Orgasm For Life: Death During Sex

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

The following is an excerpt from my second book, Orgasm For Life. 

The Big Death

Jennifer Elizabeth Masters in Colorado

The French call orgasms, la petite mort, due to the way people many lose consciousness or life force directly after orgasm. One of my most traumatic and life-changing sexual experiences was a big death. It is one most women don’t want to talk about: the man I loved, died right after making love. 

It was certainly not my intention. He wasn’t complaining while we were making love. There was nothing that would have led me to believe anything was amiss. I was in my late 40’s, my partner was 52. After telling me he loved me and would never leave me, he did just that. He left me, but he had to die to do it. 

You could say that is going to extremes to end a relationship. Although in his defense he died a very happy man. All his friends wanted to meet the woman that sent their brother off - literally, with a huge smile on his face. It is the way many men dream of dying. 

Having a man die during or immediately after doing the horizontal mambo can leave you scarred, afraid of a repeat performance and deeply traumatized. (I now choose my men very carefully, ensuring their heart is strong.) When it is someone you feel a deep connection and love for, it takes years to overcome. Years

John Armbruster with Ariel, November 2001

later, I wrote about my experience in Odyssey Victim to Victory. Having a healthy heart and body with regular check-ups is imperative. Blocked arteries and wild sex are not a healthy combination. I recommend blood work yearly. (See additional resources at the back of the book.) You don’t want your heart to explode.

In my relationships, I felt unsafe to express my personal needs or requirements to improve the quality and pleasure for myself. Over 80% of the time, I did not have orgasms. I had difficulty letting go, trusting and feeling confident. Being fearful can block orgasm from occurring. The more confidence a woman has, the easier it is for her to let go. Looking back now, I wonder what the heck I was so afraid of. If I had the courage to speak up then, maybe I could have enjoyed life more as well as sex. I found that when I made requests, I sounded like a dictator, which went over like a dominatrix at a Mary Kay convention. I did not know how to voice my feelings without reactivity or emotion. I didn’t realize how profoundly my childhood trauma affected me sexually until years later. 

I am committed to helping women heal their lives and love themselves fearlessly. Fearless living and loving is our birthright. I help women heal their sexuality as it is a part of who we are. If you don't love yourself enough to have sex with your partner, there are self-esteem issues involved. Loving relationships involve sex, compassion, acceptance, loving touch, appreciation, respect and trust. 

Aphrodite Effect is all about the effect of LOVE on all that we do. Venus was the Greek Goddess of love. She was an ageless beauty, powerful, strong, sexual and knew who she was. She loved herself

fearlessly. Love gives us power, ageless beauty and deep connection. Set up your FREE discovery session with me here. JenniferElizabethMasters@gmail.com

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