21 Signs Of Insecurity Overcome These To Be Happy

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

One of the common denominators with all of my clients is that they are not comfortable in their own skin. Everyone has some issue with self-esteem. Those who are comfortable with who they are and secure will have more meaningful relationships as well as success. Those who are completely confident are self-actualized and enlightened usually, becoming our greatest spiritual leaders. 

Someone who is insecure will have difficulties in many aspects of life. It is next to impossible to be completely free of self-doubt. Becoming emotionally healthy and secure is a life-long process, that takes work, forgiveness and of course, self-love.

Confidence is something that happens slowly. Usually, as we gain wisdom through our life experience recognizing that life is orchestrating for you, rather than against you is a great factor and a leg-up to confidence. When young people find their way to confidence early, they will also find success circumventing the struggles that insecure people experience.

Meeting Your Destiny

The sooner you realize that happiness is something that you decide rather than obtain from outside of you through material possessions, weight loss, relationships or money the faster you will meet your destiny. Helping others reach their destiny is what I do on a daily basis.

Insecurity is destructive. To mask our insecurity, we will not be completely authentic, vulnerable or honest with ourselves and others. We use avoidance techniques so that we don't feel our feelings fully when we are insecure. We attempt to make situations work with negative behaviors to get our needs met.

How Can We Decide To Be Happy?

When we choose to be happy, we begin to focus on the best options or possibilities rather than the problems and thrive instead of waiting to die. 

We make a choice when we stub our toe, wake up late or get stuck in traffic how we will react. We can be angry, upset or decide that there is some higher plan in place and reason for what is happening. When we become watchful of our circumstances rather than feeling like a victim we recognize we are co-creating our reality on a daily basis with our beliefs, thoughts, and emotions.

The Signs of Insecurity

1. You seek validation and approval from others. Secure people validate themselves from within. Insecure people are overly concerned about what others think of what they do, wear, say and even feel. This need for validation comes from not being seen, heard or validated by our parents. Whether our parents validated us or not is not the question, but rather your perception of what occurred in childhood.
2. You doubt yourself. A secure person trusts themselves and their decisions. An insecure person will be wishy-washy going back and forth even seeking the approval or insight from others before making a decision. Even after receiving input from others an insecure person will still not be sure they are making the best decision for themselves. This doubt extends to relationships, purchases, and trusting intuition.
3. You are selfish. A secure person fills themselves from within, doing spiritual practices like meditation, exercise and other activities alone.You may be self-seeking, looking for attention,  love, accolades, and possessions. 
4. You don't feel worthy. A secure person knows that they are worthy. An insecure person feels inadequate and not good enough. They judge and criticize themselves and others.
5. You don't feel loved and accepted. A secure person loves and accepts themselves with all their flaws and faults. An insecure person focuses on what is wrong with them, their pimples, fat, stupidity and other negativity.
6. You seek perfection. It isn't enough to do your best at your job, as a parent, or in your work, you strive to be perfect. Perfection isn't possible and creates anxiety, struggle and eventually health issues. Self-discipline in place of perfection will help you get there. 
7. You feel as if people are looking at you. A secure person is absorbed in what they are doing rather than what others are. The focus on others looking at you, not liking you and not approving of you is destructive and debilitating. My catch-phrase is: What others think of you is none of your business!
8. You are overly accommodating. A secure person recognizes what their needs are and asks for what they want. An insecure person will say, "Whatever you want."
9. You hate to be alone. A secure person enjoys solitude and feels comfortable alone. An insecure person will surround themselves with activity, tasks and other distractions rather than be alone with themselves.
10. You feel uncomfortable in your own skin. A secure person is very comfortable being who they are wherever they are. They exude confidence and enter a room standing up straight, shoulders back, chest out feeling very comfortable no matter where they are. An insecure person may have shoulders hunched over trying to make themselves small and hide somewhere in a crowd.
11. You have addictions. A secure person has overcome addictions and healed the source: a lack of self-love. An insecure person uses drugs, alcohol, relationships, pornography, sex, shopping, food or activity like cleaning to feel better. Addictions stem from a rejection of the self or lack of self-love. Heal yourself through self-love and the addictions go away!
12. You feel life isn't fair. A secure person will take charge of their life going for what they want without worrying about what others think. An insecure person feels that the world owes them something when they don't get what they want they blame others. You probably also live in the past, rather than dwelling in the present, continuing to resent ex's, parents, bosses or even children for what they have done to you.
13. You feel like a victim. A secure person has resolved the past and recognizes that it was all an effort to get them to grow. They learned their lessons from the pain, suffering and challenges and has moved on through forgiveness. An insecure person continues to blame others for their lot in life and unhappiness and may even feel like a martyr. 
14. You long for someone else to love you so you can be happy.
15. You wish for the day when you can win the lottery so you will have happiness. When that day never comes, you blame the others that won instead. You may be unhappy your entire life because you feel that happiness will come in a ticket. 
16. You are envious of others. A secure person will be happy for other's success, while an insecure person will feel jealous.
17. You often feel left out or avoided by others. A secure person goes about their business without worrying about what others are doing, thinking or saying about them. An insecure person may wonder if they smell bad, or have some sort of plague. 
18. You stay in relationships that you know aren't supportive or going anywhere. A secure person will end a relationship that isn't supportive or when core values aren't in alignment even if love is present, as they know in the long-term the relationship will not survive. An insecure person hangs on for dear life for any relationship no matter how abusive or destructive because they are afraid no one else will love them or want them. (I used to do this. You can read my story of recovery in Odyssey Victim To Victory.
19. You are an energy vampire. Secure people create their own emotional energy from within. Insecure people draw emotional energy from others - draining those they love, causing fatigue from being around you. We do this unknowingly, from a desire of wanting to be filled up. Our lack of self-care and self-nurturing causes us to feel empty inside. We aren't empty we just feel this way.
20. You can't stand silence. A secure person revels in silence knowing that stillness and silence are food for the soul. An insecure person will have to have music, cell phone to text or talk to others, television or other distractions to feel comfortable. 
21. You feel the world is unsafe. A secure person knows that the world is a safe place and feels protected. An insecure person is afraid that danger lurks everywhere and may be suspicious of other's motives.

I have had all of these characteristics and many not listed here. I am here to help others find the happiness that I found through my thirty plus years of seeking, searching and healing. If you found this helpful, please share it with a friend. My business grows through referrals. So far I have helped thousands of men and women grow to their full potential, but there are millions out there that still need help. This is my soul purpose. I can help you find yours. Send me a private e-mail today so you can get started on your path to fulfillment and joy. 

Everything that happens does so for the good of our soul. The truth is we all have insecurities from events that occurred in childhood. Our parents did what they contracted with us to do so that we would learn what we came here to learn. Some people never get that this is part of the Divine Plan. 

We gain wisdom as we heal and transform our pain into joy. It is possible; I have done it myself. I had tremendous pain and suffering as you did in my childhood. I felt like a victim for over thirty years. Today, I thrive on solitude and quiet. I am happy alone or with a crowd. I feel comfortable in my skin and trust my Guidance. If you are ready to overcome your pain, suffering, and struggle, why don't you contact me now?

Jennifer is working on her third self-help book:

Happy Here, Happy Anywhere

The Step-By-Step Guide To Overcoming Anxiety, Depression and Unhappiness Without A Prescription!

If not now, when? Isn't it time you were happy with you, your life and had the love you deserve? I help you find the love that is already present within you by uncovering and clearing off the sh** that is in the way.

I love you!

Your Body Never Lies; Developing Your Intuitive Senses

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Long before I trusted my Guidance, I received messages that I was not aware of fully. Yawns, stomach gurgles, growls, an uneasy feeling, tenseness of the tummy all were my body's messages to me that I ignored. Till one day.....

I was working at GTE Services in Atlanta before it became Verizon, over 25 years ago. Yes, I did work in corporate America for a time. I was recently divorced and had moved with my two young sons into a three bedroom apartment after living in a 600,000 home in Sibley Forest an upscale subdivision with pool and tennis courts in Marietta, Georgia. 

I had been a stay-at-home mother for over nine years till the time of my divorce. I hired a nanny on the suggestion of one of my German friends in Sibley. The young nanny came highly recommended by my friend. She could even drive. The driving wasn't a big deal for me because I only had one car and drove to and from work daily. 

Towards the end of our first summer in the apartment, Adam begged me to let our nanny take them to Sparkles, a neighborhood roller skating rink and McDonald's. They had been confined to our apartment complex and bicycles the entire summer. Truthfully, I felt tremendous guilt about taking them out of their affluent subdivision and away from their father. My guilt led me to ignore strong signs from my body.

Each time Adam begged me, I tapped into the feeling of dread. My stomach dropped, and I felt huge anxiety about allowing them to go with our nanny to Sparkles. It wasn't that I didn't want them to have fun, I had to leave my car with a 20-year old entrusting the safety of my two sons. She assured me she was a good driver. Adam begged me again. Against my better judgment and body signals (huge anxiety and stomach dropping fear) I made arrangements to leave my car with Zonyia and allow her to drive the boys to Sparkles and McDonald's. Zonyia asked if a nanny-friend of hers could go with them. Again my stomach revolted with anxiety and gripping fear, which I ignored.

I got a ride to work early that morning with a co-worker. Before 11:30, my manager called me into his office. He told me that the Marietta Fire Department was on the phone, and my boys had been in an accident. My worst fears were realized. They were being transported to Scottish Rite Children's Hospital on backboards via ambulance! 

I recognized that my body was trying to tell me, no, was SCREAMING AT ME,  "NO!"

My Huge Lesson

My body tells me if I should or not do something. When faced with gripping fear in the pit of my stomach, I listen carefully and ask myself further questions. I never have since this day ignored strong messages that my body gives me. If I meet a man and get a strong message, "NO!" I won't go out with him, no matter how great he looks in his jeans!

The Power of Listening

Yawning is a message that you don't want to look at an issue. Yawning is avoidance personified. It means I don't want to do this, or look at this. I would rather hide away. 

Stomach Growling is another message that can be interpreted in many ways. Yes, it could mean you are hungry. However, the timing of the stomach growl could also be a sign of something else. Pay attention to when your stomach growls. Is it just that you are hungry, or is it a sign to pay attention to what is going on in your world?

Stomach Dropping is a big sign to listen to. If you feel gripping fear or tenseness in your stomach and a dropping as well, pay attention. This could be a powerful sign NOT to MOVE FORWARD in this direction. 

Body Guidance

When you are developing your intuition body messages are a way of learning whether your intuition is telling you something or not. I will say this; your body will never lie to you.

How To Use Your Body As A Human Pendulum

I will have to create a video to explain this, but here goes. I teach this to my clients to help them make decisions and deepen their trust of intuition.

1. Stand feet shoulder width apart. 
2. Cross your arms over your chest. Right hand on left shoulder, left hand on the right shoulder.
3. Ask yourself a question that you know the answer to, like your name? "Is my name _________?"
4. An affirmative, or YES answer will cause your body to sway forward.
5. A negative answer or NO answer will cause your body to sway backward. 
6. A maybe answer will cause your body to sway around almost in a circle.

Light or Aura Around Items

In my book, Odyssey Victim To Victory, I write about how I deepened my intuition and began to develop trust for it's efficacy or truth. When I had my landscaping business in Georgia, I would walk into my barn and see certain tools or tarps lit up with an aura around them. Over the course of a two-year period, I argued or

discounted this Guidance at least 20 times. I was very stubborn back then. I have since given up on this as I know and completely TRUST my Guidance to be truthful always. Yes, I said ALWAYS. I have NEVER received Guidance that was wrong. 

Food Items In The Grocery Store

I began to see food light up for me in the grocery store that I needed to consume. I have also heard a buzzer in my head, like, "NOPE THAT'S NOT THE ONE!" 

If you can't see auras just yet, don't be concerned, as you begin to use your intuition is will become more pronounced. Like muscles built through working out in the gym, anything you begin to use daily will become more pronounced and developed. 

What Type Of Guidance Can You Receive?

I have received the exact time and date to move out of a house to another state. Read about this here: Manic Move To The Mojave. 

I have received exact times to leave a place to drive home to California from Boulder. This timing saved me from a flood. Read the story here. Surfing Home From Boulder. 

Everyone Gets Guidance

Everyone has an internal compass. Everyone gets guidance through their body. Everyone can develop and trust their Guidance on a deeper level. 

I have had people tell me that this Guidance comes from The Devil. If that is true then why did Jesus have Guidance? Was Jesus from the Devil? How about David, Moses and many others. Humans have an innate guidance system that was God-given. Our gifts can't be bad if Divinely given.

Why Would You Want Guidance?

Receiving Guidance makes life easier. It makes decision-making infinitely easier. Choices, dating, are so much easier when you listen to and TRUST your Guidance. The problem is most people discount their Guidance like I did when my boys had their accident. We need to develop trust for this internal guidance system over time. Mine happened over years of receiving and recognizing that it was never wrong.

Dowsing

Dowsing is the use of a stick to find water, or a pendulum to seek answers. When a dowser is good, they can receive accurate answers to questions. Some of the things you can do with a pendulum is find out how beneficial a situation is for you. Using your body as a pendulum is another form of dowsing.

The Akashic Records

The Akashic Records are considered The Record Book of God. Everything that has ever happened, every thought, word, deed, and emotion is recorded since the beginning of time for each person's soul. 

I had heard about The Akashic Records many times before I decided to go to Bali to learn to read The Akashic Records. Learning to read The Akashic Records helped deepen my intuitive powers and hone my abilities. Now I sense, hear, see, smell intuitively. These are called:

Clairsentience
Clairaudience
Clairvoyance
Clairgustance

My sense is that the smelling part is something that you might have questions about. Following are a couple of ways I experienced smell recently in my sessions with clients.

Last week I did a session with a new client by telephone. I did a clearing for her as well as an Akashic Record Reading. While her records were opened, I did both. Towards the end of the session, I smelled burning sage. I knew I had not burned it recently, so I asked this client, "Do you have sage in your house?" They responded with a question like they didn't know what I was talking about at first. I knew my senses were never wrong, so I pursued. "I smelled burning sage, have you burned it recently." When I phrased the question differently, they responded, "Yes, I just saged my entire home yesterday!"

During an energy clearing for a woman's deep emotional pain with her father, I smelled dill pickles. She told me that her father's favorite was dill pickles. This confirmed to her that I was indeed communicating with her father. During this same session, I also smelled beef pot roast. She told me she was cooking a pot roast while doing the phone session with me. 

With intuition, there is not space or time. Intuition goes beyond walls, distance or worlds. We are limitless multi-dimensional beings of light. You just need to be reminded!

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