I work with men and women. I talk about our differences in wiring in my book and here on my blog. The biggest difference I see is in the macho men. Let's look into the mind of the macho man. The macho man thinks he knows everything. He feels and thinks he has it going on. The macho man doesn't think he
could improve, or learn, because he already knows it all. His first reaction to my book, "I don't need that I know what I am doing." This guy is the very one that needs to read my book. His wife or girlfriend is the one not coming. He is not in his heart, he resides in his little self or ego.
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The ego is not the true self. It is the false self. Usually, people who appear to have a large ego have low self esteem. The big ego is a cover up for how they truly feel about themselves. It is okay, I have been there. But acting like you have it going on - all the time, can leave your partner wanting. So let go of that false self and let me help you be a better lover. A good lover always knows there is room for improvement. A good lover is always looking for deeper connection, processes and higher levels of pleasure. A great lover is someone who is connected to their own heart.
- Connect to your HEART. Close your eyes. Place your dominant hand flat on the upper part of your chest so that when you dip your chin down, it touches your hand. Now breathe into the space your heart is, slowly and completely. Exhale slowly. Breathe in again 4 more times, exhaling slowly. After doing this slowly for 5 times ask yourself how do I feel? Do I feel safe? Do I feel connected? This is where you want to be when you make love to your woman, not in the "I know what I am doing," place. Ask her what she needs. Ask her what she would like. Listen to her. Listen without an agenda. Don't judge what she says, or comment, except to say "Okay, I can do that."
- Shake it all up! There is a meditation that OSHO taught. You play music that gets you to move and you shake. Shake your whole body. Keep shaking your arms, your legs, your feet, your head. Shake everything. Don't worry about feeling silly. Sometimes silly is a good thing. Remember you are getting out of your mind. This shaking will help you connect with YOU. Your true self. Which is where you want to be when you begin to give her a loving gentle massage.
- Gentle Touch. Do something different. Touch without touching. WHAT? Offer your lady a massage. Rub your hands together until they are really warm. Hover your hands above her body, without touching. You will feel the heat of her body, she will feel the heat of your hands. This is an amazing way to tap into a higher energy of love making. We do things the same
|Heart connected sex is the way to her heart|