Does Great Sex Come Naturally Or Do We Need to Be Taught?

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Sex may be as natural as drinking water for some, but others may struggle with what to do when and what goes where? 

Knowing anatomy and asking your partner what feels good to them can give you the knowledge you need to ask more questions. Don't be afraid to talk about what works and what doesn't. The bedroom is a great place to play "Show and Tell." 

Great sex is learned. A loving partner or a Tantrika can teach you skills to be a lover that can take their breath away. Learning how to make love is a beautiful gift to give to another.

Books can help teach you as well. Letting go of your ego is required to learn to be a better lover. The worst sexual partners I had were the ones with the biggest, you know, egos!

Gently guiding rather than acting like a drill sergeant works wonders. 

Showing your partner what to do to make you feel good, with some gentle encouragement can go a long way to getting you where you need to go with mutual enjoyment. 

Everyone has their hot buttons. Don't be afraid to point them out or show your partner what you like. If your partner is too shy to tell you, explore and ask, "How does this feel? Do you like this?"

Most women need oral or digital stimulation for a while (20 - 40 minutes). Kissing can get you both turned on and feeling passionate which always feels good. Kissing is something both parties can enjoy. You have to like who you are kissing, of course. 

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Sex doesn't have to stop as we age

As we age, our bodies may not be as lithe, supple or as flexible as they used to be. Dryness can become a huge issue,  after menopause, chemo or illnesses. Make sure you use lube, or she will be a very sore little lady afterward. Organic aloe lube is sold at certain pharmacies and drug stores. I recommend lubrication without anything that heats up as it burns sensitive tissue.

Erections may not happen as easily or passion may be missing. Making the best of what you have is what makes sex great. There is always time to learn new things, techniques and enjoy something different when what used to work, doesn't. 

Toys and Books

His kingdom for a great ass!

In Orgasm For Life, I describe all sorts of ways to turn on each person. I highly recommend you read it. If passion is lacking, Orgasm For Life will certainly turn you on. I know, I was turned on the entire time I wrote that book! If it doesn't, it is time for an EKG!

Sex toys, like vibrators for both men and women, can help to stimulate when you are at your wits end. Toys can also spice up a sex life that is lagging and dull. Don't be afraid to use vibrators men, just get something for your woman that doesn't look bigger than you. 

Most women prefer something that is flexible, rather than acrylic or seriously hard. Real penises bend a little, remember? You don't need to buy a vibrator that is a dildo. There are all sorts of hand-held vibrators that work like a charm. Try it, she'll like it!

Ass Grabbing and Healthy Bodies

For you ladies!

I love a great ass! An ass that has some substance to it that I can grab excites me. A flabby butt that sags isn't exciting. So if either of you has a flabby butt, do some lunges. That is what I did. Flabby, sagging butt is GONE! 


Did you know that grabbing your guy's ass and squeezing it is a great turn-on? (for most men) Give him a back massage with a body buff. Run your naked body over his - all over. He'll love it. 

Our gluteus maximus has many nerve endings in it. As does the anus. If you aren't into anal play, that's okay too. Do what you love and you will have a good time!

Don't forget that we need non-sexual touching at other times. If the only time you reach for your woman is for sex, she will begin to shut you down and out. Non-sexual touching is part of a loving relationship. Even holding hands can release oxytocin the feel good or cuddle hormone. 

I do lunges daily to music. Personally, I don't like them, but I sure do like what they did to my lady-butt! Ask my guy; I think he likes the effect of the lunges too!

Connect with Jennifer via e-mail here: JenniferElizabethMasters@gmail.com


Jennifer Elizabeth Masters is the author of the forthcoming book: HAPPY HERE, HAPPY ANYWHERE. 


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The Attraction Switch

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

People come to me because they want to love and be loved. They come to me because they lost love. They come to me because they can't find someone to love them. The bottom line is that I am in the business of LOVE! We are all happier when we are in love. We are happier when we love and respect ourselves. I assist people with self-esteem, codependency, emotional trauma, sexual abuse, sexual dysfunction and relationship issues so that they can find love.

As a coach, I have heard it all. People come to me because they are in pain. Their wife doesn't have sex with them anymore. Their husband doesn't act like a man. Some people come to me because of their addictions. I understand people. I recognize and empathize with others because I too have had so many similar experiences. I used to jump from relationship to relationship because I thought a relationship would make me happy. It didn't.

Happiness comes from within. If we are miserable being us, we won't be much happier being in a relationship. We think we will be happy because of the depiction of relationships in movies or television shows we see and societal programming. 

The Purpose of A Relationship

Relationships are here to help us grow and evolve. Relationships teach us about love. Without sacrifice, there is no love. You might sacrifice your dream of dancing ballet, for your lover with whom you share a child. That is sacrifice. You may sacrifice your dreams of being an architect to stay at home with your newborn baby instead. With any luck, we can find someone that loves themselves enough to love us this way too. 

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Vulnerability

We don't get very far if we don't open up and allow another person in. We have to risk everything to be vulnerable. We have to let go of the dock and float out into the ocean of love without any mooring. Floating in an ocean of bliss we let go of control, surrender to love and allow our partner to see us naked, unmasked and open. This can be a scary place. When you have the courage to go to the place of vulnerability, you can also explore unbounded love. Limitless love happens when we are completely vulnerable, authentic and totally transparent with our lover. Limitless love is a real possibility when you stop worrying about what others think of you.

If they make us a little bit happier than we are when we are alone, we are very fortunate. If a relationship is amazing and raises us to a new level of being, that is an incredible gift. Most people have challenges in relationships and blame their partner for them. Our partners only heighten our issues that we need to notice.

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Love of Self

When I was in the middle of my codependency, I had many spiritual teachers tell me, "You need to be alone." I was so needy and codependent, I was restless without a man. I needed to have the stability of another person to feel like I was whole. Once I began doing energy work, hypnotherapy, this restlessness calmed down. I became more grounded. This grounding gave me the courage to be alone. It truly was what I needed. When I was  alone, I began to know and understand myself better, because I was becoming authentic. In a relationship, I was not me. I was a shell of my real self. I felt so insecure, that I felt if I acted like myself, no one would want me.

When we don't love ourselves, we are unhappy with our lives. Things don't work properly because we are out of balance. We may work too much, too hard, or shop like a crazy person. We often have addictions when we don't love ourselves. I certainly did. We may even cascade from one addiction to another while we heal.

Self-Respect Is A Turn On

To be happy in a relationship, we need to have self-respect. Without self-respect, others won't respect us. When our partner doesn't respect us, they usually treat us badly. They may cheat, lie, or treat us with disrespect. 

What Is Self-Respect?
Self-respect means we are not afraid to stand up for our beliefs. When we have self-respect, we say what we feel and do what we say. We speak our truth, instead of trying to please others by agreeing with them. When we have self-respect you often make decisions that are unpopular with others. Without self-respect you may fear that others won't like you if you go against what they believe. People might even become angry with you for doing so. However, when you stand up for what you believe, you will be respected, rather than disrespected. You will not feel that you are supressing your truth. Being authentic means that you speak your truth and stand up for your beliefs.

You Are So Sexy!

When you can stand up confidently for what you want, believe  and feel, you will find someone who is turned on by your confidence. A confident person is infinitely more sexy than a needy one. 

A needy person can never be made happy because they don't love themselves. Their love-tank is empty. It can never be filled by someone else. This is where I come in. I help you begin to love yourself fearlessly. Along this journey you being to recognize your

gifts, your beauty, your worthiness and your inner strength. Through my courses and coaching you will grow, and shift your perspective recognizing that you are worthy and already enough. You each have what you need inside you, I just help you uncover the truth of your being.

Much Love to you,
Jennifer

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Thanks again Jennifer, You ROCK! I appreciate all your help - you've truly made a difference in my world ! Thank you! Kent

Beginning today, 5:00 PM PST/8:00 PM EST, I am offering a very special opportunity to help you eliminate fears, worry, mind chatter - gain clarity, focus, grounding and inner peace. A series of three clearings each 60 minutes in length a $540 value. E-mail me for further questions. Here.