How often do we rush into a session of sex without being completely present? 50% of the time? 60% of the time? All of the time? Think about your last tryst. For those of you who are unfamiliar with what a tryst is, I am referring to a roll in the hay, sexual congress, coupling, rogering, boinking. Whatever you call it, sexual union can be greater than ourselves when we make it mindful, and are completely present.
We Have Contact!
Instead of just doing the physical part, look each other in the eyes. Really SEE each other. We connect to each other's souls through
our eyes. Eye contact is often not part of lovemaking at all because people don't feel secure enough, or are afraid to be completely seen authentically for who they are by another person. Even those who have been together for years, forget to look their partner in their eyes. Try it, you may love it! Let me know how it worked for you.
Think You Have Too Much Monkey Chatter?
sit still, turn off your cell, television, computer and stop talking for 10 minutes you are GOLDEN!
place. However, the most common place for me to meditate is in my bed. I love my bed, it is quiet, soft, comforting and I feel at peace there. I don't meditate lying down, as I would fall asleep. Meditation is an awareness, being more present, awake and conscious than normal. I have witnessed Buddhist monks meditating on beaches, in parks, where there are plenty of people, children playing, it does not matter.
with clients who tell me the same thing when they begin. Many have come to a place of no thought. This is a fantastic place to be. I teach my coaching clients meditation, because it is such a helpful tool to finding peace within. The three exercises to quiet the mind have been provided because everyone is different. What works for one, might not for someone else.
- Close your eyes. Envision a laser entering through the back of your head at the base of your neck. Envision this laser exiting through the top of your forehead. Sit for about 5 minutes, just envisioning the laser coming through the top of your forehead (where your hair line should be).
- Sit with your head straight. Do not raise your chin as you do this exercise. Turn your eyes upward toward the ceiling, without moving your head upward. Only your eyeballs are turned upward to look at the ceiling. The muscles in your eyes will pull a little. This is good for your eyes, we rarely exercise them in this way. Sit for about 5 minutes with your eyes turned up looking at the ceiling and begin your meditation now.
- This third exercise is call the balloon meditation. Envision a balloon above your head. Every time a thought floats by, put it in the balloon. As another thought comes in, just say, "Oh that's another thought..... I'll just put it in the balloon." The key is to not beat yourself up, as that focuses on the thought, creating more thoughts.
Focus On Your Breath
here if you wish to examine these further. I recommend keeping it simple. The Gyan mudra is easy, quick and known by most. Each mudra does something different for the physical body and emotions. Mudras can help clear up physical disturbances. They focus on the 5 elements, earth, wind, air, fire, Aakash (ether). There are Hindu mudras and Buddhist mudras. The Buddhist mudras are a little more complex.
- The first one is the Gyan mudra. Bring the tip of your thumb and index finger together to form an "O," pictured here. This mudra is effective in cases of mental ailment, helps you to feel happy, increases memory & intellect, calms the mind.
- Apaan mudra. Helps clear the body of waste from ears, nose, eyes, mouth. Helps when urine is obstructed and helps with constipation. Join the tip of the thumb with the tip of the middle and ring finger, keeping the other fingers straight.
- I am love.
- I love me.
- I am the light of The Divine, inside me.
- Wahe Guru. (elevates the spirit)