Everyone wants love. We want to be appreciated for who we are. We want to be respected and accepted and loved unconditionally. When those things are not in place, or we are asked to be something other than who we are, should we stay? (You might want to listen to this interview about loving, communication and how to heal conflict: The Janet Love Show: Interview with Jennifer Elizabeth Masters )
Are You A Committer?
Co-dependent Seeking Any Kind of Love
Codependent people need to have someone in their life to feel complete. Many of us accept any kind of treatment, just to have a relationship. If a relationship makes you feel bad about yourself, or the other person is putting you down, this is not beneficial. A healthy relationship will enhance your life, rather than detract. Looking for the White Knight to come and rescue you is codependent thinking. You attract what you are. Take responsibility for your life. You are not a victim. You are powerful beyond measure.
Showing Up Wanting To Be Filled
If you feel like you have a hole inside you, and are looking for someone to fill it, you are putting a huge amount of pressure on someone else. This means you are showing up wanting another to MAKE YOU HAPPY. This is an impossible feat. No one other than YOU can make YOU happy. Instead of continuing to look for someone to fulfill you, go within Grasshopper. Turn your focus inside. Get to know, love and accept the beautiful person you are. When you love and accept ALL of yourself completely you will then attract another who is positive, loving, honest, in integrity like you. You can only attract what you are. So be the best you can be at being and loving you - first.
Don't Want To Do Inner Work?
Don't like my advice? When we feel half full, or even empty we attract another who needs to be filled up. We attract people with low esteem, who could and most likely have all kinds of addictions. Addictions could be anything from alcoholism, drug abuse, shopping addiction, food addiction, work addiction, sex addiction to gambling addiction. When low self esteem is involved one party is usually the enabler, while the other is the addict. Addictions can involve deep seated anger, coupled with low self esteem which is a dangerous cocktail destined for emotional, and/or physical abuse.
It Has To Begin With YOU!
From my personal experience, until I completely loved and accepted myself I attracted all of the above and then some. With each relationship, when we don't get our lesson, The Universe will send us more and more difficult and challenging relationships. It is like being hit over the head with a Jack-hammer. I had men who physically abused me, were addicted to work, alcohol and sports. Constantly trying to prove themselves with affairs, lying and cheating. I am a slow learner. I finally got it. I was attracting what I was emitting: low self esteemed partners with addictions. I was addicted to love, relationships and being rescued. AHA! Is this you?
Someone Wants You To Change
If someone expects you to be different than you are authentically, this is a huge red flag. It takes a lifetime of working on our integrity and character to be completely authentic. In the end, our integrity and authenticity is all we have. If someone does not love you for who you are, rip the band aid off now and leave. It will happen eventually, it might as well be now, it will be much less painful than later.
Continuing To Date Just To Have A Date?
There is nothing wrong with staying home by yourself. In fact, if you are dating people you know are wrong for you, it is better to stay at home. Sometimes we end up going out for drinks when we don't even drink. Our dates might be alcoholics or doing other things we don't feel comfortable with. If this is the case - JUST SAY NO!
My Psychic Prediction
Any relationship, business partnership or friendship where you are being asked to be anything other than who you are will have you twisted up like a pretzel and held in bondage by the other person. True Love is all about acceptance. It is not about the other person telling you how to behave, or what you need to be doing all the time. A partnership does not hold one person hostage while the other does whatever the hell they choose to do without consulting you.
Following are the signs of real and true love. Not to be confused by infatuation. True love lasts. True Love does not put you down or try to change who you are. All relationships will eventually have conflict. There is no such thing as a perfect relationship, or a perfect person. The truth of the matter is that there will be many more people available to you when you love and accept yourself completely. As a matter of fact, I have seen this time and time again, when you love yourself, the person you need to be with is standing right in front of you, and you didn't even have to go looking!
Real love is always there. Whether you are divorced from them, one of you dies, or you end up living apart, True Love is there forever. Death, distance, circumstance does not change true and real love.
Characteristics Of Real or True Love
- You feel comfortable, rather than awkward in their presence.
- Conversation flows easily.
- You are accepted for who you are.
- You are accepted for what you think.
- Your beliefs are your beliefs and you are allowed to think differently from your partner.
- You would never dream of hurting or harming each other.
- There is no jealousy.
- You are both respected by one another.
- You are able to ask for what you want without having to manipulate to get it.
- You are just as strong on your own as you are together.
- Your love enhances your life rather than detracts from it.
- You Bless each other rather than put each other down.
Answer The Following Questions:
- Where did I come from?
- Who am I? (child of God, Divine being)
- What is my purpose here?
- How Can I Serve? Giving back to the earth, humanity, your community, unwed mothers, teens without parents....
In my home, I leave Pandora on all day with chanting. Deva Premal has some beautiful chanting music. This energy purifies your home. It will make it more harmonious for you. When you have harmony inside you, there will be harmony outside you as well.
- Your thoughts create. Make sure what comes out of your brain and mouth are positive. Positive thoughts create positive outcomes, negative thoughts create negative outcomes. You are more powerful than you know. Think of each thought or word being broadcast out into The Universe with a huge megaphone and you are a holding a huge magnet. Your thoughts broadcast on broadband Internet all over the Universe and are magnetized right back to you. If you think bad things will happen they will. If you doubt that you will ever be successful and that the only luck you have is bad luck than that is true for you too. That is why you have shit in your life. This
Yes it is SHIT!
- No matter what happens in your life - you are the cause. Instead of blaming others for what is going on, look inside. What are you feeling, thinking or saying that created this?
- FORGIVE EVERYONE AND YOURSELF! Each event that happens in your life is for your good and is here to evolve your soul. Letting go of past hurts and forgiving is for you.
- Love Everyone! Each of us is part of the whole. You are connected to everyone around you. We all originated from the same DNA, the same molecules. Having hatred for anyone means you hate yourself.
Jennifer is facilitating a workshop with The Love Doctor - Shaneetha Akinlana. Together they have well over 80 years of experience, knowledge, wisdom and information in Metaphysics, manifestation. Hard to believe the age that Shaneetha is. She looks 20 years younger than she is! Each has experienced their own Twin Flame love and lives to tell about it. They are funny, loving, compassionate and wise. They are sharing all their hard earned wisdom that they learned through life and love. They will challenge you to be the best darn lover out there.
This workshop will be held in November to assist, empower and enlighten those dedicated to finding their True Love. This work will bring love to you. You will be taught everything you need to know to manifest love in your life. Of course, loving yourself is the foundation for creating love in your life. Energy clearings, wisdom of The Ages will be taught, along with Universal Principles.
Her website is: http://www.JenniferElizabethMasters.com