Self-love is the fastest path to happiness, love and wealth. Jennifer is a Soul Sculptor who breaks the mold of past trauma so you can live the life of your dreams in JOY, HAPPINESS and LOVE!
Working with women and men struggling with love, it is easy to define what love isn't. This article will give you the understanding of what it means to love another.
Sacredness is part of a loving relationship. Complaining about your partner to someone else diminishes the sacredness between you. Instead, lift your partner up with your thoughts, focusing on their strengths rather than their weaknesses.Everyone has flaws and faults; love is about accepting them as they are with all their imperfections and loving them anyway.
Every relationship has its challenges. Being supportive rather than derisive will keep you bonded through those difficulties and allow you to grow stronger as a couple. When a storm arises and it will, you will have the foundation to weather the storm together.
Two Phrases That Show You Are Truly Loving
Love is when you choose to be at your best when the other person is not at their best. Rev. Wintley Phipps
Love is when what you want is never important, but when the other person's needs and wants are always paramount. That is what true love is. Rev. Wintley Phipps
Reverend Wintley Phipps has been happily married for 39 years. He has been on Oprah Winfrey's Super Soul Sundays multiple times.
Case Study: Two of my clients have been working with me for several years. They have weathered the storms of life, raising two children and running two households. Now they are working together to support her breast cancer healing through natural means using Gerson Therapy. The root cause of cancer is deep hurt, longstanding resentment eating away at the self. Unless the root cause is healed cancer, no matter how it is eliminated will return, because the cause remains. Breast cancer has created challenges for the two of them. However, they have leaned on each other, focusing on each other's needs compassionately. When one is feeling down, the other lifts them up. Love is about lifting up the other when they are down. Compassion, understanding, caring and mutual support is all part of a loving relationship. Jennifer Elizabeth Masters is the author of the forthcoming book: HAPPY HERE, HAPPY ANYWHERE. Find Jennifer's books on Amazon.
To illustrate the polarities of sex in two different ways, I have included two real life stories.
Susan and Simon were happily married. Their marriage was strong encompassing more than two decades. Their relationship had weathered many ups and downs, as most do. Simon was a successful attorney who founded his law firm, just before the downturn in the economy. They lived in a grand and beautiful home in an affluent community. His business diminished causing them to have to sell their home and move into a much smaller home in a very different socio-economic area.
Susan’s friends changed when their status altered. It caused her great distress. Her sense of worth diminished when they left their beautiful home. She unconsciously blamed her husband for their plight. Simon kept his sense of humor, for the most part, while he worked long hours, helped around the house when he could. On weekends, he helped Susan entertain. They created fun, themed, dinner parties. All Simon wanted from Susan was regular sex. Susan felt that Simon was not connected to his heart and just wanted the physical aspect of sex. She was determined not to have sex with her husband unless he changed. Simon was shut down emotionally because of the rejection. He felt neglected and unloved by having his repeated advances denied.
Simon became increasingly irritable, resentful and sniped at his wife. Susan took his sniping as a personal assault and dug her heels in deeper. She continued to refuse Simon sex. (A stand-off occurred with neither party wanting to budge.) Both were left frustrated and angry. The constant sparring took a toll on their marriage, impacting their happiness and that of their children.
George was a multi-millionaire stockbroker, traveling the world. George entrusted his home and money to his brother while he was away. His brother embezzled his money to the point that George and Claire lost their mansion and all that they owned. Destitute and broke they had to live in their car with their two children. Claire stuck by her husband, supporting him and loving him through these changes. She wanted to help her husband and continued to have as much sex with her husband as he wanted to help him through the challenging days and nights. Regular sex helped George feel better about himself. George said later that the only thing that got him through these difficult times was the support of his wife.
We can see that two couples had a very different outcome from similar circumstances. It is how we allow circumstances to color our intimacy and taint our relationships. Staying connected during challenging times through open-hearted communication and regular sex can turn difficulties into growth for both parties. For men, sex opens their hearts creating deep intimacy and more connection. When we refuse sex, they clam up and won’t allow themselves to be vulnerable.
The bottom line is a sexless marriage is not a marriage at all. Eventually after years of mediocre sex or no sex, one or both of the partners will either stray or divorce. Sex along with love and truthful communication is the glue of our relationships. It allows men to open up and allow their woman into his inner sanctum. Without sex, men shut down emotionally and generally will not allow women in. Women too will find other ways to find satisfaction, or end the marriage. Being rejected by your partner can negatively impact your self-esteem.
People will stay together in marriages where divorce is not an option. For others, when tension continues for too long one person may decide that they have had enough. A sexless marriage can help you make the decision to get out of a dead-end relationship that apparently isn’t supporting you.
Sex, trust, and heartfelt communication are the keys to deep intimacy. When both parties are involved and satisfied, it opens communication channels, helping to alleviate fears and discord. Sex is a component that creates and build trust and intimacy in a monogamous relationship. When there is no discussion about an issue of sex, arguments can break out, like brush fires. Before long, the small fires burn out of control. Little things become blown out of proportion. Sex helps to release tension within the relationship, breaking down the ego barriers that we often create through our fears of intimacy, of being abandoned and or betrayed.
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Aphrodite Effect is all about the effect of LOVE on all that we do. Venus was the Greek Goddess of love. She was an ageless beauty, powerful, strong, respected, sexual and knew who she was. She loved herself
You know “that look” women get when they want sex? Me neither. —Steve Martin
The quote above is an excerpt from Orgasm For Life - the book.
One of the reasons I wrote Orgasm For Life, was because of the number of clients I had that were not having sex with their spouses. This book was written to bring greater understanding within relationships, so that the communication is better. When communication outside the bedroom improves, communication inside the bedroom improves, therefore, sex also improves. Orgasm for Life, will change your heart, mind and make you laugh.
Women have many reasons in their minds for saying and emphatic "No!" From feeling that their husband is more like a little boy than a man, to "he's not connected to his heart," these reasons are excuses for a deeper underlying cause.
Understanding the opposite sex is important. The problem is that while women are nagging at their husbands for other issues, the men tune out their women and no longer hear what they are saying. An example, of not listening is what I was recently told by a client. Her husband of over 20 years sends her red roses for Mother's Day and her birthday. This sounds sweet, considerate and thoughtful. Her children however, have listened. They know what she likes. She loves pink roses, not red. If your husband does not listen to what you say and like, how is he going to hear what you want in bed? Would he even care? If your husband is so disconnected and unaware of his wives' wishes, why would you want to have sex with him? There is a huge lesson here for men.
Being a woman myself, it is a rare man who treats a woman with respect, opens doors, walks around to the car door to open it for her, treating her like a lady. After years of marriage, this chivalrous behavior is often long-forgotten. Women begin to feel like yesterday's news rather than a gem, or a Goddess who is revered, adored and loved. Take a good look at how you treat each other, before you complain about not having sex. What could you do differently. How could you treat your partner with more caring, respect and honoring? Is your partner having orgasms with regularity? Do you even know or care? Sex is an act that is two-sided, both parties give and receive pleasure. If only one person is receiving the ultimate pleasure of an orgasm, something is amiss.
Asking questions outside the bedroom is important. What feels good to you? What can I do differently? How can I pleasure you differently? Have you ever had a conversation about how the sex is? If not, why not? A marriage is supposed to be one of deep intimacy and connection. Intimacy is deepened when both parties are able to love and accept the other unconditionally, be completely transparent (authentic) so that trust is developed. Respect figures prominently for both parties. When one of the other is constantly being critiqued, bashed, or abused, sex is the furthest thing from their minds.
I often hear that sarcasm is used to communicate an uncomfortable issue. Sarcasm has no place in a loving relationship. It is a passive aggressive move, couched in humor. Saying afterward, "I was just kidding," does not negate the slight or put-down. Humor does not soften the blow. If you are using sarcasm or "humorous put-downs" take a look at why you can't speak the truth openly. Is your comment necessary, or are you putting down your partner to make you feel better about yourself?
Women need intimacy to have sex, Men need sex to have intimacy.
There is no doubt that men and women are wired differently. Women need romance, thoughtful gestures, and to be told they look beautiful. I have interviewed hundreds of men and found that many will never tell their wife they look beautiful out of their own fear that she will then have an affair. This is the man's insecurity, rather than an issue with the woman. In one particular case, this husband was complaining about his wife not wanting to have sex with him after 36 years. I asked him when the last time was he told her she was beautiful? He replied, "Never!" He was so insecure about himself, he would never tell her she was beautiful.
The opposition of our wiring can lead to mis-understanding and stand-offs. Where one person is vehement in their perspective and the other perpetuates theirs. We can win the battle with this thought process and lose the marriage. Think about your perspective and thought process. Is being right, worth it? As yourself is this issues something that will matter in 5 years? If the answer is NO, go ahead and make love, it is a lot more fun than fighting!
Sex Is Not One-Sided
Historically, sex has been an act where men pleasure themselves with women, while women just lay there. A woman's pleasure was the last thing on most men's minds. In many cases, not much has changed. Women need to be warmed up to the idea of sex. Women are not usually ready to go, just because they are wet. Women need foreplay, touch, caressing. Most women need 20 to 40 minutes of stimulation to get to the pleasure palace of Disneyland - the BIG O. After 20 years of not having what they need, many women are signing off from doing the horizontal mambo. Women need to have at least one orgasm before penile insertion occurs. If this is not happening, many women spend a lifetime not having orgasms.
Reasons Women Say No
Fatigue
Lack of Romance, Intimacy, Deep Conversations and Caring from their partner.
Lack of Interest due to low hormones.
Past hurts, insults or abuse.
Lack of consideration for their feelings.
No Heartfelt Apology from spouse for number 5.
Tired of not having an orgasm - "What's the point?"
Does't feel heard, or understood.
Feels man doesn't listen when she says what she needs or wants in bed.
Issues unresolved outside the bedroom, interfering with thoughts about sex. Women can't have sex when angry or upset with their partner. (Men on the other hand can and do.)
Too much stress. Women need to get out of their heads to have sex. Stress and too many things undone in the household, or work can interfere with thoughts and feelings of letting go.
How To Overcome A Sexless Marriage
Listen with an open heart to your partner.
Communicate without blame.
Repair the issues that are outstanding. Sometimes you need to hire a coach, therapist or psychologist to overcome these issues. Choose someone who will be a positive influence and not take sides.
Bring romance back into the relationship.
When both parties are ready, begin with hand-holding, eye gazing and appreciation of each other. Appreciation is one of the biggest issues lacking in marriages where sex is an issue.
Respect each other. Mutual respect must be in place for a healthy sex life.
Build trust. When sex has diminished a breach of trust has occurred. Repairing and re-building trust takes time. Be patient.
Read Orgasm For Life. There are hundreds of great tips for repairing, re-building and re-kindling the fires of passion. Orgasm For Life on Amazon
Jennifer Elizabeth Masters is the author or Orgasm For Life and Odyssey Victim to Victory. Both books are available on Amazon, as well as her website: http://www.JenniferElizabethMasters.com
Jennifer is a catalystic coach, compassionate healer and wise teacher. She is a Spiritual mentor for many and has performed thousands of energy clearings for clients since 2007. To schedule a FREE discovery session to find out if you would be a good fit for her work, you can do so HERE
George Carlin did a stand-up routine on men and women. He said that men are stupid and women are crazy. He sited many reasons why men are stupid. The above example is one of them. Men simply don't care enough about their partner to listen to them. They are so busy in their own heads thinking about themselves, that they can't hear their spouse. Although George was a hard-hitting comic, most people are unaware of the fact that he was happily married. George Carlin loved his wife. She died in 1997. He missed her terribly. Known for a foul mouth, if you listen to this bit, there are a few "F" bombs. However, the underlying truth is eye-opening.
We live on planet earth between the sun, moon and the stars. As events in our solar system intensify, so do the events and situations in our lives. Knowing how to navigate these days will assist you to feel more comfortable, certain and grounded.
Vulnerability The Key TO BLISS
We know the moon effects the tides of the ocean, that the solar flares cause changes here on earth for us. Having a series of strong Astrological events in one month causes us to feel deeply. This month we have a lunar eclipse, solar eclipse and a Grand Cross all in one month. April 15th has been heralded as Judgement Day by many. This is not an apocalyptic event, but rather one of great change of the earth's vibration and ultimately humanity's as well.
April has already been an intense month. Tonight's full lunar eclipse is the beginning of a two week volatile time for us. Upheaval, uncertainty and great change is coming for us all. Freedom and Independence will be the result. Issues from our past that have been long forgotten are resurfacing to be looked at from a different perspective and healed.
Tonight's lunar eclipse marks the beginning of strong Astrological events that culminate with the Grand Cross between April 20 - 24th. I have provided a link below to further information regarding this month's planetary events.
Many of my fellow healers and light workers have had accidents, serious health issues as well as deep emotional issues bite us in our butts. If we are feeling these things we know everyone is subject to this deep unearthing and excavation. I was not immune.
For me, I experienced a deep excavation of issues from my very early childhood. Memories that I had stuffed deep in the recesses of my brain, and not remembered have come to light for me over the past two months. I am a fearless woman. Strong, resilient and powerful. Yet last Wednesday night, I became extremely vulnerable, which offered deep insights into what was going on with me. The following day, I felt fragile, broken hearted, open and emotional.
Jennifer Elizabeth Masters
Photo by Sarah Perkins Photography, Denver, CO
I have done almost 30 years of deep inner work on myself through various modalities, which led me to become a hypnotherapist, energy healer and life coach for women. I help suicidal teens, women and men. I assist strong business women and men work through their deepest issues. Yet, here I was feeling like I was crumbling before my very eyes. What is important to note is that when we are at our most vulnerable, our deepest insights come to us. If we look within with faith, hope and trust, we will be guided through the melee and the debris to a higher level. We become stronger, more resilient and open as a result. We begin to recognize that our minds often play tricks on us. We question our insights and poo-poo them, thinking, "that couldn't be true, could it?" We find that the truth is there under the subterfuge. We have known it all along, but have avoided going there because it was too painful.
What is important to know, is that on the other side of feeling broken, crumbling and fragile is BLISS. We find a deeper understanding of ourselves which leads to more love, compassion which in turn opens our hearts to greater love, joy and happiness.
Avoidance and denial keep us stuck in a paradigm where bliss and happiness barely touch us. The deepest happiness comes from going beyond; walking through the pain into truth.
I am softer today than I was last week. I feel more open, centered and grounded. I hear other people and their issues much more clearly because I have allowed the truth in for myself. Allowing yourself to be completely vulnerable with another human being reaches the deepest depths of our soul and touches our truest selves. This is where the light shines. This is home.
Jennifer Elizabeth Masters is the author of Orgasm For Life: A no holds-barred guide to BLISS launching on May 20, 2014. This book is not just a book about sex. It is a light-hearted and often humorous look at ourselves. It bridges the chasm between men and women where we make each other wrong. It crosses the lines of hate, mis-understanding, bringing us closer to who we truly are. Self Love is the foundation for healthy, loving supportive relationships, SEX is the glue.
Sex helps us to connect with another deeply through our mind-body and spirit to raise our vibration and bring us closer to God/Allah/ Source/ Higher Power. This is where BLISS is. Sex is not dirty or wrong it is spiritual. Sex was after all, created by God.
Jennifer Elizabeth Masters is the author of the forthcoming book: HAPPY HERE, HAPPY ANYWHERE. 
Working with women and men struggling with love, it is easy to define what love isn't. This article will give you the understanding of what it means to love another. 
Jennifer Elizabeth Masters is the author of the forthcoming book: HAPPY HERE, HAPPY ANYWHERE. 
