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By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

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Maybe life isn't working the way you want it to. You give expecting love in return and instead your loved ones tell you they never asked for you to do these things for them. You may feel empty, lost, incomplete and wonder why you feel so uncomfortable in your body. You may have health or relationship issues and even challenges getting your business off the ground. 

Relationships may be challenging, trying hard to be perfect and people-pleasing. Maybe you are like me and have had sinus infections, bladder infections, Fibromyalgia, depression, anxiety or maybe even cancer. We don't recognize the power of our thoughts, feelings, and words until our body has issues that challenge us. These are all signposts that something needs to change. Take the QUIZ

It's okay. You are doing the best you can. You didn't know what you didn't know. 

The truth is you can have what you long for. Thirty years ago my body was wracked with pain I had all of the above challenges until I finally recognized that my thoughts were killing me. Today, I have magnificent health, the depression and anxiety are long gone! I manifest in the moment and do work I absolutely love. I am passionate about helping people achieve happiness in all areas of their lives. Abundance is about more than the money it is about having a life you love that brings you joy every day!

I can help you with yours.  I overcame addictions, health issues, low-self-esteem, Fibromyalgia, and auto-immune disease by changing my thinking and the way I felt about me. You can do this, but you don't have to do it alone. Take my SELF-LOVE IQ Quiz here. It is the first step to having the lift you love.

 I love myself and enjoy being alone. I know I am enough as I am and perfect in my imperfections. My life is magical. My addictions are gone along with all the depression, Fibromyalgia, Epstein Barr, fears and anxiety. Money comes to me easily and I teach others how to manifest with ease.

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11 Things To Stop Doing For You To Be Happy

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

It is important to know that in order to be happy we need to let go of negative behaviors that cause us pain, discomfort, and suffering. Once you let go of the shadow light floods into the void, just like magic. 

We are often the cause of our biggest obstacles. JEM

1. Focusing on the past or future.  When we focus on the past we often do so with regret. Regret is negative and is a sign you haven't forgiven yourself and others for events long ago. 

When we live focused on what might happen or what we want to happen in the future we are not present. 

When we focus on the past and future we lose sight of the magic in this moment. We miss signs, inspiration, hugs, kisses, lovers, possibilities and magic when we focus on anything but right now. 

Wake up being grateful for today. When we recognize what a gift each day is, being present becomes so much easier. 

It is our search for something bigger, better than what we think we have now is what causes us to focus on the past and the future. We regret our past and long for something better in the future, not knowing how much time we have. Each day is a gift. Breathe deeply. 

When you breathe deeply you become present in the now.

I know far too many people who have left the planet without recognizing the joy of the now, wishing and longing for something other than what they had. 

2. Stop trying to please others. When we attempt to please others we are not being authentic. We are longing for others to love us for our acts of kindness. 

Looking for something in return for doing for others is a shadowy pattern grounded in manipulation, it isn't healthy. Attempting to please others will leave you feeling resentful and angry. Pleasing others does not bring you happiness or fulfillment. Pleasing others is not the same as selfless acts of kindness. 

3. Being mute about your needs and desires. Part of happiness comes from knowing what you want and asking for it from your friends, family, and partners. When we are silent about what we want no one knows that our needs aren't being met. Practice asking for what you want with those you feel safest with. 

As time goes on you will be able to also ask for what you need and want from those who you are currently afraid of.

4. Neglecting your needs. As an adjunct to number 3, above, not getting enough sleep, eating healthy balanced foods, meditating, exercising and taking time for you will leave you feeling depleted and empty. How can you possibly have anything left to do what you want to do and that brings you joy if you don't take care of your needs? 

5. Ignoring your inner Guidance. Asking others what you should do, or comparing yourself with others progress is not taking care of yourself. When you take the time to meditate, do yoga, exercise, go within you will have all the guidance you need to make the best decisions and choices for you.

Whenever you use the words "figure out," you are in your mind not your heart. The best decisions come from your heart rather than your ego-mind.

6. Resisting your emotions and inner shadow. Each of us has a shadow side. Our shadow side seems dark. Darkness is just the end of the spectrum of light. When we resist looking at what is in our shadow we miss incredible insights into what motivates us or stops us. 

I know this darkness very well I have experienced three dark nights of the soul. Each of us has trauma that we have experienced that must be healed for us to experience true unbounded joy. 

Speaking with a family member last night, she relayed a deep dive into her dark night of the soul that caused a miracle of spontaneous awakening. When she dove straight into the dark she experienced such darkness in her sobbing that Grace rushed in and caused such an awakening to occur that she hasn't looked back since. The joy that overtook her was far greater than the darkness!

7. Chasing love and happiness. The more we attempt to grasp happiness and love the more that they elude us. We have to recognize all the good that we have now and appreciate it for what it is. Looking for something other than what we have will keep us stuck. 

"If only I had ______" thoughts will keep you stuck and unhappy.

Avoiding feeling what you are feeling right now is holding you back from immense growth. We have to process our feelings fully to be able to feel happiness, otherwise, we are just numb.

8. Fixing others. I could have written a book about this one! I tried to fix everyone from my mother to my husbands until I recognized I was projecting how I felt about myself. 

We have to let go of the thought that we know better for others what is good for them. Once our children become young adults we have to let them go to live their lives without interference from us unless they ask. 

9. Trying to be perfect. Most of the people I work with feel broken, lost and uncomfortable in their own skin. They usually try to be the perfect wife, mother, practitioner. Perfection is only reserved for Gods. We are perfect the way we are. Knowing that you are whole, worthy, complete as you are and valuable. You wouldn't be on this planet right now if you didn't have something wonderful to offer. You are perfect the way you are. Yes, we are all works in progress, till the day we die. 

Stop attempting to be perfect it will keep you from being happy with you.

10. Attempting to control the Universe. Any effort to control others, life, and events will cause you to suffer. Controlling behavior is caused by fears, usually from some childhood trauma where your world and life was beyond your control. 

Perhaps your mother had Borderline Personality Disorder, or was an alcoholic, this trauma can cause you to continue the controlling behavior that was learned in childhood. 

I have found doing mantras to affirm that the world is a safe place help my clients tremendously. Affirmations and mantras are a powerful way to help you overcome mind chatter and controlling behavior.

11. Thinking you can't have what you dream about. It took me twenty years to finally write the book that my Guides kept urging me to write. Once I did it, doors began to open to greater opportunities and my writing improved significantly. 

Putting off your dreams because your mother or partner says _____ is an excuse. If you can dream it, you can create it. I can help you find the resources and the way to access your gifts to accomplish what you dream about.

I have created a three-part audio series called: Happiness Jumpstart. Each of the three-part audio lasts an hour giving you the steps you need to take to be happy and clears whatever is keeping you stuck. The three-hour total series is just $33.00 and worth every penny. I give deeply from my heart in this very powerful audio seminar. 

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It also gives you the strategies to get to a place of happiness. Part of being happy is letting go of these negative behaviors that keep you trapped in a paradigm that you don't enjoy. 

Looking a bigger shift? Work privately with me for three months or more to create a powerful shift in your home, work and relationships. I am happy with me, but I wasn't always. I will show you the ropes, encourage, uplift and love you through the process. I have had clients tell me that I get them more than people who have known them a lifetime. 

3 Reasons People Pleasing Isn't Loving

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

We want others around us to be happy. We certainly don't want to rock the boat, because there are ramifications for changing a paradigm. People pleasing is a negative self-sabotaging behavior that steals your joy. When you stop pleasing others, this will shift your happiness quotient in a big way when you stop trying to please everyone.

1. When we give all we have to others, there is no time for ourselves. We put everyone ahead of us. We stay up too late, don't make time to exercise, and don't value ourselves enough to eat well, exercise regularly or take care of our needs. 

Poor personal boundaries are at the core of this issue.

People who care for other's needs forget about themselves. We might run our kids to karate, soccer, cello lessons, religious classes, correct the problems in rental contracts, leases, pay the bills, walk the dogs, clean out the litter boxes, make the beds, do the laundry, pull the weeds, mow the grass, have sex with our partner, cook dinner, pack lunches, answer e-mails, volunteer in our community and then fall into bed exhausted at night because we can't say NO!

2. We put everyone first, before us. When we put everyone ahead of us, we make ourselves insignificant. When everyone comes ahead of you, no one takes care of your needs. Your needs are not met, and you become resentful, angry or depressed (never mind exhausted).

3. We are also perfectionistic thinking we have to be perfect. We might feel no one can do the dishes like we do, or pack the lunches as well as we do, or drive as safely as we do. We are unable to delegate effectively because we micromanage the way others do these tasks. We might even critique those who are attempting to take some of the workload away. 

The Root Cause

Trauma in childhood is the root cause. Being a people pleaser is rooted in two unconscious programs. Fear of failure and our fear of rejection. We try not to disappoint others. Our fear is that we won't receive love from them. 

We may try our best to make decisions that make people happy. We look for validation from others to make us feel better. When we don't get it, we might feel upset, resentful or angry. 

We feel if we make a mistake or don't do certain things for others we will be rejected or not loved. Often adults who have low self-esteem, like me (in the past) look for love from their children or partners. Our partners and children can't give us our self-esteem, we need to give it to ourselves.

Sometimes, our parents expected us to be perfect, or they would not give us love. The cornerstone of being a people pleaser is from

only being loved conditionally, when our behavior was good. 

We were shamed as children and still carry shame unconsciously in our cells.

Shame

As adults, we feel shame when we aren't perfect. When we have healthy self-esteem, we stop feeling the need to be perfect. There is such a thing as good enough, doing our best but allowing ourselves to have faults and flaws. 

There is no such thing as failure, there are only lessons and gifts. JEM

When we lovingly accept ourselves as we are with all our faults and flaws, we have healthy self-esteem. 

Jennifer Elizabeth Masters is the author of the forthcoming book: HAPPY HERE, HAPPY ANYWHERE. 


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The 3 Keys To Happiness

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

“A Sufi mystic who had always remained happy was asked…. For seventy years people had watched him, he had never been found sad. One day they asked him, ‘What is the secret of your happiness?’ He said, ‘There is no secret. Every morning when I wake up, I meditate for five minutes and I say to myself, ‘Listen, now there are two possibilities: you can be miserable, or you can be blissful. Choose.’ And I always choose to be blissful.’ Osho

Jennifer at the Grand Canyon, 2013

For years I looked for happiness in my relationship, work and my family. I kept coming up empty. It was not until I looked within that I found it permanently.

Life is what we make it. Why not make it a happy one. We know that happiness means we will live longer, being angry resentful and perfectionistic shortens our lives. Women are notorious for looking outside - for a man to complete them and make them happy. Many after 5, 10 or 20 years come up empty, blaming their husband for their unhappiness. 

I did it! I searched from one man to the next, looking for that unbridled passion for living. No one can give that to you. It is your gift. It is your courage to live fully, your desire to be fulfilled, your passion to experience life to the fullest that brings it to you. 

I remember when I was first married to Bill Gates, living in Maryland with our first son, Adam. It was all I had ever dreamed about, yet I was not happy. I had a perfect, healthy son, I was married to a handsome, intelligent man who had a great career and promising future, yet I was not satisfied with my life. I felt empty inside. I felt that something was missing. I thought it was that I missed my family in Canada. Yet, when they came to visit, although it was fun, pleasant and wonderful to have them there, I was still empty inside.

There was a point at which I recognized after 3 marriages failed, that the happiness I was looking for was a choice. I recognized that I was responsible for it. I decided then and there that I would choose to be happy. I would stop looking for it, stop searching outside of me and just be. I became happy with me. It was not instantaneous, but little by little, I learned that I needed to be happy with myself to be happy. I had to learn how to love me, no matter how I felt, how I looked or who I was married to - or not.

I began to fall in love with me. I looked within, asking myself questions. What made me happy. When did I feel the best. When did I feel satisfied. I began to let go of trying to be the perfect little girl my mother wanted. I let go of other's expectations of me. I became my own person. I was no longer a people pleaser, trying to make others happy by lying about who I was. I began to shine my light brightly. Instead of worrying about how small others felt near my light, that was up to them to take care of. Other's feelings were no longer my responsibility.

Jennifer in Georgia

I did what I loved. I became a Master Gardener. I formed my own landscaping company, because I was passionate about gardening and plants. I did it for 11 years until it no longer held that passion any longer. I studied and learned about Metaphysics, hypnotherapy, energy medicine, Traditional Chinese Medicine and began to study to be a life coach. I took time to learn and grow. I spent time alone. I began to be a better parent, mother, friend. I lived in the present instead of the past or the future. I loved being me. I recognized I was not perfect, but that was okay. I knew what my faults and flaws were, but did not focus energy on them. Instead I focused on the good, the fun, the bliss. I focused on what made me feel good. 

I meditated every day. I began to teach meditation to others. I awakened fully. I experienced life to the fullest. I moved beyond my fears of everything. I became fearless!

I am an adventurer. I love life, I enjoy travel, I love to garden. I was born in Toronto, as a flight attendant for Air Canada I was transferred to Montreal. I moved to Maryland, London, England, Maryland again, Atlanta, Georgia, Boulder, Colorado, and now the desert of California. No moss has grown under my feet. I love adventure. It makes me feel alive. I love to meet new people, and share experiences, teaching what I have learned. Still I have heard from those recently on a fabulous whirlwind book tour, that when they returned home, they were still them, sadly they said.

I find joy in the simplest of things. A hot cup of coffee or tea, brings me pleasure. I get up early so I don't have to rush. I enjoy my solitude. Each morning, I walk my dogs out alone in the desert. This sets the tone for the rest of my day. I find peace inside myself. Walking is a form of meditation for me. I talk to God in the desert. I am alone, without any distractions to take me away from my experience. I leave my cell phone in my car, as it distracts and detracts from my experience. When I am writing I turn the phone on silent. This way, my writing brings me joy, peace and things flow better through me. When I am with a client, I give them my full attention. I am not on FaceBook, or Linked In, or writing my blog. I am fully present with them. My clients feel it.

When you are happy to be alive, loving yourself fully - it does not matter where you are, you are happy. It does not matter who you are with, you are happy. It does not matter what you are doing - it could be the most dull and mindless task, but you are still there, so you are happy! 

No one outside of you can bring it or give it to you. It does not grow on trees, or on money, for that can die and be lost. It is not in a car, motorcycle, lover, although all of those new and wonderful things can excite you in various ways, but they don't make you happy.

If you are on an Internet site writing in your profile, "Looking for someone to make me happy," you will be looking a very long time. 

What Are The 3 Keys, You Ask?

1. Be Present in the NOW
2. Focus on the positive
3. Love yourself - first, last and always. 

Tonight, I will go into each of these in detail. How to let go of the past, forgive and love anyway. How to focus on the positive and create from love. You won't want to miss the super charged hour of Love, joy and Bliss!

Join me tonight for my weekly podcast. Tonight's subject is "3 Keys to Happiness. Join me. You will be glad you did. Invite your friends, spread the word..... happiness is an inside job! 

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Jennifer is the author of the forthcoming book: Orgasm For Life. She is a hypnotherapist, Master Energy Healer, channel, Mystic, intuitive life, love and sex coach. She has a knack for cutting to the root of your issues quickly, compassionately with a directness and honesty rarely found in a practitioner.

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