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Here I am with my eldest, Adam Gates, up close and personal in my car before I headed off to California. No neither of us are driving. We are parked and safe. I hope you enjoy this video.

Cosmic Knocks and Other Mercury Retrograde Events

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Mercury Retrogrades can bring delays, accidents, death, communication issues, old friends or lovers may surface from the past. This particular Mercury Retrograde sandwiched between a Lunar Eclipse and a Solar Eclipse in the United States has been one many may want to forget. For my family, it is one we will always remember.

Many have felt extreme fatigue, malaise even apathy about life and moving forward. This summer has been a time to turn inward, stay close to home and do little to attempt to expand out into the world. Thankfully, the current Mercury Retrograde ends in Leo on September 5th, 2017.

Returning to a place we have visited before is usually a safe bet, though if you fly during a Mercury Retrograde or travel by car there may be accidents, delays, traffic and flight delays. This past week I experienced all of the aforementioned. You could say I hit the trifecta of Mercury Retrogrades beginning six days after the Retrograde began with the death of my aunt Natalie, my mother’s 97-year-old sister who had been failing for the past two years or more. Mercury Retrogrades have taken out many people when they were teetering on the brink of death. 

I have heard several people lost pets, cats, guinea pigs and dogs during this retrograde period. My heart goes out to all of you who have had losses of loved ones both four-legged and two. I am so sorry for your loss. I send each of you love and healing energy.

The following events happened within a forty-eight hour period beginning Tuesday, August 29th on a return trip to Colorado to spend time with my daughter.

Leaving home at 5:30 in the morning, as I approached the Interstate I could see red tail lights for miles, which was not a good sign when headed to LAX one of the worst airports to travel to due to the heavy rush hour traffic. It is not unheard of to drive three or four hours in traffic and still miss your flight. I pulled over and quickly turned on WAYZ a GPS APP that seems to be better at real time traffic than any other I have tried. I listened to the directions getting off the highway and onto side roads that helped extricate me from the tangled traffic and motorcycle accident mess. I  managed to park my car in the off-site lot, remembering to take a photo of the nearest sign post so I would remember where to return after my trip ended.

I was grateful to be at the airport in plenty of time to make my flight. We landed slightly ahead of schedule in Denver after experiencing some scary turbulence which was a relief. The luggage took a long time coming off the conveyor belt. As soon as I saw my small suitcase I grabbed it and hightailed it to the curb to pick up my shuttle. It took me a minute to find where to find the van. I had prepaid. I asked an airport employee where I could find the shuttle then quickly crossed two lanes of traffic to get there. I sat down on the bench and asked the woman already seated if she knew whether the Super Shuttle stopped in front of us. She remarked that I had just missed it, only one minute earlier. “Oh shit,” I thought now what do I do? It was 1:03 PM. I intentionally didn’t rent a car. Denver is a city where buses and trains can easily get you almost anywhere you want to go.

I had luncheon plans with a client in Denver within the hour. The next shuttle wouldn’t arrive for another hour at 2:00. I had to quickly make other arrangements. Texting my client she responded with the departure time of the train. I had ten minutes to dash diagonally through the entire busy Denver airport to get outside down the escalator to the platform, buy a ticket and board. I knew I could do it but certainly didn’t have time to lollygag along the way.

I had a tightly booked schedule. A luncheon, a date, then meet my daughter at 9:00 PM after her shift at her restaurant then back to her apartment. Wednesday was the only full day I had in the Denver area we had plans to meet with my middle son David and his fiance´for dinner. I also wanted to take a run up to North Boulder to see my oldest son and his girlfriend while they were in the middle of moving out of their apartment.

I met my client in front of Union Station in Denver. The train ride had been one of community and conversation with my fellow passengers. I easily make conversation with strangers asking questions and discovering interesting things about people I meet wherever I go. One of my fellow passengers was from Iowa and worked for the railway, married and happy. Another was a man who had strong ideas about why the Danes were so happy. All their health insurance needs and college expenses were covered by the government. He wanted to move to Denmark. He was an amputee and a dialysis patient. He rode a bicycle and was proud to have a viable life, wife, and work. I told him I would pray for him. He needed a kidney transplant. Wherever I go, interesting conversations happen and I engage with those around me, it is part of what brings me joy. A word, a smile a prayer can make all the difference in someone’s day.

I waited in front of Union Station in downtown Denver only minutes before Jennifer arrived. We walked past her car, dropped off my suitcase and enjoyed our time together over lunch. My date met us afterward and transferred my suitcase into his waiting car. Within two hours of arriving in Denver, I was off to Boulder with a handsome man. We had a lovely time together walking around Boulder stopping here and there for a meal, a shop and a coffee. By 9:00 I was hugging my daughter. What a wonderful day!

Wednesday we shopped for a gift for my son David’s fiance´ Danielle’s birthday and joined them for a delicious Indian meal at the Yak and Yeti restaurant. After dinner, Ariel asked me what I do and we chose to drop by Adam while he was packing up his apartment in preparation for his 10:00 PM when WHAMMO! We were hit from behind.

Cosmic Knocks

Ariel had just asked me did I feel she would be able to buy a house this year. I replied, "No only is it possible, it is probable!" WHAMMO! Our car was flung forward into the intersection as we were the first car at the light. The woman who hit us was apparently head down into her texting and had no idea that the light had turned red. She hit us while we were stationary at 30 miles per hour, said the police.

Ariel as our ambulance arrived at the hospital

We were thrown forward then back into the headrest, fortunately, both of us had seat belts firmly fastened. In unison, we exclaimed, "What the fuck?" Ariel was out of her seatbelt and walking back toward the totaled Chrysler behind us, yelling "What the fuck is wrong with you?" then burst into tears. We were both in shock. Our airbags did not deploy, but the woman's car behind us was filled with a cloud of dust from hers. She was clearly bewildered wondering what the heck happened?

We were very lucky. I was grateful we only had whiplash and concussions, though a head trauma has long-reaching implications. My chest hurt from the seatbelt, we had instantaneous headaches, then nausea and felt the strain of being thrown violently forward in our necks. We were able to walk, talk and moreover we were alive!

We both experienced neck and head pain, then nausea and felt the strain of being thrown violently forward in our seats. We were able to walk, talk and moreover we were alive! We were very lucky. I was grateful we only had whiplash and concussions, though a head trauma has long-reaching implications. My chest hurt from the seatbelt, we had instantaneous headaches.

Mercury Retrograde was in full force. Delays, traffic, an accident on the way to the airport, my aunt Natalie transitioning, our accident, missing the shuttle, all of it even returning to Colorado where I once lived with my daughter and son were Mercury Retrograde events.

Ariel’s first accident was like mine, with her mother. I was three-and-a half, Ariel was twenty-one history was repeating itself as it often does during a Mercury Retrograde. Was this karmic? Perhaps. Karmic events repeat until they are cleared.

We rode to the hospital together in the ambulance a first for us both. The paramedics were busy taking our vitals and found our heart-rates were exactly the same 84 they mentioned that the apple didn’t fall far from the tree. We joked with them about how hot we both looked all dressed up for our dinner; they were kind and attentive. Ariel’s boyfriend was nervously following our ambulance arriving at the hospital as we did. He showed us both his love, devotion, and compassion spending time with each of us till we were taken away for tests. Both Ariel and I were put in neck braces for whiplash and thoroughly examined with x-rays and CT scans. Ariel remarked that she felt bad about the accident. It wasn’t her fault. We were still spending quality time together, just different than what we both imagined.

Epilogue

On our final day together, Ariel cooked a delicious roasted dinner and my favorite, peach pie. I have to say, as good a baker as my mother is, Ariel’s pie was the best I have ever tasted! The

crust was crispy and melted in my mouth. The peaches were perfect. Her culinary educated had served her well. She is well on her way to being a great baker and having her own bakery in Colorado, I see it clearly.

I burst into tears as the ground attendant checked me in for my flight. I was so emotional I couldn’t speak when she asked me my name. Shock and head trauma can make us emotional, I certainly was that. My return flight was delayed, which appeared as a final Cosmic Joke from the Universe highlighting my beliefs to me. Next Mercury Retrograde, maybe I will shift my belief and opt out of the effects of Mercury Retrograde as my editor has done. 

Our beliefs are what govern our lives. Perhaps it is my belief in Mercury Retrograde that causes my outer world to react and prove to me what it is in my unconscious mind. I think I’ll clear that energy so I don’t repeat it again. We landed in Los Angeles safely at 8:30 PM Thursday evening. It had been less than forty-eight hours, yet it felt like an entire week. I said another prayer of gratitude for our safety and well-being.

It is my prayer that you are safe and well. I am very grateful that we were supported and protected. I am grateful to Josh, Ariel’s boyfriend for his concern and love for my daughter. I am so grateful for my family and clients. Ariel and I continue to recover slowly. Brain trauma can affect so many functions even causing depression and anxiety. The shock from an accident can have lasting implications. Energy clearings help alleviate all these symptoms while we both take things slowly.

If you would like to set up your session to clear karmic events or issues do so quickly before my current special ends, September 5th. Send me a message and I will honor this special till September 12th due to life events.

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By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

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The Remarkable Similarities Between Horses and Humans

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Recently, I have been helping my friend on her horse ranch. I have always loved horses, having cared for retired rescued polo ponies in Alpharetta, Georgia in the past. My friend, Shannon has been teaching me how to earn a horse's respect, something that shocked me. I found that horses and humans are very similar in many regards.

In my coaching practice, I encourage my clients to speak up and self-advocate. Many people with low self-worth have difficulties speaking up for themselves, especially when no didn't mean no when they were a child. Other humans sense a weakness and take advantage (more on this later). When we aren't able to say what we want, we rarely get it. Is it any wonder? Humans will push until the other person says stop. If the weak-willed individual doesn't speak up, there is no boundary in place and hence no respect.

Horses are very perceptive. If you feel afraid, they know it. If you don't immediately make a strong stand with a horse and let them know who's boss, they will not listen. They will act as if you aren't even there. When a horse weighs 1,200 pounds getting a horse that is unwilling to move is impossible. 

English rider with a crop

Shannon instructed me to show up in the horses stall with a crop under my arm. I hesitated at first because it seemed inhumane. However, having my foot stepped on and injured certainly didn't seem humane either. As soon as I entered the stall with a crop in hand and said, "Over," the horse willingly moved. In fact, the horse was so willing, I felt ten feet tall. It was as if he said, "Oh I didn't hear you before you held that crop in your hand." It was easy to get the horse to do what I wanted with the aid of the crop as I had the horses attention and respect.

When we don't speak up for ourselves, we aren't respected. When we aren't respected, we are in the lowly position of less than in the eyes of the other person. It is human nature to take advantage when the other person has no boundaries or limits. When we say no in ways that don't sound like no, the other hears, "YES!"

If we have been sexually molested, raped or abused setting boundaries and limits can be a huge challenge for us. Working with me, I help you recognize how important it is to have firm boundaries and know what you are willing to do and not do. 

Ways We Say Yes When We Mean No

1. "I don't think this is a good idea." (the other hears YES)
2. "I am not ready."
3. "I'll think about it."
4. "I'm not sure about this."
5. "I don't know."
6. "I don't think so."
7.  "Not right now."
8. "I don't feel comfortable with that."

Any of the above statements leaves a door open for further pushback.

Ways To Say No

1. "No."
2. "No thank you."
3. "I am not able to."
4. "Not now, not ever!"

When we don't have healthy boundaries, we are the one that ends up angry and resentful not the other. JEM

Dating and Boundaries

If you are on a date and don't know what you are comfortable with, you will go beyond your comfort zone and do things you regret and may feel ashamed about later. Shame and guilt are the lowest vibrational emotions a human can have. Setting boundaries and limits though challenging isn't permanent. We can make positive changes by working with someone who has strong boundaries and recognizes that no didn't mean no for you in the past and will help you overcome the old patterning in your unconscious mind.

Boundaries in Relationships

If you don't have healthy boundaries and are in a relationship - even a friendship you may find you give too much, give too much and try to please the other person. At first, it could feel good to give. After you find yourself giving away the farm you will feel ripped off which leads to resentment and anger. Anger is a sign your boundaries have been crossed. 

Boundaries With Children

Children need to know the difference between right and wrong. If we don't tell them to stop, they keep going. If a child jumps on you and hurts you-you have not said "NO," strongly enough. If a child keeps pushing for something trying to break down your resolve there is no respect. 

Business Partnerships and Dealings

If you don't have healthy boundaries and have a partnership, your partner will most certainly take advantage of your soft spot. You might be ripped off, or feel resentful because you end up getting the raw end of your business dealings. You may have customers that push your limits expecting you to say stop. Without firm boundaries of what feels good and what doesn't, there are many ways your business could fail, and you could loose. 

What Can You Do For Yourself?

Watch others who demonstrate healthy boundaries. Learn from the way they catch you immediately and give you instructions for what they want. They don't wait a week or two till they are angry because of what was done, they mention it at the moment. 

Read a book about boundaries. There are many of them on Amazon. 

Hire a coach to overcome this serious issue. You will be much happier when you are able to advocate for yourself and set healthy limits and boundaries with everyone. Your family will be happier as a result. 

Jennifer is a private coach, hypnotherapist, and healer that helps people work through their issues to live happier, healthier lives. 

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Self-Acceptance and Non-Judgement Are Key to Happiness

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

James Franco-loving himself

Self-acceptance is about loving ourselves as we are with all our warts, faults and foibles. Everyone has weaknesses and strengths. 

Non-judgment is resting in our heart without making a determination of how we think things are. Judgment is often cruel, heartless and often prejudiced. 

We can look at others and make judgments based on how they look. For example, last night I attended a gathering where there were individuals in their early twenties and some in their mid to late sixties. When one young man took his shift off to enter the pool an older gentleman judged him on the tattoo art he displayed on his back. The young man was viewed as dark and dastardly because in a moment he chose a particular shape to be tattooed. Making a judgment about someone's character without knowing what is in their heart is unjust and prejudiced. 

Insecure people strive to be perfect, while those who accept themselves do so as they are, without attempting to be perfect. Perfectionism leads to anxiety, stress and even depression because it is impossible to reach the goal of perfection. Perfectionism can cause us to remain stuck and stagnant rather than improve in the areas where we lack expertise. 

Men and women come to me for a variety of reasons. Most people want to be happier or have the relationship that continues to elude them. The key to being happier with ourselves and those around us is to accept ourselves, others and life as it is. 

I remember when I was unhappy with myself my relationships and my life. I was like a salmon trying to swim upstream. My life was a struggle. Relationships were wrought with challenges. Even my relationships with my children were difficult because I wanted to change everyone. We might think we are helping others by telling them what or how to do things. The truth is we don't accept ourselves when we have the need to direct, change or fix others.

When we complain, bitch or moan about our kids, friends, partners and life, we don't accept things as they are. We can't possibly be happy when we complain because we are focusing on the negative or what we don't have. 

If we find ourselves single make the most of being single. Do the things that you have always wanted to do but were unable to do before your last relationship. Often we change ourselves and our likes and dislikes to meet the needs of our partner. When we change or give up things we love to do, we can become resentful or on the extreme end feel dead inside. 

What We Give Up For Others

When we don't stand in our power, we tend to give away too much. We might give custody of our children to our ex, a pet away because our new boyfriend is allergic, or stop doing yoga, meditation or running because it interferes with what our partner wants. Giving away the farm as I like to call it is never a good thing. We wake up one day and wonder where we went because we feel we have lost ourselves and our way. 

Why You Don't Want To Do Cartwheels To Keep Someone

When we constantly worry about what others think of us, we disempower ourselves and focus on others rather than feeling good inside. When we change our personality and behavior to fit the needs of others, we weaken our power and become the chameleon. Chameleons change their color depending on their environment, out of fear. 

What Insecure People Are Afraid Of

• being alone, 

• not having a partner, 

• no one will ever love me

• no one will find me attractive

• time is running out I better keep the person I have

When we accept ourselves the way we are we become comfortable being authentic. We no longer have to pretend to be something or someone to feel good when we are authentic. We don't have to change with the wind or the situation because we know who we are and love ourselves as we are. There is nothing more powerful than being able to walk into a room full of people and be you. When we love ourselves, we aren't afraid that others won't like us. We aren't concerned what others think of us either when we accept ourselves as we are. 

When we love ourselves, we are content being alone because we like who we are. Self-love includes loving acceptance of all that we include the shadowy parts of ourselves. When we are filled with self-loathing and insecurities, we fear to be alone because we don't have a clue who we are. We fear what we don't know. I recommend falling in love with you, it could be your greatest love affair of all time!

Find out how your life can become happier with self-acceptance and non-judgment by working with Jennifer. Jennifer is masterful at getting to the root of your issues and uncovering your strength and beauty within. When you begin to recognize the truth of your being your talents, gifts, and strengths are revealed, you feel more confident and accepting of yourself. 

How To Calm The Craziness and Find Peace Within Minutes

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

I used to think that I was more spiritual when I was out of my body. I tried to meet God outside of myself. I found myself feeling very scattered and ungrounded. No wonder, inner peace is found within our bodies and our connection to our God-nature and all that is is actually inside us, not outside. 

For those who think they can't meditate, I hear you, and I certainly feel the challenges. I wasn't able to meditate either until I began using mantras. Mantras give the active mind something to do, a focus, in fact, that calms and gives us peace. 

After driving 1000 miles in the past two days, I found myself with four active dogs who wanted my attention. Nothing calms the savage beasts faster than sitting in a chair chanting a mantra using the name of God silently in our head. I sat down in a chair this morning and chanted one of the many names of God. Within seconds all four dogs were quietly laying in the room with me feeling what I felt, inner peace and quietude. 

There are many names of God. Wayne Dyer told me he used the name Ra. Wayne Dyer chanted this name Ra when he meditated. I have used this name for God, but it didn't have the same impact that the one I'll share with you today. 

Depending on where you look, there are 900 names for God in the Bible. YHWH, Jehovah, Om, Alpha and Omega, Elohim, Prince of Peace.... there are many ways to say the name of God. The one I recommend for your daily practice to increase light, peace and a sense of calm is Om Namo Narayan aya. 

Self-Realization

For those seeking enlightenment, the mantra Om Namo Narayana is the most powerful Vedic Sanskrit mantra revealed to the Vedic seekers during their penances. 

The Meaning

OM - is a sacred word or syllable that encompasses all or everything in the universe. 

Namo means to bow or to "bow to." 

Narayana is a little more complex to decipher as it has several root meanings. The one I like to use is naara the Sanskrit word for water. Vishnu's resting place is in water. Water is the root of all abundance. We become more abundant using this mantra and replenishing ourselves with water in the bath, oceans and drinking water. 

Anaya means resting place or shelter. Narayana means resting place for all entities. A sweet thought for us all. 

Another interpretation for "naara" is human. Anaya means direction or goal. Using this interpretation means "that which takes all humans to their resting place" (self-realization). 

Some have found self-realization by repeating this mantra daily and even through the night in four months. When I do the mantra as I fall asleep, I am also repeating the mantra in my sleep, which is a powerful thing to do. The mantra begins to be automatic. When you are driving in your car, cooking showering, putting on your make-up, shaving or doing mundane tasks you can use this mantra. I call this state of mind neutral, where you can access the subconscious mind easily and effortlessly.

How To Use The Mantra

I like to float the mantra through my brain softly. The mantra slows down the errant thoughts and calms the nervous system. If we use the mantra in a manic state, or rapidly repeating it, you will find yourself staying in your present state of mania. Slow down the mind by slowly saying the mantra. I have recorded it for you so you can repeat it with me. The link is beneath the instructions. I hope you enjoy it.

1. Sit upright to meditate. Sitting upright allows Source energy to flow through your central column (spinal chord) easily filling you with light.
2. Breathe in through your nose slowly filling your lungs completely.
3. Once your lungs are filled to capacity exhale very slowly emptying your lungs completely. Breathing slowly and consciously brings you into the present and calms the mind preparing you for your mantra meditation.
4. Use a mudra (hand and finger position) that works for you. The easiest mudra is joining your thumb and index fingers together at the tips which create an OM or circle. There are many mudras you can use, keep it simple to begin this practice, so you are not worried or focused on what your hands are doing. 
5. Relax your body. Drop your shoulders and exhale to further relax your body. Make sure your shoulders are not up around your ears. 
6. Repeat the mantra slowly in the background of your mind. A mantra repeated silently is much more powerful for transformation than a mantra repeated out loud. 

Guided Meditation With Om Namo Narayana Mantra Audio

What You Will Feel

Everyone is different. What one person might feel, you may not. Whatever you feel is okay for you. The most important thing is that you are consistent with your daily practice. When I meditated three times a day and did mantras as often as I could, I had my awakening. You might like to do The Divine Presence Process Meditation that I used, the video is below. 

If you have addictions or take prescription medication, you might find it takes longer to get into the space of calm, relaxation. Have no expectation and be open to the new experience and just watch what happens for you. I would love to hear how this mantra and meditation works for you. You can e-mail me to work privately on your personal expansion and self-realization. Visit Jennifer's website. 

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Sources:

1 Hour Meditation Music

https://www.yogapedia.com/definition/7564/om-namo-narayanaya

http://smilegodlovesyou.org/names.html

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Names_of_God

Why Some Marriages Are Sexless

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

For those living in a sexless marriage, touch, snuggling, kissing and even hugging are things of the past. Rejection, frustration, abandonment and a feeling of being unloved permeate these marriages.  How do so many marriages end up with sex taken off the table, never mind out of the bedroom?

Both men and women can be rejected in sexless marriages. Having been in one myself for a short while, I feel tremendous compassion for you. A marriage that is considered sexless if you have sex no more than 10 times in a year. Approximately 15 to 20% of couples define themselves as being in a sexless marriage.

Newsweek stated that married couples have sex just over 68 times a year or 6.9 times more per year than single people or those who have never been married. 

Your relationship may seem normal and happy from the outside, you've raised your children, you may even vacation together, but when sex isn't happening once a week, couples begin to snipe at one another, or feel resentful and angry. 

What Is The Problem?

Each couple may have a different source for the disconnect. These are some of the reasons one party doesn't want to be sexually intimate with the other.

1. They don't like sex. 
2. They don't like sex with the opposite sex but can't tell you, as they are too ashamed. The lie they are living is too hard to tell you. Many people marry the opposite sex because it is what is expected either from religion, culture or society. The coverup continues because of guilt, fear or shame. Have you noticed how older women and men are coming out after being married for years? Some have the courage to do so, while others are too afraid of losing family connection, so they keep their homosexuality under wraps.
3. They fear intimacy. Most people have no idea that they fear intimacy. A fear of intimacy required counseling, coaching, and encouragement to break through. A fear of intimacy won't go away without some effort, negotiation and professional help. Spiritually Bonded Intimacy will help you.
4. They don't like the person you have become or that they have gotten to know. We have to like each other to want to have sex regularly with them. Perhaps you have done something they don't like, you don't smell good, aren't clean enough, or just aren't what or the type of person they are attracted to today.
5. After childbirth, many women feel they have done their duty and don't feel sexual, sexy or attractive. Sex can become a chore. Some women find sex something to be feared because they don't want to become pregnant again. 
6. Menopause can cause challenges and symptoms that make sex too uncomfortable and they aren't motivated enough to do something about it. There are bioidentical hormones, ThermiVa a non-surgical laser treatment that increases collagen, elasticity, youthfulness as well as moisture in the vagina. 
7. They are shut down emotionally. Sexual abuse from childhood can cause both men and women to have issues with sex later in life. The issue of molestation doesn't go away when you ignore it. Get some coaching with someone like me that has healed the trauma of sexual abuse. Or visit a Tantra class. 
8. They have low self-esteem. Self-esteem when healthy includes a healthy self-image and positive feelings about sex. When we don't feel good about ourselves, we may feel uncomfortable and unsexy when naked. Low self-esteem can be remedied and is the foundational work that I do for my clients.
9. They are depressed. Depression and antidepressants remove the desire for sex. Get help for your depression. I do clearings for people that alleviate this issue. 

Don't Ignore This Issue It Won't Go Away

I married a man after dating for six months, he was all in a rush to get married. He hid the fact that he preferred men from me. He wasn't out of the closet, in fact after we divorced, he married another woman because his religion didn't allow homosexuality. I wrote an article about how homosexual men still marry women to keep their secret safe from their church, family, friends and their professional career. The truth is that God doesn't make mistakes. If you are born homosexual, there was no mistake. We are meant to learn from this lifetime. Perhaps your gift in this life is to learn how to be more loving of yourself no matter what. 


We need to know someone well before we commit to marriage. Often we are so focused on the getting married part that we ignore the red flags we see along the way to the wedding. A marriage is much more than friendship. Marriage is friendship with benefits. If you don't plan on having sex after the marriage, don't get married. 

The bottom line is that living in a sexless marriage is like being on board a ship full of dead bodies. There was beauty there once, but not anymore. It feels dead, disconnected and cold in a sexless marriage. Sex helps to keep a couple connected, intimate so that they can talk about anything. When we aren't having sex regularly communication breaks down, and a wall is created that keeps us apart, segregated and feeling isolated. 

Negativity comes in filling the void which eventually feels like you are not in a marriage at all but just roommates. Marriage is a loving connection between two people which involves a commitment to be sexual, close and connected. A sexless marriage isn't loving. Get some help now! Your problems won't go away by ignoring them. 

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Sources:

30 Odd Sexless Marriage Statistics

WebMed Are You In A Sexless Marriage?

Definition of A Sexless Marriage

Vaginal Rejuvenation For Incontinence And Greater Nerve Sensitivity

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Which cosmetic surgery has gone up 109% in the last few years? Labioplasty! Surgical restructuring of the labia, the outer lips of the vagina. There is another way that doesn't mean being cut with a knife, invasive surgery or long recovery time.

ThermiVa is a non-surgical procedure for internal and external use that tightens providing an anti-aging treatment for a more youthful, feminine vaginal area improving texture, tone, and moisture. 

Perimenopausal, and menopausal women may experience vaginal dryness, burning and a lack of sensitivity during intercourse. For many women, the dryness and lack of sensitivity can be so acute that they stop having sex because it is too painful.

Other women report that there is a lack of sensitivity which contributes to weakened orgasms or no orgasm at all. It may appear that these women don't like sex, when that isn't the case at all. Not feeling aroused is a big problem for post-menopausal women. It can seem like it takes forever to get turned on when natural hormone levels are very low.

Incontinence or leakage of urine when we sneeze, cough, laugh, ride horses run or jump on trampolines
is another issue that occurs later in life. Incontinence is a real problem that can have embarrassing results.

Vaginal reconstruction surgery is expensive and painful. Bladder surgery requires a recovery time and sometimes doesn't work. Surgery always has risks and bladder surgery carries many risks.

A newer and less invasive procedure ThermiVa utilizes laser technology. The TermiVa wand is about the thickness of your index finger. It feels warm to the touch but isn't painful. With no pain, this procedure allows the patient to return to work the same day and even have sex that day.

The Advantages

• no pain
• no surgery
• no recovery or downtime

10 Reasons You Aren't Enjoying Sex

Over time, the results are greater. Three months after the procedure the tissues become softer and the impact is fully felt. The G-spot is targeted which becomes more sensitive. ThermiVa improves blood flow, collagen, lubrication, and helps to heal the nerves. With the nerve healing there is increased sensitivity from ThermiVa which allows some women to orgasm multiple times.

My friend visited a "Day of Beauty" at a local doctor's office and sent me the video links below. One of the women who had the procedure done reported that she had six orgasms right after! I told my friend, "Sign me up! That's what I want!" Six orgasms? Holy cow! We all need more pleasure in our lives and this is certainly one way to receive it. Instead of feeling numb and lifeless inside our beautiful feminine vagina we can feel young, alive and thriving. 

The procedure costs from $2,800 to $6,500 usually for three treatments. You may want to have a touch up once a year after the initial procedures. Incontinence issues are remedied without any invasive surgery or need for mesh.

Watch the following videos and listen to the testimonials from women who have had the procedure done. 

Jennifer Elizabeth Masters is a love and passion coach, helping women and men improve intimacy and their sex lives which improve their relationship. The happier you are with yourself, the happier you will be with your partner. Self-love is the cornerstone to any happy relationship. Send me a private e-mail to see how easy it is to feel happier, more lively, connected and joyful in all areas of your life. 

Without Our Mothers Where Would We Be?

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Whether you are male or female each of us has our mother to thank for bringing us into this world. Our father contributed to conception, but it was through our mother's birth canal we struggled for air some of us kicking and screaming. Without our mother's life force, we would not be here to celebrate her today. 

No matter the trauma you have experienced, our mother gave us life. She didn't abort, terminate or expel us. We have a great deal to be grateful for because of our mother.

Even if you were given up for adoption, you are alive today because she gave you life. Thank you, mother.

Our mothers fed, cared for us, changed our diapers, nursed and bottle fed us. 

As we began to walk, she shared the excitement of our new discoveries. 

Mothers are the ones that teach us table manners, etiquette, social skills and how to speak. Mothers are the ones that encourage their children to get up and run, to write, to sing, to play the piano even when they weren't able to do so. 

Our mothers took us to ballet, tap, karate, baseball, soccer, singing, piano lessons, for haircuts, dentist appointments and watched us in our dance recitals, and church plays even when we were terrible and forgot our lines. 

We must heal this very important relationship to feel whole, valued and validated. We might never have heard the praise we longed for or the exact words we expected. Our relationship with our mother above all others must be re-written with a positive perspective. She had her personal issues, shadow material and limiting beliefs that prevented her from being everything we thought we needed. The truth is our mother was exactly what our soul ordered for our greatest and highest good; no matter how it turned out. 

Sacrifice is part of a mother's burden. She gave up a lot for us. She gave up her figure, perky breasts, and her youth. She had less time to do what she loved, fewer clothes, and hairdos for herself, her profession, acting or singing career she made sacrifices. Children require time, attention money, and sometimes rob a mother's joy. Mothers can be disappointed that their life didn't turn out the way they dreamed it would. No matter what she gave up you know it was a sacrifice of her time, energy and money.

How can you view your relationship with your mother differently so that you are able to see her life from a higher perspective? What trauma did she experience in her life? What did she overcome from her past? What challenges did she have that affected her ability to love you the way you wanted to be loved? 

I work with both men and women in my sessions. One person that comes up again and again in conversations about life challenges is our mother. Mothers are the biggest contributor to our pain, suffering, and story of woes. We often look for partners who mimic our mother's personality traits. So today, let's salute our mothers for giving us something to work on and making our lives so....... interesting. Until we have children of our own we will never recognize what it means to be a mother. It is beyond a shadow of a doubt the most challenging and thankless of jobs without any remuneration. Mothers do the following for free: 

• Carried us in her belly for nine months
• endured backache, hemorrhoids, and stretch marks
• experienced the torturous pain of labor and delivery
• breast fed or bottle fed us every four hours or less: midnight feeding, 2:00 AM feeding, 4:30 AM feeding 
• lost sleep for years while we cried, screamed and yelled
• changed thousands of diapers
• paced the floors with colicky babies in the middle of the night 
• countless hours at hospitals, doctors and dentist offices and in waiting rooms 
• bench warming in all kinds of weather cheering on her athletes 
• ferrying to friends houses
• cooking our favorite meals
• baking cookies, cakes, gifts for teachers
• sleepovers when no one sleeps
• birthday parties
• shopping for school projects
• helped us complete school projects
• drove us to school with our school projects
• encouraged scholastic ability even when she didn't have it
• countless kittens, puppies, sheep, horses, goats, rabbits and other farm animals that we bring home for care
• kissing our cuts and bruises 
• wiping tears
• cleaning up vomit and other items we shall not mention by name
• listening to our breakup stories
• hearing about our exes
• helping us pack, move and move again
• listening to our complaints about our children, husbands, wives and animals
• listening to us complain about our weight, jobs, and unhappiness
• listening to us complain about not having enough money, love, attention
• waiting for the phone to ring while we are busy with our pets, children and partners
• waiting for us to visit 
• bailing us out of jam after jam and then making us jam

Jennifer and her mother 95 in July 2017

Mothers are underappreciated, underrated, and maligned; yet make the greatest impact of any person in our lives. Strange isn't it that we cause the greatest pain to our mothers through childbirth then she is who gives us the greatest pain. Mothers are the one we want to please the most, the one most of us try to make happy. Thank your mother whether she is still on the earth or not for giving you life and allowing you to have the experience of today. 

If it weren't for our mothers we wouldn't be here. Here's to you and all mothers everywhere! Thank you, Mom! 

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