If you are looking for a Soul Mate relationship, you will want to read this all the way to the end. If you are looking for a committed Soul Mate relationship, getting a guy to commit to you will take this!
Historically, there have been songs written, movies created and thousands of books about the differences between men and women's needs. Sometimes, the translation is lost or we just don't get it. Men here is your chance. I told you I would support you! Women this is for you. If you are in a relationship with a man, looking for love or considering dating you need to look within. Can you give your man what he needs? A supportive relationship involves each of us giving our lover what THEY need. Men may have difficulty vocalizing what they need. I am their advocate here.
When was the last time you told your man that you thought he was an amazing lover? Do you appreciate the fact that he never misses your birthday? Or do you focus on the fact that he doesn't buy you what you wanted?
If you don't respect yourself, you won't respect anyone else either. Women who have low self-esteem often don't respect themselves and need to work on this for their personal happiness and growth. It was one of my issues also. I didn't even recognize that I didn't respect myself. Often disrespect for the self comes from childhood trauma or molestation. (Call me or e-mail for this one!)
What does disrespect look like?
When we disrespect our men, we basically emasculate them. Yes, we cut off their balls with our words or criticism. Then we wonder why they are so gutless?!
We need to revere our men. Yes, and they need to do the same for us. Women are responsible for how the relationship travels. We set the ground rules. Include healthy respect or you will be very sorry.
The tone you request something or deliver a question speaks volumes. It is not necessarily your words but the tone that needs to be even, and loving. Cut the bitchiness or sounding like you are a Demon-seed. Remember you will win many more rounds with honey rather than vinegar. Play your cards with some wisdom.
SEX With A Capital "S!"
Men are wired to express themselves sexually. Without regular sex, their balls feel like they will explode (so I am told). Pressure builds every few days without ejaculation and they need to express this urge through sex. Women don't understand this because we don't have testicles.
Sex is a natural expression of our humanness and sexuality. Sex is a part of a loving relationship. Without sex, there is no intimacy. Sex opens men's hearts to express their deepest emotions, desires and brings them closer to us. When women refuse sex or don't want it, their men feel rejected, unloved and unappreciated. Part of being a man is the ability to lovingly pleasure their partner. Men show their love for us in many ways, the biggest though expression for most men is sexual. It is where men feel like men. Taking sex away from men creates derision, separation and shuts men down.
Sex is the greatest expression of our appreciation for them, their commitment and what they do for us.
Put all these together and you will get your man to commit to you. Leave off any one of these critical components and you will miss out on his greatness and deepest love.
I would love to hear what men think. Please write me an e-mail or message me on FaceBook. How accurate is this for your situation?