Our biggest source of struggle and challenge is in our relationships. Yet relationships are where we experience the most growth.
Relationships can bring us unlimited joy and happiness when they work. But when they go wrong they bring us so much pain and suffering. No relationship is perfect. Being in a soul-mate or Twin Flame relationship does not guarantee a struggle free one.
Lack of communication is the biggest source of discontent within a relationship. Without good verbal communication, there will be issues in the bedroom. Sexual issues are the first sign that things aren't working. If you stop having sex, the next step is an affair. When your schedule is laden with appointments, with little or no time to communicate, and without room to listen you are not making the relationship important. Listen to your partner. Really listen. Be present with your partner when they have something to say to you. Listen with an open heart. Hear what it is that your partner is saying, without thinking of what you need to say. Make eye contact and hear what they are saying. Listen to what is behind the words. Some of what your partner is not saying is as important as what is being said. There is meaning in hearing someone's pain. What is behind the words? Treat them like they are someone who matters.
One of the biggest issues in our society today is that we don't listen to our partners and don't listen to our children. What is particularly troubling is that fathers spend less than 7 seconds a day with their children. This is descriptive of our living. No one is exempt. The word lonely means the absence of people. Yet, the feeling that you don't matter or are insignificant makes you feel lonely. Not being given attention even in a house full of people will leave you feeling lonely and alone. Having someone listen to us shows caring. This is a powerful way to be in a relationship. Show your partner you care about them by making what they have to say important to you.
To focus on the positive, be slow to speak and slow to anger. Before speaking words of condemnation, criticism or negativity, think. Focus on the positive. Most of all listen to your partner. Our greatest ability to care is what deepens a relationship.
The 8 Steps To Being Happy In Your Relationship:
- Relationships are the mirror into our souls. Whatever is going on in your relationship is a reflection of your internal struggle.
- Let go of expectations. Having expectations sets your partner and your relationship up for failure.
- Remember you are already perfect the way you are, so is your partner. Accept them as they are without trying to change them.
- Focus on the positive.
- Listen with an open heart.
- Bless your spouse every day.
- Look inside. Accept and love yourself unconditionally.
- Be grateful for what you have. The only way you will ever get out of lack consciousness is to be grateful for what you have currently without complaint.
Remember our relationships mirror our own issues back to us. Rather than believing that our partner is our issue, look inside. What is it that your partner is showing you about you? Remember everything is happening as it should. You are having this experience because you need to learn something from it. There is always a gift in the lesson.