Does Great Sex Come Naturally Or Do We Need to Be Taught?

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Sex may be as natural as drinking water for some, but others may struggle with what to do when and what goes where? 

Knowing anatomy and asking your partner what feels good to them can give you the knowledge you need to ask more questions. Don't be afraid to talk about what works and what doesn't. The bedroom is a great place to play "Show and Tell." 

Great sex is learned. A loving partner or a Tantrika can teach you skills to be a lover that can take their breath away. Learning how to make love is a beautiful gift to give to another.

Books can help teach you as well. Letting go of your ego is required to learn to be a better lover. The worst sexual partners I had were the ones with the biggest, you know, egos!

Gently guiding rather than acting like a drill sergeant works wonders. 

Showing your partner what to do to make you feel good, with some gentle encouragement can go a long way to getting you where you need to go with mutual enjoyment. 

Everyone has their hot buttons. Don't be afraid to point them out or show your partner what you like. If your partner is too shy to tell you, explore and ask, "How does this feel? Do you like this?"

Most women need oral or digital stimulation for a while (20 - 40 minutes). Kissing can get you both turned on and feeling passionate which always feels good. Kissing is something both parties can enjoy. You have to like who you are kissing, of course. 

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Sex doesn't have to stop as we age

As we age, our bodies may not be as lithe, supple or as flexible as they used to be. Dryness can become a huge issue,  after menopause, chemo or illnesses. Make sure you use lube, or she will be a very sore little lady afterward. Organic aloe lube is sold at certain pharmacies and drug stores. I recommend lubrication without anything that heats up as it burns sensitive tissue.

Erections may not happen as easily or passion may be missing. Making the best of what you have is what makes sex great. There is always time to learn new things, techniques and enjoy something different when what used to work, doesn't. 

Toys and Books

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In Orgasm For Life, I describe all sorts of ways to turn on each person. I highly recommend you read it. If passion is lacking, Orgasm For Life will certainly turn you on. I know, I was turned on the entire time I wrote that book! If it doesn't, it is time for an EKG!

Sex toys, like vibrators for both men and women, can help to stimulate when you are at your wits end. Toys can also spice up a sex life that is lagging and dull. Don't be afraid to use vibrators men, just get something for your woman that doesn't look bigger than you. 

Most women prefer something that is flexible, rather than acrylic or seriously hard. Real penises bend a little, remember? You don't need to buy a vibrator that is a dildo. There are all sorts of hand-held vibrators that work like a charm. Try it, she'll like it!

Ass Grabbing and Healthy Bodies

For you ladies!

I love a great ass! An ass that has some substance to it that I can grab excites me. A flabby butt that sags isn't exciting. So if either of you has a flabby butt, do some lunges. That is what I did. Flabby, sagging butt is GONE! 


Did you know that grabbing your guy's ass and squeezing it is a great turn-on? (for most men) Give him a back massage with a body buff. Run your naked body over his - all over. He'll love it. 

Our gluteus maximus has many nerve endings in it. As does the anus. If you aren't into anal play, that's okay too. Do what you love and you will have a good time!

Don't forget that we need non-sexual touching at other times. If the only time you reach for your woman is for sex, she will begin to shut you down and out. Non-sexual touching is part of a loving relationship. Even holding hands can release oxytocin the feel good or cuddle hormone. 

I do lunges daily to music. Personally, I don't like them, but I sure do like what they did to my lady-butt! Ask my guy; I think he likes the effect of the lunges too!

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Jennifer Elizabeth Masters is the author of the forthcoming book: HAPPY HERE, HAPPY ANYWHERE. 


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Get Connected and Be A Better Lover

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

I work with men and women. I talk about our differences in wiring in my book and here on my blog. The biggest difference I see is in the macho men. Let's look into the mind of the macho man. The macho man thinks he knows everything. He feels and thinks he has it going on. The macho man doesn't think he

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could improve, or learn, because he already knows it all. His first reaction to my book, "I don't need that I know what I am doing." This guy is the very one that needs to read my book. His wife or girlfriend is the one not coming. He is not in his heart, he resides in his little self or ego. 

In my book, Orgasm For Life, I talk about a woman married to a macho man for 35 years. She thinks she might have had one orgasm. One orgasm in 35 years! She isn't sure, because she had nothing to compare it to. When she told him she wasn't having orgasms, what did her macho man do? He beat her. He yelled at her. In his mind he had it going on. The truth destroyed him and he had to pound his anger out on his wife. It was not her fault. He kept doing things the same way over and over and thought in his mind - he was right. 

The ego is not the true self. It is the false self. Usually, people who appear to have a large ego have low self esteem. The big ego is a cover up for how they truly feel about themselves. It is okay, I have been there. But acting like you have it going on - all the time, can leave your partner wanting. So let go of that false self and let me help you be a better lover. A good lover always knows there is room for improvement. A good lover is always looking for deeper connection, processes and higher levels of pleasure. A great lover is someone who is connected to their own heart.

Right below, are some practises that will help you connect with yourself and get out of your mind. We want the heart-mind to work together. When you use phrases like, "I have to FIGURE THIS OUT," you are in your ego-mind not your heart. 

1. Connect to your HEART. Close your eyes. Place your dominant hand flat on the upper part of your chest so that when you dip your chin down, it touches your hand. Now breathe into the space your heart is, slowly and completely. Exhale slowly. Breathe in again 4 more times, exhaling slowly. After doing this slowly for 5 times ask yourself how do I feel? Do I feel safe? Do I feel connected? This is where you want to be when you make love to your woman, not in the "I know what I am doing," place. Ask her what she needs. Ask her what she would like. Listen to her. Listen without an agenda. Don't judge what she says, or comment, except to say "Okay, I can do that."
2. Shake it all up! There is a meditation that OSHO taught. You play music that gets you to move and you shake. Shake your whole body. Keep shaking your arms, your legs, your feet, your head. Shake everything. Don't worry about feeling silly. Sometimes silly is a good thing. Remember you are getting out of your mind. This shaking will help you connect with YOU. Your true self. Which is where you want to be when you begin to give her a loving gentle massage.
3. Gentle Touch. Do something different. Touch without touching. WHAT? Offer your lady a massage. Rub your hands together until they are really warm. Hover your hands above her body, without touching. You will feel the heat of her body, she will feel the heat of your hands. This is an amazing way to tap into a higher energy of love making. We do things the same
   
   way all the time. Try something completely different. A surprising outcome may be such a wonderful response in return. Promise to not touch her genitals until or unless she wants you to. At which time, you will ask, "May I touch you here?" Asking gives a reverence and respect to your woman. It will help her to feel amazing, safe and relax into pleasure. How about giving her an orgasm first. Or maybe JUST the massage. Leave her wanting more. 

The truth about being a great lover is getting out of your head and into your heart. A connection is something that comes from tapping into our hearts. We feel connected to each other through our hearts - then our body connection is so much more profound. Remember, my story about my guy from 40 years ago? I am still thinking of

Heart connected sex is the way to her heart

him because even after all these 40 years, we still have a connection. A connection can't be replaced by sexual prowess. It is not a technique. As a matter of fact, sensuality is not technique. It is fluid, motion, feeling into each breath, each kiss, each touch. It is not about rushing to the end result and being done. It involves a higher love. One that will buoy you up and keep you awake at night you feel so high! That is what you want. That is what she wants. Give her your heart, your body will follow.

Jennifer Elizabeth Masters is a love and passion coach. She empowers men and women to become heart-centered, passionate and happy. She has healed her own codependency, and sexual issues to help others heal theirs. With a compassionate heart and intuitive mind, she is connected, dialed into the truth of who you are. She helps you find you. The real you, that is so utterly amazing! E-mail her now for your discovery session to see if her work fits your intention for growth and happiness. 

Feel her skin, smell her scent. Feel the warmth of her body, but don't just plough her. Wait till she asks for it. Slow down. Give to her first. Remember ladies come first, last and always!

Much Love,
Jennifer

The Art of Semen Retention For Vitality And Power

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

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Any athlete who has ever competed knows that sex before a competition will deplete you. As a matter of fact, many prize fighters and other athletes will forgo sex while in competition. The eastern world has known that ejaculation causes the body to be depleted of strength, vitality and even mental concentration.

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However, orgasms will deplete your life force and over time can even cause challenges with kidneys and other physical issues. Taking a little pill to get it up, only increases physical ailments to the point of risking death, if you have heart or blood pressure issues.

Why then is the western world so focused on orgasms? Simply put, PLEASURE. An orgasm feels good. It relieves stress and can help you sleep better. Women receiving the gift of semen

internally become energized, giggly and happy. Your loss is our gift

There are ways to change the loss into a gain. Tantric Sex is definitely one of them. Holding onto your precious life giving semen up to an hour or more is enough to change the tables from a deficit to a amazing energetic increase.

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I have consulted a long-time friend and Tantra teacher for this article. Being a man, he is much more able to translate what happens in the man's body than I am. Prem Sarovara agreed to assist with the details of this article. He is a teacher for Ipsalu Tantra in Atlanta. 

The Origin of Sex and Ejaculation

Primal man wants to survive. In his innate nature, he has a built in desire to procreate. He does this by wanting to inseminate as many young fertile women as possible in his lifetime. We cannot fault men for something that is a natural state within them.

Primal women have an internal desire to find the strongest male with the most resources to impregnate her. You cannot fault a woman for having the need to find a man who will be strong and able to take care of her and her children. It is programmed into her DNA and therefore innate.

Rising Above

Retention of semen rises above the primal urges and imprint. There are distortions of the primal urges, where men continue to sow their seeds long after they have procreated a-plenty. There are also women who continue to look for the most handsome and well financed man to support her long after her children are out of nursery school.

When Ejaculation Begins

Semen retention is not about stopping the process once it begins. That is not healthy and can cause pain in the testes and abdomen. There are several methods that people use for this like pinching the top of the penis, OW! Or pressing on pressure points in the perineum. What's a perineum, you ask? I will get to that. Neither of these are what we are discussing here. You can breathe a sigh of relief!

A Man Post Orgasm

Man post ejaculation

After 2 - 7 minutes and an ejaculatory orgasm it is over. After an ejaculatory orgasm that occurs too soon, men feel depleted, sadness and even a little depressed. Their energy wanes. They usually fall asleep immediately after sex. Men may even feel exhausted for several days afterward till their life force is regained. For this reason alone, athletes refrain from sex before try-outs, competitions and races.

Question

Why would you want to retain your sexual energy by non ejaculatory sex?

Answer: To transmute it.

Think about rising above the primal man's urges. This will match with the female rising above her primal nature. Primal man doesn't want to prolong lovemaking - he wants to ejaculate.

What Tantra Will Do For Your Relationship

• allow more time for stimulation of the woman
• give you both higher heights of ecstasy and pleasure
• longer lasting sex allows both partners to reach multiple orgasms
• allow the man to keep his vitality and energy
• no depression or sadness after orgasm
• better concentration
• more power
• deeper intimacy and closeness

The 3rd Chakra - Power

Tantra moves and transmutes sexual energy upward into the higher chakras. Rather than allowing the energy to remain in the genitals it is transferred upwards first into your 3rd chakra, the solar plexus or power center. 

Once you have moved the sexual energy up into the third chakra your sexual energy amps up your power center. You are retraining the energy. Rather than allowing your sexual energy to stay in the genitals through the use of breath (instructions below) you move and transmute the energy upwards. After sex with non-ejaculatory orgasms OR orgasms after 1 hour or more: you will feel empowered instead of depleted. One day later you feel empowered and vital. Two days after sex you will still feel strong and empowered. There is no recovery time.

When you retain semen you feel empowered. Giving your woman an orgasm will also make you feel empowered. 

Heart

Retain your sexual energy (semen) a little longer and you bring the energy up into the heart chakra (the center of your chest). The energy can be circulated through all the chakras to achieve balance. 

The man receives through the heart as she pours that energy back

into him, through her heart and breasts. As she pours her energy into him, the relationship is deepened. A stronger connection is achieved.

The longer you retain your semen, the higher you can circulate your sexual energy. Moving the energy up into your throat chakra you lose all concepts of self. This is where the two of you blend into one. A blissful union of ONE. The feeling of bliss at this point is incredible and may last minutes, rather than the seconds of a "normal ejaculatory orgasm."

The ultimate is achieved when the energy is moved above the heart chakra. This is where you disappear into blissful oblivion.

IMPORTANT RULE

Maintain an erection and sexual energy for at least an hour; your sexual energy is maintained, even if you do ejaculate.

The penis (lingam) may become softer and then become hard again, from moving your sexual energy upward, but the woman can contract her internal muscles to build and transmute the sexual energy and heat within the vagina (yoni). 

Soft Penis - 

The penis (lingam) may become soft, and then regain it's vigor again. This it temporary and still pleasant and enjoyable for both. The energy becomes a full body experience, rather than just a genital one. The woman can contract her PC muscles and her vaginal muscles which can heighten pleasure for both parties. The advantages of extending pleasure beyond 2 - 7 minutes are exponential. Both may experience multiple orgasms through extended pleasure and transmutation of the sexual energy.

Transmutation Breath

Contracting and relaxing the anal muscles generates heat. Breathe in and touch your tongue to the roof of your mouth to complete the

circuit. Contract and then relax the perineum for men. Men sometimes tease their mates by making their penis move by contracting muscles. These are the very muscles that you want to contract and relax, as well during this transmutation breath.

In women, it is the back wall of the vagina (yoni) contracting and relaxing the vaginal wall muscles. Contract and relax the clitoris. This one really requires some introspection to accomplish.

OBO - Orgasm With Bliss and Oblivion

Once you have mastered the breath and transmuted the energy, doing your contractions simultaneously, you will be able to move your sexual energy upwards into your throat chakra. the energy will just take over. What this means is that your orgasmic state can last as long as it wants to, rising and peaking then reaching a plateau, subsiding into a high plateau, rising again. The prostate will contract automatically, giving you multiple orgasms, similar in intensity to a woman's multiple orgasms. This state can be maintained for hours. What a trip! 

Benefits of Tantric Bliss

• a deeper connection
• higher plateau
• you are no longer moving the energy
• beautiful state of ecstatic bliss
• a man will experience what a woman does when she has multiple orgasms
• great for prostate health
• increased energy and vitality
• increased mental focus
• tremendous feeling of empowerment

This energetic state will take you to places you have never been before. This is a great time to have the kids visiting their grandparents and your cell phones off. You will not want to be interrupted for anything!


Cobra Breath

This breath work has been secret for a very long time, in fact my friend could not share it with me. The Ipasalu Tantra Institute teaches the Cobra breath when the student is ready. The purpose of Tantra is enlightenment. Great sex of course is a result of Tantra. The breath that is taught awakens the kundalini when the student is ready.

Jennifer Elizabeth Masters is an enlightened and self actualized being. What does this mean for you? She doesn't take anything personally. She lives in her heart, rather than her ego. She is in constant contact with her High Self and The Divine. 

Jennifer is a natural catalyst for your growth and healing. Being in her energy whether it is in person, on or phone, you will shift without doing anything. She intuitively gets mantras for you to heal

the issue you are encountering in the moment. Keep repeating the same relationship with different people? Jennifer is amazing at helping people find real love, rather than the addictive self destructive kind. 

If you are depressed, lonely, angry, anxious, feeling stuck, disempowered, feeling small and want to meet and step into your Divine self, Jennifer is the one to guide you there. As a Spiritual Pathfinder, she will help you find your way. 

If you want to truly work with a master of energy, Jennifer is the one to work with! Not only is she a master of her craft, she is professional, genuine and caring. She makes sure your experience was everything you were expecting and more...plus she gives you tools to keep help you on your journey! L. Roosevelt

The average woman needs more than the two minutes of sex she is currently receiving to have an orgasm. Even if you manage to go the distance of SEVEN minutes, you are on average 33 minutes shy of arousing most women enough to even get close to having an orgasm. 

Most women need 20 - 40 minutes of stimulation to get close to an orgasm. The sad thing is that 70% of women rarely or NEVER have orgasms with intercourse. Why? Because it is over before they have gotten enough stimulation to get there.

For those men out there that feel they are doing their job right and this paragraph does not apply to you, think again. A recent study found that 85% of men think that they did a good deed and got her there, when less than 64% did. 75% of men climax every time. Maybe Tantra is the answer to get more women to the pleasure zone that men are enjoying all by themselves?

You have to read my book. As it details the issues facing men and women today. Women want more intimacy. Men want more sex. Men become more intimate after sex and need sex for intimacy to occur. We have a stand-off. No one wants to budge. This is causing a huge rift. Love involves giving and receiving. Men feel loved when their women love and accept them through sex. Women need to feel loved to have sex. We are wired differently. 

In over 16% of long-term marriages today sex is a serious issue. To the point that men are not getting sex at all. This is sad. Read my book to help overcome obstacles standing in your way of healing your relationship and call Jennifer for a session. 

Hanna Katz-Jelfs has a wonderful video which talks about Tantra and pure bliss which goes far beyond what the regular sex act can achieve. Her description is beautiful.

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Making Sex Sacred With Tantra

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

For most of us, the focus of sex is the culmination of expansive and exquisite energy surging upwards and thrusting us into states of ecstasy. An orgasm is all that and more. However, it

does not have to include ejaculation for orgasm to occur. Men can have orgasms without ejaculation with practice. This is the beginning of a series on the subject of Tantra. What it means and why you would want to practice Tantra.

Timing Is Everything

Both men and women can be disappointed in the length of the sex act. Men often feel self condemnation about the length of time they can prolong sex before reaching a climax. It is a natural occurring phenomenon for men to be driven to orgasm. It is programmed into their DNA. We were created to sustain life on this planet. One of those programs imprinted in men's DNA was a drive to procreate. They can't help it.

We Were Programmed This Way

Men generally, but don't always have higher libidos than most women and are much more driven to ejaculate than women are driven to orgasm. In fact, when women reach an orgasm before the male, the inside of the vagina becomes more acidic killing precious swimmers. We have been programmed NOT to orgasm before the male. A woman that does not have an orgasm has a higher chance of becoming pregnant than one who does. Orgasm increases the acidity of the uterus which makes conception more difficult.  

On average most women need longer to achieve an orgasm than a man during intercourse. Most women need twenty to forty minutes of stimulation to have an orgasm. We can't get angry about something that was programmed into us. Many men are often anxiously chomping at the bit, wondering when they can let go themselves, while waiting for their lady to climax. For mutual pleasure to occur, we need to find a work-around to have both partners collapsing on their pillows sweating and satiated.

Semen Retention?

Learning the art of semen retention, through Tantra can help men last longer, making love for an hour or more. Tantric sex was brought out of the dark with stories about 24 hour long sex, by Sting, the musician. 

What is Tantra?

Tantra is a Hindu or Buddhist mystical or ritual text which originated in India. It originated around the 5th century. It is the adherence to the doctrines of the principals of the tantras involving mantra, meditations, yoga and ritual. Tantric Sex combines meditations, yoga, breath, and shifting the focus of sex from end-result oriented to being in the present moment completely with your partner. Instead of a fast heated rush, it involves a deep and powerful soulful, body-mind-soul connection with your partner and a sacred, slow pace. Today Tantric sex is considered conscious love-making. Tantra brings the sacredness of our bodies and love-making together. Tantra includes revering each other and our joint blissful union. Tantra and yoga were one and the same in their original form. 

Tantra originated from a time when sex was denied. Spirituality and sexuality are joined together embracing the body as a divine temple. Tantra reveres the body and the sacred act of sex rather than seeing sex and the body as something sinful as so many religions do. The essence of Tantra is combining the heart, mind and spirit in the act of making love without attachment. Open heart, open mind. Everything is Divine.


Why Would You Want To Try Tantra?

45% of men reach orgasm within 2 minutes after penetration occurs. This fact alone could make women shout and fist bump with their girlfriends, that they've got it going on! However, hot we are sexually, the key is to both receive pleasure, and mutually enjoy an orgasm. Extending love-making so that both are able to give AND receive pleasure is what Tantra is all about. 

Self-pleasuring for both men and women  takes approximately 4 minutes to reach the pinnacle of the sex act, orgasm. Using semen retention can allow the man to last longer, without achieving an orgasm so quickly.

How Do We Do It?

Tantra is shifting the focus from purely sexual experience to blend mind, body and spirit. From eye gazing and meditating together before sex, you begin with the intent in mind to connect deeply with your partner, heart-to-heart and soul-to-soul. It is a balance of yin and yang, male and female. 

Shift The Focus


Connecting with each other prior to beginning to make love with your hearts open, looking deeply into your partner's eyes with an awakened heart. The more open and authentic you can be the better. You are allowing your souls to connect rather than just your sexual parts. Awakening of the kundalini or Shakti (life force) moves energy upward as in the union between Shiva and Shakti.

Moving Energy

Take turns as the receiver and the giver, by touching your partner's genitals and then placing your hand on their heart chakra at the same time. Focus on moving energy from their genitals into their heart center. As you move sexual energy up into your heart you can circulate it throughout the body, which will enliven and give you more energy to last longer and also live a longer, healthier life.

Stay tuned for more articles on Tantra, what it can do for you and why you want to learn about it.

You can visit Jennifer's website here: JenniferElizabethMasters.com

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