By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters
I have been studying Traditional Chinese Medicine for almost 20 years. I use acupuncture in conjunction with my energy healing to keep myself healthy and balanced. Both Ayurvedic and Chinese Medicine believe we need to guard our energy as if our life depends on it, because it does.
The Chinese believe that we only have a certain amount of life force. We are given this life force from our parents. Some parents have a strong constitution and live long, healthy lives, like mine. Others, like my ex husband, have a parent, or maybe two that die early, prone to heart issues and karma that causes an early demise. Just as we can spend everything in our bank account, we can also spend the JING, (core essence and life force) too soon. When we spend it too soon, health issues, like erectile dysfunction result.
Men as young as 22 are having issues with erectile dysfunction. It is easier for some shy young men to have sex with themselves rather than face the rejection of a girl. Teens are being educated about sex, by porn sites, because they don't want to talk to their
parents about it. Parents often feel uncomfortable broaching the subject of sex with their teens, and may even be releived that thier children seem to have a lack of interest.
Men married and single are also able to view pornography to experience arousal. Masturbation seems like an effortlessly and painless release, however there are consequences to too much masturbation.
Pornography is easily accessible. There is no need to go to the video store or Red Box to rent porn. It can be delivered quickly and easily to your mailbox. After visiting a porn site, you are followed, like a visitor that was welcome one day and not the next, it can be
difficult to resist this perpetual knock at your door. Watching porn and masturbating is becoming the norm, rather than the rarity for many men. What many are not aware of is the underlying darker side of watching porn and masturbating. Pornography becomes like cocaine.
Everything In Moderation
Watching it a little, once in a while is one thing. When the arousal does not happen as easily, men are turning to harder core porn, to ignite their desire. Like cocaine or heroin, the need for it becomes more intense and with increased frequency, their wives or partners no longer turn them on, and they turn away from their relationships. Doors closed, secrecy builds walls not only causing a deep and powerful addiction, but ruining lives, through lost jobs, wives and families.
Divorce siting pornography addiction is on the rise. PIED (Porn Induced Erectile Dysfunction) is a real phenomenon. Young men are experiencing erectile dysfunction through porn and masturbation addiction. When a 23 year old needs Cialis or Viagra to get an erection, people need to begin paying attention. Pornography can ruin lives. It is not the way real people have sex. There is no communication with another person. There is no love here. Sex without love is empty. It may give you a charge in the beginning, but it will end up leaving you feeling guilty, ashamed when it becomes a necessity in your life.
I know a thing or two about sex addiction. I have experienced it. I know the shame of needing to have sex. Sex without love leaves us feeling empty and alone. Humans need a connection to really thrive. We need to be held, hugged, kissed and understood. Compassion for ourselves is key to being able to move beyond this addiction.
Suppressing Emotions
Masturbation can be a way to suppress feelings of low self esteem. Some men reach for their joy stick because they want to shift the way they are feeling in the moment. Sitting with our emotions and feeling them fully is healthy. Allow yourself to feel the emotions, rather than masturbate to avoid feeling. Feeling is actually healthy.
The feeling of bliss following ejaculation can last seconds or minutes in some cases. Sometimes, however when prolactin is released, deep sadness follows. If you are masturbating because you feel depressed, releasing prolactin often can contribute to depression.
Self love is the cornerstone for healing. Prayer, a Divine connection, meditation and recognizing that you are helpless to recover on your own. Addictions can ruin lives. They cause us to feel unworthy, and worthless. You have value. Don't ever forget it. You can get help. It begins with you stopping today. Recognizing that the compulsion is destroying your life, your health and your vigor. Excessive masturbation can cause depression. Pornography addiction can also cause depression, because you are disconnected from yourself and those around you.
What Can You Do Now?
Shifting into sex and passion was a natural transition for me; someone who loves sex and who has healed addictions and codependency. In my book, Orgasm For Life I share what I
I know a thing or two about sex addiction. I have experienced it. I know the shame of needing to have sex. Sex without love leaves us feeling empty and alone. Humans need a connection to really thrive. We need to be held, hugged, kissed and understood. Compassion for ourselves is key to being able to move beyond this addiction.
Suppressing Emotions
Masturbation can be a way to suppress feelings of low self esteem. Some men reach for their joy stick because they want to shift the way they are feeling in the moment. Sitting with our emotions and feeling them fully is healthy. Allow yourself to feel the emotions, rather than masturbate to avoid feeling. Feeling is actually healthy.
The feeling of bliss following ejaculation can last seconds or minutes in some cases. Sometimes, however when prolactin is released, deep sadness follows. If you are masturbating because you feel depressed, releasing prolactin often can contribute to depression.
Self love is the cornerstone for healing. Prayer, a Divine connection, meditation and recognizing that you are helpless to recover on your own. Addictions can ruin lives. They cause us to feel unworthy, and worthless. You have value. Don't ever forget it. You can get help. It begins with you stopping today. Recognizing that the compulsion is destroying your life, your health and your vigor. Excessive masturbation can cause depression. Pornography addiction can also cause depression, because you are disconnected from yourself and those around you.
What Can You Do Now?
- Abstain from masurbation. Take each day one at a time. Find something else to do instead.
- Get out and take a walk.
- Write in a journal.
- Keep yourself busy.
- Take up a hobby.
- Do things that take your mind off obsessing about sex.
- Pray. Ask for help with your issue. Saying you are helpless over your obsession allows spirit and other angelic assistance. Until you ask for help, the light forces can't do much to assist you. Prayer is powerful. It may seem fruitless at first, but don't give up. Have faith it will help you.
- Hire a coach or healer that understands addiction. You can't do this alone. Prayer, a healer, 12 step program or a coach can help you. Having the spiritual aspect in your coaching or healing program will help you tremendously.
- Meditate.
Shifting into sex and passion was a natural transition for me; someone who loves sex and who has healed addictions and codependency. In my book, Orgasm For Life I share what I
learned on my journey from sexual dysfunction to wholeness. I hope you'll read my books and discover your inner soul's purpose on your road to healing. And connect with me for deeper work, if you feel called.
