Anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored than to anything on which it is poured. - Mark Twain
Have you ever wondered where anger comes from? When our partner snipes at us for not remembering directions, or for taking too long to get ready, there are countless reasons to be angry.
- Rage and anger raise blood pressure, damaging blood vessels and the heart. Anger is the biggest predictor of stroke and heart disease, more than smoking, obesity and high blood pressure.
- Divorce happens when one or both people cannot resolve, and heal anger issues. Divorce causes stress. Stress causes all kinds of health issues. Men living alone, live shorter lives than married men do.
- Long-standing anger and resentment can cause cancer. Each angry or resentful thought we think that is angry creates acidity in our body. An acid environment left unchecked creates cancer.
- Anger clouds our judgment and we can make rash decisions while driving, causing an accident which can take your life.
- Often people with un-checked rage kill others. Jealous lovers, jilted spouses take their emotions out on their partner's new lover. Any physical violence in the name of anger is an excuse for immaturity, lack of personal responsibility and self control. We have been trained to believe that things that we "own" define us. Relationships, cars, homes, belongings are all material things. They are not who you truly are. This training, falsely makes us believe that when we lose what we thought we had, whether it is a relationship, a home or vehicle, that we are no longer who we thought we were. Yet each of us is so much more that the material belongings in our lives. We are powerful beyond measure, full of wisdom, beauty and talent. These gifts that we each have are far more meaningful than anything material.
To be happy, to me, is to suffer less. If we were not capable of transforming the pain within ourselves, happiness would not be possible. Thich Nhat Hanh
- Be mindful. Mindfulness means being aware of the present moment.
- Breathe in. I recognize my anger. Breathe out, I smile to my anger.
- Sigh Loudly. An audible sigh can move a lot of energy quickly. If you still feel stuck - repeat.
- Smile. Smiling to yourself, allows you to embrace your anger. It can quickly change your mood. You are telling yourself, "I am here for you."
- Move your body. Shaking your arms, moving your legs, walking can all help you release energy that you are feeling in your body.
- Be there for yourself. Allow yourself to feel what you feel, without reacting to it.
- Show yourself compassion. Compassion will open up your heart. Allow the energy to move through you, rather than holding on to it.
- Breathe. Inhaling and Exhaling three times deeply will help you to refocus. Breathing will help you clear your energy. It will also bring you into the present. Often we are reacting to a past issue that has nothing to do with what is happening in the present. Past situations often compound the way we are feeling right now. BREATHE AGAIN.
- See the situation differently. There are always two sides to every story. Can you put yourself in the other person's shoes? See the other person's perspective.