Sex may be as natural as drinking water for some, but others may struggle with what to do when and what goes where?
Knowing anatomy and asking your partner what feels good to them can give you the knowledge you need to ask more questions. Don't be afraid to talk about what works and what doesn't. The bedroom is a great place to play "Show and Tell."
Books can help teach you as well. Letting go of your ego is required to learn to be a better lover. The worst sexual partners I had were the ones with the biggest, you know, egos!
Gently guiding rather than acting like a drill sergeant works wonders.
Showing your partner what to do to make you feel good, with some gentle encouragement can go a long way to getting you where you need to go with mutual enjoyment.
|Sex doesn't have to stop as we age|
As we age, our bodies may not be as lithe, supple or as flexible as they used to be. Dryness can become a huge issue, after menopause, chemo or illnesses. Make sure you use lube, or she will be a very sore little lady afterward. Organic aloe lube is sold at certain pharmacies and drug stores. I recommend lubrication without anything that heats up as it burns sensitive tissue.
Erections may not happen as easily or passion may be missing. Making the best of what you have is what makes sex great. There is always time to learn new things, techniques and enjoy something different when what used to work, doesn't.
|His kingdom for a great ass!|
Most women prefer something that is flexible, rather than acrylic or seriously hard. Real penises bend a little, remember? You don't need to buy a vibrator that is a dildo. There are all sorts of hand-held vibrators that work like a charm. Try it, she'll like it!
|For you ladies!|
Did you know that grabbing your guy's ass and squeezing it is a great turn-on? (for most men) Give him a back massage with a body buff. Run your naked body over his - all over. He'll love it.
Our gluteus maximus has many nerve endings in it. As does the anus. If you aren't into anal play, that's okay too. Do what you love and you will have a good time!
Don't forget that we need non-sexual touching at other times. If the only time you reach for your woman is for sex, she will begin to shut you down and out. Non-sexual touching is part of a loving relationship. Even holding hands can release oxytocin the feel good or cuddle hormone.
I do lunges daily to music. Personally, I don't like them, but I sure do like what they did to my lady-butt! Ask my guy; I think he likes the effect of the lunges too!
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Jennifer Elizabeth Masters is the author of the forthcoming book: HAPPY HERE, HAPPY ANYWHERE.
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