By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters
Unfortunately in the real world that is not what gets a woman over the orgasm hump. In fact, putting pressure on a woman to come on command, may perpetuate the problem further. Telling a woman to come, puts incredible pressure on her to perform. Can you imagine guys if your woman looked at your package and demanded, "Get hard, right now!" or "COME RIGHT NOW!" Could you, on command? Most men however, in the heat of the moment when asked to come, can.
What works for men, however, does not work the same way for women. We are wired very differently. In fact, men have been wired to orgasm easily and quickly. This way they are able to procreate, spreading their seeds faster and further. Women have been wired, NOT to orgasm, because orgasm creates acidity in the vagina which kills sperm.
It is funny what men think excites women. I found a blog and e-book written by a man who is teaching men that all you have to do is keep grinding away (before she is wet) and she eventually will be.... then in a sultry voice, tell her to come, just like pushing a button, there you go, she orgasms!
Unfortunately in the real world that is not what gets a woman over the orgasm hump. In fact, putting pressure on a woman to come on command, may perpetuate the problem further. Telling a woman to come, puts incredible pressure on her to perform. Can you imagine guys if your woman looked at your package and demanded, "Get hard, right now!" or "COME RIGHT NOW!" Could you, on command? Most men however, in the heat of the moment when asked to come, can.
What works for men, however, does not work the same way for women. We are wired very differently. In fact, men have been wired to orgasm easily and quickly. This way they are able to procreate, spreading their seeds faster and further. Women have been wired, NOT to orgasm, because orgasm creates acidity in the vagina which kills sperm.
Maybe women need to be more vocal. The reason women aren't talking is because we don't want to hurt you. So much of a man's self esteem is based on his virility and ability to pleasure his woman. If you aren't doing it the way she needs it, your woman is more than likely faking it.
Going on websites where men are attempting to teach other men, is like the blind leading the blind. Seriously, who would you rather take advice from a woman who has been non-orgasmic and knows the physiology of a woman's body, and what is needed, or a man who THINKS he does?
Women love having men that multi-task. They can kiss and lick and bite a nipple at the same time as they are using their nimble fingers on their sensitive clitoris or gently inside their vagina.
TAKE HER OFF THE CLOCK
If you can get her to relax and not worry about the time, she can focus on her own pleasure. Focusing on how long it takes, is why many women don't unwind enough to orgasm. They are so worried they are taking too long, worried about you, are you getting tired, impatient or concerned about the time, rather than focusing on the situation at hand, so to speak.