Aretha Franklin said it best, "All I am askin' for is a little respect."
When we are giving everything to our partners, and spouses in return respect is what will keep peace, show you love your partner and help to create better sex. Without respect, our relationships can become abusive. Sarcasm, put-downs and witnessing a rolling the eyes when you speak, are all signs that you are not being respected.
- Speak up. When your partner puts you down, tell them you don't appreciate it. Ask them to speak in an even tone, with love and respect in their voice.
- Mutual Respect is key. Your partner's wishes and feelings have value. Diminishing another's wishes and feelings as insignificant makes them feel less than, put down and devalued. Put downs, name calling, or condemnation have no place in a loving relationship. If it isn't loving, it should not be said.
- Compromise. It can't be one person's way - or the highway all the time. This builds divorce into your relationship paradigm. You won't be able to make it the long haul without each of you giving in once in a while. A dictatorship is not love. Abuse is not love.
- Appreciation is the number 1 complaint that I hear within marriages. Our spouses do so much for us. When was the last time you said, "Thank you, I really appreciate you."?? Being thankful, polite and showing that you are grateful for them, will make all the difference.
- Respect each other's privacy. Just because you are in a relationship does not mean you have to share every thought, feeling or event that occurs in your lives. Healthy relationships need space, other friendships and time apart. Spending all your waking moments together creates dependency. One person cannot possibly satisfy all your emotional needs. Spend time with your same sex friends to keep your relationship healthy and balanced.