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Saturday, November 22, 2014

Tests And More Tests in The Dating Pool

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Have you ever felt that you were being tested? Maybe you made a commitment to yourself and The Universe, or God, that you will only date men who are ______ (angry, addicts, alcoholics, married fill in the blank). Or maybe, for the gentlemen out there, you made a commitment to yourself to only have protected sex, or to only date women that _________( who have been divorced for over two years, don't smoke, want to have sex, fill in the blank). Whatever the commitment that you made, there will be opportunities to see if you really meant what you said.


Just because a situation presents itself, does not mean you have to say YES! In other words, the next person you meet does not have to be someone that you date. In fact, once you have made a commitment to yourself, if you don't follow through and stick to your guns, another test will follow and another test and another. Until you show The Universe that you mean what you say. the testing will continue.

Breaking Patterns

When we are working to break through a pattern we have had for many years, the testing is like a good friend asking you, "Are you really sure about this?" Opportunities present themselves for us to stand up for ourselves, validate our commitments and follow through. Following are a couple of examples:

You decide that you are done with alcoholics and other addictive personalities. You recognize that you have a pattern of attracting
this type of partner. Perhaps your father was an alcoholic and this pattern of partner keeps turning up for you. You have made a concerted effort to break through this pattern.

The next gorgeous man or woman you meet is friendly, affable, interesting and charismatic. Still, there is a nagging feeling in the back of your mind that the dates you have been on have all been associated with pubs, bars and drinking. You stick it out anyway, even though you have a nagging feeling. Weeks later, you determine your suspicions were correct they are an alcoholic. What happened to your super sleuth skills? 

Sometimes We Give A Bad Risk Too Much Time

Most of us have a tendency to give people second, third and fourth chances, even after the red flags have been waving in our faces since we first met this person. We ignore the red flags. We often even ask questions about the issue and listen to the excuses or lies the other person gives us instead of listening to ourselves. If we
don't trust ourselves, we tend not to listen to our gut instinct. This can be very dangerous. It is how many people end up repeating the same bad relationships over and over. To break the cycle, we have to change our response. We need to get faster at recognizing red flags and warning signs. 

Trust Your Gut

Your body never lies. There are several ways that your body talks to you. You may feel a stomach drop, a lump in your throat, or a gut instinct that something isn't kosher. Listen to your gut. Trust your self. 

The Universe is Abundant....  There are Plenty of People to Date!

When you walk away from a relationship because of a serious issue, you are standing up for yourself. You are telling The
Universe, I won't do this again (hopefully... till the next time, I do it again). Some of us repeat the same thing quite a few times before we really get it. That's okay. When you finally do learn the lesson, you will be so DONE that you will be sure it won't happen again. You will begin to smell them coming! Using your discernment to recognize the people that aren't good for you is a skill. It also takes some courage. After you have dated one bi-polar person or narcissist, you will be watchful of the signs and avoid a repeat. 

The truth of the matter is that when you say, "NO!" you are closing a door. When you close one door another will open. It is better to leave a relationship with no one in the wings (closing the door). Once the door is closed, another person will present themselves. Don't stay for fear that there won't be another person that will date you. This is demonstrating lack consciousness. The Universe is abundant. There are lots more where this one came from! Remember! You are so much better than that. You deserve to be loved. You are worthy! 


Jennifer Elizabeth Masters became enlightened and self actualized in 2012. She is able to assist you come to a loving acceptance of yourself. When you are committed to your self growth and self discovery, she helps you overcome the following:


  • low self esteem
  • depression
  • apathy
  • loneliness
  • suicidal tendencies
  • chaos
  • lack of focus
  • living in the past or future
  • unhappiness
  • sadness
  • nervousness
  • fears
  • health issues
  • Fibromyalgia
  • Epstein Barr Syndrome
  • arthritis
  • sexual dysfunction
Working with Jennifer you will see your self esteem rise to great heights. Apathy dissolves along with depression and sadness. You become totally present in the moment. Jennifer has healed all of these issues above as well as breast cancer in herself. She has the tools to help you do it too. She is certified as a Hypnotherapy Trainer, Neurolinguistic Programming Practitioner, A Master Energy Healer. All of these are used in her catalystic coaching.

How does she do it?

Great question. Jennifer is a catalyst and a spiritual pathfinder. She helps you align with your true high self. She helps you come into loving acceptance of you. When you love and accept yourself, your world changes drastically. Instead of attracting relationships that don't work, you fine people and situations that support you. Life becomes a joy to experience. Loneliness dissolves. Your mind quiets and you feel serene, peaceful and your creativity soars. 

If you have struggled with life, love and relationships all your life, isn't it time you took the first step? Contact Jennifer now through her private e-mail. She has room for two committed clients now. Her book is filling up, so don't wait. Once her new radio show Straight Up Sex Talk begins, there will be less time on her calendar. She gives each of her clients her undivided attention and is fully present with you.

Buy Jennifer's Books Here:  Orgasm For Life



Monday, April 28, 2014

The Key To Lasting Happiness

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters



Photo courtesy of Sarah Perkins Photography

http://blogtalkradio.com/hollischapmanshow
Interested in hearing who Jennifer is on the air? Join her this Friday at 1:00 PM EST and 10:00 AM PST as Hollis Chapman, author of the book Pursue Your Passion interviews Jennifer about her forthcoming book: Orgasm For Life.


This is Jennifer's second time on Hollis' show. Our last time was synergistic, laugh-filled and very entertaining. Find out what makes Jennifer tick, and more about her book.


Now more than any other period in history, people are struggling with their sense of identity. We think we are mothers, wives, husbands, and fathers. We believe we are lawyers, doctors, teachers, and farmers. Yet our role as a parent _fill in the blank is not who we are. Our profession whether it is a medical professional or a teacher is not who we are. We mistakenly identify with our profession. What happens when our professional role ends? What happens to us when this part of us dissolves, through layoffs, termination or retirement? What then?


When we are born we have no such identity. We come into the world as an infant with a fully formed soul intact. Our soul is not one of an infant - our soul does not see ourselves as a baby. Most people have not ever considered the fact that our souls live on after leaving our bodies. They have never considered what happens when we are reintroduced into a new body. The soul in your infant child was a fully formed being. 


Each and every soul on this planet has a purpose. Every person we come into contact with is influenced in some way by our presence. It does not matter whether we choose to be a parent or not, we still have the power to influence others. How we choose to be in the world is up to us. 

Feeling Lost?

Many of my clients come to me because they have looked for happiness in work or relationships. Although they may be happy and fulfilled by these things for a short while, the happiness is fleeting. It does not last a lifetime. Why does this happen? 

True Happiness

Happiness cannot be found permanently through work, love or a child. Our happiness must come from within us. If you are filled with self-loathing, condemnation and criticism, you will feel unfulfilled and maybe even depressed. I was chronically depressed for over 20 years. My depression created many other issues. Insomnia, restlessness, and chronic fatigue were among some of my issues. I also battled constant bladder, sinus. and chest infections. All of my self-criticism and self-loathing made me ill, it made me feel ugly. I recognized that there is an emotional component to all illness. When we are stuck and unable to cry, or release anger these emotions are lodged in our cells, causing bladder infections, bronchitis, sinus infections, pneumonia, and even cancer.

Moving Into Love

When we stop looking at ourselves with a magnifying glass, amplifying our faults and then beating ourselves up with a baseball bat we can begin to accept ourselves. Society teaches us to be perfect. Yet there is no such thing as a perfect individual. 

We all make mistakes. We can all be misguided. Our emotions, self-doubt, and fear get in the way of choosing the best direction for ourselves. We often choose partners that end up betraying us, hurting us or leaving. When we recognize that we are okay as we are, and begin to love ourselves unconditionally, our body relaxes, our fear falls away. We don't have to change, only our perception of ourselves has to.

Changing Thoughts

The greatest change anyone can make for themselves is to change their thoughts.

Self-deprecating comments have no place in your head. JEM (Yes that is my motto.) 

I usually have great success when I tell my clients, "If God would not say these things to you, why do you?" When you begin to discipline your mind to think only positive thoughts about yourself, you begin to feel more positive. You accept yourself even is you don't choose wisely. You begin to use the events in your life as teachable moments. Learning from the events, rather than beating yourself up. 

You Are Not Your Thoughts!

It is possible to change your thoughts. There was probably no person on this planet that was more negative than I was. I was raised in an environment where criticism was rampant. It was all I knew. I became what my parent taught. I condemned myself and judged everyone else. There was a turning point where a boyfriend hit me between the eyes telling me how judgmental and critical of others I was. I began to listen to the voices in my head. Someone else had to tell me, I could not see this for myself. 

It took effort, but I began to stop those thoughts that didn't support me. I had begun to believe all the negative voices in my head saying I wasn't good enough, I wasn't smart enough and I wasn't deserving. It took effort, but this was the start of something really wonderful. 

As I began to think more positive things about myself, I began to feel better. My illness that was so prevalent went away! I stopped having sinus infections, bladder infections and bronchitis. Even breast cancer was healed with loving thoughts about myself and my mother within months. 

Who Are YOU?

When you look at yourself now, who do you see? Do you see the beautiful radiant light that is within you? Do you see the wise woman, or man that guides others with your truth? Do you see the beauty and grace that pervades your life? Do you see the unlimited opportunities for joy and happiness when you stop beating yourself up for not being perfect?

You are not your thoughts. You are not your job. You are not just a sister, brother, technical writer or doctor. You are so much more than that. You are the light that permeates all that you do. You have a purpose, people to lift up with your light, children to guide, lives to change. 
Adam, Ariel, David in Boulder, Colorado

When I was in my thirties, I thought I was just a mother. Looking back at my adult children now, I see three beautiful adults serving humanity in their own way. I used to feel small, as a stay-at-home mother. I felt unintelligent and uneducated in comparison to my husband who was so smart. Now, I no longer compare myself with others. I am my own light. There is no one else like me. There is no one else like you. There is no one else who has your gifts, talents or wisdom. There is no other person on this planet that has your exact soul purpose. You are the source of your happiness. No one else can give it to you.

If you are still not feeling it. Isn't it time you set up a discovery session with me to find your inner light. To begin to love every part of your soul, body and who you truly are? If you are not finding the joy and happiness where you are - contact me right now! Your life will change in beautiful ways.


Or send me a private e-mail to discuss finding your inner happiness. JenniferElizabethMasters@gmail.com

Jennifer Elizabeth Masters is the author of Orgasm For Life. She is a love and passion coach, speaker, certified hypnotherapist, life, Master Energy healer, NLP practitioner and light worker. She is intuitive catalyst for self growth.