Bring Me To Life!

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Do you or your loved one suffer from sexual numbness? 

Yesterday I completed a two-day drive from Boulder, Colorado to the Mojave desert of California. Speaking of numbness, most of my butt was numb!

For the first day, I rode in silence. I listen to guidance in the quiet. After 10 hours, I began playing old CDs and found one from Evanescence, I didn't even know I had. Written and sung by Amy Lee, she said that it has many meanings. Amy Lee told a reporter that the song was inspired by her husband and long-time friend, Josh Hartzler. I listened carefully to the lyrics and found that the meaning could easily be construed as sexual.  

One line in particular, Now that I know what I am without, you can't just leave me.  My interpretation is that the author experienced an orgasm by accident and then realized what she had been missing - don't just leave me here.......   hanging! Now I know what I have been missing I want it each and every time.

To be fully awake, all of our body, mind and spirit must be engaged. If parts of your body are numb, you cannot wake up. This particular song has also been called incorrectly, "Wake Me Up Inside." It is a powerful song about awakening from numbness. (The lyrics and song are below this article.)  

Why some women can't have an orgasm

Being able to have an orgasm means you are fully functional. Numbness does not allow an orgasm to occur. When women who have been sexually molested, raped or traumatized sexually, most go into fright, fight or freeze syndrome. It is a natural phenomenon that protects the mind and body from trauma. Many young children have their sexual traumas blocked completely from conscious memory because it would push them over the edge to know or remember all the details. The freezing occurs when the sexual molestation causes sexual feelings to occur in the child. The child then says unconsciously, "This is not right, I have to prevent pleasure from happening!" The feelings are FROZEN inside.

Over 40 percent of women suffer from vaginal numbness. or sexualy dysfunctioin.  Even their clitoris can feel numb. Needless to say, numbness in one's sexual organs means sexual pleasure is difficult to non-existent. It can even cause pain to be experienced. Moving beyond numbness is what I did myself when I healed trauma from my childhood. 

In my book, Orgasm For Life, I give step-by-step details on healing sexual trauma. A couple can do this if they use love, compassion and are not in a rush. Breathing through the emotions that are lodged in the cells, helps to release them and are part of the healing. Eye contact and connection are important. Many men and women disconnect and disassociate when they are having sex. This occurs because cellular memory is present with pain. The pain can be emotional as well as physical. 

Many women experience pain during intercourse that cannot be explained. Perhaps sexual trauma occurred in childhood that they don't even remember. This cellular memory has to be released before orgasm can occur. Keeping eye contact, touching, other than just sexual touch and talking to the partner you are healing is important. I recommend you get my book from the link above from Amazon.com for all the details.

While researching information on Evanescence and their song, I found a forum where many women were discussing sexual numbness. I found it very sad, that there is not more information on the Internet to assist young people. Others on the forum were giving mis-information about the cause and how to heal it. Please send anyone you know who has vaginal numbness to my blog, or my book, Orgasm For Life. 

Below are instructions for a very delicate issue. Sexual trauma causes deep emotional pain. Keeping sexual trauma a secret increases the emotional and unconscious trauma. It causes further sinking of esteem, by saying that you are the bad one. You in some way caused the molestation or rape to occur. When secrets are kept, psychosis can occur which can present as low self esteem, bi-polar syndrome, Borderline Personality Disorder, Schizophrenia, anxiety, depression and promiscuity (and others). If you and your partner decide to heal this issue on your own, make sure you pair the physical healing with emotional healing through a coach who is healed and familiar with sexual dysfunction or sexual abuse, like myself. It would be helpful to watch the movie, Bliss with Terrence Stamp. This movie gently illustrates sexual healing from traumatic sexual abuse.

Trust

If you trust your partner completely this work can be done with them. You need to have an agreement that if it becomes too painful you can say, "Stop." It will take sincere commitment, perseverance and courage to do this work. A Tantra healer can work on you, but many do not feel comfortable going to a stranger for intimate healing work. Some massage inside the vagina is required as well as the G-spot. 

Know that this work may take several sessions to clear everything completely. You can persevere and do it in one session, which I recommend, because you could easily throw in the towel and never go back and complete the work. It can feel very intense and painful both emotionally and physically. However, the end result is regular orgasms. The work is definitely worthwhile. I wish I had not waited to do this healing till I was in my 50's. I did not have all the information I needed to recognize that it could be fixed, or healed. I also did not have the courage and confidence to go through with it earlier. 

Coaching For Sexual Healing and Empowerment

Coaching for these issues is recommended and is my forté. Not only have I healed the emotional issues, I have also healed the physical and spiritual issues as well. I have a deep understanding for what you are experiencing. This work can also help you prevent cancer and other diseases from manifesting. Self love is the greatest gift you can give yourself. Why wait any longer? Joy and total fulfillment awaits you just around the corner!

1. Begin with a sacred shower or bath. Intend that this session will be helpful, gentle and healing. This is a healing session only. 
2. Arrange the bedroom with pillows, candle light and soft music if desired.
3. Make sure the room is warm enough, or cool enough to be comfortable naked.
4. Prop the person you are working on on pillows, under the knees and arms. Make sure she is comfortable, feels safe and secure. Close the door. Keep out animals.
5. Ask her if you have permission to touch her. Always ask before moving to the next body part. "Do I have your permission to touch your _________. Sexual trauma occurs when touch happens without permission. Boundaries are crossed. This is a healing event. Permission must be granted before you move on.
6. Start with non-sexual body touch, of arms, legs, hands and feet. "May I touch your breasts?"
7. Maintain eye contact as much as possible.
8. Tell your partner what you are doing as you are doing it. Communication is important to build trust.
9. "May I touch your buttocks and thighs?" Begin massaging deep into the muscles in the hips, thighs (at the tops of the front of legs deep inside the muscle groups. This can be painful. Make sure your partner breathes throughout. Holding breath is natural when we are experiencing either emotional or physical pain. Breathwork is imperative for release. Breathe in AND OUT.
10. The first session may take an hour and a half to two hours. Gently, but deeply massaging the tops of the thighs near but not touching the vulva. 
11. With both thumbs located on the area called the sitz bones, gently push inward. This can be quite tender, but needs to be released to move on to the next step. Make sure your partner is breathing. Spend at least 10 seconds here. If the pain is too great at first, back off the pressure and then allow her time to breathe and repeat once more.
12. Let her know you are going to be touching her vulva next. "Do I have permission to touch your vulva?" Using gentle pressure press down on the clitoris and have her breathe. Move to another area on her labia majora (outer lips). Repeat the gentle pressure with her breathing. This is meant to be a release rather than a turn on. You are not trying to turn her on, but release memory from the cells. 
13. Make eye contact and let her know you are moving to her vagina. Ask permission to do so.
14. With coconut or olive oil begin inserting one finger and massage the upper wall of the vagina. Sex will not occur during this session. This is ONLY a healing session for ONE person, the one you are working on. 
15. Turn your hand upward, using a come hither motion manually massage the upper wall - or G-spot. You will be able to determine if you have the right area. It is spongy and will swell as it contains erectile tissue. It feels ribbed and is located approximately an inch to two inches on the upper wall of the vaginal wall. 
16. Make sure that she is breathing and making eye contact with you during the G-spot massage. She may cry. It can be extremely painful. It was excruciating for me. I did not have an orgasm until my next sexual experience. So don't push her unless she can go the distance. An orgasm is not required. It would be a grand result of all this wonderful healing work, but it is not the end of the world if it does not happen.
17. Ask her if she needs to be held? If she gives you permission to hold her, do so, without expecting sex. This is not about you today, only her. This is a healing. Hold her and allow her to breathe, talk or cry.

Jennifer Elizabeth Masters is the author of two books, Orgasm For Life, and Odyssey Victim to Victory. Orgasm For Life is a witty, brilliant guide to sex, relationships and love. OFL bridges the chasm of opposite sex relationships with new understanding and candor. Direct, open and honest, Orgasm For Life will make you laugh, turn you on, teach you new ways to make love and make you a better lover, in the process. 

With understanding, humor and communication we create better relationships deeper connection and intimacy. Jennifer Elizabeth Masters is a gifted catalyst for healing bringing her clients to a state of permanent happiness, clearing depression, anxiety and limitation. 

Her website is: JenniferElizabethMasters.com 

"Bring Me To Life"

(feat. Paul McCoy)

How can you see into my eyes like open doors?
Leading you down into my core where I've become so numb
Without a soul my spirit's sleeping somewhere cold
Until you find it there and lead it back home

(Wake me up)
Wake me up inside
(I can't wake up)
Wake me up inside
(Save me)
Call my name and save me from the dark
(Wake me up)
Bid my blood to run
(I can't wake up)
Before I come undone
(Save me)
Save me from the nothing I've become

Now that I know what I'm without
You can't just leave me
Breathe into me and make me real
Bring me to life

(Wake me up)
Wake me up inside
(I can't wake up)
Wake me up inside
(Save me)
Call my name and save me from the dark
(Wake me up)
Bid my blood to run
(I can't wake up)
Before I come undone
(Save me)
Save me from the nothing I've become

Bring me to life
(I've been living a lie, there's nothing inside)
Bring me to life

Frozen inside without your touch
Without your love, darling
Only you are the life among the dead

All this time I can't believe I couldn't see
Kept in the dark but you were there in front of me
I've been sleeping a thousand years it seems
Got to open my eyes to everything
Without a thought, without a voice, without a soul
Don't let me die here
There must be something more
Bring me to life

(Wake me up)
Wake me up inside
(I can't wake up)
Wake me up inside
(Save me)
Call my name and save me from the dark
(Wake me up)
Bid my blood to run
(I can't wake up)
Before I come undone
(Save me)
Save me from the nothing I've become

Bring me to life
(I've been living a lie, there's nothing inside)
Bring me to life

Play the song below.

Feeling Like 18 At 60!

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

On October 27th, of 2014, I turn 60. I am amazed. Not that I don't remember the passage of time, or all that I have experienced. It is an overwhelming sense of gratitude for the life I have, the work I do each day and the people I help.

I am happy, content, healthy, vibrant and feel like I am still eighteen inside. Only when I put my glasses on and stand in front of the mirror do I remember and see the aging process occurring. It is then that I wonder who it is that is looking back at me! I will not hide my wrinkles with surgery. Nor will I have a staple or band placed in my stomach. I treat my body as if it is my temple. I love and take care of it.

I know many others who like me, don't take Asprin, Advil or Aleve, not even when a headache occurs. We don't eat much sugar, wheat or processed foods. We rarely drink alcohol or do anything to our temple that would harm it. We love ourselves and are grateful for the lives we lead. The more gratitude we express, the better our life becomes. I recently was writing a thank you note to a couple who had been long-time clients. As I thought about this couple, my heart opened and expanded. At exactly this moment, my cell phone rang. It was a new client this same couple had referred to me because of the work I had done for them. How great is that? Expressing gratitude for the good in our lives is the very fuel which brings more of what we desire.

Living a life awakened is a beautiful thing. We are still growing, but the pain has diminished. The anguish that used to be so familiar is gone. The anxiety and depression, a distant memory that we only mention to those we know we can help. Even the trauma which caused our deep soul searching is something that we recognize as a gift. The lessons are the very thing that spurred us on to seek a better life. The wisdom gained along the path makes us feel very full and fertile, even though the thought of giving birth makes us roll on the floor in uproarious laughter. I remember when I was first going through menopause, feeling sad that I wouldn't be able to have another child. I love where I am. I love my empty nest. I would not change it for the world. Instead, I wait for grandchildren secretly, not wanting to pressure my adult children, the way I was. I want my children to live the lives they desire and love, rather than the one I want. I manage to keep my very opinionated mouth shut for once. I know they are each having their own personal life experience. I allow them to do so, mostly without my interference. I am afterall still a mother! I do have thoughts and feelings about what they do. I may voice them, but I don't try to shove my ideas or beliefs down their throats any more.

When we love ourselves through the aging process, we eat well, consuming organic vegetables and fruits daily, avoiding wheat, sugar and packaged foods. This way Diabetes, heart disease and obesity are diseases we side-step. Instead of aging quickly, we age slowly. Our thoughts also keep us looking youthful and vibrant. The more positive we are, the better our organs work. The slower we age. We think ourselves healthy, every day. Instead of looking 60, we look 40. The better care we take of ourselves, the more balanced we are. Living a life well beyond 100 is not only possible today, it is probable.

Retirement is not something we think about. When we do what we love, our work is our joy. Feeling passionate towards our vocation gives us a tremendous sense of fulfillment. We give back to the world and humanity through our writing, example and lives.

For me, it is my wicked sense of humor and ability to laugh at myself that gets me through any sticky situation. Just today, I checked. Backing out of a parking spot at Alfalfa's market, in Boulder, Colorado, I did not notice the car that appeared on my left, seemingly out of nowhere. Talking and driving maybe too much for me with my daughter and her boyfriend in my car, I was focused on our conversation. I live in the present. Rather than blame the woman for mysteriously appearing, I apologized profusely to her then laughed at myself for the near miss, I narrowly escaped. I am protected, guided and loved. I look forward to my next 60 years of giving, teaching and joy!

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Jennifer Elizabeth Masters is the author of en men and women with deeper understanding, wisdom and humor! This book will turn you on, create passion and help you create deeper intimate relationships.

She is a life, love and sex coach with a focus on sexual dysfunction. Whether you are non-orgasmic, have erectile dysfunction or HTP, this book is for anyone with an interest in becoming a better lover, partner or spouse. If you are considering divorce, buy this book. If your marriage seems dead, buy this book. If you are confused about sex or how to become orgasmic, buy Orgasm for Life. it is direct, to the point and funny! If you feel unhappy in your relationship, buy this book. Orgasm For Life is available on Amazon.com

Happy Birthday

Michael Whitenburgh

October 27, 2014 6:30 AM

Happy Birthday Jennifer, It's Your Day... Relax with your ‘feet-up’! .. Well done.

Oh!! Don't forget to keep inspiring us all being an ‘Outstanding Woman’. You really are so significant to so many - even people you don’t even know.

Thanks for being you and delighting us.

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The Dangerous Truth About Jealousy

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Jealousy is a relationship killer. It is a sign of insecurities, lack of trust rather than love. If you are dating someone with serious jealousy RUN, don't walk away. Jealousy can be a neurosis from severe inadequacy. It is NOT a sign of true love. 

From OJ Simpson, to Oscar Pistorius, unbridled jealousy can cause abuse, control and even death. When I was searching for photos to post within this article, I found hundreds of stories of murder, shootings, car accidents and battery due to jealousy. There is no doubt that jealousy is an unhealthy emotion. It is not a sign of how much you love another.

In the cases of unfounded jealous behavior, as with Oscar Pistorius, steroids and unhealthy emotions came into play. 

A little feeling of envy when you see someone get a promotion, or the coveted position you were vying for is one thing. Seeing another person who you view as better looking, more fit or has more than you feel you do, can also bring up feelings of jealousy. The thought, "What a bitch!" often comes up when we don't feel good about ourselves. 

The better our self esteem is, the less we covet what others have. Often what others have is not what we see on the outside. There is always more to the story.

When your partner looks at another with lust or desire, you can feel a twinge of control or jealousy surfacing. He might say things like, "She's not that attractive, or she's not as pretty as you." Comments like this divert their jealous partner's attention from the truth, that they were looking at another woman and think she is hot! 

Attractive women and men will get unsolicited attention from strangers just for being sexy. Expecting a person to turn off who they are is unreasonable. 

I remember being married to a man who was controlling, abusive and extremely jealous. I married this man even though he showed signs of jealous rage that were completely unfounded early in our relationship. I thought that over time, he would come to trust me. He never did. Instead, he became more controlling and jealous to the point of telling me what to wear and who to see. This is not healthy.   thought that his jealousy showed how deeply he cared for me. I was very insecure at the time, myself. The fact that he was showing jealousy buoyed my ego (my false self). It made me feel more attractive. His rage, gave me the sense that he cared and could take anyone out, if he needed to. In a twisted way, it made me feel safe. I have since learned to steer clear of those with control, anger issues or jealousy.

Signs Your Mate's Jealousy Is A Problem

1. They tell you how to dress.
2. They are controlling of who you see and where you go, where you work and even family. They may even call you to check up to see what you are doing when you go out with friends.
3. They may move you to a place where you have no friends or family and refuse to allow family to visit.
4. They may control what you say and how you act.
5. They may tell you to stop sending out a sexual vibe.
6. They may want you to stop being who you truly are.
7. They will bring up the past repeatedly, not letting go.
8. Can be irrationally concerned for your well-being.
9. You may be afraid to leave them for fear they might hurt you and/or themselves.
10. They feel inadequate around others.
11. You may have to bolster their self esteem to help them feel better.
12. You may feel like you are walking on egg shells.

Feeling spite towards someone who appears to have more, or looks better is unhealthy. It is a sign of low self esteem. The way to overcome unhealthy emotions is to work on your self esteem. Accepting who you are, the way you are is the first step. 

Women Jealous Of Other Women

Just this morning I visited a local Boulder, Colorado coffee shop for some Bhakti Chai. My daughter, her boyfriend and I walked in and stood in line behind two lean, attractive, Daisy Dukes (short-shorts) clad, college students. They both turned and scowled at my daughter. She had done absolutely nothing to either of them. I watched as they continued to turn around and sneer in my daughter's direction. When women with low self esteem see other attractive women, that they feel are thinner, more attractive, bustier or sexier, they feel insecure about themselves turning into woman hating bitches; sneering and sending negative energy towards innocent bystanders. All you have to do is be you, and you can get shot dirty looks, scowles, sneers and bitchy comments. Insecure women seem to hate other women. With women who are self assured, confident and love themselves, this rarely occurs.

My dear friend Diana Davis was a beautiful woman. She had a knack for attracting men. Before I became enlightened and was still working on loving myself, I brought a very attractive man with me to Diana's for a visit. Greg seemed instantly attracted to Diana. I was jealous of her easy way with men, that I lacked. I was also jealous of her voluptuous body. They were joking back and forth in a way that we did not. I felt less than her. This jealousy almost ruined our relationship. Diana never intended to take my guy away. She was flirtatious with him, but my imagination and insecurities blew everything out of proportion. I was sure she was sleeping with him. She assured me she was not interested in anything more than friendship with Greg. Diana is no longer on the planet, she passed away in 2012, from experimental chemotherapy for breast cancer. Knowing there would not be repercussions from my discussion, I talked to Greg, who remains a friend to this day. We had a very meaningful conversation about our families and the past. I asked him if he ever was intimate with Diana. He told me he never was. He was surprised at my question. Years after my awakening, I look back and see the way I used to be when I was so codependent. My insecurity got in the way of healthy loving relationships.

Jennifer is the real deal. She is the author of two books, Orgasm For Life, being her most recent release. She awakened in 2012 and is completely self actualized. She is empathic, intuitive and a catalyst. What this means to you is that Jennifer will get you. She will understand you like no one else will. She has the ability to cut to the root of your issues quickly and effectively. Although Jennifer is compassionate and kind, she is honest, direct and doesn't sugar coat the truth. She has been where you are. Her wisdom, guidance and gifts are natural from connecting with Source energy. Just speaking to her via phone or Skype will shift you. Whether it is private coaching, an energy clearing you need, a hypnotherapy session or Neurolinguistic Programming, Jennifer is professional, loving, and authentic. To book your private series of sessions or healing appointment, her e-mail is JenniferElizabethMasters@gmail.com

Your Emotions and The Partial Solar Eclipse

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

The sun, moon, stars and planets all have an impact on us, even if we don't believe in astrology. Tomorrow, October 23rd, we have a multitude of planetary influences that could impact emotions, relationships and our world. For many, the day could turn out to be very intense emotionally. 

Within a 10 hour period we will be impacted by three major planetary events that could potentially create upheaval in our lives. Being prepared and aware all day Thursday, could prevent you from saying the wrong thing to someone or many.

According to my astrologer friend, Cheney Hall, the sun enters Scorpio at 7:57 AM EST. Venus enters Scorpio at 4:45 PM EDT. At 5:57 EDT a new moon will be seen on the horizon at 0 degrees 25 minutes of Scorpio, with the added influence of a Partial Solar Eclipse. On top of all this sexy Scorpio energy, we are still feeling the effects of the Mercury Retrograde also in Scorpio.

Scorpio is a water sign. Water relates to emotions. Those like me, born under the influence of fiery and intense Scorpio, will feel the effects of the planetary energies present all day. Whether you are a water sign or not, Thursday promises to be an intense day all around. Pisces, Cancer and Scorpio are all water signs. You can also have an Ascendant in your chart that is a water sign, while being born under air, fire or earth signs. Even those born under other signs can be impacted as our bodies are comprised predominately of water.

The energy of Scorpio makes us dig down deep inside, confronting issues at our very core. This energy makes us face our inner personal truths and fears. Standing strong and facing these issues, rather than turning away and hiding our heads in the sand will allow us to let go of those old patterns that we have lived with for decades. These old patterns impede our ability to receive love, trust and thrive. It is time to face these inner-most fears and out-moded beliefs that keep us in the past. Now is the time to raise our vibrations, seek enlightenment (if you have not already achieved it), greater diversity and spiritual growth. The Universe is clearly showing us that it is time! Heave ho! with these old patterns. Dump the dark and dreary and more into the light. Have we learned our lessons? Are we ready to move onward and upward? Or do we stay mired in the muck and stench of the old emotional patterns?

Ready to move beyond denial? Today is the day to truly shed the weight of the past and lighten your emotional burden.

3 Ways To Move Beyond Old Patterns

1. Look at the issues you keep repeating. Be honest with yourself. Write down your repeating negative patterns. 
2. Make an INTENSE prayer and ask for help to remove these patterns. Being helpless and asking for help does more good than thinking you can do it all on your own. Get an energy clearing, or NLP session from me (NLP and energy clearings can give you a leg-up, or jump start you on your way to a new life.
3. Focus on what you want. Your mind is powerful. Whatever you focus on is what you will bring to you. You are a powerful magnet.  Use a mantra like the ones below. A mantra is a repetitive phrase that accesses your unconscious mind. Mantras work best when your mind is in neutral (like when you are driving, stirring, peeling vegetables, painting, cleaning, putting on make-up.... doing repetitive activities). Mantras can help alleviate anxiety. 

PICK A MANTRA

• I AM LOVE
• I LOVE ME!
• I AM WHOLE COMPLETE, STRONG, POWERFUL, LOVING, HARMONIOUS AND LOVING
• I AM SAFE, 
• I AM WEALTHY, PROSPEROUS AND LOVING.
• I HAVE PLENTY OF MONEY!
• I AM PERFECT AS I AM.
• GOOD THINGS ARE HAPPENING IN MY LIFE RIGHT NOW!
• ALL GOOD COMES TO ME EFFORTLESSLY AND EASILY!
• I AM EASILY AND EFFORTLESSLY ____________.
• I AM GRATEFUL FOR MY LIFE.

Jennifer Elizabeth Masters is the author of the funny, and insightful book, Orgasm For Life. Orgasm For Life will change the way you look at relationships AND SEX! If you haven't purchased your copy, you need to. It is a guide, with instructions, for oral, fantasy, erotica, role playing, giving you great innovative ideas for creating more passion and igniting the fire in you love life. It will help you think of your partner more lovingly and with more compassion. 

Written from personal experience, Jennifer shares her personal insight over 40 years of experimentation, living, loving and divorce to help you overcome stagnation, resentment, low sex drive and boring cursory sex. If Orgasm For Life does not turn you on, it is time for an EKG!

Jennifer's e-mail is JenniferElizabethMasters@gmail.com

Her website is: http://www.JenniferElizabethMasters.com

Understanding Why A Woman Says No!

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

I am a guest author on Digital Romance. This is a great site with answers to your burning questions about dating and sex. I would love to hear back from you about what you want to hear about from me. 

If you have not bought my new book, it will light your passion and bedroom on fire, give you ideas, turn you on, give you instructions on oral, anal and answer most any question you have about sex. It is a guide for sex, love and relationships. It is THE SEX BIBLE FOR THE NEW AGE! Buy it NOW on Amazon! 

http://digitalromanceinc.com/mens/why-women-say-no/

I'd Love You, If You Were Different

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

How often do we hear or think, "If only you were different, I could really love you?" Maybe you have children and your new partner does not want them. Perhaps you don't look the way your partner perceives their ideal mate should look. Or maybe it is something else.

It seems that most men have anger issues that they have not deal with. Some are controlling, or even jealous. Perhaps they put you down, or have addictions. What about the sneaking feeling that he is not telling the complete truth?

Women can be controlling, bitchy and outright confusing. Both sexes have our own share of issues. We are humans, and we are all works in progress. When we look at someone and point out their issues in our minds, what we are also doing is focusing on them instead of us. When we don't have addictions, anger issues and control issues, we will attract someone who also has healed their issues as well. As long as we have work to do on ourselves, we will continue to attract partners who will illustrate to us what work we do have to do. For example, if you have been co-dependent, you may continue to attract people who are alcoholics or addicts. Until we really are free of our co-dependence, our vibration continually attracts those who will help us heal OUR ISSUES. Loving ourselves unconditionally through the process is what we need to do. 

It is so much easier to look at someone else and say, "They are emotionally unavailable." If you have attracted someone who is not available emotionally then neither are you. It's okay. Not all issues have an equal match that is immediately evident. Sometimes women have a fear of anger, then attract a man who rages and/or yells. We need to overcome our fears. Self advocating, rather than shrinking away is what is needed. Stepping forward and addressing what is bothering us is key. Often we keep quiet for fear of retaliation. When we don't speak up about what is upsetting us, the issue will continue. When we don't have the issue, we will no longer attract this kind of partner.

What We Are Saying To Ourselves

When we look at another person and point a finger, we are focusing outside of ourselves, when the focus needs to be on ourselves. What is the source of this attraction? Do I have a similar match? Looking at your partner and saying, "You are the one with the problem!" is acting in denial. 

Side-Stepping A Problem

When we begin to recognize that we are the one with the insecurity, or the fear that needs healing, we need help. It is difficult to clear anxiety on your own. I did it, but it took me almost 30 years to do it on my own. One of the biggest issues that both men and women

have is not addressing a problem when it arises. We tend to keep quiet so that we don't rock the boat. If your boat is unstable, I have news for you: it is already rocking! Speak up. Talk about the issues AS THEY COME UP. Don't keep setting problems aside, as they will build a mountain of resentment that will be difficult to overcome. Ask questions. Don't be afraid. 

How To Speak Up Without Blame

1. Use "I" statements. For example, "When you call me a piece of do-do, I FEEL bad. I would prefer it if you treated me with respect, caring and love."
2. If someone does not accept you the way you are, tell them so. "It feels to me that you want me to change. Unconditional love, accepts me as I am. Do you not love me as I am?" No one is perfect, not even your partner. Acceptance is key. If they don't accept you, move on. 
3. If your partner is not accepting you now, they never will. Non-acceptance speaks volumes about the person that you are with. Wouldn't you rather be with someone who does accept you? Ask yourself this question, "Do I accept myself, the way I am?"

Jennifer Elizabeth Masters is the author of Orgasm For Life. This fabulous high energy book will help you look at yourself AND your partner compassionately. It will help you bring back

the passion, create new ways of making love and help you understand what you both need. Jennifer works privately with people committed to heal, grow and evolve. If you have anxiety, depression, addictions, or are unhappy with your life, you have come to the right place. Jennifer has been where you are. She suffered from co-dependence, depression, anxiety, health issues and insomnia for over 30 years. She worked diligently on herself, developing in the process a plan that works. Healing and change does not happen over night. Jennifer is a cheerleader, guide, and Intuitive catalyst. Her work is transformative. If you have not done it on your own, call Jennifer now. She is available for a one-time session to see if her work is a good fit for you. (770) 480-5500. 

If you would prefer, send her an e-mail now: JenniferElizabethMasters@gmail.com   Or visit her website: http://www.JenniferElizabethMasters.com

3 Powerful Reasons To Shake Your Booty For Health

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

If I had not experienced the powerful benefits of shaking it, I would not have believed it! Writing, teaching and coaching women and men about sex, I consider myself quite open-minded. However, the twerking, shaking and focus on women's butts left me cold, until two weeks ago. Remember the old phrase "Try it, you'll like it?" It is true. As humans, we often judge others before we reach understanding. When we sit in judgment, we can't see what is before us. We simply close our minds and hearts. I propose that you open your mind, and your heart and try it for yourself.

Why Zumba?

Zumba is a worldwide branded fitness trend consisting of Latin-inspired music, hip hop with exercise and choreography. Alberto Perez, better known as "Beto" is the founder of Zumba, hailing from Miami and begun in 2002. The choreography draws from cumbia, salsa, merengue, bachata and reggae, fusing them together with cardio aerobics. 

The hip and booty shaking awakens the kundalini and sexual centers for both men AND women. Predominantly attended by women, not only does it help you become more fit, increase cardio-vascular health, lose weight and lose inches it also can awaken the sleepwalking women who have not had sex in years.

Uptight and Self Conscious?

I was raised in a very stiff upper lipped family. My father's parents were British. My mother was raised by her grandmother right off the boat from The Ukraine. We didn't shake anything in my household and certainly didn't watch or talk about anyone who did. In fact, when Elvis was on television, we didn't watch him, because my mother found him vulgar. 

I was not allowed to wear short skirts at home, and certainly was not allowed to reveal cleavage, nor did my mother. These old ingrained patterns can be hard to break. If you want to live a long healthy life and have fun doing it, loosening up is definitely to our advantage. Breaking free of patterns and social regulations can be immensely freeing. Letting go of what others think of us, is key to enjoying an abundant, wealthy, happy and fulfilling life.

1.Benefit: Smiling From Ear To Ear. JOY!

Once you let go of trying to be perfect on the dance floor, you relax and fall into step, maybe not always on the same foot as the instructor, but in time to the music. After getting your feet in step your confidence is raised your arms begin to work better when your feet know what they are doing. The next step is falling into joy. Pure unadulterated joy. The last class I did I smiled from beginning to end. 

2. You Become Healthier

The women I interviewed that have been doing Zumba told me that Zumba classes did the following:

• Helped one woman heal from back surgery
• Helped one woman tone her body and lose 30 inches all over (she is 49) in one year
• Helped countless women get and stay fit because it is so much fun, it keeps them coming back for more
• Helped one young woman heal depression
• Freed one woman to become multi-orgasmic
• Brought joy to thousands who previously were depressed
• Awakened the sexual center in all ages of women

3. Shaking Your Booty Awakens Your Sexual Center

No matter how long it has been since you have had sex, the moves in Zumba get your pelvic region moving. When your pelvis moves, so does your sexual energy. Sexual energy and emotions can become stuck. When sexual energy gets stuck, you can become bitchy, closed-minded and controlling. Sound like anyone you know? Moving the pelvis has the added benefit of opening up your sacral chakra as well as your root chakra, which allows your creativity to flow as well as sexuality. The root chakra is located in the perineum (between the anus and vagina in women, and anus and base of the scrotum in men).

There is an added bonus of awakening and opening your sexual energy center: you become more confident and step into the being that you truly are. Women often feel more Goddess energy once they begin moving their sexual energy fully. Orgasms can be easier to achieve, or more powerful. 

Why Do You Want Your Sexual Energy Awakened?

Having blocked energy is not good for anyone. When there is a blockage, illness can occur. When you have blocked sexual energy you can also have issues with finances and security. Living a balanced life involves having our sexual center opened. Zumba is a fun way to open your sexual center and empower your Goddess self. 

My Zumba Teacher - Lucy Harris

I love my Zumba instructor. She is fit, sexy, fun and energetic. Moreover she has got some moves on her that would make 

Beyoncé jealous. Lucy who began dancing at age 4, took 4 - 6 classes a week till her later high school years. She then gave dance a break and played basketball. Lucy's mother, Kathy Hart supported her then by paying for and taking Lucy to all  her dance classes.

She continues to attend her classes, often taking over for Lucy, and well able to hold her own in moves and endurance. Kathy is fit and youthful. Clearly Zumba has kept her body in great shape. I have yet to see anyone who regularly attends Zumba classes look dour or miserable. Zumba brings back the HAPPY! When we are happy we thrive. Everyone I have talked to about their experience with Zumba has said that feeling happier is the number one benefit.

Jennifer Elizabeth Masters is the author of Orgasm For Life, The Sex Bible for the New Age. She is an empowerment coach for women. Her website is JenniferElizabethMasters.com

Ways To Use Mercury Retrograde To Your Advantage

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Whether you study astrology or not, at one time or another the effects of the full moon, sun and the stars have been felt by each of us. The planets exert a unique influence on us in the way we think, feel and communicate. Major changes in our planetary system also are felt by us. 

Just for kicks and giggles, keep notes on all the missed calls, communication break-downs, break-ups, broken contracts, travel issues, lost luggage, computer, cell phone issues during the next three weeks. 

What Does The Planet Mercury Do?

Mercury rules commerce, communication, intelligence, mind, memory, talking, texting, travel, communication devices such as cell phones, texting, computers, Internet.  Arguments and misunderstandings can occur during a Mercury Retrograde more than any other time of the year.

Although I am not an astrologer, I have followed the effects of the planets all the way from my birth to now. Mercury Retrograde is one event which happens three times each year, creating chaos, broken contracts, delayed and cancelled flights. I have even seen haircuts done during the retrograde cause great distress. It is not a time to begin anything new, sign on the dotted line, purchase a cell phone, computer or anything to do with communication. Verbal and texted communication could even be wrought with misunderstandings. 

Looking For Love?

Just prior to the last retrograde period I helped a woman manifest her soul mate. She met him during Mercury Retrograde. She was sure he was the ONE! As soon as the retrograde period ended, so did her feelings for this man, as she recognized his emotional unavailability and inability to commit. A Mercury Retrograde is NOT, I repeat NOT THE TIME to find a mate. By the end of the retrograde situations and character will come to light that will change your mind or their's.

Read on and find out what benefits a Mercury Retrograde brings.

My Personal Experience 

Over the years I have experienced many retrograde periods. At first, I did not take my astrologer, Sherry Henderson, of Oracle 20-20 fame seriously. Eventually, I saw how writing any kind of contract, travel, marriages, meetings, haircuts, business deals could turn sour during retrograde periods. 

Hairy Trip To India Affected By A Retrograde

I traveled to India for the first time, during a Mercury Retrograde. My first flight to Chicago to connect with my flight to India was cancelled. I had to run through the Atlanta airport to hop on a very full flight. I got the LAST seat on the plane. Had I not run, I would not have gotten to India. My luggage was lost on the same trip. I arrived in India, a foreign land without underwear, makeup, a change of clothes or any of my personal belongings. 

House Sales Affected By Mercury Retrograde

My ex-husband Rich Resuta was a home-builder. During our marriage I witnessed contract after contract signed during a Mercury Retrograde fall apart, turn sour or drag on and on without closing. Over the 12 years we were together, I witnessed this over 30 times. Sometimes, you have to do what you have to do, sign on the dotted line and hope for the best. Yet, each and every contract signed during a retrograde period created havoc, distress, loss and major issues. You can learn the hard way, or take my advice and read carefully. Even a marriage or engagement during a Mercury Retrograde could have devastating results. 

My weekly newsletter went out to my clients yesterday. I mentioned the coming retrograde over a week ago. Several people have already reported two house sales, missed flights and delays in contract signing. 

The Shadow Point

In my own life, I will not begin a new radio show, a webinar, a book signing or anything else during this time. Even the shadow point which occurs 7 days prior to the beginning of this retrograde, which is October 4th, can be felt up to two weeks or even more before the retrograde begins. There is also a shadow point at the end of the retrograde of 7 days.

What is A Retrograde?

A retrograde is a period of time during which a planet can appear to be turning backwards. A retrograde can be three weeks, 3 months or even 10 years or more in someone's chart. During this time, all the benefits that a planet provides are taken away. If a planet rules communication, like Mercury does, all things relating to communication, contracts of any kind, including marriages, travel, communication devices, like computers, cell phones planes, trains, automobiles are affected - negatively. 

Why Should I Care?

Life can be challenging. Astrology can help you navigate your life effortlessly and help you avoid beginning businesses, relationships, contracts, travel, moves, starting a new job, dating, marrying etc. during difficult periods. My middle son, David married during a Venus (the planet of love) Retrograde - which means there was no love on the day they married. Their marriage ended with his wife being unfaithful within 3 years of their wedding. They were very much in love when they got married. David wedded the love of his life.

Venus Retrograde

I was born during a Venus AND Mercury Retrograde. I have spent almost my entire year working through issues of love and communication challenges. Now I teach love, self love and self esteem, because I learned - finally how to love myself. Did my birth time and date influence my life? You betcha! Many people are born with great challenges astrologically, while others have few. 

Who Uses Astrology?

The Mayans, Aztecs, Egyptians, Celtics, Druids, movie stars, presidents and royalty have used professional astrologists and have done for thousands of years to predict the best outcome of a given situation. The best date to build the pyramids, inaugurations, weddings, and meetings were among some of the reasons astrologists were hired. Nancy Reagan and Ronald used an astrologer for the entire term of President Reagan's presidency.

Your Chart and Personal Destiny

I recommend getting your chart done by a professional. One such person I recommend is Cheney Hall. Cheney was trained by Lynn Hammond Gray. She is known as one of the all time greats in Astrology. Over the years I have had charts done by 6 different astrologers. You need to have a consult with him to get all the high points and low points explained, unless you can read an astrological chart. I can say without a doubt that Cheney's were the best and most detailed.

Cheney Hall - Professional Astrologer 

Cheney and I have been friends for several years and met when I lived in Atlanta, Georgia. He did a full set of charts for me, with transits (how the planets move through your chart) and a consultation.  Cheney's delivery was the most comprehensive I have ever had. In the full consultation, you get the long explanation of what the planets were doing and how they would affect all aspects of your life, love, success, wealth. He does charts for people with great detail and explanations. Don't try to cut corners and omit the explanation - you need it, unless you are an Astrologer. He is excellent.  I highly recommend him. You can read his blog here: www.CHIRON2000.blogspot.com

Cheney always over delivers and is very insightful with his recommendations. He was the one I consulted before moving to California. Cheney Hall's information proved invaluable to me. He said I would be more financially stable and make more money in California. He was correct. He can do charts to detail moves, suggested places to move to (Cartology), as well as progressed charts. Don't quote me on all this, as I am not an astrologer. He will be able to tell you what works best for your situation. You can e-mail Cheney here to set up your appointment, or ask him questions about pricing etc. Here is Cheney's e-mail for contact. Tell him his cooky friend Jennifer sent you.

CHIRON200@aol.com

What To Do During A Mercury Retrograde

1. Re-write your book.
2. Re-organize your closet, home, car, business.
3. Re-think anything.
4. Re-work a project.
5. Re-do your taxes.
6. Re-group
7. Re-think anything.
8. Re-view your life, your relationship, your business successes.
9. Re-new your fruit trees with pruning. 
10. Re-visit family and friends. 

Ways To Navigate The Retrograde Period

1. Make sure your communications are clear to avoid conflict.
2. Use care while driving. Accidents happen more frequently during Mercury Retrograde because people are not thinking or in a hurry. 
3. Avoid Arguments and fighting.
4. Delay the purchase of boats, bikes, cars, trucks, or airplanes.
5. Do not purchase a cell phone or computer.
6. Do not take communications devices in for work.
7. Delay taking your car in to the mechanic.
8. Wait to begin a new project.
9. Delay signing up for a dating site, or meeting a new person.
10. Avoid travel if you can. Flights can be cancelled, or missed, and luggage can be lost.

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Jennifer is an author of Orgasm For Life, she is a life, love and relationship coach. She helps you find the love inside of you, to live a fulfilled, happy and wealthy life on all levels. She has helped countless people find love through her coaching. 

Self love is the foundation for a happy life. Anxiety, depression, confusion, chaos, drama, low self esteem, illness are all things she healed in her own life when she began to love herself completely. Jennifer walks the walk and talks the talk. She lives the life that she helps you open to. Jennifer is unique in many ways. She became enlightened in 2012. She reads the Akashic Records, is an Intuitive, Mystic and is a certified hypnotherapist with The National Guild of Hypnotists, A certified life coach with and is a Master Energy Healer. She sees and senses energy. She has healed her own fears, anxiety, worry and negativity. She is a master at knowing what works best for you, personally. She tailors her work for each client individually. Her website is: JenniferElizabethMasters.com

Joyful Eating, Loving and Weight Loss

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

I am a sensual being. I love soft fabrics, beautiful colors, landscapes and I love food! When my family is home, I love to cook for them. This past week my daughter came home for a quick 5-day visit between college terms. I was delighted to have her visit. A week prior to her visit I began to drink a green drink that my son recommended on his blog: Naked Healthy. This drink recipe is listed below. While my daughter was here I ate pasta (which I have not eaten in over a year), a cheeseburger, Tiramisu, my favorite dessert, a bag of chocolates and Crème brûlée. We ate other things as well.  The gist of our visit was

road trips and eating. Food was a large part of what we enjoyed together.

My daughter, dogs and I took road trips to Ojai, Tehachapi and Malibu Beach. Each of these trips involved food and lots of it. The most amazing thing that happened is that today when I got on the scale at the gym (after missing 9 days of workouts) is that I lost 5 pounds! How could I eat to my heart's content, yet lose weight? This question will be answered below.

My daughter Ariel, is in culinary school studying to be a pastry chef. She loves food as much as I do. The entire five days of our visit we just loved each other. We did not argue. We did not even have a heated discussion. We enjoyed each other's presence. Joy and love was what caused me to burn off whatever we ate. Being happy and joyful is a high vibration. I had to share this experience with you to illustrate that the vibration of love and joy is life enhancing. You burn more calories when you are filled with love and joy. 

Living a life of fulfillment allows you to exude a high level of vibration. We tapped into a state of FLOW and vibrant health, by being in a state of LOVE and JOY for 5 solid days!

Here is the recipe for the green drink that I began to drink two weeks ago. Since that time, I have dropped 10 pounds! The most important ingredient besides the greens is the Chia seeds. Chia delivers a one-two punch with massive amounts of nutrients and few calories. You can drink this as a meal replacement. One 15 gram scoop of Chia contains: 3 grams of protein and 6 grams of fiber, 0 trans fat, 0 saturated fat, 4g polyunsaturated fat, 0 cholesterol, 0 sodium, 90 g potassium, 6 g carbohydrate, with no sugar. Chia seeds are high in Omega 3's and 6's, manganese, phosphorus and protein. Chia helps with diabetes, improves heart health and lowers blood sugar. Chia helps you feel full and clear the arteries of plaque. You will find your memory improves and your mind becomes more clear.

Salvia hispanica, the botanical name for CHIA, a member of the mint family. Around 2600 BC, Chia was their most important crop. It was used by the Aztecs and Mayans. The word CHIA, in Mayan means strength. They offered it to their Gods, used it in rituals and ceremonies. It was ground it into flour, used it in drinks and cooked with it. Aztecs warriors used Chia seeds to boost their energy and increase stamina, causing it to be referred to as "Aztec Running Food." Native American Indians also used Chia seeds as a part of their diet. Athletes today, especially distance runners use Chia to enhance their endurance with this super-food. 

1 scoop of Chia seeds soaked in 1.5 cups of pure water

1 stalk of celery chopped

1/2 an apple sliced

2 - 3 Kale leaves chopped

Handful of fresh spinach leaves

1/2 lemon without rind

Pinch of Himalayan salt or 1/2 tsp Honey 

Pulse in blender till smooth. Add more water if the consistency is too thick. Drink immediately.

I prefer a salty green drink - but everyone is different. Use honey if you prefer a sweet drink.

Yoda greeting Ariel at the airport

Jennifer's website is: JenniferElizabethMasters.com She is a catlytic life, love and empowerment coach for women. She is the author or Orgasm For Life, the Sex Bible For The New Age. You can e-mail Jennifer if you have questions about her blog, or coaching  JenniferElizabethMasters@gmail.com