellent for concentration and ADHD. An ancient Ayurvedic oil used for massaging brides to be, it was found to heal the emotional body from within.

Dr. Axe provides great detail on the many uses of this versatile and little known essential oil. 

8. Blends:

Serenity Restful Blend evaporates your worries with the tranquil aroma of calming Roman Chamomile, soothing Ylang Ylang, lavender, Hawaiian Sandalwood. This Serenity blend releases anxiety, calming tension and stress. 

Serenity softgels are a way to take these essential oils orally. You will sleep better and wake rested and feeling peaceful. 

Serenity, Balance, and Lavender together make a great combination. 

Beautifully blended, this fresh woody, grounding essential oil provides a sense of calm and wellbeing. Balance blend combines Blue Tansy, Ho Wood, Spruce, Roman Chamomile and Frankincense to promote tranquility and relaxation. Massage Balance into your feet to begin your day, diffuse in your car on trips with people you want to be speaking with when you arrive.

A deliciously fresh blend of mandarin, grapefruit, Bergamot, Wild orange, clementine with a hint of vanilla. Fresh uplifting and invigorating.  Excellent for lifting your mood and reducing stress. A few drops of Citrus Bliss in water makes a gentle yet fragrant cleaning agent that is safe for pets, children and those with sensitive noses.

Elevate - Joyful Blend

Osmanthus (Tea Olive in Georgia)
The perfect essential oil to lift your mood and energize you. This gorgeous blend contains my most favorite earthly fragrance - Osmanthus as well as Lavender, Lavindin, Melissa, Ylang Ylang, Tangerine, Elemi, Hawaiian Sandalwood, and Lemon Myrtle. Elevate is a unique blend that promotes a positive mood and feelings of confidence. I believe that Osmanthus is the most beautiful fragrance. It reminds me of my time as a landscape professional in Georgia. I would round a corner and wonder where is that ethereal fragrance coming from? Each of the combined essential oils is uplifting creating the perfect way to raise your spirits when feeling down, challenged or stressed.

Cheer Touch For Your Heart

I take my essential oils with me in my purse and use them on the go. I love the Cheer touch whenever I need a little boost for my heart. Blend on the back of your neck, upwards to your chin with the roll on touch applicator. Cheer is a great mood booster for children that have had a bad day or are challenged with school or friends.

You can order directly from my DoTerra website, or e-mail me if you can't decide. Yes, you can purchase wholesale! My wellness advocate number is 4146987.

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Monday, March 6, 2017

Los Angeles Live Event Sex and The Feng Shui Of Relationship Sunday, March 18th!

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

This Saturday, March 18,  I will be doing NLP for fear of sex, body image and whatever holds you back from enjoying delicious orgasmic release at The Relational Center in Los Angeles. 

Where: 2717 S. Robertson Blvd., Los Angeles 90034

When: Saturday, March 18, from 1:45 - 4:00 PM

Serena Chang, The Feng Shui Whisperer, Jamila a licensed sex and family therapist will be co-facilitating. Let go of what no longer serves you, indulge and bask in a sound healing and enjoy NLP to shift from fear to pleasure. 

Sign up through Event Brite. I will be doing a book signing of my book, Orgasm For Life. There will be giveaways and free drawings for a signed copy of my book. I hope you will join us for this powerful heart-opening two-hour workshop and free yourself of fears of being seen, naked, body image fears or ability to receive pleasure.

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Saturday, March 4, 2017

3 Healing Therapies You Don't Want To Try

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

There are strange things afoot in the medical and healing industry. Old practices that have been almost forgotten will see a resurgence. My Guidance has given me a strong warning to let people know in advance, these practices are not helpful and are not to be used. 


A 3,000-year-old practice that originated in Egypt was thought to remove foul blood from a person's body. President Washington was drained of 80 ounces of his blood in his last days after being caught in a sleet storm while riding around on his farm. He died afterward.

The medical profession is contemplating a resurgence of this bloodletting ancient practice. I do not concur. This practice isn't beneficial. In fact, anything that is less than 75% beneficial I don't recommend. This practice calibrates at 10% or less. Don't do it! It could kill you. Death isn't what we're looking for when we do any healing practice.

It is said that the Maya would pierce their tongue, lips, and genitalia to experience trance-like states to witness their ancestors. I have some ideas for you that are far safer if you want to experience and witness your dearly beloved on the other side. Set up a session with me and I'll bring them in for a party!

Watch as this ancient bloodletting makes a comeback. Not with me, it won't! Did I say I don't recommend it? 


Courtesy of Harvard Medical School
Yup, those ugly blackish brown things that are like water snails that attach themselves to your toes while river rafting or swimming in natural lakes. I have experienced them in childhood. There is no benefit to leeches except the wonderment and delightful expression on your face when they are GONE!

Believe it or not the medical profession and others think that using leeches is a good thing. Leeches are used to remove gout, osteoarthritis of the knee among other things. 

Leeches are not recommended any more than bloodletting. 10% or less beneficial. Remember anything below 75% isn't recommended. 

Consuming Crystals, Gemstones & Gemstone Dust

Some people are recommending the consumption of crystals, gemstones and gem dust for health and healing. Whether you consume the gems, dust or rocks you need your head examined if you are doing this! 

Yes, some people advocate the craziest things, but it doesn't mean they actually work. As a hands-on healer distance or in person, there are other much safer methods. 

Note to self: Don't eat rocks! 

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Friday, March 3, 2017

10 Things You Don't Want To Do During A Venus Retrograde

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

On Saturday, March 4 at 9:10 AM EST, the planet Venus that rules love turns retrograde. During this six-week period, it is wise to watch spending, legal actions and other things listed as no-nos here. We have an added bonus of a Mercury Retrograde imbedded in this Venus Retrograde that means be watchful until May 3rd.

During this Venus Retrograde love may be delayed or have some hardship associated with it. Hasty decisions based on lust rather than love will end in sorrow once Venus turns direct on April 15th at 10:19 AM EST.

Born Under A Venus Retrograde?

A Natal Venus Retrograde means that your focus for your entire life is on giving and receiving love and affection. You may have difficulties with relationships, sadness, hardships or delays. You may lack self-love, experience social anxiety, shyness and even financial hardships during your lifetime. 

Author's note: I was born under a Venus and Mercury Retrograde. My life has been one of intense challenges with self-love, relationships, financial issues, delays and hardships with love and romance. Which makes me perfect as a love, passion and happiness coach and healer.

Often when we are born under a Venus Retrograde, it is because of past life issues with love and relationships. Due to the law of karma, we may suffer hardship or loss from a previous life. Maybe you had an affair in a past life or left when you were needed most, or you physically injured or harmed a lover in the past. There could be a repeating pattern in this life that leaves you wondering how you could possibly deserve such hardship in this one, especially in your childhood?

Sadness and Disappointment

Learning to love ourselves is critical especially during a Venus Retrograde to have happiness in all areas of our lives. Expecting another person to fill us up or make us happy will be met with disappointment. Unrequited love, a forced marriage, sexual abuse, mental illness or even a physical disability from a past life can be reasons for challenges in this lifetime.  

Best Uses For Venus Retrograde

  • Meditate to turn inward on a daily basis. Meditation can reduce stress and help you resolve emotions that bubble up during a retrograde period. Take time each day to sit still and just be. You'll find inspiration comes to you from out of nowhere.
  • Give love to yourself. Nurture yourself by getting to bed before 11:00, eating a healthy diet and regular exercise. Use a mantra that helps you feel loved, "I love me."

  • Eliminate. Use a Venus Retrograde to cull through belongings, papers, and excess. Take a trip to the thrift store with items you no longer love.
  • Plan. A retrograde period is an excellent time to plan. 
  • Review. Review what you have done, edit, re-write and re-do what needs to be redone.
  • Problem solve. Find reasons for problems in your current relationships.
  • Consider pleasure. Ask yourself what brings you pleasure. A Venus Retrograde is an excellent time to focus on your inner joy and harmony.

Avoid During Venus Retrograde

1. Avoid extravagance. A retrograde period is not a time to buy. Often purchases made during a retrograde period will be met with regret, feelings of not getting what you paid for and disappointment once the retrograde is over.

2. Don't move. A move during a retrograde can leave you feeling you made a mistake
    or that you overpaid for your new apartment or home. 

3. Don't move in with a friend or partner. See number 2. Wait until both the Venus
    and Mercury Retrograde are over May 3rd at 4:31 PM EST. A move during a
    retrograde period could bring hardship, arguments, issues and challenges with
    money and even a breakup. My daughter moved in with a college buddy during the
    Mercury Retrograde shadow (before Mercury turns Retrograde.)

4. Don't get engaged or married during a Venus Retrograde. Once the retrograde
    ends you may feel you made a mistake and find it cost you dearly. 

5. Don't sign a contract or lease. Of course, you can do anything you want to.
    However, signing a contract or lease during this time could mean you pay more than
    you intended or that it was worth, or feel regret once Venus turns direct on

6. Be watchful of shutting down your heart. It is more difficult to give and receive
     love during a Venus Retrograde. We have to be careful of harsh words that we
     wouldn't normally say to our loved ones and arguments that we regret over issues  
     and challenges.

7. Don't invest. Investing during a Venus Retrograde isn't recommended. You will 
    likely overpay and not get out of your investment what you had hoped. 

8. You might meet your soulmate but don't make a move till Venus Retrograde is   
     over. You may have a feeling or familiarity or inevitability when you meet this
     person. A Venus Retrograde can bring people up from the past as well. 

9. Avoid dating someone new. Wait until May 3rd to launch your new dating profile
    as well. People we meet during this time might seem perfect, we might even fall into
    love or bed and then find they disappear as soon as Venus turns direct on April 15th
    or the Mercury Retrograde ends on May 3rd.

10. Avoid the temptation to return to an old partner. Having someone resurface
      during this time can bring back old feelings and old patterns that need to be

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