How To Let Go Of Shame with Sex

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Shame is one of the lowest vibrating emotions there is. David R. Hawkins author of Power vs Force calibrated each of the emotions using a scale. He found shame to be below anger, desire, fear and even grief. If you have ever felt shame, you know how debilitating it can be. If you have been molested, raped, gotten pregnant when you were not married, shame is something you are very familiar with. Shame is something that children feel when parents or teachers humiliate them. What if you felt shame each time you had sex? I recently worked with a client who came to me to help her heal her addiction to relationships - codependency. 

When I asked Cassie (name changed to protect her identity) what her intention was for her healing work she said, that's easy. "I want to heal my shame during sex, so that I feel comfortable in my own skin." Every time she had sex, she felt ashamed. She never could really let go and enjoy the experience, even though she was a mature woman. It was not a matter of her having to answer to anyone about her activity. This shame was felt internally, because of her past. 

By our third session, I knew I needed to clear patterns from the past. I performed a past life energy clearing. I felt intuitively that Cassie had 5 religious lifetimes where she had taken a vow of celibacy. I cleared each of these lifetimes separately. I did further research and found that Cassie had been a priest, a Jesuit priest and a nun three

times. The last lifetime, I found she had also been a Mother Superior. She had been married to the church. These vows were so deeply ingrained within her that she could not have sex now without feeling it was very wrong. I cleared the vow having her repeat a clearing statement. 

After the past life work, I heard intuitively that I needed to clear the trapped emotions. Following are the emotions related to this one emotion that was trapped underneath the feeling of shame:

Pride

Shame

Disgust

Jealousy

Self Hatred of sexual self

Abandonment

Rejection of self pleasure

Shame regarding pleasure

Low self esteem

Unworthy

Worthless

Discouragement

Failure to receive love

Cassie's happy place

After the release work, I set an anchor using Neuro Linguistic Programming. This anchor put Cassie in her happy place where she felt completely calm, secure, happy, confident and safe. Then I slowly reduced the sense of trauma and shame during sex. We had to do this process twice to be sure it was complete.  I asked Cassie what her take-away was at the end of session three this is what she said; "I am amazed that there were so many emotions stuck under these feelings of shame."

This past week we met for her fourth session. I had no idea what to expect. As usual, at the beginning of our session, I asked her how she was doing? She said, "Shifting." I asked her, "What do you mean, can you explain?" She said, "Well I have no more feelings of shame - at all! I feel completely comfortable with my sexuality!" I congratulated her on her deep letting go of the past. This was indeed amazing. I was thrilled for her. 

I am constantly amazed at the power of energy healing work. I have done traditional therapy myself with a psychiatrist, several times with psychologists and marriage counselors. In marriage counseling I found that if we went into counseling our marriage was over. I have never known any couple to really get help from marriage counseling. The therapists seemed to pit one against the other. It seemed to me that someone was often made to be the bad guy/gal. I did not move forward to a place of healing or well-being with any of these traditional therapies. Nothing really changed. I felt stuck in my story. 

Energy work on the other hand moves you out of the story and eliminates the patterns, belief systems and stuck emotions. How great is that! In only three weeks! I am grateful to Cassie for allowing me to share her amazing story. I am also grateful to The Divine, the angels and all the beings of light that assist me when I do this work. I do not do it alone. I always have assistance. 

Shifting into sex and passion was a natural transition for me; someone who loves sex and who has healed addictions and codependency. In my book, Orgasm For Life I share what I

learned on my journey from sexual dysfunction to wholeness. I hope you'll read my books and discover your inner soul's purpose on your road to healing. And connect with me for deeper work, if you feel called.

Jennifer Elizabeth Masters now empowers women and men through her love and passion coaching. Using six modalities, the experience is different for every person. A lack of Self love is the source of all addictions.

Loving the self is the greatest gift you can give yourself and the world. You can e-mail Jennifer here for your personal 30 minute FREE discovery session to find out if her work is a good fit for you. 

Sex is Meditation

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Sexual energy is the primal force of the universe. It is creative. It is sacred. Animals have sex to procreate. For humans, sex is creative at all levels, mind, body and spirit. It is a way to unify two physical beings as ONE. There is no other activity that ignites and electrifies the brain in so many centers. Like fireworks in the night sky, the point of orgasm is one that brings us closest to our Source. It is also a way to raise our vibration. It is more sacred than a prayer. 

When we feel arousal, attraction, excited, enthusiastic, sexual energy is at work. When two people come together during sex, there is a union of flesh and spirit. Sex is a sacred creative act of meditation.

Many people say they cannot meditate. If you have had sex, you have meditated. The next time you engage in sexual activity, notice how you are completely in the moment. Focused on the energy and excitement of what you are feeling. All your senses are engaged. You are smelling, feeling, touching, hearing your partner's breath, feeling their heart beat beneath you. Your cells are ignited. Pain is suppressed and at the time of orgasm you are completely in the moment experiencing, engaged, enthralled, ecstatic energy flowing through your veins, igniting your cells down to your very atoms. Your kundalini energy rises from your root chakra (perineum) that rises through your central channel (spinal column) pumping up into your amazing brain, culminating in wave after wave of ecstasy in the frontal cortex of your brain, where you experience God.

Now you can say you do meditate!

Letting Go

1. To have the best experience during sex, let go of all expectations.
2. Stop thinking and wondering how well you are performing. Thinking rather than feeling is a sign you are in resistance. Resistance will block you from experiencing complete bliss and ecstasy.
3. When we resist or hold onto expectations we are in our ego. Our ego is our small self, not our Divine Self. 
4. Controlling another is ego driven. We cannot control another, and why would we want to, control is an element of fear. You fear loss, so you control another. You dominate because you want to control. You are in fear. Let go of fear.
5. Sexual energy is Divine. It is sacred. There is nothing dirty, bad or wrong about sex. It was created by Source energy itself. It is not meant to be suppressed, stuffed or blocked. When you live a celibate life you are not living fully.
6. Sex is playful, fun and joyful. It contains an energy that you cannot experience anywhere else. When you tap into the joy of experiencing sex, you reach a different kind of high, one that will sustain you, maybe even keep you awake into the wee hours of the morning. Such joy is bliss. 

Self Pleasure Is Safe Sex

There is nothing wrong with masturbation. Many women have never masturbated. They can't tell their partners what feels good to them, because they don't know. In many cultures and religions control has been placed on humans by making masturbation a sin. If we weren't meant to masturbate, our hands would not reach our genitals. 

Sending you my love now and always,

Jennifer

Jennifer Elizabeth Masters is a love and passion coach. She empowers women to have and live a life of passion, joy and inner peace. She is certified in 5 different modalities which she uses in her coaching practice. She became enlightened in 2012, which means she is not coming from ego, but her Divinely connected heart and Divine guidance in all that she does, and the way that she lives. Her book Orgasm For Life is available on Amazon. Orgasm for Life is a book which will guide you to real bliss, deeper intimacy and healed relationships. It is available on Amazon.com

Her coaching is like no other. She has been where you are and

has healed her body, mind and spirit. Her experiences are vast, which she brings to the coaching experience She is compassionate, loving, authentic. You can e-mail her to set up your loving discovery session to see if her work is a good fit for you. She works with those committed to heal the past to live a life of joy, passion and unconditional love in all areas.

3 Powerful Reasons To Shake Your Booty For Health

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

If I had not experienced the powerful benefits of shaking it, I would not have believed it! Writing, teaching and coaching women and men about sex, I consider myself quite open-minded. However, the twerking, shaking and focus on women's butts left me cold, until two weeks ago. Remember the old phrase "Try it, you'll like it?" It is true. As humans, we often judge others before we reach understanding. When we sit in judgment, we can't see what is before us. We simply close our minds and hearts. I propose that you open your mind, and your heart and try it for yourself.

Why Zumba?

Zumba is a worldwide branded fitness trend consisting of Latin-inspired music, hip hop with exercise and choreography. Alberto Perez, better known as "Beto" is the founder of Zumba, hailing from Miami and begun in 2002. The choreography draws from cumbia, salsa, merengue, bachata and reggae, fusing them together with cardio aerobics. 

The hip and booty shaking awakens the kundalini and sexual centers for both men AND women. Predominantly attended by women, not only does it help you become more fit, increase cardio-vascular health, lose weight and lose inches it also can awaken the sleepwalking women who have not had sex in years.

Uptight and Self Conscious?

I was raised in a very stiff upper lipped family. My father's parents were British. My mother was raised by her grandmother right off the boat from The Ukraine. We didn't shake anything in my household and certainly didn't watch or talk about anyone who did. In fact, when Elvis was on television, we didn't watch him, because my mother found him vulgar. 

I was not allowed to wear short skirts at home, and certainly was not allowed to reveal cleavage, nor did my mother. These old ingrained patterns can be hard to break. If you want to live a long healthy life and have fun doing it, loosening up is definitely to our advantage. Breaking free of patterns and social regulations can be immensely freeing. Letting go of what others think of us, is key to enjoying an abundant, wealthy, happy and fulfilling life.

1.Benefit: Smiling From Ear To Ear. JOY!

Once you let go of trying to be perfect on the dance floor, you relax and fall into step, maybe not always on the same foot as the instructor, but in time to the music. After getting your feet in step your confidence is raised your arms begin to work better when your feet know what they are doing. The next step is falling into joy. Pure unadulterated joy. The last class I did I smiled from beginning to end. 

2. You Become Healthier

The women I interviewed that have been doing Zumba told me that Zumba classes did the following:

• Helped one woman heal from back surgery
• Helped one woman tone her body and lose 30 inches all over (she is 49) in one year
• Helped countless women get and stay fit because it is so much fun, it keeps them coming back for more
• Helped one young woman heal depression
• Freed one woman to become multi-orgasmic
• Brought joy to thousands who previously were depressed
• Awakened the sexual center in all ages of women

3. Shaking Your Booty Awakens Your Sexual Center

No matter how long it has been since you have had sex, the moves in Zumba get your pelvic region moving. When your pelvis moves, so does your sexual energy. Sexual energy and emotions can become stuck. When sexual energy gets stuck, you can become bitchy, closed-minded and controlling. Sound like anyone you know? Moving the pelvis has the added benefit of opening up your sacral chakra as well as your root chakra, which allows your creativity to flow as well as sexuality. The root chakra is located in the perineum (between the anus and vagina in women, and anus and base of the scrotum in men).

There is an added bonus of awakening and opening your sexual energy center: you become more confident and step into the being that you truly are. Women often feel more Goddess energy once they begin moving their sexual energy fully. Orgasms can be easier to achieve, or more powerful. 

Why Do You Want Your Sexual Energy Awakened?

Having blocked energy is not good for anyone. When there is a blockage, illness can occur. When you have blocked sexual energy you can also have issues with finances and security. Living a balanced life involves having our sexual center opened. Zumba is a fun way to open your sexual center and empower your Goddess self. 

My Zumba Teacher - Lucy Harris

I love my Zumba instructor. She is fit, sexy, fun and energetic. Moreover she has got some moves on her that would make 

Beyoncé jealous. Lucy who began dancing at age 4, took 4 - 6 classes a week till her later high school years. She then gave dance a break and played basketball. Lucy's mother, Kathy Hart supported her then by paying for and taking Lucy to all  her dance classes.

She continues to attend her classes, often taking over for Lucy, and well able to hold her own in moves and endurance. Kathy is fit and youthful. Clearly Zumba has kept her body in great shape. I have yet to see anyone who regularly attends Zumba classes look dour or miserable. Zumba brings back the HAPPY! When we are happy we thrive. Everyone I have talked to about their experience with Zumba has said that feeling happier is the number one benefit.

Jennifer Elizabeth Masters is the author of Orgasm For Life, The Sex Bible for the New Age. She is an empowerment coach for women. Her website is JenniferElizabethMasters.com

Seven Out of Every 10 Men Have This

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Tens of thousands of men suffer from a sexual dysfunction that causes embarrassment, suffering and frustration for both partners. Premature ejaculation is a sexual dysfunction, not a disease that affects one out of every 10 men at some point in their lives. Premature ejaculation is often caused by anxiety. It is a neuro-biological condition. The first recorded occurrence of this issue was back in 610 BCE. Yes, it has been an issue for a very long time.

Listen to this interview to find out how to navigate issues with your partner: The Janet Love Show: Interview with Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

75% of all men report that they usually experience orgasm within 10 minutes of penetration. Premature ejaculation is persistent, reoccurring ejaculation with minimal stimulation. It occurs with a very low level of stimulation. It is considered a sexual dysfunction when a man ejaculates within two minutes of penetration.

Are You Suffering With Premature Ejaculation?

Premature ejaculation is what I have termed HTP. (Read more about it in Orgasm For Life.) Hair Trigger Penis is an issue that men of all ages suffer from at some point in their lives. It does not go away with age. It does not cure itself with more frequent sex. It is not caused by frequent masturbation, or training yourself to come quickly. It is not caused by the wantonness of your partner. It is not anyone's fault. The key to this issue is emotion. 

Movement  E- mot-ion

Emotions are meant to move. Our human physiology was created to be in balance. Our mind dictates what the body feels and does. Parents teach little boys and girls differently. Men are taught not to cry. Little boys are taught to be a man. They are taught to be tough. Yet all this toughness and holding onto anger, sadness or heartbreak without crying and or emoting, causes blocks to occur. Think about each time you felt sadness. What if every time sadness came up and you did not express that sadness, but held it inside?

What if each time you stuffed that sadness the block got bigger, and harder, and more jam-packed. What if over time that block began to affect your physiology? What if you repressed anger and frustration, holding it inside your body? Each event that is held in and repressed adds to the intensity of the block.

Body-Mind-Spirit

We can't look at the human body without our emotions. Emotions impact our health, mind, and our nervous system. Emotions also affect our sexual function. Our body, mind and spirit work together. Think of your car. It has a body, or outer shell. Under the hood is the engine. There is a fan to keep the car cooled, a radiator with water in it to assist the cooling system. There are wires which run from the spark plugs and ignite the engine. There are fuses to help the electrical system function effectively. All of these systems work together for the effective operating of your vehicle. If one fuse blows, the car might not start. Lights may not work. The car does not run efficiently or effectively. When one system is breaking down, the engine may use more fuel, or run roughly. The car may even make weird noises and backfire.


Curing The Symptom, Rather Than The Cause

Our bodies work very similarly to our vehicles. When medical doctors give us a pill to "cure" us, this pill only focuses on the symptom, rather than the root cause. Thinking of our body separately from our emotions and energy system does not cure the root of the problem, it only works on the symptoms. For every disease, physical issue or pain there is an emotional component. This emotional component began with a thought. This thought could have been a simple thing like, "I am not good enough."

Causes

• anxiety, depression, guilt, shame
• abnormal thyroid function
• repressed anger
• repressed sadness
• too frequent sex

Ways To Cure HTP or Premature Ejaculation

1. Clear the emotional blocks with energy clearings.
2. Do cathartic screaming out by a lake, ocean or forest where you feel you can just let loose and scream. (explanation follows)
3. See an acupuncturist to balance Shao Yin Kidney points, liver chi balance and heart balance. (all systems work together - everyone is different, see additional diet restrictions and additions below). Tonics and herbs may also be prescribed.
4. Sacred masturbation (see instructions below)
5. Conscious sex - repressing orgasm, changing positions, pulling out, doing something different, moving the sexual energy upwards to your heart and cycling it through your body up to the frontal lobe of the brain.
6. Have sex and orgasm LESS frequently, rather than more frequently.

Sacred Masturbation
How To Connect With Your Genitals In A Sacred Way

Slowing down the sexual energy as it begins to build takes practice. Masturbate alone or with a partner. Begin slowly and feel the energy as it begins to build. Squeeze your anal sphincter tightly, pulsing the energy to move it upward. Do this several times slowly. As the sexual energy begins to rise in the pelvis, it is important to move this energy up into the heart. When the energy is stuck in the pelvis and kept there, many men come too quickly. Envisioning this energy moving up into the heart center can be done with your partner or by yourself. 

Place your hand or your partner's hand on the center of your chest. Envision the energy that is focused in your pelvis moving upwards and direct this energy into your heart. Let it cycle through your heart and envision the energy moving up into the frontal lobe of the brain (forehead or third eye). This movement of energy can take an hour, slowing down the energy so that orgasm does not occur immediately. 

Squeezing the PC muscles (kegels) can help to move this energy upward as well. 

The focus with sacred masturbation is to prolong the sexual experience keeping the sexual energy circulating, rather than getting off quickly. This is highly beneficial for men, it will help to prevent prostate cancer.

Kegel Exercises

Kegel exercises are beneficial for everyone. They keep the pelvic floor strong so that prolapse of the bladder does not occur with age. Kegels also help with strengthening internal muscles which will create more powerful orgasms.



Jennifer Elizabeth Masters is the author of Orgasm For Life. She is a sex coach, sex educator and life coach for women and men wanting an empowered conscious life. If you are ready for harmony within, so that your life flows with ease and Grace, contact Jennifer and find out how her work will fit with your life goals for peace, happiness and love in your life. Jennifer is awakened and self actualized. Life does not have to be a struggle. Happiness is something that many are searching for. Jennifer is the one to help you achieve it, as she did in her own life. Whether you are in a relationship or not, does not matter. When you are happy with you, ALL OF YOU, your life will change. Jennifer's did. She knows how to get you there as well. Contact Jennifer and leave her a private message: (770) 480-5500. Or send her a confidential e-mail here. JenniferElizabethMasters@gmail.com

Her website is: http://www.JenniferElizabethMasters.com

It's In HIS KISS!

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

A kiss is the first part of any sexual contact. Kissing transmits a sexual charge and connects two bodies. A kiss lets the receiver know whether sex is a possibility. A kiss can be like an electric bolt of energy culminating in the genitals. It releases oxytocin from the brain.

Women still remember the first kiss after men have forgotten the last. ~Remy de Gourmont

 

There is nothing like the feeling of the anticipation of the first kiss, having someone cup the side of your face and pull you to them. Your lips part, you open receiving theirs. You can tell a lot about someone by the way they kiss. Do they draw you in? Do you feel an electric charge? If a kiss does nothing for the receiver, the kiss could signal the end of a physical exchange. It can also signal just how wonderful this person could be in bed. 

We remember the ones who DID it for us. We remember our best kisses. We also remember the sloppy kisses, where we felt someone kissed us like a St. Bernard slobbering all over our mouth dripping onto our chin and plunging their tongue deep inside our mouths. I apologize to all the St. Bernard's out there. I do love dogs, just not sloppy kissers.

There is a delicate balance between enough and too much. Slowly move forward as if smelling this beautiful face. Drink in their energy. At first, when you kiss someone you want your lips to touch ever so softly, brushing their lips with yours. Nibble the lower lip gently, before going in for the big kiss. No tongue at first. This is the first kiss. You don't want to push through if lips are closed. There is so much one can do with your delicious lips. 

Anticipation is the key to great sex

Anticipation is the key to great sex. So it is with kissing. As you go in for the first kiss, move gently. If she pulls away, she is either not into you or you moved too soon. 

The slower you move, the better. Let the other person anticipate your kiss. Rub noses, hold their face in your hands. Look them in their eyes. 

For now, sit there holding them, locking eyes. Wait. Build the tension between you. 

Sexual tension is a good thing. Let it build. For those of you who have been in a relationship a long time, kisses are often forgotten. I remember being in a marriage where we stopped kissing entirely. Kissing is the precursor to so many wonderful things, like oral sex, great sex and a whole lot of wonderful sensual experiences. Kissing needs to be a part of your repertoire. Make sure you know how to do it well.

Jennifer is the author of three books, Orgasm For Life, is available in kindle version and paperback on Amazon.com. Set up your private coaching with Jennifer. As an intuitive healer, Jennifer is a powerful healer and awakened teacher who helps those wanting to connect with their soul purpose, become enlightened or overcome trauma. She works with women who have PTSD, sexual trauma, depression, anxiety, unhappiness. 

Visit Jennifer's website here: JenniferElizabethMasters.com

Orgasm For Life - Sting and Tantric Sex

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Excerpt From Orgasm For Life

Tantra - Is It True What We Heard About Sting?

After I healed deep and painful issues through Tantra, my sexual experience is now very different. Tantra focuses on the pleasure of the moment and less on the end result. Tantra teaches you to circulate your sexual energy in your body, choosing when you want to release it in orgasm (for men) rather than making orgasm the focus. When men hold and circulate their sexual energy within their body, they are able to make love for much longer periods of time. The benefit for the woman with Tantra is that she has the time needed to raise her sexual energy and reach high levels ecstasy. 

Tantra is a style of meditation and ritual which began around the fifth century A.D. in India. The spiritual practice of Tantric sex focuses on enlightenment, reverence for your partner, and the sacredness of sex. It is a slow process of breathing, eye gazing, meditation prior to sex together, and love-making which removes the focus from orgasm. This Eastern tradition teaches that men lose precious life force by allowing themselves to ejaculate every time they have sex. 

When love-making continues for more than an hour, and the sexual energy is circulated up into the center of the forehead (third eye) a man does not lose precious life force energy. However, when men ejaculate in less than an hour, their sexual energy has not had enough time to circulate through the body, meaning life force is lost. Most men who practice Tantra choose whether to ejaculate or not. They can continue making love for hours with their erection waning and then building again. This is a wonderful way to experience each other and give the woman ample time to reach orgasm. She can have many orgasms this way. For the male counterpart, most want to ejaculate at some point to experience the intensity of this type of orgasm. Often this is once a week or less. It is up to the individual.

The western focus on sex is the end result - orgasm. The recording artist, Sting made a comment to an interviewer 20 years ago, about making love for hours with his wife. Tantra is far more than lasting a long time. Sting has tried to recant his comment in a variety of ways. He now explains it this way, that his wife, Trudy, is his church. Tantra has far more to do with reverence for your partner than longevity in the sexual act. This by itself gives sex the energy of sacredness. Tantra is about giving and receiving, taking turns giving slow pleasure to the other. 

When you are receiving pleasure in tantra, you enjoy each moment, allowing yourself to just feel and enjoy the pleasure. Slowing down the process of sex, allows sexual energy to build, and then fall, reach a crescendo and fall again. Taking turns giving to one another in each session could mean sensual massage where one person gives fully without sex. Focusing on the other person’s body fully, giving them pleasure can change the way you look at one another outside of the bedroom. Receiving pleasure for an hour, without any thought or concern about giving back to your partner in a session can be incredibly freeing and invigorating. This can raise your sexual energy and is a great place to begin for couples who have been sexless for a long period of time. We can get so caught up in focusing on orgasm that we miss the beautiful sensual moments in between. 

Tantra focuses on reverence, in the moment. It brings back the sacredness of sex, which many of us have lost. Instead of using your partner for personal gratification, the focus is on giving to the other, and then receiving.

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Jennifer Elizabeth Masters is a sex educator, life and sex coach. She empowers women to love themselves through workshops and private coaching. She is passionate about helping her clients heal sexual dysfunction. Her website is: http://www.JenniferElizabethMasters.com

You can e-mail Jennifer to set up a free discovery session to find out if her work is right for you here.