I have been studying Traditional Chinese Medicine for almost 20 years. I use acupuncture in conjunction with my energy healing to keep myself healthy and balanced. Both Ayurvedic and Chinese Medicine believe we need to guard our energy as if our life depends on it, because it does.
The Chinese believe that we only have a certain amount of life force. We are given this life force from our parents. Some parents have a strong constitution and live long, healthy lives, like mine. Others, like my ex husband, have a parent, or maybe two that die early, prone to heart issues and karma that causes an early demise. Just as we can spend everything in our bank account, we can also spend the JING, (core essence and life force) too soon. When we spend it too soon, health issues, like erectile dysfunction result.
parents about it. Parents often feel uncomfortable broaching the subject of sex with their teens, and may even be releived that thier children seem to have a lack of interest.
difficult to resist this perpetual knock at your door. Watching porn and masturbating is becoming the norm, rather than the rarity for many men. What many are not aware of is the underlying darker side of watching porn and masturbating. Pornography becomes like cocaine.
I know a thing or two about sex addiction. I have experienced it. I know the shame of needing to have sex. Sex without love leaves us feeling empty and alone. Humans need a connection to really thrive. We need to be held, hugged, kissed and understood. Compassion for ourselves is key to being able to move beyond this addiction.
Masturbation can be a way to suppress feelings of low self esteem. Some men reach for their joy stick because they want to shift the way they are feeling in the moment. Sitting with our emotions and feeling them fully is healthy. Allow yourself to feel the emotions, rather than masturbate to avoid feeling. Feeling is actually healthy.
The feeling of bliss following ejaculation can last seconds or minutes in some cases. Sometimes, however when prolactin is released, deep sadness follows. If you are masturbating because you feel depressed, releasing prolactin often can contribute to depression.
Self love is the cornerstone for healing. Prayer, a Divine connection, meditation and recognizing that you are helpless to recover on your own. Addictions can ruin lives. They cause us to feel unworthy, and worthless. You have value. Don't ever forget it. You can get help. It begins with you stopping today. Recognizing that the compulsion is destroying your life, your health and your vigor. Excessive masturbation can cause depression. Pornography addiction can also cause depression, because you are disconnected from yourself and those around you.
What Can You Do Now?
- Abstain from masurbation. Take each day one at a time. Find something else to do instead.
- Get out and take a walk.
- Write in a journal.
- Keep yourself busy.
- Take up a hobby.
- Do things that take your mind off obsessing about sex.
- Pray. Ask for help with your issue. Saying you are helpless over your obsession allows spirit and other angelic assistance. Until you ask for help, the light forces can't do much to assist you. Prayer is powerful. It may seem fruitless at first, but don't give up. Have faith it will help you.
- Hire a coach or healer that understands addiction. You can't do this alone. Prayer, a healer, 12 step program or a coach can help you. Having the spiritual aspect in your coaching or healing program will help you tremendously.