11 Things To Stop Doing For You To Be Happy

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

It is important to know that in order to be happy we need to let go of negative behaviors that cause us pain, discomfort, and suffering. Once you let go of the shadow light floods into the void, just like magic. 

We are often the cause of our biggest obstacles. JEM

1. Focusing on the past or future.  When we focus on the past we often do so with regret. Regret is negative and is a sign you haven't forgiven yourself and others for events long ago. 

When we live focused on what might happen or what we want to happen in the future we are not present. 

When we focus on the past and future we lose sight of the magic in this moment. We miss signs, inspiration, hugs, kisses, lovers, possibilities and magic when we focus on anything but right now. 

Wake up being grateful for today. When we recognize what a gift each day is, being present becomes so much easier. 

It is our search for something bigger, better than what we think we have now is what causes us to focus on the past and the future. We regret our past and long for something better in the future, not knowing how much time we have. Each day is a gift. Breathe deeply. 

When you breathe deeply you become present in the now.

I know far too many people who have left the planet without recognizing the joy of the now, wishing and longing for something other than what they had. 

2. Stop trying to please others. When we attempt to please others we are not being authentic. We are longing for others to love us for our acts of kindness. 

Looking for something in return for doing for others is a shadowy pattern grounded in manipulation, it isn't healthy. Attempting to please others will leave you feeling resentful and angry. Pleasing others does not bring you happiness or fulfillment. Pleasing others is not the same as selfless acts of kindness. 

3. Being mute about your needs and desires. Part of happiness comes from knowing what you want and asking for it from your friends, family, and partners. When we are silent about what we want no one knows that our needs aren't being met. Practice asking for what you want with those you feel safest with. 

As time goes on you will be able to also ask for what you need and want from those who you are currently afraid of.

4. Neglecting your needs. As an adjunct to number 3, above, not getting enough sleep, eating healthy balanced foods, meditating, exercising and taking time for you will leave you feeling depleted and empty. How can you possibly have anything left to do what you want to do and that brings you joy if you don't take care of your needs? 

5. Ignoring your inner Guidance. Asking others what you should do, or comparing yourself with others progress is not taking care of yourself. When you take the time to meditate, do yoga, exercise, go within you will have all the guidance you need to make the best decisions and choices for you.

Whenever you use the words "figure out," you are in your mind not your heart. The best decisions come from your heart rather than your ego-mind.

6. Resisting your emotions and inner shadow. Each of us has a shadow side. Our shadow side seems dark. Darkness is just the end of the spectrum of light. When we resist looking at what is in our shadow we miss incredible insights into what motivates us or stops us. 

I know this darkness very well I have experienced three dark nights of the soul. Each of us has trauma that we have experienced that must be healed for us to experience true unbounded joy. 

Speaking with a family member last night, she relayed a deep dive into her dark night of the soul that caused a miracle of spontaneous awakening. When she dove straight into the dark she experienced such darkness in her sobbing that Grace rushed in and caused such an awakening to occur that she hasn't looked back since. The joy that overtook her was far greater than the darkness!

7. Chasing love and happiness. The more we attempt to grasp happiness and love the more that they elude us. We have to recognize all the good that we have now and appreciate it for what it is. Looking for something other than what we have will keep us stuck. 

"If only I had ______" thoughts will keep you stuck and unhappy.

Avoiding feeling what you are feeling right now is holding you back from immense growth. We have to process our feelings fully to be able to feel happiness, otherwise, we are just numb.

8. Fixing others. I could have written a book about this one! I tried to fix everyone from my mother to my husbands until I recognized I was projecting how I felt about myself. 

We have to let go of the thought that we know better for others what is good for them. Once our children become young adults we have to let them go to live their lives without interference from us unless they ask. 

9. Trying to be perfect. Most of the people I work with feel broken, lost and uncomfortable in their own skin. They usually try to be the perfect wife, mother, practitioner. Perfection is only reserved for Gods. We are perfect the way we are. Knowing that you are whole, worthy, complete as you are and valuable. You wouldn't be on this planet right now if you didn't have something wonderful to offer. You are perfect the way you are. Yes, we are all works in progress, till the day we die. 

Stop attempting to be perfect it will keep you from being happy with you.

10. Attempting to control the Universe. Any effort to control others, life, and events will cause you to suffer. Controlling behavior is caused by fears, usually from some childhood trauma where your world and life was beyond your control. 

Perhaps your mother had Borderline Personality Disorder, or was an alcoholic, this trauma can cause you to continue the controlling behavior that was learned in childhood. 

I have found doing mantras to affirm that the world is a safe place help my clients tremendously. Affirmations and mantras are a powerful way to help you overcome mind chatter and controlling behavior.

11. Thinking you can't have what you dream about. It took me twenty years to finally write the book that my Guides kept urging me to write. Once I did it, doors began to open to greater opportunities and my writing improved significantly. 

Putting off your dreams because your mother or partner says _____ is an excuse. If you can dream it, you can create it. I can help you find the resources and the way to access your gifts to accomplish what you dream about.

I have created a three-part audio series called: Happiness Jumpstart. Each of the three-part audio lasts an hour giving you the steps you need to take to be happy and clears whatever is keeping you stuck. The three-hour total series is just $33.00 and worth every penny. I give deeply from my heart in this very powerful audio seminar. 

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It also gives you the strategies to get to a place of happiness. Part of being happy is letting go of these negative behaviors that keep you trapped in a paradigm that you don't enjoy. 

Looking a bigger shift? Work privately with me for three months or more to create a powerful shift in your home, work and relationships. I am happy with me, but I wasn't always. I will show you the ropes, encourage, uplift and love you through the process. I have had clients tell me that I get them more than people who have known them a lifetime. 

Robin WIlliams Manic Man Tribute and Tragedy

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

It is with great sadness that I write this post about Robin Williams. He had been a recovering addict, healing a cocaine addiction many years ago. He recently opened up about his

addiction and went to rehab, as he quipped, in the wine country. It is very sad that he was not able to get the help he needed in time to save his life. Robin Williams was a comic that I grew up with. He brought joy, and incredible manic humor to stand up comedy. 

As a child, I watched Mork and Mindy and fell in love with his fast-paced humor. My family loved him in Mrs. Doubtfire and The Bird Cage. One of my favorite movies was a more serious role, Good Will Hunting. Good Morning Viet Nam, was a great movie where he played an outrageously outspoken (where art mimics life) radio announcer on base in Viet Nam. I have posted several of his best interviews or shows below. What is really ironic, as pointed out by one of our readers is that one of Robin's movies What Dreams May Come, was about someone battling the darkness of addiction.

If you don't follow astrology, we just experienced the most powerful full moon of the year. Babies are born, people die and break-up during powerful full moons. The past three days surrounding this super full moon have been challenging, pushing our limits, dredging up sadness, break-ups for many as well as depression for those who don't normally suffer from it. 

This past weekend was challenging emotionally for many. A neighbor had to put her sweet little dog to sleep,  causing great sadness in our community. I've had my own emotional events in the past 48 hours. I woke this morning feeling a deep heaviness that I had not felt in years. Needless to say I cleared my energy and that of several others that were also feeling this deep darkness and depression. Today was a very heavy day energetically. Many felt depressed. The fact that Robin took his own life today, shows how heavy the energy was of this full moon.

Several of my healer friends had sadness and serious break-ups happen as well. A Super Moon is not just a bright moon. This one was touted as being the biggest certainly of 2014, perhaps even in years. A full moon can cause deeper experiences of what one is presently dealing with. Which is what I believe occurred with Robin Williams. Addiction is a dark energy. Coupled with a super moon, which added fuel to the already high fire, it proved too great for Robin to endure. Sadly, he felt that there was no way out. Strange he did not even mention how he was feeling to his wife. My sympathy and condolences go out to his wife, daughter, two sons and all who loved and adored him.

Increase In Dark Energies Balance The Light

Since March 2013, I have done over 1,100 energy clearings. I clear negativity, depression, suicide, attachments and past life issues from people's energy. They come to me for anxiety, depression, agitation and feelings of suicide. The energy clearings I have done in the past six months have been ten times more challenging than ever before. Everyone I cleared in the past six months had dark energies attached. When I say dark, I mean demons, dark forces and the like. I don't often talk about these things because many already think that the work I do is already "out there." I had been guided to write an article about dark energies over a month ago. I usually follow such guidance. I felt it would be met with judgment and criticism. With the death of Robin Williams earlier today, I feel that lives may be saved, if I talk about what is going on in the Universe, the ethers and this planet.

The brighter the light gets, the darker and more powerful the dark side gets to balance things out. There is always an equilibrium. Many of you are aware that more people have become enlightened in the past two years than ever before. The consciousness of our planet has risen. So too has the strength of the dark side. There is always a balance in our Universe. As the light is strengthened, so too is the dark. Even the Bible speaks of a war in the heavens of the light and dark. Armageddon is something many people have heard about. It is a war fought here on earth as well as in the heavens.

Dark energy manifests for people who don't know what an energy clearing is, as depression, feeling there is no way out, or feeling so despondent that one may choose to take their own life. I have cleared many people with apparent Schizophrenia, chronic depression and suicide programs. I have written about a young girl who attempted suicide 11 times. I cleared her and found that she had committed suicide in 30 of her past lives. For suicidal energy to show up in her life this time, is no great surprise. 

When a dark energy attaches to someone, they may feel deep sadness, chaos may show up in their life, or they may choose to overdose or take their life because the darkness and heaviness is so profound. When the moon was full, I spent half the day Saturday crying. I don't normally cry. This morning I felt heavy, laden with a darkness that would not let go. I prayed and cleared myself. 


Addictions and Dark Energies

The point is that there is help. There are people who can help you without medication. Addictions usually lead to attachments from either drugs or alcohol. When you smoke pot, take street drugs or drink alcohol, you perforate your auric field. These holes, rips and tears create a way in. Without proper protection dark energies can attach. People with addictions often have attachments because the attachments create the addiction. Fear attracts the dark. Dark energies feed off fear.

An energy clearing is done with the angels, The Ascended Masters and your guides. The Divine of course oversees all. I work with the Forces of Light, Angels of Light and each person's High Self. Could I have saved Robin's life? That is an answer we will never know. I do know that through energy clearings, this work has changed the course of my life and anyone else who has had one. I do know that the people who's energy I cleared who had suicidal programming, did not commit suicide. One woman with a meth addiction was cleared of her addiction when I removed the attached soul of her best friend. He had been shot by police and had a meth amphetamine addiction.

Programs and patterns of negativity are lifted. Suicide patterns are cleared. Past lives where tragedy occurred that create a heaviness are also removed. This is felt immediately, with the entire assimilation of the clearing completing within the next 3 - 5 days. I often clear others for those who recognize that their loved ones are challenged with negativity and deep depression. Once the attachments are removed the person feels better, lighter, more focused and calm. When depression is present many experience insomnia. One of the biggest things that occurs is that the subject is able to sleep deeply. 

I am very sad for Robin's wife and family. I wish I had known what he was going through. When you or a loved one is challenged with depression or suicidal thoughts, seek out the help of someone who does energy clearings, it could save your life, or that of the ones you love. 

To you Robin, I am sad to lose the amazing comic talent and incredible intelligence of you. My family and I will miss you. You will bless the angels with your amazing gift of humor and laughter! We will miss you terribly.

This is an interview with Parkinson a talk-show host in Britain. It is excellent and fairly clean (part I and Part II). The third video is a watch at your own risk, it is raunchy, typical Robin Williams unplugged. Part II is hilarious as he talks about Lance Armstrong, going to rehab in wine country. 

Robin Williams side-splitting comedy Vintage

Robin Williams photo shoot for Parade Magainze

Jennifer can be reached for questions on this subject at JenniferElizabethMaters@gmail.com