Recognizing Insecurity and 10 Powerful Ways to Overcome It

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Most of us have felt insecure at some time. When we feel insecure ALL the time, we have self-love and self-acceptance issues. 

When I was a teen and well into adulthood, I was extremely insecure. I had the market cornered on insecurity and neediness. I remember thinking, "She's prettier than me! She's thinner than me! He's smarter than I will ever be! I can't do math! I can't be successful. I have to have someone who loves me to feel whole. My mother always loved my brother more than me. My father wouldn't let me go to college!" 

Stinking Thinking Sinks US

All these mental constructs are just stories that we make up that have little or no validity. When we believe the stories, is when we really get into a downward spiral. Comparing ourselves to others is never good. We are all unique. We all have our own gifts to share with the world. Here are some ways to recognize insecurity and later I will give you ways to overcome it. 

You May Be Insecure If

• You feel needy
• You are jealous - sometimes to the point of feeling insane
• You have self-doubt
• You beat yourself up
• You complain
• You are reactive to what others say
• You compare yourself to others
• You need to have a partner to feel whole
• You are uncomfortable having others look at you
• You feel fat
• You feel too thin
• You feed stupid
• You feel inadequate
• You feel your mother didn't love you
• You feel your father didn't love you
• You have any addictions: shopping, sex, work, working out, pot, alcohol, meth, sugar, eating, binging, purging, cutting
• You have compulsive behaviors
• You are afraid - of anything
• You worry
• You obsess
• You are never on time
• You are not successful at what you do
• You have difficulty with abuse
• Your relationships are awful: cheaters, liars, abusers, bad boys, bad girls, 
• You can't find love
• You say mean things to others
• You bitch, moan, complain about your life
• Your life is filled with chaos
• Your life is filled with drama
• You are unhappy with you, life, your job, your boss, your partner
• You can't meditate
• You look at yourself in the mirror and pick yourself apart
• You are estranged from any family member
• Depression
• Insomnia
• Anxiety
• Aches, pains
• Adrenal issues - Addison's disease
• Apathy
• Suicide
• Anorexia
• Feel like a victim
• Blame others for your lot in life and unhappiness
• Low blood pressure (lack of love as a child)
• Breast problems and breast cancer - refusal to nourish the self
• You are a people pleaser
• You are not authentic, but the chameleon, changing who you are for different people and situations
• You may be a workshop junkie
• You may be a healing junkie going from healer to healer looking for the quick fix
• You may encourage arguments to prove how unlovable you are
• You may lash out at others to hurt them - because you are hurting
• You may push love away
• You may resist love
• You may feel unlovable and unworthy
• Your thoughts are negative
• You have a lot of mind chatter
• You feel like a victim
• You are looking to be rescued
• You may be lonely or feel alone even in a relationship
• You worry about what other's think of you

Any of these traits depict insecurity. Feeling lack in any area of your life can make you feel insecure. I have been there and worn the T-shirts, and given them all to Goodwill. What is wrong with being insecure? Plenty. Your relationships suck, you have challenges in most areas of your life and you are unhappy. Focusing on these areas and continuing to do nothing about it can lead to the following diseases:

Just A Few Examples of Diseases Caused By Self-Hatred

1. Cancer - holding onto deep hurt, hatred
2. Arthritis - feeling unloved, criticism, resentment
3. Fibromyalgia - self-loathing, negativity, complaining
4. Epstein-Barr and any other auto immune disease
5. Acne - rejection of self
6. Bulimia - frantic stuffing of the self
7. Addictions - alcohol, sugar, pot, sex, shopping

Insecurity can ruin our relationships, success and steel our happiness. In my case, I went from one relationship to another, looking for love, acceptance and validation. Never finding it till I began to accept and love all of myself. It was a gradual process. When I began to see how my thoughts were literally killing me, I made the choice to do something about it. 

I studied hypnotherapy, when I saw that it helped me. I became a hypnotherapist and then a hypnotherapy trainer. I was helped by NLP, so I became certified in that modality. Energy healing helped me, so I became certified in Spiritual Response Therapy. I saw how coaching was needed, rather than traditional therapy to help others feel fully alive, secure and filled with self love. I have since gone on to combine all these modalities into the work I do with my clients. In the process of healing my life, I became enlightened. I created tools to help others heal their life that worked for me. 

Happiness Is An Inside Job

We are each responsible for our own happiness. No one else can make us happy. 

No relationship can fill us up or make us feel less broken. 

We have to choose happiness for ourselves. Thinking that we will be happy when we find the perfect job, relationship or move to the perfect place, is not going to bring it to you. Looking outside of ourselves for joy or happiness is not going to be lasting or permanent. Whether it is a new car, a home, a job, business, a relationship or even losing weight. All those things may bring a fleeting joy, but material things and other people do not make us happy, or secure.

How To Begin To Love Yourself and Feel Complete

1. Stop blaming everyone. You are not a victim. Take Responsibility for your happiness. 
2. Happiness is a choice - choose to be happy each day.
3. Be grateful for what you have. Prayers of gratitude remind you of all the good you do have and open you to receive more.
4. Forgive everyone, beginning with yourself. Use the Ho'oponopono Prayer daily until you feel complete. 
5. Stop beating yourself up, saying you are an idiot or stupid, or worse.
6. Use a mantra to reprogram your mind. A mantra needs to be positive simple and said either silently or out loud when your mind is in neutral. Meditation, peeling vegetables, washing dishes, putting on make-up, driving your car are all times when your mind is in neutral.
7. Get an energy clearing to clear blocks and negativity as well as blocked emotions. When you are ready to step out you can even have the blocks in your heart cleared as well.
8.  Begin to have a soft focus on you. Look at yourself with loving eyes instead of criticism. Get to know who you are and what you love. What do you love about you? Write down 10 things that you love about you.
9. What do you love to do? Do one thing on the list daily.
10. Do something daily that nurtures your soul. If you love to take hot baths in candlelight, do that. If you love to work out - work out. Do not feel guilty for taking care of yourself. You are important. You are worthy. You are loved. The person you need to give love to is YOU!

When we love ourselves, others want to be around us. We become a magnet for higher consciousness people and more loving kindness. Good things begin to happen to us. The Universe supports us.

Jennifer is a self-love coach and spiritual guide. She assists men and women love themselves fearlessly. She is an author and a healer. She can help you overcome the slew of issues listed on this blog above. Jennifer also works with women overcoming breast cancer. She helps you reprogram your mind so that you don't recreate it in your body. Jennifer is loving, compassionate and present. She has healed her own issues with self-love, so she understands what you are going through. You can buy her book here.

Her website is: JenniferElizabethMasters.com

The fast way to enlightenment?  SELF LOVE!

The Heart's Intuitive Intelligence

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

The Scientists at The Institute of Heart-Math have done some amazing work to shed light on the power of the human heart. 

The Institute of Heart-Math is an international non-profit organization that works to help people live consciously from their hearts, rather than their minds at home, school and play. They have some amazing tools and workshops to help us do just that. This study has proven that the magnetic field created by our hearts is far more powerful than that of the brain.

The Torus Pattern that our hearts send out is like a beacon into the universe.

Every thought we think, every feeling we feel is sent out from us into the Universe. The earth is surrounded with consciousness. This field is filled with everyone's thoughts, feelings and emotions. Each time there is a riot, an argument between two people those emotions are emitted and sent out into the soup of thoughts and emotions that surround us. Conversely when loving thoughts are sent out by a group, as in prayer the consciousness of the planet is positively affected.

It has been thought for decades that the human brain was the most

powerful organ in the human body. This study proves otherwise. The human heart creates an electromagnetic field. When a fetus begins to develop, it is the heart that is first developed, not the
brain. The heart is an electromagnetic broadcasting device that sends signals to the cells of the body as to how the baby will develop.

According to neurocardiologists 60 - 65 percent of the cells in the heart are neuron cells, not muscle cells. The studies that they have done show that the heart works similar to the brain, and is in some ways superior to the brain. 20 days after conception, the heart begins to function. The brain does not begin to function until 90 days after conception.

The heart gives us universal characteristics and the brain provides personal characteristics. Since the heart gives us universal characteristics and is the key to bonding with others, listening to our hearts, rather than our minds will create more peace, love, compassion and understanding in our world. 

What we feel is transmitted out of our hearts into the universe. It brings back to us energy that matches how we feel. When we are angry we attract angry people. When we are compassionate and loving, we attract compassionate and loving people. 

Our Auric Field

What the scientists found is that our emotions are encoded into our magnetic fields. By shifting our emotions and how we feel we change what is coded into our field. Have you ever met someone and instantly taken a dislike to them? Or have you ever met someone and felt an instant connection with them? You like the way they are coded. It feels good to you. Which is why we want to be expressing happiness, joy and gratitude, because these emotions change the coding of our magnetic field.

Trust Our Hearts - Not Our Minds

What all of the spiritual teachers teach is living in our hearts, rather than our minds. We do this because our mind is ego based. Our hearts are connected with the universe. Hearts are what connect you and I together. We are all interconnected, brothers and sisters. We are all part of the whole. When we connect with our hearts we recognize the divinity in our brothers and sisters and see the love between us, rather than the hate. It is this connection we need to focus on and expand. Connecting with our hearts and trusting our hearts to know what is best for us takes trust. 

Building trust can be as easy as trusting your body. Trusting your gut instinct. I recommend that you ask questions. Questions will bring you guidance. Rather than making a statement - will only make you right. 

We can tell we are in our heads and minds when we use phrases like, "I have to FIGURE OUT........" Figuring out things is not what you want to do. Trusting your heart, following your heart and trusting the guidance you receive is the way to go. Often we choose an ego-based decision and end a relationship because we are either afraid of opening up, or we are angry. Either way, our ego is running the show. When your heart is trusted, you will follow your desire. Your heart knows what it wants. All you have to do is learn to trust.

Broken Hearts Are Real

There are many things that break our hearts. Having a loved one die before their time, is one of the most heart-breaking events that we can experience. I recently spoke to my dear friend, Diana Davis'

mother. Diana left her body September 22nd, 2012. She was one of the most lovely women I knew. She was a fellow healer, and the reason I began doing energy healing. She held the workshops at her home in North Georgia.

Bonnie talked to me about two weeks ago and recounted the last hours of Diana's life. She and I cried together while she told me that they could not regulate Diana's heart beat and blood pressure. Diana could not speak, because she was on life support, but was able to send a message through her eyes to both her mother and her son Forrest before she passed. She told Forrest she loved him through her eyes. Diana shared intense emotion through her eyes with her mother as well. Bonnie told Diana she would make sure Forrest would be well taken care of. Forrest was 16 at the time. Bonnie was heartbroken afterwards, understandably. Her life has not been the same. 

About a year later she was rushed to the hospital because one of the two ties that hold the heart in place in the chest cavity, had been literally broken. Her heart was truly broken from the experience of grief of her daughter's death.

When my beloved, John died, my acupuncturist made a house call. He told me had I not had acupuncture to clear the blockage, I would have most likely had a heart attack. My heart was broken also. Time does not heal all wounds. Our inner work is what does the healing. 

Bad Marriages - Cause Heart Disease and Heart Attacks in Women

A recent study by Michigan State University has found that older women that stay in bad marriages have a higher risk and incidence of heart disease and heart attacks than those who are in happy

marriages. This study found that women who remain long after they recognize they are unhappy are at a higher risk. Men however, were less affected. The study looked at couples in their 50's and up.

Men's health was less affected by their bad marriages than women's. Why? Because women take care of their husbands, watching their diets when they are sick. Men do not take care of their wives in the same way. In fact, in many marriages once a woman gets sick, some husbands leave. Which is another reason that women who file for divorce are less likely to remarry. They are not inclined to find another man to take care of.

Dr. David Cziner of West Med in White Plains, NY, also cited a phenomenon called takotsubo cardiomyopathy, also known as broken-heart syndrome, is much more common in women than it is in men.

Remember Your Emotions Are Like A Magnet

The bottom line is what we feel, we send out. What we send out comes back to us. Think of what you want. Then think of what message you are beaming out through your heart megaphone into the Universe. If you want to be loved. Then LOVE yourself. If you

want to be accepted, then accept yourself. If you want peace, then find peace within. It all comes down to us. How we think, feel and treat ourselves. If you work tirelessly, giving to everyone but yourself, you are not loving yourself. You are doing to try to manipulate people to show love to you. If you need constant pats on the back telling you what a wonderful job you have done - you  need to take a look in the mirror. If you need constant validation from others, it is because you don't love and accept you.

Love begins and ends with ourselves. 

Wanting lasting happiness, love and joy in your life? Tired of feeling anxious, sad, depressed, unfulfilled and attracting the wrong types of people? Jennifer is a healed healer. She has been where you are. Through her own life lessons and a deep and profound toolbox of healing modalities, Jennifer is your biggest cheerleader. She will know you better than you know and understand yourself. Wanting a better, happier life? Email her for a private session.  Your first one is your Discovery Session.  Buy her book HERE!

Some Bunny Loves You

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Easter is a time of year when suffering and love go hand in hand. Everyone in the world has suffered in some way. Whether you are Christian, Jewish, Muslim, Hindi or Buddhist suffering at some point has brought you closer to your true self and to God. The key is, you don't have to live in suffering you can move through it. On the other side of suffering and pain is JOY! I know, because that is where I live every day. I suffered in depression and sadness for over 30 years. It does not matter where I live, who I am with or what I am doing.....  I am living in a state of JOY! You can too. 

I want to wish each and every one of you a Joyous Easter! 

To all of you, thank you for reading my blog and supporting my work. The next few months are pivotal for my book. I will be offering FREE podcasts soon on Wednesday nights to talk about and expand on the subjects of my forthcoming book : Orgasm For Life .....  The No Holds-Barred Guide For Creating BLISS

I love you all. I wish you much joy and Bliss in your daily life. Today I am especially joyful, as I have had several visions of the future and it looks very very good! 

Jennifer Elizabeth Masters
Photo by Sarah Perkins Photography, Denver

Want to live in a state of permanent JOY? 

I mentor 3 clients each year for the entire year. This work takes you deep and moves you out of fear, limitations and lack of love. Most of my clients find a deep sense of themselves within the first three months. After the first three months we create a plan together which helps you continue to grow and evolve to feel that joy and happiness within - no matter whether you are in a relationship or not. When you have a deep sense of self, coupled with complete love and acceptance, you become a magnet for love. You radiate love into your world into everything you touch and everyone you meet. You can contact me through my website to talk one-on-one with me about where you are currently and whether you are a good fit for my work. For those clients who work closely with me, I am available for emotional emergencies that come up via text and phone for the entire year as well. 

Micro Budget?

Want to hire a life coach, but wondered what happens? As a coach, I empower you to uncover what is going on with you, why you do things the way you do and what motivates you. I help you find out the deepest core issues that are challenges in your life and help you clear these energy patterns that have governed you for so long. I was a stubborn mule - set in my ways and I have changed monumentally. If I can do this = you can! This is a great opportunity to try out coaching with little investment up front. 

Take advantage of my JOY! and order a private coaching session. If you have thought about hiring a coach, but wondered how it works, and what happens during a coaching session, this is a perfect time to try coaching out. As a certified coach through Compass Life Coaching, now through May 17th, I am offering 5 special clients coaching sessions at the ridiculous low-cost of $80 per hour. That is $145 off my regular fee! You can purchase up to three sessions at this price. These sessions must be purchased by April 30. You can make a payment directly through paypal at : Divinehealingnow@yahoo.com  I can only offer 5 very special people this offer. So act quickly. Once I have 5 people sign up - I will close this deal. I have previously offered this same offer to my special private clients through my newsletter on my website. If you wish to receive my special offers more quickly you can. Sign up for my newsletter through my website here: JenniferElizabethMasters.com

With your support it will be a Global Best SELLER! My publisher has begun work on my book. If you are a famous author yourself and interested in offering your feedback for the cover of my book, e-mail me at  JenniferElizabethMasters@gmail.com

Stay tuned for excerpts from the book......  on my podcasts.

Jennifer is a hypnotherapist, intuitive life coach and a healed healer. She has healed depression, Fibromyalgia, Epstein Barr disease and breast cancer with thought and lots of self love. If you are wanting to live a life of happiness and joy - and find the inner peace within, Jennifer is the pathfinder that will show you the way. Working with Jennifer may be just the life-changer you have been looking for. Visit her website and read the testimonials. www.JenniferEliabethMasters.com

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