Looking For Love in All The Wrong Places

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Back in 2009, I was on a dating site Chemistry.com. I hadn't dated in a while and thought, I needed to get back out there and find someone. I did talk to several people and finally decided to meet a guy. Perhaps my story will spark something within you that you can relate to. I've changed his name to Jason to protect his identity.

Jason's profile picture was two photos. One photo was taken too far away so you couldn't see his face with his arm around his cattle dog with a mountain bike, sunglasses, a hat, and a helmet. The other was of him with a group of people wearing sunglasses and a hat. In both photos, he was hiding something but I ignored the red flags. I went for it anyway. I wanted a relationship. 

Our first date was pleasant. I did most of the talking. Little did I know that what began would also end our relationship. He didn't talk to me. I thought he was shy.

He lived in an RV. Though this was a huge red flag, I ignored this one also. I explained the reasons away that he might not want a house and commitment. My friend Diana remarked, "What's the deal with you and guys with RVs? My Twin Flame John Armbruster also lived in an RV. Red flag number two.

He loved his dog. His dog was his baby. His dog could do no wrong. His dog almost ate one of my cats and he had to climb a tree to get him down. He was oblivious to any wrongdoing on his dog's part and did not take responsibility for any of it. Red flag number three. My cat began peeing in the house when he moved in with me.

I rarely drank. We went out often with his friends where he always drank, it didn't seem like too much at first. I was mesmerized by how much they loved him. Even their children loved him. It seemed I would have a newfound family. He spent much of his time riding motorcycles, mountain and street cycling with his buddies on the weekends. I didn't think this was a bad thing till much later. Red flag number four.

I had a busy life with my landscaping business and my daughter. From day one, she thought he looked like a monster and didn't like him. She kept asking me was he gay? Red flag number five.

I ignored my daughter, what did she know as she was only about thirteen at the time?

He had redeeming qualities that I focused on rather than the negative. He helped chop wood. He put in a wood stove to save on my heating bills. My next-door neighbor (an alcoholic) loved him and told me I needed to keep this guy. I wondered why he loved him so much. It wasn't until much later when I recognized he was an alcoholic that birds of a feather attract each other. My father was a drinker. I didn't recognize that I was looking for my father in him.

When an issue came up about my work, he said he was okay with what I did (he lied). He was raised a Baptist. I knew that people with strong religious leanings didn't work well with my energy work and hypnotherapy. I ignored that too. My mother mentioned she thought that he didn't like my profession - the healing part. Red flag number six.

I enjoyed having someone to do things with. I enjoyed his friends and their families. I put aside my feelings and misgivings because I wanted a relationship. I gave away my power to have someone in my life. He didn't want to talk about problems as they came up, it was always the wrong time. Red flag number seven.

Six months in he asked me to marry him. I felt it was too soon. I felt he was pressuring me. I felt he was hiding something but I wasn't sure what it was. My neighbor said I should keep him. I listened to other people, rather than to my inner guidance and my daughter. Red flag number eight (not listening to my inner voice gave away my power. I didn't tell him about my fears of him hiding something. I didn't tell him I felt there was something he wasn't telling me.)

My sons met him and liked him. We had family dinners together. It felt nice. As we prepared for our wedding he asked, "You don't want a ring, do you?" Red flag number eight. If a guy doesn't give you an engagement ring he doesn't value you. I hawked my jewelry to buy our wedding rings. Red flag number nine. We shouldn't be getting married if there is no money for wedding rings. I wasn't important enough for him to spend money on me. He spent it on his bikes, trips, and travel, but not on me. 

As our wedding date neared I noticed beer bottles hidden in the barn. He was drinking more frequently. If we ran out of beer one day he would bring home a case the next. There was never a time there wasn't beer in the house. Before I met Jason, I could go an entire year and not drink a single beer or glass of wine. 

My daughter continued to ask, "Isn't he gay?" I couldn't understand her query as we were having sex when we were together. I didn't put two and two together when I recognized his preference for oral with his eyes always closed but never on me. Sex was always from behind, no matter what I wanted.

Tension was building and we began to argue. I thought it was because of the pressure of the wedding preparations. He didn't like anything I liked. I should have called off the wedding, but I didn't. We were less than two weeks away, my mother had bought her plane ticket. My kids were excited for me. I liked being partnered. 

All relationships have issues. It two people can't talk about the problems as they come up there is no resolution. 

When the time came for us to take our ski vacation he let me know there wasn't enough money for me to go. We didn't have sex before he left and he was distant and shut down when he returned. Sex stopped happening which he said was because my daughter had moved in with us full time. Previously, she had been with us every other week. 

At six I'll take you to the second half of this huge lesson:

Marrying A Gay Man

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How I Healed A Deep Issue With Scary Angry Men

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

I've had an issue since I was a child. Just one? Actually, after years of working on myself, this issue remained because it was so scary for me. I have been afraid of angry men. My father didn't look quite like Hugh Jackman, but he was pretty scary when he was angry, and he was angry often. Even though my father died twenty-seven years ago, the issue continued to plague me till now.

When an issue keeps repeating in our lives, the universe is presenting it to us to heal and shift it. There is no malice when we don't get the lesson from The Divine or the universe. Even if the person we had the original issue with has left the planet, we can be assured of repeating the lesson until we finally get it. Following is my story of what showed up for me in an unexpected way. Maybe you will see your patterns in my story.

Though both my parents had anger and rage issues, the issue with my father was more profound. My father was a big, strong, angry man. When he was angry, he was loud. His energy got very large, and I was terrified of his rage and loud voice. When I did something he thought was wrong, he would whip his belt off and beat me with it. 

If a wooden spoon or hairbrush were closer, he would use those too. The fear for me was very deep and visceral. Sounds even today like hearing a man pull his belt out of his pants bring up the fight, fright and freeze mechanism that is innate in all humans.

He had an addictive personality and smoked for seventeen years. I never saw him falling down drunk, but he certainly liked to drink. He made his own wine and beer in our cellar. Later in his life, he quit because he knew it was affecting his health with gout and joint pain. 

Repeating Pattern

Throughout my life, I attracted men who were angry. Let's just say the universe gave me ample opportunities to heal this pattern of being afraid of big, angry, scary, yelling men. They may have had differences along the way, but the common thread was anger, intimidation, and disrespect for women. My father refused to allow me to go to college because I was a girl and would just get married and have babies. He felt it was a waste of his money to educate me. There were layers upon layers stuffed deep within my psyche.

Mojave Desert

I attracted men in different shapes and personalities. My father was a self-made handyman and Jack of All Trades. He built houses, cottages, boats and was often fixing things. All the men I attracted had terrible tempers and were scary (at least to me) when they were angry. Rather than standing up to them, I shut down and backed away.

Connecting The Dots

When I moved to California, I had no idea at the time what our little house in the desert would mean to me as far as a healing opportunity. I knew that the desert is for purging. It is a place to turn your life over to God. There are emptiness and monasticism in the desert. I certainly lived like a monk for many years while here. My life became very simple. 

Rejecting Luxury

Alpharetta, Georgia home Rich built, 2001

I had everything material I ever dreamed of in the past from living on a private estate in England to a 4,000 square foot home in Alpharetta, Georgia. I knew the material didn't make me happy. In fact, I rejected luxury after recovering from a spending addiction in a heartless marriage that turned me off anything posh or luxurious. In fact, I gave away my best clothing and furniture. I rejected luxurious comfort due to the guilt I had for having excess and feeling it didn't make my heart sing.

Every time, I went onto the Internet to look for a house in California for my daughter and me this particular house showed up. On the outside, the house looked like little more than a shack, the interior, however, was totally re-done complete with granite countertops, a nickel gooseneck kitchen faucet, ceramic tiled floor, shower and brand new everything. It was perfect for our dogs, and thirteen miles to the closest bank and my daughter's Charter school. Was it pretty? It depends on what you look at. I found a way to make it work. I found a way to enjoy the desert. The bottom line was I could AFFORD IT!

My landlord considered himself a Jack-of-all-trades. He was a plumber but did all the restoration on this little rental house himself.

Upon our move in on November 1st, 2012, I had challenges with our landlord, I'll call him Jose. We were without heat and hot water for two weeks until the gas company could hook us up. Though he helped me out by not imposing a pet deposit, he made grandiose promises on which he didn't deliver. He promised to show up to do repairs on a specific date and wouldn't call when he couldn't make it. Over 50% of the time that he said he would be at my house he never showed. His behavior was so evident that my neighbors remarked at how surprised when he did show up, that was how often commitments were made and broken.

His promise to change out the single paned windows took him two full years to install. His promise to build an arbor over the driveway and wall around the property never materialized. When we discovered a broken window under the closed blinds, my landlord said we broke it then called me a liar screaming at me on my front porch. His intimidation tactics were very scary, I stood firm and refused to pay for a broken window that was broken upon move in. I told him I didn't appreciate being called a liar. I don't lie.

From the first time, it rained till today when there was more than 1/4 inch of rain the bathroom ceiling leaked at the newly located ceiling fan above the commode. Each time the roof leaked, I would contact Jose and tell him. He never fixed the issue. He also didn't listen to me when I told him what I thought the problem was caused by. Even replacing the roof after my ceiling caved in didn't fix the problem.

After the second Christmas in the house, my landlord, informed me the reason he hadn't been responding to my phone calls was that he had been in jail for a DUI. He loved his cerveza, but tequila was his true love. He told me he typically drank a quart and a half a night. I didn't know how he was able to keep the pace of a full-time job and the maintenance of 9 rental properties. Something had to give.

Pieces of The Puzzle

The pieces were beginning to fall into place. My landlord at the farmhouse in Georgia was also an alcoholic who refused to make repairs. (I ended up losing everything in Georgia to black mold after the oak trees landed on the roof.) I was beginning to have Deja Vu. 

Each time it rained, water dripped water onto our heads when we sat down to pee. It could be said, that we were taking a leak in the literal sense. 

Fortunately, we were in a drought the first two years which meant it rarely rained. However, that changed in 2016 when California experience flooding. In 2016 alone, I reported seven incidents of roof leaks where several inches of water filled an awaiting bucket on the bathroom floor. On one occasion water spilled from the ceiling and poured down my interior wall onto the carpet. Needless to say, I reported this to my landlord in February 2017, and never received a response.

Roots grew into the pipes causing raw sewage to back up into the bathtub on three occasions. At this point, you might wonder why I stayed? My logical mind said, "Where else could I get such a deal on rent?" It felt as if the $800 a month rent was worth the inconvenience until it wasn't any longer. 

About a year ago, I received Guidance that I would leave this house as I did in Georgia - with only my clothes and a few precious items. I thought, "Well that is interesting." I didn't question any further, though I could have asked, "Why?" Those questions are rarely answered as we are on a need to know basis. The Universe doesn't feel we need to know they whys and wherefores.

Every time I turned around there was another problem. If it wasn't the pipes being clogged with tree roots and raw sewage backing up through the shower drain into the bathtub, it was a pipe falling off under the sink, gophers tearing up my front lawn or the bathroom roof leaking. 

There was an issue during the heat of the summer last year when my swamp cooler wasn't cooling. With summer temperatures in the high 100's for weeks on end, the air that did come in through the vents was stagnant and smelling of mold. A swamp cooler uses water to cool the air inside the house. The interior temperature with the swamp cooler running constantly sustained 84 degrees or higher. 

How The Swamp Cooler Works

Swamp coolers when running efficiently cost significantly less to run than an air conditioner. Water fed through a pump sprays the large pads about 16"x 16" square, keeping the pads wet. The fan blows through the dampened pads which feed cooled air through the vents into the house. The pads need to be changed yearly because of the mineral build up from the water and the high desert heat that dry rot even rubber. 

The pads on my swamp cooler hadn't been changed in over four years. Jose refused to change them. He even bought the pads and had them at the house to do so. In the end, he changed his mind and said they didn't need to be changed. Instead, he changed out the water pump, which cost triple what the pads cost and that my neighbor said worked fine. Jose didn't like me making suggestions. I was a woman. He didn't respect the opinion of women. I urged him to put the new pads on even offering to pay the $12.00 to do so. He refused.

I told him that my neighbor had taken a look at the swamp cooler for me, he had been a maintenance man for an apartment complex and knew what he was talking about. The fact that I had someone else up on "his roof" made him angry. My neighbor had assured me that the pads needed to be changed and were the reason my house wasn't cooling. The air couldn't possibly pass through the mineral encrusted pads.

Jose said the pads were good. When I got nowhere with Jose directly, I went to Jose's wife who I had become friendly with and worked as the Manager of the Estee Lauder counter at the mall. My logical mind told me it was a good idea to talk to her. It wasn't.

I attempted to enlist her support to get Jose to change out the pads but received the opposite. My logic was false, clearly, I was attempting to avoid a confrontation due to my fear of him. My effort to gain a compadre caused an explosion. Jose didn't respect women. He called me in a fit of rage to say his name was on the lease, not his wife's I wasn't to talk to her about issues with "his" house. He yelled at me for twenty minutes, threatening me. He told me "If you don't like it leave!" 

He said he didn't need to fix anything he didn't want to. My fear of Jose caused me to create a situation that was safe for me. I'll go to the person I feel safe with, his wife. (Our logical mind tells us stories that don't usually make sense but we believe them anyway.)

His rage took me back to my fear of my father and other men who raged and drank. I was frozen. I wanted to escape, but the Universe would support me and hold my feet to the fire. I needed to move through this issue, rather than avoid it.


I had a neighbor change the pads that were calcified with hard mineral deposits and loaded with black mold and paid him $50.00 to do the work. I could have avoided the situation with Jose and his wife by doing this first. 


I was so intimidated after Jose's tirade that when I had a plumbing issue, I paid my neighbor to fix the problem and the swamp cooler, rather than calling my landlord. With the new pads on the swamp cooler, my house was cool, comfortable and my electric bills were cut in half. The swamp cooler didn't have to labor so hard to do its job. 

Shortly after my neighbor mentioned that he had adjusted the float on the swamp cooler; Jose didn't have it operating the way it should. I noticed water pouring off the back of the roof. I turned off the water to the swamp cooler and reported the problem to Jose. He didn't respond.  Two weeks later the ceiling in my back bedroom came crashing down onto the floor, sopping wet drywall, insulation, and smelling of mold. I had no choice but to call my resistant landlord, Jose. 

Jose showed up the following day to survey the damage. Had he responded when I told him about the leak originally, the roof damage might have been avoided. There was certainly a pattern of avoidance; mine and Jose's. That day he declared he would give me a brand new roof he also promised to paint the entire house and let me choose the color. He promised to be at my house on Friday. He didn't show up and didn't call. Instead, they began a day later as one of the crew was too hungover to work the previous day. 

The crew of five, spent an entire day on my roof in September removing the shingles. Jose offered liquid encouragement for his boys. They drank three cases of beer perched on the roof, tossing the beer cans onto the ground. 


My Repeating Patterns

• I had a penchant for quirky old houses that need  constant repair
• I attracted alcoholics - a father, boyfriend, husband, and now two landlords that were Jack-of-all-trades.
• I was accustomed to walking on eggshells with angry people.
• The water issues, leaks and backed up drains were a symbol of emotions that needed to be resolved about the past.
• I had a terrible fear of men like my father who yelled to intimidate women.
• Houses with constant water issues drain away money. My money was going down the drain.
• I felt I couldn't do any better. I was in fear of not being able to afford what was available on the market. (Sound familiar?)
• My daughter kept reinforcing my belief, telling me I needed to stay. "How will you ever find anyone who will accept you with all your animals, Mom?"

What I Had To Do

It takes 21 days of consistency to change patterns. Not only do we need to clear the energetic pattern, but we have to respond differently as well. I had to change my behavior and had to be consistent with mantras and thoughts to have lasting change. I had to reprogram my mind. My old way of dealing with men who yelled and intimidated me was to be intimidated and avoid conflict. I was afraid of yelling men. Instead, I needed to stand up to my landlord in a way that would get his attention. I had a choice, as we always do.

I Considered My Options

1. I could humble myself and go the legal route sending my landlord a certified letter that he could refuse or become enraged over, then take the certified receipt to the Housing Department and then they would look over my notes and decide what needed to be done.
2. I could hit him in the pocketbook to get his attention.
3. I could do nothing and stay in a place that was unsafe, unhealthy where my money was draining away.

I looked at all my options and chose door number 2. I knew hitting Jose in the pocketbook was the fastest way to get him to complete the unfinished work on the third bedroom. His wife called me and asked me when I would pay my rent three days after the due date in March. I told her I had paid it. She began asking further questions. I felt confident and strong. I asked her to have her husband call me, as he requested that I not talk to her about issues relating to "his" rental property.

Though Jose called me immediately, he was in Mexico tending to his ranch. When I explained I had deducted $500 for the five months I was without my third bedroom, he was dumbfounded. Since the house was 800 square feet and my rent was the same, I paid $300, devaluing my rent $100 for each month that the third bedroom was unusable. The third bedroom was 100 square feet. It made sense to me. 

To Jose however, he couldn't put a full sentence together. I had shifted the dynamic. I was no longer the complacent agreeable meek woman. I was finally growing a pair. He promised to see me the following Monday to do the repairs. He made good on his promise and did an incredible drywall plastering job. We chatted while he did the work. He tried to be angry with me, but I was friendly and affable. He never asked me for the $500. 

Amethyst Geode

The huge amethyst geode he had broken moving sheets of drywall was still in question. I couldn't prove he broke it, as I didn't see it happen. The fact that the bedroom door had been closed for five months and the geode had been in the back corner of my house for four-and-a-half years without ever falling over, didn't matter apparently. He would not pay me the $800 it cost to replace it.

I have no ill feelings toward Jose. He is doing the best he can to make a living to provide for his family and retire. He works very hard and plays equally hard. I also am very aware that Jose is a great gift to me. He is part of my life plan to transform, evolve and grow. He showed up to show me my pattern. I have tremendous compassion and gratitude for him and his family. I finally stood up to an angry yelling man with big energy without running away. YAY! YAY for me! I grew some cojones! I did it without having to yell, swear or get angry.

Manifesting A Beautiful, Safe Home

Placerita Canyon

For over a year, I had been asking the Universe, "How can I find a small home, perfect for me in a place I love, that will accept me with six animals that would be safe and affordable?" 

Alpharetta, Georgia 

On my way to a Oneness meditation with my friend Shannon, I asked the Universe after a particularly challenging day with Jose, "Who do I need to talk to about a place to rent?" I had a vision of Shannon's face. I asked her that night before we began to meditate. "I need to move, do you have any ideas or suggestions?" Shannon responded with a huge smile, "You can move into my guest house!" Shannon had been renting her apartment out on Air B&B and wanted someone in her place that was steady, rather than having to be responsible for the upkeep and cleaning of it herself. It was clearly a win-win for us both. 

I made sure that Shannon was okay with all my pets. She said she was. When I went by to sign the deposit form, I brought my dogs with me. They didn't want to leave. Karma was so happy to be around horses and wide open spaces with a green lawn and not just sand. My dogs confirmed for me that all was well with this situation. I paid a $500 pet deposit to her to hold the place. 

The Universe loves win-win situations!

To be honest, I love the approach to my friend's home. Every time I drove to her Oneness Blessing event I would revel in the natural beauty, trees, and houses. Shannon and her husband have a five-acre ranch with five horses, goats, and a miniature horse. She is a meditator, Oneness Blessing Trainer and on the same page spiritually as me. She is also a healer.

Her home is as beautiful as she is inside and out. Moving to her ranch would mean I would be 53 miles closer to Los Angeles which is of great benefit. The town of Santa Clarita is right around the corner from her; only ten minutes away. 

I wouldn't have to drive two hours to get to LA to do workshops and presentations. The homes surrounding her place were all beautiful and upscale. The only issue? The rent is double what I pay in the desert. I have to come up with $3,000 by May 1st for my first and last month's rent.

• My logical mind says I can't afford it.
• My heart says I'll be more prosperous living around prosperous people
• My dogs say, "WE LOVE THIS PLACE!"
• My guidance over a year ago was that I would leave this little house in the desert with only a few items. 
• Shannon's place is furnished!
• Again, I am being given the opportunity to shed unwanted belongings and begin anew in a much simpler way.

How To Overcome The Sticker Shock?

Maybe, just maybe I need to be closer to the people who can use and afford my services. Living in Santa Clarita puts me in front of a huge number of people who are interested in coaching and spiritual evolution. My dogs are in doggie heaven on her ranch. Karma is as happy there as she is at the beach. In fact, last night when I put both dogs in the car after touring her property, Karma didn't want to leave. She was stonily silent the entire ride home. She was letting me know she has already made the move to our new location!

The Ass-Kicker!

After making the decision to move to my friend's ranch in May (as soon as the Mercury Retrograde ends May 3rd), I walked to the post office and returned a short while later. I had left the house closed up. Without ventilation, I smelled urine. Sure it could be said, I have plenty of reason to smell urine, I have four cats! My intuition told me it was black mold. I immediately got on my computer and googled, "What does black mold smell like?" You guessed it, URINE! Mold that takes hold in the desert is tenacious as it has had to adapt to drier conditions.

All the rain the past six months that had pooled inside my ceiling and even poured down the interior walls of my little home had caused the drywall to become soggy and wet. Given that the attic and interior of the ceiling didn't see the light of day, the combination of the leaking roof has caused black mold to grow in the drywall and attic. I reported a leak to my landlord seven times since September of 2016.

The Universe Is Always And In Every Way Supporting Us

The Universe is making sure that I heed my intuition and move even though the rent is double. Connecting the dots, I had an alcoholic landlord who didn't want to fix things in Georgia. I ended up moving and losing everything I owned due to black mold. Again, in California, I have an alcoholic landlord, where I stood up to and changed my pattern allowing healing to occur. I am not afraid of Jose any longer. The drywall is just double insurance that I won't back down and will boldly move to a place that is double the rent with the faith that I will be supported as I always am. 

Why I didn't Report My Landlord

I checked with the Department of Health and the Code Compliance Department in my local government. I was told that the only thing they would make a landlord do once black mold is detected is to paint over the mold. Anyone who has had black mold knows that paint doesn't cure or kill mold. It was pointless for me to take any action that would be so useless. The Law of Karma will take care of this man. I don't have to make him pay The Universe will. It is the Universal Law.  

Truth

As long as we are in a human body we will be working on our issues. When we don't heal and clear issues we become stagnant and unhealthy. Physical ailments will surface until we eliminate the root cause which is always emotional in nature. When we declare we want total enlightenment and evolution, situations will continue to arise so that we can release the past and heal. When we let go of old hurts and limiting beliefs or patterns our energy is raised and we move to a higher level. Thinking we are "DONE" is quite funny. We will never be done until we become fully enlightened like Buddha or Jesus.

What patterns do you have that you have lived with your entire life? What are you avoiding? What are you still afraid of?

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Women Use The Golden Opportunity To Ask A Man Out

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

If you are single looking for a relationship, there are two mindsets. The first one is where we sit at home and hopefully dream and pray for an attractive man to fall out of the sky into our laps, and we will live happily ever after. The second and more grounded perspective is that if we want love we have to go for it. 

Don't get me wrong, I am a firm believer in the Law of Attraction even in the dating world. We get what we think and focus on. We also attract what we are. What if that opportunity for that perfect person for you presents itself and he doesn't ask for your number? We have to take matters into our own hands and make the first move. 

We might miss our Golden Opportunity here's why:

Unusual Ways To Meet High-Quality Men

1. Men can be shy and afraid of rejection. Men have been the sole risk taker for eons. Men have historically asked for a first date, asked for our hand in marriage. However, times have changed. We've changed. Men can be afraid of us women. 

Seriously, we women can be pretty scary at times. In fact, how many times have we yelled at a guy for whistling, ogling or making a move on us? Men don't know what women want. 

Asking a woman for a date, or to marry him all have a huge risk of rejection. While it is a scary thing for men to ask a woman out, taking a risk yourself can be rewarded. No matter your age, asking a guy out on a date can be the best thing you ever did.

Case in point: I attended a New Year's party with a friend. I met many people at the party, but one man stood out head and shoulders above the rest. I gave him my card after talking to him for two hours (which should have given him a clue I was interested), and he never bothered to call. He was a really nice man but had some deep insecurities. 

I took my experience on New Year's Eve as a lesson. If I like someone, I need to let them know it. Otherwise, I would feel like I missed an opportunity and would feel regret. I wrote about regret in Orgasm For Life.

The more we live our life with regret, the more regrettable moments we have. JEM

2. Sometimes men are totally clueless and don't pick up on our tossing our hair, intent interest in their every word or our cool demeanor which is meant to draw them in because we are so so hot! Making the first move can be the only way you get a second chance with someone you meet. Don't expect a man to understand or pick up on your queues. Many men are oblivious to body language.

3. Golden Opportunities don't come around every day. When you are presented with an opportunity, take the risk as there are only two ways it can go, he'll say yes, or he'll say no. If you never ask you may leave the party, gathering or grocery store and never see him again. Take the risk rather than miss out on the love of a lifetime.

4. There is always a risk in love. Those events in our life that are monumental and life changing don't happen every day. Whether it is publishing your first book, a blog, starting a new business or telling your family you are gay, we have to risk to get what we really want. To have love we have to step out of our little box of comfort and risk everything. We have to risk someone seeing us completely naked and authentic. We have to risk someone not loving us to have someone love us like we've never been loved before. 

Playing it safe isn't going to get you that amazing jaw-dropping and heart-stopping butterflies or incredible sex, deep connection and bliss of being with a person who exceeds your expectations on all levels. 

To have love we have to risk it all.

5. Better to live with a bruised ego than to miss your Golden Opportunity that may only come once in a lifetime. Don't live your life with regret because of some old rule book about what women shouldn't do. Regret is a terrible thing. Regret is what we feel after we see someone amazing, handsome, intelligent, funny, sexy, talented and then leave without letting him know, "I'd love to have coffee or tea with you some time and just share stories."

When we don't reach for and grab that brass ring, the next time another opportunity might present itself like this one could be never.

I deserve it! Yes I do!
I am worth it! Yes I am!
I am loveable! Oh HELL YES!

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By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

“Peace is the result of retraining your mind to process life as it is, rather than as you think it should be.” ~Wayne Dyer

The more we try to change a situation, the more we suffer. The more we resist, fight and protest what is present in our world, the more we suffer. Change happens because it is needed. Chaos is always present in our world.

The Law of Chaos And The Universal Law of Order

The Law of Chaos and Order are simple. When we fight the flow of The Universe, we suffer and chaos ensues. When we embrace the ebb and flow of change order results. 

Situations happen. We can't see the end-game because we are in the middle of the situation. We can only see what is occurring in the present. We might be in fear because of what we don't know. Once we trust that all is well and in Divine Order, the fears fall away. Chaos and order work together for our good.

We might feel a penalty should be called, but we aren't in control of others actions. For something new, different and of a better design to be birthed the old has to fall apart. Experiencing this feeling of change can cause us to feel uncertain or worried. 

Don't Like The Way Things Are Going?

Maybe your partner divorced you. Perhaps your kids smoke pot. Maybe your mother won't validate you. Maybe your boss is a bitch and treats you like crap. We might end up divorced and then have regrets that we didn't try harder. The shadowy parts of humanity that have not been dealt with are playing out in our global events. If you are triggered by our current events, you have inner work to do.

An emotional reaction to events in our outer world is due to unfinished business within ourselves. If we feel triggered, or upset about something it is because there are parts of ourselves that need love, forgiveness, and release so that they can be healed. 

The Universe Supports You And All Life

The Universe was designed to support life and growth. If we don't learn from the past the present and future will challenge us even more. Each event that occurs is another lesson for us to grow and evolve. Each time we resist, fight or joust at windmills we suffer. 

Change is inevitable. Suffering is optional. JEM

Truth

1. The Universe isn't out to get you. 
2. The Universe doesn't make mistakes.
3. The more you resist, the more pain you experience.
4. The more you try to control or change the outcome the more you suffer.
5. Instead of being upset about others actions that you can't control be in childlike wonder. "I wonder what he'll do or say next?"

If you aren't happy with what is going on in your outer world, check inside and see what work needs to be done to let go of control or fear. Under all the hoopla, protests and struggle is a Divine plan that will create needed change.

Soul First Aid

Your soul is a Divine expression of love, therefore, your soul is happiest when it is giving and receiving love and in gratitude. 

1. Breathe deeply. Slowing your breath and breathing deeply will help you to release tension and stress, raise oxygen levels, help
   
   you overcome depression and help you get grounded.
2. Get out in nature! Sit down on a rock, beach or the earth to ground yourself. If you can walk on the earth or grass barefoot. We are energetic beings. When we move into fear we tend to be out of our body therefore, ungrounded and scattered. Breathing will help you come back into your body, as will sitting or walking on the earth. Barefoot is best if you can. Touch your
   
   forehead to a tree trunk and ask the tree to take away your pain and suffering. You will be surprised how much better you feel after doing this simple exercise. Say "thank you," to the tree!
3. Quiet the debilitating mind chatter. Mental chatter can increase stress levels, anxiety, cause us to spin in a fearful spiral downward that can create panic attacks and depression. Quieting the mind chatter can be done by listening to one of my podcasts on my FREE APP. 
4. Be in gratitude. Gratitude will help to raise your vibration and take you out of fear by writing down all your blessings. We create more positive flow into our lives when we are grateful for what we have currently. When we complain we block the flow and create more situations in our life that are negative. There are many powerful reasons to be grateful and write these blessings in a notebook. Writing is more powerful than thought. We can channel our higher self with a pen and paper and tap into our Divine connection.

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The Courage To Thrive

Do You Complain and Wonder Why You Aren't Happy?

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

It is interesting that we are living in the 21st Century with the highest level of technology yet so many people are depressed and unhappy. If you wonder why you are so unhappy with your life, perhaps you are like my daughter. Maybe you are angry that things didn't go the way you planned. Maybe just maybe you feel that your life sucks.

The following is a true story. 
Whether you want love, success or money, there is one big SECRET to having what you desire. 
It isn't luck.
It isn't being born with a silver spoon in your mouth.
The way to have everything you want is governed by

ONE THING.

In my life, I have manifested houses, cars, love, marriage, and even a special baby girl when I was told I couldn't have any more children. I have manifested places to stay for free in one of the most sought after vacation spots in the United States. I have manifested trips to Bali Indonesia out of thin air. Each year, my income has doubled, and I am grateful to my clients for all that they have given to me.

Gratitude is what keeps the energy flowing and the good on its way to you. JEM

If you complain about your spouse or partner, you will lose the love you have. Complaining about your spouse leads to divorce. For each one negative comment you make to your partner, it takes ten positive comments to make up for the negative. Instead, bless your spouse. Count the blessings you have and all their wonderful qualities.

Only when we have loving thoughts do we receive and feel love. JEM

If you complain, bitch, or moan about your job you will not give your all and might end up being fired, or being made redundant. 

If you complain about your home, you might lose that too.

Complaining is one of the most derisive things that we can do. Complaining illustrates a lack. Complaining brings more negative circumstances to you faster than anything. Complaining ruins luck. Complaining steals your magic.

Sure, it's easy to complain. Each of us has plenty to complain about. When we complain though the lack that we are experiencing is GRATITUDE.

Without gratitude, we are missing the magic sauce. Gratitude is the one thing that will bring you love, when you have none. Gratitude will have a client or check show up when you need it most. Gratitude creates magic in all areas of our lives. 

Gratitude will turn your negativity into love. JEM

Ariel with her father, Rich

I'll share a personal story with you to illustrate my point. If you have been following me for a while, you already know that my ex-husband died in 2012. Yes, I predicted his death and wasn't the least bit happy when it happened. Since Rich left the planet, my daughter who is now twenty, has been experiencing a great deal of anger. She is outraged that her father died.

While she has been angry that her father died and angry that I said negative things about him before I woke up, I have been supporting her, helping her wherever I could. I paid phone bills, bought her clothes and paid rent when she didn't have the money for it. I drove up to North Dakota to retrieve Rich's belongings and drive his Ford F 150 pickup back for my daughter to have.

During the time, she drove her father's truck, all she did was complain about how much it cost to fill the truck up and not being able to drive in the snow. She couldn't afford to drive the truck was
her common refrain. Last year, while in Colorado, I manifested a car for her, exactly what she wanted. You guessed it, she complained about that car too.

She complained about not being able to drive in the snow. She needed snow tires. My comment here is that I drove for a year in Colorado weather without snow tires in my little Honda and made it through the winter just fine.

While I was visiting a client in Denver this past December, he gave me two snow tires as a Christmas gift and offered to install them on my car. I was very grateful to him for the lovely gift and asked if he wouldn't mind giving them to my daughter instead. I had just purchased two all weather tires for my car and felt very comfortable with them.

Almost every time I spoke to Ariel she mentioned how her car really needed snow tires. I felt my daughter really needed them more than I did. He kindly allowed me to retrieve my daughter's car and the following day he installed the snow tires on her Toyota. I felt sure Ariel would be pleased that she finally got what she wanted.

Within a week of receiving the tires, she got a flat. She called me looking for help on the side of the road nearly in hysterics. She didn't know what to do as she was on her break from work. I was in Denver at the time, but too far to help her get to a tire store. She reminded me that this was her fourth flat tire in a year.

Our car is symbolic of our physical body. Tires are symbolic of our feet. She asked me why she has had so many flat tires. I remarked carefully that Source lets us know when we haven't learned our lesson because we keep repeating it, kind of like in the movie with Bill Murray, Ground Hog Day.

The fact that Ariel had four flat tires was because she was being shown she was on the wrong path. She was either working in the wrong line of work, or in the wrong relationship. Her focus was not on gratitude for what she had, but rather stress and worry about what she didn't have.

Where we walk is indicative of our journey. If we continue to walk in a direction that doesn't support our soul's journey, we will find all kinds of evidence; hence the four flat tires.

Ariel was given a truck for free that she complained about. I managed to get her a car - that she didn't have to pay for and all she did was complain about it. My darling daughter wasn't expressing gratitude for what she was given. She was complaining instead. Her
gifts were taken from her in some ways. The car wasn't driveable. More money had to be spent to make it driveable. Even when she was given the very thing she asked for - SNOW TIRES, she complained. The gift was taken away - with a flat tire.

If you have a relationship and all you do is complain about him or her, your love will be taken away.

If you want a relationship and all you do is complain about not having one, you won't find love.

If you complain about your job, clients or work you will find that you won't give your all, to your work, your negative complaining attitude will cause more negative circumstances like flat tires and problems, your income will diminish or shrink or completely disappear because you aren't grateful for what you have.

Everything that we have is a gift. Our health is a gift. Our life is a gift. If you complain about your body, your face, your weight you are not grateful for your life or health. Complaining about your body and health will decrease your vitality. People who are grateful live seven years longer than people who are not.

The SECRET SAUCE is Gratitude. 

If you want more money - be grateful for the money you do have.
If you want a better car, be grateful for the car you have.
If you want love - be grateful for the love that you have, or that is on it's way to you.

I am a master at manifesting. I help people manifest love, success, and happiness. If you are ready to boost your confidence, success or find the love you know you so deserve, give me a call. I help you become happy with your life, your relationship and find gratitude to keep the good coming! I am your secret sauce for your amazing life. I can help you find it, and if you do what I suggest you will be able to keep that love and happiness and grow it till you are ready to leave this beautiful planet. 

How do I do it? I clear away all the beliefs that are standing in your way and lift you up so that you begin to feel that amazing expansive feeling that is your soul within you. I help clear the path for you to express your true amazing self and life's purpose. Make 2017 your best year yet. Invite me into your life to help you have the love you so desire and the success that is available to you but keep eluding you.

Join me in my 28-day Gratitude Challenge and bring magic into all areas of your life. It isn't too late to begin. It's never too late!

I wish you the best year yet!

Much Love,

Jennifer

This video was sent to me by a dear client. I think you'll enjoy it!

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